#is this how non binaries feel like?

[999999999inadream]

toby fox needs to add like a bit of narration in deltarune abt kris like "they themmed they/themily down the stheirs" cus i cant go on seeing them constantly get he/himmed in yt comment sections

#this is my punishment for actually looking at yt comments isnt it #deltarune #kris dreemurr #maybe im looking too much into things but... #it also feels sorta. misogynistic when ppl default to he/him for androgynous/non binary characters #like ive seen multiple ppl use “well its understandable that ppl assume kris is a he when they have such masculine behaviours/hobbies” #the masculine behaviours and hobbies in question are being a prankster #i shit you not #like they called pranking... masc?? huh #can girls and others not get their silly on anymore?? #also like i said before with the exception of like frisk and chara like almost every nb character is masculinised #like napstablook monster kid #god there has to be more but my memory is shit atm and i also have to go eat dinner #but i wanna talk more abt like why it feels so misogynistic to me #i thinnk it has to do with the fact that defaulting to he/him just makes women feel like an afterthought. ig like unless its confirmed then #they must be a guy to be relevant or smth #and also like how much they gender entirely non gender specific things (see: pranking) #ofc it wouldnt be BETTER per se if they imagined these characters as girls but its smth ive noticed and i just get frustrated cus #it feels sexist but i cant FULLY articulate why #i feel like i had the answer a lil while ago but i forgot #i might come back to this who knows #wow ok rant over #for now

[sees-text-shenans]

I would've asked for a transfem kotone but idk if that'd work with what we have, so how about a transfem Minato bit? (And if I can request a specific name, how about Minako?)

it’s 1am i should be sleeping

edit: ima make art of yukari dressing minako up tomorrow or whenever i remember

#peep the profile picture changes #I am non-binary so I don’t really know how being a girl feels like but I did my best #sorry if anything sounds weird once again again it’s one in the morning and I am so unbelievably tired #persona 3 #p3 #persona #persona 3 fes #junpei iori #makoto yuki #minato arisato #p3mc #akihiko sanada #mitsuru kirijo #minako arisato #kotone shiomi #ken amada #yukari takeba #shinjiro aragaki #p3femc #persona 3 reload #p3r #trans p3mc #obligatory fuukoto #minafuu #shiomi sakuya #p3p #fuuka yamagishi #group chat #p3fes #aigis

[idolomantises]

Anyways speaking of being gay apparently teenagers on tiktok are mad at me because they found out I’m a lesbian who uses he/they pronouns

#txt #there’s something funny about telling a nb lesbian that their identity is ‘terminally online’ while regurgitating talking points #from 2015 transmed tumblr #like first it’s Pearl clutching over masculine women and feminine men and now it’s non-binary lesbians making people go berserk #honestly I wish I could find this funny (I mean in concept it is) but it’s irritating how tiktok incited so much online harassment and #bullying by just making shit up about queer identities and terminology to a point where we’re just back to acting like we have to fit into #our stereotypes. but only the accepted ones because god forbid your lesbian character is masculine lol #I remember a bunch of 15 year olds on twitter blew up at me because I pointed out that dyke is not a term exclusive to black lesbians #because guess where they got that insane ass assumption that ignores decades of lesbian history and queer activism #that’s right! another random ass teenager on tiktok with no sourcing #just gatekeeping a slur meant for all lesbians #I feel like if a tiktoker interacted with a real butch lesbian they’d explode and die

[genderkoolaid]

i think "nonbinary" can be useful but a lot of times the way it is being used isn't helpful to actually discussing nonbinary people, especially since it is a HUGE umbrella term with very few boundaries. like there are nonbinary men & women, so positioning "nonbinary" as something intrinsically separate from man/woman isn't accurate. or there are times where it would be more useful to name the specific group (like multigender people, androgynes, abinary/aphorians) rather than a much vaguer term

in general the problem is that our language to describe nonbinary existence is basically some scraps held together with duct tape. there's sooo many ways in which nonbinary people are erased or binaried through language. not just through the lack of gender neutral options but the la of blatantly genderqueer ones.

i kinda feel like as of right now, nonbinary-ness is pretty slapdash & all over the place and it would be helpful to have a large-scale discussion on what terminology would be best for discussing things like exorsexism and it's various aspects, and how to talk about nonbinary people without homogenizing us, while ALSO acknowledging the need for umbrella terms that can cover a range of individual identities, even if people don't personally identify with the umbrella term itself. & on that note we should also probably discuss the issue of. like. perfectionism wrt nonbinary language & the way that potentially useful terms get lost bc of it. I don't think nonbinary people can really achieve meaningful equality and inclusion on the same level until we are able to have equally diverse and useful ways of describing ourselves, and a stronger understanding of how we relate to each other as a community.

