#Helping a Friend

[mimble-sparklepudding]

Little OC Creation Ask List

I am trying to help a friend with their creative block around creating a FFXIV OC. So I thought I might try putting together a quick Ask List on the topic and maybe they would find people's responses helpful. Also it might be interesting to learn about how people approach the creative process!

How did you decide on the sex and/or gender of your OC? Was it important that it was the same as yours? Or the same as what you personally find attractive? Or did it not make much difference either way?

To what degree is your OC a self-insert? Are they in any way an aspirational version of yourself? Or perhaps a way to explore feelings and behaviours you suppress in yourself?

Is it important to you that you "like" your OC (as in consider them likeable)? Or is it more important to create a distinctive character, even if they are unpleasant or evil?

Do what degree did you intend your OC to be canon-compliant? Did you end up sticking to this or did you veer off into unforeseen territory over time?

How important is it to you that your OC is attractive? Does that mean attractive to you personally (sexually or just for purposes of playing dress-up!)? Or do you aim to make an OC over which others will inevitably thirst?

To what degree do you use the OC creation process as a way of exploring your own strengths and flaws?

Is your OC based upon another character or person? Or aspects of several? Is this just in terms of their appearance? Or also their personality?

Do you create the OC first and then the backstory? Or do you have a backstory lined up and then create an OC that will fit this?

Have you ever retconned your OC's story or situation? What inspired this? Did you just fancy a change? Or were you bored with them as they were? Or did you regret your decisions on first creating them?

To what extent does your OC function as a mouthpiece for your own views when it comes to describing their opinions or reactions? Do you quite like exploring how someone with very different values to your own might respond to a situation?

What is your main focus when creating an OC - making a character for yourself and your own enjoyment? Or do you try to create a character that will be popular with others or attract a lot of attention?

How much importance do you attach to humour when creating a character? Are there inevitably comic elements? Or are you more focused upon angst or drama?

Does your OC need to be believable (within the context of the fictional world in which you place them)? Or are you more interested in pushing the boundaries of what you can invent?

How do you want other people to view or react to your OC?

Is there anything you regret about how you designed your OC or their backstory?

Do you have the same OC (broadly speaking) across multiple fandoms or settings?

Did you design your OC with a specific aspect of RP in mind? Such as shipping, NSFW things, attending in-game social events, hosting events or entertaining others?

Has anyone ever reacted badly to your OC? Why was this?

Do you want other people to become invested in your OC? What would this look like ideally?

Is it important to ensure your OC has flaws or negative traits? Or do you try to make an idealised character as far as possible?

Do you want or enjoy your OC having in-game interactions with other people's characters? Or do you prefer to keep things more distant (like Ask Games on Tumblr!)? Or is your OC private and just for you?

How do you feel about others making art of your OC or writing about them? Do you feel like you need to vet their creative process? Or does anything go?

Was there a location in-game that inspired your OC (like Ishgard or Hingashi etc.)?

Was there something in the MSQ or even a side-questline, that inspired you to create them? Perhaps meeting the Sylphs or the Namazu? Or visiting the Unsundered World? Or even something to do with crafting or gathering?

To what extent does their appearance in game match your vision of them creatively? Are there things you wish you could change about them in this regard? Or possibly do, if you knew of a way to do so...

Do you have a voice claim for your OC? Did you have this before you did anything else? Or did you decide on it later?

Which OCs that are not yours do you most admire? What is it about that character that you find impressive or engaging?

To what extent have other people's OC influenced your own? Perhaps in the sense of inspiring your ideas? Or giving you "permission" to create a character you might not otherwise have done? Perhaps a lore-breaking one, or an overtly sexy one, or a self-insert, or a villainous one etc?

What do you try to avoid when creating an OC? Are these things you dislike in other people's OCs? Or purely your own personal preference?

What is your favourite thing about your OC or OCs? Is there something about them of which you are particularly proud?

To what extent does it matter that you are being "original" when you create an OC? Or is it OK to base them on an existing character or celebrity, so long as you enjoy it?

If you're stuck for ideas when creating an OC, what do you do to inspire yourself? (if you never have this problem, then what would you advise to someone that did!)

Is there an OC you would love to create in-game, but currently you are unable to do so, perhaps because that race is not playable or that sex is unavailable (hello female Hrothgar)?

How many OCs do you currently have? If you have multiple OCs then how different are they from each other? How often do you create new ones?

What things do you most want to see in someone's OC? Or what do you always find the most interesting? Or stimulating, if you're in that sort of mood?

