#oh are lesbians apart of the queer community

[vacantgodling]

at this point these “just a poll” blogs are being extremely irresponsible for publishing polls that are specifically designed to try and stir infighting and discourse in the queer community (or any community really). even if they operate on submissions, there should be a curation process that prevents this type of shit from becoming the next hotly debated topic because it’s Not Fucking Funny to have to see that shit. sure it’s “nice” to have everyone in the notes be like yes omg (x) belongs in the community!!!!! but its like. we aren’t supreme court judges, we aren’t monarchs, why the fuck are we even Debating this shit in the first place. its cruel and irresponsible and i’m actually starting to get fed the fuck up

#stop trying to restart ace exclusionism stop trying to be impartial to things you know are fucking wrong #just a poll my fucking ass — if i was running one of those blogs and someone sent me any one of these cruel ass suggestions i would kill #because it’ll (as always) start with one target then move onto the next: god forbid you decide to publish a poll asking #oh are lesbians apart of the queer community #how come ace people / trans men and other sexualities / genders that people quote unquote don’t understand #allowed to be the scape goat #but heaven forbid we ask this about the quote unquote RIGHT queer people #like yall bitches are gross and ugly and fucking shame on you for publishing these in the first place #everyone involved should get their ass beat #ren hot cakes

[anonil88]

The assumption that K. Stew is going to come out as a trans man is kinda annoying me. Not for no terfy shit, I just don't like the assumption that people jump to she's going to be a man and omg she'd be a pretty boy. This is coming from both gay/trans people and not. Why is the assumption always to man or woman when someone mentions gender fun? Fun as in everything is just playing around on this grand stage. Why are we, the community, isolating gender expression to the binary over and over. Even with nonbinary people there's this oh its a third thing that only looks one way idea and God is that frustrating. Like I want to rip my follicles out everytime I see a lesbian go on a rant online about you can't be a he/him lesbian or some community discussion about how trans men shouldn't be in the lesbian bar or listening as trans women ripping other trans women apart for their desired ffs look . Why aren't people allowed to fuck around with their gender expression just because? Or explore complex gender that goes beyond what is perceived because of how they look? Did the trans meds and farts rot enough peoples brains or did people forget queerness isn't so binary?

#kristen stewart #thoughts #nonbinary #binary #binary queerness #queerness #queer #gender #gender expression #lesbian #bisexual #gay #transgender #trans #art

[butchdykefag]

maybe this is just coming out of stone culture and it's gonna be incomprehensible to a lot of yall but.....

I hate, HATE assumptions in the lesbian community that level of reciprocation has anything to do with being "actually" gay, or like that post that goes around about that girl w long nails who's a lesbian and everyone is tearing her apart about how no one will ever want to sleep with her bc she's going to hurt them etc

it's like somehow we talk up consent as this huge thing and then immediately forget it when it comes to lesbian sex. like oh if someone doesn't want to eat pussy or finger someone, they're not gay. if they say no to a sex act, it's not bc of any personal reason, it's because they're not gay. like you can be the biggest dyke in the world and still not want to give oral. that's fine. it's not something everyone enjoys and it's not something anyone should be obligated to do! and the same goes for literally any sex act! no one has to do anything and no one has to like doing anything to "really" be queer and into women

and as an aside bc a lot of people don't know much about it: don't feel "broken" if there's stuff you don't like. if you do not like giving, maybe look into stone culture. same if you don't like receiving

and to everyone out there who doesn't like giving oral or fingering someone or using a strap: your boundaries don't make you less gay. your boundaries are valid and if your partner is pushing you to cross them and invalidating your identity, they are a shitty partner. there is absolutely 100% someone out there who will respect your boundaries and it might even fit with theirs! you're not a straight girl pretending to be gay and the way you are attracted to other women/lesbians/etc is completely real and fine and doesn't have to involve the urge to do anything you don't want to

