#advice welcome

[lover-of-skellies]

I have a sibling who's questioning their gender and may be a demi boy (maybe? I don't quite grasp demi genders yet, but I'm trying). They want to experiment with that and work up the confidence to tell our mom eventually, but our mom is.... not exactly very open to gender discussions

She acts like trans people are weirdos, and she's in the group of people who think they/them and neo pronouns are stupid, and. While I don't think she'd throw out my sibling or do anything super extreme like that, I can only do so much to be supportive here

I listen to my sibling, I let them talk about their gender stuff, and I ask questions and give feedback when they ask for it. There's a lot I don't get yet, but again, I'm trying ^^" does anyone have advice here, regarding any part of the situation? There's nothing that can be done as far as our mom goes, but my sibling and I are open to advice and encouragement and things

#not skeleton stuff #rambles #tw slight transphobia #i guess?? #idk man #tw gender phobia #gender talk #idk how to tag this #if anyone wants me to tag this as something specific i will #just let me know #advice welcome

[sincerityisscarity]

What do you mean you don’t like bunny wabbet?

My art! Gearing up for Ostara

#art #digital art #bunny #rabbit #ostara #new artist #artist #bunny art #sketch #advice welcome

[kedreeva]

I accidentally kept this succulent alive and I think it needs to be transplanted to a bigger pot, but idk how to do it without killing it

#Michigan dirt from my backyard #succulents #plants #send help #advice welcome #I'm trying to figure out what soil it needs #i figure probably not #plants are so stressful

[not-my-facebook-status]

I have what is possibly a date tonight, for the first time in nearly a decade. And before that, I was dating my high school sweetheart whom I spent years pining for. I don't know how to do causal or new.

But a very pretty girl is going to come over and eat tasty food and drink yummy booze and we're going to watch a visually stunning musical in a language neither of us speak.

I ... should probably put on some make up? Shave my legs? Maybe a dress?

What is the protocol here? What am I doing? Oh goodness!

#first date #advice welcome #I don't know what I'm doing!

[melontoyo]

Talking about twitter on tumblr: I genuinely feel so much dread and insecurity, because twitter has always been my main platform for promoting my art. And last year I finally saw some real upwind and growth, which gave me lots of hope. Then EM took over and everything went downhill. My reach has abeolutely diminished... I have nearly 7k followers, who follow me for my art. But now when I post my art, it barely even gets around 80 likes in total, even when I bump it up in the timeline multiple times.

Scoring commissions and fulfilling my personal projects depends on people seeing my stuff. But what if they don't see it? 🤷‍♂️

It's so weird especially when I see other artists with less followers (like 2,5k), who consistently get 500-1k likes on nearly all of their art posts.

And I want to believe it's just because twitter has gone downhill and is arbitrarily picking favorites with its algorithm.

But what if it's because people don't like my art anymore? What if my art is simply uninteresting? Not good enough? These thoughts make their way into my head then.. Even though I'm actually rather confident about my work. I'm still far from where others are, and where I want to be. But I'm super ambitious and always trying to improve my craft. And I've evidently grown a lot, in the past 3yrs especially.

But my confidence doesn't help with the reality I'm faced with. How to promote your art when your main audience is gone? 🥹

I've been thinking of trying out insta, but I never really understood how you can make insta's algo work for you? And it seems extra hard to establish yourself there, as someone who doesn't create your run of the mill popculture art 🤔

#toyo writes a textpost #it's tough out here!!! #advice welcome

[tyrhinosaurus]

My edges are slanting inwards :/

But it's working! Was relatively painless to dress and using it is so much easier than the backstrap loom on my body.

Just practice I guess. If anyone has any tips I'd love to hear them

#craftblr #weaving #loom #rigid heddle loom #wip #my new baby #advice welcome #handspun #wool #craft

[thatineffablewitch]

can someone who enjoys things like folding laundry or doing dishes tell me what they like about it? Genuine question, please I want to know and hope I can adopt that mindset. I have zero motivation when it comes to that stuff (and things are sort of piling up…) so I’m hoping a better mindset instead of just guilt/shame for not doing it will help. I’d rather be motivated by joy, pls share your enjoyment with me if you don’t mind

#advice welcome #help please

[palfriendpatine66]

Making of Monday

Any advice for when an idea flops? Re: my abandoned but not forgotten fic Coruscant 212

There was a time when *all* I could think about was a Brooklyn 99 style police dramadey in which experienced Detective Kenobi becomes the reluctant partner/mentor to brand new Detective Skywalker. I had a *constant* stream of silly head canons floating around my head ex:

Anakin would crash too many cruisers and be demoted to bike cop.

Obi-Wan would be stuck in a revolving door while Maul got away.

