#cluster b prejudice

[cume-as-a-calmcumber]

Amazing how many empaths like to point at people and scream 'narcissist!' at anyone for any reason, like can you not feel everyone around you cringe inside at your ableism?

#im not fakeclaiming anyone but fr you show yourselves in more than one light with that bullshit #empathy #empaths #cluster b prejudice #ableists dni #ableist bullshit

[sanguinolencyandscriptitations]

The internet has no grasp on what NPD actually is and just loves how the word "narcissist" sounds so much that it's become a buzzword applicable to anybody remotely abusive or toxic regardless of how far they fall from anywhere close to the diagnostic criteria

#it's a personality disorder #there's no such thing as “bad person disorder” #you can't just go around calling every nasty piece of shit you encounter recognised mental disorders #everyone's a mental health advocate until it comes to cluster b disorders #no you don't deserve to be treated like a person you have bad person disorder #txt post #txt #mental health #cluster b #not even that it's more like “no you don't deserve to be treated like a person you have bad person” #like they're unwilling to even call it a disorder they prefer to act like you just chose to be that way to justify their own prejudices #cluster b disorders deserve therapy safe spaces and advocacy too #mine

[theprotagonistisdead]

my teacher was talking about how popular getting a degree in psychology has gotten in recent years, but that he couldn't figure out why. and I think that's an interesting thought, so pondered a bit. One of the possibilities is that people are recognizing that there aren't enough psychiatrists/therapists and people are struggling to find someone who'll treat them. Another option is that, at least in Germany (where we live), some of the qualifications have lowered and more people are able to get into a program. The last (and my least favorite) is that through all the armchair psychology that is happening online (especially on TikTok), a lot of people are flocking towards these programs, not knowing what is expecting them.

#Also I feel like a lot of the people coming from tiktok will have a lot of prejudices against certain ilnesses/disorders #especially cluster b types which will be VERY negative #and I'm not saying that everything on tiktok about this topic is bad #but a lot of people are going around diagnosiing others with disorders and illnesses based on what is basically a single glance #of a very faceted person and their life #and I'm not against all self-diagnosis but this is happening more and more and it's not good #reporting live from circe's island

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

“i fail to understand how autistic people are simultaneously seen as struggle w empathy and have a strong sense of justice” said as if it’s a gotcha. look at these these silly silly ignorant neurotypicals contradicting themselves 🙃

hi i am autustic i have no empathy i also have a so called “strong sense of justice.” we exist. what you say is not a gotcha. it just shows how shallow of an understanding of autism is.

if you’re an autistic w high empathy, great! stop punching down at autistic w low empathy or people w low empathy in general.

are you saying people with low empathy don’t have a sense of justice? that we don’t know right from wrong? people with low empathy are incapable of justice? people w low empathy are always criminals or bigoted? that we should just all be locked up? because even if you never explicitly said that, your rhetoric aligns with the rest of people who perpetuate ableism at autistics with low empathy and people w cluster b personality disorders. it can easily be extended.

people need to learn the difference between empathy, sympathy, and compassion.

also, a strong sense of justice isn’t even a great way to put it. autistics online in social justice circles throw this around as if autistics are immune to propaganda and prejudice. as if autistics are always good and pure.

overwhelming amount of incels are autistic men (esp those who is/would be diagnosed as having asperger’s).

strong sense of justice just means many of us, when we believe something, we believe something very strongly. similar to how when we like something, we like something very strongly (special interest). when we feel something, we feel something very strongly (or the opposite).

if your only experience w autistic people are autistic people who are late dx, lower support needs, speaking, and **in social justice circles with the same belief as you**, you can’t reach a conclusion about all of autism based on this very narrow experience of autistic people.

#actually autistic #actuallyautistic #low empathy #autism #autistic #loaf screm

[leighbaylee]

🖤 ₊˚⊹ — eldest daughter of the malfoy family (1)

parring ➵ draco malfoy x sibling f!reader

summary ➵ family portraits with your little shit of a younger brother.

age of parring ➵ 16 - 18

warnings ➵ fluff

extra ➵ might become a multi - part series, but don’t take my word for it. reader’s middle name is named after bellatrix. thanks to @cafekitsune for banners! second chapter here.

here you were in the manor, in your large but dull gloomy dark room. subtle touches of your personal belongings scattered all about.

you’ve gotten news from your father, lucius, that the family was gonna retake yet another family portrait, it would’ve bugged you then but it happened every year. so what could’ve you done?

you were touching up your hair, defining your blowout and pining it up in a nice up - do, as your mother, narcissa, requested. you applied your favorite lipstick/lipgloss before you heard footsteps approaching.

you looked through the reflection of the mirror on your vanity as you added your desired pair of earrings, some bracelets, and layering some necklaces. the final touch being a matching ring you had with draco.

it was a simple stacking ring, engraved with your full first name, middle inital, following with the complete last name on it. you had a matching one with draco.