#like for me personally? it took a lot of wrestling w myself to figure out I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum #and it took a while to figure out bc I still crave intimacy and touch and validation during sex #& society presents the only way that manifests is if someone is engaging w your genitals #but like. it makes me incredibly uncomfortable and nervous and I feel way too much pressure #I'd much rather always give and just get head pets and kisses and like hands on shoulders etc #but that's seen as more okay bc I still give #but the thing is I only figured that out and became comfortable w it bc my gf is a high femme #and without them and their boundaries I wouldn't feel safe enough to express my own

[aroaceconfessions]

I just started college (at a private school on a shit ton of scholarships and still taking out loans which has led to some really awkward assumptions about my economic situation that kind of just make everything worse) and I had no damn clue that I was so lucky with my friend group in highschool. I went to this support group and made most of my friends that way bc my dads an alcoholic and basically met my platonic soulmate (as sketch as that term is in the aroace community, it feels right with her) but we went to colleges a few hours apart and haven’t been around eachother as of late

Now that I’m at college, I decided to room on a lgbt friendly floor (gender neutral bathrooms, coed rooms, lgbt floor programs, easier access to lgbt support, etc) because it sounded like the perfect way to find and become friends with the queer community on campus. But I think I made a really big mistake.

Being a woman (loosely, but I present that way) on the floor, people just assume I’m a lesbian or at least bi/pan. And people, as they have always done, constantly talk about relationships and sex. Every second of every day. I’m sorta used to it. I’m also autistic so they are used to some stuff going over my head or me simply not reacting, they just don’t know that with the sex jokes it’s not that I don’t get it, it’s that I don’t find it funny. But sometimes I chime in, just to banter and make sure people like me (as sad as that is) and they’ll inevitably say something along the lines of “oh well you’re gay” as in to imply I’m not into men. But they literally forget I’m also not into women or nb people or anyone. I’d like to say I have no problem with the umbrella term gay to refer to the lgbt community, actually I almost did. But I do have a problem with it. I’m not gay. I’m not into anyone. I don’t like sex. I don’t want sex. I’m never going to want sex. Or dating for that matter! I’m out as aroace. All my friends know. And yet they completely erase my identity in everyday speech as if nothing is even happening. It’s so alienating!

I want to assume the best of them. I want to hope that in their minds what they mean is that I’m queer. Im pet of the lgbt+ community. But I know it’s not true. What they mean is “oh well she doesn’t like men so it makes sense that she doesn’t really like the dick jokes and whatnot, so I’ll qualify our conversation and make sure she knows I remember so she doesn’t feel bad for not getting the straight or gay(mlm) sex jokes.” They do not mean “oh yeah she doesn’t like sex, allow me to toss it into conversation so she feels more comfortable and seen,” because if that was what they meant, they’d say “oh well you’re ace.”

They just fucking assume that everyone ESPECIALLY on an lgbt floor is constantly thinking of sex and dating because they can’t possibly conceive another reason someone would live on the lgbt floor. They may remember trans and nb students exist, but in the end they ALSO assume those students are looking for easier access to accepting people in order to find a partner who’s okay with dating a trans or nb individual.

And yet I’m right here.

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose #sex averse #romance averse #amatonormativity #autistic #autism

[daughter-of-sapph0]

not to vaguepost about lesbian/bi woman discourse, but some of you people who hate bi women unironicly believe that something like this is a common scenario that happens daily

"fucking dyke. kys"

"actually sir, I'm a bisexual woman"

"oh I'm so sorry. I take it back. please continue with your day kind ma'am."

like, it doesn't matter if you're a woman who likes other women 100% of the time, 50% of the time, or even 1% of the time. society will still hate us all because we're women loving women. you enemies are not bi women. your enemies are lesbophobes and homophobes and people who try to tear the queer community apart

#dostxt #lesbophobia #bi women #lesbian #wlw

[spoofymcgee]

i realized i was queer when i was fourteen. we'd just moved to a new city, i was going to a new school, and until that point in life i hadn't put much thought into who i liked. i assumed i would have a husband because i wanted kids, but i was at orientation for my new school, and there was this girl there–

but the point is, i realized i was queer in a new city, a new house, a new school, and.

