#independent living support

[nicxxx5]

does anyone know of like a budgeting app that might exist for grocery shopping? like i need something that i can make a list and it will show/compare the prices of that item of all the stores i shop at. there can just be such an extreme difference in prices of the same item at different stores and it’s frustrating 

#budget #budget tips #budgeting #budgeting apps #independent #independent life #financial independence #independent living support #independent living #adult life #adulting #shop #shopping #living on my own #financial anxiety

[gideonisms]

THE number one most irritating thing about life is deciding when you're meant to speak or make eye contact and when you're not, and for how long and how many phrases you're meant to say at a time

#i know i make this post every week. i know this #but it's just constant! #all my other problems are either solvable or no one has ever solved them in the history of humanity you just have to live with them #but this one is soooo omnipresent and it takes up 80% of my brain space at almost all times #and it's not like i can really condition myself out of it because consciously Not thinking about it is the same as thinking about it! #try to think about my surroundings but people are a part of the surroundings! #how i avoided this level of constant decision making as a child is i just didn't speak to people besides my family unless i had to #i've read people's experiences who were like 'you need to decide when to put on your normal face and how to present yourself' #'being able to choose will give you more autonomy' and like! yeah! guess why i'm able to support myself and live an independent life #that doesn't mean making those choices every second of the day is enjoyable!! or really sustainable over decades and decades!! #rhghghgjhhbhhhhghghhhhghh #hisses like a cat going to the vet

[csphire]

Purples, Blues, and Gold

Words: 1,800

A prequel to Rosemary, Lilacs, Lilies and Bergamot

Astarion is at a loss on how to go about picking out something new for himself when given the chance. Floundering a bit he reaches out to his love for help and receives some supportive guidance. Just a short and hopefully sweet fluffy one-shot that's been living rent-free in my head since buying him an outfit at the Facemaker’s Boutique.

Bodies scattered the floors and blood soaked into the rugs at the Facemaker’s Boutique. The staff and owner were still rattled by the murder attempt. But at least Figaro ‘Facemaker’ Pennygood was so thankful to still be alive that he offered a discount to them all on the spot. The last thing Astarion expected was for their defacto leader as well as his lover to actually take up the offer so readily. But in their early days, she was not above picking up rags and anything else not nailed down for a bit of extra coin to buy one more healing potion or spell scroll.

With a soft clap, Anna declared, “Well now that bit of unpleasantness is all sorted out, how about we all do a little shopping?”

He watched as Gale and Karlach gave one another a tired but agreeing shrug. They both made a beeline to pick out some long overdue fresh undergarments to start. Astarion however felt rooted to the spot for so long that she noticed, drew close, and offered her hand. Stopping just short to give him the chance to decide if he wanted the contact or not. He stared at it for a moment before thinking to take it in his, give it a nervous squeeze, and side-eye the others. His lips pursed tighter as one of his brows cocked high in quiet alarm.

In a discrete murmur, so low only he could hear she guessed, “Star… has it been a while since you’ve picked something out for yourself?”

After a soft embarrassed clearing of his throat, he admits in his own way, “To say I’m out of touch with the current trends would be an understatement. What do you think I should get?”

Read on here:

#baldur's gate 3 #astarion #bg3 #astarion x tav #fluff #struggling with mental health #an attempt to help foster independence #I just really love those colors on him #shopping #choice anxiety #just some fluffy thought that's been living rent free in my head since buying him that outfit #Astarion and the player character #mutual trauma baggage #offering support #this fic might be cavity inducing #my apologies #I'm rusty #That and I love the sweet fluffy stuff #male vulnerability #Purples #Blues #Gold #my fanfiction

[elkkiel]

My favourite thing about being a young adult is having Mundane Adult Experiences for the first time. Like for example, a few months ago we bought a new dishwasher and I was genuinely impressed by the performance and some of the practical features. Or sending an invoice to a company's accounting department for my first freelance contract. Is this what small children feel like when they see a movie in the theater or a giraffe at the zoo for the first time? Surely the joy is on par with getting a sick discount on the big bottle of laundry detergent.

Anyways I'm buying a new mattress with my tax return and I'm so fucking hype, I'm gonna pick up some budget-friendly boxed wine tonight to celebrate

#im still living with my parents as a dependent through school + being audhd makes me nervous about independent living sometimes #i try and jump on these things whenever i can to build those skills and confidence #bc im starting to notice more and more that i might have higher support needs than i thought #i often feel like i'm quite behind others my age in terms of capability and independence so these things are dumb but important to me #anyways rant over i am so fucking excited to not sleep on a mattress older than me that's genuinely becoming u-shaped #elkk.txt

[thisonetimeinmeridian]

I miss Gendrya, they were my happy place. I miss thinking about them.

