#anti fakeclaiming

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Can we please for the love of god stop telling teenagers they’re too young to have aches and pains. Can we please stop being dismissive about these things. Fakeclaiming is disgusting period, but it is exponentially harmful to youth. Just because you didn’t start hurting until your 20s or 30s or 40s doesn’t mean every teenager complaining of chronic pain must be lying. I learned the hard way that if kids are invalidated enough about this, they will just learn to accept constant pain as a fact of life. And then they will need surgery they can’t afford in ten years bc it turns out constant pain is NOT a fact of life. At any age.

p.s. same goes for mental health

#chronic pain #chronic illness #medical trauma #tw fakeclaiming #fake claiming #anti fakeclaiming #childhood trauma #complex trauma #physical disability #disability advocacy

[talkingattumble]

Hi guys! Here’s some advice from a cane user on how to spot a fake cane user/disability faker!

YOU CANT

You can not spot a “fake disabled” cane user. You can not know if someone’s “really disabled”, much less by just looking at them. Here are some common misconceptions.

“Cane users always need their canes. If they walk without it or put it away when it’s inconvenient, they’re faking”: WRONG! Many cane users are what we call “ambulatory” cane users. This means they don’t always need their canes to walk. I’m an ambulatory cane user, and I experience really horrible leg pain on the daily. However, I don’t always use my cane, and when I don’t need to walk or stand a lot in a certain place I don’t use it. And when I do use it, I may lift it off the ground or carry it in places that are sandy, gravelly, or otherwise hinder my cane.

“Cane users walk abnormally without their canes, someone who walks normally without their cane is faking”: WRONG! Many ambulatory cane users can walk in a way that seems “normal”. This doesn’t mean they’re not in pain, or not “really disabled”. This just means that their condition doesn’t cause a noticeable difference in walking, and likely manifests in a different way.

“Cane users always need their cane, someone who doesn’t use their cane at home is faking”: WRONG! Cane users may not use their canes at home, because at home they may be able to do things like sit down wherever and whenever, regain more spoons, and use other mobility aids. Additionally, some ambulatory cane users only need or use their canes when they are doing something physically taxing, like going on a hike or standing in a long line.

“My cane user friend told me this person looks like they’re faking, so it must be true”: WRONG! Being a cane user doesn’t immediately make you an expert on all different conditions and experiences. Your friend does not know the random cane user walking down the street, they are going off looks and stereotypes. Disabled people are not immune to being ableist.

“They enjoy their cane too much/they’re too happy/they decorate their cane, so they can’t actually be in enough pain to need a cane” WRONG! We’re people like everyone else, and we experience positive emotions too, even if we go through a lot of pain. To me, customizing my cane is like getting a tattoo or putting streaks in my hair, it’s a way of self expression. And we deserve to be able to talk openly about our full experience, which include the parts we’re neutral or happy about.

“They’re one of those cringey teenagers who name themselves arson and like dsmp, so they’re probably faking” WRONG! Do I even have to explain why saying someone isn’t disabled because of their name and interests is messed up and also stupid? Or did you already know that and just wanted to make fun of a disabled teenager?

“They’re too young to be using a cane, so they must be faking” WRONG! there are lots of disabilities or injuries that can cause young people to need a mobility aid. For example, I use a cane for my fibromyalgia.

“They only use it in private places, and never in places where people recognize them, so they must be faking” WRONG! In a world where anyone can just randomly take out their phone, take a picture of a cane user, and post them online to be made fun of, it can be stressful to use a cane in public areas. Also, they may not want people to ask questions, or they may feel embarrassed about it.

“I saw them switch hands, so they must be faking” WRONG! There are different reasons a cane used might do this, but I’m going to use my experience as an example. My fibromyalgia is not consistent. Sometimes one leg hurts more then the other. But as I said, fibromyalgia is inconsistent, and sometimes my other leg will start to hurt more or need more support, which is when I switch hands. And when both my legs hurt equally, I may switch my hand if it’s getting too sore.

“They told me they feel like they’re faking when they use their cane, doesn’t that mean they don’t really need it?” WRONG! Imposter syndrome is strong in a lot of disabled people, especially when for a lot of our lives we were told by doctors that we were fine and just being dramatic. Anxiety is also comorbid with a lot of physically disabilities, which only strengthens this. To add to this, something that I’ve felt and seen other disabled people talk about it, when their disability aid lessens the pain, they start thinking “well I’m not in that much pain so I don’t really need it” even though the reason they’re not in that much pain is because of the aid. I know it seems dumb, but imposter syndrome can be that strong and affects disabled people a lot.