the neighborhood we'd lived in before hadn't been the most religious neighborhood. some of our neighbors kept shabbat, some didn't, and there wasn't a real community there that we were part of. that was seven years of my life.

and then we moved. and we moved into a neighborhood where almost everyone was an orthodox jew, and my father taught at the yeshiva and we went to shul there on friday nights.

and for the first time in as long as i could remember, we had neighbors with kids closer to our age, who would come over and laugh and talk with my parents, who were friends with my mom, who asked me to babysit their kids on weekends.

and. look, i don't speak for the whole orthodox community, and there are plenty of orthodox jews who are fine with queer people, who are queer people, etc.

but fourteen year old me didn't know that.

fourteen year old me realized she liked girls and her first thought was 'oh my god, what will the neighbors think.'

because in my little teenage brain, we had just settled in this community and put down roots and my parents planned to live there for a long time, and what would it mean if they had a daughter who liked women, what would people think, would anyone ever talk to them again, how could i do that to them–

and i agonized over this for months. november december january febuary march. i remember being listless, crying while doing the dishes, refusing to tell anyone what was wrong.

(this seems like a good point in time to mention that this was all my dramatics and somewhat erroneous conclusions based on uncles-at-family-dinners and the like. as far as i knew my parents were totally fine with gay people , but they were outliers in the community. to be clear.)

i know the date i came out to my mother because i told her after a friend from my old school texted me 'are you part of the lgbt community? don't worry, i won't tell anyone'

(i'd fought with my best friend, who still went to that school, the year before, because she said that she thought gay people were weird. i had no friends in my new school yet.)

(i panicked and googled how to respond to that question and told her yes i was but only on wednesdays.)

she told me that she was pretty sure she was a lesbian, and please, not to tell anyone.

if she hadn't texted me and scared me like that, i don't know how long it would have taken me to tell my mom. she made me realize i couldn't do this alone.

years later, i cut my hair. it was at my waist and i convinced my mom to let me chop all of it off and get it cropped and short. i told her when it was over that i loved it and the only thing i was really worried about was what the neighbors would think, because i babysat their kids.

she told me that one of them had a sister who was married to a woman (she hadn't known earlier) and so i didn't have to worry about it. i doubt i'll ever meet her. she made me feel safer in my parents' community than anyone else in the world.

last year i went to a queer shabbat retreat up north. i met someone there whose parents live down the block from mine. we see each other, sometimes, when we're both in the area for shabbat. we sit and talk on the stoop of one of the apartment buildings and the night before pride he invited me over because he'd made flag cookies and wanted to eat the messy ones.

my father asked me, the week after that yom kippur, if i knew the son of one of the rabbis, because he'd been home and in shul for the first time in ages and had his ear pierced and as far as my dad knew his dad wasn't the most supportive, and he wanted to make sure he was okay.

i asked my friend and he laughed. they'd been friends for years, him and this guy, and my dad was wrong–his dad was very sweet about it.

i don't know where i'm going with this, really.

i've talked to my mom, sometimes, about learning to be thankful for the community being queer has brought me, all the people i get to know and love because of it.

i wish i could go back in time and hug fourteen year old me and tell her that the neighbors wouldn't say anything. they don't care. some of them will say 'do you want to come to mine? i made brownies' 'i like the pin on your bag' 'did you get a haircut recently? it looks nice'.

#queer stuff #queerness #queer community #and finding it in your own community #personal #spoof.txt

[greatcanadian-eh-hole]

AUTOSTRADDLE’S FAVORITE LESBIAN, BISEXUAL AND QUEER TV COUPLES OF 2022

Lucy Tara and Kate Whistler, NCIS: Hawai’i

Nic: If you told me in the year of Beyoncé 2022, I would have a couple from an NCIS property on a queer “best of” list, I probably would have laughed in your face. When I heard tell of* (*read: saw my Twitter timeline exploding) about “Kacy”, I apprehensively binged the entire first season. It was cool to see real time spent on out queer character on a CBS show, but until the finale, I probably would have written it off as just “cool.” But in the lead up to season 2, when even the cast had gotten aboard the good ship Kacy, I started to wonder if this would be different. And oh, it has been.