#gendrya #i miss them #i hope to see them in the jon snow series #like living in storms end married with a bunhc load of children #theyre happy and arya is her own kind of lady #and has strength and independence and her and gendry support the smallfolk and love them #and also hot pie #he lives in storms end too #hes there #hes the cook/baker #it is known #and jon is just shocked and bewildered that his little sister is like grown up? #how dare his best friend get his little sister pregnant #he knows nothing and is super bitter until sansa and bran have to go knock some sense into them #everything else i think about is just angst and discourse and i miss it #i miss the gendrya fandom #where are you guys? #come back #i miss you

[davidjrpalos]

I think something I’ve been struggling to grasp is the fact you could make a lot of personal progress, develop healthy habits and just generally be more caring toward yourself but you could still be unhappy with your situation/day to day etc. I’ve been feeling very unhappy lately and I always thought if I feel that way it had to be tied to dissatisfaction with myself so I’ve just been throwing a lot of, maybe the wrong type of coping skills at the mirror, hoping I will learn to feel better. But I can really say I am happy with myself and am doing great work w myself and it really is just my living situation and that I haven’t accomplished things I need to to hopefully ease some tension. A lot why I can’t really progress like I want to is conflicts that go in circles and it’s so hard to catch opportunities at the right time. It’s frustrating, and I really just want to gain some more independence and peace.

#kind of just wish I had more support. at home but also living w my family is why I need support lolll #literally have been managing my lack of independence independently … feel just emotionally isolated #it’s just a lot of unhealthy dynamics and people being stretched too thin #because of selfishness and laziness . among other things #personal

[paranormeow7]

me when I didn’t get the good at math autism or the good at art autism or even the obsessing over fictional men autism instead I got the apathy autism. the too much executive dysfunction to even do the things that make me happy autism. the social anxiety to the point where shooting a quick dm to someone carries the weight of the world autism. the unable to express emotion or communicate properly to the point where it ruins my relationships because people think I don’t give a shit about them when there is so much care inside me that my brain will not let me express autism

#actual sugar post #but hey at least I’m low support needs #so I can live somewhat independently and do the minimum work I need to to get through the day #even if it makes me want to kill my self #even if I’d probably starve to death in my own filth if left to my own devices #idk #whatever #delete later #vent #autism stuff #neurodivergent #actually autistic #neurodiversity #autism

[gynecologistmsfrizzle]

“what to tell a doctor to get an autism diagnosis” “here’s what i learned from realizing i was autistic at 40″ “i would never want a professional diagnosis” “person first language is so regressive” “autism symptoms are only a problem because of ableism” “we dont need treatment” “no autistic person wants a cure” “four doctors told me i couldn’t be autistic so i found a fifth” “autism is an invisible disability” “dont disclose your neurodivergency to employers” “i/dd and autism have nothing to do with each other” “nt parents/advocates have no place in autism communities” “of course im autistic have you heard me talk about horror movies” babe i have nothing in common with any of you

#completely insane that i will go on autism twitter and somehow i am ''low functioning'' compared to the rest of the people on there. #what are you TALKING about. dont disclose your ''neurodivergency'' to your doctors?? autism is an invisible disability? #we live on different planets. like i think we live on different planets. #sorry but i am twenty two years old and my mother has a fippa exemption to access all my medical info bc if she did not #i would not be able to access healthcare. #the only reason i can live away from home is because i have a cell phone and internet and can keep in touch w family. #my legal government address is my father's house where i have not lived for seven years #because if an important document gets sent to my apartment i will lose it or forget about it and i know this because it's happened. #like ... yeah ! autism IS a spectrum ! and you are not doing such a good job recognizing and supporting people who are #in very different places on that spectrum than you ! #it is. i mean it's kind of a form of hermeneutical injustice to argue that there is no meaningful difference between various groups #of autistic people #like yeah functioning labels suck ASS. also you DO need to be able to identify that there ARE people who need more support #because if you can't name that then you are going to forget that they exist #and i see that all the time. it's aspie supremacy by another name #by erasing people who did not have the privilege of self-diagnosing #who do not have the privilege not to disclose #who do not have the privilege of independent self-advocacy #you are going to end up achieving the same thing that actively dismissing those people achieves #like. i dunno. like i said it's completely bonkers in yonkers that EYE and the UNIVERSITY DEGREE EYE WILL BE GETTING IN TWO MONTHS #and my LEASE and my RESPECTABLE RESUME and my INCOMING SOCIAL WORK LICENSE #feel alienated by the default presumptions the ''autistic community'' seems to operate from about how autistic people function #like jfc if i feel erased and unwelcome then how are you EVER going to make your community accessible and helpful #to people who need miles more support than i do?? #rhi talks #autie tag