DRACO L. MALFOY — Y/N B. MALFOY

the baby of the family, who has grown to a young man, walked in without knocking. you clicked your tongue in annoyance, draco got the memo.

❝ m-may i come in? ❞

❝ you are already in. ❞ you scoffed softly, noticing the scowl on his face.

❝ sorry. ❞ he said blandly, you replied saying ❝ don’t worry about it dray, i need your help anyway. ❞

you sat up, walking up to a full length mirror in the left corner of your bedroom, draco following behind.

you fixed any sort of crimple and wrinkle on your dress whatsoever with a whip of your wand.

you presented yourself with a elongated black maxi dress, with a slit on the left side revealing your leg, the bust lined with black lace detailing, the same detailing of the thin straps.

you sported a pair of black crystal covered pointy toe high heels, a beautiful glamorous black cluster crystal on top of it. it was from a muggle high - end store, something along the lines of jimmy choo.

you ran your hands every curve, admiring yourself and catching a glimpse of your dark mark on your left arm, running your hand up and down the same arm.

as you did so, you were unaware of what draco was thinking.

draco malfoy, disliked by his fellow peers in the same year, most in a complete different house, known for his undeniable prejudice toward blood status.

one thing he was also known for was you, and he knew that of course.

anytime anyone would look, speak, or even breathe around you, he would always and constantly eye them.

he would clench his fist anytime someone would utter a bad mouth about you and disregard you as a person. no matter who it was, he would walk past and shove them so hard on purpose with no hesitation.

he absolutely hated people who would do so, cause you usually never did anything to anyone. back when he was a second year, you being in your third year, when the heir of slytherin was petrifying muggle borns, he never heard the end of it with the accusations of you being the heir.

reconnecting with the present, he looked at you lovingly with his hands in his blazer pockets. how he blazingly loved his older sister. every little thing you did, he always and never thought you weren’t the best at.

❝ you look beautiful sister. ❞ he said softly.

❝ you really think so? don’t you think its too much? ❞

he chuckled responding spontaneously with, ❝ too much or too little, you always look gorgeous. ❞

❝ oh i love you so much brother. ❞ you sighed placing you hands on his face kissing his forehead, being able to easier because of the shoes you were wearing.

you grabbed you favorite purfume, spritzing some on your wrists, collarbones, behind your ears. then spraying some near draco, giggling as he waved his arms coughing trying to prevent getting a feminine fragrance from attaching to his clothing.

❝ let’s be on our way now, mother and father have been holding up long enough. ❞ you ordered.

he enterwined his arm with yours eyeing down at your shoes, being patient with you as you have a disadvantage of walking quickly.

the both of you reached the hallway, sounds of clicking and clacking shoes echoed throughout the halls. draco was talking about the new school year at hogwarts approaching, to say he was displeased would be understatement.

the both of you kept walking til you guys reached the wall full with frames of family pictures. from the moment lucius and narcissa were engaged, their wedding ceremony, your birth, draco’s birth, both of you and draco’s first year at hogwarts ; and so on.

one picture caught your attention, you grimaced.

it was when you were starting in your fifth year and draco in his forth. the thing that bothered you so much was you short hair phase and short your dress was. it was way to provocative for a sixteen year old.

listen your hair would’ve been so adorable if you have gotten layers but oh well.

❝ oh my god. i looked ghastly! ❞ you almost shrieked.

❝ i cannot believe you let your little brother walk out like that. ❞ uttered draco disapprovingly.

it then turned into a five minute rambling of you calling your younger brother cute and squealing at his undefined face back when he was eleven.

draco only flushed and continued letting his older sister call him names he hasn’t been called in years, he was pulling on your dress mumbling for you to quit it.

unknowingly to the both of you, narcissa was watching her eldest daughter and baby son holding hands and giggling at each other’s portraits, telling stories of the days each portrait was taken.

how it made her happy knowing draco had you watching over him and growing up with a role model, regardless of the both of you growing up, you and draco will always be her children.

❝ draco, y/n, it’s time to get going. your father and aunt bellatrix are getting impatient. ❞

❝ sorry mother.❞ the both of you said in unison, quickly walking to in front of her.

narcissa stood on his tip toes, even with heels on, and kissed draco and you on the cheek, caressing her towering children as she smiled at.

❝ cmon now, run along! ❞

draco quickly ran to narcissa’s left side as you stayed on her right, both of you simultaneously wrapping your arms around hers and made your way out to the center of the manor.

lucius checked his watch groaning at the fact that his children are almost twenty minutes late to the shoot.

bellatrix cleared her throat impatiently, she had to meet with the dark lord in an hour, she wouldn’t be able to unless her niece and nephew were aware of the time.

nacrissa came in with a smile, one that both her sister and husband noticed in a heartbeat.

