#shame is not productive

[mueritos]

i hope we continue to see more protests within the US military. i see a lot of leftists and folks who are anti-military who have such an open disdain for the people who are in the military, yet neglect to considering the conditions this country makes to produce ideology, poverty, and the illusion of choice to make all kinds of people choose to enlist in the military. You ever see those videos of ROTC kids recording each other asking why they joined the military and everyone's like, "healthcare", "it helped me go to college", "I was bored" or "free ptsd lol". I hate to remind everyone but folks who are in the military are people, too, and they are the same victims and perpetrators of violence as the rest of you, we have all been shallowly conditioned to view each other as enemies just because one person is wearing army greens and the other is not.

some of the biggest anti-war advocates are those who engaged in war. Veterans who genuinely believed they were protecting the US against "terrorism" come back with blood on their hands, and they choose to realize that it was US imperialism that forced them to carry out violence, instead of doubling down and shielding themselves from the fact that they too are capable of atrocities... This is a class of people who are intentionally conditioned to be as poor and as ideologically aligned to US imperialism so that the military has a never-ending pool to send their youth to destroy other country's youth. The only people I have ever heard say "do not join the military" are those who ARE military.

This is in no way to ever excuse or explain away any of the atrocious war crimes and violence this industry and its people have committed against others. What I am saying is that we absolutely cannot cast aside the individuals who have been victimized within US imperialism, even if they are wearing army greens. I was speaking with my Palestinian classmate last week and another classmate--a member of the US air force-- walked up to me and struck up a conversation. My military classmate showed me her new bird, bid both of us goodbye, and left. My Palestinian classmate asked me if I was close with her, and I said we talked quite often, and she said, "I never met a person who's in the military. I still hate the military, but I never knew that they did, too. I didn't realize that they were also victims."

If my Palestinian classmate--one who is actively watching her own community die--can understand that it is not individuals who are the problem but it is in fact systems, US imperialism, white supremacy, capitalism...why can't we all? And she has EVERY reason to hate any individual military member. A lot of online activism just creates more barriers. if your optics look bad, complicated, or contradictory, you are cast aside. Everyone has got the be the perfect activist, you can never make a mistake or share a half-baked thought, you should always believe every word from a marginalized persons mouth (because being marginalized doesn't mean you're not entrenched in white supremacy too!) and you should never question what you see...Do you know what you sound like? The very imperialists who are convincing poor whites to vote against themselves. Perfectionism is white supremacy. Black & white thinking is white supremacy.

I'd rather have a military member who genuinely believed in the US imperialism machine but was disillusioned after being deployed as my comrade than some leftist who cherishes the performance of "being a good person". I don't want "good people" in our movements. I want humans who care. I want humans who make mistakes and who learn from them. I want humans who accept the messiness of a person. I want humans who hold others accountable and allow themselves to take responsibility for their actions. I want people who change for themselves and others.

fight systems, not individual people. we can change each other, but if we're too preoccupied looking like the World's Perfect Activists, we will only consume each other alive. Connect to your fellow humans, forever and always.

#muertotalks #a mind dump after seeing so much come out after the self immolation of the us air force member #i know hes not the first one to self immolate for palestine #and he might not be the last #i hate the military #i really fucking do #but i choose to see the people within them as victims within the overall system just like the rest of us #i will never go through what they did to make them choose to enlist #i never struggled with poverty homelessness healthcare or social acceptance #i wont shame them #shame is not productive #i want them to know there are civilians who support their protests #i want them to know that we their allies too #a note on my palestinian classmate #if youre arab or also a colonized person impacted by the us military feel free to hate every member of the military #i dont intend to police yall in how you choose to feel your anger #im angry with you #the point i mean to make is about understanding and compassion #someone who has every right to hate these people still chose to see them as the people they are #yes i even want the best for the “bad” people in the military too #i dont want these people to continue the ideology but we cant stop that without dismantling these systems #and we cant do that without creating spaces for healing and reform and growth #so many thoughts so many thoughts #none of this is easy #i fight daily against impulsively hating the world #everyday is a fight to choose compassion and understanding #but being a leftist and doing leftism is not fucking easy #if you genuinely think it is it isnt #and you may be missing the point of what leftism is #anyway

[maxx-doodles]

Thrilled to share the design I worked on for Tango's latest merch!