[maya-matlin]

very UO but if they couldn’t bring back Jake, they should have stuck Peyton and Julian together as endgame over Leyton! Julian and Peyton had already supposedly been in love, they both like cities (LA, NYC etc) and it makes sense they’d live there due to their careers, and both Peyton and Julian for a lot of their time on the series seemed ambivalent about starting a family. Also, Julian is smart and on the introverted side like Lucas but a little goofy like Jake - a combination of the traits Payron goes for! Meanwhile, we saw so clearly in season 5 that Brooke and Lucas both loved being back in one tree hill, they both seem to have jobs they can do anywhere, they both very much prioritize settling down and having a family, they were already unofficially co-parenting Angie, they still have that seemingly effortless and magical connection, they balance each other out perfectly…I could go on!

Honestly, I wouldn't have minded that one bit. First of all, Peyton deserved a million times better than Lucas by the time he finally got around to choosing her. She was lacking any sort of spine or self respect when she ran to that airport. As irritating as I found her character for large stretches of season 5, ultimately she wasn't in the greatest place and only imagined that her happiness could be attainable if she won Lucas back. Now to get back to what you were saying. I definitely think Peyton was better off and would have thrived most living away from Tree Hill in a bigger city where her dreams could really take off. I mean, the show really said that because Peyton wasn't exactly where she wanted to be at age 22 that this made her a failure and retroactively meant her decision not to rush down the aisle at age 19 had been a terrible, awful, shameful mistake. Seasons 6 and 7 Julian would have made a lot of sense as a partner for the ambitious Peyton who had faced so much trauma and pain in her hometown. STRONGLY agreed about your points re: Peyton and Julian being ambivalent and sometimes even negative about settling down in Tree Hill compared to Brooke and Lucas who genuinely loved it there and couldn't imagine raising their families elsewhere. I'm aware every aspect of this was unintentional considering the possibility of a Brucas endgame post season 3 was basically taboo, but in terms of compatibility Brooke/Lucas and Peyton/Julian made the most sense. If we couldn't have Jake back for Peyton, obviously. In the end, Peyton still left Tree Hill, something Lucas never wanted. And Julian settled for staying in Tree Hill for Brooke even though he'd rather be in LA. Relationships are all about compromise, but it's interesting how their situations sort of parallel. You should go on, because I love reading your thoughts! I genuinely think if not for Peyton's continued interest in Lucas and Lucas having an unfortunate history of making the same mistakes over and over again, Lucas would have eventually ended up with Brooke. Season 5 Brucas had such an ease around each other. Their goals lined up perfectly. The chemistry was still there. Their communication was really solid and both went out of their way to emotionally support the other. Maybe it's because the pressure was off considering neither was expressing their feelings, but you see them taking care of Angie and the way Lucas considered proposing to Brooke and instinctively know that they could have had it all. It's really depressing.

#Anonymous #I know it was all for the sake of the cliffhanger but I'll never be over Lucas desperately wanting to marry someone and fantasizing about #his potential marriage to Brooke #Peyton and Lindsey make sense #Lucas literally almost married Lindsey and Peyton spent the entirety of season 5 chasing Lucas down expressing remorse over rejecting #his marriage proposal #Brooke was never technically his love interest at any point #They hadn't dated since the first episode of season 4 and the last time Lucas tried to make something happen in the flashback set between #seasons 4 and 5 Brooke turned him down #But they were taking care of Angie together and he was this emotional support for Brooke because it's exactly where he wanted to be #And I mean the airport scene where he shows up after Brooke said she could say goodbye to Angie on her own #Lucas clearly at least at the back of his mind was thinking about Brooke as a romantic prospect even if it was unspoken #I'll die on this hill especially since most fans decry the idea that Lucas was ever legitimately in love with someone besides Peyton #The fantasy was kind of bullshit because out of all of Lucas's possible wives Brooke is the only one who in reality would want to #live in Tree Hill permanently but it's like he needed to convince himself Brooke was all wrong for him as did Mark Schwahn #Like sorry you accidentally wrote them as perfect for each other for two seasons and then later had to walk it back with poor writing #And felt Peyton should give up any sort of independence and free thinking to be right for Lucas #Ignore this because these tags are a mess