Season 2 is still airing at the moment, and so far we’ve gotten to see Kate and Lucy navigate a new relationship while working together, learn each other’s quirks, literally and figuratively lean on each other for support, and in episode 207, communicate openly and honestly about what forced time apart might do to their relationship. I might eat my words, but after that conversation on the beach, I have a good feeling about these two going forward. I love a procedural (*waves from season 9 of my Criminal Minds first-time binge) and it’s been the biggest surprise of my year to see a queer couple treated this well on a long-standing network franchise. Plus! They’re so stinkin’ cute together, y’all!

Natalie: Back when queer television representation was in its infancy, Hollywood — or at least the side of it that cared about LGBT people — liked to funnel its gay characters into respectable careers. The gay character would be police officers, veterans, first responders…something that immediately conferred respect. It was a well-intentioned effort to ingratiate queer characters (and by extension, queer people) to a straight audience. How could anyone hate this gay character when they saved a kid from a burning building or solved the murder of a beloved community member? How could anyone hate gay people when they too could be heroes?

Today we recognize that all those depictions also fed — and continue to feed — into a mythology about police and the military. They help perpetuate this idea of cops and service members as inherently good and trustworthy and sincere in their pursuit of justice. They are copaganda…NCIS: Hawai’i is copaganda…and I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that. It’s easy to forget sometimes — I am, admittedly, perpetually charmed by Kate Whistler — but let’s be honest about the space they occupy.

That said, I still think Kate and Lucy are a couple worth embracing. With each episode, the chemistry between Yasmine Al-Bustami and Tori Anderson’s characters grow and they fit together perfectly. Their relationship isn’t without angst or tension — particularly once Kate’s girlfriend comes for a visit — and both characters come to the table with their own baggage but even those moments feel authentic. You never get the sense that the show is manufacturing drama for the sake of drama. The comforting, the open communication, the sharing of space, both at home and at work…it feels like a very adult relationship in a way that we hardly ever get to see. I’ve been relishing it.

And listen…I’ll admit, there’s something about this couple existing, in this franchise, on this network (which still ranks last among broadcast networks for LGBT characters) that I just find astounding. During the first season, I kept waiting for the moment that Kacy would take a backseat to a newfound relationship for Jane or Jesse’s marriage, but that moment never came. NCIS: Hawai’i is continuing the series’ tradition of centering one romantic relationship…and this time, that relationship is between two women. I never would’ve imagined. What’s more? When you combine screentime with the show’s ratings, I’m not sure there’s a lesbian pairing on television that’s watched by more people that NCIS: Hawai’i’s Kacy. That, in itself, feels like a reason to keep your eyes on this pairing.

#kacy #ncis: hawai'i #autostraddle

[nerd-at-sea5]

okay so a quick rundown before we begin, this overall fantasy story dosent have a name yet, so for now im just going to have the tag as 'my kids' (bc like. yes) but heres what you need to know (youll learn more as i post abt them more lmfao)

ripley (rip) ashtaul (rip-lee ash-tall): - they/them - lesbian + (ace? idk still debating that) - short wavy blonde hair, brown eyes - human barbarian, chaotic neutral - ran away from home at 13 and came back for one night at 15 to ask aeron to come with them (they ran bc they're parents *sucked* along w other reasons) - one of the most golden retriever people you'll ever meet but also has the most debilitating anger and temper issues you could imagine - dating aeron (since they were 16 but that might change) and has been in love w/ her since they met (only realized it during their 2 years away from her) - pintrest board / spotify playlist

aeron (aer) alianc (air-on al-een-ic): - she/her, transfemme - pansexual - long curly red hair, blue eyes, - half elf fighter, true neutral - her brother killed himself when she was 12 and she's been mad at him for it ever since, but she'd also let the world fall apart if it means having just one more minute with him - incredibly smart and loves doing art, is also extremally level headed and asks first, hits second (but if she hits you and means to kill you, you arent surviving. if you do it's bc she wanted to let you live.) - dating ripley and has been in love with them since ripley left, and realized it after seeing how much happier they are now that they're away from their parents - pintrest board / spotify playlist

