#addict things

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[arowrath]

also don't let ur friends/society/tumblr posts/whatever convince u to start smoking or drinking or whatever if u don't want to. there are health risks there are social and financial aspects to consider and it's totally fine and normal to not want to. there's no moral aspect to it you can drink and do drugs or whatever if u want and that's chill but u should know what ur doing and do research and if u decide u dont want to that's chill and anyone who tries to shame u for it can go fuck themselves

#text #DORRY FOR ALL THE POSTING THIS MORNING this isnt even super related ifve just been thinking abt it a lot #bc the new thing is posting about how smoking is hot. Dont start smoking kids. genuinely #u r GOING to fuck up ur life and ur health and ur lungs and ur bank account probably. dont start smoking #like all jokes aside. do not. or at least know the risks and know what ur getting into #u r not immune to addiction u r not immune to health risks u r not immune to additional financial strain

[mwagneto]

how i sleep using cracked spotify premium apk instead of paying and using newpipe apk instead of youtube and using firefox instead of chrome or opera and not paying for any streaming services and downloading movies and shows straight onto usb drives and not connecting any of my accounts and never giving my full name anywhere and not logging into google anywhere and never seeing a single fucking ad no matter where i go

#i cannot believe ppl still use youtube especially on mobile like that thing is literally unusable now #please get newpipe PLEEEEASE it doesn't have reels it doesn't have a recommended page it #immediately detoxes you from the youtube addiction. and no ads😍😍😍 #barking

[xsuicidethoughtsx]

I have two sides

I hate my scars

I want more

#cvtt!ng #self h@rm #i want to cvt #cvtting addict #sh things #cvtaddict #sh vent #tw sh in tags #shblrr #shhh #mental illness

[xxivletxx]

rain world (f)art dump

SAINT SPOILERS BELOW CUT:

#I’m not addicted to rain world I can quit at any time! #(lying) #if you’ve wondered why I’ve been silent in regards to FE: this is why #no worries still a big FE fan but. #I like other things too you know? #rain world #rw #rain world fan art #rain world fanart #rivulet rw #rw survivor #rw slugcat #rain world downpour #rw downpour #rw artificer #rw iterator #rw saint #rw monk #rw spearmaster #rw gourmand #rw lttm #rw fp #five pebbles #rw hunter

[transjudas]

House telling Wilson he loves him

bonus:

#house md #hilson #greg house #james wilson #houseedit #greghouseedit #jameswilsonedit #hilsonedit #housemdedit #see the thing is #house rarely shows genuine love because of the walls he has up #and most of his relationship with wilson is very one sided because he is needy as hell but like he says #wilson eats neediness #but there are moments that house sees as critical moments #and the things he does in those instances are probably the most selfless he's ever been #the one time we hear house tell wilson he loves him it's about him and his pain and his addiction #but there's moments where house absolutely says it in his way #especially toward the end

[theeroticlover]

Kiss me like this....

#couple #intimate #intimacy #touch #romantic #desire #romance #kissing #love #kiss #kissing her rn #couple kissing #couple things #your touch #her lips #come here #i am addicted #addicted #you and me #addiction #kiss me #kiss my lips #need need need #i need this #kisses #this right now #attraction #craving you #crave her #i crave intimacy

[knightoflove]

You’ve started to look like your f/o.

Not physically, but you’ve picked up some of their habits. Their nervous ticks, what they do with their hands. Little mannerisms that make others go “you’ve been spending too much time around them”.

They’ve done the same, mirroring some of your actions. It’s the art of noticing, wondering why and then incorporating it into the things they do because it’s something that you do, and it’s something that reminds them of you every day.

Pro/ship dni pls

Dividers by @.saradika-graphics

#hehehehehehehehehwhehehe #imagines.💕 #self ship imagines #self ship #self shipping #self ship community #safe ship #I wrote this bc I’ve been picking up that thing Carmy does when he runs his hand over his mouth #or his fingers over his lips #AND LAST NIGHT I DID THE SQUINTY THING THAT LIP DOES SOMETIMES #his mannerisms are just so addicting

[notdelusionalatall]

#gaslight gatekeep girlboss #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #my year of rest and relaxation #lana del rey #lana del rey aesthetic #the feminine urge #whisper girl #whisper aesthetic #coquette #dollette #coquette dollette #dollette coquette #coquette aesthetic #dollette aesthetic #coquette girl #hyperfeminine #feminine aesthetic #this is what makes us girls #lana del rey aka lizzy grant #i'm just a girl #just girly things #girlhood #girly girl #pink #pinkcore #pink aesthetic #pinkcore aesthetic #obsessed with pink #pink addict #pink addiction

[petrajuliet]

this top might be a little too big for me lmao it keeps slipping off my shoulders

#🕊️ #i want taco bell crispanada so fuckijf bad i’m literally addicted #it’s been the only thing on my mind since i woke up im so serious

[soahbee]

Older men are the strongest drugs and I'm addicted.