[autistic-katara]

Fuck your grandma I hope she gets bombed

she lives in england and has lived there since 1980 but i do agree that that posh referendum denying, gaelic erasing country should face consequences

#considering the topic i do feel the need to mention that my hatred for england is played up for dramatic effect and while i do desperately #want to be free of them i dont support the idea of bombing a random town in the lake district #dont think that’ll give us independence yk 😭 #antisemitism #<- i guess #doesn’t even feel like proper antisemitism to be bcz my grandmother has infact lived in england more than she’s lived in israel #and is currently living in england and hasn’t even visited israel in over a year #anons r wild #asks

[itsanautiething]

Had a doctor's appointment this morning at 11:40 to get my prescription refilled. Looked at the clock shortly after 11.

Got a message from my boss that I "quickly" looked into it and sent a reply.

Looked at the clock again...11:42. Fuck!

Called the clinic, apologized and admitted I lost track of time... they kindly rescheduled my appointment for noon.

At the clinic... tell the Dr that I need a prescription refill. He asks if the dose is working, etc. I admit that it's not great, but that I still haven't made the necessary changes to my life in order to recover from burnout, so it still doesn't make sense to assist my meds... and then I'm crying.

I'm so tired. My brain is literally unable to perform the most basic functions. And somehow I need to... support myself, maintain personal and professional relationships, feed myself, clean my house, care for my pets... as well as the pets I care for in the side to help pay off debt (accrued from a previous state of prolonged burnout as well as impulse spending)... but I'm "high functioning" and don't meet the random threshold for actually helpful accommodations for work.

Oh and my two most regular dog sitting clients are both suddenly being unreliable.

I'm so tired of being tired and I am barely holding on... yet I have no choice but to push through unless I want to dig myself in a deeper financial hole that I'll never get out of...

Really struggling to see the point of it all. Thank dogness for my fur babies.

[Pic of friend's cat (a current house guest) for cat tax]

#actually autistic #actually audhd #autistic adult #autistic burnout #low support needs #independent living #just needed to vent

[gurorori]

i say this with utmost seriousness i wish i was employed

#i need income so badly but im terrified of the prospects of havin 2 live independently but otherwise bein abused 2 death is the only option #:[ im so scared i wish things were easier #it doesn help when they constantly talk abt our neighbor slash childhood bestie whos jus a bit younger than us but alrdy has like #most of her life sorted out shes workin n studyin n they got her a car 4 hwr bday n she has a boyfriend n they r movin out next month #a middle class family btw with two alive parents yadda yadda. her tuition is effortlessly paid n she works on da side 4 her own expenses #n it's like first of all im nawt a well off cis girl. second of all she had qn actual support system n an upbringing — we didn't #i literally vaguely remember spendin most of our childhood n early teens over at her apartment since it was literally two steps away #they'd let us stay 4 hours cuz they felt bad 4 us n they dunno the whole story but they kno we r one of those 'unfortunate' families lol #but yeah the difference between us is night & day. it honestly feels a little crazy since we live literally on the same floor of the same #building despite the feasible differences. idk if dats a good or a bad thing #im jus tired of bein compared 2 her cuz we were failed on so many levels by everyone in our life who was supposed to care 4 us #meanwhile she's an average white blonde girl with a good life by here's standards #i wish we were still close but it became hard approaching teens... still we owr majority of our happy childhood memories 2 hangin out @ her #house or goin places w their family. it almost kinda felt like we were part of it but ik im. exaggeratin #yea idk why i ranted but um i need a job or ill die i think #mika caws

[felbelfittich]

wrong place to talk about this but I'm frankly not fond of Da Real Talk on the pvp website so I'll just get my thoughts out here. I'll be unfollowing and or blocking artists who buy the twitter checkmark. if you have the desire to buy an algorithm boost you do not need my support. "it's for my career" my ass, your 8 usd are better invested supporting fellow artists by buying their merch or backing their patreon. instead you throw it at the billionaire who makes cars explode

#my account was tankin :'< says the 100k follower twitter artist #touch grass. go outside. establish connections with fellow artists and art directors #make a living independent on getting High Numbers on the website #stop supporting the shit you claim makes you sick #asmo labert

[barnabytremayne]

Living with Imposter Syndrome

Living with imposter syndrome is like constantly feeling like a fraud in your own skin. It's a constant nagging voice that tells you that you're not good enough, that you don't belong and that you will be exposed as a fraud.

