can you make greyromantic + demiaroace + lesbian + nominsexual combo flag? thanks :)
Greyromantic, demiaroace, lesbian, and nominsexual combo flags.
One version without a symbol, and another with.
I simplified it a bit by only using one of each color (so instead of two green stripes on each side for greyro, I just used one, for example). I also changed the green a bit to look better next to the blue. And a lot of stripe rearranging, they're not really in their original order, but I tried to arrange them so they looked nice next to eachother.
List of flags used below,
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i think the thing is, is a lot of exclusionists are coming at this from the wrong direction. so much of the language used to argue against mspec lesbians is binarist to the extreme, which is extremely frustrating when what we’re talking about is a non-binary identity.
lesbianism has always included nonbinary people, and bisexuals, and gender nonconformists, and trans people, and aspecs, and men, and genderqueers, and mspec people of all kinds! we didn’t always have the language, but if you know what to look for you’ll see we were ALWAYS there.
but then the second wave of feminism hit, and with it came a lot of very loud upper-middle class white women’s opinions. political lesbianism became a thing, and lesbian separatism, and suddenly it wasn’t enough to just love women anymore. in fact, under political lesbian ideology, queer love for women didn’t factor in at all.
men were evil. men were inherently oppressors. men were sexually depraved animals that would ruin anything they touched. attraction under this ideology was an ethical choice. any woman who chose to align herself with a man was a traitor to the cause, and a victim of the patriarchy, and impure.
if that terminology sounds familiar, you’re right, it is! this was the birth of radical feminism, and with it came proto-TERFism.
now, please take a moment to consider why it became so important to center the exclusion of “men” in the definition of lesbianism. think about why a binary of “okay” and “not okay” genders would be encouraged, and who would benefit from their segregation.
all that said, i’ll address your concerns point by point
one of the bigger confusions for me with the mspec lesbian label is: what is a lesbian then?
the answer is the same as any queer identity. it’s up to personal interpretation. lesbian is a word that someone chooses to express theirself, to explain their identity, and to help find community where they belong.
in my opinion, and how i define lesbian for personal use: a lesbian is someone who experiences queer attraction to women, and prioritizes that attraction when seeking relationships.
but if a lesbian defines their personal experience with lesbianism around their lack of attraction to men, that’s cool! it’s their identity, and they’re the only one who can decide how to relate that to the real world.
the not cool part is when a singular experience is generalized, and touted as universal.
There Is No Universal Experience. the way you feel is not going to be exactly identical to everyone else.
Ive heard [lesbian] re-defined “queer attraction to women” but thats also for example what bisexual women have.
this seems to be a shocking statement to a lot of exclusionists. but. having things in common with other queer people is a good thing. yes, correct, bisexual women experience queer attraction to women. and they have personal reasons why they don’t identify with lesbianism, just like you (i assume) have personal reasons why you don’t identify with mspec labels. some people have personal reasons why they identify with multiple labels. and it’s not our business to pry into anyone’s private life!
also, as an aside bc it feels like a lot of people forget this: a bi woman’s queer attraction to women is not lesser than a lesbian woman’s. bisexuals and lesbians are equally queer. bi women and lesbian women have valuable shared experiences, including and not limited to their love for women, and the history of their communities.
Lesbianism centers women and its the only sexuality that doesnt include men.
it is not the only sexuality that doesn’t include men. ceterosexual. finsexual. enbian. neptunic. nominsexual. womasexual. hell, even bisexual doesn’t have to include men! i could go on and on and on, but my point is made.
if you don’t want to use a different label when you already identify with lesbianism so strongly, well… huh. i wonder who else feels that way 🤔
I dont see why lesbians cant just have our own label for our own sexuality?
this is a bad argument, and my absolute least favorite phrase to hear in a conversation about inclusivity. i will not give a question asked in such bad faith the dignity of a real response.
If we decide lesbianism includes men we wont even have a label for that shared experience anymore.
again, we’re not ~deciding~ that lesbianism includes men. multigender, genderfluid, nonbinary, butch, and otherwise genderqueer lesbians have always existed. it’s transphobic revisionism to say that they didn’t, to pretend this is a new concept.
parting statements
1) there are always reasons why a person connects with a label. when it comes to queer identity, a lot of people think long and hard about it. we’re talking hours upon hours of introspection- weeks, years even. if someone identifies in a way you don’t understand, it’s not your business to question them. they’ve thought about their experience more than you ever could.
2) because this is a big argument that gets thrown around: we are not going to force you to fuck men. we are not going to force you to fuck us. if you are not attracted to men, and/or you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who could be, then walk away from them. that’s literally all it takes.