For a long time I didn’t write it because while I loved the idea, I didn’t have a plot. Then when I did finally develop a plot it was a way too complicated mob/corruption plot that had way too many parts and I wasn’t actually invested in it. The fic felt doable when I decided that, like a sitcom, it didn’t have to have a larger plot than “often at odds police detectives work together to solve cases and funny moments ensue” and each chapter could be its own stand alone plot line - its own “episode”.

I eventually envisioned the scene that became the first chapter: Anakin’s first day on the job/Qui-Gon hands the reins to Obi-Wan. It took a lot longer than I thought it would to get through, but I thought I would pick up momentum to start the series, occasionally posting new chapters in between other more plotty or angsty fics. It would be nice to turn to some low pressure, silly moments I thought. A palate cleanser of sorts.

And then nothing. (uncomfortably close to one year later: still nothing)

I have a couple of snippets that I really enjoy written before I posted that first chapter that I shared during Wip Wednesdays and got great feedback on. I have a doc with lists of ideas for chapters. Some ex:

There’s a lot there to work with! And yet I’ve done nothing with them. I can’t do anything with them, and I don’t even know why. I still love the idea dearly, but it refuses to come to life.

I’ve let it fall to the back of my mind, I don’t *worry* about it anymore, but I do still occasionally think about it. I’d still like to make it work.

Advice is welcome, I certainly have no answers. If you’ve made it this far through my babbling 1) ⭐️ for you!!! 2) please join me in a moment of silence for all the fics that have been lost but not forgotten 💕

#this week in MoM: advice wanted #advice welcome #making of Monday #Coruscant 212 #my poor abandoned but not forgotten beloved #my fics

[sincerityisscarity]

Love is stored in the frog.

More of my art!

#art #drawing #frog #I know they are green but they’re actually based off the blue dart frog…if you even care #digital art #digitial drawing #green #pink #black #coloring #new artist #beginner artist #advice welcome #art advice #give me tips #heart #love #cottagecore #bogcore #frogcore #swampcore #goblincore #fairycore #aesthetic #frog heart #frowg

[brightgnosis]

As a side note, if anyone knows how to file for disability stuff in the US, please drop any advice you have in the comments- or send me an ask; reblogs have also been left enabled on this post.

We know we need a lawyer for the best chance. We also know it's better to submit and get our first denial before seeking out a Lawyer. We just don't know anything else. And we've no idea where to even remotely start on any of it in the first place.

We've gotta file for that for me, and we've gotta get the FMLA (Family Medical Leave) paperwork filled out for my Husband still. And it's just ... A Lot with everything else going on. Our brains are frazzled. So if anyone has any advice it's more than welcome right now. We could really use it before we start the process.

#Advice Welcome #Safe to Reblog #Actually Disabled #Personal #2024 #Alphabet Soup

[breathing-stories]

I really like lyric games and how wacky, wild, and diverse they are. I wanna write about them, talk about them, make more and more of them

The last one feels easy to do, the other 2 less so :(

#lyric games #ttrpgs #indie ttrpg #why is writing so hard #yes I am considering a podcast #BUT THEN I STILL GOTTA WRITE SCRIPTS #advice welcome

[musicalluna]

my (only) little (but adult) brother died yesterday morning and I’m almost back home and i am full of dread for the crying that is inevitably coming and for trying to figure out how to be with both parents when they’re divorced and both remarried

I’m trying not to worry about it but I am very worried about it

#tw death #idk #advice welcome

[cadavercrafts]

Okay i know it took me 900 years but i just learned that i can add an image description to photo posts for people with screen readers! I'm gonna start doing that from now on, at least for the finished figures. But i've never done this before so if you see those descriptions and there's parts about them that make no sense or are kinda useless please let me know/ correct me on that so that stuff is actually helpful lmao

#not art #advice welcome

[system-of-a-feather]

Vent-ish, Advice Welcome

But man, being in a relationship with someone who has empathy (possibly hyperempathy) as someone who has almost as low affective empathy as you can get is fucking hard man. Even with good communication and awareness of how one another are in regards to empathy talk, theres just shit that comes with being hyperempathetic and no-empathy that just inherently are hard to match as the opposing polar

Cause when hes bad, he would really like someone who can have and understand that - at least - affective empathy mindset and approach and that is NOT a bad thing about him, nor is it an ableist thing or anything, its fair to want and feel the need for something like that as long as its not taken out or judged as an intentional trait. It's a compatibility and communication issues that, ideally, could be handled by asking exactly what he would like me to say and how he would rather I approach it and just general what he needs from me in those moments - but in practice, he just does not really have that self knowledge and awareness to tell me what he specifically means and needs when he mentions that and so its just left off with a "this is not what I need / want" without any actual productive or constructive criticism

Which I TOTALLY understand and I'm not mad about cause I get it, I get how it is, but much like its fair that he wishes I could provide that, it is fair that I am frustrated that I can't be given more instruction on how to help provide him with what he needs.