azrael (az) deo (as-ray-eel dee-oh): - they/them, nonbinary -queer - medium length brown hair, dark brown eyes - changeling warlock, chaotic evil - they were tortured and abused for religious reasons and then accidentally killed their entire town as a result of their magic spilling out and then they ran away (this is what the play im writing is abt) - has a very shaky moral compass and really only cares about aeron and ripley (and their dragon lazarus) but will step in and help anyone being hurt for an unjust reason (abuse, religon, sexuality, ext.) -is mainly nonverbal and communicates primarily through HSL (human sign language) (basically just a fantasy version of sign), they only speak to the other party members and even thats a rarity. like. massive rarity. - pintrest board / spotify playlist

here is the spotify and pintrest for aerley (aeron/ripley) and here is the spotify and pintrest for the party as a whole

#my kids #azrael deo #ripley ashtaul #aeron alinac #lazarus kafsi #fantasy #play #novel #aerley #ripley x aeron #aeron x ripley #fantasy play #fantasy book #fantasy novel #queer #lgbtq #trans #dragon #spotify #playlist #at the hands of fire and iron

[redbloodprose]

WIP INTRO: PROJECT GUTS

When Adam is pieced together and resurrected, his only purpose is to be his creator Jupiter's unkillable servant in their plot to usurp the throne from their cousin the king. But as they and Jupiter's childhood friend Eivind work together, all three become tangled in a web of intrigue, revenge, violence, and longing. But magic, like love, is a slippery thing—and nothing can stay alive forever. Especially not something that's already died.

do you like body horror? do you hate the government and the healthcare system? do you love seeing queer people commit horrific crimes? do you want more autistic, queer, trans, nonbinary, and polyam rep? then oh boy do i have the story for you!

genre: ya dark fantasy pov: third person present tense, multi pov themes: community, rage, healing yourself by tearing yourself apart, gore and love, death and rebirth, learning how to live with your grief, magic as science, making the world a better place at any fucking cost pinterest: here main playlist: here wip page: here

main characters:

adam, it/he/they, queer, trans man, age extremely unclear. a patchwork corpse brought to life by jupiter and eivind. has no idea who he was before this and doesn't really want to know. playlist. æsger jupiter, they/them, queer, agender, 18. ameteur scientist and heir to the throne of æverheim—give or take a few people. autistic and extremely picky about the clothes they wear. playlist. kåre eivind, he/him, queer, cis man, 18. literally just a guy. so very normal. works as a gravedigger after moving to the capital with jupiter. playlist.

side characters:

auhild kent, he/she, bisexual, bigender, 23. a lesser noble assigned as jupiter's mentor. has dirt on most of the court because of how many of them he's slept with. innya ranveig, she/her, lesbian, cis woman, 19. eivind's roommate and fellow gravedigger. has no fucking clue what's going on but at least she doesn't ask questions.

the art is by my friend jay on twitter; please go check them out! if anyone's interested i am more than happy to answer questions and/or add people to the tag list!

#wip intro #fantasy wip #writeblr #wtwcommunity #amwriting #[ project guts ] #ough i haven't done this in forever i feel so rusty lmao #also! one of my first times doing alt text #if there's a better way to do it lmk

[phoenix-is-the-hottest-thing]

https://www.tumblr.com/phoenix-is-the-hottest-thing/727895482576355328/normally-i-wouldnt-anon-when-sending-you-an-ask?source=share you asked citation link its this i was referring to, but it's good to know you replied to my ask with saying you dont think like that

Oh, I see. It’s a misunderstanding.

If you look carefully at the phrasing, it says “at least somewhat bi”, I agreed in the sense of “they at least like women for sure” not “they at least like men for sure”. Again, I don’t think most of them are queer coded with the intention to be interpreted as bi.

