#using anon hate as a chance to educate

[bringmemyrocks]

“this blog” has fucking exposed themself as a fake Jew claiming to be Jewish for diversity points! like holy shit, if you don’t know the fucking basics behind “am yisrael chai” there’s no way you’re Jewish. like at all. you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to lie about your ethnicity and religion to support hate crimes against Jews.

First, this is a distraction from the genocide that is ongoing in Gaza.

Any dumb jumblr discourse rn is a smoke screen to hide mass-murder and should be treated as such and ignored.

However, I thought anon raised some points some followers may not have heard before, so I summarized some info below. The only non-Jewish source I site is Amnesty International.

Am Yisrael Chai absolutely has been turned into a Zionist slogan.

Even a liberal Zionist would admit this to you readily.

That does not mean it has never been used in any other context. It predates the Nakba by a few years (not something centuries old), but it became popularized in the 20th century as a nationalist slogan, and today it remains a nationalist slogan. The earliest recording of it comes from 1945, in which the singer shouted it right after singing Hatikvah, the zionist anthem. The meaning of words and phrases can change over time, but "Am Yisrael Chai" has only ever been a nationalist rallying cry at any time in which it was actually popular. (And Hatikvah has always been a Zionist song.)

There's more I can say about mealy-mouthed use of the phrase "The Jewish People" as opposed to "Jews" or just "Jewish people" to not-quite-but-basically equate Judaism with Israeli national identity, but that's another post.

The phrase "Am Yisrael" refers to the world's Jews the same way "the Ummah" refers to world Muslims and "The Body of Christ" refers to world Christians. However, just because there is a non-nationalistic interpretation of "Am Yisrael" does not mean that "Am Yisrael Chai" is anything but a Zionist slogan to any meaningful degree right now.

On a similar note, there are also plenty of Zionists who will try and convince you "Am Yisrael" means that Jews have always had a nationalistic self-concept, always wanted to start up an apartheid ethnostate, etc. etc. it's all lies. (The best source for this is the intro and first few chapters of The Hundred Years War on Palestine, but if anyone has other comprehensive sources that aren't behind a paywall lmk.)

If you get all your information from Jumblr, I am not surprised that they had convinced you otherwise.

Check out https://decolonizepalestine.com/ while you're at it.

p.s. "this blog" shows you've read my about page several times. Thanks. I'm a gay guy who did years of orthodox conversion before going conservative. The years of homophobia taught me not to care what assholes think about my religion or my sexuality.

You're correct on one thing, though, Judaism is not my ethnicity because it's not anyone's ethnicity; it's a religion which has many Jewish cultures and ethnicities both historically and now. And even if we were an ethnic group like the Rromani, it doesn't give us a right to set up an apartheid ethnostate. Look up Elmer Berger--it's not just orthodox Jews who argue against Zionism from a religious point of view :)

(Judaism not being an ethnicity does not mean antisemitism does not exist or that it should not be fought against.)

Comments are on and I will respond to good-faith replies. As usual, feel free to plagiarize in whole or in part if you want to share for whatever reason--just don't include my username.

rbs are off for now bc I don't want the libs arguing "Judaism is an ethnicity because I want to feel oppressed" but if you really wanna rb it I can turn them back on for a short time. Please consider copying and pasting my part and making that into its own post tho.

#i #using anon hate as a chance to educate #antizionism

[yandere-kokeshi]

Yandere Muzan with a gn darling who suffers from migraines

Request(ed?): Yes! - hiii, long time no see. Could i request muzan with reader who always has migraines? i have one atm and it’s pure hell. — requested by ❤️‍🔥 anon.

Warnings: Yandere behavior.

Authors note: I hope this is okay, i didnt check for any mistakes. Please enjoy this still!

As he’s very ‘old’, he’s used to seeing humans in pain and he enjoys seeing it, but on you, he absolutely hates it and never wants to see it.

When the severe headaches first happen, he raises his eyebrow, seeing that you were sick to your stomach and weren’t eating as much; but the more he observed you and saw how you groaned from the lights and fast-movements, he immediately knew what was up.

Like the first headcanon: he’s pretty ‘old’ and well educated on the health of humans. Because of this, he will do everything in his power to atleast make you feel a bit better, such as: turning off the lamps, having a cold towel resting on your temple, making sure you stay hydrated and leaving anti-nausea near you. He will even take time off, or try too, to make sure you stay alright.

If that’s not possible, he will make sure to have Kokushibou or Akaza near you, coming at your needs and delivering whatever you say.

Muzan makes sure to not be overbearing, but you’re his pet, so he needs to make sure you’re in the perfect condition 24/7. He helps you to the bathroom, making sure to pull your hair back, and hand-feeds you if he needs too.

Though, after you’ve recovered, he goes back to original mood and disappears as much. But, he will try to go easy on you for a week or two, remembering that you shouldn’t be overwhelmed after a hellish time.

But, if you have continuous ones and that makes it extremely hard for you to do daily-tasks when he’s gone most of the night; he will end up turning you into a demon.

Like stated above, Muzan needs his partner well and perfect, meaning he will take every chance there is to make you feel better; this shows how far he will go for you.

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[fuck-hamas-go-israel]

Ok so I have watched multiple videos on the history of Israel - Palestine and honestly? Go Israel.

The only thing I am not able to understand is, why is the whole world in the support of Palestine? Even Tumblr? (Yes the death of innocent people is bad but it's happening on both sides, why are they pretending that everyone in Israel lives in idk, rocket-proof luxury rooms?)

And people are purchasing books on history of Israel - Palestine, and still violently supporting Palestine. And not even seeing a shread of "blame" on them? :(

This is just an observation, but wherever muslims are in majority, they won't let the minority in peace, no matter what — they're not the “peaceful” community the world tries to show them as.

There is whole history on how they are ruthless, tyrants, who can not accept let alone tolerate another religion in their proximity.

I JUST don't know what will it take for the world to see the actual history and stop viewing Israel like The Evil Nation.

That’s a good question, but a very difficult one to answer.

As you’ve said, the information is out there in the open, available to anyone willing to put in the time to read and understand.

However, it takes a lot of mental effort to wrap one’s mind around the historical and geopolitical nuances of this conflict. As a result, it’s definitely less of a mental burden to get information from reading headlines, reading tweets, and watching TikToks.

Of course the information isn’t always accurate, and if someone absorbs news from these sites that all have the same bias, they’ll be inclined to think a certain way. But even still, it’s digestible, and why put in the work to make informed opinions of the subject when these smaller, bite-sized pieces of info are being spoon-fed to you easily?

