#why you shouldn't have

[hydrachea]

Bless you Mihoyo, this statue is exactly what my courtyard needed to reach its peak potential.

#i had tiles forming his symbol in the middle of the courtyard for the longest time #and now they just give me this to fit perfectly in the middle of it #why you shouldn't have #i think this main island is finally complete now #how satisfying #genshin #ray's records #see even tubby likes it!

[saharsimp]

I think we should be able to put child leashes on Gale and Astarion in Act 3 bc both of them are trying to make rlly stupid decisions

#bg3 #bg3 tav #bg3 astarion #bg3 shitpost #baldur's gate 3 #baldur's gate iii #baldurs gate astarion #baldur's gate tav #bg3 gale #astarion #gale dekarios #baldurs gate gale #gale of waterdeep #astarion and tav #astarion ancunin #baldur's gate 3 act 3 #like pls gale and astarion i shouldn't have to explain to you why becoming a Turbo Douche is a bad idea 😭

[uncanny-tranny]

Love disabled people who just lie about their disabilities to nosy, intrusive questions. Sorry, yeah, I lost my arm in the wash one day. It's funny how that happens! Oh, I got back pain from saving nineteen children from a burning fire department <3

#disability #sometimes lying is just. funny. SORRY. #look like... whether you lie about why you're disabled you're still disabled and it shouldn't have to factor into how you're treated... #...if it isn't relevant to your care needs or care plan. #like. if you lost your arm does it matter if you say you lost it in the wash like a sock or tell your actual story... #...like either way you still /do not have an arm/. that doesn't change if you lie or not #anyway. huge defense for a post that probably didn't need said defense #sometimes you just feel like lying in such a grandiose way that people don't know if they SHOULDN'T believe you #i think my lie will be that a powerful necromancer preformed Emergency Bone Shaving on one leg only... #...and he used the bone shavings to raise a skeleton army that looks like My skeleton but only on the legs

[pherredraws]

from the homumiko mines

#dgs #tgaa #dgs spoilers #tgaa spoilers #homumiko #idk why mikotoba is taller in the kiss. hes on his tiptoes #the first one is inspired by the moment when sholmes puts his hands on ryu's neck so he can feel how cold they are from blood loss lol #anyway i continue to be deeply fascinated with early years homumiko #i feel like my view of their relationship is more slowburn than most #like. they were both not at their best when they met and i can very much see a scenario where they start living together w/out necessarily #liking each other #the last one in based on a line in 1-5 where gregson (?) says that after an hour of blood loss even sholmes piped down or something #which makes me think he would not shut up beforehand. and i think he'd say some stuff He Really Shouldn't Have #but susato wrote it off as delirium + she was too worried abt her dad and messing with the crime scene #que like 5 months later her going .........ohhhhhh #thats not how you write que i think. anyway

[redysetdare]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

#text #personal #aro #aromantic #aroace #aspec #qpr #queerplatonic relationships #queer platonic relationships #tbh i was around when qprs were still getting footing. ppl werent sure how to properly label them #so to avoid allos saying it's just friends the common response was 'its more than friends but less than romance' #as if they were trying to justify it's existence as if we had to have a equivalent to romance to be justified in our identities and as ppl #because being aro made you not be a person. because how can you be a person if you dont love or have a partner #because being aro was sad because being aro meant ou were alone and you shouldn't want to be alone!! #and these ideas made it so that amatonormativity was just reinforced in aro spaces #and it isn't until recent years when amatonormativity started getting used top put a name to the problem #that i really saw ppl start standing up for aros who didnt partner because why are we expected to partner anyways? #shouldnt ppl be whole as they are? #and this is only my experience im not saying this happens everywhere #but this is why i think we need to have a conversation about QPRs and how they are used in aro spaces #because im not the only one who struggled through this #my experience may not be universal but my experience has happened to others #and thats worth talking about #srry im having a lot of thoughts recently

[gaymelie]

Once again saw someone yell on here about how "nobody is going to report this aaah the media is evil", closed this app and not even a minute later saw a report with that exact content on a major news platform. Ngl this phrasing is rapidly being added to the list of things i won't reblog on principle.

#Its always an argument as to why the post is more believable or more righteous #And its just a manipulation tactic whether deliberate or not #And I'm not doing that yall #Like either give me solid evidence its being hidden or discuss whatever issue you have in an actual factual manner #None of this reactionary bullshit #Like the amount of 'stories the news outlets aren't covering' where i found an article literally on the front page of the apo #Or with like a single basic search on their app if its a few days old #Like at this point you shouldn't be allowed to add this to your post unless you have googled the topic at least once #We can criticise HOW things are covered and when and by who etc but stop lying to make your point more dramatic

[yet-another-haven-of-dollya]

The long-awaited school break

Idea from Blue Archive short dj

#Having an infertile love interest is like free real estate #dollya art #robin the orphan #dol robin #dol pc #lya the blossom #dol #dol fanart #degrees of lewdity #Be a good trophy wife and fill your lover up real good Robin that's how you keep her energized to make more money to secure both your asses #sigh #I really should stop eating so many creampuffs #shouldn't be posting at this hour but oh well #I rarely do color but once I do I remember why I don't

[b4kuch1n]

red lion wizard !

