#the way he says it is so gender

[punkeropercyjackson]

"This is the gender fuckery and cis+ website"You guys can't even handle trans people who don't want to physically transition

#no because this literally ruined my first best friendship after i grew up friendless my whole life💀she sxually harrased me with bodyshaming #and the worst part is that it wasn't even her saying i'll never be a man i'm bigender and super femme and THAT'S why i want to stay afab #but she refused to understand me!!!she expected my femininity to be the same as a cisgirls and my manhood the same as binary trans dudes' #i explained my gender SO MANY TIMES and she used 'she' 'accidentally' even though her fuckass also called me 'a girl in a he/him kinda way' #she saw my bigenderness and genderfluidity as a fucking joke instead of who i actually am just because i don't want t or surgeries bc gnc #and i told her both those things too but here we are!!BE NORMAL ABOUT TRANS PEOPLES BODIES AND STOP BEING A DICK EVEN IF YOU'RE ALSO TRANS #trans #transgender #transmasc #transmasculine #bigender #genderfluid #trans men #demigirl #ftm #transfem #trans women #nonbinary #agender #demiboy #transneutral #transmascfem #black femme #genderqueer #xenogender #catgender #dragongender #ghostgender #💌 #summerposting

[beebfreeb]

Little things about Marcille make me so so so sick. Reading a book with the first character that's anything like you at all in even a somewhat respectable way and falling in love. She doesn't know anything about the food her mother grew up eating. She is subtly different from her peers and has never been sure where she fits in. AND despite those experiences she still falls victim to prejudiced thinking. She and Kabru should be besties who verbally fight like rabid dogs.

#dungeon meshi #dungeon meshi spoilers #*smiles so sweetly* I am mixed. #Marcille and Falin are so important to me but you have to admit! Marcille kind of looks down on her (not intentionally) as someone who is #in need of Guidance and Being Protected in a way that is sort of... infantilizing and overbearing. #And Falin is sort of bad at asserting what she wants and saying no to things. #WHICH THEY CAN/WILL/HAVE STARTED TO OVERCOME. #Anyway I think Marcille and Kabru could be BFFs who just as quickly click as they shatter each other's souls with their teeth. #People have said much more comprehensive things about both characters but as like #My relationship to my identity is WEIRD. My gender is SCARY. Not only that... I am also autistic. #Kabru when he isn't seen as an adult. Marcillie when she isn't seen as whole. #WHEN YOU RUN AT A DIFFERENT PACE TO EVERYONE ELSE. #funny talking tag #Also I am glad that Marcille isn't the only half-elf even if Fionil(?) is only a minor character

[aurpiment]

tlhod’s Gender Situation as written in 1968 (published in 1969) was about a man from Earth who goes to another planet inhabited by alternate-bio ambisexual humans who are completely like Earth humans in every other respect. The man from Earth at first expects them to be like men in a way that’s recognizable to him, and that expectation causes him some struggles in relating to them, but he then comes to accept them on their own terms.

An updated look at that Gender Situation might be about a nonbinary person from Earth who goes to another planet inhabited by alternate-bio ambisexual humans who are completely like Earth humans in every other respect. The nonbinary person from Earth at first expects them to be like nonbinary people in a way that’s recognizable to them, and that expectation causes them some struggles in relating to them, but they then come to accept them on their own terms.

Mutatis mutandis since “nonbinary” is a way, way broader category than “man” (hello multigenders I love you) but people who have never heard of gender are going to have a different, for lack of a better word, thing going on than someone who is familiar with a gender binary and has rejected it.

(I also think having a normal earth queer person interact with members of a fantasy gender/lack of gender would be interesting. Real deal meets metaphor. It’s like if an actual trans woman met Jadzia Dax.)

#mt #the left hand of darkness #the way some people read the book and go ‘silly Genly Ai! of course they’re not men they’re nonbinary’ makes me go #‘you ARE Genly Ai 2.0.’ #and I say this with love because he’s a great character but also with a bit of mischief #Joanna Russ’s take on the gender situation was ‘if a woman went to a women planet she would think it ruled’ #but the women from the woman planet are actually recognizably women and are also from earth #not a spec-bio new human #that the earth woman tries to fit into an existing framework #so of course she thinks it rules. they’re lesbians. #meeting women from Planet Lesbian would obviously rule #so I think Russ has addressed a completely different gender situation #but she thought she addressed the same one

[ffc1cb]

i’ve always found it peculiar how during meeting the chargers cutscene the game just assumes your character automatically understands what krem is talking about when he mentions binding (though, granted, it’s all very unsubtle). like, this is a roleplaying game. what if i want to play a character who just doesn’t get it

