#Social connections and well-being

[artisticdivasworld]

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#Biological factors in mental health #Brain chemistry and mood #Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) #Coping mechanisms for stress #Evidence-based therapies #Genetics and mental health #Hormones and stress #Mental health awareness #Mental health research #mental health treatment #Mindfulness meditation benefits #Neurotransmitters and emotions #Psychological factors in therapy #Reducing mental health stigma #Science of mental health #Social connections and well-being #Social support and mental health #Socioeconomic status and mental health #Trauma-informed care

[positivelyadhd]

i know the mortifying ordeal of being known ect ect but what about how much of a gift that can truly be?

people are reminded of you when they see something you love the same way you are reminded of them, the baristas at the coffee place remembering your order, getting to be the kind stranger that made someone feel a little better on a bad day.

each time you go out, whatever you touch, whatever you do, can have an impact on someone. while that can sometimes feel like the scariest thing in the world it's a huge part of the gift of being alive

#just thinking about the joy of human connection i guess 🥰 #like the way i used to spiral and panic over the thought of being perceived (i still do) but trying to remember that it's a gift as well #recovery #social anxiety #suggestions

[teledild0nix]

Standing in the town square ringing my bell and yelling like Harry is the special one!!! Draco is the one who is just some guy!!!! Harry literally saved the world twice and had a prophecy made about him!!!! Draco is simply mean, blond, and rich!!!! Harry is the bold, adventurous, and self directed one!!! Draco is the one who does exactly what is expected of him!!!! Draco is a bad person, but he is not a bad boy his behavior sucks but it’s not subversive in the context of their culture!!! Harry literally overthrew the government!!! He robbed a bank and stole a dragon!!!! Hello?? Hello???

#Like being a jerk isn’t the same thing as being transgressive #And being from a wealthy and well connected family still doesn’t give Draco the incredible social status that Harry has #All this to say Harry is INTERESTING dammit #I don’t get why people sometimes seem to think he’s like bland and dumb #My boy is off the shits #I love Draco too and I love to write him #I just feel like. So many people think he’s the fun and interesting one #Or that he’s smarter than Harry #Harry is not some aw shucks boy next door he’s intense!!! #It’s something they have in common tbh

[creatingnikki]

notes to self: existing delulu land edition

knowing yourself and your needs and accepting then instead of ignoring them or forcing yourself to change is the first step towards most of what you want. once you understand that, you can work around it, you can work with it.

your need is connections. human connections that are authentic and warm and present. you don't like people who are absent and those that are inconsistent in their communication. it makes you anxious and triggers your overthinking qualities. you want to feel secure in the connection you share with the person and presence, consistent communication, and actions aligning with words are the basics of that.

so you don't force yourself to not want connections. you just make sure your life is full of wholesome, fulfilling, beautiful ones. you pick the good ones and you say bye to the bad ones before they develop into sources of unnecessary agony and hurt. you realize how to limit the impact of a connection with someone and how to deal with disappointment.

feeling good about yourself and being at peace with yourself, at least a little bit, is what will help you have clarity about what you want in a relationship and in your life. because then you won't be using people and situations as maladpative coping mechanisms or a way to soothe your insecurities or fill holes instead of fix them.

what do you not feel good about right now? the lack of stability across most aspects of your life? you're working on it, I know. and it's hard, I know. but you have to continue. for yourself. and to also form the kind of connections that you seek the most with others in life.

you have to lower the volume of social media and all these cross connections. meme culture and reels and echo chambers that make you feel like being delulu is the only solulu and that everyone is depressed and everything is fucked and adulting is the worst. because the truth is that it may make you laugh and humour helps but subconsciously you start believing these narratives and then it becomes the normal. but when the fuck did it become okay to normalize feeling tired and sleepless all the time? girl dinner and sad boi hours? situationships and casual dating when such intimacy means something to you? if you were 19 maybe you could let all this be a part of your vocabulary and life. but at 26 when you're seeking a balanced, healthy, good life and future, you have to reduce your consumption of the internet content and really protect your brain.