❝ narcissa, where is y/n and draco? ❞ asked lucius asked blandly, bellatrix glanced wanting to know.

before narcissa could answer, you and draco came in, making unnecessary fixes to your hair and outfits, holding out a compact mirror in front of the both of you.

❝ oh, my beautiful niece! you really outdid yourself, come here my sweet! ❞ bellatrix cooed as you smiled and closed the compact, walking up to her.

kisses were being plastered all over your face, lucius signaling draco to come up to his father.

draco went up and watched as his father fixed his tie silently chuckling at the sight of his beautiful daughter all dolled up.

❝ sorry father, it was my fault draco was late. i would’ve been at lot earlier if i hadn’t kicked him out of my room. ❞ you exclaimed softly.

❝ that’s quiet alright y/n, i should’ve known it takes young ladies a quite amount of time to prepare themselves. ❞ he grabbed your arm reassuringly.

❝ you know where to go, take the lead draco, y/n. ❞

you and draco obliged and went down to the living room and sat together in a forest green velvet vintage lounge chair holding hands, as the adults stood behind.

a couple of pictures, mixing it up quite often, it was finally the malfoy children portraits.

sitting down, standing up, backsides, and many serious and some smiling pictures later, the both of you hugged and you reminded draco how much you appreciated him.

the both of you snapped back into reality facing the wizarding world equivalent of a camera in surprise as a flash blinded the both of you, laughing at the moment that would make this yearly family portrait tradition memorable.

୨⎯ 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡 ⎯୧

#harry potter #harry potter and the halfblood prince #harry potter x sister reader #sister reader #older sister #older sister reader #draco malfoy #draco malfoy x sister reader #younger draco malfoy #draco malfoy x f!reader #draco malfoy x reader #narcissa malfoy #bellatrix lestrange #draco lucius malfoy #lucius malfoy #mina leigh #leighbaylee

[trans-axolotl]

for anon asking about NPD/ASPD resources

For context, anon sent in an ask searching for nonstigmatizing resources for support with PD diagnoses and other stigmatized diagnoses.

And this is such a good ask--it is so fucking frustrating and dehumanizing to try to search for support when half the stuff that pops up is using really cruel language or just directed towards family and friends. The community definitely deserves better, both when it comes to the way psych professionals perpetuate stigma and in regards to the prejudice and sanism that shows up in other communities in our lives. Unfortunately, I don't have a ton of resources on hand, although I do know one good support group. The rest of the resources I know of are kind of mediocre or not PD specific, so if other people could add on I would really, really appreciate it!

Neuromancers runs a discord and a Cluster B peer support group that I've heard really good things about. I haven't been myself, so I can't 100 % vouch, but they're a group with abolitionist and mad pride values.

This might not be exactly what you're looking for, but it's an article exploring cultural bias in PD diagnosis that links to a lot of sources that talk about how psychiatry contributes to stigma around personality disorders. I clicked through some of the studies that it links to and it does use a lot of medicalized language, but I thought I would link the article anyway in case it's ever helpful to have academic sources to show to other people.

Also not exactly what you're looking for, but another article debunking some of the common talking points about NPD in pop psychology (Content warning that it is discussing some very ableist myths in the context of challenging them)

Last sort of general resources for peer support that I have some trust that they are PD friendly are the Wildflower Alliance and Hearing Voices Network Groups. Wildflower alliance groups offer a lot of different general peer support and I have one friend with NPD who has spoken positively of those spaces. Hearing Voices Network groups can vary a lot depending on location, so defintely plan to email ahead, but I've been to a few groups that welcome people who generally identify as psych survivors/mad/ex patients who want to share community spaces around those values. Also want to share is the neurodivergent friendly workbook of DBT skills (the link is to buy it directly from the creator but if anyone who is interested can't afford it rn, dm me and I'll send you a pdf.) Again, I know this is really not super relevant to what you asked for but is one of the less stigmatizing, less medicalizing workbooks I can find for accessing info about coping skills and this is one of my general favorite support resources.

Overall I'm really sorry that I don't have better resources to offer you, and I think that really should be a sign to the mad pride/psych abolition/peer support community that we need to do a lot better job in making sure that our spaces are explicitly welcome to people with stigmatized PD diagnoses. The work shouldn't have to be on you to try to navigate these spaces and figure out whether or not you're welcome, and any spaces that offer peer support, are aligned with mad pride and psych abolition, really should be doing the work to make sure lateral violence and sanism aren't being perpetuated.

followers, esp followers with lived experience, please add on!

#antipsych #psych abolition #mad studies #mad pride #cluster b #npd #aspd #spent a bit of time looking through my clinical databases as well but could not easily find any articles #that weren't fucking awful #also to clarify: i have lived experience being diagnosed with a cluster b personality disorder #but don't currently identify with that diagnosis or really interact in a lot of pd specific spaces or know #tons about what community preferences and community consensus on things r #so this is def something where i would love input from people with relevant lived experience!

