#i hope it was helpful

[onejellyfishplease]

Hello again!

I did this lil silly survey a long while ago :)

I wanted to ask if you would mind to answer a few of my questions :3

If not, that's totally fine! No pressure!

How many hours do you sleep per night?

How many hours are enough to get through the day and how many are a lot for your standard?

Is caffein (in any form) part of your morning routine or your 'last resort'?

How do you feel over the day before and after consuming caffein (if you consume any)?

For example: sluggish, foggy, awake, exhausted, grumpy, just tired, etc.

Thank you a lot for (maybe) participating!

If you want, I can add you when I post the results, but I can also leave you out :)

Hi hi!

i totally dont mind answering a few questions :)

- okay so hours of sleep... id say i get around 7 ish?? though that can decrease a lot when im stressed (once i went down to routinly getting like 4, that was a fun time /sar)

- i can work pretty well with 7 hours, and getting any more honestly doesnt seem to do much difference?

- and about the caffine questions, i dont actually drink any! yeah i never got into the taste, so it never managed to sneak into my routine

and i dont mind if you add me when you post the results, though im not sure how helpful ive been from your (coffee??) survey.

this was fun! i hope you have a nice day/night <3

#never done one of these before #i hope it was helpful #survey #survey answers #asks #meowuff

[honeysuckle-venom]

Hi Lior 💜 could you talk a bit about how it feels/how you can tell when a part has fused vs. when they've gone dormant? I have a few parts who I thought had integrated, but now I'm questioning it, and I'm curious on what that distinction has felt like for you or how you were able to determine when parts had fused

Hi Blue!

Thank you so much for this fascinating question! Unfortunately I don't have a 100% clear answer for you, but I can do my best.

To a certain extent, I've also had trouble telling the difference, and there have been times when I've questioned whether alters have fused or just gone dormant. In fact, not being certain of that is why I tend to say we're "mostly fused" or "pretty much fused" because I think there's a good chance that we're fully fused, but also a chance that most of us have fused but some are just dormant, and we do have brief periods where we...unfuse briefly? It's a little bit fluid.

But! I do have a handle on some differences! The biggest way I have to tell is if I have access to the things that used to be held by a certain alter. That could mean memories, but more often for me that means certain emotions and/or aspects of identity. The biggest way I can tell that we've fused is having a much much fuller range of emotions and reactions than I used to. I feel whole and present and able to experience things fully in a way that wasn't possible in the past. And certain alters tend to contain specific abilities to experience things, and so when I can experience those things without switching I know it's come from fusion. I'll give an example. Probably one of the earliest alters I fused with was Cypher, who held the majority of our anger. Before fusing I was incapable of experiencing and admitting to anger, and as soon as I started to be angry I would switch with her and/or have a psychotic episode. Now that she has fused, I can and do become angry as myself. But it's not the overwhelming single-minded anger that Cypher experienced; just as she gave me access to anger by fusing, I gave her the ability to temper that anger somewhat and to feel other things alongside it. So now we can experience anger without dissociating or switching, I stay myself and hold onto everything that makes me "me", but I also have the ability to be angry and protective that she once held exclusively. If, instead, I never got angry about anything, I would suspect that she had gone dormant instead of fused.

That example was a pretty clear case, however. There are other alters where their role was less defined, and so it may be harder to tell if they've fused or just become very quiet. But still, even with other alters I can usually find something that they held that I didn't have access to, and if I do have access to it now that points me towards fusion instead of dormancy. It's not 100%, but that's the main way I have to tell the difference.

The other way I have to tell is much harder to describe and may not be at all applicable to anyone else, because it's just kind of...a feeling? There's this sense that I have now that my head is...full and bright and connected, but quiet at the same time? I don't entirely know how to describe it, but back before we fused I didn't ever realize this but it felt kind of like, both really loud and really empty inside at once? Like I was locked out of something, alone and lonely, but also surrounded by conflict and noise and other parts who were separate. And now it feels less lonely, even though there's not talking anymore. It feels warm and yellow and connected, and quiet but in a peaceful way. Like the quiet of a cozy library with lots of people reading silently together, instead of the quiet of being cut off and alone like when everyone else is dormant, or the feeling of being in one room alone with other people shouting from down the hall like before we fused. Again, that's just how it feels internally to me personally, so may not be applicable at all, but yeah. That's how fusion feels to us.

#answers #about us #did stuff #fusion #final fusion #this was very interesting to think about and answer #i hope it was helpful

[hansoeii]

look at you, you're gorgeous!

