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Source: No, Not Crazy

#reminder #gentle reminder #life #living #encouragement #encouraging words #growth #progress #success #love #self-love #self-esteem #self-worth #self-efficacy #note to self

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"Not knowing how to be in a healthy relationship because of what you witnessed is traumatic." This post from Nedra Tawwab hits home in so many ways. For some of us, it really hurts to discover that we don't know the first thing about relationship dynamics, how relationships are meant to work, and how to protect ourselves when dealing with other people.

Most of the times, this discovery comes about when we are interested in becoming close to another person but find ourselves deeply insecure about how we should show up to the connection, ultimately causing us to back away, or try too hard for those who are not good for us. This potentially leads us into more distressing situations, if not wholly traumatic.

#trauma #dysfunctional family #family trauma #childhood trauma #parent child relationships #life #living #dysfunctional relationships #emotions #feelings #childhood emotional abuse #childhood emotional neglect #traumatic stress #PTSD #C-PTSD #relationships #healthy relationships #unhealthy relationships #toxic relationships #relationship dynamics

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i feel like no one really wants to hear that sleep/exercise/nutrition/hydration are major factors in treating mental health issues bc we’ve all talked to that person who thinks your depression would be cured by one good session of goat yoga or whatever but unfortunately they do help and i’m chronically annoyed about it

#self care #basic needs #self compassion #back to basics #adulting #reparenting #mental health #healing #recovery #growth #exercise #self improvement #depression #motivation #feelings #emotions #tips

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But how can I get reassurance without being needy then?

Hi anon,

I understand how scary it can feel to ask for reassurance. But it is so much better to be direct and ask instead of hinting at it. “I’m having a bad brain day. It’s not your fault, but can I have some reassurance?”

I also want to address that sometimes it might feel “fake” because it was asked for. I’ve felt that way before, but having been on the receiving end of someone asking for reassurance, I can assure you the reassurance I gave was real.

I don’t think it’s needy to ask for reassurance sometimes, but maybe sometimes it is “needy” and another thing I had to learn was that it’s okay to be needy sometimes! It’s normal.

#reassurance #bpd thoughts #bpd #relationships

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If someone you know experienced childhood neglect, they may not know things that you or other people consider “basic knowledge.”

Don’t shame them for not knowing. Making them feel bad because you had someone in your childhood who taught you things, while they didn’t, is not even a little bit helpful.

And yes, this post applies even if that person is you. Give yourself some patience and understanding. It’s not your fault.

#tw child abuse #tw neglect #abuse #childhood trauma #childhood emotional neglect

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Every single time you set a boundary, no matter how small, deserves to be celebrated if setting boundaries has historically been unsafe for you.

#boundaries #boundary #setting boundaries #trauma #self compassion #reminders #gentle reminder #relationships

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I think it’s sexy of u that your words align with your actions

#consistency #congruence #life #living #truth #dependability #reliability #trustworthiness #trust #relationships #relationship dynamics

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https://www.tumblr.com/becomingthatgirl111/723302150909968384/hi-thank-you-for-answering-my-question-do-you

Thank you for answering one last thing

What is a mental diet ?

hey again! 🤍

to make a mental diet is to control your thoughts, identify which are the ones that harm you and fill your mind with the thoughts you want to have. it is also to eliminate all the content that is not benefiting you and only consume that which brings you something positive.

what can you achieve with a mental diet and why is it necessary?

mainly it is necessary to focus on what we want, create the life we want and be more positive.

promotes a better relationship with ourselves.

promotes positive emotional states.

helps us to achieve what we want.

how to make a mental diet?

identify which thoughts you want to change and which ones you want to replace them with. you can do this exercise by writing them down on a piece of paper.

you can also ask yourself questions like: what thoughts do i have to leave behind? what thoughts would i like to have from now on? what mentality do i have to adopt to achieve what I want?

when you have identified those thoughts, every time one appears ignore it, do not focus on it, you can recognize it and let it go, replacing it with a positive one or an action that distracts you from it.

negative thoughts fade away if we do not give them power.

from now on be persistent and focus on the thoughts you want to have, you can say affirmations or write them down, whatever resonates with you.

little by little these new thoughts will be the predominant ones.

also avoid consuming all content (especially in social media) that makes you feel bad and in turn consume inspirational content or content that makes you grow.

and i hope this has clarified your doubts, anyway soon i will write a post about my tips to stop this kind of thought.

#mental health #thoughts #emotions #feelings #life #living #negativity #social media #negative content #affirmations #persistence

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like sometimes it's just it is what it is. it's not the most hopeful happy ending that most people would dream of, but i gotta accept that yeah maybe i'll struggle with this for the rest of my life, so i'll focus on doing something that makes me happy then. sometimes grief cannot be healed. sometimes things cannot be fixed. i'll carry this weight for a long time. i may never be able to put it down so i might as well make peace with it.

#truth #acceptance #healing #recovery #growth

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Trying to learn that it’s not my responsibility to create or maintain harmony in the lives of those I care about. They are allowed to have difficulties in their lives and struggles in their relationships with others and it’s not something that I need to ‘fix.’ I am not responsible for their happiness or peace. Their struggles do not make me a failure. All I can control is how I interact with them.

#reminder #gentle reminder #responsibility #life #living #relationships #relationship dynamics #happiness #peace #self-worth #self-respect

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Angel numbers & meanings. 🪽4️⃣4️⃣4️⃣

#angel numbers #spirituality

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It's dangerous to go alone, take this.

Healing potions ✨

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#art #unique #healing #recovery #growth #affirmations #positive thinking #positive mindset #positivity #positive words #encouragement #words of encouragement

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#self-love #self-acceptance #self-worth #self-esteem #boundaries #independence #resilience #inner strength #self-reliance #personal growth #healing #empowerment

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Sometimes when people talk about the trauma they endured, they might cry or otherwise get upset. They may get angry. But some other normal reactions are that they may not show emotion. Maybe they even smile or laugh.

There is no “rule” for how someone should be when they discuss their trauma. We are all different and our brains react differently.

Please don’t say someone is lying because they’re not reacting the way you think is “right”.

#emotions #feelings #trauma #self-expression

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well, you know what? i'm gonna be gentle to myself. whether or not i accomplish things. whether i'm at my one hundred or at my ten percent. whether i'm angry, happy, stressed, anxious or insecure. even when i don't have all the answers or all the hope. even when the world demands more and more of what i can no longer give. even when i disappoint people. even, even, even.

#reminder #gentle reminder #life #living #stress #anxiety #insecurity

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“Be yourself. No, not the person that everyone expects you to be. No, not the one that you are pressured into being. But your TRUE self. Only you know who this individual is, so meet them, greet them, and stay close to them.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

#reminder #gentle reminder #authenticity #authentic #personality #change #self-awareness #self-worth #self-help #self-development