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femmefatalevibe · 10 months

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Femme Fatale Booklist: Decentering Men, Feminist Dating, & Childfree Living

Books On Decentering Men/Feminist Perspectives On Dating (for the times you're in need, you know):

A Single Revolution by Shani Silver (most important rec, IMO!)

Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment by Valerie Rein, Ph.D

What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower's Guide to Why You Are Already Enough by Chidera Eggerue

How To Get Over A Boy by Chidera Eggerue

All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister

Enjoy Your Solo By Mary Delia Allen

How to Be Single and Happy by Jennifer Taitz

Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After by Bella DePaulo, Ph.D

On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good by Elise Loehnen

We Are Not Born Submissive: How Patriarchy Shapes Women's Lives by Manon Garcia

The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy

Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Men Who Hate Women: From Incels to Pickup Artists: The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All by Laura Bates

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks

All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks

Books On Childfree Living:

Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood by Ruby Warrington

Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family and Creating a New Age of Independence by Amy Blackstone

Confessions of a Childfree Woman: A Life Spent Swimming Against the Mainstream by Marcia Drut-Davis

Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath

No One Tells You This: A Memoir by Glynnis MacNicol

25 Over 10: A Childfree Longitudinal Study by Laura Caroll

The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World by Laura Caroll

The Baby Trap by Ellen Peck

Policing the Womb: Invisible Women and the Criminalization of Motherhood by Michele Goodwin

Without Children: The Long History of Not Being a Mother by Peggy O'Donnell Heffington

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sometimes-men-need-help-too · 5 months

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I frequent the childfree subreddit on Reddit often.

To summarize, the subreddit involves daily lives of people that don't want kids, people looking for support when their lives are affected by kids, people looking for resources for sterilization, and of course, people who had kids and need to vent their regrets.

I was scrolling these regret posts, and I found one that broke my heart.

It was written by a man, confessing that his girlfriend had been on birth control until the day he said that he didn't want kids in his life.

She secretly stopped taking the pill because of that, and intentionally baby trapped him.

He tried, so hard to be a good father. Even when he didn't want this lifestyle, he still loved his son, he wanted the child to grow up with a father, he wanted to be a good parent, but around two years, he couldn't take it anymore.

Surprise, the woman who baby trapped him was emotionally abusive, and started to spiral into depression, so he left.

He wrote the post while drunk, and he sounded completely defeated. I was devastated for him, it seemed like he tried to hard, and someone else forced him into a life he had no say in, and that he has to be responsible in for 18 years if not the rest of his life.

People in the replies were calling the entire situation abusive of course, and some were saying men needed a louder voice in these sorta situations.

I wish I had a solution too, but everything I consider causes harm to women as well.

"What if the man wants to abort it, then his voice should matter?" Well that takes the choice away from women.

"What if he's allowed to leave the child's life forever, and abstain from child support if he was tricked into these situations?" And leave a single mother to struggle financially?

I'm angry and confused, and I don't know the right solution for this man, if any men in his situation. Why isn't there any easy solution for both parties :(

Why do women have their reproductive rights taken away, why do men get babytrapped when they thought they were being careful?

See, that kind of stuff isn't okay

If she wanted a baby, she should have broken off the relationship with him. Both people need to be 100% on board

It reminds me of this post/article thing where women confessed on this anonymous online forum how they baby trapped him and some of them are actually bragging about it

#mens rights #answered asks

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stagefoureddiediaz · 2 years

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Unless the kiss comes back into play but I dont think it will lucy gives buck 1.0 vibes it was just fun not a big deal, the breakup will be about eddie/chris. People have said that buck is abbey place in s1 and Taylor in his but the difference is I dont think she will step into it the way buck did to help(after bobby talk). Thats not a thing against tyalor but she thought she moving with childfree bf but now lhes gone most of time helping eddie and looking after someones in her eyes) kid

Hey Nonnie

I do think the kiss will come back into play - but not from Lucy's side - the kiss is going to very much be about Taylor - and Buck and Taylors relationship. Like I've said previously - if it wasn't going to come back into play somehow, Buck would've paired his confession to Taylor that it was Lucy. That he's 'allowing' Taylor to continue to think it's a 'rando club girl' - that he's continuing to omit the full truth speaks volumes.

Lucy is very much giving off 'just a bit of fun' vibes and like I said in a previous ask - Buck is the main character - Lucy is not, so anything that happens to her in relation to Buck - is about Buck (I hate that we're still using women as vehicles for furthering male characters) and Lucy has very clearly moved on from the incident.

Taylor is very much in a similar position to Buck with Abby, and you're right in that I don't think we'll see her stepping in and supporting Buck in the way he tried to do with Abby. The interesting thing is that with Taylor we've seen her compromise who she actually is as a part of being in this relationship - she's lost the backbone and no fucks given attitude we saw from her prior to becoming Bucks girlfriend. this is different to Buck with Abby in that Buck was always looking to step in (I think the talk with Bobby was just him needing someone to confirm that it was okay and right to do so - because it wasn't something he'd had the opportunity to do before), he wanted that deeper and more meaningful connection.

