#heard breaking

[areyouokman]

ALL MY LIONS JUST FUCKING LEFT WHAT THE HELL

#lioden #MY LIONS #THEY ARE ALL GONE #I HAD PRIMALS #BRO #WTF #might kms #wtf do i do #I’m going to cut my balls off #what the hell #what did i do #I’m cursed #sucidal tendencies #jesus christ #praying to have them back #daddy will be good now #I will give you guys food this time #I promise #come back #heard breaking #💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 #🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅 #😌🐈‍⬛😍🥸😃😉👀😉😅😆🤦‍♂️🐈‍⬛😍

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[fanfic-gremlin-ft-trauma]

i saw this on a post but I can’t find it sooo

#zukka #zuko x sokka #zukka fanart #atla #atla fanart #this is so perfect for them #like Zuko heard that Sokka was gonna go break his dad out of prison? #dw bbg im coming too #Sokka has a plan that has like a 0.0001% chance of working? #yes ofc I’m on board what do u mean #and he is so real for that

[egophiliac]

I want your opinion on something. Do you think it's better to try and the the cards of the character you like or skipping some to brench out? Like, say you're a fan of Leona. Should you try to get all of his bday card and stuff or stick to one and get other characters ssr?

personally, as much as I would like every single card...I gotta ration my keys, so I focus on my favorites!

which isn't to say that I only pull for certain characters no matter what! more that I take a good long look at every card that comes out and go "do I really want this one? like...really really want it?" (the answer is usually yes, but -- look, the art in this game is very pretty, okay)

honestly, from a gameplay standpoint, I think it doesn't matter too much whether you focus on pulling for specific characters or not. there are very, very few points where actually having a good mix of characters is important (Those Two Stages in episode 6, where I think you can use retry tickets for the easy mode? and also guest room battles if you care about those) and you'll probably end up with at least one halfway decent card per character just from doing 10-pulls and events. so even if you're only pulling for Leona cards, you'll still end up getting a bajillion other characters as well. follow your heart! chase that grumpy lion bliss! ✨🦁✨

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #tamashina mina #lost in the book with stitch #i. THINK that's everything that's not out in eng yet? #i am proud of my sons. my beautiful grampa sons. #you do also sometimes get random ssrs even without pickup odds! most of my ssrs are from trying to pull for other characters and failing :' #i've also gotten dorm trey like four or five times and. look. trey i like you and i appreciate the limit breaks. #but you keep showing up when i'm trying to get other boys and we need to talk about this #trey: hi! i heard you were in the market for a friend! :) #me: (desperately peering over his shoulder to where dorm lilia is slowly floating away) uh-huh. yep. sure. great. #dangit trey

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

all this to say: i think it'd be cute if Barnaby literally howls with laughter

#self conscious ouppy... #big ouppy... big howl.... #this has been in my head for Days #and i had to get it out. i had to Share The Thought #wally is included mainly bc i Needed to add him reacting to hearing a Delightful New Noise from his dear bestie #also in my head barnaby has Absolutely heard that joke before #but howdy's delivery & fullchested enthusiasm got him #GOD THEYRE SO *breaks drywall & eats it* #scribble salad #welcome home #laughingstock #barnaby x howdy #howdy x barnaby #now im thinkin about howdy doing his damnedest to try and get that howl outta barns again #ouuughhhhh im emotional im So Fucking Emotional #the dopamine flooding my brain rn. unparalleled #im not used to it... it may kill me... but its so Worth it #the happy howl!!! THE HAPPY HOWL!!!!

[pempempemto]

i cant do this no more u guys

#what the fuck what the fuck #alex hirsch i will break into your house and eat your walls #i cant do this again oh god #POITNGING AT THAT YELLOW FUCKC WHAT ARE YOY DOUNG HERE #GET OUT #I CAMAT DO THIS SGAAIAGAIN #gravity falls #alex hirsch #bill cipher #book of bill #i heard of the news yesterday at MIDNIGHT #IT TOOK ME TWO HOURS TO GO TO SLEEP I AM GOING TO KILL THAT TRIANGLE

[suburbansuns]

me & my dog by boygenius (2018) // letter to an old poet by boygenius (2023)

#had to take a break from work and cry for 15min when i heard this #what a fucked up thing for them to do to me personally #i’m so grateful #truly tho i played me & my dog so often when i was in the depths of my ed and recovery has been hard but this made it worth it #me & my dog #letter to an old poet #boygenius #lucy dacus #julien baker #phoebe bridgers #the record #lyrics #a: phoebe bridgers #a: boygenius #a: lucy dacus

[skialdi]

Kura kura

I wish, I hope and I beg to get rid of all these sorrows~

#uta #one piece uta #anya forger #one piece #spy x family #ado #kura kura #;; my art #skialdi art #digital art #anime art #fanart #crossover art #anya and uta #I needed a break from my current super detailed #commission #and my new job has been great super stressful and a #Amazing all at once #I don't have a ton of time to draw #but I've been wanting to draw them since I heard and saw the new spy x family season 2 op #this this cute little idea was born #please enjoy #i don't think I'll ever get tired of drawing uta #I love her soooo much

[dykealloy]

#the visual juxtaposition between the dark and the light is really... just.... #Luffy's rays of sunshine beaming down on this sceptic so hard it breaks him from his life-long childhood trauma-induced stupor of nihilism. #anyway. #sorry for weeb posting again the classic lotr themes of light and joy in the world that are still worth fighting for really got to me #arc after arc luffy becomes someone's hope and i eat that shit up every time #CJ's op watch-through #im not up to wano arc yet but. much to think about. #one piece spoilers #one piece #op #trafalgar law #trafalgar d water law #lawlu #gear 5 luffy #sun god nika #monkey d. luffy #have you heard about our lord and saviour luffy etc etc etc #op meta

