#so to keep their memory alive they-

[bloopy-writes]

Headcanon that Dicks apartment is the ultimate sibling meeting spot and each of his siblings have left their own mark in it:

Jason has shelves specifically filled with his novels for the nights he sleeps over and wants something to read

Duke has a bunch of rare collectible items that he stores cuz he trusts dick to keep them safe and thinks they make the place look homey

Tim has a big bulletin board that he puts his photography on and updates it occasionally

Cass has magnets from each country she visited on her trips

Steph has a bunch of random items that are all in the shade of Spoiler Purple in every room

Damian has his artwork hung up in every room as well as a collection of swords secretly stashed somewhere in the apartment

#and when Dick died #Jason kept paying rent on the apartment #so that they could keep the memories of their sibling bond alive and keep their safe space #bloopy’s headcanons #dick grayson #jason todd #stephanie brown #cassandra cain #duke thomas #tim drake #damian wayne #dc comics #batman #batfam

[illyrian-jedi]

Can we talk about the fact that when obi wan was listing off the qualities Leia got from Anakin he listed the ones that were so commonly seen as problems to the Jedi. To them he was too outspoken, too reckless, and felt too deeply. But not to obi wan. He names the qualities that made padmé fall in love with Anakin in the first place and the qualities that always made him so proud. He sees Anakin as passionate because he loves deeply and hard, not because he was too attached. He calls him fearless because he was ready to do anything to help others, not because he was reckless. And he sees him as forthright because he stood for what he believed, always, not because he was outspoken or out of place. Obi wan doesn't see these qualities as flaws, but gifts and calls them that to Leia so she knows that they aren't to be ashamed of and that she should be as proud of those qualities as Anakin was, and I think that's so beautiful.

#disney this is my hill and i will die on it #obi wan finally accepted that anakin was dead so he keeps him alive in memory #obi wan needs a hug #uncle obi wan #obi wan kenobi #anakin skywalker #leia organa #padme amidala #padme naberrie #obi wan show #obi wan series #obi wan and anakin #star wars

[uncanny-tranny]

If you ever come across somebody who has lost a child but who still has other children, I am begging you not to say, "you might have lost a child, but at least you have others!"

It isn't comforting to be told that children are interchangeable, insignificant, and replaceable. It's not comforting a grieving family to be told that their loved one's memory is worthless because it can be replaced; it doesn't help the surviving children or the parent/s.

#grief #advice #grief tw #child death tw #saw a parent post about their passed child and how they keep their memory alive with the younger child and holy fuck #the amount of comments that told the poster that it was... toxic to keep the child's memory alive because 'you have another child tho!!!' #it was so cruel. and people really do think it is comforting to tell people 'at least you have other children! 😊' #i can tell you forst-hand that being told you're a replacement child is... a shitty feeling! and i can't imagine what a parent would feel #i feel i've talked about this before but i don't care - this is just... needlessly cruel to do to others

[artemx746]

Honestly hate how Annabeth doesn't get to keep majority of her items (ie. Daedalus' laptop)

#it annoys me so much because some of them were really unique and could've been used really well #The video shield (From TLO and never used again in the main books) was such a cool concept and was made by Beckendorf #So it could've been like a memory of him #No. Rick destroys it in a side story #And her laptop given to her by the greatest inventor alive a symbol of how ideas will get passed down from generation to generation #Lost in hell #Her knife that her adoptive brother gave her when she was seven years old a symbol of their familial bond #Also lost in hell #That one infuriates me #That trio was the most important one in the og series #but now that Luke's dead lets not keep the knife he gave to his sister because... I don't know she can't have things from dead people? #Why can't Annabeth keep things from dead people? #That's the question I'm getting from writing this #Rick I am speaking directly to you #Why do you hate the deceased? #annabeth chase #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo #do i tag this as rr crit #I'll do it to be safe #rr crit

[distressed-bird]

Kalina is the most interesting character to me because of all she has going on…

she is Cassandra’s familiar, she is simultaneously a pet and a friend and a servant and a family to a goddexx that is simultaneously her owner and friend and creator and parent and her god and reason to be—Kalina’s relationship to Cassandra is hard to put a name or label on (since what does being a familiar even mean?) but the bottomline is that this cat loves her deity enough to put everything and everyone on the line for her…

And adding in that she is a child of divorce. So to speak. I am extremely normal and haven’t been driven mad by the detail that baby itty bitty kitty Kalina was at Cassandra’s wedding to Ankarna and is remembered to have been toddling after her as she walked down the aisle…