Whereas Taylor has never given that vibe - and they spent enough time focussing on her in 5a that if they wanted to truly reform her and shown her growth and made her into a good fit for who Buck is they would've done it then and in a way that didn't compromise her true character and make it feel like she's had a personality transplant. That they didn't just shows they're not really interested in her beyond Bucks growth and the fact that its looking very much like her unethical behaviour will be making a comeback. This just emphasises that she's not as similar to Buck 1.0 as people say - we're not going to see anything of her while Buck is supporting Eddie and Chris and that will vey much imply that her job will always come first.

I'm not a fan of the way that they've chosen to go about this and I will maintain that they way way overused her in 5a because we didn't really get much from her constant appearance (especially at the detriment of other characters and storylines) that couldn't have been achieved in quicker and different ways, but the storyline of growth, staying in relationships that don't serve either party becasue its preferable to being alone and that that can lead to us behaving out of our normal character (not being our true self) is in fact an interesting story to tell.

#kym answers things #nonnie asks #911 discourse #911 on fox #911 fox #911onfox #911 #evan buckley #buck #anti taylor kelly #anti bucktaylor

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abbacchiosbelt · 3 years

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Stardust Crusaders | Mobile Masterlist 🏜️

Stardust Crusaders [General Tag]

Jean Pierre Polnareff

Scary Movie Headcanons w/Polnareff

Short Fluff Scenario

“I’ll keep you warm, hold me closer.”

Crush Falling Asleep Next to Him

Cheering Up His Non-curvy S/O [NSFW]

Fluffy NSFW Headcanons

Wearing Women’s Underwear

Porn Preferences

Meeting Fugo and Abbacchio

Part 5 NSFW Headcanons

How many kids does he want?

Childfree S/O

NSFW Headcanons

NSFW Alphabet Part 1

NSFW Alphabet Part 2

With an Autistic S/O

Pegging Headcanons

Pillow Fight Headcanons

Polnareff Confessions

Muhammad Avdol

Dragon!Avdol Headcanons [NSFW]

With an Autistic S/O

Comforting S/O After Trauma

Pegging Headcanons

Wearing Women’s Underwear

Pillow Fight Headcanons

Avdol Confessions

Joseph Joestar

Morning After with Joseph [NSFW]

Easy to Please - Joseph Joestar x F!Reader [NSFW, Commission]

DILF Joseph Headcanons

Pegging Headcanons

Wearing Women’s Underwear

Pillow Fight Headcanons

Joseph Confessions [has Joseph from other parts]

Noriaki Kakyoin

Funny Text with his S/O

With an Autistic S/O

Kakyoin Confessions

Holly Kujo

Tag Generator Prompt

Holly Confessions

Dio Brando

“You’ve been so good to me lately, pet. Don’t make me punish you.”

Soft Dio Headcanons

Celebrating his S/O’s Birthday

“Bite me.” “Where?”

Naga!Dio With a Breeding Kink

Pet Play Headcanons

Concubine, Yandere S/O

DILF Dio Headcanons

Give In - Dio Brando x M!Reader [NSFW]

Dio Confessions [has Dio from other parts]

Mariah

Sad Eyes - Mariah x GN!Reader [Giveaway Fic]

Mariah Confessions

Vanilla Ice

Spicy Text with his S/O

Yandere Headcanons

Vanilla Ice Confessions

Steely Dan

“Don’t worry, my love. I’ll protect you.”

Steely Dan Confessions

Devo the Cursed

“Try to stay quiet for me. Can you do that?”

Devo the Cursed Confessions

Confessions

Daniel D'Arby Confessions

Telence D'Arby Confessions

Alessi Confession

N'Doul Confessions

#masterlist #stardust crusaders masterlist #mobile #jean pierre polnareff #muhammad avdol #joseph joestar #noriaki kakyoin #dio brando #steely dan #mariah #vanilla ice #devo the cursed #holly kujo #my writing #stardust crusaders #not sfw #fluff #fic #drabbles