#notes to self #poeticstories #writerscreed #abstractcommunity #twc poetry #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #delulu #being delulu is the solulu #dopamine depletion #mental health #situationships #well being #social media #stability #self awareness #clarity #human connection #mental wellness #mental wellbeing #honesty hour #girl dinner #sad boi hours #healthy living #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #adulting #creatingnikki

[jahiera]

this isn't really coherent, I might turn it into an actual structured.. something something later, so don't take this as anything but my brain notes getting jotted down, especially since the nature of discussions on class, wealth, capitalism, vampire symbolism, gothic themes, etc. are all a lot to get into casually here. but I'm. endlessly fascinated by cazador's reputation as a socialite in baldur's gate, the rat motif, astarion's obscured history as a magistrate, and how the game fucks around with classic gothic vampire aesthetics to an almost egregious degree. zero trying to pretend they're not calling back to what the "vampire" imagination evokes here.

the ostentatious yet dilapidated state of the mansion. the egregious wealth but the floorboards are moldy and bloody and miasma fogs the hallways. the rooms are dark yet opulent... the corridors loom over you and are strewn with many fine paintings you can barely see for the lighting, the floors are plush and carpeted and red. but the whole place at the same time is disgusting. bloody. thick with rot and feels almost rundown. I cant remember the exact line in the companion dialogue with shadowheart and astarion where shadowheart asks what to expect of vampire lairs, but it ends with him describing them in a way that's almost--fetid. cazador's wealth is on display and yet the whole place is rotten to the core, meaty and disgusting and full of horrors.

and this works in conjunction with the way astarion plays at class, elitism, and wealth. he plays the part of it quite well; he sniffs and turns his nose up, offers to take karlach to the upper city, his introduction is him telling the player that they "move in different circles," (the implication that astarion moves in elite circles, when in fact in act 3 he reveals he mostly spent time in lower city taverns). I'm not sure how to elaborate what I'm trying to get at here with the play between the rotten wealth & astarion's "playing" nobility; astarion's mortal life is only gestured to, as a magistrate, but you can feel the bones of it in astarion's character still. he plays the role shallowly well, when everything we learn about him directly counters any notion he was ever the social elite he plays at in the beginning. how astarion interacts with the others through his still distinctly elitist + wealth-centric lens despite quite literally being enslaved for the last 200 yrs (my life was bad but at least I'm not you. that mindset is rife for unpacking in terms of how he places himself above others so often, and recoils + is aghast when he sees himself especially paralleled with those he sees as lesser or weaker). if he came close to touching high society, it would have only been through cazador's own social parties with the upper nobility of baldur's gate (and even then, we don't know if he attended, if he was expected to play a role there, or if he was sequestered away). like the mansion's finery, astarion's own display of elitism is hollowed out, rotten when you actually see it, down to the worn out hems of his finery.

astarion, whose most often reoccurring animal motif is a rat; vermin, unfit for consumption; the symbolism there is RIFE. rats play double; coward, vermin, unfit for the finery of the house; rats as symbolism for disease, decay, infestation. vampires infest and feed on baldur's gate. astarion is, in many ways, a rat himself; a schemer and fearful. the game doesn't really try to comment intricately on social structures, classism, or vampires as symbols for the parasitically wealthy; in act 3 the focus is much more on the fucked up family dynamic, the social hierarchy between cazador and the spawn (and that's an entire thing in of itself; astarion weaponizes the cycle of abuse over the spawn as quickly as he expresses sympathy for them). or if it's trying to do a real critique of wealth & using vampire tropes to do it, there's nothing necessarily.... intentionally placed there as critique. but it's still very much in line with the gothic horror symbolism that oftentimes does utilize the vampire as a way of cracking a bit at the Horrors of the Rich. intentional or not, it's very interesting. rats! the way the rich are parasites on the land! the way the cycles of power rotate between the spawn as they all claw for favor and security and power in the house but ALSO hold themselves higher than the human servants or the werewolves!