#dragon age #cremisius aclassi #inquisitor trevelyan #at least give me an in game explanation of why the inquisitor would Know this right away #it's not like transgenderism is a widely explored topic in da lore. the most you can find about it in inquisition specifically excluding #krem and seras countless transmisogynistic lines is one codex that mentions that some previous divine mightve been a trans woman #and the way it's written sucks ass. the infamous sex in thedas codex also mentions nothing on the topic of transness. so like #whats up with that #art stuff #before anyone says anything i fully realize how i look critiquing a bioware game that came out in 2014 on its faulty queer representation #please trust me i know. im just thinking out loud #ALSO. in case it isnt obvious. parsley transed they gender. the joke is that theyre a nonbinary femme now #its hard for me to show it through art because it would involve misgendering them but they dont actually start going by they/them pronouns #until after halamshiral. so like technically if i made them refer to themselves as he/him at any point before that it would be canonical but #its not like my art is chronological by any means and cannot be taken out of context by virtue of it existing as an individual post online #if someone were to reblog an art of them saying hi im a dude theyd go cool! hashtag male inquisitor. or something #the tragic case of sacrificing narrative in order to not get second hand discomfort at seeing parsley misgendered #ANYWAY..........

[puppyeared]

Its really freeing when “gender is just a construct” really sinks in and you dont see yourself identifying with any pre-existing gender that the answer is “wait I can just make my own gender lol.” So. Hello everyone. Im pupgender now

#I still use he/she/they and if someone asks I’ll probably still say nonbinary unless its someone I trust this information with #I just. wanted something made just for me. thats it lol #I get that its important to some people to belong and I think if they really want to find a community who shares the way they feel #about themselves thats actually so wholesome and beautiful #its just that im tired of saying im not really sure what I am whenever it comes up in conversation #because I DO know what I am its just that its not exactly something u would call a gender. except u can and I just did it #this also doesnt mean I use pup/pups pronouns even if it fits the neopronoun naming scheme. I just need something to call myself that #feels like me I guess #Ive never been good at staying self contained in terms of identity so might as well #yapping #diary

[greenlaut]

on the way ! ✩°｡⋆⸜ 🎧

#todays art is brought to u by greenleaf is projecting bcs he wants to wear long skirts #clothes for me is just very gender neutral so i have no qualms abt putting men in skirts #tbh one time i wore a hoodie + skirt combo like aragorn. lemme tell u. its so cosy #also aragorns ring is the ring of barahir lmaoaoao #haldir is there bcs i miss him #i hc leggy to be left armed archer so thats why his glove is at the left hand #theyre otw to get pastries after class from a new deli that aragorn found #except my man forgot the way so now theyre kinda lost and looking at gmaps #gimli saw a tall blond wearing green while walking n immediately recognises leggy so he says hi #legolas is a gay mess so he panicked instead of saying hi back #my art #tolkien #lord of the rings #LOTR #LoTR modern AU #haldir #legolas #aragorn #lord of the rings modern au #gimli #gimli x legolas #legolas x gimli #haldir of lorien #legolas greenleaf #aragorn son of arathorn #tolkien books #jrr tolkien #gimli gloinson

[webcxre]

idk if this is a hot take but ive seen so many have decided kinito's a trans guy and i love that

but let me raise you my headcanon............

he's a trans dude in the sense that while he was assigned male when created he never really. had a gender? as a computer program? he just was? so when more information about trans people and more trans people became open online he saw it and went. wait... what am i, then?

and decided he sorta resonated with something between nonbinary and trans guys from what he saw online. if he were to draw himself anthro he'd give himself top scars because he just thinks that's a marking all transmasc people have <3

#kinito #kinitopet #kinito the axolotl #headcanon #kinito hc #to explain how he's amab & transmasc: his very existence as a computer program puts him. ironically. outside the gender binary #so while he was TOLD he was male. he saw trans people and went “hey well hold on a second.” #“i dont really resonate with what people are saying about how men have to act. what if im not actually a male then?” #and then he learns and loops back around to. well im a guy but in my OWN way. #if that makes sense. idk

[synthshenanigans]

new jash twitter photo :0

[photo for ones who do not have the app]

