#is that a cisgender thing to do?

[cantagirldrawinpeace]

That was a super heterosexual cisgender interaction Deuce, great job! You’re so good at being cishet!!!!

😀👍

(The line art here is all by Boichi, who illustrated a shortened version of the Ace novel, I simply colored this panel. Originals under the cut)

#fellas is it gay #to accept an entirely new name an identity #based on the nickname given to you #by the man who you have vowed to be with until death? #is that a cisgender thing to do? #i think not #one piece #one piece fanart #novel ace #ace novel one piece #one piece novel a #ace novel #masked deuce #portagas d. ace #fire first ace #acedeu #ace one piece #deuce x ace #ace x deuce #acedeuce #one piece deuce #deuace #my art

[genderimpala]

when you transgender so fucking hard the gender quiz thinks you're a cis male

#is this a good thing #do i want to be a cis male #does anyone really want to be a cis male #lmao #genderfluid #transgender #trans #trans rights #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqplus #queer #cisgender #transmasc #non-binary #enby #NB #gender #genderqueer #memes #trans memes #this is so funny to me #bisexual #asexual #aromantic #ace aro #testosterone

[pansyfemme]

honestly the only thing keeping me going through this bullshit is being friends with so many freaky trans people i feel like talking to other trans people is the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes

#having people bitch about me making being trans my whole personality is funny af #because its not really. people just sometimes dont care to actually get to know me #and 2) yeah my art and style are based around it. because i am an artist. making a political statement in my work. a relativly common thing #to do. that is what my work is about. im sorry its so offensive to you #fuck dude i like to think i have a thick skin after facing near daily transphobia on and offline since i was a kid but i do feel so angry #its so easy to get away with for some people #because it has nothing to do with them and everything to me being a cis hating bigoted scary transsexual who bullies cis people by standing #in a room and not being cisgender

[guard-en]

you draw deimos so butchy it makes me wanna faint

butchy t-thang deimos does rotten things to my mind and I spread my propaganda like a disease

#i say t-thang cause I'm fond of transfem and transmasc deimos #my thing is do whatever you want with the madcom bitches as long as they ain't wholly cisgender #get fucky with it #guarden/asks/requests

[mintedwitcher]

I just had two transphobes attempt to insult and degrade me by calling me a tranny, because I said I wasn't going to stop referring to cis people as cis. Then they got absurdly angry that I didn't react in the way they wanted when they called me a tranny. Because I've been calling myself that, proudly, for years now. I've reclaimed that term for myself, because fuck yeah I am a tranny. I think it's a funny term and I like it for myself. And these transphobes lost their goddamn minds because I didn't react the way they wanted me to.

See, this is what exposes them, though. They compared being called 'cis', a scientifically accurate term describing their relationship to their gender, to a transphobic slur, implying with that comparison that the terms were of equal moral value and impact. They're so mad about being called 'cis', because they see 'trans' as an insult, and therefore assume 'cis' is an insult. Their worst fear in this world is being assumed to be trans, or being called trans, or even being accused of being supportive or accepting of trans people. Because they see trans existence as inherently subhuman.

They don't even try to cover that up. They demand we use terms like 'normal' or 'biological' when talking about cis people, implying once again that being trans is subhuman. They cannot stand the thought that they could need to be classified in the same way that we classify transness.

This is also, btw, why their arguments and their composure absolutely shatters when you compare the terms 'cis' and 'trans' to terms like 'tall' or 'short' or 'blonde'. Because 'cis' and 'trans' are adjectives, they're descriptors, that's all they are. They're a way to classify groups of people into mostly accurate categories to make discussions simpler.

If I wanted to give a lecture about the commonality of blonde hair, for example, I would be wasting time and breath by trying to describe blondeness without using the word blonde, and I'd most likely end up accidentally excluding some types of blonde hair while accidentally including some types of hair that would be better suited under the 'redhead' or 'brunette' categories. The same can be said for discussions of gender and sex, which is the only context where these terms are actually widely used.

If I wanted to talk about cis women, I would say cis women. Because that includes all women who were born female and still identify as women now. If I wanted to talk about all women, cis and trans together, I'd simply say women. Likewise, for discussions involving only trans women, I would say trans women. Notice how in none of these circumstances anyone is being incorrectly categorised. Discussions of cis women stay about cis women, discussions of trans women stay about trans women. Discussions about women stay about women.

Categories are helpful. Adjectives are helpful. No one is hurting you or excluding you by calling you cis, unless you're not cis.

And really if you have this much of a visceral reaction to being called cisgender, maybe it's time you do some self-reflection, because you might not be cisgender.