“They don’t have a diagnosis, so they must be faking” WRONG! First of all, diagnoses are expensive. On their own they’re often already expensive, but counting the tons of tests you have to take to confirm the diagnosis? Absolutely ludicrous. Some may also choose not to get a diagnosis, so that they don’t have to deal with the prejudice and setbacks of being diagnosed. Also, some people use a cane for injuries, and for stress or fatigue related pains.

These are only a few of the things I commonly hear from fakeclaimers, and I wanted to just put out a reminder that fakeclaiming hurts the disabled community much, much more than it does ableists. Next time you see someone with a cane switch hands, or someone with a wheelchair stand up, or someone with crutches put them down, before you immediately call them out to a friend, take a picture, or write a post: does your fakeclaim rely on stereotypes? Are your reasons things that apply to ambulatory aid users?

If so, just stop. Be mindful. Please.

#fuck fakeclaimers #fakeclaiming cw #anti fakeclaiming #disability #cane user #mobility aid #ableism mention #fibromyalgia #mobility aid user

[yrfemmehusband]

Debunking popular fake claiming points when it comes to tics and tourettes:

"I saw an older video where they didn't tic once!"

1. A trait of tourette's is waxing and waning tics. This means the diagnostic criteria takes into account that some people will go days to months without ticcing, or without ticcing severely.

2. Many of my tics are nearly microscopic. How do you know they weren't? Did you have a full body view of them? How do you know they weren't wiggling their toes nonstop, or maybe those couple of sniffs you wrote off were tics.

"their family/friends came forward and confirmed they're faking!"

1. My little brothers literally forgot I had tourettes. It can also be completely missed in childhood, many women and other people who were AFAB go undiagnosed until adulthood. Sweet Anita? She wasn't diagnosed until 27.

2. Family isn't always a reliable source and many people are estranged from family members, if you aren't very close with a person and their family, don't take their family's word at face value. De

"sometimes they tic a lot, and sometimes you don't see it at all for hours/days/weeks!"

See point one about tics waxing and waning. You are literally describing a symptom.

"Every time someone brings up tics around them they start ticcing!"

This is literally how tics work. If you are reminded of them you will have them. Especially if someone brings up a specific tic.

"you can see they put thought and effort into their tics, tourette's doesn't work like that!"

Clearly, you don't know how it works if you're saying something like this. No one knows how it works or feels unless you have it. Sometimes it looks like I put effort or thought into a tic when it was entirely involuntary. Sometimes, I do put thought into a tic. There's a part of tourette's called a Premonitory urge and it's the feeling you get before you tic. If you wanna get the feeling to go away, sometimes it's better to force out a tic.

It's not helpful to anyone to claim someone is faking, EVEN IF THEY ARE. We will NEVER have any way of knowing if some random online is faking tourettes and honestly the tourettes community has bigger things to worry about, and so should you.

#tics and tourettes #tourettes community #disability #anti fakeclaiming #fuck fakeclaimers #ableism #tourettes #tic disorder #ticpunk #tics

[tommyssupercoolblog]

"i know they're faking DID/OSDD because their alters are cringe!!!!" This may come as a shock to you, but sometimes, people's coping mechanisms, are cringe.

so when their brain introjects or creates someone, it's also cringe.

#i made a textpost #lmaoooo #like it's. like it's not that hard to get haha #anti fakeclaiming #anti fakeclaimers #anti fakeclaim #system #plural #multiplicity #endo safe #although this post is mainly about how in truamagenic systems there is an obvious explaination for cringe alters #but if u relate or just want to boost u can totally reblog!!! #factive #fictive #introject #fakeclaiming mention

[urfavoritesecretadmirer]

People when a child with a childhood trauma disorder is a child: 😭😭😨😨😨😭😭😭😨💀💀😨😭😭😭😨☹️☹️😨😭😭😨

#did system #did osdd #actually osdd #osdd #osdd system #osddid #actually did #osdd 1b #anti endo #actually traumagenic #🧿 #anti fakeclaiming

[a-sip-of-milo]

I forgot to mention, I was looking at some different disorder cringe groups on reddit and found one person asking what the criteria/signs were that someone was faking their disorder.

Not one person in that group had a proper answer. Every comment was different variations of "you sort of just know" and "it's obvious when you see it".

It is literally just proof that they have no idea what they're talking about. You could fit the exact criteria to any disorder and they'll still post you there because you're simply different to what they're used to and that's upsetting to them.

I'm going to refrain from posting anymore about r/fdc, but please keep that in mind when you're feeling insecure as a result of those groups. They have absolutely no idea what they're talking about. None of them are qualified to be judging anyone like that.