Certainly a challenge to do such a background-heavy piece but I had a lot of fun with it, especially with trying to pack as many sections and hints of the dungeon into this layout as possible!

#hermitcraft #tango tek #tangotek #tango #hermitcraft s9 #hermitcraft season 9 #decked out #decked out 2 #maxx doodles #working with Tango was.. awesome. such a great guy #i had a fractured arm while i drew this pls be gentle #also the tree trunk BOTHERS ME SO MUCH but i only realised they were supposed to be white after the mats went into production #HANGING MY HEAD IN SHAME

[akindplace]

You’re not less deserving of rest if you didn’t have a productive day. It’s okay to be just tired. You don’t even need to be having a pain flare up, or a relapse, or chronic fatigue, or to have slept poorly last night to validate your exhaustion. You don’t need to justify feeling tired to anyone. You are human and you deserve rest no matter what. Don’t beat yourself up for not being as productive as you wished you were, for being tired and burned out. Take care of yourself, and do it unashamedly because rest shouldn’t be earned, neither should any of your needs. That’s all they are: your body is signaling to you that it is tired, or hungry, or thirsty or sleepy. Your body is not worse than others for needing those things, even if you think it needs more rest than other people do. It’s not broken, it’s not bad, it’s just telling you what needs so it can keep going. Take care of those needs, don’t blame it on yourself, please don’t let guilt make you feel ashamed of needing anything. 🌱

#self-acceptance #self-care #self-worth #on shame #on guilt #on rest #original writing #on being human #perfectionism #exhaustion #on productivity

[thinkershipman]

SHAUNA SHIPMAN: AN ORESTEIA

#yes everything is about greek tragedies to me what about it #shauna is literally The Epitome of Tragedy i cannot stress this enough #her whole life is drenched in grief #and shame and loss and guilt #THE DESPAIR #what's that quote by khaled hosseini?? #about if you had just opened your mouth and said something at that one pivotal moment your whole life might have turned out different?? #but you didn't say something?? you stayed silent instead?? #also richard siken's someone has to leave first quote that everyone on this hellsite should know by heart <3 #That is the Epitome of Tragedy thank u mr hosseini #thank u mr siken #the inevitability of it all. the inescapability. what if you just - #but you didn't. you didn't and that is why you suffer #anyways i was too lazy to find more quotes so these excerpts are from both anne carson's translation of the oresteia #and robert icke's extraordinary modern-day production of the greek tragedy #shauna shipman #shauna x jackie #yellowjackets #parallels #web weaving

[longing-for-rain]

You want to prove Zuko is the better man so bad but he only got 1 kid and Aang got 3 so who’s the ‘alpha’ now?

😬😬😬 Maybe I spoke too soon when I said Kataang shippers weren’t as outwardly misogynistic as they used to be

#well idk maybe not outwardly since all you people are cowards on anon #all seriousness though this logic is so gross #wtf even #using child production as a marker of superior masculinity is such a disturbing idea #they are *people* not objects to boost your ego #besides aang was a shit father compared to zuko so #die mad ig #katara deserves so much better than the kataang fandom #zutara #anti kataang #anti aang stans #zuko #katara #ask #anon #hall of shame

[thepeacefulgarden]

#spoons #self care #self compassion #chronic illness #disability #rest #give yourself permission to rest #no guilt #no shame #productivity

[furiousgoldfish]

Living with abusive parents made me feel like I need to be productive every day, every moment, and that's the only way I can survive. If I stopped being productive, then I was not worthy of life anymore. It made me into this hyper-stressed individual who would feel bad just from not producing anything within few hours; I'd feel guilty, ashamed and not good enough if a whole day went by without me accomplishing anything.