#bg3 meta #stuck in fucking ACT 1 when I want to REPLAY THE CAZADOR MISSION RIGHT NOW. I'm SICK. #does this make sense to anyone. do you see the dots being connected here. #it needs something structured & I'd want to collect screencaps + quotes to make it all work but #woe the horrors of parasites and the wealthy and the way that power + wealth + social image still clearly play a role in #how the spawn interact with each other and also with cazador and also how they view their victims -- #or well. at least how astarion does #bg3 spoilers

[chryblossomjjk]

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#first therapy session went well ! #i didn't cry which is v surprising lol #maybe bc we didnt go too in depth about things but #therapist already picking up on things i didn't like #never really thought of myself as an anxious person #depression was more so what stuck out to me #but like therapist was like bestie... u sound more anxious than ur perceiving #like i put that i don't struggle with social anxiety bc generally in a group of people im pretty outgoing #but like my coping skills are isolation lol #and i often turn down invitations bc of my insecurities #and in general just hate being perceived despite wanting it #like i literally havent answered any asks on here in months bc #im afraid of what people think of me #and im scared of interaction #but im also dying for human connection lol :')) #i also avoid men completely bc trauma so yeah #and it all stems from a deep deep belief that i am not worthy of love n wOw im sad but like we can only go up from here right :')) #LMAO SORRY THAT THIS IS WHAT MY BLOG HAS BECOME BUT #idk this is my diary fr #anywho sorry for everything #will most likely delete all these rants bc its embarassing lol but #love you all #and im so sorry for not answering the asks #thank you for reading my fics #your comments mean sm to me truly #love you endlessly

[icewindandboringhorror]

More misc. daily life pictures and such

#image commentary in tags once again since they don't allow captions anymore and I feel weird using the alt text for that -- #1 & 2 - Very bright pretty looking sky ! #2. HUGE icicle that looked like you could kill someone with it or something.. Pulled from near a gutter on the side of a building #3. & 4 & 5 - various images from a silly party I had where I pretended to be some elf king turning like 204 years old lol (also not like #a REAL party. Only my roommates were there really and we're all in the same household bubble. #just to clarify. I would never dare have a large party anyway given #my hermitous nature but on top of that.. didn't want there to be some implication that I'm having a Party while covid is still ongoing lol. #NEVER.. But I do love dressing up as some fantasy character so much.. The only thing that could ever bring a true hermit wizard #to engage with others socially is the prospect of connecting it somehow to fantasy worlds and costumes lol. One must simply dress up #as a silly 200 year old man from time to time and pretend you've never seen a balloon before in your life. etc. #6. bapy boye... feets #7. The main food that I made for the elderly elf man 'party'. which was a Deconstructed Beef Wellington (kind of as ajoke since I watch s #o many silly cooking competition shows and they always make stuff 'deconstructed' at the last minute when under time limits or whatever.) #I've wanted to make beef wellington a few times but Ithink to do it well I'd need like..an actual kitchen and a lot of time and #an oven that fully works to bake things and etc. etc. So I thought this would be an easier method. A thick steak cut round to kind of mimi #c the round tenderloin or whatever it is in a wellington. instead of the puff pastry being wrapped around - I just did star shaped cut outs #of pastry and baked them and put them on top (to go with the star theme). instead of mushroom duxelles being wrapped around in pastry #its in a little circle under the steak. and instead of mustard being brushed onto the meat I made a mustard gravy sauce type of thing #Then of course asparagus on the side.. my favorite... Though I know some wellington #also has a layer of prosciutto I think. or I saw one person use crepes. I didn't feel it was necessary to incorporate that too lol #8. bapy son helping me do a giant puzzle that took me hours and I had no idea it was actually that large of a puzzle #until I started putting it together and for some reason it made me stressed by the end instead of relaxed lol.. puzzle fatigue #photo diary

[bottombaron]

whenever i think abt writing Nandor and i get going thru a series of sequences of him behaving like a well-adjusted, caring, adult i have to stop myself, backspace several mental paragraphs and remember that he's basically a semi-captive lion being observed in a nature documentary and he functions on 92% Id