#I've been chewing on this general topic for a while #bc I'm realizing that I don't like identifying as nonbinary specifically bc of how ppl often use that #to just mean ''gender neutral'' & often exclude androgyne multigenders by assuming nb can't be men/women #even trans theory so often just groups nonbinary people in with whoever feels the most relevant and is uninterested in exploring exorsexism #outsidr of it's connection to other issues #there's an assumption that nonbinary experiences can be more or less grouped in w binary ones without missing out on much #it's just frustrating. same w when people assume that all transitions end w people looking cis-passing #and ignore the difficulties that can come from things like non traditional bottom surgery! #there's next to no resources for salmacians and virtually none for agenital prople #which y'know. might be important for things like urinary/genital care #or sex work or anything #hell so many people have argued that exorsexism doesn't exist because all nonbinary oppression is ''just transphobia'' #so many ppl are completely uninterested in looking at nonbinary people separate from binary ppl & binary experiences #m.

[bulldog-butch]

the hilarious thing about people who are super anti trans men lesbians is that they consider themselves the arbiters of when someone has become too much of a man to consider themselves a lesbian. like please get over yourself. you can actually just trust people to make that decision for themselves jfc

#like yeah most people who are trans men lesbians are really transmasc or non-binary or what have you #but also it’s none of your business #some people find it easier to live their lives in the public sphere as a man and who are you to say how they actually feel on the inside #grow up #bork bork!

[lymooniee]

I think it's crazy to me that people try to deny lesbianism when it comes to non-binary identities. It doesn't matter if they're amab or afab. What matters is who they are as a person and what they are internally. Lesbianism is fluid, that is the best way to describe it. This isn't to say you can't have preferences for things, but everyone does, but those preferences shouldn't restrict you from your attraction nor make you perceive someone any differently than who they are. I wish people could expand their mindset on this a bit more because attraction is different for everyone as well. But denying someone for who they are because of your preconceived thoughts of lesbianism or what a lesbian should be into in general (despite only lesbians being able to truly understand and define lesbianism) is so wacky to me

#sorry for the random tangent so much has been on my mind lately #lesbian #lesbianism #nonbinary #genderfluid #lgbtqia #its always been weird to me that people choose to define others for what their body represents #shouldnt it be about loving the person for who they are and not due to their body? #again there is preferences and everything #but like if you love a person for who they are thats what matters most idk how to describe it better than that #fitting everyone into a box is wild #amab/afab people who are non binary shouldnt have to feel dysphoric because people only view them for what their body represents #i could talk more about this but yeah

[moreclaypigeons]

No like seriously ARE we ready to talk about the misogyny in fandom spaces

#or more so like. the disparity. of depictions of men vs of women. i #and like. dear god. it's dire out here sometimes #um. anyway i dont say this to like invalidate anyone and i worry that by even saying this it feels terfy? #but its like no u can talk about misogyny while including trans people especially bc of the overlap. heterocissexism. is ghat a word #like . ugh i just. its never like an individual thing i have beef with u know #like if someone tends to prefer male characters or writing men loving men im never gonna shit on em yk #it just . bothers me how large of a trend it is #especially in comparison to f/f... #like jave u see the differences on ao4 #ao3* #or the differences in how people talk about men vs women here #obviously theres room outside that binary and i fucking hate it as it stands anyway but it does stand and we should talk about it. #like i dont think this is just a cis issue at all. we should also talk about how we talk about nonbinary or gender non conforming characters #but its also like can we be normal about women too. and not prioritize men always . um #hey guys . rambling in the tags is all to say. this post explicitly includes trans people. i will not tolerate any #transphobic rhetoric on any responses to it. you will be blocked. #sierra speaks #misogyny in fandom

[icarusdiesatdawn]

Ich bin momentan und für die nächste Zeit in einem Umfeld in dem ich jeden Tag, die ganze Zeit, misgendered werde. Und irgendwie ist das interessant, weil mir Pronomen im Deutschen tatsächlich relativ egal sind. Wir haben halt kein gescheites Equivalent zu they/them. Und sie/ihr bin ich so gewohnt, dass ich da bei mir kaum gender drin sehe (an den meisten Tagen). Hauptsächlich weil ich das mittlerweile in meinem Kopf automatisch zu "sie, die Person" erweitere.