This lead to me burning out from everything I was trying to achieve, it exhausted me, it brought me endless days of experiencing guilt and shame from being too tired and too stressed and anxious to make or do anything. It made me sick, and ashamed of being sick. It made me compare myself to everyone who accomplished more than me, feeling small and unable to compete. It made me dismiss everything I have done as 'not good enough' because it didn't bring me that feeling that I was now someone, that I had done something important, something I could be proud of. I was proud of nothing. Nothing was notable, nothing was exceptional.

I never stopped to ask myself, for what reasons was I doing this? It was assumed that of course, this constant 'doing something' would bring me somewhere, only I didn't know where, I didn't have a goal. I just knew I needed to keep working, keep producing, or else I would be bad. What was I working for? Who was benefiting from this? I didn't even know.

I was blindly following the path that eroded my mental health, my well-being, my sense of self-value and my time and energy. I was scrambling for seconds of feeling good about myself which should have been mine from the start. I should have been able to feel good while doing nothing, while resting, relaxing, enjoying, taking it slow, caring for my own health, my well being and my emotional stability. There was absolutely no reason in that high-stress environment for me to be producing anything! I just needed to survive, but the pressure put on me to be 'useful' and 'productive' was so huge, I couldn't even see anything else past it. I couldn't comprehend that I was allowed to feel good even if I did nothing, even if I was just focusing on what made me feel better.

It would take me a long time to realize that working only had a point if you were working towards a specific goal, and if you were able to set the conditions of the work so that it doesn't destroy your health and emotional well being on the way. If working isn't bringing you closer to your goal, it means you're being exploited. Other people are profiting from your constant productivity while you're not even aware of why you're doing it. If working is destroying your current life, it's not sustainable enough to bring you towards a goal. No goal is worth destroying yourself over. You have to live in order to be there for when your goal is achieved.

And you can feel okay about yourself every minute that you're not working towards your goal. Taking breaks and letting yourself recover from work has to be a part of the normal, otherwise it's a burnout waiting to happen. The goal will not run away while you're resting. Nothing bad can happen just because you're taking care of yourself and taking it slow. It will give you more stability and make sure you can keep doing what you're doing.

#perfectionism #illusion of productivity #anti hustle culture #being exploited #being forced to feel bad about not working or being productive #productivity #trauma #toxic guilt #toxic shame

[uncanny-tranny]

I love you smile lines and worry lines and grey and white hair and wrinkles and purple spiderweb veins and the process of aging and living in a body that is standing the test of times. I love you experiences that make you wiser and stories that make you laugh, and every little process that happens to get to the point where you have so many memories because you have the fortune to be here and be so radiant

#positivity #pro aging #also i hate you 'anti aging' scams that capitalize on fear of aging. death by 1000000 papercuts for ye #saw a hair video where they restored the salt-and-pepper colour in an older clients hair and it looked SO GOOD at the end #i love when people throw in the towel and embrace their aging however that looks #it isn't productive to shame people who are ashamed of aging and i just want to. celebrate aging #in a world that simultaneously venerates youth and adulthood and hates BOTH you need to find some sense of freedom #as a Young Adult(tm) please please PLEASE older folks seeing this/following me know that i look up to you #older folks i need you to know that your worth NEVER diminished when you added a new number on your birthday cake #and your body and mind and soul NEVER lost worth because it started to creak a little at the joints #and i might be wrong about this because i'm still young but it can be SO tempted to miss your youth when you feel like... #...you've somehow LOST part of yourself by growing older. and so much of aging is about change and some things don't stay the same... #...and that IS scary and i will never once fault somebody for that. but please don't fall into the trap that because you've aged that... #...you somehow have forever lost fundamental pieces of Who You Are and you could never come back from that... #...for your own sake and sanity you deserve to find comfort and solice and understanding in who you still are... #...because you are still - at the core - the same. you can never take this away from yourself #and i know this might ring hollow because i just don't get what it's like to be older #but i have looked at my elders and felt awe at their age and their experiences #and i know what that is like and it's awesome. i just wish more older people knew that so many of us look at you with awe... #...and - if you can believe it - some of us ENVY your age or experiences or even body #i'm watching an 'older' content creator (older by internet standards 🙄) and i envy him for how eventful his life was #i envy that he experienced a different world - one that i have only heard about from my dad because i was too young to remember it #and i admire this person for their wisdom and thoughts because they've come from his experiences living in a Different World #it's that type of stuff that makes me unafraid to keep on living #inspired by following somebody like. twice my age posting about their excitement abiut growing older and !!!!!!! YEAHHHHHH #didn't realize they were closer to my dad's age but that's so cool???????????