#pokemon #swsh #champion leon #wizard leon! one of em! #chose to color this one foolhardy style lmao. well it is done. I did Minimum cleaning up #this set is. well Im gonna draw the design sketch like with the toy doctor #but yeah the Other name for this one is 'wizard of performance' #which. uh. yeah there u go #Im actually flipfloppin between thinking this looks fine and feeling like I fucked up big time.... idk why. probably bc I put a h #uge splash of almond flavoring into this tea instead of like. two drops. like I wanted to #its literally like drinking perfume. why is vanilla fine when you add more than a few drops in but almond extract poisons you in real time #like why does a food flavoring smell exactly like something you Shouldn't eat. why is it made like that #well. I will sleep now. and maybe I'll dream. and then I'll know #have a good night lads! we are not immune to propaganda.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

more people should choose their names though. grown adults are really out there walking around with names their parents chose at random. "nice baby name, did your mommy pick that out for you?" grow up

#joking but not really joking #if you like your birth name i'm happy for you! #but i've heard a ton of cis people talking wistfully about 'if i could choose any name...' #buddy i have wonderous news! #'so what parents shouldn't name their kids then???' not what i'm saying! #but i think it should be more common for people to have childhood names that they later change as teens/adults #and think about nicknames. plenty of people have nicknames that change throughout their lifetime. why not just extend that principle #i know lots of adults who went by abbreviations of their given name when they were young #and then at some point decided they had outgrown that #let people outgrow names!

[andy-clutterbuck]

The Ones Who Live | 1x03 - Bye

#there HE is #Rick Grimes #* #rg #The One Who Live #whiskey daddy #why must you sit like that #??? #why #i shouldn't judge though #my legs would also be that open if i was there #omg who said that #have some decorum #jeez #me as the glass #tag yourself im under the table #sometimes the most random things just do it™ for me #idk #and so i must gif them #even if it's just for myself #climb on and ride til the wheels fall off #my what LONG fingers you have

[fictionadventurer]

Maybe the problem with Christian fiction is that it's non-denominational. People are just "Christian", with no effort put into showing what practicing that religion looks like for them specifically. No indication that there are other Christians who could have different beliefs. No wrestling with differing ideas and the struggle of how one should live out their Christian faith. And that makes it unrealistic and unrelatable.

#me reading any christian historical fiction set in england: why are none of these gentry anglican?? #they ARE all anglican and if they are not it is extremely plot and character relevant you can't just have them using evangelical buzzwords #but i'm also thinking of this because i started another charlotte yonge book #that is by far my favorite of the things of hers that i've read #because it has characters who have different upbringings and religious opinions #instead of just 'here's a bunch of high church anglicans judging people who don't live up to their victorian standard' #you have the very high church anglican rector whose wife is worldly but still a very good person #the girl raised in a very strict protestant family who is more scrupulous than the anglicans but is still recognized as a good person #you have people who are trying to work out the nuances of different issues #and that makes it so much more realistic and so much easier to integrate into the story #(the politics though are hilarious) #(most of the classics that survive are the ones that were 'ahead of their time' in politics) #(so it's equally fascinating and refreshing and a bit infuriating to see one that is very very of its time with regards to women's rights) #('why did this woman get up at the meeting and explain her very good ideas for rebuilding after the fire? she should have had a man do it') #(meanwhile i'm just screaming 'why on earth SHOULDN'T she???') #(it's almost enough to make a feminist of me)

[uncanny-tranny]

This is purely speculation on my end, but I've noticed that it seems like people (specifically younger queer people, partially under forty) are so used to queerphobes indignantly saying, "you have the right to marry, what more can you want?! Why do you shove it down our throats?!" that they internalize the idea that gay marriage and other rights were only fought for for queer assimilation.

The push for things like gay marriage wasn't just "to assimilate," and especially after the AIDs crisis, you very well could watch your lover or friend or mentor die in front of you and have no recourse. No protections. No guarantee that you could even say goodbye. Learning that - as a young queer myself - hammered home how important these things can be. To get where we are now didn't happen because of the magical benevolence of the cishets. We fought for that shit. We died for that shit.

Again, this is speculation, but I don't think young queers (even me) will truly understand the scope of queer history. It takes effort to learn about this, but it is an effort worth pursuing every single time. At the least, we owe it to honour the people who came before us who have sacrificed so much. We owe our communities that much, at least.

