#we always agree on

[inkskinned]

it mattered because when my brother asked me what if this is the happiest you'll ever be? the best you'll ever get? the thing i felt was fear, not peace. everybody thought you were so perfect for me. even i thought you were "helping me grow". i had to challenge every internal clock. make myself more thoughtful, more kind, more beautiful.

i told my therapist it was good because i like the changes i made and there's something so strong about saying i did that. the problem is that i can like the difference all i want, but i changed for you. something akin to getting your name tattooed, all my progress is stamped with fuck you.

it was the happiest i'd ever been and also the best i'd ever gotten. i would still get in the car and think what the fuck just happened.

#warm up #writeblr #i spent a lot of time picturing our future #how funny to think: in each version of our future #i was never myself #i was someone smarter kinder braver #better adept. #who could navigate the way you shouted and got angry at small things and never fucking believed the best of me #i would never be needy and you'd never get tired of me #people usually talk about how we picture people as being “fixable”. but i assumed i was the problem. my idyllic picture wasn't of you. #it was a version of me that wasn't ill. that needed no extra help. that could be your wife and happy #the fact i wasn't happy was because there is something so wrong inside me. it's always been that way. i convinced myself: #if i stay i can change. if i stay i can make it worth it. i can apologize and fix this. and make us both okay. #for the last year i've been thinking about how you blamed our whole breakup on me. how it was my fault for whatever thing. #and i agreed with you. because of course i did. you'd trained me to believe everything was my fault . that you wanted to love me and i made #it far too hard. that i was always finding ways to ''set you off'. #a few days ago while i was doing something else #i realized that while i was in crisis you told me to fuck off and find someone else to get help. and you never fucking apologized . #you said i made you do that because i wasn't being sensible. i had been crying too hard to speak clearly. #you said: you're doing this to manipulate me. #you forgave yourself for that. i had to forgive you without apology. you said you were right to react that way. and then you were SO #SO annoyed. any time i said: i feel like you aren't nice to me. it is hard to trust that you love me. #i don't think about you that much anymore. but these days when i do: all i can think is that im not sure u ever really understood kindness #you were the cruelest to the people closest to you. and most of the time. that meant it fell to me.

[sharp-fanged13]

What a wonderful occassion to remember this happened and is canon af:

#anna marie lebeau #anna marie #rogue #remy lebeau #le diable blanc #gambit #rogue x gambit #romy #otp: everytime we touch #mr. and mrs. x #x-men gold #x-men #they got married after three decades and everyone loves it and it's the best x-men couple #always has been #i have loved to see it i won't shut up about it😭 #x-men gold:30 #idc how good it was back then romy having closure is 1000 times better #their writing is better too #like yes it's been 30 years they cannot be in a perpetual state of issues that keep them apart even more than the deadly powers #you can keep that with everyone else tho it's okay 🤭 #rogue and gambit #the x couple i said what i said #glad marvel hired writers that agree

[glitterghost]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I feel like there is a particular kind of sadness (or loneliness, if you will) that ace/aro folk feel.

#asexual #asexuality #aspec #aromantic #aro #arospec #lgbtqia #am I wrong or no? #its like a sorrow on a frequency only other ace folk can detect #or say ah ha yes i feel this #this makes sense #i can incoherently ramble a feeling or a thought and others who identifying *get* it like it's a language we both speak #fluent in a common wave of ace-solation if you will #anyway just wanting to throw this out there again #i know i had a vague post similar to this that blew up but its always so hard to articulate the feeling #and maybe this will reach others that relate and agree to this that will make them feel less alone #wow these tags are messy and full of typos #lots of love to my loney ace and aro specs buddies #💜💚💜💚💜

[magnaflourious-nerdity]

Am I obsessed with their narrative parallels? Who can say ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

#my friend and i were discussing the book being a split narrative between two perspectives and we both agreed #that jgy would have the most thematically resonant and narrativly interesting contributions #jgy #jin guangyao #cql #the untamed #wei wuxian #as always sorry if its been done before #i have the memory of a thing that cant remember anythign

[quackle]

uhhhh you guys? HELLO? 😀😀😀

#so we all agree that that's the same knife right like that's THEE knife correct??? #yttd #your turn to die #kime ga shine #yttd spoilers #kai i guess you'll always be famous huh... i miss kai... </3

[ratstuckinamarble]

Shout out to the creature ever

"The school policy clearly states that I can consume anything I find in my tank" tell 'em Lagoona.

Plus Neptuna??? Pretty sure this is the first time we've seen her in the show. She's cute!