I remind you that in the vacuum the default assumption of waifu games remains “theyre straight”, not “they’re gay”. So the phrasing “at least bi” applies over the former assumption, in other words, a better way to have said that would’ve been “at least somewhat sapphic”.

Of course I can’t read that anon’s mind, maybe they really did think they’re bi rather than lesbians, but that’s their opinion and I have mine.

We all agree for sure that they like women and the queer coding is there, so it wouldn’t be a huge difference of opinion anyway. I, personally, only would have a massive objection to “they’re all cishet” because that sounds like a hella malicious interpretation that the text contradicts directly.

So rest assured that “I don’t think most of the female cast interested in men” is my personal opinion.

However “Nobody is allowed to headcanon any Honkai character as bi because they’re not allowed to be into men” sounds like what a terf would say so I don’t endorse that.

Bi is still queer anyway??? Who cares what other people do. Sure theres a few characters like man hater Mobius or Kiana who seem firmly into the “lesbian” category, so I’d raise an eyebrow if it’s them, but Sushang or Himeko textually have shown attraction to dudes so it’s perfectly valid, and others like say idk… Hua generally don’t act on attraction anyway so you have a lot of room for a variety of headcanons, I know some folks who think she’s aroace, some who think she’s a lesbian too, some who think she’s bi etc.

Oh and on twitter there’s people who headcanon Kiana as a transmasc lesbian, I don’t like that one but that doesn’t mean it’s a malicious headcanon that should be regarded with suspicion or something crazy like that. Most likely they’re projecting their own experience and it just happens to clash with mine.

I understand the protectiveness over your favorite lesbians, I really do, but when I don’t agree with a genuine interpretation I just ignore it. Even if it bothers me to look at it.

“I hate what you’re saying but I’ll defend your right to say it” or something like that, and the reaction to other people’s opinions needs to be proportional. Men aren’t the enemy, people who try to tear our communities apart are.

#asks #discourse

[rotationalsymmetry]

Bisexuals don’t exist, you know. Everyone knows it.

You can find spaces where everyone will assume you’re straight unless you’re practically dressed head to toe in rainbows and you could be walking arm in arm with your girlfriend looking for furniture for your new apartment and people will ask if you’re roommates. And you can find spaces where people will assume you’re gay, not bi, gay, and the words that come out of their mouth unmistakably reflect this assumption. But good luck finding spaces that mostly have bi/pan people in it.

You can tell your queer friends that you’re bi and they’ll say things like “oh, I used to think I was bi, ha ha” like there’s nothing wrong with that. You can tell your straight mom you’re dating a guy now and she’ll ask if that means you’re gay, or that you’re dating a woman now and she’ll ask if the gay thing was just a phase.

You can find cute wedding pictures of a woman in a dashing suit marrying a woman in a gorgeous dress, but good luck finding a cute wedding picture of a woman in a dashing suit marrying a man in anything, as though gender non-conformity in women is incompatible with liking men.

You can look for safer sex advice for sleeping with men or safer sex advice for sleeping with women, but if you’re the sort of slut (positive) who sleeps with both you might get safer sex advice that talks about things like oral sex without mentioning genitals, which is fine, but if you’re concerned about how some infectious agents are more common in some populations than others or trying to reconcile different assumptions about what reasonable safer sex precautions look like in different communities good luck with that.

You can find a sweet fluffy romance about a man and a woman or a man and a man or a woman and a woman, as long as you don’t mind that the characters in the first are always straight and the characters in the second are always gay.

You can find a harrowing coming out story, as long as you don’t mind that it’s never your coming out story.

You can have a straight relationship or a gay/lesbian relationship, but you’ve never heard of a bi or pan relationship and aren’t sure what that would even mean.

You can find a list of gay and lesbian historical figures, or pick up a book about gay and lesbian history, or pick up a book about queer history that nevertheless doesn’t seem to mention bisexuality very much.

Because bisexuals don’t exist. Everyone knows this.