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

i don't know. trauma is a funny thing. i can look at myself. i have no trauma. but the doctor's notes have it in clear black and white, speculation that bullying helped to develop cluster b traits. how can bullying do that to you? it was verbal, not physical. the only time it got physical was the other way around. odd that i don't precisely remember what happened. all i know is that i snapped - i remember some of it. not all. and then the other girls made me go to the school counselor. i remember in year ten one of the boys punched one of the others five times, he got five days suspension. i don't think i threw a punch. but i might have. still, i got nothing. i was the good kid, the girl who got praise and all at school. but teachers rebuked me at times. misunderstandings, invisible rules. i never knew which rules were bendable and which weren't. so i stayed inside the rules. one of the teachers said at the end of year twelve that it was a pleasure watching me grow up from a timid five year old to a confident young woman. i wonder sometimes, if my teachers guessed anything. occasionally i want to contact one of the teachers, a motherly old dear who i loved and respected and hardly anyone else did, so i tried to be good in her classes. i understood their frustrations, but she didn't deserve it. that was just the way she taught. sometimes i want to contact her, and tell her. i had an eating disorder during school. did you ever know? or since i left school, i've tried to kill myself three times. did you expect that? or to go to my english teacher. we loved talking about pride and prejudice. or were you just suffering me? maybe i'd ask all my teachers. was i as obnoxious as i felt? but if i wasn't then, i am now. see, i don't think the bullying broke me like that. i think it was just an excuse for the brokenness to show up. i've kind of been broken from before birth; my mother nearly died carrying and delivering me. may have attachment issues; yeah. i think my abundance of affection was a way of trying to hide it, the way i've always been.

#personal #tw sh #tw suicide

[fearofahumanplanet]

I wrote a little essay about Cluster B personality disorders a while ago, it was going to be in Serpents but probably isn't anymore and some people have asked me for it, so here it is in its own post (TW for discussion of ableism, ofc):

There are four Cluster B personality disorders – the supposedly “dramatic cluster”.

Antisocial personality disorder is defined in the DSM by a failure to conform to social norms and laws, indicated by repeatedly engaging in illegal activities; deceitfulness, indicated by continuously lying, using aliases, or conning others for personal gain and pleasure; exhibiting impulsivity or failing to plan ahead; irritability and aggressiveness, indicated by repeatedly getting into fights or physically assaulting others; reckless behaviors that disregard the safety of others; irresponsibility, indicated by repeatedly failing to consistently work or honor financial obligations; and a lack of remorse after hurting or mistreating another person.

What the DSM does not mention is the numb-to-missing emotions and chronic emptiness an antisocial person feels. What it does not mention is that almost all research of antisocial personality disorder has been conducted with convicted criminals – often violent. What the DSM does not disclose is its prejudice.

Borderline personality disorder is defined in the DSM by frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment; unstable and chaotic interpersonal relationships, often characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation, also known as “splitting”; markedly disturbed sense of identity and distorted self-image; impulsive and reckless behaviors (e.g., impulsive or uncontrollable spending, unsafe sex, substance use disorders, reckless driving, binge eating); recurrent suicidal ideation or self harm; rapidly shifting intense emotional dysregulation; chronic feelings of emptiness; inappropriate, intense anger that can be difficult to control; and transient, stress-related paranoid or severe dissociative symptoms.

What the DSM does not mention is that borderline is an outdated term meant to designate an individual as “borderline psychotic”. What the DSM does not mention is that doctors and arbiters with a tenth of the trauma as borderlines are trying to fold it into the C-PTSD diagnosis, shoving the “problem” under the bed. What the DSM does not disclose is its prejudice.

Histrionic personality disorder is defined in the DSM by being uncomfortable in situations in which s/he is not the center of attention; interaction with others often being characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior; displaying rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions; consistently using physical appearance to draw attention to oneself; having a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail; showing self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion; suggestibility, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances; and considering relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.

What the DSM does not mention is that the term “histrionic” is a reference to its near-exclusive diagnosis in supposedly “hysteric” and “dramatic” women from the Victorian era onward, another tool for oppression. What the DSM does not mention is that, just as the borderline diagnosis is almost exclusively given to women and the antisocial diagnosis is almost exclusively given to men, these diagnoses are used to do little more than persecute and put away “undesirable” extremes of gender norms. What the DSM does not disclose is its prejudice.

