#aromantic ppl literally exist

[lost-soul-01]

man even kim sejong is making it hard for me to enjoy this drama

#today’s webtoon #What does he mean that romance is everywhere #aromantic ppl literally exist #like ? #yea there can be webtoons without romance that do great and r great #in fact adding unnecessary romance does show weak writing lmao #like?

[lobotomyladylives]

demisexuality and gray ace are valid sexual orientations and there's nothing aphobes can do about it except die mad 💞

Your opinion on their ~validity~ doesn't change the fact that sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to not the conditions under which you feel that attraction. there are only 4 possible sexual orientations (hetero, homo, bi, ace). if a "demisexual" woman is sexually attracted to men once a romantic connection is formed but not women she's straight. if a "greysexual" man can be attracted to both sexes under certain circumstances he is bi. neither of these people are asexual bc asexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone, ever. that's the definition and there is no "asexual spectrum", you either feel sexual attraction or you do not. you're not asexual and you're not maligned at all and you definitely aren't lgbtqrstuvwxyz+-×÷. no one cares about a made up label you use to make you feel special. hope this helps!

#its miraculous that real asexuals arent constantly tearing their hair out in frustration from these ppl invading their communities #i dont think asexuals are oppressed exactly but they do have their own unique struggles from people not even comprehending their existence #to people literally telling them theyre broken and need to try it before they can possibly claim to not want it #and (if they arent also aromantic) struggling to find a partner who is conpatible bc asexuals are such a small portion of the population #and just generally feeling like an outsider all the time bc society is so sex obsessed. i know as a celibate person it feels alienating #asks

[naquey]

yk i didn't find out i was on the aromantic spectrum until like, literally this year because I thought being on the aromantic spectrum was about not having romantic feelings. But. That is farther from the truth. I had so much trouble and struggled a lot in relationships because I didn't realize I was mixing up romantic attraction with wanting to be friends.

I thought that by wanting to get closer to people, I just wanted to date them and do a couple of things, but then when I ended up dating those people, I put myself in a world of misery because it didn't turn out the way I wanted, or we broke up, and they were no longer in my life. It turns out this entire time, I just wanted friends because I was a lonely child and only ever had 1-2 friends my entire life. And this isn't to say that arospec/acespec ppl can't feel romantic attraction, but sandwiching my feelings into the the stereotype box of what alloromantic ppl felt was what ultimately hurt me in the end.

Now, I know I want friends when I talk to people and start thinking they're cool or pretty because my brain is trying to tell me, "Hey, talk to this person more. Get closer, and exchange dumb memes."

TLDR; society's standards of love and romance can suck it

#aromantic #aromantic spectrum #arospectrum #idemromantic #that being said i am very oblivious #and literally had to pause when i started talking to this guy in my creative writing class because I needed to think about my feelings #and i did the same when i saw this dude in my personal communications class #i am also horrible in relationships #and typically forget people exist until they message me or like repost/reblog something #aromantic rant #like when i say ppl are attractive #my brain DOES NOT need to immediately go #kiss kiss fall in love #also dating as a trans man is hard asf #dating as trans in general is #but like im not gonna rant ab that because I don't need to elaborate

[redysetdare]

You know maybe don’t go around saying that the Soulmates and Red string Tropes can be platonic too when the fact is that they are NEVER used in that way.

idk i just find it fucked up that everyone responds to Aro/Ace ppl who complain about the erasure those tropes inherently have by saying “but it can be platonic soulmates too” ignoring the fact that the soulmates and red string tropes are NEVER used in platonic stories. there are no soulmates AUs about friends. it’s ALWAYS used in shipping and romance. so until you guys start using it in the platonic sense that you all seem to adamant about then maybe shut the fuck up?

#text #aroace #aromantic #asexual #idk im just frustrated to always see this arguement and always have my and my fellow aroace's complained brushed to the side #Like the point is we're not saying these tropes should stop existing or ppl r bad to like them #we're saying these tropes have an inherent problem with erasing aromantic and asexual ppl and it's kind of fucked up #this trope is used ONLY as a romantic trope and saying that it CAN be platonic doesn't mean that it IS platonic #because until it becomes more widely used in stories focused on platonic relationships then it isn't and can't be platonic #really some easy things to add in these stories is either making it to be 'almost everyone' instead of literally 'everyone' #or just adding in the fact that soulmates aren't always romantic and can have different bonds AND SHOW THOSE #dont just say 'platonic soulmates can happen!' and then not show it happening

[entropy-sea-system]

Do not assume what kinds of relationships aromantics do or do not want. Do not assume friendship is universal. Do not imply that the only connections aros can have are friendship just bc you think all aros are plato favorable, romance averse, ace, and sex averse.

Do not imply that every aro must want and immensely value friendship bc its 'the only thing left other than romance and I assume sex is out of the equation'. Aplatonic and/or plato averse or nonfriending aros exist. We matter. Aros who are romance favorable and/or experience some romantic attraction exist.

Aros who are sex favorable and/or alloaro or are otherwise not ace exist. There are other relationship types than the ones I mention in this post, such as qpr's. Don't forget aros who may not fit your ideas of what an aro person looks like.

[Do not fucking add your commentary on how you like friendship or whatever. You're allowed to like friendship obviously! Just maybe try to give a shit about ppl who don't, and don't fucking derail when we talk about our experiences. Make your own damn post or literally add on the numerous posts about liking friendship. I don't care if this post makes you sad for some reason. Alloplatonics and/or Plato favorable ppl you can rb but don't clown.]