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #politics #it just irks me to see the 'why werent queers of the past trying to move to reprioritize marriage 🙄' #it gives off the same vibes as 'why transition? shouldn't you abolish gender altogether🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. hashtag owned!' #it's just...please learn about history. even the aids crisis ALONE was harrowing to learn - but it's so important #i don't see assimilation as what you do per se but rather what you believe in #queer assimilation isn't getting married and having kids - it's (to me) an attitude of queerness #it's devaluing queerness and thinking of it as lesser - so you will distance yourself intrinsically from it #maybe that's the same to some people but i don't see it that way #and even then the conversion of this alone is nuanced and complicated #instead of blaming an individual i tend to blame the systems in place that lead people to devaluing themselves and who they are

[kvetchinglyneurotic]

it occurs to me that jamie's conversation with ted at the pub in 2x02 might be the first time he talks about his dad with someone who already knows that james is abusive (with the possible exception of georgie). which means that the first time he hears an outside perspective on the situation, it's ted telling him that his dad's abuse is what made him great

#i don't even have a point it just makes me sad. and also annoyed. every time i watch that scene i'm like why would you say that?????? #a lot of the time when jamie's talking about his dad i get the sense there's this underlying question of like #“i feel like this was bad. can you tell me if it was bad?” #and really i think he just needs someone to tell him straight up like. yeah that was bad he shouldn't have treated you that way #but when he brings it up with ted and higgins they try to put a positive spin on it (shout out to season 3 roy for not doing that) #ted lasso #jamie tartt #kvetch oc

[add1ctedt0you]

Canonically speaking, jc' reaction to someone he doesn't like/has strong negative feelings towards, because that person was a jerk to his sister, is to regulate his emotions according to how his sister feels. In a jyl lives au, after wwx's return, canon jc is going to his sister, saying something like: 'while I think we should throw at least a cup of tea at him because he left us you and a-ling like that, it's your choice, jin zixuan was your husband. What are we feeling now, jiejie?'

#I was reading a jyl live and in the notes the author wrote: 'I made jc & wwx meeting as painful as possible'. Why would you do that lol. jyl #jzx's wife- is right there. shouldn't she the one to be mad? no obv. she says to jc to back off and stop being a jerk lol #canon jc rebuild his sect and co-raised his wonderful nephew. Without no one but himself. A jc with his sister by is side is the healthiest #dude out there. The fact imo it's that most of jyl lives au aren't about jyl #Her life wasn't about her. Her childhood wasn't about her. Her death wasn't about her #Let at least her survival be about her lmao #jzx should divorce fanon jyl tbh and marry jc lol #Imo it boils down to people thinking that be mad about a loved one's death/lying make you the devil #Which is a bit strange #Or maybe it's that in a jyl lives au you kinda have to acknowledge how hurtful wwx's actions were. A crime in this fandom. #mar!nonsense

[idk-bruh-20]

Tony gets attached to people fast actually

when people are like "It's so unrealistic to say Tony and Peter had a close relationship or that Tony would ever give anything to Peter! they spent hardly any time together!" I'm just like. ?

My man met quiet, nerdy Bruce Banner and asked him to move in within the hour. He is a u-haul lesbian but for Potential Science Friends. You think my trauma survivor idiot bitch boy would look at Peter -- who like Bruce is smart enough to keep up with him, and unlike all the old avengers actually looks at him like he's a hero -- and not think, "please let me convince you to care about me"? lmao okay.

#tony stark locate some self-esteem challenge #tony: what if I just gave you everything ever? #will you love me? #you shouldn't! (please do) #thoughts #peter with his 1000 slide powerpoint about why tony stark is the best hero: mister stark if you don't shit the shut up #you don't have to get me anything #just try and get rid of me. you can't. #I'll stick to the side of your vehicle I have done it twice and I'll do it again. #tony stark #peter parker #iron dad and spider son #irondad and spiderson #iron dad #irondad #spider son #spiderson #ironfam #bruce banner #avengers #this is the other dumb thought thing I had to post ✌️ #fic ideas still postponed but you can send asks if you want i just won't see them for a while #see announcements

[non-un-topo]

Young adults kaysanova?

#remember when i used to draw asdfghfdsa #this is barely them but still taggin #tog #the old guard #kaysanova #siggy draws #obviously someone likes the cold weather and someone doesn't #started with the cranky nicky face then i noticed he looked weirdly young and it evolved from there #always gotta have a cheery joe with you!! #ugh i NEED to finish writing that au in which they were childhood friends. i need it !!!!!! #shoutout to joe's comically large sword wink wonk #maybe that's why nicky's upset lol. but shouldn't he be.... glad? #idek what i'm saying anymore sdfgfds i'm delirious from schoolwork and possibly covid