Narcissistic personality disorder is defined in the DSM by a grandiose sense of self-importance; preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love; believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions); requiring excessive admiration; a sense of entitlement (unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations); being interpersonally exploitative (taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends); lacking empathy (unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others); often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them; and showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

What the DSM does not mention is that narcissists are debilitated perfectionists, often developing an elevated persona to make up for an insecurity beaten into them since childhood. What the DSM does not mention is that narcissists are not inherently abusive, instead choosing to emphasize their undesirable traits like every other Cluster B personality disorder’s criteria.

These disorders have much in common, but it is not drama. What the DSM refuses to mention, at every turn, is that these disorders almost always stem from intense, ongoing childhood and/or adulthood trauma. What the DSM never acknowledges is the suffering and anguish of the persons with these “defects”, instead focusing the criteria on the suffering of those who are not the patient in question. What the DSM does is encourage a culture of viewing traumatized individuals in need of care and help as psychopaths, sociopaths, mass murderers, and chronic abusers.

It is an accepted fact in our society that anyone with these disorders are born to be evil, born to be the criminal on your television, and that is an undisputed, immutable fact, and that those who have spent their entire lives suffering righteously deserve to suffer until the day they die.

What they don’t tell you is how rarely these diagnoses are dispensed, “sparing” sufferers from knowing the source of their stigmatization and what they can do to form healthier relationships. What they don’t tell you is that sufferers of these disorders are on an unofficial blacklist, to be treated and acknowledged only when absolutely necessary, as they are considered impossible to “cure”.

What they don’t tell you is how easy it is to suffer like this, to have your brain warped like this. The next psychopath to “safely” torture and abuse could be your sister. It could be your best friend. It could be your child.

It could be you, and when you don’t perform as expected after pain rewrites your code, you will learn what it is like to no longer be accepted as human.

It could be you, and you’ll learn how lonely and loveless a life we lead.

#actually bpd #actually npd #actually aspd #hpd safe #actually cluster b

[ossifer-bones]

[HASTILY SHOVING LACK OF CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS AND UNWILLINGNESS TO CHALLENGE OWN BIASES AND DIVSIONARY IDEOLOGICALLY INSULAR MINDSETS AND DEEP ROOTED GLOBAL SOUTH PREJUDICE INTO CLOSET] yeah cluster b incest shippers are behind all the abuse in leftist communes and furries are kinda too weird LMAO so are you into bdsm like ironically or

#rattling bones

[objectumluv]

Sunset Queerjectum

Sunset queerjectum is similar to sunset para and blankqueer stance labels.

a sunset queerjectum is someone who identifies in some way as queer and objectum.

this stance supports:

sunset paras

recovering paras

(obj4)obj love

cluster a, b and c disorders

reclaiming terms previously used to hurt you

mspecs

aspecs

neo/xenopronouns

neo/xeno/neurogenders

mogai

pro-recovery

cpunk and neuropunk

(researched) self-dx

pro-choice

blm

(other/fict)kins/irls/therians/furries

fictosexual/romantic and having f/o's

witchcraft and paganism

non dysphoric trans/nonbinary folk

drag

age/pet regressoin/dreaming

this stance is against:

pro contact para

encouraging ed/sh behaviour

thinspo/fatphobia

racism, sexism, ableism and general bigotry

autism speaks

misinfo, antagonization

anti-vaxx/mask, pro-life

alm/blue lives matter

factkin or kin for fun

transx/transid

antisemitism and religious prejudice

radqueers

terfs/swerfs/radfems

gender critical/enby skeptic

proship

this stance is unaligned on:

syscource

dni... proship, endos/nontraumagenics, anti-mspec lesbian/gays, anti-objectum, pedo/map, anti-agere/petre, anti-witchcraft/paganism and your basic dni stuff.

#sunset paraphile #sunset paraphilia #sunset para #sunset objectum #sunset queer #queerjectum #sunset queerjectum #blankqueer #objectum queer #queer objectum #objectum para #para objectum #objectum terms #objectum #objectum blog #objectum community #object love #objectum coining #objectum positivity #objectum flags #objectum pride #objectophilia #coining list #my coins #coined by me #flag coining

[onecornerface]

Against Blanchardianism - some reasons

Some Blanchardians seem to think Blanchardianism is *obviously* true, and that critics reject it due to sheer prejudice or strawmen, etc. I claim otherwise. There are good reasons to be skeptical, even if these are not reasons to say it is debunked, etc.

(Note to readers: If you've never heard of Blanchardianism or autogynephilia, don't bother reading this.)

First, the main evidence for Blanchardianism consists in some obscure statistical clustering arguments—that there are two core clusters of trans women, and that Blanchardianism is the best explanation for these two clusters. This is an obscure and difficult-to-evaluate kind of argument. It is often reasonable for someone to be skeptical of the validity of this kind of argument even when it is not obviously bunk. It is the kind of argument that is *often* bunk, and it is hard to confirm that it is legitimate.