#cant believe bro is flexing the he's going into 2024 before most of us smh/j #also i love the lil smiley #just a :) #jokes aside this has been a wild year for me both positively & negatively but these songs have help so so much on both ends #an I'm glad dudes having fun still makin em #cant believe he blinked for the photo tho like wow. NO effort into this[/j ofc] #this is how i compliment people okay #if im confident enough to “insult” you that means i think you're a neat swell person :} #chonny jash #moss post #im far into the tags now so like #again i mean this in the MOST aroace way possible but man he's so pretty dude #also gender envious a bit #bro is very pretty & i wanna look that pretty #okay im shush now but #wild year for me & music is very helpful for mental stuff #i say this knowing his minecraft sheesh cover exists but like #it was a very emotional piece okay ❤/j

[secondbeatsongs]

I love being someone's science experiment

#personal #read: #my top surgeon continues to be fascinated by me #last time it was because I said it was fascinating to watch him pull stitches out of my chest #(he said the last guy had passed out so he kept asking if I was okay) #this time it's because of how well my nerves reconnected on one side #apparently it's not very normal to have good skin sensation in nipple grafts #but here we are #he put a note in my chart and seemed...excited? #he really looked like he wanted to say ''oh cool!'' or ''weird!'' #but he just said ''huh!'' and seemed enthused #he also kept saying ''oh you look *good*'' in a way that was very genuine #and he's right #my chest looks great #but some part of me wants to be like #intense about his reaction. like #o sculptor of flesh. how do you feel when you behold your creations? #is your vision of yourself one of an artist or of a doctor? is this the line you blur? #anyway that'd be weird so I don't say stuff like that #but I do *want* to #sbs rambles #in the tags #gender #top surgery

[makorragal-312]

Season 2 Buck: "At least when I date someone, I date them."

Season 7 Buck: "I'm keeping my options fluid."

#911 #911 abc #911 on abc #911 s7 #911 season 7 #911 spoilers #911 7x04 #evan buckley #911 buck #buddie #911 buddie #bi buck #bisexual #he's bi mom #I'm sorry #but you cannot have this man say such gender neutral lines and expect me to believe he's anything but straight #this is literally the way I talk when im on the topic of dating and love #the bi coding to bi confirmation pipeline is so fucking strong #please don't let this be bait #and even if im tripping #game recognize game #and this man is looking oh so familiar #excuse my manic posting #im just posting out my anxiety #but where's the lie

[cowboysmp3]

going back and watching ofmd s1 now after most of s2 has aired provides SUCH context to why Izzy acted the way he did. S2 puts SO much more weight on Blackbeard's 'i havent tried dying i should try that next' statements that he makes in S1E04, and it gives a reality of how horrible Blackbeard can be. I think Blackbeards erratic behaviour and mild suicidal ideation can be dismissed when watching s1 for the first time, which makes Izzy's reaction feel disproportionate, but I think the reality is Izzy has been watching Blackbeard steadily decline and make decisions that actively go against the survival of himself and the crew. Stede and the revenge are part of an emerging pattern for him!!

s2 just really makes it so much easier to empathise with Izzy and the decisions he makes have more weight and sense behind him. His actions aren't really out of feeling antagonistic or jealous or w/e, he has been watching Blackbeard spiral out of control, and Izzy's own life spiraling with him! AOUGH it just makes Izzy less of a mindless antagonist and much more of a character who is desperate for some semblance of control and normalcy again !!!

#i actually have a LOT ot say about Izzy now #s2 has won me over #ive got so many thoughts about him and the cycle of violence with blackbeard and how stedes refusal to be pushed to continue the cycle - #- has an impact on izzy and his worldview #such as the saving izzy + crew in S02E03 even after he knew they killed blackbeard #and how izzy expected killing blackbeard as being the push stede needed to be violent/reject them #something something obedient dog in the cycle of violence #theres also SO MUCH about sexuality and gender with izzy #esp in s1 with his rejection of effeminite and openness and casualness of relationships #and later the acknowledgement in s2 of izzy and blackbeard being in a relationship of a sorts #something about him being shown there was always a different way #and that maybe blackbeard was just abusive this whole time #and that he didnt have to endure it #sorry many many many many thoughtd #ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd spoilers #izzy hands #izzy hands analysis

[blighted-lights]

is there a reason you use different pronouns for ravage? you go back and forth a lot. why?

bigender ravage is real to me, nonnie. with your help, it can be real to other people, too.

uhhh there isn't really a big meta reason why i use she/her and he/him for idw rav? if you're hoping for a detailed analysis, i don't have one atm. ravage is just sometimes a femme using she/her, sometimes a mech using he/him, and then sometimes a femme using he/him and a mech using she/her to me. that's it!