[revoevokukil]

There is an old copy-paste moving around the internet regarding discussions asserting the inherent Slavicness of The Witcher, and I will record it here for posterity.

(translated from polish)

-write eight books

-have their main character suffer from otherness, prejudice and erroneous stereotypes

-insert anti-racist references at every turn

-make dwarves into Jews

-and use to criticise anti-Semitism

-criticise nationalist attitudes

-criticise xeno- and homophobia at every turn

-show support for a multicultural society and acceptance of otherness

-describe how victims become executioners

-show how violence begets violence

-make it the central theme of the last three volumes

-have the hero and his lover die during a racist pogrom

-defend the persecuted to the lastHear from every corner of the internet that "a black witcher would be a disaster."

-write thirteen stories

-based three on Andersen's fairy tales

-three more on the fairy tales of the Brothers Grimm

-seventh on an Arabian fairy tale

-mock folklore and folk beliefs in the first one

-but also make fun of them in the story "The Edge of the World"

-mock the Polish legend in "The Limits of Possibility"

-name the main character "Żerard" (Jerald)

-generally use mainly names with Celtic roots like Yenefer or Crach

-and those derived from Romance languages such as Cirilla, Falka or Fringilla or Triss

-a few English names such as Merigold

-and those derived from other Germanic languages such as Geralt

-and Italian

-German

-and even French

-borrow monsters from American games, especially from Advanced Dungeons and Dragons

-from Irish, make an elf language

-and from German, make it the language of dwarves

-make the characters celebrate Irish folk holidays

-write an article about where you got your inspiration from

-pour bile on Slavic fantasy in it

-finally write an eighth book

-make one of the key characters a Japanese demoness

​

Become a champion of turbo-slavism.

/s

#the witcher #the witcher 3 #the witcher books #nobody contests The Witcher is the product of the time-place-history and culture experienced by its author #what very much ought to be contested are attempts at painting TW as symbolic of an ideology it very much criticizes #aside ethnonationalism criticism applies to imperialism likewise. not like eastern europe has extensive experience with both or anything #as goes for creative and intellectual inspiration it would be trite to reduce it to the local circle only (and inaccurate) #Sienkiewicz or no Sienkiewicz #at some point the audience must simply read more to know more. helpfully AS has provided a plethora of references + an entire other trilogy #9/10 when you see a discussion about the inherent Slavicness of The Witcher it's thanks to CDPR's excellent marketing strategy #which is a shame

[chiquilines]

Yeah im late to the bandwagon but i've been itching to redraw them for some days now,, theyre so small

#this scene means so much to me #its such a shame that bones made them look like ass #fr how hard is it to draw a nose?? #anyways im going through my tgchk arc again #my shipping tendencies rotate in a very predictable pattern😭 #it usually goes miryumi>midjoke>mmjr>tgchk #so expect Things #i have a playlist ready and all #they are sooooooo playlistable #my skrukles #my mentally ill products of their society #my queers #my narrative foils #my mirror characters #my doomed to be together and happy about its #togachako #tgchk #himiko toga #ochako uraraka #mha #bnha #my hero academia #wlw #chiquilines draws

[fantasygerard2000]

It honestly feels like the discourse around these two is less about Disney not being "bold" or "creative" and more about people being salty they didn't get their goth GF and glowing twink