Reblog this edited version instead of the original please!

#aro #aromantic #arospec #alloaro #non ace aro #romo aro #arophobia #?whatever you call stereotyping and assumptions abt aros #aplatonic #aplaro #aplatonic aromantic #plato averse #nonfriending #pride 2023 #platonormativity #rb bait #Kind of.

[karmaisntab]

I’m personally alright with ppl shipping Alastor with others as long as they do it in a way where they RESPECT HIS IDENTITY because istG I’m blocking ppl left right and centre because they DON’T. RESPECT. HIS. IDENTITY. AND. OUTRIGHT. IGNORE. IT. WHEN THEY SHIP HIM WITH PPL

AND QUEER PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS EXIST, BUT no you HAD TO GO AHEAD AND FIT EVERYTHING INTO the amatonormativity ideal that YOU HAVE. IF YOU HC ALASTOR AS GREYROMANTIC BC YOU’RE GREYROMANTIC AND KIND OF HIM AND SHIP HIM WITH ANOTHER CHARACTER I CAN GLADLY ACCEPT THAT YOU HEADCANON THAT BECAUSE AT LEAST YOU’RE RESPECTING HIS IDENTITY IN A WAY THAT ISN’T HARMFUL FOR THE AROACE COMMUNITY AND THE LITTLE REP WE HAVE IN MEDIA. But nooooo ppl have to ship him with Vox because ‘aromantic ppl can still be in relationships!’ and I KNOW this as an aro-spec person I have thought about how I wouldn’t mind dating some of my friends (despite all my feelings for them being PLATONIC) and this does not invalidate my identity! (Idk where I am on the spectrum btw but I’m defo on there somewhere). AND I JUST HATE IT WHEN PPL SHIP ALASTOR LIKE THIS okay thank you for coming to my little rant I got worked up by some ppl literally shipping him with characters and not validate his identity without anything more than the ‘oh but aro ppl can still date 🥺🥺😩😫’ like stfu btch

#and like even then Alastor isn’t the type of aro that would get into a romantic relationship methinks #but just respect his aroace identity. it’s not hard #hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #aroace #aromantic #asexual #amatonormativity #can go fck itself nasty in a dirty ditch where it’s just rained #aroace alastor #it’s CANON the VA while on LIVE with VIVZIEPOP literally CONFIRMED IT

[boobi-boy]

i know we're trying to get the aspec tags trending by valentines day so im gonna name some characters thatre aspec bc im aspec and i said so!

sherlock holmes (sherlock, bbc) - asexual, demiromantic.

he literally only has sex with one person ever and its for a case.

ppl come onto him and he doesnt even know???

he literally doesnt understand the difference between a date and hanging out with your friends. the difference being that a date might end in sex. he never thinks about sex so he doesnt see the correlation

morpheus (the sandman) - demisexual, biromantic

in canon hes only ever had kids/had sex with people he had to go through actual emotional turmoil to get to

also like aro-spec probs demiromantic bc it takes him several centuries to realise he likes hob (centennial husbands is cannon idc)

man is obviously a hopeless romantic which is why the existence of any of his exes plummets him into misery, which means hed see sex as an act of romance not lust. demisexual. bc i said so.

johnny c (johnny the homicidal maniac) - asexual, greyromantic

this man feels vague romantic attraction once in his whole source material and is so befuddled he tries to murder the bitch, ruining any chance he had with her because he made her agoraphobic

he HATES bodily fluids. sex repulsed. he doesnt wanna see ur jizz.

bro has no time for sex. bros gotta feed a wall.

five hargreeves (the umbrella academy) - asexual, aromantic

blud dated a mannequin. he does not understand relationships. because he doesnt want one!

dolores was simply a projection of the fact that romance is supposed to make you feel whole or whatever and he went crazy while living alone in the apocalypse

and hes so fucking autistic so he got really attached to the object bc that what the tism does to a man

thats all for now. goodnight tumblr.

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #demiromantic #demisexual #greysexual #bbc sherlock #sherlock bbc #from the sandman #the sandman #morpheus #dream the endless #johnny the homicidal maniac #jthm nny #jthm #jthm johnny #jthm devi #johnny c #five hargreeves #the umbrella academy #asexual people are cooler than you!

[our-arospec-experience]

Do you know that post from a queer person who grew up with queer parents and who said they can't really relate to many of the "typical queer experiences" because of it? Like the fear of coming out to your parents (even the idea of having to come out to them at all), growing up not knowing queerness is an option bc you never see queer people, feeling like there's something "wrong" with you?

I feel similarly about being aro. I never had to wonder whether what I was feeling was romantic attraction or not (bc I used to be alloro, so I could tell the difference when I became greyro and then aro), I never thought there was anything wrong with me for be(com)ing aro (bc I knew aromantics existed before I became aro), my personal "pan to aro pipeline" was literally just going from legitimately being panromantic to being aro, etc. I wasn't confused, I didn't think ppl were lying about experiencing romantic attraction (though I did think affective empathy was made up as a kid, but that's a different story), I only thought I might be a late bloomer bc I actually was, a little (not even significantly late, just a bit later than my classmates), etc.