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dragynkeep · 3 years

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If we're making confessions about problems with the greater lbgt community may I say something? You can ignore this if you want. But I'm a young woman in her 20's and identify as aroace. And I don't think I need to tell you how sex and romance obsessed the world is. All society's, all people, all media, tv shows, movies, songs, video games everywhere everyone assumes on some level that every person born wants to fall in love and have sex. Those of us in the aspec community are basically ostracized from everyone. Straight people who refuse to believe our identities are real, gay and other identities seeing us as straight passing and thinking we're infiltrators taking up resources. Everyone invalidating our feelings that oh we're just confused silly and immature. We'll find someone to love us and if we don't we're repressed losers, weird, broken, wrong. If it's not rape threats to "fix us" we get harrassed by someone thsr has romantic feelings we just can't return and getting screamed at because our friendship isn't good enough. Not to mention we always get sidelined. All people prioritize and value romantic and sexual relationships and the family's they will make themselves. Friendship is not valued the same it's seen as lesser that slowly loses importance over time. So friends get pushed further and further to the wayside and if you remain single and without kids everyone starts excluding you. Parents focus more on their children who gave them grandkids, siblings will want more in wills because they have their own family's to care for. That doesn't even go into the sexism ace women face in the workforce. Women who settle and have a family are often overlooked for promotions but ace women who don't seek out qpr and are single get overloaded with work and seen as having more "free time." But if ace women remain single and childfree they get harrassed by everyone they know to settle down eventually, they're not a real woman if they don't fall in love, get pregnant, adopt, or just have sex with someone. It's so lonely it's a loneliness no one ever considers. No one wants to understand asexuals, no one cares for us. I haven't experienced every single thing listed above thank god but it's still common enough that as I get older I'm sure will become more common place. Sorry I just. I'm proud to be aroace I am. I'm not ashamed but man is it hard when everyone looks at you as the other. The outlier that seems barely human that doesn't conform to any conventional standard. I'm low key relieved I've never been able to date anyone long enough to become serious, have crazy exes or even fall in love. It sounds exhausting being distracted by a person or multiple (not putting anyone down) but I've lost many good friends. Friendships I've spent years building up. And that was real heartbreak to me. I lost relatives and no one knows how to help with that because my support group is small. No boyfriend or girlfriend whose friend group would adopt me. Just mostly on my own having to rely on myself as best as I can. Anyway thanks for listening and letting me speak. And to my fellow asexuals and aspec people you're perfect just the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you you're wrong or your feelings are fake. You are fine just as you are so take up space don't hide yourselves if you are safe to be out.

i’m honoured that you see our blog as a safe place for you to vent your feelings & i’m sorry for the way society & people other you for who you are, even those in the community that is meant to be home.

to all our ace / aro followers, we love you & you’re safe here, for anything you need. ♥

#queer #lgbt #asexuality #aromantic #owl.txt #answered #q #aphobia /

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rainofaugustsith · 4 years

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Character Bio Meme!

Thank you so much for the tag @chaoticspacelesbians! This was fun! Tagging, let’s see, @tishinada @a-muirehen @metriorhynchus @dreamy04 @verbose-vespertine NO PRESSURE! We know who always goes first...

GENERAL name : Viridana Revarre Dragoi alias(es) : Viri; Alliance Commander; Empress Wrath; Empire's Wrath; Lord Wrath; Lord Dragoi; Darth Viridana. Viri's childhood nickname from her parents was Vee. The Scions consider Viri to be the Demon Savior but she does not want to be called that. gender : Female age : Born in 3669 BBY, which makes her 41 as of the events of Onslaught and beyond. In Western zodiac she would be an Aries, which would place her birth in the spring. place of birth : Coronet City, Corellia, spoken languages : Basic, High Sith, Sith, Huttese, Ryl, Naboo sexual orientation : Demisexual; prefers women, identifies as bisexual. occupation : Alliance Commander.

APPEARANCE eye colour : Gold. hair colour : Natural blonde. height : 6'2" / 1.87m. scars : Viri gets most of her scars removed - she feels that she will not let her enemies permanently mark her. She has a few exceptions she has kept: - A long scar on her left cheek that dates from early childhood. She was angry, she blew up a speeder with the Force, and the debris hit her in the face. She kept the scar because her mother did the sutures. - Several scars on her back from the cave-in on Quesh where Darth Baras and Draahg tried to kill her. - A scar on her back from the explosion when Darth Marr's ship broke up during the confrontation with the Eternal Empire.

She also has a voluntary scar: The Mark of Union on her palm, which was cut by Lana as part of their Sith wedding ritual.

burns : Viri gets most of her burns removed. She did keep a small portion of the burns she received from the Eternal Throne. When she sat down, the throne burned the backs of both legs. Viri kept a very small part of the burn on one of her calf muscles. overweight : Viri weighs close to 200lbs so if you put her into one of those silly BMI calculators she would technically come up as overweight. But she's a wall of muscle with very little body fat. underweight : No

FAVOURITE colour : Blue. music genre : Electronica, techno, New Wave, happy goth. If she were on Earth she'd like bands like VNV Nation, Dee-Lite, Depeche Mode, Technotronic. tv show : Happy and funny fare. Game shows, cartoons, documentaries about interesting scenic places and animals; silly sitcoms. Anything that can offer a distraction. food : Cookies. drink : Sugary, bubbly, or both - Sugar Rush, carbonated drinks; flavored water, juices. She also likes caf and she drinks it black which nobody can understand. book : Ancient Sith literature - poetry, legends, histories, plays, you name it; as well as modern writers who work in that genre. She also especially loves autobiographies and memoirs, especially from people who lead very different lives - pirates, scientists, dancers, you name it. Viri will even read a Jedi memoir if it's interesting.