#ask: anon #txt post #transformers #maccadams #maccadam #idw2005 #ravage #tf ravage #transformers ravage #idw ravage #mtmte #more than meets the eye #lost light #ok so there IS a meta reason why i use she/he for ravage. but i havent ever been able to word it in a way i like. #so yeah. lets just say its bc i think its embarassing mtmte only has like. three women in it. so i made ravage a fourth. #but only Sometimes. its complicated. gender is complicated. #especially for cybertronians

[queer-reader-07]

shoutout to the guy in my chem class who i’m in a little study group with who i guess took the time to look at my profile on discord and figured out my pronouns (i didn’t bother announcing them to the group because i didn’t want the hassle)

my guy has only gendered me correctly, both out loud when we’re talking in office hours and in text in the study group group chat.

#i know the bar is on the floor but it just feels nice #i’m used to my friends & online mutuals gendering me correctly #but truly nothing is as nice as someone you know but aren’t close with gendering you correctly #he was like “A’s in my study group and they were saying they did the same thing as me for this problem’ #in office hours today #and y’all. the way it felt so affirming to be so casually gendered correctly by someone i don’t know SUPER well in a public-ish setting #anyways there’s the gender euphoria of the day #gender euphoria #nonbinary #enby

[boyfridged]

i’ve been thinking a lot about what is so unique and appealing about 80s robin jay’s moral standing that got completely lost in plot later on. and i think a huge part of it is that in a genre so focused on crime-fighting, his motivations and approach don’t focus on the category of crime at all. in fact, he doesn’t seem to believe in any moral dogma; and it’s not motivated by nihilism, but rather his open-heartedness and relational ethical outlook.

we first meet (post-crisis) jay when he is stealing. when confronted about his actions by bruce he’s confident that he didn’t do anything wrong – he’s not apologetic, he doesn’t seem to think that he has morally failed on any account. later on, when confronted by batman again, jay says that he’s no “crook.” at this point, the reader might assume that jay has no concept of wrong-doing, or that stealing is just not one of the deeds that he considers wrong-doing. yet, later on we see jay so intent on stopping ma gunn and her students, refusing to be implicit in their actions. there are, of course, lots of reasons for which we can assume he was against stealing in this specific instance (an authority figure being involved, the target, the motivations, the school itself being an abusive environment etc.), but what we gather is that jay has an extremely strong sense of justice and is committed to moral duty. that's all typical for characters in superhero comics, isn't it? however, what remains distinctive is that this moral duty is not dictated by any dogma – he trusts his moral instincts. this attitude – his distrust toward power structures, confidence in his moral compass, and situational approach, is something that is maintained throughout his robin run. it is also evident in how he evaluates other people – we never see him condemning his parents, for example, and that includes willis, who was a petty criminal. i think from there arises the potential for a rift between bruce and jay that could be, have jay lived, far more utilised in batman comics than it was within his short robin run.

after all, while bruce’s approach is often called a ‘philosophy of love and care,’ he doesn’t ascribe to the ethics of care [eoc] (as defined in modern scholarship btw) in the same way that jay does. ethics of care ‘deny that morality consists in obedience to a universal law’ and focus on the ideals of caring for other people and non-institutionalized justice. bruce, while obviously caring, is still bound by his belief in the legal system and deontological norms. he is benevolent, but he is also ultimately morally committed to the idea of a legal system and thus frames criminals as failing to meet these moral (legal-adjacent) standards (even when he recognizes it is a result of their circumstances). in other words, he might think that a criminal is a good person despite leading a life of crime. meanwhile, for jay there is no despite; jay doesn't think that engaging in crime says anything about a person's moral personality at all. morality, for him, is more of an emotional practice, grounded in empathy and the question of what he can do for people ‘here and now.’ he doesn’t ascribe to maxims nor utilitarian calculations. for jay, in morality, there’s no place for impartiality that bruce believes in; moral decisions are embedded within a net of interpersonal relationships and social structures that cannot be generalised like the law or even a “moral code” does it. it’s all about responsiveness. 

to sum up, jay's moral compass is relative and passionate in a way that doesn't fit batman's philosophy. this is mostly because bruce wants to avoid the sort of arbitrariness that seems to guide eoc. also, both for vigilantism, and jay, eoc poses a challenge in the sense that it doesn't create a certain 'intellectualised' distance from both the victims and the perpetrators; there's no proximity in the judgment; it's emotional.

all of this is of course hardly relevant post-2004. there might be minimal space for accommodating some of it within the canon progression (for example, the fact that eoc typically emphasises the responsibility that comes with pre-existing familial relationships and allows for prioritizing them, as well as the flexibility regarding moral deliberations), but the utilitarian framework and the question of stopping the crime vs controlling the underworld is not something that can be easily reconciled with jay’s previous lack of interest in labeling crime. 

