#made with a smile

[whiteshipnightjar]

Zoozve, my beloved

#i cannot tell you how much this made me smile just bc it's so full of love #moon #venus #zoozve #long post #sorry about that it's very long but it's very entertaining i hope you enjoy this lil zoozve gem haha #astronomy #astrophysics #space

[petricorah]

why wear a huge ass overcoat when you can just hold your crush's hand? [ids in alt]

kinda wanna make the last panel a standee lol

#zukka #zukka fanart #avatar the last airbender #avatar the last airbender fanart #atla #atla fanart #avatar #avatar fanart #sokka #zuko #zuko fanart #sokka fanart #if i made a standee would you like it as them holding hands and smiling with both their faces visible or the actual image of zuko covering #his face #<<<delusions from the person who has yet to post their shop of what they already have made

[tsotc]

fucking obsessed with the uni town i live in

#the char is a lifesize cardboard cutout from what we could see from the ground. obsessed #APPARENTLY the people who im stranded on on a road trip rn know who owns char. hes handmade #edit: the owner has been in contact :D #ALSO YES THIS IS IN WALES. IM WELSH. i saw him again on my snack run to spar at ~2:30 am and it made me smile. hi char

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them! #i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all.. #...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in... #...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air... #...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life... #...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with... #...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it... #...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

[amygdalae]

I think he wld be very happy as a zookeeper

#extremely self indulgent art but drawing it made me smile maybe it will make you smile too. if you want #im going away now (to sleep) goodnight. be niceys #my art #dungeon meshi #Laios

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[jamboscrimblo]

thought i’d share my little collection of scar & jellie making the same face in photos

#i am. very sad!! but trying to just look back on things that made me smile #mcyt #jellie the cat #goodtimeswithscar #gtws #hermitcraft #jellie

[batbabydamian]

i saw your username in the corner of my eye and thought it said “fatbabydamian”.

THIS MADE ME BURST OUT LAUGHING 😭 i dedicated a csp file called fatbabydamian bc of you ty

#o my god tysm for informing me it made me smile the whole day #ask #he's trying to take his first steps lol #damian wayne #talia al ghul #batbabyart #unrelated but man whenever a character has the dangly snot i always think of this one kid from Wind Waker lol #babian

[canon-gabriel-quotes]

Transcript:

LET'S SETTLE THI- Oh hang on. Hang on, Machine, um.

It's 8 PM I need to take my testosterone.

Sorry I'll just be a second. Uh wait here, alright?

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#ultrakill #gabriel ultrakill #ultrakill if it was based #its like a power up for the fight #fight. yeah. fight.. and not uh. anything else........................ that it could possibly effect *i am shot before i can continue* #smiles. #anyway. hes about to lose half his blood supply. your dose is gonna be all fucked up #take care of yourself #edit: #the way todays dev stream made this Canon (trust me). as was foretold. #this being posted today was a complete coincidence #I scheduled this weeks posts a few days ago #IT WAS FORETOLD #I SAW IT

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

he's squeaky toy. to me.

#aough i love him so much.... #i will never be able to recreate this style/design i already know #my love for him is so great that it renders me unable to draw him consistently #it took all of my willpower not to clutter this with heart scribbles #himhimhimhimhimhimhimhimhim- #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #scribble garnish #welcome home fanart #welcome home wally #wally darling #NOOOOOO I MADE HIS CARDIGAN TOO DARK. FUCK #itsfineitsfineitsfine No One Will Notice #sigh. anyway... #i love his lil ascot and bizarre hair and cat smile and- #i have decided to put Slightly More Effort into my doodles. i think it might be worth it #even if the sun is up and my wrist hurty and im tired. i have been drawing for hours und hourz #and putting that right after more hours und hourz of crocheting? Ouch My Tendons

[greatestvillaininthegalaxy]

have some gleps

#smiling friends #adult swim #april fools #glep #i made gifs

[tastytastysoap]

Cope how you need to

#mlp fim #mlp #meme i made in 2 minutes #rarity #rainbow dash #twilight sparkle #pinkie pie #fluttershy #apple jack #princess luna #im a simple man #i see a colorful pony? i smile #my little pony #my litte pony friendship is magic

[animesketch-es]

☀️🌙

#made this because i really can’t sleep #gradually drawing them better 🤯 #poppy playtime #smiling critters #dogday #catnap #my art #thanks for 2k!

[cheruib]

why is it SO incredibly sweet when a stranger smiles at u like. i don’t know you but here’s a piece of happiness in this crazy world. im giving u this smile because it’s all i have to offer, and i want to offer you something. you’ll forget my face, probably, but you’ll remember this, at least for the rest of the day, or the afternoon, or your lunch break. hope you had a good day. Hope the rest of it is better.

#i swear. my days are always made by beautiful strangers smiling at me/me smiling at them and them smiling back etc idk. #i just think it’s such a sweet interaction

[themaymoth]

the mermaid princess has fallen for your spell, just not the one you intended...💖💕

✨beefleaf fairytale au because ill take any excuse to draw lesbian mermaids✨

#i made this last year actually but its still pretty good i smile when i see it everytime #i planned on making more of this au but i got sucked into tma au hell and here i am #tgcf fanart #tgcf #beefleaf #shi qingxuan #he xuan #tgcf fairytale au #tgcf au #tian guan ci fu #heaven official's blessing #my art

[elbdot]

LITTLE COMIC based on how I made a friend at 1 am while crawling on the ground, picking up Maybugs to save them from getting squished by cars.

PRETTY SURE I must've looked like a strange little gremlin to any onlookers passing by. Also yes he held a bug like a CHAMP. He passed my test. We still hang out 😂

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#comics #comic #artists on tumblr #drawing #comic art #digital art #bugs #insects #mod #Also yes by now I'm known in my neighborhood as the BEE GIRL #I'm always taking pictures of wild bees during spring and summer hanging around the front gardens of my neighbors #Now they all know me and greet me with a smile but I STILL DON'T KNOW THEIR NAMES #It's really fun to own this reputation tho I LOVE IT #I made a lot of friends this year thanks to my hobby #Hope this trend continues LMAO #my art #elbdot art #elbdot