#DATING ANXIETY

[alwaysbewoke]

wow but this is not news. we know how women are. this is why i smile whenever i see a short guy with their woman because i know it's not easy for them and i'm happy to see the ones who found someone special.

#height preferences #dating dynamics #short guy stigma #self-confidence #dating challenges #societal standards #overcoming stigma #dating anxiety #break stereotypes #love beyond height #height just a number #dating mindset #relationship advice

[vixensmart]

just found out that the feeling I get when someone flirts with me is not butterflies in my stomach but is in fact a panic response

#relationships #relationship anxiety #dating #dating anxiety #anxiety #anxiety disorder #GAD

[travellerthoughts]

I was really brave and asked a guy I found really attractive for his number. He gave it to me and we've been texting for the past days. The issue is that we don't have a common language were both fluent in. His English is alright and my Korean is super basic. Through texting I don't know how good his English really is because he's also using translator. And it kind of starts to go near the time where we would meet for coffee soon and I'm honestly so terrified of the situation- of it being awkward, of freezing, of having no topic, of not understanding each other. And I know it can be fine even if we have to use translator, but my social anxiety is really acting up and I'm so scared of having this very new situation happening to me that I nearly just want to stop everything and just run away from it. Just so I don't have to deal. And I feel like I can hardly tell anyone because they would just say "oh, no it's gonna be fine, just meet it and see what happens" but this really doesn't help right now, so I just want to scream this here in the void of the internet to get it out. I'm terrified of feeling weird and awkward and scared of being rejected or having to reject and this social thing that's dating is just so so so hard for someone who hasn't really done it before. I'm trying really hard to hold myself together and breathe through it and everything but my reaction terrifies me so much.

It has nothing to do with him, really it doesn't. He seems like a nice guy. And he's like really attractive and it's so unusual for me to find people around me attractive. And honestly asking him for his number was terrifying too and I did it. And I think I would regret not meeting him at least once. I just try to focus on it being relaxed and funny and nice and even imagining texting while having coffee and it being fine.

It just feels so hard.

Anxiety is so hard.

#social anxiety #social anxious #dating #dating anxiety #thoughts #anxiety #social situations #language barrier

[joy-of-existing]

On one hand, I feel so seen and understood by this nerd-guy content about how no one sees them and they're struggling.

I always thought: yes, they're like me! That's my crowd! I like video games, actions movies, table top games and eating pizza, too!

But in the end I had to learn: they don't want me either. I am not even good enough for guys who act like they're desperate for connection and friends.

I was rejected by nerds with glasses who felt lonely all the time because I am not as good as other women and I have to think about that every time some scrawny commedian stands on stage, looking cute, and crying about how Stacy never liked him

#depression #mental health #venting #social anxiety #dating #dating anxiety

[evielouvre]

Dating makes me so anxious. I was completely fine with being alone until i starting things with this girl over tinder. all of a sudden, I can't function if she leaves me on seen/opened and I start doubting if they even still want to date me.

We been on one date which wasn't even a date. She went clubbing with her friends and I tagged along and ever since I've been trying to set something up but she's been busy. My anxiety is telling me they've lost interest and is seeing someone else while leading me on and I can't keep those thoughts out.

I sick and tired of being hurt and disappointed and let down. For once, I want date who wants to be with me.

#dating anxiety #personal vent #venting #vent #vent blog

[steriotypicaloutlaw]

How to go about actually getting a boyfriend (or girlfriend)?

Like, I'm on dating apps but everyone is either too far away or they're straight (and I don't wanna just be the subject of someone's fetish again). The few people I've talked to that seemed like they could be promising just slowly tapered off the conversations or one of us got too busy and the conversations just went nowhere because of it.

It's so frustrating... I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to communicating half the time on a good day let alone when it seems that people don't actually want to talk to me.

#dating #dating advice #dating anxiety #how to get a boyfriend #how to get a girlfriend

[momentswithjenny]

#introvert #introversion #introvert problems #social anxiety #dating tips #dating advice #dating #dating anxiety #dating apps #dating site and application

[devildomwriter]

Asmodeus is described as being a narcissist but I believe he just has some narcissistic tendencies because as someone who grew up with a narcissist aunt, I can tell you it’s so much different and more toxic.