#ffxiv oc #ffxiv ask game #oc creation #helping a friend #creative process #ffxiv wol #ffxiv character creation #ffxiv #ff14 ffxiv #final fantasy xiv #ff14 #final fantasy 14

[freshiegayboi]

HERES THE DEAL

if you go to this post here it will explain things: https://www.tumblr.com/absurdmageart/734536181612724224/my-kofi-link-httpsko-ficomabsurdmageart?source=share

here's my contribution

for every ten dollars donated to @absurdmageart (and i WILL be keeping track!) one of these fics will be updated! it may take a little bit, but ALL of them will be updated as they are funded, people who donate 10 dollars or more feel free to mention which fic youd like updated, or send me a message saying which, if any! if not it'll just be in order. that's on top of the art you'd be getting from Mage!

this is NOT for me

this is for Mage, who hasnt deserved the shit they've dealt with this year

lets help them out!

under the cut is a synopsis and link to all the fics on the bingo, have fun! (also i will be doubling up on fics, no worries lol)

hearing the mission bell - Mutt/Reader fic where Mutt has a daughter who is kidnapped

so many snacks, so little time - Gaster is a Symbiote fic, also Gaster/Reader

A Golden Sword - Medieval Bad Sans Poly fic, Cross centric

Bits and Pieces - Serial killer/Crime novelist Kedgeup fic

If I had You - Ghost!Reader/Underfell Bros fic

Safe House - Red is rescued from a forced prostitution ring

Giving Your Cards Away - Little!Slim with Caregiver!Edge and Spicymaple

The Reset Fallacy - Undertale bros become Underfell bros the fic

Downplaying Fear - Gaster harem/Reader

Turning Out - Spicyhoney Pokemon crossover

Blank Shot - Spicykustard+Mapleketchup philanthropist/hitman AU

Subjugation - Edge/Reader fluff fic

Imperial - Cherryblossom medieval fic

Sloppy Seconds - Angsty Spicyhoney fic

Carry Me - Horrorfell bros/Reader fic

Harried and Torn - Spicykustardpuff the fic

Garish - Swapfell bros/Reader hurt/comfort

Disconcerted - Kedgeup teacher AU

Fish in the Sea - Purple Swapfell Bros/Reader the fic

Sparks and Wires - Spicyhoney Android!Honey AU

#fresh babbles #fresh writes #undertale #helping a friend #go! share the og post if you cannot donate! #fontcest

[theaskywalker]

Imagine being a friendly vampire who is angry at the way Doctor Finkelstein treats Sally and helps her escape her confinement

Masterlist

#nightmare before christmas #sally skellington #sally x reader #sally skellington imagine #stop motion animation #tim burton #imagines #nightmare before christmas imagines #halloween town #spooky season #witch hazel #deadly nightshade #vampire reader #helping a friend #escape

[klein-sodor-bahn]

Emergency commission by a friend!

My dear friend @muffinmanofsodor was just forced to open Commissions because they desperately need the money otherwise they will face major consequences.

Please at least consider liking and reblogging this. Payment is upfront for safety reasons. They really need the money and that’s the least I can do.

#not my commission sheet!!! #emergency #emergency commissions #pls check it out #pls reblog #helping a friend #ttte edit #3d modling #ttte models

[blueiskewl]

Helping a Friend

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day!

#2022 russian invasion of ukraine #2022 russia-ukraine news #ukraine #russia #puppy #friends #four-legged friends #helping a friend #animals #animal friends #pets #pets lover #adorable pets #breakfast #cute #sweet #3adorable #peace #peace for all #peace for ukraine

[dannidarkness]

Help?

My girlfriend's best friend is in a housing situation that is not good for their health nor the other housemates' health. So, I'm trying to help raise funds to get them back to their family in Washington state. I'm hoping to raise $2k but if I hit $1.5k I'd be happy and extremely grateful! We're hoping to raise the funds by May. If you can help message me. Please and thank you!!

P.S. I realize this might not be the best way to ask but I've never done anything like this before so I wasn't sure what to do. I appreciate your patience with me though. @potorch

My girlfriend reminded me to add my PayPal https://paypal.me/dannibowen

#relocation #raising funds #helping a friend #send help #helping #moving #toxic environment #toxicity #potorch #mutual aid

[nw-365]

Kind of an advertisement, more helping a friend.

Hey Y'all, one of my friends are opening a gofund me/commission thing to help save up for their dog's surgery. Not sure how much this is gonna help by putting this in this here, but as much help as possible would be amazing./nf/gen

More infos in the link and such.