I've seen people genuinely say self-loathing and thinking you're broken are "aro culture" (Youtube comment section my beloathed) and it makes me want to simultaneously shake some of my fellow aros and wrap them in a soft warm blanket bc that's bullshit and they deserve better, but they're also spreading the idea that it's normal and expected to have that kind of internalized arophobia and they gotta stop. It's not okay to define ourselves through suffering! It may be common, but it's not an inherent part of the aromantic experience! Yes, we need spaces to talk about the arophobia we face, including internalized arophobia, but we can do that without acting like it's inevitable, bc we deserve better than that!

I know I'm lucky, but dammit, lucky should be the norm! None of us should ever be made to feel broken for our orientation or identity, whether aro or otherwise queer. Isn't that the whole point? Isn't that what we fight for?

(This ask got away from me, sorry)

it would be nice if “lucky” was the norm, and we need to remember that all arospec experiences are valid, nice or not. I hope the rest of the community has been accepting of you (comment sections are never a nice place to go)

everyone is valid, no matter their experience!

#our arospec experience #arospec #aromantic #aro #Tw arophobia

[homosexualasstransbian]

im transfem/nonbinary and honestly the whole cutesy uwu anime girl puppy girl aesthetic is making me feel ill. i recently got harrassed by a cis woman chaser who saw the transflag in my bio and started talking to me in this really weird overly cutesy way and started flirting with me, i told her im taken and not interested and this is weird and she said something like "oki u silly transie, if u ever need a girly to do something for you im here, cuz nornal girls are boring" and then the next day she sent me some image of some anime girl w/ the caption "im not like other girls, i have a massive cock" and asked "this u?" and she was so weird and gross and overly cutesy. and like the fact im trans is part of me and im proud of it but i want to be seen as me, as a person, as smthn beyond arbitrary boxes. thats why im nonbinary, i dont wanna be forced into some made up vague perception of how i have to be and instead just be me and do my own thing. i dont label my sexuality either but im pretty sure im like pretty aromantic. greyromantic or whatever its called. and my sexuality i kinda tie together with my romantic attraction, so its often incredibly odd to me how prevalent sexual language and stuff is online and how weirdly its treated as smthn normal, especially in more queer communities. and when i feel terrible and get support online, ppl will say ooo ur pretty ooo ur cute dont be sad and downplay it when i need someone to talk to qnd need to be acknoledged beyond how i physically am, it makes me feel rlly objectified and like my only value is in the fact that i am trans and how i look, and its my only thing and the only way ppl refer to me and boil me down to. but i dont want to be some cutesy meme girl, i want ppl to acknowledge me and what i do and like and love and enjoy and hate and dislike and think and say, i want to be seen and understood regardless of and beyond my transness. because im a raw, living breathing human person thats infinitely complex, and i just wanna be me and do what i enjoy. i dont want my personality boiled down to superficial aspects of me that exists solely because outside society needed a label for it to ostrasize or fetishize it. im sorry for the long rant its just rlly frustrating, especially when you try to find communities and its just so weirdly sexual and condescending and objectifying 😭

hey unfortunately, i do not have the mental capacity to be able to read all of this and actually respond to it, i just lose 80% of the ask once I'm finished reading, so I'll just say: damn fuck that cis bitch.

While i get that after your experiences this "aesthetic" might make you feel ill, i really don't see why i should be told this.

I do not choose the way i present to other people because it's what i feel i should look or act like, i act however feels good to me. the reason my blog looks like this is because, put simply, i like it.

I may not be just a puppy, girl or gay, in fact the most accurate way to describe me would be "thing that should not be alive as far as anyone knows, but it persists, it's also a puppy that is a girl, a robot, a void and divine flesh"

but i go with my current aesthetic, username, and whatever else because they're the descriptions I'm most confident in, they make me feel nice, i love them.

I am quite literally a tranny girl faggot that acts like a puppy sometimes.

Sometimes i feel like I'm a shattered vessel built of divine flesh that's empty and yet so completely full.

Sometimes i wish my flesh melted away, permanently fusing me with the outer shell of a mech.

None of my identities are fully separate or stable, but they also feel distinct enough that i only choose one at a time (and even then sometimes they can split apart).

I don't act like this because i wanna be "haha silly cute trans girl that's an adorable puppy and is so so overly sexual", it's just what i act like, in general, if I don't worry about pretending to be someone else.

I guess put simply: if you don't like me: fucking leave, block me, get rid of me, i won't hold it against you, I'll continue to do what i like, the way i like doing it, because this is my blog.

i forgot where i was going with this post, y'all just get this really long one i guess.

[little-cereal-draws]

Hello!

Just read you had aspec Moon Knight posts you deleted, after reading you were looking for some aspec Moon Knight fics while I was searching your blog for more fics after I read your voicemails fic (it broke my heart in the most delicious way lol).

Anyway, from what I gathered, you were criticized for these posts and I understand why you deleted them. But as an aroace Moon Knight fan as well, I'd love to read a bit about your ideas!

Would you mind sharing, privately if you want? Like sending me an ask or DM'ing. me.

Again, totally understand if you don't want to.

Have a good day!

