#snap back

[compariisonkills]

🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

#gay #personal #lesbian #girl #selfie #follow #reblog #like #me #mine #plaid #red plaid #snap back

[ruinedholograms]

nothing records

#nothing records #nin #90s #nine inch nails #mid 90s #hat #trent reznor #snap back #snapback

[i-literally-cant-with-this]

HEAVILY thinking about Tengen or Rengoku coming through the garage door after you both had a tough day. They take their shirts off over their head. Taking off any embellishments adorning them. Not saying a word to you as they walk over and take your shirt and bra off. They wrap their arms around your waist - yes - they have to bend over pretty far because you're kinda sorta shorter than them. But it's ok. It's a good reason to kiss your neck as they start dancing in a simple, swaying circle with you. Maybe they'll rub their hands down and squeeze your butt a couple of times. But that's it. Just skin on skin contact because that's how they reconnect. How they ground themselves to this world. They love you so much ♡.

#i want this so bad #master tengen #rengoku kyojuro #damn it #i love these two #snap back #subpar ass earth men #Spotify #tengen uzui #uzui tengen #demon slayer #kny kyojuro #kyojuro rengoku

[chunkyheels]

Ever since I dyed my hair black again I've been compelled to dress like zack baggins

#the jeans w/ bedazzled crosses on the ass pockets and an edgy black and white graphic t #snap back

[zeeturn]

Forever wishing I had a neck tattoo

#lesbian #tattoo #wlw #gay #selfie #queer #lgbtq #snap back #septum #piercings

[annedev]

Sweat Pants Season.

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#accessories #Anne AK Klein #Camouflage #Doc martens #fashion #Guess jeans #Hunter green #snap back #style #Sweat pants #sweater weather

[wildlyplanted]

Snap back

Make a cup of tea or coffee because this is a long one :)

The other day, I was watching the YouTube channel of a couple I follow. They just welcomed a baby, and the latest vlog was the woman showing her 3 weeks postpartum body, which looked unbelievably great, and for some reason, I felt a little uncomfortable while watching.

I asked myself, "why?" as I thought back to all the similar vlogs I’ve viewed. I think the postpartum vlogs that make me uncomfortable are the ones where the woman seems to be having a quick “snap back.”

“But why?” I asked myself, again. Then it dawned on me. Most of the women I know didn't recover as quickly as some of the women I see in vlogs and on social media. I think this notion and perpetuation of "snapping back" is detrimental to women, especially while they’re in such a vulnerable state, having just given birth.

In this particular vlog, the woman mentioned (multiple times) how she still needs to lose weight, criticized and pointed out areas of her body, including her stomach, even though her body was recovering, remarkably. This blew my mind because I was thinking "Oh my goodness, you grew a baby in your uterus, of course it’s still swollen! You just brought life into the world! Stop!!”

In my sensitive opinion, I think the conversation around postpartum should not be focused on a mother’s body and how fast she is, “snapping back” and I don’t think women should offer up their postpartum bodies for debate. These “snap back” vlogs and social media posts can cause women to be subjected to unfair comparisons by their partner, causing feelings of inadequacy and stress. Comparison shouldn’t happen, but I can guarantee it does.

Instead, the focus should be on mothers receiving an abundance of support from their partners and the trusted people around them in caring for a new baby, eating well, getting ample rest, feeling ease and calm, feeling confident in expressing the status of their mental and emotional health, and overall feeling extra taken care of.

I understand that for some women, the healing process happens nicely, and they feel good enough to exercise as soon as they're cleared by the doctor, and they're in a good space. I also understand that many women who give birth for the first time have been shocked to find out that 6 weeks is not entirely accurate for how long it can take a woman to heal because the dominant narrative is the quick “snap back.”

I'm so thankful and appreciative that more mothers are sharing their childbirth and postpartum journey and showing how different it can look from what we see on social media. Showing that it can be a long way down the road before you feel comfortable in your body again, or before that favorite outfit fits the way it used to.