#oopsie #teacher crush community #teacher crush #tc crush #male tc #teacher love #teacher x student #tc community #i like older men #older man younger woman #oldermen #older guys #addiction #girlblogging #just girlboss things #just girly things #just girly thoughts #just girly posts #just girls being girls #sillyposting #male teacher crush #teacher attachment #femaledaily #female hysteria #female rage #male teacher x female student #student x teacher #male teacher #coquette #this is a girlblog

[fu-cough]

you should find another guiding light, guiding light, but i shine so bright~ // adrien agreste doodle

#i listened to dear reader and well #me: you have a lot of things to do you should focus!! #brain: do you mean: get suddenly inspired and do your bi-monthly drawing? #by doodle i mean i just threw in a whole concept and didnt bother with the rendering #my art #miraculous ladybug #adrien agreste #also i had to manually lasso all the window frames to blur the bg because i refuse to paint in separate layers #(i am forgetful and disorganized) #angst #<- my strange addiction #i also didnt bother with rendering the ads but that was purposeful and it has meaning and it definitely doesnt mean that i just got lazy #something something our boy is detailed the ads are all abstract #the bg is why i will never pursue architecture

[biteyboi11]

hehe

does anyone else like running their fingers over healing cuts for the texture? Its my favorite part other than the blood

#shblur #sh twt #cvtting addict #sh cvt #cvt #sh things #cvtaddict #i wanna cvt

[finalmoment]

the language of addiction is a plague. im reading an article and whenever addiction language enters the picture it all becomes so sensationalized due to the cultural forces that accrue around the concept of addiction, always framing the addicted person as suffering from some flaw of personality that needs to be overcome by self-control. the fear of addiction, the fear of substances that affect the body & mind, changing the way that person responds in the presence of that substance - comes from a place of deep anxiety about lack of control but spirals into an obsession with the supposed purity of the body, where desire is inherently corrupting. which is why people steeped in this manner of thought will start saying things like "we're addicted to cooked food" or "you're addicted to your phone" or "you're addicted to porn" - it all comes from this terror that your behavior is influenced by desire when desire is fundamental to the way we interact the world. pathologizing want and desire makes people distrustful of others who are openly wanting - to want to change the way you are (which is, of course, construed as a natural, uninterrupted, pure state) is a crime. to want happiness through drugs, through food, through sex, through pleasure, is dangerous, so dangerous and unacceptable that anyone who feels too good and pursues feeling good becomes threatening to society, which is built on making people believe that having very little of anything, very little joy is alright because joy is bad for you. what a fucking con.

#notes #of course you can want something so much its bad for you #or you can want too much a thing that hurts you #that is not what im referring to when i talk about the language of addiction

[transjudas]

One of the hardest things about watching LOTMS is seeing Gerard in crisis and seeing those around him who love him doing their best to look out for him. And the past year we’ve gotten to see that same love and support while they seem to be doing so much better coping with things even through the pandemic. Because no matter how you’re coping, having friends by your side there for you is everything. (x, x)

#i don't really gif those moments cause they're legit awful but this specific few seconds like... i think about it a lot #cause brushing the gravel and dirt off gerard's shirt is... in the grand scheme of things with what was happening... so little and inconsequ #ential #but it's something he could do at the time and it's gentle and he's there #and now 20 years later he's still there #and gerard is STILL HERE #and he can comfort him and support him and love him and he can see how he's recovered and grown and lived #ANYWAY THIS POST IS AN EXORCISM FOR ME #gerard way #frank iero #addiction cw #alcoholism cw #mcr #mcredit #lotms #my chemical romance

[delizbin]

One step, not much

#This is basically canon right? #like… that must be it right #movie canon just let so many things implicit #like… yeah… okay #hayffie fanart #haymitch x effie #haymitch abernathy #effie trinket #hayffie #thg fanart #yeah I’m going to stop one day I guess #haymitch jumping from one addiction to another like a yoyo #that’s my guy #she’s the one that initiated it I said what I said #song: you’re in love by ts. you’re welcome #I wiped my heart out #last drawing of 2023 I think #happy new things to you #i’m going to enter 2024 as it was 2014 still apparently yippy ay yey