Hello! I never actually deleted any posts, just the harassing comments on posts. The existence of those comments just proves why I need to leave them up anyway. No aphobia on my blog! 😤

Anyway, idk how far you went back in my posts, but I have a ton of aspec moon knight stuff because the fandom needs more of it, especially the tumblr fandom. (Like, I get it, people think Oscar Isaac is attractive. I don't need to go into the moon knight tag and instantly get bombarded by hundreds of self-insert smut. Even tho that's what tumblr does... sigh) So, I thought I would make as much aspec content as I could to cater to the ppl who don't want smut constantly on their dash lol

Here's a master list of all of my stuff and some of other people's stuff I've found

My stuff:

Layla x the boys headcanons, I was still too scared to explicitly say they were aroace at this point but there is no romance lol

Steven's love language, just a quick headcanon bc I needed to project a bit lol Not explicitly aspec related but I thought I would include it

Touch Adverse Jake Headcaonons, not explicitly aspec related but I thought I would include it. Goes into his unhealthy relationship w Khonshu a bit

Aroace headcanons for the boys:

Demiromantic and demisexual Marc (has sexual content)

aroace Steven

touch adverse/sex repulsed Jake (has sexual content)

Steven and Layla should be in a qpr, It's literally what I just wrote there lol

Layla's lullaby, A fanart I did right when I finished the show

Going on a Queer Platonic Museum Date with Steven Grant, A self insert for aspec ppl

Moon Boy Playlists, Youtube playlists I made for the boys. Not explicitly aspec related but I did try to include at least one aroace song in each of them; some have more than others. (has sexual content, violence, drugs, self harm, suicidal thoughts, and panic attacks. Most of these topics are on Marc's playlist but are on all of them)

Other people's stuff:

Aromantic Moon Knight icons by @embrace-the-laters-gators

Asexual Moon Knight icons by @embrace-the-laters-gators

Gus pride icons by @embrace-the-laters-gators (includes aro/ace flags but has many different options)

Ace Steven icons by @adhd-orion

Perilune by @pokimoko on ao3, "In which Layla and Marc go to a party and share an important talk, Layla and Steven go on a date under the stars, and Layla and Jake go out for breakfast and come to a realization." (This is literally the best moon knight fic i've ever read, i highly recommend this one. All the boys are aspec and layla is an angel)

Dear Fellow Traveler by WastelandWalkin on ao3 (idk if they're on tumblr. if someone knows, pls tell me), "There are four of them now. Jake Lockley is the first to notice this. Jake Lockley is the first to notice most things." (I haven't actually read this one yet so idk if it's any good, but it's got queerplatonic relationship in the tags)

Aroace Jake headcanons by @tiptapricot

Jake and Layla's relationship headcanons by @mockspector

Aroace Jake headcanons by @mockspector

Bonus:

Aroace Jack Russell by @h0wv3ry

#i know that was a lot but i am always making more >:) #i'm proud of this so i'm pinning it #come get your aroace moon knight content kids! #hope i credited everyone right #if anyone has more content pls tell me! i want to see it! #asks #marvel #mcu #moon knight #moon knight 2022 #moon knight fic #moon knight headcanon #moon knight art #marc spector #steven grant #jake lockley #khonshu moon knight #layla el faouly #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #aspec #lgbt #lgbtq #marc spector x layla el faouly #steven grant x layla el faouly #steven grant x y/n #jack russell

[aro-culture-is]

Romance adverse aro culture is not understanding why some aro's are mourning being aromantic and not feeling romantic attraction. Like I won't say what they are feeling is wrong because it isn't, I just never had that reaction when I found I was aro. I just don't get why ppl are sad they "cant have a romantic relationship" like... Can't they choose to have one anyways? Also different kinds of relationships exist why not have one of those? Idk I think I'm missing something here and I hope my confusion doesn't come off as rude....

basics: feelings are extremely complex and there are so many factors that I can only provide a very few basic idea here, and this will not apply to everyone, nor provide the details on everything I do bring up.

1) culturally, a lot of individuals expect that romantic relationships are only for those who experience mutual romantic attraction. the reality is more nuanced, but whether from not knowing, or being in a logic =/= emotions response (which is normal and valid), those who are aro and do want romantic relationships may mourn many things while learning, understanding, and accepting this.

2) amatonormativity my beloathed. imagine that you, in accordance with the culture you grew up with, have always associated a happy, fulfilling life with romance. a lot of people never have to question this. how might you feel, if, without encountering the concept of amatonormativity, identifying it in your own expectations, or being provided alternative ideas of what a happy and fulfilling life could look like, you realized you didn't feel the very thing upon which that happiness supposedly rested? grief is a very expected response. "I will never be happy and fulfilled" is an understandable, if incorrect, conclusion.

3) last of the things I will be addressing: when romance is held on a pedestal, and your current thoughts have been strictly around your romantic identity... it's a practiced, learned skill to be able to step back and ask about alternatives. in my own culture, i'd go so far as to say that skill is actively discouraged by many people, and treated as a fallacy within discussions about romance. even discussing widly known familial, platonic, or unspecified other relationships, otherd are quick to remind you that amatonormativity is King, and to suggest otherwise is literally treated like giving up on happiness. idk how many aros are aware of QPRs coming into the community, but there's more layers there, and i'm not the right person to unpack them. grief here can come from many, many places, including conflict with people who were previously part of these other relationships.

#aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #but also. ew romance involving me.