#tldr; cis is just a descriptor and if youre mad at it then you might not be cis #and thats okay #self-reflection is good and important actually #more cisgender people should explore their gender and sense of self #its actually one of the best things you can do for yourself #t slur cw #t slur reclaimed #also before anyone brings it up notice that i've only reclaimed this for MYSELF not for anyone else #im not gonna go round calling everyone else the same thing if they're not comfortable with that #but im comfy with it for myself #anyway #long post #transphobia

[loving-jack-kelly]

i keep seeing posts comparing the gay moral panic of the past to the current trans moral panic and I do get where they're coming from but like. as somebody who still lives with fundamentalist evangelical Christians, there is no real differentiation. like at all. fundamentalist Christians still hate gay people just as much as they did, they just now know the terminology to hate trans people in the exact same way. they didn't shift targets, they added more. they are not fine with gay people now that they hate trans people. is it more palatable for more people to hate trans people? yes, because society has gotten better faster about gay people than trans people, and that's why they're being so loud about trans people right now, because more people outside of their in-group find it acceptable. but the ones starting the "protect the children" bullshit and calling trans people groomers are saying the exact same things about gay people, and they have been the whole time, and they have never stopped. they always hated trans people, but now they know the words to make that clear. do not let them convince you they only hate trans people. they hate you, too. they want you gone, too. don't let them separate us.

#sincerely somebody gay and trans who grew up and is living in a fundamentalist Christian household #gay and trans might as well be the same thing to them. they do not care if you are 'only' gay #they do not care the nuances of your identity #if you are not cisgender AND heterosexual they hate you and think you target kids and think you want to destroy civilization #the panic has never stopped for them. it never even paused. they just learned new words to describe more people and create more categories #of people to be hated and feared and hurt #transphobia #homophobia #politics #a rare serious post from me bc I just saw the same post twice and have been seeing them for a while and thinking abt it. #it's just. don't let them trick you into thinking they're fine with some things and not others. they're not. #there is a line that once crossed renders you perverted to them and that line is being anything other than perfectly straight and cis

[spitblaze]

"You just want to be a man to escape misogyny" God I wish it worked. This shit is inescapable

#spitblaze says things #the idea that men are immune to misogyny is. misguided i will say #its still there. just utilized differently. #as a method to keep you in line #anyway i am a man because i enjoy presenting as a man and being percieved as a man and percieving myself as a man #and i heard somewhere that that isn’t a very cisgender thing to do

[badolmen]

Being transgender is just realizing that the majority of cis people have no frame of reference for what that actually means.

#ra speaks #personal #one person will define it as crossdressing/gnconformity another will define it as a purely medical phenomenon another will fixate on pronons #it’s amazing like yes being transgender is a deeply personal thing and no one is entitled to your definition of your experience #but cis people don’t have the basic like. you do not identify with the gender you were raised to present as. #that’s the trans part of transgender. everything past that - medical social presentation etc. is up to the individual #crossdressing and transness aren’t mutually exclusive nor is medical history or pronoun use. this is equally true for cisgender people. #that’s why intersex people can be cis or trans - again it’s a deeply personal experience and is broadly defined as not IDing w the gender #you were raised to present as like it’s not that complicated

[caffeinatedopossum]

Ed recovery with autism and adhd is so weird.

Like I'll either forget to eat lunch entirely or I'll forget when I ate last and end up eating lunch 3 seperate times instead.

Then sometimes I have to literally ask my girlfriend if I'm hungry because I don't fucking know what my body is feeling ever and she's usually like "Yeah you should eat".

Then when I go to prepare food it's like:

Me: okay body so how much food do you want

Body: hm...m... food...?

Me: yes food. But HOW MUCH

Body: uhh... s e v e r a l

Me: WHAT DOES THAT MEAN

And then I end up making too much for me to eat (thank God I'm allowed to not eat all of my food now- I hated that rule so much growing up) but its still so goddamn confusing skgjfjfhff

#wrong #anyway im incredibly thankful for my girlfriend who is so so patient and supportive #the amount of help and support i never realized i need is actually insane #like i genuinely cant function without help because of my autism (and adhd to a lesser degree) #idk its just really nice to not only have help but not feel like i should be ashamed of needing it either #oof i forgot the other thing that happens when i make food is that i prepare it and then by the time its done cooking #i dont even want it anymore -_- like wtf? i literally was JUST hungry #or i wont feel hungry but then as soon as i go to bed and cant make food because everyones asleep #and the lights are all off and im all cozy and sleepy #THEN im starving. my body has the worst timing ever sometimes istg #still not as bad as before recovery though #ive just elected to be a lot more patient with myself #i used to compare my recovery to other peoples never understanding what i was doing #but the truth of the matter was those people i was comparing myself to #had only had eds for like 2-5 years. which is still bad of course but its not applicable to my scenario #they were also neurotypical and cisgender which i also couldnt relate to #the thing is i never learned how to eat properly. before my ed i still wasnt eating enough #because my parents were neglecting me #i only know hunger and i never learned how to eat properly or what being nourished feels like #that means i have to not only relearn things but learn them entirely for the first time #i have to learn what hunger feels like and what being full feels like and when it is and isnt ok to skip a snack #its just really hard learning these things for the first time ar 20 years old #and once i acknowledged that- that it was really hard for me- i think i felt a lot of relief #like im struggling but it makes sense that i am and i wont always feel like thia #one day i will heal. i just needed a little help

[slicedblackolives]

i often think about the fact how it's culturally expected for parents to pierce their baby girls' ears in my country but my parents didn't do it and when i was only 4 my cousin had them done so i begged and begged and begged my parents to get mine done too. i had v little access to mass media and i couldn't read and i didn't go to school and didn't know when i was feeling cold and needed to put on a sweater but performing and embodying girlhood was SO important to me even at that age! fascinating

#being cisgendered is just as much a Process as being trans! little girls get so so so upset when theyre made to do. #'boy things' even if theyre more freeing #it genuinely hurt my feelings to not wear visibly feminine #i think it was because my body was indistinguishable from a boy from that age and wesring neutral-ish outfits made me look like #a boy and that was extremely extremely upsetting for me #i stopped being so obsessed with pink when my hair grew out and later i got breasts and stuff. and THEN i could wear other stuff.