[frosted-leaf]

Wc challenge day 4) Sunbeam

sunbeam page because Shadow came out today and she’s my fav of the three protagonists

+ sunbeam x shadowsight because it’s cute. I think she would rant to him for several hours about her entire life while he listens 

#warrior cats #wc #sunbeam #shadowsight #lightleap #nightheart #gullswoop #hopefully shadowsight will be her third boyfriend after she breaks up with nightheart #but im also fine with her and shadowsight being just friends #i just want them to interact more because it would be cute #but idk...i've heard...things

[strangeauthor]

you cannot justify bombing a fucking hospital i want isreal to fucking perish i have. no words.

#author makes a speech #i heard it on the radio on my way home in an uber and it took everything in me not to break down in tears

[themisterhip]

Happy genos (/:''>)/

#opm #opm genos #one punch man #doodles #art #drawing #genos #not letting this account die #had to do something between work #anyway #murata if you watch this give me more smiles of genos #i dare you #hshhshshsaash #hope you all like it #thanks and bye #<3 #(also did you guys heard the news about the opm live movie? I scared #i dont know what they'll do to my boys and girls but at least i hope is decent aaa #and friends and i did this for happy genos week too hehehe #happy genos week #we made it up lmao we needed a break from agnst

[r0b0t1me]

FORGIVE ME FATHER, I HAVE SINNED

#my art #rottmnt #rottmnt movie #the rest of the song barely even fits i just heard this line #and i was like yeeeup thats leo #i said id give myself a break but i just #was not feeling the animation groove #feels nice to paint though #im sorry i cant stop drawing future leo its not my fault (it totally is)

[kylejsugarman]

its actually maddening when people reduce skyler down to a "girl boss" without looking into her actual character and how her competence changed the trajectory of the show's events. we're told from the very beginning that walt is intelligent, he's wasting his intellect teaching high school chemistry, he was responsible for helping launch a now wildly successful company. this is stressed to the point that the first few episodes really linger on how much "dimmer" the people around him are: hank is an ignorant loudmouth, marie is a vain airhead, jesse is a raging dumbass, and skyler has her pipe dreams of writing, doesnt she?? how Cute. but as the show progresses, we start to realize that walt is not some tortured genius surrounded by incompetents. skyler is just as smart as he is: she picks up right away on his bizarre behavior, she does her research and puts together pieces in an exacting manner, she thinks ahead to potential consequences and scenarios that walt doesnt even consider. we learn that she's brilliant with numbers and finances, that she's keenly observant and dedicated. and that fuels walt's resentment. he was the genius behind this empire, the one in control of everything, the one singlehandedly rescuing his family from ruin. his pride was such that he saw skyler as his loyal handmaiden, his inferior (trying to rape her in the kitchen is the pinnacle of this attitude). but as soon as skyler got involved and started solving problems and running things, he grew resentful and hateful. skyler forces him to confront the fact that he's not solely responsible for all of this success and that he lucked into a great amount of it. his wife becomes his equal for the first time in their marriage and he can't stand it. and it just makes u think: why Did skyler stop writing?? why did she sound so unconfident when marie asked about her novel?? why did gretchen end up with elliott?? was it just because elliott "got" her first?? or could walt never be in a relationship with someone who was so obviously his intellectual equal and could not be dissuaded from this fact??

#syd squeaks #i just love how the beginning of the show sets up these characters As Walt Sees Them #only to show us that no all of these people are complex and walt is just as flawed as they are #its so good. have u guys heard about breaking bad #breaking bad #walter white #skyler white

[virgothozul]

courage mec 😔 ~

For international ace attorney nation, here’s the dialog : « Hey Nick… we will find a nice twisted little murder for you, with (hopefully) an innocent wrongly accused. You’ll feel better ! »

#ace attorney #maya fey #phoenix wright #I’m terrified of the future in aa (spoiler ahead :) #Like i’m almost done with the n°2 of the the pw trilogy and i rly don’t wanna finish it all then later Phoenix ?see him disbarrel or sth ? #I’ve heard of it idk what happens exactly but that’s terrifying #don’t want bad crap to happen to him. I don’t want him to be forced into making a corrupted choice. pls don’t force me to break his morals #I can’t do it #he’s too precious #don’t break my boy i’m begging you 😢

[deoidesign]

A short comic I made for an anthology

#millennium #I enjoyed making it #its not in the millennium comic but its luzio and sage #but the reason I made this is that I like to conceptualize all of the things that are important to me as living in my heart #on a little hill. and as I put care and love into these people and things that are important to me I'm building them a home #but the things that are mean to me. cruel even. my demons or whatever. they live in there too #and if I dont give them love and care. well. they have nowhere to sleep at night. #and they'll have to break in and destroy the things I love just to feel safe and seen and heard #and so I must sit with them and build them homes too #it's the only way I can conceptualize giving things like my anger the space that it needs #so. that's why I made this! #this comic is pretty old by now. so I might make a new thing off the same concept #I mean I might make a million new things off the same concept #I like doing that #but. yeah. anyways! #enjoy! #short comic #comics #comic art #my art #illustration #my ocs #ocs #art #digital art #original comic #mini comic