[redysetdare]

As another non-split aroace, you're so correct for saying that we're treated as the punching bags of both aro and ace communities. Like if y'all can accept and support straight aros and aces but are hostile towards aroaces, you're just aphobic. Yes even if you're aro/ace yourself. Aro spaces nowadays literally have the same attitude towards aroaces that exclusionists used to have towards asexuals, that we're weird freaks bringing purity culture into their "safe" communities just by existing and therefore need to be pushed out. And ace spaces still act like we're the bad guys and need to be pushed out of their "safe" communities because we can't romantically love other people, which makes us heartless monsters apparently. It's just exhausting. I've never seen aroaces being so hostile towards non-ace aros and non-aro aces, we're always trying to uplift their voices and bring awareness to their issues. But the moment we try to talk about our own issues in aromantic or asexual spaces we're told to shut up and let them speak over us because we somehow have it better than them. Not to mention the pressure to split your experiences into aro vs ace and prioritise one part of your identity over the other if you want to be taken seriously in those spaces. Like sorry but for some of us our aroaceness is interwined not split. But we're still aros and aces, still a part of your community. Stop trying to push us out of our own communities on the basis of aphobic stereotypes.

Honestly I've been kinda biting my tongue on it for a while because I understand why Aro and Ace ppl have been trying to separate the communities. it can be frustrating to constantly be paired with an identity that you don't relate to - but i feel like so many ppl have taken it way to far. They've taken the relatively understandable stance of "Aromantic and Asexual are not the same identity" and pushed it to the extreme of "Aro and Ace are so completely different they have nothing in common and NO overlap" and the worst part is i don't think anyone has particularly noticed.

Idk I was most active in the aro and ace communities when we still kinda shared communities. the idea that aro and ace were separate was still a thing (hell, aroaces were the ones helping to push that distinction. we wanted people to recognize our aro identities too, yknow.) but we recognized the overlap and similarities and supported each other... now it just feels like im seeing post after post reminding people not every aro or ace person is aroace and that people shouldt tag aro posts as ace and vice versa and "no ace people cant relate to aro experiences" "no aro people cant relate to ace experiences" because "They are so different they are completely not the same and don't have any overlapping problems at all" and as an aroace it sucks!

it sucks feeling forgotten in my own communities.

It's almost feeling like they are blaming us for there being this idea that people are are Ace must also be aro and people who are aro must also be ace. Like they know they cant get mad at the allos so they get mad at aroaces and act like we are the reason allos think this way. It's like aroaceness is only brought up to talk about how "Not everyone is aroace" or "aroace characters are so much more prevalent in media (Proceeds to only talk about ace characters)" or how aroace ppl must have an identity that means more to them - how their aro or ace identity must be more important or effect them more because they can't possibly intertwined and overlap and "hey you tagged your post with aro and ace tags but obviously its only about aromanticism/only about asexuality so remove some of those tags because it's annoying me" or worse I see aromantics being acephobic or asexuals being arophobic and it's like.... where do i fit in?

people think aroace ppl ran both communities as 1 community and they say it was bad and that we need to separate - but from my perspective it was two communities who worked together. the only difference now is that aroace ppl are getting pushed to the side. thrown under the bus. "you dont need rep you have tons of rep. society loves giving aroace rep!" and "not everyone is aroace. you're experience isn't universal and so you shouldn't talk about it" Aroace voices just got smaller. we got quieter. because our own communities decided we were privileged. we were more accepted than they were. or worse that we were actually the real freaks for not feeling both sexual and romantic attraction. we weren't palatable enough - there was nothing that could be used to normalize us. and besides, it was easier to just only fight for one set of rights, right?

and part of me understands it. it sucks. it sucks to always be a footnote. but guess what - aro and aces and aroaces are footnotes of the queer community. we're stuck here together and instead we're fighting over who's the more important footnote. we are all in the same boat and we're acting like we're not and trying to sink the ship forgetting we're all on it together.

#asks #and to be clear this isn't saying that other aspecs asking for rep or asking for recognition is a bad thing that was never the issue #it's not about how aroallo people or alloace ppl are bad or evil or oppressors #this isn't about how arospec or acespec people are all actually out to get aroace people #this is about an experience aroace people sometimes have within aro and ace spaces because certain aros and aces decide we aren't worthy #because certain aros and aces decide we dont belong #anyways sorry this took so long to answer I was trying to word it in a way that was understandable #and hopefully in a way ppl wouldnt misinterpret #but then i realized ppl who have bad faith will purposefully do that #so i shouldn't worry too much #ppl who look at it in good faith will have a conversation with me. ppl who look at it in bad faith are just the people im talking about.

[leucoratia]

My take on Jojo characters’ sexuality (Part 2)

See part 1 here. I had to make a part 2 because I couln’t fit in all of my tags.

-From part 4 to 5 because I haven’t seen Stone Ocean and the rest yet. But there’s a lotta characters in part 4 and 5 so ey

Tw: mentions of sex, not proofred we die like men.

PART 4: DIAMOND IS UNBREAKABLE

Josule Higashikata: bisexual demiromantic

Idk. Not really sure about that one so up to be debated. I feel josuke would fuck anyone but romance? Nah you gotta go 45-steps with this man. Takes slowburn to a whole other level.

Okuyasu Nijimura: pure bisexual

Yea he’s bi. Gay for Josuke but bi still. He will za hando and za finger probably anyone. The one and only true bisexual. 