#wwdits #what we do in the shadows #nandor #nandor the relentless #neat fanfic trick: if you're nandor is behaving ooc like a normal well adjusted empathetic human being just ask yourself #“what would a lion do in this exact scenario?” #and whatever the absurdity it's probably closer to the truth than not #anyways i have a lot to say abt the amorality of the vampires and how they simply don't function with the same human ethical thought #but that doesnt mean they dont care and love and have social behaviors of their own that shouldnt be judged less than #and will express those emotions in ways that might feel foreign to most humans #...is what i say to myself to keep from crying as i delete 3 pages of nandor talking out his feelings 😭😭😭 #(also brief note: when i say he functions on Id its not that he lacks intelligence or the capacity to use it along with his ego/super ego) #(as seen in the s5 finale) #(but rather he's an apex predator so his whole being is funneled into traits for hunting. not other things we think show intelligence) #(in the mordern non hunting/gathering world) #(which is partially why he's so disconnected from the world and struggles to find purpose in an environment that no longer values him) #(truthfully nandor is human but simply the definition of humanity has changed rapidly from what it valued centuries before) #(and leaves nandor lost) #(except for guillermo. his one connection to humanity and what anchors him to the modern world 🥲) #(...looks like i got lost in the tags again...)

[foolishnpd]

am I aplatonic or am I just incredibly narcissistic with the tendency to view the vast majority of people as a waste of time and not up to my level to even consider being friends with

#lilyroaring #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #it's not that I don't enjoy having friends #but I'm not unhappy in being alone either. I'm good enough for myself after all #but most people truly don't interest me #I don't have a desire to make friends #I don't feel that need for connection #I'm not incapable of making friends either. I used to be very social and well known around my school #but I just can't help but look down on most people #I think their attempts to befriend me are hilarious #I can play along for a bit but do they really expect it to come to anything? #it's different if someone's got traits I respect or even admire #but most people just don't have that #classmates or coworkers. why am I expected to get close to any of these people #they just bore me too much to be worth the effort of even maintaining status as an acquaintance #how can I expect to feel love for anyone when almost everyone is a boring irritating disappointment

[fruitybashir]

I'm actually really wondering how Bojan feels about... everything, cause Kris is just in denial but he's clearly very deeply in love. But what about Bojan? Does he know that he is in love with Kris? Is he also in denial? I don't think he really knows but maybe he does feel it but can't place the feeling?

You probably can't really answer this without spoiling, but I just had to ask.

😌

sorry i started typing out two tags and then just kept going i shouldve just put this all here but now its too late argh. sorry </3

#well .... we will hear about bojans side a bit later but i can say that at least right now this very moment neither of them have fully #defined romantic feelings for each other? theyre definitely SO slipping into it but without even noticing it #ofc ofc you can all interpret it in your own way as well but from my perspective its like. hm. #not DEFINITELY romantic yet but a weird limbo between platonic and romantic that theyve slipped into and i mean we all know its not gonna #stay platonic forever lmao but THEY dont know that yet 😌 #but we'll get more into how bojan experiences it in a later chapter dont worry ✌🏼 #inbox #apfel07 #txt #chapter spoilers #like especially for kris i can say this: #him realising hes not in love with anja anymore / doesnt mourn the breakup anymore is HUGE and its a combination of #a) being forced out of his isolation that he put himself in after the breakup aka he is more social now he hangs out with the guys and #hes having fun and making connections and that helped him so much to get to this point #and b) the connection he has with bojan. developing new feelings (although hesitantly so) drew his focus away from clinging to what hes los #from anja #-> and then now that he stopped clinging to that loss those feelings hes starting to have for bojan have full freedom to develop further #so thats where hes at at the moment

[the-healing-mindset]

Yes, social media makes us feel closer to our people without being close to them. However, we need to make sure that we are actually checking in with them on a regular basis. Pick up the phone. Make a call. Send a quick text. Message them. Video chat. I promise you that if they really matter to you, then you won't regret doing this.