You can tell people to “educate themselves”until the cows come home, but the chances of them actually going to read up more are pretty slim. After all, it’s more comfortable and safe to maintain your opinion than actively seek out information that challenges your point of view.

That aside, I think the Israel-Palestine conflict in particular has elicited, or rather, uncovered a very worrying hypocrisy and double-standard, and caused a rise in antisemitism that’s alarmingly reminiscent of 1940s Europe.

Those who support Hamas claim to be on the side of “human rights” and “protecting the innocent”, yet turn a blind eye to or rejoice at the slaughter of innocent children.

They present this issue as intersectional with other liberalist movements such as feminism and LGBTQ+ rights, yet Hamas rapes and parades the naked bodies of women around to publicly humiliate them, and calls the LGBT community “sinners” that will be “punished by Allah”, and refuses to allow any LGBT person on Palestinian soil.

Yes, it is baffling to see people defend a terrorist group that has such fundamentally incompatible ideologies with them, and would kill them on sight. Normally I wouldn’t just tell them to go to Palestine if they like it so much, but if they can’t see the irrationality of their own beliefs themselves, if they can’t see that their parroted platitudes are of no use and don’t make them immune or exempt from the hate-filled violence of Hamas, then maybe going there to see for themselves is perhaps the only solution.

So maybe there isn’t anything that can be done, unfortunately. It’s very telling that many pro-Israel accounts are sent hate mail daily, and instead of being presented with the opportunity for discourse on the complicated subject, it’s just crusty anons calling for the end of Israel and telling them to kill themselves for supporting Israel.

If someone calls for your death, then there’s little to nothing that can be done anymore to have a rational discussion. All you can do is stay safe and stay informed, and don’t stoop to their level because they’ll use that as ammunition against you to justify calling for your death.

Am Yisrael Chai 🇮🇱

#i stand with israel #israel #palestine #gaza #stop hamas #pro israel #am yisrael chai #hamas #fuck hamas #stop anti semitism #antisemitism #judaism

[coffee-master]

it’s sad we didn’t get to see some of Nyas solo missions as samurai x in the show. Can we get a solo mission of Kai where he is badass ?

also, imagine Cole hating Samurai X and thinking he is a show-off and badmouthing the samurai every time the ninjas (plus Wu, Lloyd and Kai) have dinner and Kai can’t say a word). He would be embarrassed to find out it was Kai all along hahaha

To answer that Anon I need to explain firstly Kai's role as the Samurai X here, because it's way diffrent compared to Nya's.

Here I'm gonna mostly talk about Samurai X

Why did Kai became Samurai X is pretty much easy to answer. At the beginning Kai was pretty much taken away from the fights (mostly by Nya) by other ninjas and treated a bit like a damsel in distress.

Kai was often irritated by it, because he wanted to help the team and especially his sister, by others just didn't let him have this chance. That's why he created Samurai X.

Better question is how he created Samurai X?

Kai isn't engineer of any kind or a tinkerer of any kind. You could even say that he doesn't like any too complicated technology. This just isn't his thing. So how was he able to do that?

After all this is Nya's thing and there's the point.

Since they were children Kai had to take care of Nya, when they parents dissapeared. It was hard time especially for Kai, since he had to provide food and money for both of them. And to be able to do that, Kai had to drop out of school and start working pretty quickly.

Meanwhile Nya still went to school in that time. Kai wanted her to be fully educated and have better job for the future, so she wouldn't have to work that hard like him.

In that time Nya discovered her passion for mechanisms, constructing and building machines.

So often after school his sister liked to talk about this subject and Kai would quietly listen to it. Moreover Nya had often took part in school technical projects, where she always won. For the first place she also received cash prizes, which supported them.

With new motivation and passion she started to really get into it. In her free time Nya often used to draw some plans and detailed plans for new projects with explanations.

And that's the point of how Kai made it.

At some point Kai was tired of doing nothing and decided take matters into his own hands. He stole one of her sister's project and built it cumsily.

Yes, Samurai X was originally one of Nya's project. She had a lot of them, but didn't have time or money to make it reality.

I don't think I'll give here much of Kai's solo missions as Samurai X, because this isn't part of his personality or him.

Kai did this, because didn't saw any other choice. He was able to adapt to the situation, but building machines isn't part of his hobbys or he's as good at this as his sister.

Building Samurai X was actually very difficult for Kai.

He did this becuase he wanted to help.

Of course there surely will be some solo missions of him in this, but not many.

In the beginning Nya didn't notice that one of her plans was gone, until she met Samurai X.

And obviously she was confused and furious. After she immiediatelly started searching through her projects and couldn't find it.

So yeah, like in canon non of ninjas liked Samurai X very much, but Nya hated him the most. The fire ninja thought of him as a thief, who couldn't even do her work properly.

She would be very determined to catch him and win the bet.

But during this time the meals would be very weird for some people..

Ninjas: *are eating meal together*

Cole: Yeah, and there was this Samurai X guy-

Jay: Gosh I hate that guy-

Nya: You hate him!?

Nya: Let me tell you something, because this guy isn't any kind of Samurai! That's just a cheap thief, who couldn't even do the work right and made some sort of cheap fake- MOREOVER HE'S-

Kai: . . .

Kai thinking: *Oh god I'm so dead if she finds out, I'M SO DEAD-*

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[incorrectmahabharatquotes]

I know the history of the word Hindu. I was simply using it to give you clarity.

You've made your perspective clear. Deflection and whataboutism are your weapons.

You are so quick to play your dalit card everywhere, but you forget that dalits were among the persecuted Hindus too. I never denied that the caste system is evil and needs to be gone completely. Why bring it up in a conversation where it wasn't even an issue?

You're so far into your leftie liberal mode that you don't even realise that you're here because of the efforts of fellow Hindus' efforts to abolish the caste system and bring in reservations to compensate for the oppression. It's still a work in progress but there's definitely progress.

Moreover, had this nation been running on the same values as Islamic rulers of the past who broke our temples, you'd be killed just for being a queer or being a Hindu who didn't convert.

Just look at the minorities in other Islamic countries.

But you won't, I know. Because hating fellow Hindus and denying history is more important for you. It's the cool thing to do these days.

One day you'll learn, hopefully soon. I wish you luck. 🙏

How dare you say Babasaheb Ambedkar was a Hindu when he died a Buddhist and swore to not die a Hindu. How dare you insist that the real people who worked towards societal change for women, Dalit and Adivasi people, like Jyotiba Phule and Savitribai Phule, did so at 0 cost of their 'Hindu' society. Savitribai Phule did not have shit flung at her every day by brahmins for you to say 'Hindu' as though they weren't the ones who opposed her attempt to educate girls.