#fdc #fake disorder cringe #cluster b safe #cluster c safe #cluster a safe #npd safe #did safe #anti fakeclaiming #tw.fakeclaiming

[librarium-of-horrors]

one thing that I don't see a lot of people talking about in regards to fictive heavy systems is that if you are stuck in the same unsafe situation that caused your trauma, you are going to be predisposed to split more.

if you are a minor with access to the internet, you are more likely to use the internet as a coping mechanism to distance yourself from the situation you are stuck in. And if you are still actively being traumatized and use media as a form of escapism YOU WILL HAVE A LOT OF FICTIVES.

fakeclaimers that see fictive heavy systems and immediately assume that they are faking are just being belligerent at this point. And the argument falls apart even more when you consider the fact that a fair amount of systems are also adhd or autistic and will be even more likely to turn to hyperfictations or spins during times of stress, causing them to (potentially) split off of that thing even more then a nt system.

anyway tldr: fakeclaimers are silly and don't do adequate research and fictives I love you mwahh

#blurry so no sign off #osdd system #osdd #osdd1b system #did systems #did system #dissociative amnesia #anti endo #actuallydid #actually osdd #i have no idea who i am right now so here have a rant #fictive positivity #anti fakeclaiming

[chaos-in-one]

R/FAKEDISORDERCRINGE AND R/SYSTEMSCRINGE ARE BOTH DOWN LET’S CELEBRATE LADS

#r/fakedisordercringe #r/systemscringe #anti fakeclaiming #syscourse #actually plural #actually dissociative #actually osdd #actually traumagenic #osdd #did osdd #did memes #pluralgang

[cl0ckworkpuppet]

on that note, i think there's a lot of merit in talking about the happy, weird, or even silly parts of being a system. because at least for me, being a system can be really, really scary-- especially in the beginning, when i was first discovering that's what was happening, i was terrified. the origin of my system is pretty brutal, something i wouldn't talk about in detail to someone i don't already trust deeply. but we're not defined by our trauma, our plurality just came from it. we're all still people, individuals with our happy moments and our sad moments. i don't think anyone should be defined by the worst things they've experienced, systems included.

and also, when people think of systems, of someone with "multiple personalities", the first things they think of (thanks in huge part to awful media representation) are the scary things, the tragic things, the unrealistically violent things. talking about the day-to-day discoveries and occurrences that are unique to plurality-- yes, even the "cringe" or the "quirky" that make us look like we're "faking it" to someone who doesn't know better-- is incredibly important for breaking the stigma around DID and OSDD. because believe it or not, fun system fact, systems don't go through heartbreaking, life-altering trauma every single day. i know, right?

so before you recoil at someone you think is being "too silly" to be real, ask yourself this: do you know this person/this system's entire life story from the one single post you're seeing? or even from reading their entire public blog? do you know who they are more intimately than they know themselves? is this really about them "faking it", or do you want a reason to dehumanize a person so far that their only visible trait is their trauma?

and even if you are right, and they are faking it, what do you stand to gain from running the risk of denying a system who *is* real of their identity?

#plural system #did osdd #plurality #plural positivity #system #did system #fakeclaiming cw #tw fakeclaiming #anti fakeclaiming #and if someone comes in here talking about endo systems im gonna kick you in the nuts #if you're vehemently anti-endo then I don't see you as a hero. I see you as a loser with too much free time so you bully random internet + #users and get yourself way too involved with other people's lives #so that's why i'm -> #endo safe

[the-firefly-jar-system]

dear fakeclaimers:

people faking DID/OSDD is not what invalidates our experience as a system.

what actually invalidates our experience as a system is hearing people fakeclaiming so many systems (real and fake) and getting indirectly fakeclaimed when these self proclaimed “saviors” call one of your symptoms a sign of faking (spoiler alert: it’s not actually a sign of faking).

fakeclaiming helps nobody. it makes people with real disorders insecure and anxious, and it gives fakers attention that will only add fuel to their flame

[pt: dear fakeclaimers: people faking DID/OSDD is not what invalidates our experience as a system. what actually invalidates our experience as a system is hearing people fakeclaiming so many systems (real and fake) and getting indirectly fakeclaimed when these self proclaimed “saviors” call one of your symptoms a sign of faking (spoiler alert: it’s not actually a sign of faking). fakeclaiming helps nobody. it makes people with real disorders insecure and anxious, and it gives fakers attention that will only add fuel to their flame /end pt]

#fake disorder cringe #anti fakeclaiming #tw fakedisordercringe #r/fakedisordercringe #tw fakeclaiming #did #did system #actually did #osdd #osdd system #actually osdd #actually traumagenic #osddid #firefly flickers

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Nobody is “too young” to be cynical or jaded or hate their life. There is no appropriate age for that. If someone is experiencing that at any age, their mental health is at risk. Doesn’t matter how young they are, or how easy their life seems. Just because existential dread didn’t hit you until later in life, doesn’t mean everyone else gets to be so lucky.