Womit ich aber eben nicht gut klarkomme ist die ganze Zeit mit Fr. [Nachname] angesprochen zu werden. "Frau" und "junge Dame" ist einfach yikes. Einfach nur [Nachname] fänd ich besser, ich mag meinen Nachnamen sonst sehr.

Ich wünschte echt wir hätten neutrale Pronomen und Anreden schon in unserer Sprache etabliert, vorallem auch ein Equivalent zu 'sibling' statt Bruder oder Schwester sagen zu müssen

Hm naja wollte das nur kurz in Worte fassen, hab da sehr viel drüber nachgedacht, weil ich eben momentan viel damit konfrontiert bin

#ida talks #or emil talks i wish i could use both names depending on the vibe #gender #non binary #genderqueer #trans #and all that jazz #oh idk in the end I feel like i don't care enough about my gender to make a fuss about it #it really depends on the day how strongly i feel about it or dysphoric i feel

[undyinglantern]

the amount of surprised pika “wait people actually shave their arms?” comments on posts about body hair are so funny like I unironically am so happy for you that you weren’t laughed at by a classmate for having hairy arms “like a man” in like 4th grade this is why I wish body hair conversations would stop centering around armpit hair

#okay that’s the tldr but the way I actually remember it is that the classmate (a boy) pointed out my arm hair and ask why so hairy #and I genuinely was so confused I was just like idk??? and then later at home that day I asked my mom about it and she was like #It’s bc your dads side of the family is hairy so then I later talked to that guy again like ‘I take after my dad’ or whatever #And /then/ is when he laughed and was like ‘but you’re a girl’ about it #Granted I’m non-binary but like I didn’t know that in elementary #Plus I didn’t stop shaving until around mid 2010s and was still self conscious about it for years #Like I remember feeling embarrassed during college (2018ish) if I had to use the rest room and someone else was in there when I would roll #My sleeves up to wash my hands #Anyways I eventually stopped caring about it sometime within the last year or 2 but see how long that took? It really shouldnt #Like some of us just genetically have more darker thicker visible body hair than others and we shouldn’t be shamed for it #One thing at a time though because even I’m still working through leg hair shame #I don’t shave them anymore but I also haven’t worn shorts outside of my bedroom in years #I’ll literally switch into shorts if it’s too hot right before bed and switch back into pants before stepping out of my room in the morning #I’ve been feeling cute the past few days and it’s starting to warm up again plus also had a convo w mom recently so #I might change that soon but only within the house still bc baby steps <3 #Anyways I’m just rambling now so I should stop. Good night !!

[rubyscarbuncle]

Honestly at this rate with all the communities I'm a part of I feel like I'm collecting flags like a pirate stealing Jolly Rogers with each conquest. Like this is my spread. What the fuck. God really said "yeahh put all the neurodivergent fagginess in that girlthing" and I am here now like this as a result. Not a complaint! I love being an incredibly sapphic queer girlthing who does stimmy and would frankly pass on sex but just wow like people like me exist so cishet neurotypicals can exist too I guess. I had to hog it for myself :3

#trans #ace #transgender #asexual #lesbian #sapphic #transgenderism #non-binary #enby #nb #adhd #autism #autistic #polyamory #transfem #trans pride #trans feminine #aegosexual #bisexual like maybe idk still figuring that out #in which case I guess you would remove the lesbian flag #but like I struggle with how I feel about my attraction to guys #even if I am bi though I'm so sapphic about it that I would really only consider myself it as a technicality #also I know some of those are variants or just more specific versions of previous flags #but just like man. hoo boy. still a lot even without those lmfao #like transfem and aegosexual are just more specific ace and trans but whatever #but fr though even if I'm bi it'd be like 80-15-5 fem androgynous masc and that's on a generous day to the non-sapphic

[robintherobiner]

me: i want to chose a name from my country.

my country: unisex names are BANNED

#gave myself a russian name bc it was in a book i read #i ended up chosing a masc name BUT it's very rarely used as a name so it feels gender nutalr #its like how some enbys name themselves moss or ash #i went with sputnik bc why not #suffering #transgender #transmasc #non binary #trans struggles

[6point5crows]

Gender crisis hours:

So… for a few years now I’ve been going by they/them. Though not particularly to out about it behind social media and friends, I’ve felt comfortable in being they/them, non-binary.