Second, there may be a notion that people only reject Blanchardianism because they think it entails that transness is a sexual fetish in a crude sense, and/or that it would be very bad if transness were a fetish. But I recognize that the theory entails that transness is a paraphilia in a sophisticated sense, and that it would not be very bad if transness were a paraphilia in such a sophisticated sense. If some trans women have AGP or HSTS, I think that’s fine. Are a lot of people biased against Blanchardianism due to wokeness and prejudice? Almost surely, yes. But I don’t think I am very biased against Blanchardianism, and I would defend Blanchardianism if I thought it was a highly plausible theory. Notice here that I do not insist that Blanchardianism is false, and this is because I am not sure that Blanchardianism is false. I am laying out my reasons for skepticism of Blanchardianism, because I think these are good reasons for skepticism.

Third, Blanchardianism relies heavily on strong *subconscious* psychological structures, of a sort whose existence is difficult to discern or investigate. Moreover, it relies heavily on *causal* theories of such psychological structures—a kind of psychological causation which is also hard to discern or investigate. I am not averse to the idea that subconscious psychological states exist, or that they exert powerful causal force. But are there *any* well-supported psychological theories which command any serious consensus, at present? Any at all? I don’t think there are. There are no well-established or consensus psychology theories which lean heavily on causation by subconscious structures, even if some such theories are in fact true (which they may well be—I don’t think this is implausible at all). And it is *extremely* unlikely that Blanchardianism is *better* established than all other relevantly similar psychological theories in all of psychology or adjacent scholarly fields.

Fourth, the main Blanchardian scientists—who ostensibly have the most credentials and scientific understanding of the evidence for the theory—are generally working within a weird-looking framework of sexology. This sexology framework seems to (1) have a bad track record (e.g. excessively pathologizing various types of sexual deviance, especially re: women or feminine men, in ways that look very biased and unreliable), and (2) be weirdly taxonomy-oriented in a manner that seems likely outdated. It seems a Blanchardian would need to either (A) defend traditional sexology against allegations that it is dated and biased, or (B) defend the claim that Blanchardian theory is not problematically inheriting dubious qualities of traditional sexology. None of this debunks Blanchardianism, but it raises doubts about its scientific status.

Fifth, Blanchardianism typically claims ALL (or very nearly all) trans women fall into its two-type taxonomy/etiology, which means it may be vulnerable to counterexamples—particularly bisexual and asexual trans women, among others. My impression is that the main response here is to insist that all (or very nearly all) the apparent bisexual and asexual trans women are, in fact, gay or straight. This sounds either (A) wildly ad hoc, or (B) tied to a related theory claiming that bisexuality (and asexuality) in AMAB people (including cis men) is either nonexistent or vanishingly rare. I don’t know if Blanchard claims this, but I think Bailey might claim this. If Blanchardianism really requires such *extreme* auxiliary hypotheses like “bisexual men don’t exist,” then that’s a HUGE cost of the theory. I leave open the possibility that it doesn’t require such an implication.

Sixth, Blanchardianism bears a suspicious resemblance to two unflattering stereotypes of trans women, which were already prevalent long before Blanchardianism was proposed as a theory—the unflattering stereotypes of the “deceptive transsexual” and the “pathetic transsexual” (cf. Julia Serano’s “Whipping Girl”), which arose in a cultural context that was patently unscientific and motivated by brazen anti-trans bigotry (a bigotry intermingled with sexism and homophobia). The cultural context which created the two unflattering stereotypes is unlikely to be truth-tracking. Blanchardianism might be plausibly construed as an instance of a broader phenomenon, i.e. how traditional sexology might tend to inherit a kind of mission of scientifically legitimizing pre-existent prejudices and stereotypes. This may provide some modest second-order evidence which reduces the credentials of Blanchardianism, and renders its prominence somewhat less impressive than it would otherwise be. However, it does not show that Blanchardianism is false, it does not entail that there cannot be strong first-order evidence for Blanchardianism, and it does not entail that Blanchardians believe in or are logically committed to anti-trans beliefs. Moreover, it is unclear what precise range of causal theories is compatible with the above second-order argument, or whether some causal theory within this range is true.

So it is unclear precisely *why* or *how much* Blanchardianism’s resemblance to pre-existent anti-trans stereotypes should impact our judgment of the theory’s probability—and yet, it *does* bear such a resemblance, and this resemblance is suspicious. Indeed to an extreme degree. Is the resemblance illusory, or coincidental, or somehow truth-tracking? It would be surprising if these considerations did not lower its probability to at least some mild to moderate degree. At the end of the day, Blanchardianism sure looks a lot like a myth concocted in the throes of anti-trans bigotry, and this resemblance sure seems to render it less likely to be true. I don’t think one needs to have a woke politically correct bias to think so, no matter how prevalent such bias may be.