#fyi i'm ignoring a single panel in which jay says 'evil wins. he chose the life of crime' because i think there's much more nuance to that #as in: choosing a life of crime to deliberately cause harm is a whole another matter #also: inb4 this post is not bruce slander. please do not read it as such #as i said eoc is highly criticised for being arbitrary which is something that bruce seeks to avoid #also ethics of care are highly controversial esp that their early iterations are gender essentialist and ascribe this attitude to women #wow look at me accidentally girl-coding jay #but also on the topic of post-res jay. #it's typically assumed that ethics of care take a family model and extend it into morality as a whole #'the ethics of care considers the family as the primary sphere in which to understand ethical behavior' #so #an over-simplification: you are allowed to care for your family over everything else #re: jay's lack of understanding of bruce's conflict in duty as batman vs father #for jay there's no dilemma. how you conduct yourself in the familial context determines who you are as a person #also if you are interested in eoc feel free to ask because googling will only confuse you... #as a term it's used in many weird ways. but i'm thinking about a general line of thought that evolves into slote's philosophy #look at me giving in and bringing philosophy into comics. sorry. i tried to simplify it as much as possible #i didn't even say anything on criminology and the label and the strain theories. #i'm so brave for not info-dumping #i said even though i just info-dumped #jay.zip #jay.txt #dc #fatal flaw #core texts #robin days

[doctorwhoisadhd]

you know that tweet thats like about when male writers find out their big passionate audience is women and they do dumb shit to punish them? i just saw a version of that post where someone said steven moffat do that with doctor who. and like im not even saying that steven moffat doesnt do that cause i only know his dw work but ????? what the absolute fuck are you talking about. he absolutely did NOT do that with doctor who. like????? if anything he did the opposite???????

#like from the start he DID write strong female characters who are allowed to be angry and bossy?????? #yeah he fucked up along the way but it was never in a Punishing Female Fans way what the fuck???????? #the literal one female companion who he actually permanently killed off during his run was river and he did that in her literal first story #so like you CANNOT be telling me its not telegraphed #also 3 of the 4 female companions during his run are explicitly gay or bi. #he also spent the entirety of 12 era (and arguably the entirety of his tenure as showrunner tbh considering 11 thought he could be a girl i #his first moments) trying to say that the doctor could be played by a woman / that women can also be the doctor #between introducing the first mention of cross gender regeneration. the first offscreen cross gender regeneration. the first onscreen cross #gender regeneration. claras doctorification arc. #ari opinion hour #i am begging moffat haters to stop making themselves look like they piss on the poor. #like COME ON at least make arguments that arent straight up lying. the bar is on the floor #some bonff

[feline-evil]

Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

#metalocalypse #jay talkin #I'm sorry they wrote that awful gross little man far too likeable and relatable to on a trans level #for me not to hoot and holler and cheer for the trans pickles agenda #changes nothing about his character arc or any of the show anyone is capable of being the kind of person he is #don't make the mistake of thinking thats exclusive to cis men #his transness wouldnt change that #only adds on an extra layer to him that i think works fantastically. #Listen that dude was rejected by his family driven to drink and drugs young to escape that ran away to be in a band #is called fucking Pickles of all things and refuses to tell anyone his real last name; #over the span of four seasons and two movies he slowly starts to learn to be for others what he never had #he becomes more caring more supportive #it's not a stretch to say he undoes some of the toxic masculinity he's been keeping himself shielded behind #and learns how to be a kinder man. #all of which have no contradictions with him being trans! #In fact it doesn't take much extra thought to find ways a lot of this can line up with some trans masculine experiences #i mean. Did no one else have a younger phase where they swung as far as they could into crass rude and uncaring ways #to try and assert their masculinity only to grow and realise that you can be a man and be more caring. #Did no one else have father issues. 1 800 come on now i know those are both shared experiences a lot of us have had LOL. #at the end of the day this show aired nearly 20 years ago and is finished. we're not getting more of it #so nothing is altered nor changed if pickles is canonically trans or not ok. its fine #i mean hell i dont even need canon confirmation hes trans to me and thats all i care abt #but i think if yr getting suuuuuper weird abt needing him not to be canonically trans you have some issues #and bio essentialist ideals of gender if you think only a cis man can act like he does #again. anyone can be like that. its not exclusive. him being trans would not change him in any way shape or form lol #AND ALSO GODDDUUUGH for once i love getting to see a guy pushing 50 whos depicted as trans #do you have any idea how dire and barren it is out here. we never get to see a trans guy older than 30 and whos not a pristine model #I WANT MORE OLD SHLUBBY SHITHEAD TRANS GUYS IN MEDIA