However recently, my partners have been calling me “boyfriend” which has made me ever so extra happy… so now I’m having my own gender crisis. Because that term makes me feel so happy.

But I still know I’m non-binary, right? But do I like he/him pronouns as well as they/them? I’m not sure. Maybe I like they/them but being called a boy?? Is that it?!? What if some days I feel more they/them than he/him? Or more he/him than they/them?

I’ve never given myself an opportunity to explore any other pronouns beyond those, either. What if another set fits me better? What then? What does any of this mean??? WHAT AM I???

#gender crisis #nonbinary #non binary #transgender #trans #they/them #he/him #maybe they/he? #I know I am non-binary but what if there’s something else I’m missing? #the thing with me and labels is I feel like I need other people to validate me when it comes to that identity #because what if I say I’m one thing and turns out that’s the wrong lable? #y’know? #what gender am I? #help me? #I don’t even know how to begin exploring this #but damn I love being called boyfriend

[hard--headed--woman]

you're literally just bisexual

#you're bisexual and you want to feel special #what does it mean “as long as they aren't cis or straight” #you aren't attracted to people depending on their pronouns or labels or how they identify #you are attracted to people depending on their biological sex. shocking right #how do things work for this person lol #are they like never attracted to anyone until the person tells them they are demisexual non binary genderflux queer ? #or do they see a cute girl and go like omg she's beautiful let's ask her out #'hey are you pronouns ye/they/xulaeys or something?' 'no she/her sorry i am cis' 'ah then i can't sorry bye' #i need to know #what kind of bullshit is this #radblr #radical feminism #radfem safe #radical feminist safe #radical feminist community #radfem #radical feminists do touch #radical feminists please touch #gender bullshit #gender nonsense #gender ideology #lgb community #lgb #queer #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #radical feminists please interact #nonbinary #bisexual

[4uru]

Now that i have successfully launched the gnc mildly fem presenting james herondale. Let me introduce you to boxer, femme presenting agender Cordelia carstairs

#what is my motive behind this? #i dont fuckin knkw how cis ppl work #what do you mean you dont feel like a guy one day and and a genderless bridge troll the next? #so yeah that results in all of my cis couples getting hit with the transgender beam #get non-binaried idiot

[theglamorousferal]

Just realized something. I work at a theater. I'm obligated to own a black, long-sleeved turtleneck.

It is now in my "Things to buy next paycheck" wishlist.

#feral rambles #theater #how do I not own one yet? #I'm also non-binary #this feels like a crime

[random-stuff-doo-bop]

Genuine question, is fionna and cake transphobic? I’ve seen people talking about how gender-bends like this are transphobic but a lot of people don’t seem to have a problem with fionna and cake so idk what to make of the show.

Feel free to ignore this if it's a bad/offensive question but yeah if any people (specifically other trans people) have any thoughts on this, I would appreciate hearing them, bc I don’t want to support this show if it’s pushing harmful stereotypes or something. But I also don’t want to like. make a big deal out of this if I’m overthinking it. Idk, I'm just confused

#adventure time #fionna and cake #transphobia #i hope this isn't offensive to ask #but like is it bad? is it good? is it just. fine? #like it seems okay but I don’t want to assume #also yes I know that asking a few trans people on tumblr isn’t reflective of the whole community #but i feel like it can't hurt to ask? maybe? #I’m non-binary myself and didn't take issue with it but I'm also just one person. idk what other people think #I haven’t seen a ton of people posting about fionna and cake being transphobic recently #but i did see some posts from a few years back when it was first announced #and i've seen more posts recently on how genderbends are offensive #so I just wanted to throw this post out there and hear people’s thoughts #like are gender bends always bad or does it just depend on how you do it? #is it a personal preference or is just plain harmful?