Gets no bitches tho sorry Okuyasu you deserved better but you have no game

Koichi, Kira and Yukako: extremely straight

Like have you seen their vibes they’re straight as hell. As for Kira I raise: he literally simps for the Mona Lisa and collects female hands don’t tell me there’s repressed homosexuality here my man is so unhinged if he was gay he would make himself a realistic dildo collection by collecting mumified penises. Kira is STRAIGHT.

(Sorry David Bowie you deserved so much better you queer icon)

Kishibe Rohan: aromantic pansexual

Rohan fucks SEVERELY. At least in theory because we know he got no game  he’s 10000% a virgin. Like. Every gender gets our man going in bed but he’s got 0 action bcs have you seen him he might be extremely hot but he’s so damn awkward. His vibes are all over the place. He would probably eat one of your toenails for “art and accuracy”. Hence no one wants to get within a 20-foot radius of Rohan Kishibe. I’d let him hit tho. Then he’ll finally know what sex is like.

Aromantic. Got no time for all that “romance” bs. Literally cringes watching romcoms and seeing couples in the street. People may think it’s because he’s jaleous (no game, remember?) but really he’s just grossed out.

PART 5: GOLDEN WIND

Giorno Giovana: aro-ace king

Our King is declared ARO/ACE. Giorno knows what sex is but doesn’t fuck. He got more important things to deal with, like idk running the fucking italian mafia. His one true love is justice and equality makes him hard. He’s too pure for all of you wretched souls out there. He’d be happy to bromance you though.

Bruno Bucciarati: bi

My sweet prince is also cursed with bisexuality but contrary to other bis such as Polnareff he FUCKS. His tongue game is too insane for him to get no bitches I’m sorry (when did this become a “who has game” tierlist-). Anyways yes Certified Freak Bruno likes everyone his heart and legs are open for all. I don’t feel like he would have a preference for a particular gender but feel free to argue with me in the comments. I wish I had more to write about my blorbo but. Well. No thoughts head empty rn.

Leone Abbacchio: omni

Our man is a proud omnisexual/omniromantic! Plus the flag fits his aesthetic very well so slay king for having the sexuality that goes with your vibe. Honestly yes this label fits. He’s omni. He’s too dead inside to care about gender but keeps it in the back of his mind. 

Married to Bruno (canon doesn’t exist sorry) and will def gossip about other ppl with his husband.

Guido Mista: female-leaning bisexual

Tbh Mista doesn’t seem to be the type of person to bother with labels. He just fucks. So here have bisexuality. He would be more into women because of his tendency to bromance every male he encouters but he wouldn’t pass up the opportunity to explore the matters of the flesh with other guys. Slay.

Panacotta Fugo: aro-ace

Our favourite calm and collected guyTM is certified aroace! I have absolutely NO DOUBTS. HE IS AROACE. (sex-repulsed also bcs well trauma and he also legit thinks it’s a disgusting waste of time). May he and Giogio create the perfect aroace mafioso team. Cleanse Italy from all of the wretched and perverted souls like Diavolo and Bucciarati children, gooo.

Narancia Ghirga: polyamorous

I have murdered my brain and soul trying to find a queer orientation for our soft bean Narancia and tbh only polyamorous seems to fit. He want to share the love yk. About his gender preferences? I gave up. I simply cannot concieve Narancia being in a relationship/having sex. No. Too young. Too pure. What do you mean he’s 17 hence older than Fugo/Giorno as well as only two years younger than me? Nope. He’s 12. I don’t give a shit. I will not think about Narancia’s private business ever. He’s just poly take it or leave it.

Diavolo/Doppio: pan

Male Thot Enemy of the State Diavolo and Unhinged Pure Bean Doppio are both PAN! Difference being Diavolo fucks while Doppio gets fucked. Diavolo my blorbo is kind of Dio-like in his attraction. Because he’s a hot dilf he always gets what he wants. Doppio would be more reserved tbh.

Diavolo is secretly a huge sub tho. I rest my case the evidence is in the show.

Trish Una: Lesbian

Bro it’s soooo obvious she’s literally gay as hell I have nothing more to say except that Trish likes GIRLS.

Risotto Nero and Melone: pan as well

Many pansexuals out there and these two are going on the team. Melone in a unhinged way specifically. Risotto wouln’t necessarly label himself, he’d probably be down for everything. Also is there a freak-ass bitch flag? Because these two need it fr. Melone probably has a Christian Grey lookin ass sex dungeon for sure. Melone is a playful switch. Ris a soft switch who secretly likes to bottom. I rest my case once again.

Ghiaccio: gay

Had to make a separate one for Ghiaccio because I cannot imagine this man being into women and generaly female-passing mfs. He’s soooo into men. Extremely homosexual.

I won’t be making headcanons for everyone in La Squadra because I simply do not give a fuck about most of them.

Loving how there is not a single heterosexual in Golden wind. Perfect. Truly the best Jojo part.

Part 3 of this post coming whenever I’ll get up to date on Stone Ocean/SBR/Jojolion Ig. Ask box open as always kids. Please send me headcanons or prompts I’m so fucking bored-

#diamond is unbreakable #golden wind #giorno giovanna #risotto nero #bruno bucciarati #leone abbacchio #josuke higashikata #okuyasu nijimura #rohan kishibe #diavolo jjba #la squadra di esecuzione #buccigang #sexuality headcanons #queer headcanons #guido mista #kira yoshikage #lecoratia headcanons #panacotta fugo #I should be in hell for these headcanons #but they're funny and I have free time so. Here.