Additionally, I’m grateful to all the women who are bringing to the forefront, important conversations about healing after having a baby. As someone who has yet to give birth, I want to know as much as I can about the process, keeping in mind that each woman’s experience is unique to her. Something that I’m surprised to only have recently found out is that before a woman even thinks about any sort of working out, she should first take care to strengthen her core and pelvic floor, and only after that, begin working out again.

Hearing and seeing different narratives are so important, because for example, I had no idea that Pelvic Floor Specialists existed until a couple of years ago. I also had no clue that so many women experience Diastasis Recti and when that is the case, they should absolutely not do any typical ab workouts because it will make it worse and most definitely cause setbacks and issues. Working with a Pelvic Floor Specialist is the appropriate procedure.

I’m quite stunned that the medical community does not do women justice regarding postpartum. Why aren’t all mothers given a proper exam to determine if she has Diastasis Recti? Why aren’t all mothers referred to a Pelvic Floor Specialist as a place to start after they’ve been cleared for movement? I’m not sure if insurance would even cover the cost of the Specialist.

If men were the ones to give birth, the postpartum period would be 6 months, not weeks and every sort of Specialist would be offered up to them, along with insurance covering it all!

Not only is 6 weeks an inefficient and unreasonable amount of time, in my opinion, for a woman to heal– it’s definitely not enough time for a mother to even begin thinking about losing weight or “snapping back.” I would imagine, she just wants to be able to sit and stand without being in pain.

The last point I would like to make, is that I don’t think men truly know how painful and traumatic childbirth and postpartum healing is. Even though more women are sharing about the realities of childbirth and the aftermath, I think so many more don’t share because their journey doesn’t look like what we see on YouTube and social media.

Not enough women are talking about how terrible it feels (I can only imagine) to have swollen and painful private parts, a swollen uterus, hurting when peeing, bleeding a river up to 6 weeks, in some cases, pain during breastfeeding and experiencing issues like Diastasis Recti. Now add on top of that, being expected to perfectly care for your baby, knowing exactly what to do at all times, enduring sleepless nights with little help in some cases, leaking milk and standing in a body that you don't feel comfortable in and can hardly recognize. Then add even more on top of that, being the main person your baby clings to for survival and support and fighting unhealthy thoughts about how your body looks like or what it will look like weeks and months down the line. Imagine how mentally and emotionally taxing it is to love your child and at the same time not like what carrying and birthing your child has done to your body. It’s A LOT!

Welcoming a baby into the world will always be a heavier burden on the mother and just straight-up unfair to her in so many ways. The “snap back” narrative just adds more unreasonableness and should be done away with!

*Shout out to the loving partners who play an equal part in caring for the baby and who help alleviate some of the mental and emotional stress that women experience during postpartum.

Where you can find me/how to contact me:

IG: wildlyplanted

YouTube: Wildly Planted (this is a work in progress, but I’m finding direction)

Email: [email protected]

#life #love #healinggood #writersoftumblr #postpartum #mom life #motherhood #postpartum body #postpartum anxiety #postbirth #snapping back #snapback #snap back #mothers #newmom #newmoms #birth #giving birth #joy #postpartum healing #postpartumhealing #afterbirth #diastasisrecti #pelvicfloor #pelvic floor #core strength #baby body #babybody

[silverlininghills]

other polls in this series:

2. next semester 3. backslide 4. midwest indigo 5. routines in the night 6. vignette 7. the craving (jenna's version) 8. lavish 9. navigating 10. snap back (you are here!) 11. oldies station 12. at the risk of feeling dumb 13. paladin strait

#twenty one pilots #overcompensate #clancy #i am clancy #clancy era #tumblr clique #cliqueblr #the clique #skeleton clique #snap back

[ashlumicalm]

dereksteez: desert dez and the tarantulas

#x #twitter #state champs #derek discanio #ryan scott graham #tyler szalkowski #evan ambrosio #snap back

[bigfatbreak]