HAVE THEY passed university : Yes had sex : Yes had sex in public : Yes gotten pregnant : No kissed a boy : Yes kissed a girl : Yes gotten tattoos : Yes had a broken heart : Yes been in love : Yes stayed up for longer than 24 hours : Yes

ARE THEY a virgin : No a cuddler : Yes if your name is Lana Beniko. She cuddles endlessly with Lana. She will also snuggle with her pets, and is huggy with Vette, but other than that, she's not a fan of touching people. a kisser : Again, if your name is Lana, kissing is one of her favorite things. She can literally kiss Lana for hours. She HATES casual kisses with others and avoids them at all costs. scared easily : No. It takes a lot to scare Viri. She's more likely to get angry. jealous easily : No. trustworthy : Yes. If Viri promises something or makes an agreement with you, she actually will do everything in her power to keep it. And if you tell her something in confidence she will keep that secret for you. dominant : If this refers to bed, not at all. She's not submissive, either. She and Lana generally take turns. Lana's more confident, and thus has the lead more often, but they don't consider each other in these terms. submissive : See above. in love : Yes single : No

RANDOM QUESTIONS have they harmed themselves : Yes. thought of suicide : Yes attempted suicide : No wanted to kill someone : Yes, and she generally follows through if she feels that strongly. rode a horse : Yes - or rather, tauntauns, banthas, ice trompers, nexu, raptors, etc. have / had a job : Yes have any fears : Yes. As she confessed to the Dread Masters, her biggest fear is losing those close to her, or witnessing them being hurt or killed. Which of course is why Valkorion showed her visions of those things for all five years she was in carbonite.

FAMILY sibling(s) : None. parents : Viri's mother was Tullia Dragoi; her father was Andres Revarre. They were both respected scientists who alternated between working for the Imperial Science Service and private sector companies. Viri might have been born on Corellia, but she was born Imperial. Both of her parents wrote books and published numerous papers. During the war, they were both assigned to an Imperial cruiser for a time, and Viri was sent to live with her grandmother on Naboo. They both died on Taris at a research station when it was overrun with rakghouls. Both Tullia and Andres were bitten, as were several other scientists and Viri's Sith mentor, Darth Merwo. Without a vaccine, the troops killed all of them before they could change over to rakghouls. Viri was in Upper Academy at the time and was about 25 years old. Since they were Imperial officers, she was allowed to take a short leave and go to Dromund Kaas for their memorial service. children : None. Viri (like me) is strongly childfree. She had her tubes tied the moment she turned 18. pets : Numerous. Viri has a miniature nexu, Bolt; two sleen, Lou and Ri, a small flirron named Nick, a baby raptor named Boris; and the four exoboars she rescued from Vaylin's palace. She has also 'rescued' numerous injured animals from the Odessen wilderness. If they can't be returned to the wild, they live in the protected paddocks behind the Odessen base and are cared for, for life.

#Viridana Dragoi #all about Viri #asks

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helshades · 5 years

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There is a difference between an individual deciding not to have children and someone embracing the view that there is something inherently wrong with motherhood and giving birth to children.

Individuals have always made choices about whether or not to have kids and about the size of their families. These were personal decisions rather than statements about the moral significance of bringing new children into the world. Yet today, a significant section of society presents the decision not to have children as a political comment. There is now a misanthropic ideology that promotes hostility towards those who choose to have children, alongside a growing tendency to paint motherhood in a negative light.

This anti-natal ideology is promoted in two separate but often interconnected ways. First, it is claimed that childbirth and childrearing are fundamentally negative experiences that ought to come with a health warning. Secondly, it is argued that having children is irresponsible because newborn babies constitute a threat to the environment. And it seems as if this ideology is having an impact: alarming new figures from the UK’s Office for National Statistics show that the birth rate in England and Wales has fallen to its lowest level since 1938. In 2018, there were just 11.1 live births per 1,000 people – a record low.

Is motherhood natural?

One way in which the moral status of motherhood is delegitimised today is through the idea that society’s expectation that women should have children is an artificial and coercive imposition. This narrative calls into question what is sometimes described as ‘maternal inevitability’ and asserts that motherhood is not a natural role for women.

Writing about her film, My So-Called Selfish Life, Therese Shechter says she was interested in chronicling ‘the rise of a growing community of women who don’t want children and who reject the message that a woman’s most important – and most natural – role is to be a mother. Shechter’s ‘taboo-busting film’ is directed against ‘maternal inevitability’:

‘The film gives voice to a community challenging our most fundamental ideas about female identity, including a 19-year-old student determined to get her tubes tied, a woman “coming out” about her regret at becoming a mother, the founders of a childfree LGBT seniors’ community, and a repro-rights activist whose unsuccessful fertility treatments lead to a life transformation.’

Shechter says her aim is to challenge a world ‘where femininity is tied to childbearing’. Her film summarises the key points made by anti-natal activists. It suggests that motherhood has little to do with a woman’s identity, and it supports the claim that regret about becoming a mother is widespread. Finally, it hints at the superiority of childfree communities.