[naetles]

i love the t4t zelink headcanon because it doesn't even matter whether you think of them as transfem zelda x transmasc link or transmasc zelda x transfem link, both of these are objectively correct and very valid

#I LOVE TRANSGENDERISM!!! #i'm fine with zelda but everytime someone refers to link as a cisgender man my eye starts twitching and i see red #have you seen him #have you properly looked at him #one thing about link is that he's either a trans boy or a trans girl or neither of these #non-binary link truthers I LOVE YOU ALL #i got off track i'm sorry. #WHAT I WANTED TO SAY IS we need to give ftm zelda and mtf link wayyy more attention #it's usually the other way around so why not spice things up #WHY NOT SEE ZELDA AS A TRANS BOY AND LINK AS A TRANS GIRL #DO YOU SEE THE VISION TOO. *frantically shakes you by the shoulders* DO YOU SEE IT. DO YOU SEE IT. DO YOU SEE IT. #the legend of zelda #breath of the wild #tloz #botw #link #zelda #zelink

[werewolfest]

So tired of cis people viewing trans peoples genders as permanently less fully realized than their own when they’re the ones who often haven’t spent more than ten minutes thinking about their own gender and haven’t had to work for any of it. Why the fuck should the burden of proof be on trans people to prove we are who we say we are. We’ve already had fight against everything we r told we’re supposed to be in order to mold ourselves into who we actually are.

I think cis people very often assume that trans people want so desperately to be accepted into their understanding of gender but the reality is that we usually know more about gender as a concept than they do and as a result know that their understanding of gender is a) wrong, and b) sucks shit. It really is like I just need to scream at people that I don’t want to be, look or act cis!!!!!

#static #like I’m doing my own fucking thing over here I really do not need cisgender approval thanks

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

Honest question - why are radfems so committed to the 'axis of oppression' analysis?

#it's the same axis that suggests 'cisgender' is 'privileged' and 'transgender' is 'oppressed' #it's the same axis that suggests 'fertile' is 'privileged' and 'infertile' is 'oppressed' #it's the same axis that suggests 'pretty' is 'privileged' and 'ugly' is 'oppressed' #it massively over-simplifies things #radblr #radfems do interact

[metanarrates]

basically: not using the aromantic label cause I don’t think it’s crazy applicable to my life (i feel like my weird relationship to romance is more easily chalked up to me being autistic polyam and a lesbian) but I believe in their beliefs

#narrates #obv people can use the aro label for those reasons. i just don't rly think it matters to me whether I do or not #but aro people I am shaking your hands so fucking hard. we need to unionize to destroy society #we need to destroy societal enshrining of Love as the most important subjective human experience #it's like implicitly cisgender heterosexual monogamous love of course #but expanding that definition of Love and still treating it as all important isn't good either. #having that be the expected norm is always gonna be cruel and alienating and is always gonna force people into boxes they don't want! #so yeah. we can do without it being the most important human thing thank u

[katierosefun]

i know this show isn’t totally perfect in how it handles things but man . . .

#caroline watches kdrama #fly high butterfly #salon de nabi #also like i think the writer of this kdrama. does have genuine care about queerness in korea #becuase in hello my twenties season 2 there was a queer story going on in the background i think #and like not to be like 'season 1 def had something queer going on between two of the characters but' #that said the person sending this text is i'm p sure cisgender #but there IS a trans or genderqueer character in this show too #and while i've heard mixed things about that plotline #and while i have kinda mixed feelings about the exact context of when this line is delivered #it warms my heart anyways #bc like. idk. queerness is not accepted in korea even now #so this line. still at the end of the day. still makes me go :')) #'what can i do? i already like you' is so!!

[pinkopalina]

also I like whatever joker and bruce gender/body situation. t4t, trans one or the other, both "cis", both nonbinary whatever! I love all potential and fun things :) whatever works best for what makes it fun in the moment is what I always say

#like i dont want yall to look at my art and think i only like the one thing? #i like a lot of things!!! #right now i prefer trans boy joker and nonbinary he/him bruce #the concept of cisgender is getting sillier and sillier to me to abide by bc i think of gender like a name #you dont call people mary and nonmary...... #why would i call you cis or noncis..... u know? #so continuing to default to a shitty system feels worse to me than using the technically correct language? #i think we should all be assigned nonbinary at birth and choose later #so calling someone cis feels like well how the fuck do i know that lol. #anyways not to go to the gendergarten on a batman post