Kalina will be the death of me /lh

#fhjy spoilers #fantasy high junior year #kalina #oh my god and the fact Kalina was there at that wedding—there at the period of time where Ankarna was alive and still a known god and not #presumed dead… this makes the Sylvairean Heresy even WORSE of a life event for Kalina and Cassandra… #the existence of baby kalina implies that Cassandra *raised* Kalina… and the fact they were married means that Kalina wouldn’t have been #raised by only Cassandra but *also* Ankarna. #you are Kalina and one of your parents just was killed by your uncle—their domains were too alike—and you can never talk about them again. #you can never speak their name—share in their memory—the only place they exist is quietly in your memories that must go unspoken due to #Oblivata Mori. And there’s nothing you can do about it… #And then the followers and clerics of your remaining parent start trying to kill her—being mislead by the followers of your goddexx’ sister #Cassandra is the only family Kalina has left—and Kalina’s sentience leds me to think she agreed to become a Curse #kalina let herself be unmade and changed to keep Cassandra alive… and even as the shell of herself—a familiar once but now a living plague— #is so deeply loyal and only interested in what is to the benefit of her *everything*… even if they are currently a Walking Corpse. #Kalina dislike Kristen so much because Kristen is just not being a good cleric and is in the precarious spot of being Cassandra’s only #follower… but ultimately won’t harm or attack Kristen—killing herself first—because Kristen is the only one keeping Cassandra uncorrupted. #yeah im crazy about the relationship and history between a cat familiar and her witch goddess and the layers of their relationship

[sanshinexx]

Here have some happy fanart in these trying times of waiting for S3 to come out

#if it all goes terribly wrong i will happily keep ignoring canon and continue living in my own delusions where everyone's alive and well #and happy #sorry if their designs are terribly wrong i just drew them from memory #also couldn't really be bothered to figure out what kind of clothes they should wear so standard blacks it is #except omega because she's the only one who actually owns normal clothes #star wars #star wars the bad batch #the bad batch #bad batch #tbb #the bad batch fanart #bad batch fanart #tbb fanart #wrecker #tech #omega #star wars fanart #fan art #art

[fredandginger64]

It's here! I cannot wait to start reading it!!

#jerry lewis #i love him #chris lewis #thank you #he is so loved #books and reading #hes such an icon #keep his memory alive

[deus-and-the-machina]

I think an underlooked part of what shaped jin’s mindset was how even back in Torna, he was considered “property”. He and Lora spent their whole lives avoiding the authorities of Torna because they believed would straight up execute Lora to get Jin back, and no one ever denies it. and this has seemingly been a fear since Lora was a child. Jin had to hide his face everywhere he went. Maybe Torna wouldn’t have been cruel enough to execute a child, especially since the king seemed decent(?) enough, if not a bit distant. But the fact it was even a fear at all for Lora since she was so young is just awful to think about. 

According to his past self’s journals, Jin and his old driver fought in a war of independence for Torna, perhaps what made him a hero to begin with. and because he’s a war hero for deeds he doesn’t even remember, the kingdom considers him owned by them. Which is on the nose in two different ways ngl. Both in how the Blades are seen and a wider metaphor of soldiers/state. idk it’s just very sad to think about

#I think a lot of people (esp people who dont really interact with the actual story of 2) boil jins motives down to lora too often #like yes her death sent him spiraling but his actual motives dont like. actually have much to do with her directly. it contributed to his #bad mental state that allowed him to get to that point but he still has plenty of reasons to hate how blades are treated and hes right! #its also why 'lora wouldn't have wanted this' doesnt really matter to him. yeah she wouldnt have. she's also been dead for ages so what does #it matter? like hes definitely not coping healthily mans is constantly retraumatizing himself by keeping her body around but like #he knows she's dead hes accepted it so hes doing better than N at least! jin hates being immortal but he stays alive to keep Loras memory #alive. but the longer he lives the more and more awful shit he sees and the more it breaks him. but he cant die bc then the only person left #who really knew lora would be gone (Minoth is alive too but he knew her for like several weeks at most alsfjakfjljfsa) and thats the curse #xenoblade #xenoblade chronicles #jin #siren says

[esterigermaine]

I have so many questions about Astarion's birth family that it isn't even funny.