How dare you, lastly, insist that Dalits are ALSO Hindu, as though they haven't been dehumanised and humiliated for centuries on end and prevented from entering temples out of 'Impurity'.

In all our arguments, I find it INCREDIBLY funny that you seem to always focus on Muslim invaders, but never at all focus on the kind of bullshit the British wrecked on us. I'll tell you why: its because the British were the ones to club ALLLLLLL these varied identities together under a wishy washy 'Hindu' label in censuses. Dalit people are also under this label BECAUSE OF CLERICAL LAZINESS.

And this shit worked PERFECTLY for Hindu Nationalists. The more uniform our 'identity' got, the better. But of course, caste was essential to the functioning of 'Hindu' society.

So I give you this chance to inform me: What kind of society acts like this? Why are Dalit children beaten in schools for touching the wrong water pot? And forgive me for assuming, but if you have a household help who comes by, why do you treat her in a way which is 'different' to your family? Why is your circle of friends the same 3 people from the same community? Why do we live in this kind of society? What morality are we functioning on? Tell me, without resorting to justifying henious acts by saying 'Dharma'. I dare you.

-Mod G

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Hello again, Anon-Who-Has-Unfollowed-But-Is-Still-Here-Inexplicably,

Mod G actually replied to you before I did. You didn't say about their reply. That's fascinating. They answered your ask in a far more direct way so I thought adding the same thing would be redundant. Turns out, it wouldn't have been redundant because you didn't even read what they said. Who knew.

You know what? I actually did say what the conquerors did was wrong. I directly talked about it. That's not what-aboutery. Did you not even read that part? I said what they did was wrong and what you're doing is wrong too. (I'm saying it again because you seem to be under the impression that I'm not holding these historical figures responsible for their actions sufficiently enough for your taste.)

I talked about being dalit in terms of reclamation and reparation. It is directly related to the topic you were talking about. Sure, free to tell me that I should be grateful to my "fellow Hindus" and should express that gratefulness by shutting my mouth and not criticizing them when they're doing something wrong. Got it. All that work-in-progress you talk about but I should still know my place and not speak over savarna Hindus. Understood.

Newsflash, the said beloved Hindus will ALSO gladly kill me for being a queer, as you put it. Right now, in fact. We're not exactly a queer-friendly nation, if you haven't noticed.

You also seem to be under the impression that Hindus=Hindutva which is just a wrong assumption on your part. In fact, from all the replies we're getting it seems to me that the other Hindus disagree with your hindutva politics. What do you make of that?

But yes, I'm a filthy leftie liberal blah-blah. I'm hating Hindus because I said something they're doing is wrong. But all you do is keep talking about Muslims and Islamic countries and don't even wonder why.

-Mod S

#incorrect quotes #incorrect mahabharat quotes #i'm tired #i'm so fucking tired as shit #mod replies #ask reply #mod: g #mod: s #asks

[jerzwriter]

You are so fucking disgusting Elsa. Using your bland ass straight white bitch MC to be the MC of the Month for Pride Month.

You’ve gone really low

Good morning, Nonny.

I'd like to say hope you're having a good day, but clearly, you're not.

I was 50/50 on putting this in my "delete because Nonny is a bitter troll who doesn't deserve the attention/exposure they desperately crave" file. But this anon goes beyond the usual "I'm a pathetic human who hates someone on the internet who has zero impact on my life so much because of (insert stupid/insane reason here), so I'm going to be a vile bully and send them anonymous hate because - IDK - I can't find a good therapist? I'm off my meds? I'm just a vile piece of shit?" See, I no longer waste my time or energy on those.

But I decided to answer this because a) you're wrong, and b) you're engaging in bi-erasure - something that happens in the fandom and in real life every day, and I'm not going to pass up a chance to educate your ignorance and address your bigotry.

Casey was picked at random - the same way all MCOTMs and WOTMs are. I grappled with the decision to highlight her bisexuality... because of people like you. In the end, I decided to be true to the character. I've been dealing with people like you my entire life - in my personal life - never mind fandom. So let's educate.

Bisexuality is real - people.

Your ignorance in understanding it doesn't make it any less real. I am proudly bi, but trust me, it feels like a pretty shitty thing to be at times. You're never queer enough for many in the queer community, but you're too queer for those who aren't. There is no real safe space outside of a precious few who get it. And I mean few.

Your straight friends talk shit about you "doing this" to be "cool/get attention" or whatever... and they're "relieved" when you're in a hetero-presenting relationship. Your queer friends are happiest when you're with a same-sex partner, and if you're not, they accuse you of lying about who you are or "hiding." It's awesome. You know, instead of just having friends that are fucking happy if you're happy. People CAN BE and ARE attracted to more than one gender and the feelings/love we have toward both are real, valid and do not have to be explained to anyone.

Anyone who follows my MC (and I don't believe Nonny has) knows that Casey has been presented as bisexual from the day I entered this fandom. If some choose to ignore that, that's on them, not me. The fact that she is half of a pairing that is hetero-presenting does not make her any less bisexual. How ignorant are you?

Her profile clearly states she's bi. I've written about her being an activist for LGBTQ rights and about her reluctance about coming out to her parents (because she doesn't believe she should have to "come out," why is straight the default?). I've introduced her ex-girlfriend, Jessica, in fics and text fics, and discussed Casey's identity at length in numerous asks over the years.

So, yes, her current partner is a man, and he ends up being the love of her life. GUESS WHAT! THAT HAPPENS TO BI PEOPLE! And, TRUST, we know the privilege that comes with being in a hetero-presenting relationship. I've never once had someone throw something at me or hurl slurs when I've held a male partner's hand in public, but I've had it happen when my partner is a woman. But no one bi is "suddenly straight" because of it! And asking us to parade as hetero just because we're with an opposite-sex partner is pushing us into a closet - and I'm sorry, but fuck you - because no one belongs there.

Last June, I deliberately avoided all pride-related events in the fandom (NOT in real life). I did so because I was coping with the guilt that is tantamount to being bisexual. The "Should I put it out there. I mean, there are others who are more queer, right? I have no right to do this? Their characters are more important than mine, right?" And yeah, I've felt that way in real life, too. THIS is what it's like being bi. I'm out for decades, I'm comfortable and proud of who I am, I counsel younger people in the community that they are valid - and I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes right now because with all of that, THIS SHIT STILL CREEPS IN - largely because of s-bags like this Nonny.