#and nothing bad ever happened #this might've been what aziraphale imagined when he asked crowley to come with him #I have returned to tend to your wounds good omens fandom #hope this helps you heal #good omens #good omens 2 #good omens spoilers #good omens fanart #good omens 2 fanart #aziracrow fanart #aziracrow #ineffable husbands #ineffable idiots #ineffable husbands fanart #neil gaiman #david tennant #michael sheen #aziraphale #crowley #my art #digital art #fanart

[callisteios]

i made a character uquiz. i 100% promise you that you will get a character you know AND like

#that's my guarentee #ignore the quiz description #features some of my favourite characters. eg. ianthe tridentarius. jaws. sonny!dog day afternoon. nicolas cage. kendall roy. hope this help #im not going to tag every fandom that's rude #uquiz #quiz #personality quiz #mine #i don't know why i put the sport question i hate the sport question. #wasted like half a day asking stupid questions like 'do we think vriska serqet would prefer football or hockey'

[tizzymcwizzy]

this is a poster i made for my call to action assignment in humanities! it's a bunch of basic and easy stretches for people who sit and work at a desk all day (me)

the idea is that you'd put the poster up above ur desk and do the stretches every 30 minutes or so,, the whole routine won't take more than about 6 minutes to complete and when done regularly it can prevent wrist, shoulder, neck and back pain! :)

all these stretches can be done while sitting (although i HIGHLY recommend you stand up and move around while taking a break from working)

you can get a free digital copy of this poster here on my gumroad!

and you can order a print/poster here from my inprnt!

#i mostly made this for me but i hope it can help other people too! #also thinking about maybe putting this on smth like gumroad so people can download a high quality pdf to print themselves #lmk if anyone would be interested in that 👀 #my art #artists on tumblr #stretches #edit: this post popped off okay‚ also a lot of people expressed interest so i made a gumroad! maybe ill put other stuff there thatd be cool

[stil-lindigo]

Ahmed Saad or @/90-ghost's brother in law is currently doing his best to organise the evacuation of his family from Gaza. This family suffers from a combination of ailments that all require medical attention. This is the description on their GFM page:

Hello, I hope you all are doing well!

My name is Mohamed Monir Ahmad Mahmoud, I’m a hemophilia patient from Gaza. I decided to start this campaign with all the hope that you could support me in evacuating Gaza to do surgery for me and my daughter and start a fresh life with my 5 kids out of the ongoing genocide in Gaza [...] I was supposed to go out at the end of 2023 to have surgery on my knees but since 7 October, I had no chance due to the procedures on Rafah crossing, the gate of Gazans to the world. Now, my knees and elbows are bleeding with no access to any type of care and if things stand as they are in Gaza, I won’t be able to walk or make any effort because of the bleeding (currently I am barely able to set up a small fire in front of the tent to prepare food for my kids).

What I ask is 60,000, for travel costs because each one would need to pay 5,000-8,000$ to be allowed to leave Gaza through Rafah crossing and we need around 3000$ more in Egypt for our stay and to obtain visas. We will be heading to Brazil where my brother Diaa lives and there is a huge chance to do the surgeries and access health care as the health care for Hemophilia patients in Brazil is one of the most advanced in the world.

please give generously!!

#theyre only at a fraction through their progress #after ahmed's success story getting his money #i hope tumblr can muster up enough generosity to help these folks out too #palestine #free palestine #free rafah #free gaza #rafah #mutual aid #donations

[everchased]

can someone please get these hoes under control i'm BUSY

#gun cw #it's EVERY 5 HOURS AT LEAST #AND THEY STAY UP???? LIKE NONE OF THE ONES I'VE REPORTED HAVE BEEN DEACTIVATED #GO AWAY #anyways... #my art #edit: everyone who says i look like [insert anime guy here] has holes in their brain hope this helps some of u figure out what's wrong

[rhinestonesox]

When Senshi was young in the dungeon the majority of the adults he were with ostracized him. All except Gillin, who died to make sure Senshi had something to eat: unseasoned boiled meat that may or may not have been one of their comrades.

It really puts into perspective why he was so nurturing towards Chilchuck. When Chil reveals he’s 28 to the party, Senshi responds by telling him that he thought he was older. Senshi was in his 30s when he and his comrades got trapped in the dungeon, so it’s safe to assume that he thought Chil was at a similar age.

He met a young boy who was, from his perspective, forced to do dangerous work in the dungeon just like he was, and so, Senshi made an effort to look after Chilchuck in the same way Gillin looked after him.

Mind you, when Senshi was young in the dungeon he had to starve for weeks, eat the horse he loved, and finish it off spending the next i don’t know how many years wondering if he committed cannibalism.

Senshi understands first hand the value of nutrition and proper eating, so when he’s with the party he makes an effort to make sure they’re all eating a full and balanced diet. Not only that, but Senshi INVOLVES them in the process of getting food to eat, always preparing it in front of them and narrating every ingredient in the process so that there’s no doubt about what they’re eating.

#i woke up in the middle of the night to write this and haven’t proof read so i seriously hope it’s coherent lmaoooo #dungeon meshi spoilers #delicious in dungeon spoilers #senshi #dungeon meshi #everyone jokes about senshi giving chilchuck the talk but he’s literally just trying to take care of a young boy who needs help #i’m crying #and sobbing #and punching the air

[applestruda]

Starry Sleepover

First ever dtiys! Celebrating 1 year here!