The anti-natality narrative seeks to portray motherhood as an undesirable and unpleasant trap. In recent years, numerous commentators have adopted the term ‘maternal regret’ to highlight the idea that many mothers pretend to be happy with their lives, but secretly they regret having had children. One Canadian article, titled ‘I regret having children’, argues that this sentiment is becoming increasingly common. It draws attention to a 9,000-member Facebook group, also called ‘I regret having children’. The author is delighted that ‘parental regret’ is a taboo that is finally being busted. This taboo has recently been brought to public attention by everyone from the BBC (‘100 Women 2016: Parents who regret having children’) to Marie Claire (‘Inside the growing movement of women who wished they never had kids’) to Today’s Parent (‘Regretting motherhood: What have I done to my life?’).

Some observers insist that maternal regret might be even more widespread than we think. They say that large numbers of women suffer from this condition in silence and feel unable to tell anyone about what a big mistake they made. A recent confessional article in the Daily Telegraph, by an anonymous author, was headlined ‘I secretly wish I’d never had children’. It is typical of the trend. The author writes of her disappointment with her predicament and tells of a time when ‘a little voice in my head whispered if I hadn’t had children I’d be living the life I dreamed of’. She added: ‘I feel so alone living with this secret.’

This word ‘secret’ is frequently deployed, no doubt to suggest that maternal regret is far more common than we suspect. It is also intended as a form of encouragement, to get more women sharing their stories. So at the end of the Daily Telegraph confession, the editors inserted the following: ‘Do you regret having children, and would you ever admit it? Join the conversation on the Telegraph Women Facebook group.’

Yet if maternal regret really is a secret, it has become a very open one. Maternal regret is now widely discussed across the world. In 2009, the French psychoanalyst Corinne Maier published her bestseller No Kids: 40 Good Reasons Not to Be a Mother. In 2016, the BBC included Maier in its list of the 100 most inspirational women in the world. Germany has been particularly hospitable to the issue of maternal regret. Sarah Fischer’s book, The Lie of Maternal Happiness, offers a disturbing account of the supposed horrors of motherhood. Alina Bronsky and Denise Wilk’s The Abolishment of the Mother is directed against the traditional idealisation of motherhood in Germany. That the hashtag #RegrettingMotherhood was trending in Germany in 2017 suggests this concern resonates with certain sections of society.

In some cases, critics of the ‘normalisation’ of motherhood don’t only see themselves as exposing a dirty secret – they go a step further and actively try to help mothers to distance themselves from their decisions. Orna Donath, author of the 2015 book Regretting Motherhood, says the aim of her work was to help mothers who ‘wish to undo motherhood’. It is difficult to avoid the conclusion that much of the commentary on maternal regret isn’t only describing this phenomenon – it is also seeking to normalise it. From the perspective of these observers, the new normal is not the association of motherhood with positive feelings but the association of motherhood with regret.

Estrangement from parenthood

The normalisation of maternal regret is connected to a wider trend – one that regards childbirth and the raising of children as an onerous burden, best avoided. The very idea of adults assuming responsibility for younger generations is regarded as an outdated custom, at odds with the lifestyles of busy and successful individuals.

The desire to opt out of parenthood is often blamed on financial difficulties. In Spain and Italy, so-called ‘empty cradle syndrome’ is put down to the financial and time commitments that come with having children. But this doesn’t stack up, because in many parts of the world the contemporary estrangement from natality is as pronounced among financially secure individuals as it is among less well-off people.

South Korea, which has the lowest birth rate of the OECD countries in the Asia-Pacific region, also has a vociferous #NoMarriage movement. A new network called EMIF – Elite Without Marriage, I Am Going Forward – reflects this sentiment. Not surprisingly, this year the number of people dying in South Korea is expected to be greater than the number of those being born.

In China, couples who choose to be childfree are often described as DINKs – ‘double income, no kids’. It is reported that couples who believe children would only cramp their lifestyles are on the rise in China. The term carefree has become synonymous with this childfree outlook.

Historically, women were confronted with the expectation that, when they became adults, they would embrace motherhood and give birth to children. This expectation is still widespread. However, it now competes with a negative vision of motherhood that suggests having babies will thwart a woman’s ambitions and diminish her quality of life.

Twenty-first-century society’s estrangement from having children is often said to be driven by women’s aspiration for greater independence. Sometimes the ascendancy of anti-natalist sentiments is linked with the influence of feminism. These things may have contributed to the crystallisation of the anti-natalist climate, but there are other, more powerful forces at work here.

Numerous aspects of human existence have been pathologised. Young people, in particular, have been subjected to a form of socialisation that encourages them to view the problems of existence – pain, disappointment, pressure, anxiety – through the prism of psychology. They have been brought up and educated in a way that tends to insulate them from pressure and from challenging or unsettling experiences. Instead of cultivating children’s capacity for acquiring independence, the current regime of socialisation encourages the young to be ‘aware of their vulnerability’.

In such circumstances, young people often become distracted from the aspiration to grow up, to take on adult roles, to embrace duty and responsibility.