Seventh, nearly all Blanchardians seem to be crackpots and uninterested in criticizing or improving their own discourse or culture. The only notable exception seems to be Tailcalled (Survey-Anon), who in my experience seems to be by far the sanest, smartest, and most virtuous Blanchardian. I have no significant complaints about Tailcalled. Moreover, IIRC he insists that (1) Blanchardian discourse is broadly terrible, and (2) many aspects of traditional Blanchardianism are false and need to be modified.

Many of the loudest and most avid (ostensible) Blanchardians are anti-trans bigots who do not even understand or believe in anything very similar to Blanchard’s own version of Blanchardianism. Instead, they hold a worse and stupider version of Blanchardianism which depicts transness as a crude fetish rather than a sophisticated paraphilia in the sense described by the actual view.

Two further notes:

One, there is some possible motte-and-bailey between at least two or three senses of AGP, e.g. between (1) “some AMAB people, including some trans women, get turned on by wearing dresses” (which is *obviously* true-- no sane person could deny it) and (2) “the AGP etiology causal theory is true for some trans women” (immensely more dubious) and (3) “the AGP/HSTS two-type etiology is true for all or nearly all trans women” (*extremely* dubious). Only the first is obviously true; the second is a dubious causal theory, and the third is a weirdly general theory which is antecedentally improbable.

Two, some people accuse self-identified autogynephiles of being self-hating. This is probably true of some number of people. However, as a general claim, I think this is false and wrong, and it is generally wrong to accuse people of being self-hating. There are self-identified autogynephiles who aren't self-hating or aren't at all likely to be.

#transgender #autogynephilia #blanchard

[crippledcryptidd]

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[bondsmagii]

the last anon about "psychopaths" is correct and reminded me of another thing: how everyone views people with Cluster B Personality Disorders (antisocial personality disorder(ASPD aka "sociopathy"), borderline personality disorder(BPD), histrionic personality disorder(HPD), and narcissistic personality disorder(NPD) like dogshit.

I have BPD (and some other shit that amplifies it), went through some godawful phases, and have been in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy(RODBT) but it can't prepare me for a hyper-specific instance where I don't know what to do, nothing ever can. When I google search something in regards to managing my BPD, I get shit like "every person with BPD will always drain you and do not befriend someone with BPD they will always manipulate you they're a yandere oooh aaah scary noooo" and I am so fucking tired. I know my disorder makes me a fucking awful person at times and I know, deep down, I am not an awful person but "people with BPD tend to see themselves as the victim" so I think I actually am an awful person in denial. That is not to say that I am immune to consequences or because I can't control it. I can control myself and everyone can. I am always responsible for my actions and any repercussions that follow.

But there's support for BPD. I know there's also support for HPD and even NPD, but ASPD is not much. one of my cluster Bitches in crime has ASPD, and every time I see someone throw the word "sociopath" around like it's the communal piss pot I get angry. I'm "hyper-empathetic/sympathetic" and hyper-emotional as a whole and I get angry because "that isn't even fucking true you incompetent troglodyte."

TLDR: dawg we just trynna fuckin live here, it isn't our fault we turned out this way. We're more than our disorder/diagnosis

(this is in reference to this ask, not the most recent, as I am a disgrace when it comes to answering asks in a timely manner.)

this is something that has long, long pissed me off. I mean I have been bitching about this for years, and I still get so mad about it. did you know that the subreddit for BPD bans people with BPD from subscribing or posting? it's literally just full of people bitching about their BPD partners/friends/family members and talking about how horrible and awful and irredeemable people with BPD are, and the language is very much like they believe these people are choosing to be that way. I don't deny that BPD can and does make people act in terrible ways, but the way I've seen people talk about it makes me think they see no difference between this and people without BPD who just choose to be abusive. fair enough if someone uses BPD as an excuse to never change, but everyone I have met with BPD has been very aware of it and working very hard to manage their symptoms. the fact that they can't even Google resources to help them without seeing absolutely disgraceful articles talking about them as though they're pet dogs to be trained is abhorrent. (I have literally seen articles talking about "how to deal with/manage your borderline" -- what absolutely disgusting language to use about human beings. this is a personality disorder, not a dog breed.)

honestly, all Cluster B disorders get an atrocious amount of shit. it's like I've always said: people are so full of support and love to talk the talk until somebody with a mental illness or a personality disorder acts "scary" or "bad," and then nobody's interested. it's the same bullshit behind everyone yelling about making mentally ill people "look bad" if you acknowledge that somebody who committed a crime was mentally ill. look at what happens if you point out that sane people don't commit mass shootings, lmao. people just cannot deal with the moral nuance of accepting that mentally ill people, or people with personality disorders, may be abusive or may be criminals, but they still deserve support. maybe if people didn't have such unexamined prejudices against criminals, they might not struggle with this so much -- but again, criminals deserve support and human rights until they commit a "really bad" crime like murder or rape, and then apparently they're monsters and animals and deserve to die. it's hypocrisy, baby. people do not like feeling uncomfortable and they don't like looking as though they "support" bad things -- and so you end up with bullshit like this. respecting the human rights of dangerously mentally ill people, or people with "scary" personality disorders, apparently means condoning bad behaviour. it's the most smooth-brained shit.

tl;dr if people stopped using their morality to make themselves look good and instead based it on principales that would make a better world for everyone, we probably wouldn't have this problem.