So you know what, I'm not grappling with it anymore. It's pride month, and in real life, I'm celebrating to the fucking max. And you know what - I'm doing it in the fandom too. Casey is going to be as out and fucking proud as I want her to be, and if it makes your ass uncomfortable, well, that's not my fucking problem.

Re-read your ask, Nonny. The only disgusting person in this exchange is you. Do fucking better.

#playchoices #choices fandom #bisexuality awareness #bi erasure #hate anons #open heart choices #do fucking better #your ignorance is showing #pride

[my-castles-crumbling]

hi cas!!

im gonna rant at you for a bit if you dont mind :)

Im a minor that lives in a super tight night, close minded community. Super religious, super homophobic transphobic ect. Seeing as im a teenage girl whose questioning their gender and is definitely attracted to women thats kinda problematic lols. Honestly idek how to explain the situation without a bunch of details, but basically, theres a fifty-fifty chance of me being sent to conversion therapy or just cut off from any internet access (and i mean ANY. i have a flip phone for fucks sake.)if my fam finds out im queer, i have no support system outside of some internet friends who know nothing about my situation, and within the next few years(so like once i turn 20ish, thats in like 4 years but whatever) my family is going to expect me to get married to a man and start popping out babies asap. Btw thats whats expected of me in this community, marriage under the age of 25, have like as many kids as physically possible and god forbid higher education. And im not okay with that . Ffs i want to go to college, major in fine arts, meet a person i like and fall desperately in love or maybe not just have a bunch of close platonic relationships i want cats and a dog and a cute studio in a big city where i can dye my hair whatever color i want aand get an obsene amount of piercings, i want to wear pants!! I just want to live. Without expectations or limits or people who love me hating everything they dont know about me. Is that truly so much to ask for?

And im incredibly dramatic cuz i literally have the dream life. My family loves me, my parents are upper middle class, theyve never hurt me before(besides for all the anti everything rants haha) i literally have a full sized bed, which for some reason i see as the peak of being spoiled idk why. I go to school, not even public, a private religious school that prob costs thousands of dollars, i have friends(who are all part of this community btw and id bet my entire savings that most of them think gay is only a word that ppl use to mean happy lol) close ones even!! I have adorable neices and nephews(my 3 sisters all were married by the age of 20, so i have 11 niecesand nephews while my oldest sister is 31) im living the dream life. But i hate it and i have no way out. No hope of college to get on my feet and find someway out, no people that'll help me fucking run away or some bullshit like that, hell ive considered it and then felt like shit, cuz what am i even running from? Im probably attracted to men it wont kill me to marry one. And i like kids, i wouldnt mind having any either. But.... i dont want to be trapped anymore. Cuz ill be honest thats what i am.if some one asked me to run away with them rn i would, no hesitation.

God im a mess😭😭 anyway this was me ranting in my notes app, im just apologizing for dumping this on a complete stranger(we're moots actually!!) albeit a very kind one :) i dont know what im looking for, but ill take whatever your comfortable giving ig.

I love and appreciate you<333

And hey this has been oddly cathartic so lmk if its okay for me to do this again sometime :))

"im living the dream life. But i hate it and i have no way out."

Hon, you're not living the dream life...there's a difference between financial privilege and being happy, you know? It's pretty clear that this isn't what you want.

I'm not sure if you're asking for my advice here, or if you just want to vent. But I care about you, and if you want me to research some things to try to help you, I'm more than willing to (that way it's not on your search history.) Just say the word!

Until then, you are ALWAYS allowed to vent to me.

I'm naming you venting anon in case you write again!

#ask #asks #ask cas #venting anon

[sophieinwonderland]

Hey so I was reading the screenshots of asks on your post about having 1,801 followers. One, congrats btw. Two, it reminded me and prompted me to ask, why do people hate you so much? I don’t understand why they do. The only thing you’ve done is educate people in a respectful tone. Why has people had DNI’s not to interact with them if someone follows you? Also I’ll never for the life of me get why people are anti endo. Even if supposedly science or whatever can’t prove it, why do they discredit people’s actual lived experiences? They insist lived experiences must be impossible since they think plurality supposedly only happens because of trauma and they’re stuck on their mentality. Sorry for my rant.

Ty for all you do and being a nice person.

Thanks!

As for why people dislike me, you'd have to ask them. I'm sure you'd get a lot of answers. A couple of them might actually contain some truth!

The simplest, most boring truth is that anti-endos hate outspoken pro-endos and when they find someone who is too outspoken, they'll comb over and twist whatever that person says in order to justify attacking them.

Of course, that's not the entire truth.

See, when that happens you can rollover, you can try to change their minds... or you can play into it and decide that while you may not be able to control whether people hate you or not, you can at least control what they hate you for. 🤷‍♀️

And so that's what I ultimately decided on after a year of harassment and an attempt to get be banned under false pretenses.

If I were to say what my greatest sin in syscourse is, it's probably this. Feeding them things that I know they would take out of context to pass around to their followers as examples of how terrible I am.

For example, once bragging about teaching people to "dissociate and hallucinate" in one post last year. Something which, if I had clearly phrased it in a less threatening way like "I can link to switching and imposition guides," wouldn't have gotten the same engagement from the other side. Yet saying I teach people to dissociate and hallucinate is something not a single pro-endo or pro-tulpa would care about because everyone who know me knows what I'm talking about.

And then when an anti-endo who was looking for something to use against me takes the easy bait, I get a chance to talk about how actually not all hallucinations and dissociation are harmful, and many cultures around the world have safe hallucinatory and dissociative practices, making the anti-endos look foolish.

Actually, one of the anons in that post yesterday, and some others who found my blog through anti-endos, made me think using the infamy anti-endos gave me to my advantage would be helpful. (And yes, I realize "you should make anti-endos hate you more so they'll give you free advertising" was probably not the intended message.)

So yeah, I occasionally feed them little nuggets to add fuel to the fire.

I dislike toxicity when it's aimed at other pro-endos who may be vulnerable. I dislike it when pro-endos send hate to anti-endos because that reflects back on our community and risks escalation.

But when hate is aimed at me from anti-endos, I think that's useful. I have thick skin. I can take everything they throw at me and then turn it back on them.

And I hope, maybe, if I make myself enough of a target, that will keep the anti-endos too distracted to go after other people on this site. Like how the Punisher puts a skull on his bullet proof vest so the bad guys will focus their aim there instead at more vulnerable parts of the body. I think I make a good vest. 😊

I try to avoid anything truly harmful. I discourage harassment. I don't send hate mail. I don't throw around slurs or profanity. But if I'm being honest, I do try to encourage the perception of me being a malicious and dangerous person amongst anti-endos.