#like she literally stole over 10k from our small family business #never got anyone birthday gifts #gave people unloaded gift cards #never stopped whining #always said she had specific disorders when I was the one who had them #literally my mom would get sick from the anxiety of being around her #needed to rant I fucking hate her #she honestly needs to be in jail #obey me shall we date #obey me asmodeus

[crybaby-bkg]

a slight continuation of this

no caller ID pops on your screen, pulling your attention away from your previous task at hand: not fucking up your eyeliner. you typically wouldn’t care if it was a little uneven, but you’re going on a date tonight, for the first time in so long, and you want everything to go as smoothly as possible.

which is why you groan when you end the call, and that same no caller ID pops right back up seconds later. you know who it is—who else would it be? you figured he’s already seen your story of being excited for going on your first date in a while, on the only app you hadn’t blocked him on. petty? perhaps, but it’s on him to be keeping up with you despite you cursing him out for wasting your time and then blocking him right after.

you watch it ring though, contemplating for a while longer than you should. you blocked him for a reason. no need to entertain his same shit that he always spews to you when he realizes that he might be losing you once more?

….but it doesn’t hurt to hear the hero beg for you.

“What do you want, Bakugou?” You sigh irritably as you finally answer his call, putting him on speaker as you go back to even out your eyeliner. You hear him huff on the other side of the phone at the use of his surname, but he doesn’t say anything about it, instead, quickly telling you what he’s been bothering you for.

“Who’s the fuckin’ loser that’s gonna drool over how good your tits look in that stupid green dress you love so much?” Bakugou grunts, and you instantly feel your face heating at his crude words. You glance over with a frown at that same green dress that makes your tits look good, where it hangs on your closet.

“None of your damn business, Bakugou.” You snap at him, wondering if it’s too late to find something else to wear. “Not like you ever took me out in my stupid green dress.” Your voice holds a level of bitterness that only he can bring out of you, and you hear his sigh through the speakers.

“I told you this before, I’m always—”

“Busy.” You cut him off, voice suddenly thick as you think back on the countless rejections he’s splattered at your feet every time you tried to further your relationship with him. “You reminded me of how busy you’ve been since you first started this whole situationship.”

“Situation—? Huh? We were dating!” Bakugou protests with a huff, and you can hear how he paces the floor quickly. You glare at your phone, setting down your liner to instead pick of your (his) favorite lipgloss.

“You’d have to ask me out to be dating, Bakugou. You’d have to court me to be dating, Bakugou. You’d have to make time for me and take me out on dates and not hide me to fucking date me, Bakugou.” You spit at him, venom dripping off of your lips in waves. You don’t know why you answered, why you even entertained him. You shake your head with a huff when the line goes quiet, eyebrows quirking up when your date sends you a text to make sure you’re still on for tonight.

“I’m sorry.” Bakugou mutters pathetically, his voice suddenly soft. You hesitate, for some reason, when it comes to texting your date back. Why do you always hesitate when Bakugou is around?

“Let me make it up to you, court you, and shit. I can take you to one of my favorite places, you can wear that pretty green dress and that gloss you know I love.” His voice is pleading, thickening and sweet and suffocating. You shouldn’t respond, should reply back a yes to your date.

“Please? You know how much you mean to me.” Bakugou mumbles, and you can hear the earnestness in his voice. Why haven’t you said yes to your date yet?

“I’ll do better this time. Just one more chance, sweetheart.” Bakugou’s voice is so soft, you’ve never heard him this vulnerable before. You sigh with a shake of your head, slumping back into your seat in defeat.

…

Sorry, I can’t make it tonight. Something came up. Maybe we can reschedule for another time?