#anon #asks

[1101200905]

imo worst part of having a cluster b is constantly having to manage other ppl about it. like, if i tell someone, i have to open with "but i promise i would never intentionally hurt you and im not like xyz." like you gotta work again every stereotype, even w ppl who are generally cool, cause sanism and stigma against cluster bs seems like some of the last prejudice to go.

#its so annoying !!!!! #like... im usually anxious ab self disclosure #but w this esp #telling ppl i have bpd uhhhhhh #concerns me #esp cause im Quiet borderline #so they genuinely might not otherwise Really know #its a cycle! #worried mentioning my Abandonment issues will trigger abandonment #also worried that mention them will pressure or guilt ppl into feeling like they can't leave me and that also feels Bad #bpd #cluster b #quiet borderline #borderline #sanism #stigma

[thefeistydragon]

Also a reminder for the people who would be against the kind of positivity in my previous post.

Abusers are responsible for abuse not their mental illness. The way they do it might be influenced by that mental illness, but it didn't cause the abuse, them choosing to take those actions did.

"x disorder abuse" will never be an accurate descriptor and is a way to demonize and marginalize people. (Would you call neglectful abuse "depressive abuse" or "ADHD abuse"? I hope not. Can you see how those terms would be stigmatizing and inaccurate? I hope so.)

Also, anyone who wants to say I don't get it can fuck off consider my worst abuser had a cluster B disorder. I just understand that happened because she chose to abuse me and others. Meanwhile plenty of people who have the same aren't abusive. The responsibility is on her.

It took me years to come to grips with that, and to get over my prejudice against the disorder, but I'm not about to let myself be an ableist dick to people because an asshole hurt me. And others can and should do the same.

You (general) aren't helping yourself with the false sense of security you get by thinking you can avoid being retraumatized if you just avoid people with X disorder.

Anyone can perpetrate abuse and anyone can end up in a situation where it's done to them unfortunately. There are definitely signs you can watch out for, and learning to enforce your boundaries helps, but there's no guarantee that prevents people from ending up in an abusive situation. And there's no guaranteed way to spot an abuser until they show their true colors. You definitely can't know they are just from a diagnosis.

I get that's terrifying to people but thinking there's some secret recipe to avoiding it is just going to put you in more danger and hurt others. In the case of personality disorders it's also going to perpetuate ableism and negativity against mental illness which leads to the people subject to that being abused at higher rates. So instead of preventing abuse it ends up perpetuating it, without even keeping you safer.

[fibrefox]

thinking

it appears to me that when a person is exhibiting malignant projection, it may be a reflection of how they would treat someone else if the roles were reversed, or it may be a reflection of fear of past events repeating

but an outside observer may see both as a tactic of manipulation. and it is, but the motivations are different. both have elements of an attempt to control the narrative. both are rooted in fear.

but I don't think it's bold to assert that some fear repercussions, and some fear repeat trauma. and treating everyone like malicious actors will not help differentiate the two. maybe there really isn't much difference, both can sprout from the same root of abuse

if we could start from a place of compassion for people who are projecting and recognize it as a fear behaviour, there is a chance of saving those who are eager to be saved

not to suggest anyone needs to demonstrate grace and kindness for abusive people. I'm mostly considering mental health professionals, who are meant to be helpers. my developmental trauma and autism went undiagnosed and labelled as borderline personality disorder just because I am complicated and hard to understand. my complex ptsd and asd looked like emotional warfare to so many professionals over the years due to a near absolute vacuum of compassion and only negative and discriminatory bias to fill it. "but your mom didn't hit you? [takes notes]" fuck off. she systematically destroyed my psyche. psychic wounds are wounds.

mental health professionals are supposed to be the skilled people who can make these distinctions clear, and provide care accordingly. I am so saddened by how many people get chucked into the cluster b bucket and then stonewalled against accessing effective care based entirely on a disgusting prejudice

#cluster b #cluster b disorders #trying to do #cluster b positivity #lmk if there is a problem in my assertion #autism #autism spectrum disorder #fuck is it really a disorder to be neurodivergent? #mental healthcare #is so broken #cptsd recovery #developmental trauma #childhood abuse #child abuse #child neglect #scapegoat child #tw abuse mention #tw child abuse #ask to tag #eager to accommodate #can't sleep