But again, they hated me long before that. I only resorted to this particular strategy after they had already decided I was an evil ableist because I had the nerve to use science to promote endogenic plurality.

#syscourse

[lordystrange]

other anon: “he hangs out with a bad crowd who's a lot older than him and he seems to be quite an impressionable ppl pleaser”

I think people need to look at that for the reality of it then. which is there are 30+ year old people attaching themselves to a (very freshly) 19 year old (who they met at 18 or even younger, so a child), with their own agendas and mindsets. a lot of these people he met on the manipulative propaganda trip earlier in the year where they use his beautiful religion and culture for promo of the country. it’s routine, wasn’t just him doing it. and they’ve kept the contact up. oh you know they love it, freaks leeching off him. and I don’t need anybody saying I’m making excuses for his choices when it’s not the case, I just thought it’s important to note the phrasing in some ways people speak about noah.

because things like “when I was 19 I wasn’t like that” from people mean nothing. congrats I guess! you’re actually still immature for saying that instead of understanding not everyone grows up like you do, so you have some growth to do anyway 😊. statements like that neglect the truth of his age, the fact that it is not the same as all the middle aged people with decades of damage and chances to educate themselves behind them, is he closer to 40 or is he closer to 17? or 14? he is grown enough to make decisions like hanging out with certain people, but that does not stop manipulation and harm done especially for - as other anon said - a people pleaser. I swear people speaking don’t know a thing about indoctrination. has anyone heard of the disease of US patriotism? was that not also bad and shown to be running deep a few years ago? how is that different, especially after an attack that would have the influential adults around you in high emotion likely parroting some ignorant beliefs (because believe it or not, there isn’t a huge jewish population worldwide for uhhh… a pretty well known reason actually! and the fact of the matter is that pretty much everyone knows someone living in isn’treal. many fucking idiots have overblown that attack of course, but the direct emotional ties are real - people just stretched it thin.)

I don’t ask people to justify his actions or make it some parasocial going easy on him situation, it’s just being able to have a wider view of the situation is important and what nobody is doing. instead favoring getting popular tweets and wishing death on him for extremely small things in the grand scheme of politicians and people in govt with actual real influence, or brett for eg. noah is not the person anybody should be prioritizing, he’s an easy target and everybody looks so painfully stupid hating on him daily like that’s doing anything for the cause they all supposedly care about.

don’t even get me started on the amount of antisemitic lean a lot of posts about noah have, that is not or will it ever be ok. you need to learn your history, people, and be careful of dog whistles in your performative rage.

Thank you for the ask.

And you’re right. If we want to be critical about him (which we should be), we have to be critical about the whole situation.

People also seem to forget, that US and Israel are a lot alike. Both are colonizers and their governments are committing actions that are lethal. Yet I don’t see people canceling celebrities who support US.

(I’m aware that the situations are different, but I still think this topic should be talked about more.)

And the age thing is also important to notice here. I was at my dumbest at 19. And while I’d like to believe that age doesn’t matter that much when everyone’s an adult, it does. It just does. I know there were rumours of Noah dating that old guy and there’s nothing to confirm it’s true, but also nothing to confirm it’s not. But if it is true and if he is the ”source” of Noah’s behavior lately, I hope the situation changes.

Very sorry for turning your ask into speculation. But it is honestly a very likely possibility.

#noah schnapp

[ruthlesslistener]

We sure do live in a society, don't we.

The anons sending you hate are doing my head in. Like, I can completely understand why they bristled at your initial response, because as someone who writes Ghost as an adult in a child's body (hi, Gently, my beloved fic that is drowning from my dead muse), I had a kind of similar "hey wait" response at first.

But then you CLARIFIED. You took the time to ask, listen and let others educate you on another POV. It may not have changed your own personal HCs (and that's OK!!!), but you clarified your meaning was not people like me - it was not the average person who spurred it - and that's all anyone can really ask for. You don't have to agree with or ask people.

The best part of fandom is taking bits and pieces of each other's ideas and using them to decorate our sand castles and make them our own. That means "I wouldn't spin it that way but I liked reading how you did it." It also sometimes means "Oh I cannot get behind that but I respect your right to."

I think it says a lot that people are on anon, rather than actually talking to you and giving you a chance to engage with them one-on-one. I'm not sure I would label them trolls. I think their feelings got hurt and they are lashing out because of it, in an impolite way, rather than stopping to listen to explanations. I am going to give the benefit of doubt and assume that ill-intent wasn't meant, and that the reason they're on anon is that anxiety has them going "if I say it on my main, I'm going to get flamed because I offended popular tumblr user." To that I say: If you weren't on anon, Aren could've replied privately to you, and likely would have. A one-on-one conversation can go a large way for trying to clear up misunderstandings.

TBH, I probably could've just sent all of this on Discord but I just am frustrated. Asks like the ones you received are why I am terrified of sharing my own headcanons, why I assume anyone asking me ANY opinions has bad faith, and why everything I say has a giant ass disclaimer on it with "THIS IS LIKE, JUST MY OPINION GUYS" and we shouldn't have to do that. We shouldn't have to sit and police everything that we say because Someone Might Twist It.

Anyway, sorry. I just needed to put this out here because I was about to blow up on my own blog. lmao

Thank you tumblr user grollow I appreciate it immensely and I agree with everything you said about fandom being a sandbox made more fun by people having different ideas that make things fun to play with. It's just that I've been off in my corner playing relatively on my own for a bit, which kinda fucks over the amount of context you get on things a bit. And also the miscommunication had the misfortune of landing squarely in the intersection between 'things I really don't like' and 'things that have a canon basis but lack canonical descriptive details', turning it into a shitshow. Which I really really fucking wish didn't happen, even if I did enjoy discussing the pros and cons of different mental interpretations of Ghost and was able to come to the conclusion that it's about as appealing to me as a slice of apple pie. Which is to say, I like certain bits of it and will gladly nibble at said bits, but if there's any other option out there I'd take it over pie anyday. It's not bad and I certainly do enjoy it in extremely specific context, but it also doesn't appeal to me in the slightest and there's certain parts that I refuse to touch altogether (the texture of cooked fruit makes me cringe and nauseates me, much like the idea of Ghost being an adult trapped in a child's body from a horror perspective incites panic). But that's fine, bc then I can just plop the filling onto a friend's plate for their enjoyment, and nibble away at the bits I like in piece. My dislike of pie doesn't extend to the people who enjoy it, nor do I get upset when my brother refuses to eat what I cook for him. He's picky, I'm picky, I've got no right to judge. He's just as valid for saying my cream cheese frosting is gross as I am for thinking him refusing to eat anything but mac n cheese and scrambled eggs is gross. Same concept with fandom here