I wonder what sort of relationship/dynamic they all had before his death, I wonder how they reacted, if they knew he was "alive" as a spawn the entire time and just ignored it because that creature wasn't their son/brother/nephew anymore, how they would react if told he had spent 200 years suffering. Most of all, I wonder if they would accept (or be proud of) the man he became at the end of the game.

#astarion #i mean the grave being pretty overgrown is kind of telling that no one is taking care of it anymore #but was he estranged? did his family move away? was there a period where they took care of it and thought about him? #did they feel guilt thinking there could have been something they could have done to save him or keep the gurs from attacking? #do they still think of him as a baby Elf because he was killed so young despite the fact he has literally been undead for 200 years? #did they die as well? #this concept has so much potential for angst and fluff depending on the type or relationship they had #and if they accept him as the vampire spawn he is if they are still around and alive #which I mean it is highly likely he has family still around #because Elves live a ridiculously long time #239/240 is still young enough to have siblings parents and maybe even grandparents out there #could you imagine him meeting a neice or nephew and them telling him stories that their parent told to them about uncle Astarion? #like someone cared enough to keep his memory alive and teaching family he never got to meet about him

[adarkroomandawallflower]

So, I just had a thought (& possible realization that could be canon?):

As I'm sure many of us TNG fans are aware, it's never canonically addressed where, how, or when exactly Data got Spot. However, based on the order of the episodes, Spot wasn't shown or mentioned until "Data's Day", & because we were shown Data's quarters several times throughout Seasons 1-3 without any indications of a cat living with him, we can assume that he got Spot somewhere either in the end of Season 3 or the beginning of Season 4 (I know the argument could be made that he could have still had Spot, it just wasn't very clearly established or shown, but for the sake of my theory, let's assume that not showing Spot or evidence of Data having her indicates that he didn't have her yet).

The events of "Brothers" occurs just several episodes before "Data's Day". We saw in "Brothers" that after Dr. Soong died, Data took some of his father's things with him (i.e. the toy dinosaurs that he gave to the two brothers who were also in the episode). I think it's highly unlikely that Data would have only taken those two dinosaurs from his father's place, & I think he almost certainly took a lot more of his father's things with him (i.e. he probably took some of his books, artwork, etc.).

I think it can also be assumed that Dr. Soong didn't like being alone, & always preferred the company of another being (his sons & Juliana, for example). After the Crystalline Entity attacked, Juliana left, Data joined Starfleet, & Dr. Soong was left all by himself on that whole planet, I think he got really lonely, but didn't know or have any other person in his life that he could seek companionship with. Not wanting to go through the intense emotional & physical tolls of creating another android son again, & being unable to find another partner or spouse, I think he would have probably gotten himself a pet as a last-ditch effort to curb his loneliness.

But what would his pet be? Perhaps a cat...?

Long story short, I propose this theory: Spot was originally Dr. Soong's cat, & after he died & Data was looking through his place to determine all the things he wanted to keep, he found Spot, & knew he had to take her with him.

I'd have to rewatch "Brothers" to look for any evidence of Dr. Soong having a cat, as well review the episodes after "Brothers" & before "Data's Day" to see if they showed Data's quarters clearly catless again, to support this theory, but I genuinely think this could be how Data got Spot

#hopefully this isn't a totally ridiculous theory & that it makes sense to you guys #I was just thinking about I wish they'd shown us all the things he decided to take from dr. soong's place #& whether data had a little memorial service for him #or if data maybe visited or took care of or maybe even stayed at his father's old place from time to time #to keep his memory alive & prevenr his things from being destroyed or thrown out #& data clearly understands & even experiences the sentimentality & emotional attachment to objects #so I think he would have felt an obligation to keep as much as of his father's posessions as he could #anyways #just some food for thought #data soong #data star trek #data tng #noonien soong #dr. noonien soong #dr. soong #spot soong #spot the cat #data and spot #star trek #star trek the next generation #star trek tng #star trek theory #noll's narratives #noll's nonsense

[shreks-regrets]

camp camp spoilers:

DAVID GIVING MAX A CAMERA AS A GIFT AND MAX ACTUALLY TAKING PICTURES WITH IT IS SO GREAT photographer!max is so fun

#camp camp #camp camp spoilers #i’m so happy max has a healthy outlet for his rage/pain!! #HE CAN NOW TAKE PICTURES TO KEEP THE MEMORIES ALIVE BUT TO HELP HIM MOVE ON WHEN THEY END!!! #so great #idk if m//v/d shippers still exist but if they do please leave and do not interact