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Femio as a storytelling device literally exists to represent compulsory love and ppl will still say he isn't aromantic. Smh

#he also literally does a performative dance of sexuality that obviously doesnt come naturally to him hes ace too #<- also hes purple which counts as evidence too if youre desparate like me #i dont actually think ive ever seen femio aro discourse i just like the sentence format #sorry for respawning for 2 seconds to be annoyingly aro and then die again. it will not be the last time #princess tutu #femio

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O-kay whatever I'm gonna do mini lore dumps for some of my DC guys bc I'm bored. Read or readn't but I need to get the thoughts out somehow

• I don't believe Citrus and Red were married until *After* the Rise of the Tornado Tyrant episode, where Citrus' redemption arc truly begins after saving Roy (tornado champion/tyrant whatever I think the names r stupid) from himself. However that is also the catalyst for a huge strain in their relationship that lasts a bit offscreen because That was your Child and he Loved you. Both Red and Citrus really need a time out after that whole mess. Oh also Citrus really fucking hates Bruce after it and threatens to kill him if he ever gets close to his family again and that's my excuse for Red's abrupt disappearance (aside from him retiring as a hero) LOL. You'd have to watch the EP to really get it but yeah it changes a whole lot of things for my little weird family.

• Cupid is a weird little guy because I'm still working out how I want the Star Sapphires to work, since I'm very aromantic and the thought of Romantic Love as a constant in the human psyche makes me violent. I think the ring feeds off of positive feelings of comfort and (any kind of) love to give the user strength so it's encouraged that whoever's relationship youre mending, you should get close to that person to help them out even more. Both Indigos and Sapphires r rehab groups basically but one is made of Patients and the other is made of Therapists. If that makes any sense? They're twinsies because love and compassion are very similar + they're very close in the spectrum anyways. All of this to say, Cupid and Rudy work best bc they feed off of each other but they're normal about it. This is a very new thing I'm trying to integrate into their story bc i came up with it, like, Yesterday.

• Bruno is the most skittish weird guy you'll ever meet and his whole thing is about how sometimes there isn't an out for ppl that don't look like they're supposed to, even if they're not inherently evil. Like, he can't Mask who he is and he's not going to live in the shadows about it. If his existence is seen as a twisted state of being, living unapologetically as himself will be looked down upon one way or another - so he'd rather be with people everyone else fucking hates. He's the most autistic bitch I've ever written bc of how he was raised and is perceived + chooses to act (I don't mask anymore now that I'm in my 20s and it's a joy + being queer in a world that thinks you're depraved bc of it). He's not a villain by Choice by any means, but he has more fun hanging out with outcasts than with "good guys". He's a petty thief, not a monster, but god if he isn't going to put his whole pussy into being a weird bitch.

• oh Voltera... Darling, I'm so sorry. This guy was orphaned from a young age and his parents were Not from earth and didn't know anyone there by the time they died + their families had fully ostracized them back home. In truth Alesan weasels take the "it takes a village to raise a child" thing to heart, so a kit being left alone is heartbreaking. Plus, it means Voltera is barely aware of why he does certain things that weren't explained to him growing up, and it made him very immature and weird. He was generally considered "too much to handle" in any foster home he was sent to (because literally no one knew how to raise him. It's literally like getting an energetic pet you're not ready for - there's Going to be biting, and you're Going to be frustrated) and eventually just becomes a street urchin trying desperately to fit in with anyone his age. Mekt is semi sorta in the same position by being a weird loser no one really likes, so they make good friends from the start bc of it. I'm so normal about them.

• Alborean. God I haven't really touched on him here but he's the most Sure of himself out of any of my losers. There isn't even anything tragic going on with him, he just does what he does because he Wants to do it. He's the bastard son of the former Doppelganger emperor/whatever so he has immense potential for being an edgy loser (Citrus killed him off or something, but he's dethroned by the time Alborean comes to earth one way or another. Plus he was an illegitimate child and his dad didn't want shit to do with him, it would be So easy for me to write him as desperate and brooding) but he's incredibly self sufficient instead. He's the only guy I'll bring into Batman Beyond I think, and he's Essential to saving Victor from death because oh my god that sucked so bad.

• Winona

Kidding, but Winona is the same species as my other sona, Kit Karyotype (Marvel S/I) and closely related to Eudicot Sangria's (Futurama S/I) species. The major difference is that Anguipera Venenata have relatively normal eating habits and actively hunt for prey with venom or brute strength while Anguipera Amedo eat a huge meal once every month or so and are far less aggressive. Still working on how Winona gets with Scott and Barda but I'll get there one day.