#lesson: don't go into Lagoona's tank you WILL get eaten and everyone will agree that it was your own fault #okay but are we supposed to believe Neptuna was always there??? #the only other living being swimming around in her tank at the start of the season was Drac's tater tyke #I wanted to know when she got Neptuna... #monster high #monster high g3 #lagoona blue #rätposting

[perenial]

idk how to say this without sounding like an asshole but the idea that being a marginalised person inherently makes ur opinion on both that specific form of marginalisation and oppression as a whole Correct has rly fucked with how people engage with intersectional analysis

this post was just me venting abt marking undergrad gender studies essays btw

#gene.txt #do NOT misread this im talking abt a v specific phenomenon #where usually white lgb people take their experiences with systemic disadvantage and like. flatten it across All marginalisation #and end up saying shit like 'we* understand this situation better than others' #* we being other white lgb folks but written as if the reader is always going to agree or be one of them #its just frustrating bc im marking these essays and i KNOW these kids are clued up and i KNOW theyre open to learning #but theyre just held up so much on the Self that their analyses end up narrow bc of it #edit: i regret waking up this morning

[pixlokita]

I want to see more art about gregory and cassie .

Sneaking in to watch scary movies and laugh at other people

Also a bonus because my friend made it so much funnier

#pix answers #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #security breach #dlc ruin #Cassie #gregory #anddd tagging you as well #Haru #but also I agree about the movie food waste :v last time we went people threw away two perfectly new hot dogs on the trash pile which btw #is always full of food (・´ω`・) sticking all the way to your the top and outside the waste bin

[sneez]

some viktors in czech and polish folk costume and a less specific miscellany from the past few months :-) i have to draw very very small with this pen which feels appropriate for him

[id: two pages of digital drawings done with a fine pixel brush. the first image is a series of coloured drawings of viktor standing in a variety of costumes. common articles across the outfits are puffy white shirts, colourful breeches, embroidered waistcoats, and decorative flowers. in each drawing viktor is smiling and leaning on his cane. the second image is a selection of drawings of viktor standing and sitting in various poses, looking generally cheerful. in one he is sitting next to barbie, who is smiling at him. the text beside it reads ‘Barbie (they are friends)’. end id.]

#artwork #arcane #how do i tag him again #viktor arcane #barbie is also here i cant remember exactly why i drew that but i think it was inspired by something icarus said #we agreed that she would be a great friend and save him from his fantasy tuberculosis. i am certain about this #ive been drawing him in folk costumes because it always makes me happy to see people talking about his accent and claiming he is from #wherever they are from. i think it is so cute #i've mostly seen people say he sounds czech but im sure ive seen someone make him polish and i love polish folk costume so i needed #no further justification #this brush is so fun it makes me very messy and loose which makes my art much less polished overall but it's very enjoyable working this way #Ned Love Lines #anyway i hope you are all doing well my friends :-D sorry ive been so absent as always im in the middle of exams but ill be back soon #kissing you all on the head

[k-wame]

хєnα & gαвríєllє ín 'mαnч hαppч rєturns' (2001) хєnα: wαrríσr príncєss · s6·є19

#the goddess of love - sweet aphrodite there...always very much...getting in the way😞 #by now it was no longer subtext right? we all agreed on that? #happy pride 🌈 #xwp #romancegifs #xena: warrior princess #xwpedit #xenaedit #xena #xena x gabrielle #lucy lawless #renee o'connor #alexandra tydings #sappho #xena warrior princess #lgbtedit #lgbtq+ #gay #lgbt #gay couple #lgbtcinema #lesbian

[mcu-and-buckybarnes-things]

#can we all agree slider has always been the real hero here #I love this scene so much #ice certainly didn’t get his callsign from daily life #because he’s just a little dork #tom iceman kazansky #ron slider kerner #pete maverick mitchel #icemav #top gun

[stromer]

something so exquisite about the jt/pete ‘almost divorced but saved through couples counseling during an exit interview’ dynamic. a year ago, all we ever heard were rumors that they hated each other. they just “had their differences” or whatever. jt would lose his mind on the bench, and pete was never far behind with an eye roll. then, with god and canucks media in the room, when asked if petey thought their relationship needed work, he hit the canadian hockey market with a “no… do you????” snark on full display while jt sat back with a stupid little grin on his face. two dudes forced to explain why they maybe weren’t friends at first, but they have meshed over time! in front of their teammates! and reporters! then pete says jt is a great teammate, jt gets really weird and thankful because wow, that means a lot! he's excited for petey to stick around and sign an extension "hopefully we spend more time here together. that's the plan, right? looking forward to it.” now jt is getting his ass beat after instigating a fight because how DARE someone touch petey in front of him??

#you could say this is the pr save of the century. and i’d agree #yadda yadda yadda jonathan “we don’t gravitate towards eachother” tanner #my brother. what if i told you you just got your ass beat for a bald blonde swede that u didn't even fw at first.. what if i told you that #anyway. just things to think about! like i always say!

[stiffyck]

M/f duos don't only have to be siblings or a couple, you guys do know that right? You guys do know they can be friends? Right? Is that- is that a thing you're aware can happen? That m/f duos can be friends? Platonic friends???