[torgawl]

if you call himmel pathetic i'm throwing hands at you. himmel showed the purest form of love for frieren and you guys think that's pathetic? what's pathetic is not respect other people's feelings or boundaries and acting like people owe you anything just because you like them. himmel was happy to have a friendship with frieren within her own conditions just because he genuinely enjoyed her as part of his life. he was happy to wait for her for his entire life is he had to but he also never stopped living for himself. that's fucking beautiful. loving someone so much you are able to let them go, not wanting to change who they are or impose anything on them? unconditionally, nonetheless? that's the point of life.

#either platonically or romantically having people genuinely appreciate you and having genuine connections with people is what makes life #worth living #frieren is a beautiful show about loss grief and how people change you just by being present in your life how they add to your life how #your true friends inspire you and how we keep each other's memories alive how love is timeless despite the finality of our human condition #and you tell me himmel is pathetic? #what a joke #i'm biting himmel haters like an enraged chihuahua #infection you with the power of love so you understand that loving makes the world more beautiful #besides frieren not understanding her own feelings at the time she always cared for himmel and the others as well #she just took more time to learn how to reciprocate and demonstrate the importance they had for her #because she isn't humans which is normal #a big part of life for everyone is having regrets and wishing it wasn't too late #frieren explores that perfectly #the friendships in that story are so pure and well nurtured #it's a shame internet culture rotted your brains so much that you think there's something inherently wrong with having unrequited feelings #and being okay with it #it's a shame you reduce such a genuinely good character who proved his will was above anything mystical to a 'simp' #anyways. himmel stays winning. #he put a ring on it too like imagine thinking he's losing when frieren is having dead wife flashbacks of him the entire show

[flowercrowngods]

i don't know how to be merely acquaintances when we used to be friends. or i think we used to be. i don't know how to yearn for a simple hello when you've been heaping your affection on me months ago, and i don't know how to talk to you when you won't say anything. when suddenly it's all about me. you know i have nothing to say, you know my brain is void of everything but horribleness and i cannot tell you about my day because i don't even know about my day. i cannot tell you about my day when i know you won't listen, when i know you'll apply your philosophy to my world and don't believe me when i say that everything is terrible. i don't know how to be the person you seem to think i am, or the person you want in your life. i don't know if you want anyone else in your life now that you're in love and sappy, found another recipient for your affections, leaving me empty and wounded and yearning.

you said you missed me. said it many times, while i was gone. now i'm back, have been back, and i wonder how you missed me, why you missed me, when you won't talk to me. i think you mistook missing for worrying. i think you mistook caring for a feeling of obligation. i think you like missing me more than talking to me.

and i think i can't breathe with how much that hurts

#how do you miss me when you won't talk to me? how do you like me so much and then go to just. not? #how did i let you in when i try so hard not to let people do that because i know that once they get past the walls all i'll be left with #is the idea of them rotting and withering inside me. polluting the space i create to keep myself safe. #why does everyone leave? leave in silence too. leaving behind so many questions and so many words engraved in my brain #i am so tired of *grieving* when those i grieve are still alive and well and thriving and i'm reminded that it's versions of myself #that i'm grieving instead. how do you grieve yourself? how do you not fucking fall apart over it? #just. fucking talk to me. don't make it be true that all i'll ever be is nothingness and the memory of someone you liked once #but never never never liked enough #i'm so so cold already. i'm a shell. i want to be warm again but it always leaves me so hollow and hurting #i grieve the dio who was warm. i grieve them i miss them i am so so angry that he had to leave. to hide. with no way out #i'm happy for you. i'm happy you're happy. but you're no better than anyone else and it makes me want to run away again #but i have nowhere else to run and no one else to be. and it's so fucked that it doesn't matter who i am i'll never be enough #for someone to just. stay. to see me and to stay. to hear me and to sit and listen and just. just fucking stay. #maybe i'm not worth staying for. maybe there's nothing to know nothing to hear nothing to see nothing to listen to nothing to find #maybe all i'll ever get is one/two good months paid for with a lifetime of grief. and i'm at the point where i don't want the good months #anymore with you or anyone else who tears down these walls with affection that is so endlessly addictive and leaves me yearning. #on the off chance that it will keep the grief away too. but that's the thing about grief isn't it? it's here to stay. unlike you #god this is so fucked up and i'll delete this later but for now i just need to. let it out. poe said i should make a side blog for the grie #but poe's not there anymore. poe has stopped starting fires. so this goes on main until shame makes me take it down #blah #personal #not st

[twingeof-cosmic-angst]

adric nation are we crying? because I'm sobbing.