And honestly - if I'm being real - I'm getting really frustrated and tired from this at work, but being autistic in a not-autistic environment, being low-empathy in an empathetic world is just EXAUSTING cause there is jsut so much people EXPECT you to just, infer and know about how theyd like to be interacted with and what they 'actually mean' and tend to perceive it as an intentional and personal decision rather than them just not really making their communication clear to those that aren't to the neurotypical standard.

Its just ughhh can someone write a universal manual for the empathy-intact non-autistic mind that universally answers how to navigate every communication situation with them for autistic people (/hj) cause ughhhh I'd LOVE to meet you at your language and communication style and meet your requests for how you would like to be approached in situations but I can't do that without you knowing what you need ughhhhh

I've asked some of my empathy-intact non-autistic friends how to deal with stuff like this and there are thigns like "just listen" and "acknowledge the struggle without giving advice" and what not and sometimes that works and helps but a lot of the time its just like that too comes off as an incorrect dating sim selection and I'm just like ughhhhhh

Why do I keep getting this symbol above heads

Or even worse

#alter: riku #vent #vent tw #advice welcome #no empathy #autism #autistic #actually autistic

[cicada-wisp]

Hello everyone! I am here to share with you all my most recent hyper-fixation!! Hurray!!

So, I’ve always been a huge fan of role-swaps, and so I came up with an idea for a Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time role-swap, and thought I should share it with you all!

So basically, the main idea is that the Sages, along with the Sages elements, swap with each other, along with the races.

So this is what the swaps are:

Forest - Light

Water - Shadow

Fire - Spirit

Zelda - Link

Ghirahim - Fi

Saria - Rauru

Ruto - Impa

Darunia - Nabooru

Kokiri - Hylians

Zora - Sheikah

Gorons - Gerudo

Goddess Harp - Ocarina of Time

Ganon does not change, however. He remains the same.

So this is based on the classic Zelda/Link role-swap, but with enough changes for it to be different.

The plot would follow the same story beats, basically, that being:

Main character saves someone from evil however they die anyway.

Main character gets entrusted with a special item/s which will help with their journey. 

Main character finds someone who is also needed to save the world.

Main character helps a bunch of people, getting more special items that will help them on their journey.

Main character fails at stopping the evil but gets a special weapon after time has passed.

Main character finds a wise person to help them and goes on what is basically a fetch quest.

Main character defeats the big evil with the help of the person from before and the items along the way.

This is the basis of Ocarina of Time but boiled down to the extreme basics. I think.

Here is some information about the new world of Hyrule:

Hyrule is mostly a forest.

The fantasy races (Kokiri, Zora, Gorons) all work together to rule over Hyrule.

The Kokiri are the ‘main rulers’, basically, with the capital being the area which they do not age.

Link is an actual Kokiri, although Zelda isn’t.

The reason why he ages while Zelda’s sealed away for seven years is that he fled the Kokiri capital, away from the anti-aging magic of the Great Deku Tree.

Zelda was left at a Temple (the Temple of Time) when she was just a baby and has lived there her whole life.

She is known to be someone sent by the Goddesses. Due to her strong sacred power.

The Hylians were originally the rulers, but they were thought to be unfit for the role due to them not being ‘one with the Goddesses.’

This is referring to how they weren’t magical enough, basically.

This is what caused the civil war, which happened a much longer time ago than in the official/canon Ocarina of Time.

The sacred stones which Zelda has to collect are:

The Sacred Stone of Light, given to her by the High Priestess of the Church which Zelda was left.

After removing the evil sent by Ganon from her, although not saving her life in the process.

The Sacred Stone of Shadow, given to her by Impa of the Sheikah.

After saving Kakariko village from a Poe tormenting them.

The Sacred Stone of Spirit, given by Nabooru of the Gerudo.

After calming a sandstorm caused by a large bird’s wingbeats.

Link is engaged to Princess Ruto of the Zora.

The story roughly follows the plot of the Ocarina of Time manga, but also the game as well.

Zelda wasn’t told to meet Link, however she was guided by her prophetic dreams.

Zelda is, obviously, the main character and the Heroine of Hyrule.

However, all of this is still in the works. If anyone has any ideas regarding this role-swap, I would love to hear them.

Have an amazing rest of your day, and do not forget to have courage, move with wisdom, and have power as well!

#the legend of zelda: ocarina of time #ocarina of time #OoT #LoZ #the legend of zelda #role-swap #LoZ role-swap #loz au #legend of zelda au #Link-Zelda swap #au concept #advice welcome #this is very rough