This is one of the reasons why many young women – and men – in their early twenties claim that they don’t want children. Ever. No doubt many of these young people will change their minds at some point and opt to have children. But the assertive and confident manner with which they declare their anti-natal predilections suggests that right now they believe that avoiding the burden of parenthood makes perfect sense.

The anti-humanist movement against childbirth

The estrangement of sections of Western society from motherhood is underwritten by an anti-humanist doctrine – one that regards humanity not as the solution to the problems of the world, but as the cause of them.

In recent decades, much of the environmentalist movement has adopted a radically misanthropic rhetoric. According to some environmentalists, humans are a kind of cancer on the environment. Deep ecologists claim humanity has degraded the planet via our human-centred ideology that treats nature as a utility for people. The denigration of humanity is often vitriolic. There is a tendency to depict humans as parasites, and this is not confined to extreme and marginal individuals. Michael Meacher, a former minister in the New Labour government, referred to humans as a ‘virus’ infecting the Earth’s body. James Lovelock, the well-known originator of the ‘Gaia hypothesis’, says humans ‘behave in some ways like a pathogenic organism, or like the cells of a tumour or neoplasm’. Consequently, we have grown in numbers and ‘the human species is now so numerous as to constitute a serious planetary malady’, says Lovelock. He concludes that ‘Gaia is suffering from Disseminated Primatemaia, a plague of people’.

In the West, the population-control lobby is busy castigating those who have large families, branding them ‘environmentally irresponsible’. Having children, especially lots of children, is treated as an eco-crime. Prince Harry, via the issue of Vogue edited by his wife Meghan Markle, pushed this idea this week, with his promise only to have two children in the name of eco-sustainability.

From this perspective, another human life is just so many extra carbon emissions. Which is why it is preferable, apparently, that these new human lives simply did not exist.. As the Optimum Population Trust – since rebranded Population Matters – once put it, ‘A non-existent person has no environmental footprint; the emission “saving” is instant and total’.

And now there are the climate-change activists who have formed the ‘BirthStrike’ movement. They have decided ‘not to bear children due to the severity of the ecological crisis and the current inaction of governing forces in the face of this existential threat’. BirthStrike’s website features personal statements from individuals who think it is wrong to give birth. Aletha, aged 39, says:

‘The priority of my husband and I is to avoid bringing another child into intolerable future conditions such as heatwaves and drought, considering children are already dying from heatwaves in India and Pakistan this year.’

The idea that giving birth is some kind of crime against the environment is now even endorsed by celebrities. Miley Cyrus says millennials ‘don’t want to reproduce because we know that the Earth can’t handle it’.

The BirthStrike movement is merely the most extreme and depressing manifestation of an anti-humanist culture of pessimism. It is not simply these activists’ deep attachment to the environment, but also their misanthropy that leads them to the conclusion that the world would be a better place if humans stopped having babies. Their view of babies as polluters of the planet seamlessly meshes with a sentiment that treats parenthood as an undesirable and ‘problematic’ goal.

Until recently, babies were seen as a blessing. Now, far too many people argue that not having a baby is a blessing. Ultimately, the reason for this loss of faith in the human spirit is neither economic nor environmental. Rather, the main driver of this anti-natal movement is the difficulty that sections of society have in giving meaning to life today. Recovering our confidence in the human spirit and in age-old human virtues is the best antidote to the turn against giving birth.

#questions of significance #motherhood #feminism #ecologism #women #reproductive rights

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stellacarrierimaginationbuilders · 5 years

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Spirit Guide Communication Training Intent Creative Fiction Style Episode 5

Start time by 843 pm wednesday september 25 2019

Temporarily pause to check the laundry at 854pm wednesday september 25 2019

Resumed by 919pm wednesday september 25 2019

Completion time 944pm to 953 pm wednesday september 25 2019

Hi my name is Beare and I’m a spirit guide in the year 2123 to 35 earth based men and women working in various occupations/careers in an area I must keep secret for now on the east coast of the U.S. though what I am allowed to say is that it is part of their life purpose/celestial inspired to complete their planned short story novels within 3 months from now or less, some of them within 2 to 4 weeks from now. The wayI get help to inspire these 35 men and women of various races, ages, socio-economic statuses, and personal life orientations (some voluntarily childfree others with kids both adopted andor biological) is to enlist help from other spirit guides whose most recent earth lifetimes involved being an author as a fun side job to their main careers in a similar vein as the author of the Leonardo DiCaprio film The Revenant.

I Beare crossed over here in the celestial worlds from my most recent earth life about 4 years ago. I reside in celestial replicas of Iceland, Virginia, Maryland, Florida, and Canada. I became a popular and happy millionaire in my most recent earth life and was able to easily afford 2 paid for homes in 2 locations. It is possible for many former earth based spirits to reside in however many celestial earth replica locations they desire to though a high number of spirits where I reside are usually happy with 2. The reason why I have 5 celestial replica locations in my new role as a celestial spirit guide is because some of the men and women that I help towards balancing their storytelling goals and their career dreams relates to the fact that a multiple number of them travel to different locations for business. For instance, I help a 60 year old male chef who has paid for homes in both Maryland and Virginia from both his income as a chef and his storytelling and he sometimes travels to Iceland and Canada for business related endeavors.