#reminder #gentle reminder #emotional well being #emotional health #feelings #emotions #mental health #connections #relationships #family #friends #life #living #community #communication #consistency #friendship #social media #social interaction #parasocial relationships #parasocial

[herrmit]

not to start shit but. tell me you didn't understand princess jellyfish without telling me you didn't understand princess jellyfish

#idk idk something about the lines we draw to divide women being ultimately useless as they degrade both sides #something something bridging gaps between people with different interests #something something literal actual sisterhood and solidarity between women #i'm never one to defend tiktok i'm not even on there and it surprises me that princess jellyfish is being brought up #but like. what is this supposed to mean. to 'tiktokify' something #girlboss narrative what hello? what? you're throwing words at me and i don't know what they mean #but it's hilarious that this post comes off as something the sisterhood would have posted before all their character development #because this is a story about empowerment not through appearance- but that inner change is what beauty is made of #the development tsumiki and the other members of the sisterhood get is not that now they dress well #but that their often self-imposed isolation is not an antidote to os being ostracized in high school and having social anxiety #and that they've dehumanized other women in the process of defending themselves #and it's not that they have to change who they are of their interests but that they full accept themselves and can therefore #be comfort with who they are #and better navigate the world. and form friendships . and human connection and FUCK #like what are you talking about #sorry i know no one here follows me for princess jellyfish takes but that's what we're gonna get today #i think when you have a fandom / readership as small as pj (in the west at least) every bad take hits that much harder lmao #anyway. kuranosuke princess rights. we are all princesses. etc etc #princess jellyfish #kuragehime #screeds #screeds fR FR #txt #i didn't want to tag this person or show their name bc it ain't personal i just want to address takes like these . #“girl's girls are toxic” “not like other girls are toxic” what if we were all princesses idk. what if we loved each other

[sibelin]

might go back into hiatus a little longer, there's nothing satisfying about blogging anymore. it just feels very empty.

#i've been deleting posts everytime i wanted to express myself #being perceived as annoying on here is making me rethink everything i do #and well....longing for human connection on social media is never a good idea! #which is fine cause i know a few people that values and loves me outside of this very narrow social sphere that is tumblr #this is what i should focus on :)

[sailforvalinor]

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#oh my gosh I forgot to mention this but I got connected with the most wonderful church here #it’s an international church so there are a lot of people cycling in and out #and it’s on the 7th floor of a building and a bit hard to find #but it is absolutely wonderful and the people are so welcoming #I’ve met SO MANY people and I feel like I’m doing well with socializing for once #I made friends with a couple of girls and we’ve run around and done fun stuff together and had actual serious conversations #and like I’m wondering if one of the reasons God has me here is to teach me how to be a member of a church family independent of my family #because you know being the preachers kid—that has expectations. you’re at church on Sunday because your dad’s in the pulpit #(not that that’s actually the only reason for me but that’s what it looks like to other people) #here though I’m at church because I want to be there. I’m an independent woman who chose to come to church on her own #and I’m really enjoying it! #Val’s gone globetrotting

[thewickerking]

JUST REMEMBERED THE TUMBLR NIGHTMARE I HAD WAS A NIGHTMARE AND SIMPLY. DID NOT HAPPEN. THANK FUCK. This was like. A week or more ago I judt kind of assumed it was real this whole time

#do u guys ever get tumblr stress dreams and/or nightmares. cause i do. i think this symbolizes social media being bad 4 me #but i will never quit tumblr sorry. i love her #i had a dream i made a discourse sideblog (😭) and misrepresented my thoughts on smn and my muts fucking hated me #this is unrealistic because i would never make a discourse sideblog. but i got so so scared. tbh this is connected to . well. disorders #but i havent posted abt certain ones of mine on here and i wont start now. yet. idk. well see where the wind takes me but its complicated #i feel like this is worded really poorly. which was the conflict in the dream. im really tired guys know that im very niceys and scared #.ares

[kindnessoverperfection]

#to be clear. v happy with ppl interacting with ME #but me interacting with THEM? lol #either a) i get worried as coming off as needy b) i have no motivation because i don't.... feel things when i talk to people #or c) im like ''im too busy for that'' then proceed to lie around doing nothing bc im depressed over being lonely #attention & praise seeking is like. the only way i know how to get my social need filled. #probably because shallow interactions w strangers feel safe. interactions with ppl who know me are like.... well #now this is an investment and a risk. also my lack of identity makes it hard to connect with anyone on anything #and considering the fact that i am EXTREMELY extroverted. i am not having a good time lmaooo