#some things exaggerated but frankly not much #bitter bisexual #if eve ain’t in your garden #obviously most of this is applicable to ace and aro people as well

[tesraeofsun]

🌈Existing in the LGBTQ+ "community":🌈

I thought when I "came out" as a gay woman I would find support in the LGBTQ+ community, and to some extent I did, but not always. I thought "oh yea, queers supporting queers, funnnn". But honestly, the LGBTQ+ community is pretty divided and not all the letters like the other letters, and sometimes the letters don't even like themselves in different fonts. It's confusing.

Here are some examples for clarity... a lot of people who identify as homosexual (the L and the G) don't support people who identify as bisexual (the b). Some lesbians don't support "femmes" and other lesbians don't support "butch" lesbians. Some gay men don't like drag queens or other gay men who are "flamboyant". And some LGBQ people don't support people who are transgender (the T).

And holy moly, it's exhausting. It's exhausting being apart of a "community" and a minority that literally hates on other members who are apart of it. Like we don't get enough hate from heterosexual cisgendered people?

It's just interesting to me, especially during pride month, that we don't love, accept, and support one another more.

What prompted this post, even though I've been feeling this way for awhile, is some of the stuff I've been seeing since the start of pride month... for example I saw this post in this Lesbian group I follow and it said "Happy pride to all the gold star lesbians, but definitely not the bi women". Like come on, all because you got your heart broken by a woman who likes women, but ended up with a man, does not mean you have to hate on all bisexual people. And a post I saw the other day that said pride is more important for "this group" than "that group". Like who are you to say it's more important to anyone? It's important to all the alphabet mafia and the people still trying to figure out what letter they are.

We as a community make it easier to hate on one letter than the other, because we do it. We make some letters, and fonts of those letters, targets. And why? For what? When if we stood as a united front, we may actually gain some more respect and acceptance. But who is going to accept and respect us, when we can't do that for one another?

And don't get me started on us not using one another's pronouns correctly. GEEEEEZUS. 🙃

And I'll end my rant here... for a community who preaches "Love is Love and Love Wins" we sure don't always show our fellow members love. So, I must ask, are we really winning?

#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtq pride #love #gay #girlswholikegirls #lesbian #me #life #pride

[ironmanstan]

So much stupid drama over ppls identities it feels to me always gets started bc of people tryna pit identities against each other or act like theyre taking up each others "resources" as if theres some big barrel of grain we all feed from and u can steal from it. "Oh you cant use neopronouns you're taking respurces from REAL trans ppl" "oh you cant be aro/ace/aspec youre taking focus away from REAL lgbt people" "oh you can't use THAT identity that doesnt belong with REAL lgbt people" . And like its a simultaneous act of erasure and invalidation. Asexuals and aspec ppl have been in the community for decades even before some discoursers were born but will be kicked out as if us not being a major or overly visible member since the start means we belong any less. People who identify strongly w bisexuality/pansexuality and lesbianism at the same time get punted around like theyre invalidating themselves when bi lesbianism's been recorded with people identifying with it since the 80s . You got people fighting to hell and back over the use of words to describe oneself, when the idea that only describing yourself with rigid, english-specific labels, is how you Must describe yourself or else youre wrong and your identity is fake, is so white and western-centric and so opposing to the concept of queerness and breaking out of the molds we set for ourselves that its nauseating. The whole concept of discourse rather than radical inclusion of those pushed aside by society is white-centric in spirit lmao. You dont care about people who aren't "lgbt enough" for you and don't dare to "discourse" about things like aspecs or people who don't fit a rigid binary upheld by cis people as a standard we must all meet to be palatable in their eyes (a standard upheld by cishet able bodied white people that hardly anyone white or white passing will be able to meet and be mentally healthy when they do but that even LESS people of color can hope to meet because we're already not palatable and when we are we're fetishized) but call yourself queer or call yourself part of the lgbtq community. How are you part of a community when you either actively contribute to breaking it apart or when you stand by and watch it happen

#idk my brain is empty and like i might literally b concussed lol so im not putting this in any tags #in case im stupid rn #im just annoyed a bit a lot lmao #the gamer speaks uwu