#like i get why y'all wanted these two in the final product #it's just that i think that u only like these two because of their designs #we barely know what their characters and roles are gonna be and y'all make them up #which is not a bad thing #i do encourage to write stories with what its like if they were kept #i just don't condone the behavior of “it would've been better if it had my blorbo in it” #though after putting them together #i do be seeing a “black cat and golden retriever” dynamic rn #disney wish #wish 2023 #wish movie #wish #disney #wish star #star #starboy #wish starboy #pixar #pixar inside out #inside out #inside out 2 #inside out shame #shame #inside out 2 shame

[adimouze]

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#daniel ricciardo #anyways people on Daniel’s charity post telling him to retire #have you no shame? #grow up????? #be a productive member of society??? #telling him to bow out at monaco like he’s getting fired tomorrow #shut up and contribute to society

[zorilleerrant]

canon Shazamily fears:

Mary - what if I'm a bad mom sister

Billy - he could turn evil

Darla - adults big

Eugene - beat up the asian nerd

Pedro - laugh at the fat latino

Freddy - he's dying lol

fanon Shazamily fears:

Mary - always being tethered to her family or dependent on them, that people see her as nothing more than the big sister/caretaker, tests and especially timed tests, environmental and global impacts of her consumption choices, sudden bad textures, being yelled at, the overrepresentation of men in politics, never getting to finish her book, having to leave superheroism for mental health reasons

Billy - making the wrong choices when an adult would know the right one, thinking his powers will do things they turn out not to be able to do, abandonment, starvation, water/drowning, cops and authoritarian violence, sexual assault, freezing to death

Darla - being babied and not being able to help when they need her, losing her siblings because she wasn't allowed to go out, not being smart or wise enough because she's so young, hate crimes, the long term loss of art in education and culture, bees (wasps?)

Eugene - always being reduced to the asian stereotype and thought of as brains only rather than brawn, video game and fantasy novel magical fauna that aren't necessarily real, being the leftover/left out one, being too physically weak in either form to defend himself and his family, technology growing out of control, AI, all businessmen regardless of whether he's interacted with them

Pedro - that men won't find him physically attractive and he'll never have a chance to date, that he's losing touch with his cultural roots in the American mainstream/that he only knows about Rosa's culture and not his own, being silenced/unable to speak up, that he'll no longer be loved if he shares his secrets, that the figurines he collects will come to life and attack him, slenderman

Freddy - being a burden/demanding too much care as he deteriorates, earthquakes and building collapses, heights, loud sounds and bright lights, giving up information under torture, being trapped/unable to run away, that he cares more than people care about him, people thinking he's too girly, various types of animals, transportation that goes too fast, Batman

#look i said something #I just think there was a lot more knight terrors could've done than it did. even in just one panel #the fanon ones aren't from any one place they're just things I've seen around that various people find important or meaningful #fanon is just infinitely more productive than canon and that's very interesting to see. and a shame professionals can't read fic

[loonylooly]

Hey acotar fandom, tampons aren't a bad thing. Tampons are just a thing. Calling him tampon is not the slay u think it is, it's like calling Feyre Flatbread, it's just a thing

#Something something period products aren't shameful something something #pro tamlin

[thepeacefulgarden]

#you are enough #you are worthy #you matter #stop the glorification of busy #to heck with the hustle #you have enough #you do enough #no guilt #no shame #give yourself permission to rest #self care is not selfish #your worth does not depend on your productivity

[foralleternityidiot]

Gagaoolala (and my last shred of sanity): It’s a BL. It’s a Gay Romance. They are “100% lovers.” They will be “getting into each other’s pant!” China didn’t produce it. It’s not even airing in China. China has no eggs in this damn basket.

All the dumb fucking comments everywhere: It’s obviously just a bromance. Skip.

#can people get some reading comprehension and just a bit of industry sense into their heads please #it’s a Taiwanese production that happens to have Chinese actors and is set in China but it’s doesn’t have to follow chinese censorship #also it’s just really damn good and shame on y’all for pissing on it without watching #stay with me #bl series #bl drama #gagaoolala