I Beare adopted my name in my new life as a celestial spirit guide less than 6 month after becoming a celestial guide when I noticed that a high number of the 35 based earth spirits I help in their career, money, and storytelling endeavors are affiliated some way with work involving the Dragonball Z cartoon from the early 2000s. Some Dragon Ball Z theme park shareholders teamed up with some Amazon shareholders and 5 other companies I must keep secret for now. Anyhow descendants of that theme park and museum that opened by the year 2079, a multiple number of them became career and money psychics in addition to creative fiction writers who write via pennames and sell novels in multiple parts of earth. Anyhow back to my life as a spirit guide and my most recent earth mission.

Currently 5 of the earth based men and women I am helping in their career and money matters asked me for help to help organize and help list what they currently have until they are ready to further sift through what they are ready to donate, sell, andor give away. Donate andor give away have similar energies though different intents and I might explain that in a future session.

However, what this has to do with career and money goals is that many times a person man or woman who is carefully organizing and writing down what they have might in the process remember a story idea that awakens andor some creative andor intuitive insights that increase the closer they get to their organization goals before they are more able to easily go on to the next step less than 4 months later in deciding what to keep sell andor give away. As a spirit guide, I might give them certain opportunities to do this by gently nudging them to do this in increased free time even if they were hoping for increased money, this is more to help them prepare both for the inner and outer changes that are going to be forced into their life within the next 9 months andor less a multiple number of these changes are actually for the happier andor more beneficial in the long term however the emotions that some of these men and women might go through feeling before the eventual happy transformation andor spiritual/wisdom evolution makes for compelling soap opera stories.

I Beare might give a heads up to these men and women on these changes either through strange andor unexplained sightings in their real lives, mysterious andor supernatural circumstances in their sleeptime dreams, andor other means. I Beare keep a one day on and a two days off earth based schedule by delegating some of what I do to other spirit guides who are happy to help and currently I enjoy having 80 different celestial spirit guides help me at different times, more details about this in possibly my future communications where I touch on some of what I do in my celestial life, I say some because some spirits on the celestial planes of love and happiness are also afforded privacy for multiple reasons depending on the spirit/soul though there are some details that can be easily shared in some of the happenings in my new life.

Some upcoming life transitions andor life projects involving a multiple number of the men and women I Beare am helping as a spirit guide, 2 movies and over 30 books have been published in the non-fiction genre by the year 2100 on how billions of earth based men and women around the world can contact male and females in multiple heaven worlds of love and happiness who have been highly successful on the career andor money fronts who would like to help many earth based men and women who ask and petition for their career and money help, obviously some spirits are in such high demand that they either have to delegate the career and money help to another spirit who was a career andor money whiz in their most recent earth lifetime andor sometimes petition an earth based male andor female spirit who might want to meet this particular person asking for help though certain rules are in place for that for good reasons. However what I can say is that a multiple number of these 30 published books have been of significant help for the readers andor purchasers of those books. However, some earth based women and men have had more successful results than others and after a meeting at an creative imagination and intuition workshops I attended in both celestial replicas of Maryland and Virginia it occurred to me that more men and women can be better helped if some of those same 30 guides were reimagined in creative fiction format in the example of men and women who have been successful petition celestial money andor career wizards in multiple heaven realms even if they only petitioned for help one to 3 times a week andor more occasionally.

Next communication session within a month andor less from now-some of the going on’s of the celestial spirit guide’s life on his days off as a celestial spirit guide including his work and communications with career and money psychics who still reside on earth though who have the ability to astral travel to visit him either in their meditations andor sleeptime dreams.

Resources

https://www.politico.com/story/2019/05/10/michael-punke-montana-election-1422087

the revenant author

https://www.politico.com/story/2019/05/10/michael-punke-montana-election-1422087

spiritual meaning of seeing a raven

https://trustedpsychicmediums.com/spirit-animals/raven-spirit-animal/

spiritual meaning of seeing a cat

https://trustedpsychicmediums.com/spirit-animals/cat-spirit-animal/

spiritual meaning of seeing a yellow spider

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/see-spiders-meaning/

University of Maryland College Park

https://www.umd.edu/

Old Dominion University Norfolk Virginia

https://odu.edu/about/visitors/campus-tours

dragon ball z names

https://www.fantasynamegenerators.com/db-human-names.php

I confess that what indirectly influenced me to start listening to this Little Bird song again was inspired by a strange yet happy sleeptime dream that I had less than a week ago that featured Annie Lennox and for whatever reason Little Bird was one of the first songs that I craved hearing again because it has been one of my favorite songs by Annie Lennox since I first heard it as a 90s teenager (by the time I was between 13 to 15 years old) via local radio andor television (maybe VH1), what I do know for sure is that I remember snippets of the song featured on a Melrose Place tv episode in the 90s. This live version of Little Bird by Annie Lennox (Dancing With the Stars 16.11.2010) does the Diva Version justice in a creative way and Annie Lennox’s Little Bird song only gets better with time. The sleeptime dream had such a happy and meaningful impact on my music listening soul that I included the song in a creative fiction story I wrote for fun in my wordpress and tumblr accounts.