[imsogayhelpme]

Hello, I’m Ameera a 23 years old Muslim lesbian who is trying to come out, I’ve been in the closet with my girlfriend for way too long, because of how dangerous and hard it is to come out as a lesbian to a religious Muslim family, but me and my girlfriend have decided to do whatever it takes and risk it all to come out, do you mind supporting and encouraging us?, we have the plan to go away which is why I have my donation campaign pinned on my profile, if I raise at least that goal I can start the process with my savings, I can’t come out until I’d gotten my apartment and I’m away from family, so please support by donating if you can and help reblog though I know we all have what we dealing with, so I’m not imposing we just need all the support and encouragement we can get, check my pinned post for more information on how you can support, if you are a Muslim queer and you are out, please help with tips on how to make it less complicated, any word of advice is also really needed, we really wanna come out but we need y’all 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ pride please come through for us, I believe pride is for all

Oh god, that's really messed up... I really hope you guys get the help you need. I might not be much of a help, but I'll try to. Stay safe. And I'm not really sure if I can give some advise, I'm closeted myself (+ family is probably homophobic judging by the way they act towards the LGBTQ community) so I can't really help with that, sorry. I hope you guys get the help you need!

[columbus-oh-first]

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Columbus Museum of Art 480 E Broad St, Columbus, OH 43215, United States Get on I-670 W from E Spring St and N 4th St 5 min (1.7 mi) Continue on I-670 W to N Wilson Rd. Take exit 94 from I-70 W 6 min (5.6 mi) Continue on N Wilson Rd. Take Trabue Rd to Flagstone Xing Dr 4 min (1.5 mi) Cornerstone Village 4441 Trabue Rd, Columbus, OH 43228, United States

[4uru]

Art i did of my bff (ex-gf and also ex-queer platonic partner) i used to call her bunny. I got so sad after she broke up with me that i gave this art away to our mutual (now kinda ex) friend. But i genuinely loved this piece. But it hurt too much to look at it back then. Now i wish i had it.

Context: (im oversharing besties)

My bff and i were bffs since 6th grade, i had a big ol' gay crush on her. And she is aroace, i knew she was aroace before she even did, bc she was going thru this crisis for a fucking while.

She knew about my crush, and was okay with it. Around 8th grade she convinced herself that she was not aroace but demiro. (Bc internalized aphobia) and then kinda forced herself to have a crush on me bc the logic was that if shes demi then i am the perfect candidate for her. Bc i was her best friend. She thought she was a lesbian at one point but then considered that maybe thats not the case bc I'm trans? So her being somewhat attracted to me queer platonically was the red herring.

She confessed to me in 8th grade that she likes me romantically (which was a lie she told to herself and me) she told our extremely heteronormative friend this (who now has the art) and that friend set us up?? We started dating, after one day she tell me we need to break up, bc me calling her my gf made her realise this was all a big mistake.

We didnt talk for weeks, it hurt. Then we started to get close again, we redefined our relationship as queer platonic partners, it suited us better, suited our relationship better. We even almost had a date (our other friends crashed it not knowing we were on a date) it was all going well but then she told me a queer platonic relationship is still a relationship, and she was way too much under pressure to continue it. That hurt more than anything else. This was last year.

We drifted apart for the most part of this year. The people in my class convinced her to not talk to me as much, recently she apologised and we reconnected, we hanve better communication skills now.

this bitch broke my heart more times than i can count in over 4 years, still i keep crawling back to her like a dog. I wished many times that i could let her go, but at this point my love for her is beyond definition.

The mind fuck she put me through. The codependency we had.

There were times we noticed that we were completely isolated from our class. Bc we did it to ourselves. Theres no body else i would rather be stuck with than her. But now? All my feelings are numb, i just watched the love of my life, my best friend in the entire world, my life line, become just a good friend.

I know ppl drift apart after highschool. But oh god. I'm not ready to let her go. I cant pretend to be friends anymore. Its so hollow.