(And honestly, my judgement on the whole minor/adult thing is seperate from Ghost as a character altogether. I'm of similar mind with Miquella of Elden Ring, who is canonically an adult trapped in a child's body. Having a relationship with him in his child form would be fucked up- hell, even Mohg goes for breaking the curse first, and Mohg is canonically fucking insane! This isn't something limited to just one fandom, it's a hard line I draw in fiction in general)

Also yeah, I totally would have just worked it out in private, but I get the feeling the anon thinks I'm running some sort of clique or something over here where I would have twisted it into clout somehow. Which needless to say, I would not fucking do. Can't say this enough, but I'm autistic as all getout and had to deal with that enough in high school so I have nothing but contempt for that sort of behavior.

#ashe im not tagging ur blog i dont want it coming up in the ship tag #but tysm i hope i was coherent #reply #(also to clarify: mohg is still terrible but i think the goal was to age miquella up first so that the formless mother hsd a host) #(so still for very nefarious purposes)

[foxbirdy]

Help, I'm kinda stupid (bad brain disease and chronic illness shit) and scared but I really am wanting to do field work shit. I'm almost graduated from college but feel like I learned pretty much nothing and don't feel like I'm employable at all. I am highly motivated but I just like, don't know what the future holds!! How do you be a person with a job? How do you do the difficult things you do?

Hello ♥️ before I get into this I must give a disclaimer: I am by no means an expert! I am just some guy. I can share what I've had smacked into me over the course of my adult life, but it's definitely not gospel. Take anything I say about my own lived experience with a grain of salt, because it might not necessarily be true for you! Ok. Disclaimer over, let's get into it:

1 - Anon, you are not stupid. If you almost have a degree, you are killing it! I cannot even tell you how many people I know in field work who hated getting their undergrad with the passion of a thousand suns, and scraped through it by the skin of their teeth! I know lots of people who don't have degrees at all, and have no intention of getting one! Be proud that you almost have your degree.

2 - I do not have my degree! I am still working on it. I have a couple semesters to go. Everything I have done has been in the context of being a student, or someone with some college coursework and some practical experience. My brain is also not designed for the higher education system! The ADHD that makes me miserable in university work (understimulated, unfulfilled, unfocused) is also what makes me thrive in the field (performs best in high-stress environments, prefers novelty to routine, settled by working with my hands and body, excellent multitasker, intense focus on physical project work). Do not equate your ability to be a model college student with your employability.

3 - You already have the chiefest qualification required for fieldwork, which is that you are highly motivated! I've said this before, phrased differently, but the quality that most opportunities are looking for in a candidate is sheer audacity. The willingness to do crazy shit. The belief that you can do anything if you try hard. They need someone who's motivated enough (or unhinged enough) to say things like: "Yes, I will sleep on the ground. Yes, I will eat weird food. Yes, I will hike into work every day, hauling gear. Yes, I will not go crazy if I can't access the internet for weeks at a time. No, I will not turn homicidal if I'm working, eating, and sleeping with the same eight people for months. No, I've never driven a truck and trailer, but I will learn how. No, I don't have that certification, but I will get it. No, I've never used that software, but I will figure it out." If you can a) endure difficulty with enthusiasm, and b) not be phased by unknowns, you are more than halfway there.

4 - Put yourself out there! Drag yourself out of your comfort zone, within reason. Apply to things you think you have no chance of getting! Apply to things that scare you a little! Do research. Figure out what you want to do, and start where you can. Ask for help - it will make you connections! The worst that anyone can say to you is "no," and that isn't so bad. Sometimes it's easy, and sometimes you have to work at a coffee shop for a few months in-between jobs. Sometimes you'll have to wait for weeks to get more information on travel, and sometimes you have to pack your bags and get in your car within 72 hours. Go with the water cycle, move with the ups and downs. Be confident, be adaptable, have audacity, and nail your resume to the door of anything that looks cool. Godspeed and good luck out there!

#i believe that you will figure it out 🫡 #asks #anonymous #dirtbag tag #beckett.txt

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

Hey, Ralph.

I don’t know how to word this, but do you have any tips for learning to enjoy life again? I’m 24. Just graduated a couple months ago with a Masters. I feel stuck in my current job—not really liking the work anymore, not feeling fulfilled, not making a lot of money, not clicking with my boss. I do what my boss asks but I don’t feel supported by him and don’t see him as someone I can go to if I have a question or need help, which slows down my work. I also feel so much pressure from my parents to do well in my career. My relationship with my dad consists only of talk about my career/money and how I’m not where I need to be in life. He hates that I didn’t major/work in a STEM field or do business.

I don’t really have any interests either. I mean, I feel so burnt out from my education that I can’t even enjoy the things I used to anymore. I went straight from undergrad to masters and feel really burnt out from that. I used to love reading and writing but I can’t enjoy it without feeling like it’s an assignment. But I also find it hard to commit to learning new things now that I don’t have deadlines or guidance on it. I don’t really do much when I’m not working. And I find myself being more and more envious of friends who are having new experiences, getting prestigious jobs, and doing things I’m still afraid to do.

I hate living at home with my family and I fell into a really serious depression when I had to move home from campus at the start of the pandemic. Even though I’m an adult there are rules I have to follow. I can’t really go out or drink, and it’s pretty traditional for the whole family to live together so I feel like I’ll never be able to move out, even if I could afford it (which I’m not quite able to do yet). There’s no privacy and no peace. We can’t even get along yet no one can just move out. I feel so fucking suffocated sometimes.

I’m terrified of driving even though I have my license. I have serious social anxiety and only one friend. I find it hard to stick up for myself and am often seen as weak. I struggle to stay consistent in my search for a new job just because I’m terrified of rejection and of the interview process. I’ll start and stop but can just never stay committed. So I’m stuck.

I was in therapy but now that I graduated I no longer qualify for reduced price sessions. I also am not sure how much it really helped, but I guess I felt better when I had then vs not having them now.

Objectively, things aren’t that bad. I still have a job and savings and have somewhere to live and find joy in little things, like new music. And I’m so lucky to have a sister that is comfortable driving and takes me where I need to go. I also dream about a better life, and that makes me happy momentarily but that ends up making me sad when I begin to think how far away (or even impossible) that is for me. Seriously wishing I was a kid again.