“You think life sucks now? Just wait until you’re grown” okay grandpa what if they don’t make it to adulthood? What if it gets worse until they only see one way out and they take it? Stop being dismissive. Stop forcing your problems onto young people and start taking them seriously about things. Period.

(Inspired by this post)

#childhood trauma #adverse childhood experiences #depression help #childhood depression #late diagnosis #child advocacy #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #autistic kids #emotional abuse #tw sui implied #tw sui talk #complex trauma #depression anxiety #childhood emotional abuse #childhood emotional neglect #kids are people too #anti fakeclaiming #fake claiming #comorbid conditions #comorbidities #mental health matters #mental health representation #mental health education #intersectionality #child health #depression tips #mental health rant #actually autistic

[debunkingfdc]

it's hilarious that once r/fakedisordercringe git popular, every edgelord who wanted an excuse to be ableist proceeded to into spaces for disabled people just to speak over disabled people, and tried to gaslight everyone into thinking it was "for their own good"

#actually autistic #ableism #ableist people #anti fakeclaiming #endo neutral #fakeclaimers #fuck ableists #adhd #autism #did #fight ableism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #actually neurodiverse #neurodivergence #odd #disability #disabilties

[systememergency]

Okay I can't believe I have to say this: I am 100% against fakeclaiming. Meaning if you even squint in the direction of someone who says they have OSDDID, I don't want you near me. My last post was explicitly anti-fakeclaiming, and if you read it as some mild in-between of "Well, I don't mind it when people fakeclaim in SOME instances uwu" NO. Not a single one.

Fakeclaiming completely destroyed my ability to trust my mental health professionals. I was convinced they'd believe I was faking it. I haven't told most people in my life despite desperately needing accommodation, because the first (and only) time I opened up about it to someone, they instantly fakeclaimed me. I already doubted myself and it took me MONTHS to disclose my DID symptoms to my psychiatrist because I was so scared I was secretly faking it. I still cannot properly believe myself, and I was diagnosed nearly a YEAR ago. I have been petrified of being open as a system out of fear of being harassed on the streets.

Fakeclaimers cannot see that they are damaging people with OSDDID, because they've convinced themselves their fakeclaiming exists in a bubble. They thrash wildly in every direction and just hope they're mostly taking down fakers. But if they take down actual systems? Collateral. Maybe don't act like such a faker next time. There was literally no part during my life where I felt as though fakeclaimers AT ALL helped me. There was no point in my life where I ever wished "Man, I just really hope this random 14-year-old system on TikTok gets harassed or I'm gonna have a rough day."

You know what I've wished for? I wished I knew for certain my friends and family would believe me. I wish I didn't have to be worried that the first words off my mental health professionals' lips would be "You're making that up." I wish I could be open about this illness when I'm more stable and it's less dangerous for me without the risk of people assuming my openness came from a lack of pain and understanding, rather than a domination of it. I wish I could casually bring up I'm a system in conversations without being worried that someone is going to interrogate me. I wish I didn't fear waking up one day to someone deeming me one of the cringe systems and launching a harassment campaign against me.

Fakeclaimers are actively stripping this reality away from me. So I'm going to make it clear again: I am not on your side. I am not some mild in-between of "Sometimes fakeclaiming is okay!" If you fakeclaim people, even the ""real fakers"", get away from me. If you actually gave a shit about systems, you would be using that energy to prop up systems and OSDDID resources, not harassing random internet users.

#Every time I make a post or comment being anti-fakeclaim there's always at least one or two fakeclaimers who come along being like #Yes I so agree with you I'm one of those GOOD fakeclaimers who only fake claim actually bad systems #Like yeah that's crazy you're the exact mfkers I hate why are you trying to get buddy buddy with me #actually did #did #osddid #cdd #did system #complex dissociative disorder #did osdd #dissociative identity disorder #system things #system stuff #anti fakeclaiming #fakeclaimers dni #tw fakeclaiming #fuck fakeclaimers

[sparklesquids]

I honestly think fakeclaiming is the funniest shit as this point like you’re telling me you spent a fuck ton of time over analyzing my posts on trash social media and determined without ever speaking to me directly that I must not actually have DID and can’t be traumatized or must somehow benefit from “pretending to” have DID

#plural #did system #endo safe #mental health #plural pride #plural system #plurality #dissociative disorder #osddid #did #anti fakeclaiming

[murielsbottombitch]

"you're faking your disability for attention"

why would I spend a bunch of money on mobility aids just for attention?

I could spend that money on an onlyfans model and get much more attention.

#tw ableism #ableism #tw fakeclaiming #anti fakeclaiming #fakeclaiming mention #fakeclaiming cw #fuck fakeclaimers #fakeclaiming #chronic disability #chronic fatigue #chronic illness #chronically ill #chronic pain #cripplepunk #spoonie #text post

[sys-polls]

- finn.

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