3) the acknowledgement and acceptance of mspec lesbians Does Not suggest or encourage the normalization of corrective rape, conversion therapy, or lesbophobic harassment. it does not contribute to lesbian erasure, as that is a problem with public representation and historical accounts, Not a matter of personal identity
repost, og posted feb 24, 2023
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We just finished the whole LGBTQ flag merge game, and it was surprisingly helpful! So we wanted to make a collection of all the flags/terms in it (so far.)
The idea is, if anyone gets curious about a term, we tell them it's definition.
If any term is offensive in any way, please let us know; we are listing off the app.
The list is in the order on the app, so if it's a bit confusing, blame it on the app.
Man
Woman
Gay
Lesbian
Heterosexual
Pansexual
Neptunic
Terraric
Asexual
Demisexual
Butch
Achillean
Diamoric
Greysexual
Bear
Twink
Trixic
Toric
Enbian
Aromantic
Demiromantic
MOGAI
Nofinsexual
Nominsexual
Noinsexual
Aegoromantic
Greyromantic
Queer
Gynesexual
Androsexual
Ceterosexual/Skoliosexual
Quoisexual
Quoiromantic
Polyamorous
Femaric
Mascic
Saturnic
Aroace
Oriented aroace
Pomosexual
Coeosexual
Lithromantic
Freysexual
Cupioromantic
Queerplatonic
Recipsexual
Intersex
Androgyne
Pangender
Bigender
Trigender
Genderflux
Maverique
Neutrois
Greygender
Gender non-conforming
Libragender
Librafemme
Libramasc
Xenogender
Genderfae
Genderfaun
Two-spirit (can't answer about this; not apart of culture)
Hijra (same case as two-spirit due to it's origin.)
Genderflor
Cassgender
Alexigender
Demifluid
Transfem
Transmasc
Bisexual
Transgender
Demiboy
Demigirl
Non-binary
Omnisexual
Polysexual
Multisexual/M-spec
Abrosexual
Paragender
Agender
Demigender
Genderfluid
Mingender
Fingender
Ningender
Aingender
Noungender
Aesthetigender
Neurogender
Genderfluff
Anonbinary
Apogender
Uingender
Apagender
Questioning
Microlabel
Pocketgender
Aceflux
Acespike
Fictosexual
Inactsexual
Lithosexual
Aroallo
Aroflux
Arospike
Frayromantic
Galactian
Aurorian
Lunarian
Senelian
Artemian
Solarian
Helian
Phobian
Stellarian
Singularian
Spacialian
Annulian
Eclipsian
Galaxian
Meteorian
Nebularian
Novarian
Penumbrian
Phoenixian
Siderealian
Universian
Uranic
Venusic
Marsic
Solaric
Lunaric
Umbrian
Atmosian
Celestian
Constellion
Daenixian
Dawnian
Duenixian
Duskian
Equinoxian
Hafian
Solstian
Heteroromantic
Homoromantic
Biromantic
Panromantic
Heteroromantic Bisexual
Heteroromantic Gay/Homosexual
Homoromantic Bisexual
Homoromantic asexual/gay ace
Heterosexual homoromantic
Heterosexual biromantic
Asexual biromantic/ bi ace
Homosexual biromantic
Bisexual panromantic
Omniromantic
Multiromantic/ m-spec (romantic attraction)
Monoromantic
Polyromantic
Aroaceflux
Superflux
Omniflux
Enbyflux
Autoflux
Duoroflux
Mutoflux
Idemflux/idenflux
Asenflux
Fluidflux
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I found out my sexuality (yay!)
I very much so vibe with primarily calling myself queer, gay, and sapphic, but I think I figured out a label that fits my sexuality! I’m nominsexual! I experience attraction to femininity and androgyny as far as presentation goes, but the gender identity of someone doesn’t matter to me, I’m just not attracted to masculinity. Essentially, I can still like someone who identifies as a man if they present femininely or androgynously. The reason why I like this identity over more common ones like bisexual and lesbian is because none really fit into how I feel. I tried bisexual as a label at one point, but it didn’t feel right because I realized I wasn’t actually attracted to masculinity the way bi people like both genders, so I moved to lesbian because I’m only attracted to feminine and androgynous presentations, but lesbian didn’t quite fit me either because I still felt like I could like someone regardless of their gender identity. I wished I could say I was pan to state this, but pan just felt too similar to bi in the expectation that I like all presentations, so I related most to the lesbian community with attraction even though I felt I was a little m-spec. Now I have a term that doesn’t care about gender identity and instead bases attraction on presentation and that fits me perfectly! Nominsexual is not widely used but that’s okay, it’s comforting to have a label that explains my attraction. It’s also comforting to have a label that doesn’t assume I’m a woman since I’m nonbinary, and it matches the way my view on gender has changed since realizing I’m nonbinary.
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