I know you don’t know me and wouldn’t be able to fix/solve anything even if you did, but do you have any words of wisdom you can share for how to navigate tough times?

Oh anon - I'm sending you so much love. I'm sorry that you're . I'm particularly sorry about your Dad and your living situation - that is really hard.

What worries me about offering advice is it seems like your brain is using anything you could do to make your life better as something that you're failing at.

So my first bit of advice - is understand that the voice in your brain is not always telling you the truth.

For example, your brain seems to be telling you that you can only find a job if you commit to the process. That's not true. You don't have to stay committed to a job hunt to find a new job. A job hunt is much more like a lottery, than building up a particular muscle. Each application that you put in is a chance. The fact that you've put in 10 applications doesn't improve your chances on the 11th (guess how I know?). Every new job application is a new chance.

Unfortunately you can't know when the winning ticket will come up and rejection from jobs is horrific (or at least I've always found it so). Do what you can - don't set impossible standards.

Reading this - it seems to me that you're doing really well in difficult circumstances. Can you start by acknowledging that?

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One of the questions I have is - how much is a problem is it that you can't drive? It will really depend on where you live. In some places you can do what you fundamentally need - to do whether or not you can drive. In other places, driving is essential for independence and ability to do things. Even when it's perfectly possible to navigate the world without a car - driving can still feel like something you should be able to do. Can you unpack those feelings? Are there options to get where you want to go besides driving? In which case who cares if you can drive?

In terms of not feeling overwhelmed. I think it'd be good to consciously pick some aspects of your life that you're not working on. You can't find a new job, plan to move out, figure out how your driving anxiety and you driving can coexist and find a free therapist all at once. Start gentle. Aim to do one of those, sometimes, but make sure you don't do any of it at least one weekend a month.

It doesn't matter which one you pick - it really doesn't. It's the act of consciously not doing the others that matters.

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Another thing you could do is do things that are easy and do them badly. You say that you don't have the energy to learn new things. You seem to have a lot of gremlins in your brain that says you must be good at things for them to be worthwhile (not your fault).

I've done some drawing over the last few years - I'm definitely can't draw - I just do it sometimes and I feel my brain go 'I like this form of stimulation'. Or maybe buy a cheap craft kit aimed at children so you can make something (I've recently borrowed some lego off family members with children and made it and found that very satisfying). Don't push this - don't do things because you should - but think about doing something playful (google artists dates for other ideas)

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Finally, and this is my most concrete bit of advice - don't try to make friends - just try to do things with other people. Thinking about 'making friends' is to set yourself a task that you can't control. Make the thing you're trying to do as easy and achievable as possible.

For human contact when you're feeling isolated - the easiest thing is to go along to something that is already happening and happening regularly. This could be a class (anything that takes your fancy - as long as you won't try and be good at it), something that has some kind of purpose (plant trees or overthrow the government), or events like board game evenings. If you do something with other people regularly that will help your brain. You might make friends, or you might not, but adding things to your life (as an experiment - you don't have to stick at things you don't enjoy) is your best chance to find some joy.

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Some further advice that might help.

I recommend Captain Awkward - who has good advice about on what to do when it feels impossible to leave home and how to find people.

I also think Oliver Burkeman can be really good for burned out people who still want to make their life better.

Finally - it is really hard navigating this world. You are doing really well.

#I knew all the advice about how to find my people when I was in the UK #and only followed it intermittently #But when I did - the times when I went to things regularly with other people #that was good #Which is all to say - none of this is all or nothing #do what you can #and be kind to yourself

[yonemurishiroku]

Can you talk more about Luke being a good parent,please❓ I've seen many hc's about him,but that one is new.

This ask is from Jan 19, I'm deeply sorry it took me so long to reply to this. 😭😭😭 Please know that it's nothing personal, anon. I'm just being a snail mail as usual. 💀🙈

Anyway, when I said that Luke could have been a good parent, I meant I could see, in him, the traits that I deemed necessary for parenting. It's hard to tell because frankly, even I can't comprehend my thoughts that well, but generally, it revolves around his kindness and charisma as a counselor.

It is canon that Luke Castellan, as a character, was loved widely amongst the campers, Percy included. And most of them were teenagers. I don't know about the others but I always find it hard to fully earn a teenager's liking, but Luke seemed to be doing it just fine, even earning himself clout.

Luke had worked as the head counselor of Cabin Eleven for quite a while, so I'd say he at least knew how to deal with the youngsters' common problems and did it well - something I know parents have to struggle with. Have you ever been the head of a group of rebellious ADHD dyslexic half-god gremlins because I'm pretty sure that's like. a nightmare. (not mentioning it's Hermes' spawns) Luke seems to know his way tho.

Luke is, with all respect (which is a lot), portrayed as a manipulative person.

Now, this really depends on how you see it, but I think it's quite a useful skill when it comes to dealing with children - those whose comprehension and emotional regulation skills are yet to develop fully and whose feelings are more often than not all over the place. It requires an ocean of effort to seriously educate a child - you need to guide them but not block their ways; you need to regulate them but not limit them, all the while your children don't even know what they want either bc their brains haven't been fully wired for that yet. It's a challenge. If it was Luke though, he seemed to know how to see through people's feelings and work his way through them - as shown by how he convinced Silena, for instance. To manipulate someone means you know how they work first, and Luke appears in my eyes as someone who can guide people's thoughts, make them willing without outright threatening - which is an invaluable skill bc your children wouldn't want to feel threatened now would they?

Of all people, I just feel like Luke is the first to know how to deal with a child's tantrum in the best way possible - without actually losing/succumbing to their childish requests. He's gentle. He's funny. He's easy to like. I think the children would adore him.

What I'm trying to say is that: I think Luke knows how to deal with children and teenagers and he does it well enough.

Furthermore, when I say kindness, I'm referring to the fact that Luke's rebellion is, well, a rebellion. He did it for the demigods like him - because he thought they needed to get away from their parents: the gods - and when he failed, he made Percy promise the same thing. It is kindness - at least, in my book: the love and compassion for other misfortunes, those so deep that it enables Luke to do many things beyond.

I have talked about this once - about how Luke's motivation for evil plans actually stems from his kindness and it's admirable - and I do think it's an essential trait for a parent. It's love, pal. He loves so much. He would do everything for that love.

The last one: I'd like to mention the neglection Luke felt from Hermes' absence. This is debatable still because systematically if you are hurt, you would either 1/want to do the same thing to others or 2/extremely hate to inflict the same on others. It depends a lot on yourself.