Birds of a Feather previous / next

#my art #feralnette au #birds of a feather #long tags #sorry I went apeshit in the tags #LETS SAY IT ALL TOGETHER NOW #I - M - A - G - OOOOOOOOO #its fun drawing marinette's back to Alya and having her appear stout and unstoppable and totally logical #and then you see her face and she's like two seconds from completely snapping and is keeping it together by a thread #as a note just because mari feels very certainly abt smth doesnt mean she's right. feelings can be valid and also irrational #in the throes of grief she decided it was better to be alone than to lose someone again so she started pulling away #and lila made pulling away very very very easy to do #shes also vaguely aware she's being unfair in pinning this on alya which is why she started spinning the drain on cockmoth again #legitimately all the shit that's happened to her wouldn't have been so catastrophic if he was never in the picture and she knows it #but the bitterness of her bestie choosing a fantastic liar over her at the worst of times stiiiiiings #alya's personal timing was bad but lila really took advantage of the fact that marinette had been acting off and weird #she basically clocked marinette as being unstable from SOMETHING and made up a lie about her #knowing she wouldn't have the strength to defend herself #between her social life going tachy bc of lila and losing fu in a way that felt like personhood death marinette was really put on the spot #and alya doing her thing of busting in there and assuming her bias is correct was a terrible combo #essentially marinette is highly unstable and alya is just realizing that #busting in and giving her a lecture when she's slightly hysterical and definitely delirious from exhaustion is NOT the way #to show her she's self sabotaging #cuz thats just gonna make her double down on self sabotaging. bc marinette will not accept that she is also a CHIIIIILD

[asparklethatisblue]

Rejoice, for onto the world a child was born.

Baby Gesus, only daughter of Jod, the most special girl in the universe

#gideon nav #pyrrha dve #awake remembrance of these valiant dead #Awake Remembrance of These Valiant Dead Kia Hua Ko Te Pai Snap Back to Reality Oops There Goes Gravity #the locked tomb #gideon the ninth #my art #yeah idk I was :( then thought of baby Gideon with sunglasses and was :)

[screenshot-thoughts]

“we all have issues because we all have a story. and no matter how much work you’ve done on yourself, we all snap back sometimes. so be easy on you. growth is a dance. not a light switch.”

#screenshot #my screenshots #thoughts #ideas #issues #story #self improvement #snap back #growth #dance #light switch #change #react #work #metaphor

[1941-crowley-slut]

I hope everyone realizes that aside from Crowley not being in heaven, Aziraphale will also not have anything else he likes.

There are no books in heaven. There's no tea or hot chocolate, no music, no crêpes or sushi. So not only does he lose the love of his life and has to operate without him, but he also isn't allowed any of his comfort things, all while I'm sure the angels are hostile against him (even if they pretend otherwise).

Aziraphale has nothing.

#bro is not gonna last #he went to jail for crepes guys he's gonna snap very soon #and did you see the annoyance on his face when gabriel knocked on his door and interrupted his music #he loves earthly stuff too much and he doesn't even realize it yet #also i'm sure when he comes back there'll be a soft heartfelt moment between him and crowley #where crowley's like “You came back” and aziraphale smiles softly and says “Missed the sushi” as they make heart eyes #good omens #crowley #aziraphale #aziracrow #gomens2 #crowley x aziraphale #ineffable husbands #good omens 2

[optamark]

#Snap Back

[skullfacedfruitcakee]

Dealer: j got this new strain 💯 it’s called, “thanergy link to your daughters longsword” 😳🔥 gonna be blitzed off your titz

Me: whatever man I don’t feel shit

5 minutes later: dude I swear I saw some bitch in a hazmat suit at the bottom of that glass coffin

My girl Harrow, pacing: the eggs you gave me all died and you lied to me

#I think I excecuted this wrong I’ve not slept #this HAS to have been done before #regardless it’s here I did it soz if I ripped your ass off #tlt shitpost #tlt #the locked tomb #harrow the ninth #harrow the ninth spoilers #htn #harrowhark nonagesimus #commander awake remembrance of these valiant dead kia hua ko te pai snap back to reality oops there goes gravity #commander wake #tlt memes #tlt shitposting #gtn #gideon the ninth

[ntfderf]

#sneakers #snap back #snapbackhats #kicks