#sorry this is kinda angsty lol #but I saw this tt earlier where this girl was so giddy bc ‘no caller id’ called LOL #and it just reminded me of the first part to this #at first he’s all ‘no we can’t date bc of xyz bullshit reason’ #but the moment you’re like ‘I’m done w this toxic back n forth we’re not even a couple’ #he’s like WE WERE TOGETHER THE WHOLE TIME!!!!! #delusion is what I like to call it #also he definitely takes you out to a place that’s very secluded and exclusive #to shut you up for the time being #the whole ‘at least I took you out!’ shtick #I hate him actually #but the toxic hate sex goes crazy ☝🏻 #okay gn I’m sleepy and I felt so shitty today #or yesterday #so I’m hoping today will be better #maybe I’ll mediate before I start on my work #I wanna go on a walk sometime this week bc it’s gonna be great weather but my anxiety keeps telling me #that one of the stray cats or foxes is gonna attack me AKSJDKDJDJD #omg does anyone remember me talking about that calico kitty in my backyard at one point??? #I haven’t seen her since and I hope she’s okay :( we miss her :( #—new treat in the streets! 🍫 #bakugou treats! 🍬

[armouries]

two meals

#beyond evil #fanart #somehow i manage to miss every anniversary ㅠㅠ #originally i wanted to do a series with every jwds food date! i'll finish the rest eventually ;;; #also hi ;;; im posting again hopefully - had a hectic end of 2022 traveling and just got back last month #but not drawing for months has really given me (even more) anxiety #i'm very happy to be here though! i'm just a shy lurker usually but this show and fandom have comforted me thru many a tiring day ~~

[lanshappycorner]

パチョフィンとフィンくん(18歳)🍥🐬がかわいいすぎる.........

#there is no ship better than ones where u date the guy that tried to kill u thats so peak tbh!!! #🫶🫶 ships where its like deranged guy x guy with anxiety 大好きです🫶🫶 #mashle #mashle magic and muscles #finn ames #carpaccio luo yang

[sainteddie]

i’m starting to think performance anxiety is a direct nod to careful what you wish for. 👀

#chimney was captain. and now we have a leadership arc. #eddie had to make a decision about what he wanted with shannon. now we have eddie dating (and a mention of his date’s partner leaving her) #maddie was struggling with not being able to hands on help people anymore. and now she’s going to likely be helping this girl with anxiety #in person #i’m unhinged. yet another season two callback. #i could kiss these writers on the mouth. #cass chats

[devourable]

hello! i'm new to your blog, and im honestly in love w/ all your yanderes, especially mykolas :)

if its okay with you, could i request some headcannons of how mykolas acts and looks, like what kind of traits he has?

💕💕

im so sorry this took for fucking ever for me to get to nonnie 😫 ik youre not new to my blog anymore but welcome!!! here's some hcs on the forest puppy for you

🌲 the beast • mykolas

· mykolas isn't any specific creature. he's kind of just his own thing with no real origin. he’s incredibly tall (over 8 feet with the antlers), bipedal digitigrade, glowing white eyes and a skull-like face, he definitely doesn't look like anything naturally occuring in nature either. some believe he's the offspring of a devil worshipper who was abandoned in the woods, others think he's some sort of werebeast who can't transform back into a human. mykolas himself has no clue either, and mostly responds with non-answers if you ask him about it.

· behavior wise? he honestly acts like a mix of domestic animals. he purrs like a cat, whines like a dog, throws little stompy tantrums like a bunny, all while being built like a tank lmfao. additionally, he’s VERY territorial after meeting you and will pick a fight with anything and anyone that invades the space he deems your home.

· before you, he wasn't really.. living. he just kind of existed, moving through each day without a sense of purpose. your existence grounds him and makes him feel alive, and that's why hes so obsessed with being by your side. he loves nothing more than cuddling you for hours on end, and being away from you gives him anxiety

· he DOES speak, but his english is pretty busted and his voice is rough from hardly being used. pronouns, adverbs, and adjectives are rare to hear from him and his grasp on grammar isn't the best. he doesn't mind if you teach him but he does get self conscious about it if you bring it up to him.

· he’s carnivorous, but he mostly eats fish because he doesn’t like the mess that hunting makes. trespassers are an exception to this.

· outside of the above, none of the tales that the people he lives near spun about him are true. he’s not a bloodthirsty beast, nor is he evil. he’s just lonely, and he’s not capable of fixing that on his own

#inbox | anons #🌲 mykolas #dating him is honestly kinda like dating a big pet with crazy separation anxiety #yandere x reader #yandere x you #yandere x oc #yandere headcanons #yandere oc #yandere terato #yandere teratophilia

[reputayswift]

Hate that I’m at an age where every hairdresser, dental hygienist, etc. asks me if I’m seeing anyone…as if finding someone whose beliefs, schedule, personality, and location are compatible with yours (all while being attractive AND attracted to you) isn’t like. a Herculean task.