This song Sweet Dreams by La Bouche is distinctive and exciting to listen to even multiple years after I first heard this song via radio sometime around the time I was between 15 to 18 years old. Though I confess that I started to enjoy this song more after a coworker re-introduced me to some music by La Bouche after around the 2008 timeframe. I admit that I am glad that the powerful male vocals to the song are also included in this entertaining version

This live version of All I Wanna Do by Danni Minogue via the BananaRober youtube channel is enchanting.

Feelin Hypnotized Colette-This song Feelin Hypnotized by Colette is far from the most cheerful song, yet there is something about this song I find very magnetic nearly 11 years after I first heard this unique song (autumn 2008 in Norfolk Virginia). I’m thrilled to find Hypnotized by Colette on this youtube channel via the Femmes Fatales The 12 Leading Ladies of Electronic because it was the Femmes Fatales collection was where I first heard this song.

rush rush paula abdul in regards to the youtube version by Mk Almatrouk-I’m so glad that this full length version is currently available on youtube the chemistry between Paula Abdul and Keanu Reeves is sizzling. I unexpectedly found this full length youtube video version of Rush Rush by Paula Abdul though I am lucky to have first heard this song in the early 90s via television andor radio by the time I was somewhere between 11 to 14 years old, the music, video, and the vocals for this song are enthralling.

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doingdewey · 5 years

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It’s Futuristic Friday again and I’m hoping Tamara of Travelling with T and I will be owing you an apology for blowing up your to-read pile! Between the two of us, the books we’re looking forward to in the next three months include nonfiction, literary fiction, thrillers, romance, and more. I think there will be something for everyone.

Tamara’s April Picks

Someone Knows, Gimme Some Sugar, The Girl He Used to Know, The Mother-In-Law, I Know Who You Are, One Summer in Paris, The Better Sister

Katie’s April Picks

The Editor, A Woman of No Importance, Naamah, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, Southern Lady Code, Fall and Rise, Women’s Work, Lost and Wanted, The Five

Tamara’s May Picks

Drawing Home, The Southern Side of Paradise, Sunset Beach, Only Ever Her, The Night Before, The Favorite Daughter, Such a Perfect Wife

Katie’s May Picks

The Killer Across the Table, Superbugs, Star Crossed, The Confessions of Frannie Langton, Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered, Black Death at the Golden Gate, The Night Before, The Last House Guest, The Witches Are Coming

Tamara’s June Picks

Summer Hours, Dear Wife, I’ll Never Tell, The Favorite Daughter, The Summer Guests, The Lemon Sisters

Katie’s June Picks

Fire in the Sky, Childfree by Choice, City of Omens, The Body Lies, Slime, The Shanghai Free Taxi, The Tenth Muse, The Last Pirate of New York, The Truffle Underground

Futuristic Friday It's Futuristic Friday again and I'm hoping Tamara of Travelling with T and I will be owing you an apology for blowing up your to-read pile!

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femmefatalevibe · 10 months

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do you have any book recs for decentering dating/men & being childfree? Ty!!!

I love this ask! Also, check out Melanie Hamlett, SoberSide, and Shani Silver on TikTok for similarly amazing content xx

Books On Decentering Men/Feminist Perspectives On Dating (for the times you're in need, you know):

A Single Revolution by Shani Silver (most important rec, IMO!)

Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment by Valerie Rein, Ph.D

What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower's Guide to Why You Are Already Enough by Chidera Eggerue

How To Get Over A Boy by Chidera Eggerue

All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister

Enjoy Your Solo By Mary Delia Allen

How to Be Single and Happy by Jennifer Taitz

Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After by Bella DePaulo, Ph.D

On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good by Elise Loehnen

We Are Not Born Submissive: How Patriarchy Shapes Women's Lives by Manon Garcia

The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy

Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Men Who Hate Women: From Incels to Pickup Artists: The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All by Laura Bates

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks

All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks

Books On Childfree Living:

Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood by Ruby Warrington

Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family and Creating a New Age of Independence by Amy Blackstone

Confessions of a Childfree Woman: A Life Spent Swimming Against the Mainstream by Marcia Drut-Davis

Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath

No One Tells You This: A Memoir by Glynnis MacNicol

25 Over 10: A Childfree Longitudinal Study by Laura Caroll

The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World by Laura Caroll

The Baby Trap by Ellen Peck

Policing the Womb: Invisible Women and the Criminalization of Motherhood by Michele Goodwin

Without Children: The Long History of Not Being a Mother by Peggy O'Donnell Heffington

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