#like its always just m/f duos that i see are heacanoned as siblings. #and sometimes they dont even have sibling vibes???? #im sorry to say but. um. skyblngs. yeah. no i genuinely dont see the sibling dynamic. #theyre just friends to me #i dont know ehy the hc is so popular #you guys know that you dont have to ship them if you dont want to? without making them siblings? its #thats. rhats allowed. #people can be just friends #i was talking about this yesterday with two other ppl aand we agreed its just weird #stiff talk

[roseworth]

i think ppl who compare alex dewitt to uncle ben are correct, and i will stand by the fact that even though alex coined the term fridging, it wasnt really her being fridged since its more complicated than that. but i feel like with that its still important to talk about how there WAS misogyny in alex's death because of the way its different than uncle ben's

their deaths were definitely the same idea-- alex & ben both died so kyle & peter respectively would understand the gravity of being a hero and would take it more seriously, and their deaths had more narrative significance than an average fridgegirl

however. i think its worth mentioning that kyle didn't need it the way peter did. when alex died, kyle WAS being a hero. the reason he wasnt with alex when she died is that he was saving people. alex's death was used to teach him that being a hero wasnt fun, which was not a lesson that she needed to die for him to learn. when ben died, it was to teach peter that people were going to get hurt if he didnt stop the bad guys. ben's death was used to teach him about great power, great responsibility, etc, and the lesson wouldnt have had the same weight if he didnt die. the reason alex had to die was so kyle could have Man Angst about it, not because her death was vital to the narrative in the way ben's was

building off that, alex was killed by someone that kyle had never met and had no way of knowing about. ben died because peter saw the man that killed him earlier that day and didnt stop him, but alex died just because kyle was busy at that moment. again, he was saving people. alex didnt need to die to teach him a lesson about being a hero since he WAS already being a hero (not to mention he gets the same lesson like 5 other times when he meets alan & hal & the other lanterns. but we can ignore that for now). as a character, peter needed uncle ben's death to define his morals & his view of himself as a hero. alex didnt die because of a mistake or a choice kyle made, her death was just to give the story flavor and to give kyle something to be upset about

also, the way they died was very different. the point gail simone was making with the term "fridging" was that alex's death was needlessly brutal. uncle ben was shot off-panel, and all the reader sees is cops at peter's house. alex was attacked and strangled on-panel, and her body was mutilated and shoved in a refrigerator for no reason. while this is partially just because one is from 1962 and the other is from 1994, the point is that the man gets the grace of a simple death while the woman gets the unnecessarily gruesome death

anyways. im not saying that alex and ben had to die in the exact same way for comparisons to matter. obviously theyre different stories and different lessons so theyre going to be different deaths. marz intended alex to be kyle's uncle ben, and she was! but the misogyny comes in when you think about how different their deaths are

#it wasnt JUST misogyny. but that doesnt mean it wasnt misogyny #im not a marvel fan but we read the spider-man issue where ben dies in my comic studies class so i have a lot of thoughts about it lmao #and ofc i always have thoughts about alex <3 i miss my girl every day. im sorry they did that to you my angel #alex dewitt #dc #this post is inspired by a different post i saw that i completely agreed with #but. idk. just because alex's death is more complicated than people make it doesnt mean that it wasnt misogynistic ykwim

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

and now, a break from our normal schedule for my Favorite cat dad and his lovely vagabond son

#JOXTER JOXAREN YOU WILL FOREVER HAVE A PLACE IN MY HEART #he's napping in the back of my skull Always #feral man... scruffy tomcat... absolute Bastard.... #scribble salad #the joxter #snufkin #moominvalley #hes such a tragic character To Me #he did his Best and still got Everything Wrong but he's still Trying To Fix It and AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA #joxter you are so so so iconic <3 #snufkin as well but joxter... him... #hes gotta be my fav out of the moomin cast #and his character as seen in most if not all fanworks is pretty much Entirely fabricated lmfao #all we got from canon is 'hes an anarchist. hes lazy. hes a bit of snarky little shit. he gets forebodings. he can repair things.' #and the fandom filled in the blanks with Trauma as fandoms are wont to do #but it made him more interesting tbh... #and of course everyone has their own interpretations of him #but i like how it seems most collectively agreed on 'scruffy cat dad who means well but is kinda a bastard <3' #yes yes Yes

[gatogotica]

Herbert West is iconic gay representation for multiple reasons but honestly the most painfully accurate reason is that not only does he have a type (tall brunet male bimbos) that he folds for every time without fail, but he also holds out the classic homosexual hope that he’ll be able to turn said men he falls for. and they leave him for a woman every time. He’s just like us

#I’m sorry if making Dan a whole ass person and bending over at every turn for him wasn’t enough? honey he was never gonna stay! #and bitch don’t even get me started on Howard… #I was in support of Herbert’s cougar arc and I actually did enjoy Howard in Beyond but tale as old as time…Herbert just couldn’t keep him #always playing second fiddle to straight women SMH…he just needs to stop going after straight jocks it will only end in heartbreak #he’s too good for Dan and Howard anyways and that’s my hot take #my post #reanimator #herbert west #we all agree this dude is gay right?