#especially when you refuse to use dating apps and only leave the house for appointments and errands… #and I live in the Midwest so there’s nowhere to GO!!! #AND I (probably) HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY 😩 #sorry this is embarassing #tays takes

[mazzystar24]

Am I the only one who low-key loved that they showed:

1. Lucy’s anxiety induced blabber and Tim’s 😳 in the background - because I feel like while ppl were being like “oh that rant was so annoying and over the top” but in reality that rant is literally so accurate as a stream of thought of anxiety and overthinking , not only that I think the fact that this rant was included is so telling of their relationship because as someone with anxiety I can confirm that those types of thoughts STAY inside thoughts unless we are super comfortable with the person because WE ARE AWARE HOW UNHINGED AND IRRATIONAL WE SOUND

2. The chenford fight- when you have two mentally ill people in a relationship spoiler alert they will sometimes say shit they don’t mean and will sometimes screw up AND THATS OKAY AND REALISTIC like any mentally ill person will tell you that when they are spiralling, almost always they will unintentionally take it out on the person closest to them or who is supporting them the most and that’s not because they actually want to it’s more so that their brain subconsciously knows that that’s a safe target that they can be a bit of a screw up with them and they won’t stop loving them, this is literally the most common example of displacement (trust me I’m a psych student🤓,jk jk fr tho this is an actual thing)

Like when I heard initially that chenford would have issues this season I was so worried the writers would pull that old cliche of making stupid out of character drama that made no sense and felt inorganic but THIS this is so good to see how anxiety can affect a relationship and eventually how they get over that obstacle and it came out in a way that felt very realistic and in character

#chenford #lucy chen #tim bradford #the rookie #the lucy haters are just a bunch of mentally well adjusted people who haven’t had or dated someone with anxiety #Lucky bastards😔 #but alas the girlies who get it FELT THIS EPISODE SM #like I said this on someone’s post already but like the girlies with anxiety have all been Lucy in one situation or another #so we completely see both sides and understand how real this is to have as a relationship obstacle #like seriously tho this wasn’t exaggerated or like stupid it was just how anxiety is and yes it’s irrational and bad but guess what #THATS LITERALLY WHAT ANXIETY IS #like it wouldn’t be anxiety if it was nice and rational and calm #anyways as others said go stream afterglow

[koos-kave]

💙💛🧡💚💖❤️💜

The demon brothers with a main character (MC) with social anxiety

(bulleted headcanons on how each brother would react to an MC with social anxiety.) Gender neutral. MC is the reader. Slightly implied yandere (Belphie). Can be taken as platonic or romantic relationships.

Lucifer: 

•At first he assumed you were simply shaken up by suddenly being forced to adapt to life in a new realm.

•He knew humans were slow to adapt to new environments.

•The second one to notice there’s something… off about you.

•The way you froze up whenever anyone tried to talk to you.

•How you would always find a reason to quickly excuse yourself from any situation that required social interaction.

•He would go out of his way to help you with your schoolwork so you didn’t have to ask the instructors for help.

•He does everything he can to minimize the amount of interactions you have to have with others, but he’ll occasionally push you out of your comfort zone.

•He’ll be sure to reward you if you manage to successfully interact with one of your peers.

•He’s surprisingly soft with you, it’s probably because he thinks you’re extremely fragile. 

Mammon:

•He thought you were too enamored by his greatness to hold a proper conversation.

•The last to notice something is wrong with you. (Satan eventually points it out to him.)

•Mammon tries realllllyyy hard to look into this anxiety thing…

•Meaning he read half of an article and considered himself an expert on the matter.

•Will drag you to all kinds of parties to try and see if exposure can help ease your fear.

•He does all of the talking for you!

•He speaks up for you, advocating for you when you can’t find the courage to do so yourself.

•You’re his human, so it’s the least he can do…

•It’s not like he finds your shyness adorable!

•H-he doesn’t like you, not one bit!

Leviathan: 

•Knows almost immediately.

•He takes you under his wing.

•You share your little victories with each other.

•He thinks you’re just like one of his favorite anime characters.