• I wrote a huge thing for orchard but accidentally deleted it and I'm too tired to do it all over again. Sorry! That one was the biggest and had the most thought put into it. One day I'll come back I'm just so fucking mad rn

#oc: citrus #oc: orchard #oc: cupid #oc: voltera #oc: bruno #oc: alborean #oc: winona #god i have a loooot more weirdoes than i thought i would huh #also the orchard tag is there on a technicality im really pushing the need for it rn #self insert #selfshipping #📡 incoming transmission 📡 #dc self insert #dc oc #oc lore

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ok nobody asked me to elaborate but heres my pjo a(ro)spec headcanons

piper: aromantic lesbian

the whole false memories thing with juno made shit SO difficult to figure out

like she was a 16yro girl, already struggling to figure out her place in the world vis a vi being nattive, being mixed, being adhd and dyslexic, and then her baby aro lesbian ass gets fake memories of a boyfriend?? 

her thing with jason was the biggest instance comphet+compallo attraction in existence okay

its not until piper gets away from the questing/camper life and subsequently, the aphrodite cabin, that she starts realising how she feels about romance and re-evaluating some stuff 

considering her relationship with shel, i see her as romance positive/favourable but she defo has some complex feelings going on there

speaking of, piper was so focused on the revelation that she was aro that it took her a while to figure out she was lesbian too 

she kind of assumed she was some flavour of ace for a while but other sapphics around camp clocked her and gently nudged her towards the realisation of ‘yes you dont feel that way about guys. but have you considered: women?’

piper: i thought not wanting to date anyone meant i didnt want to kiss anyone, but... i think.. i want to kiss girls 

piper bolting awake at 3am after a dream about her time on the argo ii: oh shit i totally was into annabeth wasnt i? 

leo: aromantic bi demi-grey-asexual 

oh gods leo valdez 

he has zero fucking clue he’s anything but straight and allo until reyna casually mentionsn one day that her and a lot of the other hunters are asexual 

he’s only ever heard of gay, bi and lesbian so he asks reyna what ‘asexual’ means 

cue the most epiphany prompting conversation of leo’s life

leo voice: wait so you’re telling me that there are some people who just like, arent interesting in sex, at all? and not only that, but ppl can feel that way about romance too? 

once terms like demi and grey start getting thrown around too he kinda has a freak out and reyna sends him off with a book abt asexuality and aromanticism + some awkward advice 

three months of introspection and more than a few breakdowns later leo figures out that hes aro, hes demi-grey-ace, and that that is most likely why his relationship with calypso didnt exactly work out 

(he also thinks the terms cupioromantic and/or quoiromantic/sexual might aply to him but hes not wholly sure) 

just like piper he had some major compallo going on, he just thought being ‘girl crazy’ was how guys his age were supposed to act and never questioned why it felt like more of a joke for him rather than his true feelings

he figures out the bi part once he goes to college and is like cmon man i already had one sexuality crisis do i really gotta do this shit again

jason: aromantic straight demisexual 

jason wasnt raised with as much allo/amatonormativity as other ppl bc he was literally raised by wolves then the legion, but juno yoinking his memories kinda fucked with that 

once again, serious case of compallo in regards to piper, he knew he found her pretty and liked her as a friend and didnt understand for a long time that a crush was supposed to be ‘different’ or ‘more than that’ 

jason struggles with his sense of identity and definitely has this strong heroic leader persona he puts up and well, the hero always gets the girl doesnt he? 

he died before he got the chance to really figure out that he was a(ro)spec (and that there were words for what he was feeling) but he knew he felt different about romance and sex than most other teens 

the fact that he was more worried about them not being friends anymore rather than losing his girlfriend when piper broke up with him kinda tipped him off 

he did have some pretty big queerplatonic feelings for both piper and leo though which in hindsight kind of explains, other than the trauma, why he bonded with them so quickly 

annabeth: biromantic asexual 

a decent number of athena kids are aspec (their mom literally conceives via a ‘meeting of intelligent minds’, no sex required at all) so she kinda slot herself pretty easily into the ‘asexual’ label after realising that despite dating percy for literal years, she had zero interesting in getting more ‘physical’ with him

(percy is allo but doesnt give a shit about sex if annabeth doesnt give a shit about it. he’s just happy to be close to her) 

precisely because of the fact that’d she’d been dating percy for years meant that figuring out the biromantic part took ages lmao 

it feels really obvious to her in hindsight 

annabeth: ‘oh gods percy i had a crush on thalia, i had a crush on clarisse, i had a flirtationship with piper, i almost had a crush on reyna’

percy, in the middle of his own bi crisis: i know the feeling wisegirl 

she doesnt really,, do much?? after figuring out shes bi, annabeth’s already happily in a committed , monogamous relationship, but it feels nice for her to have learned something new about herself 

overall i see her as sex neutral/indifferent, she doesnt hate the idea but its not something she’d really intentionally seek out

as mentioned, percy is pretty sex neutral/indifferent (but like, in the allo way) too so the two of them just never really bother lol 

quickfire bonus round: 

reyna, evidently, is our canon allo-ace queen. this isnt a headcanon i just like reminding people :) she’s also bi/pan oriented (she uses both terms interchangeably) 

thalia is aroace and has never once gotten what all the hype is about, she assumed people were joking or like at least overexaggerating when they talked about romance and sex 

artemis/diana is also aroace obviously (apollo is pan tho, theyre twins they balance each other out) 

frank is demisexual n straight

calypso is demisexual and demi-lithromantic, pan oriented 

travis stoll is allo-ace, connor stoll is aro-allo, they think this is hilarious

magnus chase is also greyromantic and demisexual, bi oriented 

ok im done 

#pjo #percy jackson and the olympians #hoo #heroes of olympus #pjo headcanons #hoo headcanons #any and all aphobes will meet a swift end #oh and percy is totally bi btw like fucking LOOK at him #og post // #*rubs my little aromantic gremlin hands all over your faves*