Thank you.

#gofundme #help #donations #dog #helping a friend #Cafédrops #Mocha's surgery #pet surgery #potential donors outreach

[affymoon]

Hey y'all

It's been a while but I seriously need help from all of y'all. My friend's family is 20K$ in debt and is struggling to support his family. Please! If you can, donate to this Kofi page. He's even making art for as many donators as possible and plans to make a comic for only 5$ for a randomly selected winner.

#donations #help! #request #financial issues #helping a friend #donate if you can #please reblog #please help #art raffle #ko fi #ko fi link #please consider donating #art #help an artist #art tag #ask to tag #please share

[shera-dnd]

My good friend @greyvs (who also happens to beta read and edit my fics) recently caught covid

So I want all y'all to send her some love and wish her a speedy recovery

My girl really needs the boost

#self indulgence #covid #helping a friend #don't worry I'm sending her love too

[dreamtigress]

Help for DragonMakr & Emma

I won't often post things like this, but a dear friend's kitty, Emma, is going through painful mystery medical issues. Any little bit would help. Please take a look and share if possible. I'd appreciate it. https://gofund.me/84ce12bc

#EmmaKitty #cats #pets #crowdfunding #medical mystery #helping a friend

[citrusandbones]

#poll #tumblr polls #polls #helping a friend

[balanceworks]

Ideas on helping a friend with depression

I have a friend who reached out and said they were feeling down and so I wanted to speak to them and try and help.

I am lucky to know a counsellor and so I called for advice - the below are the notes I took from my conversation.

Capturing here, as hoping this might help someone else in this situation.

Try to start the conversations by not making any assumptions about what might be wrong and just listen.

Its important to know that you are not a counsellor (you are a friend) so you can help but you probably won't be able to fix things.

Let them do most of the talking - create space for them- don't try and give ideas on solutions too soon - instead reflect back what you are hearing and empathise with them.

Let them know its very normal to feel like this.

Encourage them to go and see their doctor - they will be able to properly asses how they are and if medication and/or counselling could help.

You could use or encourage them to use diagnosis tools - like one available on NHS. This could help them understand their current position and encourage them to get help from a doctor.

Don't be afraid to ask them if they are having suicidal thoughts - I was advised, there is no link between asking someone this and them actually carrying out suicide (here is a paper I found on the topic). But by asking you could encourage them to talk to a their doctor and/or the Samaritans.

If their doctor suggests counselling then it may take some time for a no cost counsellor to become available - the doctor will probably suggest local charities etc that have groups etc to support people dealing with mental health challenges - charities like Mind.

If you do end up offering some friendly advice - be led by them, if you sense that they are seeing the advice or suggested next steps as positive then go with it. It really depends on their mental state whether they will be ready to take on advice and action it, so just feel it out.

The key is to listen, create space for them, encourage them to get professional help and be there as a friend regularly checking in on them - but not taking it all on yourself to solve their challenges.

Hope this list helps.

#helping a friend #dealing with anxiety #dealing with depression #samaritains

[freshiegayboi]

heres your second chance to get "The Underfell Brothers get service animals"!!

every 10 dollars someone donates to @absurdmageart will be 1000 words on the oneshot!! if we get over 50$ ill make it a twoshot, and so on! heres Mage's Kofi

if you cant donate (which fair), please go share their original post here! https://www.tumblr.com/absurdmageart/736186085241192448/my-kofi-link-httpsko-ficomabsurdmageart?source=share

#fresh babbles #helping a friend #underfell papyrus #underfell sans

[crewdlydrawn]

Hey y’all—

Someone extremely dear to me needs help, and I’m not in a position where I can help, financially.

So tell you what.

For every proof of donation, I will offer a traditional art commission slot.

Every donation, regardless of size, will get a commission—though of course I’ll try to give money’s worth as best I can!

Examples below:

#gofundme #signal boost #art commissions #helping a friend #linked post #my post

[phantomyre]

Lost home to fire - Christmas Eve

I rarely do this, but a friend of mine lost their home during Christmas Eve to a fire. I'm assisting with the donations, but if anyone also has any connections/ suggestions to get other support, that would be greatly appreciated, too. Even if you’re not able to help with donations, just sharing this post would be much appreciated. Link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/family-home-lost-in-christmas-eve-fire?member=24085125&sharetype=teams&utm_campaign=p_na+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer

#gofundme #charity #lost home #christmas #helping a friend