•He feels like he can be brave when he’s near you, so expect him to hold your hand tightly when he’s advocating for you!

•You both support the other.

•He listens intently about all of your interests, they’ll soon become his own.

•He truly respects and admires you.

•Expect to become an anime fan of you aren’t already one…

•He understands your struggles, and willingly allows you to come to his sanctuary and unwind with Henry even if he’s not home. He trusts you that much.

Satan:

•Oh, he’s going to enjoy this.

•”What’s wrong, MC, cat got your tongue?”

•He eventually realizes your problem is a bit more severe than he was expecting.

•…You weren’t just shy, you must have a serious case of social anxiety.

•He will be a shoulder to lean on, but be warned, he will push you out of your comfort zone much more often compared to Lucifer.

•He celebrates the small victories.

•He finds you adorable, perhaps even comparing you to a cat.

•He does his best to control his temper around you.

•He would never forgive himself if he scared you away…

•Tell him if someone is bullying you. He can make sure this person doesn’t bother you again.

•Like Lucifer, he will help you with your studies.

•He leaves little notes of encouragement in your room, they always make you smile after a particularly rough day.

‘You’re doing great, MC.

I truly believe you’ve been making progress.

Oh, today I saw a cute pair of cat socks and they reminded me of you.

Check under the bed.’

•That day you found a pair of fuzzy cat socks under your bed.

Asmodeus: 

•”I know I take your breath away, but please talk to me…”

•”Ugh! You’re such a tease, you’re driving me crazy!”

•”I give you permission to speak to the most gorgeous demon in hell, me!”

•He is the second to last to realize something is wrong.

•First he thinks you’re intimidated by his beauty. (How could anybody not be~?)

•Next he assumes you’re barely talking to him just to be annoying.

•When realization hits, he feels absolutely ashamed of himself.

•He makes up for being so ignorant by doting over you.

•He… eventually realizes you don’t exactly like all of the extra attention…

•Like Mammon, he drags you to different clubs and parties to try and help expose you to social interaction.

•He introduces you to some friends of his that also struggle with anxiety. (Leviathan is one of them.)

•He’s the king of hyping you up, he compliments you constantly.

•”You ARE enough! Everyone will love you, and if they don’t… well, you have the most stunning demon in the Devildom by your side~!”

Beelzebub:

•He isn’t quick to catch on, only because he doesn’t really worry about what you act like. 

•He doesn’t let the fact you have social anxiety change his opinion about you.

•He’s not big on talking either, so you both find it easy to hang out together.

•He knows when you’re having a rough day. Expect a surprise hug if you’re having a rough day.

•He’ll take you out to eat if you’ve been making progress working on your anxiety, when you ask him why he sometimes takes you out to eat he smiles softly and shrugs.

•He never admits to knowing about your social anxiety, and he never brings up your social skills. 

•He’ll give you tickets to his sports match, knowing it’s a good chance for you to practice socializing.

•He’s always down for holding your hand or cuddling you if you ask.

•He doesn’t expect anything in return for subtly helping you, he just wants to see you happy.

•He will stand behind you like a bodyguard when he notices anyone picking on you. 

Belphegor (No attic in this case for convenience purposes):

•He teases you, borderline bullying you for being shy.

•When he realizes you actually have major social anxiety he doesn’t treat you any better, if anything the harassment becomes more frequent.

•You’re too scared to tell anybody about what Belphegor is doing to you. 

•One day a lower demon is bullying you for being unable to hold a proper conversation with him.

•He makes sure the lower demon knows that you’re his human, it’s his job to make your life hell. If anybody dares try to bully you they will face the consequences.

•Belphegor eventually decides to just walk you to school, escort you between classes, sit next to you at lunch, walk you back home, and even join all of the clubs you’re in- it’s easiest to make sure nobody is bothering you if he becomes your living shadow.

•Sometimes you swear you can see him smiling at you…

•He likes to nap beside you.

•He could never like a human.

•He’s just keeping you to himself so he has more time to harass you, right…?

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Thank you so much for reading these headcanons!

I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors, I’m the kind of person that jots things down quickly. That does mean that I rarely bother to check for mistakes.

I would love to hear some requests 💕 Feel free to leave random Obey Me thoughts in my requests too, I’ll share my personal thoughts on them!

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