#his memory is being kept alive by every doctor. the doctor is one of the only people in this galaxy that knew him. #that knew what he sacrificed. he was essentially the last of his kind when it came to being out of e space #the doctor has to keep adrics memory alive because soon there will be no one else to. #do you think with every new regeneration while the doctor is still getting his memories he has to go through that process? #remembering just everything? everyone? #the fact that this was brought up minutes after 15 was brought into existence... it just hurts my heart so bad. #im not okay!!!! #doctor who #dw spoilers #doctor who spoilers #the giggle #adric #adric of alzarius #15th doctor #14th doctor

[royalarchivist]

Phil: I always love hearing about like, different stories -- especially from the teachers in the chat -- where like, a student or like just a member of the school has some form of like, Techno merch or like, does something that is clearly a Techno reference. I just love that. It’s ‘cuz like -- exactly what I was hoping to happen is happening, where people are just keeping his memory alive. Whether it’s through wearing, you know, his merch and stuff, or still supporting him through doing like, you know, just talking about him or making like their art piece about him, stuff like that. It’s very cool. Technoblade truly never dies, if everyone just keeps f**king talking about him. [Laughs] If everyone just keeps referencing him, which is very easy to do because he was incredibly funny. He has a lot of referenceable quotes and sayings.

#Technoblade #Philza #Emerald Duo #Phil plays Hardcore #Phil #In my culture (or at least; the way I was taught) grief is navigated through storytelling #you keep a person's memory alive by sharing their stories #American culture -- at least the part where I've lived -- seems to try and enforce the idea that grief is silent #that it's meant to be quiet and dealt with privately #which is. a very unhealthy thing #That being said; in the past I've hesitated sharing clips about Phil talking about this stuff #because grief IS personal and it felt inappropriate to share #even if hearing him talk about it made me feel better #but Phil's right. it's part of the storytelling. it's part of the legacy #I remember a few weeks ago one of my little cousins was talking about Youtube videos he's been watching #and he mentioned Technoblade and I froze up #because it caught me so off-guard. and he's obviously way too young to know what happened #But I sat down and I talked with him about Techno and told him stories I knew #And I told him about the whole ''Blood for the Blood God'' thing and ''Technoblade Never Dies'' #And it was really nice #It was nice to see a new generation discovering him and his stuff. #Sometimes stories are all we have #But Techno's legacy is cemented in our minds and it's available for almost anyone to stumble upon it #I've cried so much for Techno and I know that grief will never go away #but grief is a form of love too

[lanternlightss]

looking back at posts and its so fun seeing exactly which two characters in genshin i was hyperfixated on and that even after like three years it has not changed Once 😭

venti and nameless bard have me wrapped around their fingers istg

#SINCE 2021 !!!!!!!!!! #i think about how much they love each other how much venti seems to idolize the bard to the point that he might seem to be on the same #divinity level as ven is #i think about that ven has carefully guided the citizens of mond to the same values that bard and the rest of old mond wanted it to be #i think about ven never changing his form to keep his friends memory alive even after /two millennia/ of seeing the face you can never get #back in the mirror every day #i think about ven holding his own hands together and pretending for a moment that its someone else holding his #i think !!!!!! about what would happen if the bard had ever perished. if ven would be severely protective and i dare you. try to lay a hand #on a single hair. he has gone through so much and i refuse to let anything take away what he deserves to see #i think about the bard catching the wind as easily as breathing simply bc its not truly “caught” #the wind is simply ever so fond of them that they will not go anywhere else for too long #i think about. the bard cradling a wisp so gently every night that even now warmth seeps in through ventis hand if he pretends enough #i think about a ghost bard who never leaves vens side. who had promised always whenever they departed thatd he leave something for venti to #know hes still there #i think about a bard who breaks down ventis walls with a single tap #bc they know each other as well as they do themselves #i think abt a bard who gently relearns a ven he hasn’t met #i think abt a bard who is angry and spiteful and spitting at the world softening around the wisp who shows nothing but kindness #i think about a bard recognizing ven by a small breeze alone #and i #i simply go bonkers over them you see #lantern says stuff