That is to say: Luke, with all his childhood devoid of fatherly affection and later motherly one too, may have the tendency to prevent a similar fate for his children/the younger ones - provided with the fact that he made Percy promise. If Luke had his chance, I can imagine he would try his best to ensure that the children don't feel the abandonment and loneliness he once experienced. He would go out of his way to provide them with love and welcome - be there when they need, protect them, let them know they're loved; all the things a parent can do for their children. Because Luke - more than anyone - understood how hurtful it was to not have that.

That's everything to it, I suppose. I intended to write a few things and I turned out like this. I'm desperate lolol hope this helps anw!!!!

#pjo #hoo #toa #yone rambling #heroes of olympus #percy jackson and the olympians #trials of apollo #fanfic talk again bc what’s new anw? #luke castellan #luke could have been so much more #yone headcanon #good luke castellan #riordanverse #percy jackson

[hologramcowboy]

I’m sorry you got hated on bc of my ask. At nj con Jensen said Meg is “height deprived” how is that not mockery? Based on what standards is she height deprived? Yours Jensen? Are authorized to say how tall people should be? Do you set standards on height?

I could say Jensen has height deprivation to be a basketball player as well.

Thank you, anon. 🧡It's not your fault people are cray cray. That anon was clearly Jensen obsessed and just wanted to find a reason to say nasty things. Please ignore them, they aren't worth your energy and they completely missed your point. Sending you love

Forgot to add, "height deprived" is offensive in my humble opinion. I think Jensen is used to plastic women who have taught him to judge. I remember his comments about several women artists(Trainor, Emma, etc) that clearly show that he is highly judgemental beauty wise. Which is ironic because nothing about his wife is natural and she barely is pretty (for my tastes). I think a part of him is frustrated over that so he is looking around finding flaws in people to feel better about himself. I grew up in a family of good looking people so good looks do not impress me, I'm used to them, they have no effect. If your character is shitty, I don't care how angelic your face is. I can appreciate IT but I definitely will not appreciate your soul and mind. Jensen sometimes makes certain remarks that have me suspecting he is closed minded, misinformed and judgemental in a limiting way when it comes to women. I mean look at who he married, his idea of a woman is someone who fulfills certain optics and uh..."functions" and that's about it. So we really shouldn't be surprised, he never went to college so he didn't get a chance to refine himself ( and didn't find ways too, you don't necessarily have to go to college to educate yourself and refine your mind and spirit).

Sorry, I can get pretty intense about these things, I could never date a man that views women as inferior or sizes them up based on bra size and weight/height etc. I hope i'm wrong about Jensen.

#jensen critical #love my anons

[g-xix]

For the student/teacher anon, I have a story from my Uni days.

There was an English professor who was aesthetically handsome. Really nice man, lovely accent. He never told us his age, but it is presumed he was older than he appeared to be.

The ladies in my class had a crush on him. Many would talk about their chances with him. The poor man hated it 😂 he absolutely ran from declarations and confessions. These girls would wait for the semester to end to confess and he would bolt. It’s a Title 9 crime at my Uni for students and professors to have relationships— period, it doesn’t matter if the student is no longer in the professors class. Despite being tenured, he did not want to catch a case. Understandable.

To this day, I hear that he’s still rejecting girls.

There are many things that can go wrong in academic relationships— and many professors are not willing to risk their career over it. And those who have, have quickly learned what title 9 stands for.

If you want to pursue the relationship, tho, be aware that many uni’s will not allow him to be your professor anymore. Students can and will report your relationship for favoritism and both of you might face consequences

STUDENT ANON THIS ONE'S DEDICATED FOR U!!!

That's quite funny tbh, i do love that lots of girlies tried to talk it out with him and all. It feels a little Harry Potter-ish, yk, with Lockheart and his fangirls.

J had to search up Title 9 Crimes asw, hopefully my ISP isn't worried about anything. For the record, a Title 9 Crime is the federal law that prohibits sexual relationships within the educational environment, i.e. between teacher and student.

It's pretty valid yeah, lots of teachers might even have crushes but push them down bc they don't want to breach that law in fear of losing my job ("I'm gonna lose me job!") which is a perspective I hadn't considered before, probs bc it's not a v commonly thought one

Overall, student anon - deffo b careful

(i feel like i tell u 'be careful', 'stay safe', 'think rationally' at the end of every post, student anon. J to be clear - i don't wanna patronise of demean you - i j wanna make sure that if i do sound biased in what i say, i can form an opinion considering all the diff factors and effects that will manifest in what u choose to do)

#WAFFLE!! #student anon

[sitp-recs]

im here!!! noisy anon 🙈 i wanted to ask you where are you from, first of all! also this is mostly because i’m at a point in life where i have no idea what i want to do : what’s your job and how did you come to find this path in your life? 🤔

Hello again! I’m originally from Brazil but I’ve been living abroad for the past 5 years. I work for a consulting firm which may sound fancy but in reality it’s a stressful, target-oriented call center-ish environment. I hate it but I’m good at it and because I work well under pressure I’ve been promoted twice and so I’m staying until I can find something that pays me better to work fully remote 🥲

I’ve had the luxury of getting to choose my graduation and really loved my field of study but my current job has little to do with it. This is something that took me a long time to accept, the disenchantment of making a materialistic choice to sacrifice both my mental health and intellectual gratification, but the immigration process has significantly affected my career path too. That means I can’t offer many helpful insights, except maybe for this one: a job is just a job. It serves a purpose and almost anyone can be trained to do anything. And that can be a comforting thought when we’re feeling lost and/or aimless, I guess?

Don’t get me wrong, it’s wonderful to work with something you love and get that feeling “YES, this is where I belong.” I’ve been there and it was extremely hard to let go. But most people don’t ever get the chance to experience a dream job because real life responsibilities rarely allow us the luxury of waiting for it. So whenever I get disheartened thinking that I had to take so many detours that I’m not at all where I wanted to be, I take a deep breath and decide to be gentle to myself, and understand that I did my best within the circumstances. Once I fully realized that my job is just a way to pay my bills and does not (or should not) reflect my value I felt much lighter and started seeing things in a different way. That includes pursuing activities that bring me joy - such as fandom - for the simple pleasure of it, without feeling guilty for “wasting time in a non-productive way”.

I won’t offer personal advice because I don’t know your struggles and I reckon education/job systems differ a lot from county to country, and now that I think about it I don’t think my commentary was all that helpful 🤣 but I can offer this post as a space for more people to share their insights on this topic. You’ve got this, anon!

#asks #anon