Rules below!

No deadline!

Feel free to use my designs or your own

You can change up the composition as you want, but keep the main vibes of sleepover, stars, and Boatem (don't remove folks)

You can use any form of art for this dtiys (writers included!!)

Use the #BeeBoatemDtiys tag, and if you want you can optionally @ me

If you have any questions ask away! Other than that have fun :]

#gaahhh #i hope this is fun #anyways #pearlescentmoon #pearlecentmoon fanart #mumbo jumbo #mumbo jumbo fanart #grian #grian fanart #impulsesv #impulsesv fanart #goodtimeswithscar #gtws fanart #hermitcraft #hermitcraft fanart #boatem #my art #BeeBoatemDtiys #thanks for word help zera <333

[triona-tribblescore]

I WANNA DRAAWW!! RAHHHGG!! Absolutely swamped with college work, im so tired TT (hence whatever tf this is lmao)

#posted this doodle on twitter yesterday but it's still very relevant today #fr cant do anything until I get 12 posters drawn make my homemade paper and finish/publish my 200 page book I'm gonna- #Send help #i miss being active sm :'(( #SORRY TO THE 60+ ASKS IN MY INBOX I PROMISE ILL GET TO YOU SOON <333 #anyway I hope everyone else is doing ok #sending love #(also husk please- stay off the internet lmao) #angel dust #angel dust fanart #husk #husk fanart #huskerdust #huskerdust fanart #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #tribbleart #<3

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[hansoeii]

#i made this to make myself feel better after e6 #so I hope it can help you all recover too #a perfect kiss in the rain like crowley deserves #good omens #good omens spoilers #good omens 2 #good omens fanart #aziracrow #aziracrow fanart #ineffable husbands #david tenannt #micheal sheen #neil gaiman #my art #digital art

[dollybites]

heyy

how did you get yout tumblr to format in the way it appears when you click on the link in ur bio ? <333

oh i just installed a theme, you can use custom themes, it used to be my favorite part of tumblr before they ruined it and made it mobile-oriented :( but you can go into the settings and click on edit the theme and then edit html and you have to delete everything that's already there and then put in a new one, there are premade themes online, just google tumblr themes and you'll find something for yourself, it's super customizable, i highly recommend it <3

#you can also google how to change the theme if you're not sure how to do that #there are tutorials for that as well #it's super easy tho #also i'm sorry fot the late reply #i had exams </3 #i hope it was helpful

[lilybug-02]

Pain is a great motivator…

Part 26 || First || Previous || Next

—Full Series—

Meanwhile Toriel:

(Loud noises don't wake her up usually.)

Artist note: I’m so proud of this :))) I know it’s a lot of dialogue and reading, but dialogue is grueling work for me. I’m glad with the art and for the amount of pages I made in such a relatively short time span -w- page 5 was super fun to work on. A lot of blood, sweat, and hours here... :) The backgrounds were a big bore tbh, but I finished them! Yippie!

#CHARA WTF DO YOU MEAN “COMPUTER”???? #lol i hope you guys dont hate me for what im doing in the next update. #IS THAT A MAC OS??? #Yes......owo'' #Kris and the Gang are LITTLE now. I've pixelated them and turned them into little game characters! #FINALLY!! #I never thought I would be going so far in the story to explain WHY Kris pulls out their SOUL and opens Darkfountains even when they killed #Berdly in Chapter 2. Pain can make people do horrible things. #Uhhhhhhhhh anyways. :3 I hope you liked it! I made this post a little too long for my liking and didnt get it out when i wanted too- #but thats okay! As long as people enjoy it :) #bread #art #deltarune chara timeline #deltarune chara timeline comic #seriously though #long post #man am I glad I switched over to the limited color palet! It helps me feel alot more relaxed uwu #This is....way over 16 hours of work q-q #chara #asriel #susie #kris #asriel dreemurr #kris dreemurr #kris deltarune #susie deltarune #deltarune #comic #my art

[guinevereslancelot]

first base is wound tending second base is hand touching

#third base is marriage #this is abt calabby but applies to all ships i hope this helps <3 #humor #ship dynamics #this has been a shitpost #windy #walker independence #im not being silly im not being funny it doesn't get nore romantic than this <3 #its abt the tenderness and unresolved tension #also the yearning pining longing etc #anyway tropes that make me insane every time <3 #1k #im being diagnosed as ace in the notes....interesting #im sorry but it doesn't get more tender and romantic and intimate than this #10k

[awrestlinggirlwholoves80sbands]

Hi, what does demigirl mean? I'm sorry if it sounds stupid, I would just like to learn more and be more considerate. Thank you and I really like your mood boards 🧡

Heyyy, so I am sticking to the internet definition, but any demigirl person feel free to step in and correct me.

Demigirl is a gender identity describing someone who partially identifies as a woman or girl. In addition to feeling partially like a girl or woman, demigirls also feel partly outside the binary. 

So for example someone might feel like they are a girl but not fully

#i hope it was helpful