I remember the first time I shared my work online, I felt like I didn't belong and that my art wasn't good enough. But that feeling never really went away. It's been with me through every new project, every performance, and every time someone compliments my work.

It's not just my art, it's everything. I doubt my abilities in every aspect of my life. It's been hard, it's affected my relationships, my work, everything. I've been afraid to share my work, to take on new projects, because I was convinced I would fail.

But you know what? I've come to realize that I'm not alone in feeling this way. A lot of people struggle with imposter syndrome. It's not something that can be cured, but it can be managed. I'm learning to be kinder to myself. I remind myself that mistakes are a part of the creative process, and that I'm not alone in feeling this way.

I've also learned to surround myself with people who support me and believe in me. And I try to focus on my accomplishments, rather than my shortcomings. I remind myself of the times when my art has been positively received, and the times when I've overcome obstacles. It's not easy, but it's worth it.

So, if you're reading this and you feel like a fraud, just know that you're not alone. We all feel like that sometimes. But we can learn to manage it, and that's what really matters.

#imposter syndrome #mental health issues #self worth #therapy #living with mental illness #depression recovery #self esteem #artist problems #motivation #support artists #artists on tumblr #neurodiverse artist #independent music #musician on tumblr #essay writing #living with a disability #essays #thoughts of mine #writing #self improvement #self healing #personal ramblings #low self worth #faking it

[iloveyouitisruiningmylife]

arey

#fir hit ho gayi kya hai tumblr ko im in my feels #using tumblr the way i used to (dear diary...) #haan so like. fees #and like #unhone foundation ki registration ki bhi bhari thi way back in 2021 jab unka package abhi jitna hai usse bhi aadha tha😭 #i remember telling dad back then ki aap wapis kar dena didi ko #and she said arey babe tension mat le ye mera investment hai fir return tujhse bharvaungi😭😭😭 #like. return bharne mein jitne paise nahi lagte usse kai zyada baar unhe meri fees bhar di #like just #i can't explain why it indicates so much love and trust and support #imagine being trapped in ek ghar bachpan se and you know the only way out is to be financially independent #and to live there in the meantime you have to scarifice your everything your thoughts opinions freedom YOUR VOICE #your whole life basically #and then finally FINALLY after clearing the toughest fucking exams of the country getting a awesome fucking degree and #slaying at a job for a huge multinational company #you finally achieve your dream you're finally free and independent you can do whatever you want #and then in such early stages of your career you spend it all on your loserass little sister jo fail ho chuki hai 1 baar #like bhaii😭😭😭😭 #anyway i love her hope woh wapis jaldi aa jaye already bohot yaad aa rahi hai but itsok hope woh wahan khush rahe heal ho jaye

[m00ngbin]

Uh warning this whole thing is me complaining about my bones and pain and stuff so if you're sick of hearing about that you should probably ignore this

Whatever's wrong with my knee spread to my hip so I think that maybe I WILL be needing a cane or something soon and it's not just a joke I was making cause I had to keep sitting down in random places

Joke might be the wrong word because it wasn't really a joke and it wasn't funny, I was just trying to be lighthearted and it didn't seem like it was really happening or that it was probable

#sorry if we're ever in a public place and i suddenly make us stop so i can sit down for a few seconds #its not because im lazy or im trying to be annoying i swear #something ive been thinking about is disability #i don't think im disabled because i can still get around and do things but sometimes it is a little difficult and im worried that #in the future I'll have a really hard time walking without pain and ill have to depend on someone more than i already do #im already going to need to live with someone for the rest of my life anyway because of mental health stuff and i really dont want to have #to give up what freedom i have left #i read somewhere that disability forces you to rely on people and it takes away your independence and totally overhauls your life #and that disability really destroys your walls surrounding asking others for help/support #being independent and being self sufficient #i pride myself on my independence and self sufficiency and seeing that slowly start trickling away while theres nothing i can do about it #and nobody knows what to do to stop it is really painful #maybe it wont get so bad that ill be fully reliant but the possibility is there and not knowing is really scary #my choice and my autonomy are being ripped away and it not a person thats doing it its my own body #im not in control of my own body anymore #maybe im being dramatic but it really doesnt feel like it #because i am slowly watching my joints get worse and i am completely helpless. i cant do anything. im watching whatever this is spread and #not a single person can tell me what it is or why its happening