#see these are real friends

[earthfluuke]

Being Outed: Reactions THE ECLIPSE EP. 11 (2022)

#the eclipse #the eclipse the series #first kanaphan #khaotung thanawat #louis thanawin #neo trai #aj chayapol #my creations #see these are real friends #they are so angry with akk #but they're like 'no way in hell are we letting you get outed' #but then they act like nothing happened so let's forget that part--

[chloesimaginationthings]

Jeremy Fitzgerald’s reaction to FNAF scooped Michael

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf #jeremy fitzgerald #michael afton #mike schmidt #fnaf 2 #sister location #fnaf movie #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #Jeremy lacks fear for better or for worse #the sight of Michael didn’t scare him he just thought he was cool af #THIS IS HOW you know Jeremy is a true homie!! #he stuck around even if his friend became the undead !! #Jeremy is a real one 🩵 #Michael is genuinely baffled by Jeremy’s reaction #especially seeing his situation but honestly he prefers this #he rather feel normal than be pitied or even feared #if nobody has Michael Jeremy has Michael 💜

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[iaminsideyourwalls]

WHAT YEAR IS IT. SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YEAR IT IS. IS IT A YEAR WHERE FAT IS A BAD WORD OR IS IT 2023??? YOU COWARDS BETTER START PUTTING SOME RESPECT ON THIS FAT GUY'S NAME OR I'M GONNA START BLOCKING. I WISH I WAS JOKING.

#if you use the term “friend-shaped” to describe fat people #even if it's a damn drawing of a character who is not real #a million fat guys with machine guns are gonna break down ur door #because it says a lot about how you see real people #stop it. #reflect for a while

[beybuniki]

AU where Deku stays quirkless and he enrolls in UA's support department, he and bakugo befriend each other because they take the same train to school & Deku approaches him because they're both batfam fans :) they bond over common interest which also inspires them to work togetherrrrrr

#the canon event of bakugo bullying deku does not happen & i am usually not a fan of that its so crucial to them but this is a fun nerd au #they team up as either vigilantes or stay connected because bakugo interns under heroes that deku is also doing an apprenticeship under ig #deku is still connected to all might idk maybe thats his biological father for real this time or like he can be their bruce idk #anyway i think they'd be so fun as a duo i'd love to see deku navigatebattles and crimes without a quirk #and they have nerd discourse in their free time ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww #bnha #midoriya izuku #bakugo katsuki #deku #mei is deku's best friend in this universe :) #she covers for them when needed they rlly should be vigilantes sorry

[rhadko]

DVD (TSP animation) youtube mirror!

#animated for 4 days straight. i uh. got carried away. 😬💕 - beetle #oh my god guys please look my friend is so talented i cant believe we get to SEE THEM MOVE IN REAL TIME !!!!!!!!! INCREDIBLE - rk #stanarrator #the stanley parable #tsp stanley #tsp narrator

[wasyago]

the brainrot won

#GUY S i know i haven't posted anything in a while and thats because im working on a big cool project that i really want to finish without- #distractions. but uh. as you can see. ive been distracted 😔. still working on it tho!!!! and im very happy with it turns out its just- #super time and energy consuming so ive tried to limit my intake of other media to not make myself want to draw other stuff #i also haven't read the last two (two already?????) chapters of RnS and im very sad about it and i want to read it but you know that if i- #read it ill want to make fanart and then ill never finish my project :( #SO. sorrey for the lack of art itll be coming when im free to draw!!!!!!! #but also. yes ive watched new life because i dont want to go insane with nothing but this project on my mind and umm. had to take a little- #break to do a couple designs for fun... and to switch it up a bit because for real im going insane i think #ALSO. friend got me into zelda botw and i haven't played a whole lot yet (because project) but ive tried to take some inspiration for- #designs from there. at least for joel and scott. everyone else not so much... #WELL ANYWAYS this is getting long. i should really stop rambling in the tags and just make separate posts for all this but i dont want to #umm. tags. #new life smp #smallishbeans #mythical sausage #geminitay #pearlescentmoon #smajor1995 #inthelittlewood #my art #sketch

[p4nishers]

can't believe tom hiddleston ACTUALLY interrupted the interviewer to say "one last thing, i think mobius is loki's friend and i don't think loki has ever had a friend before" like king. i love how u felt the need to add that truly

#he's so PASSIONATE about them oh my god like im sorry but w sylki he was literally STRUGGLING to put sentences together and get his meaning #across but with loki he's literally just. rambling for a full five minutes barely taking a breath like he's so likes them together SO much #him interrupting the interviewer after half of a minute was so funny like u can see he's not paying any attention he needs to get this one #little thing in and what he says is just so sweet and i really love how he emphasis that mobius is loki's first friend basically every time #he talks about them bc he knows how very important this relationship is to loki and he wants to get that across. bbg always pulling thru for #us he's a real one #loki season 2 #loki series #mobius m mobius #lokius #loki #tom hiddleston

[microvibing]

THE FOUND FAMILY EVER

EVERYONE GO WATCH RAMSHACKLE NOW

#ramshackle #Doodle #God I feel so cringe rn my friends can see me going Deranged over those not real silly guys

[nanstar200]

HI‼️‼️

MORE FNAF/SPAMTON!!! LOVE U GUYS 🫶🫶

#haiiii back again w my bs #art #the little shitty one is Sundrop and Dave Mustaine (megadeath) #LMAO IT WAS MY FREINDS IDEA #my sketchbook is pretty much full of crappy little doodles me and my friend draw during classes #super silly they’re so fun! #fnaf #fnaf daycare attendant #fnaf dca #sundrop #sundrop fnaf #moondrop #moondrop fnaf #five nights at freddys security breach #fnaf security breach #security breach #OH ALSO SECOND TO LAST ONE IS @Shirajellyfish ‘s RILEY!!! (my interperetation of them!!!) #idk if I should @ them because I’m not sure if I’m being annoying LMAO #Anyways if u see this shira ily and your story #the brain mold is real and it’s infectious #also #fourth to last one is a little something I’m working on!! I just liked how that frame turned out 😈😈😈😈 #my art #nuttdoodles #spamton #deltarune #spamton g spamton

[3lostyears]

until i recently read posts on here about how there is an inherent queerness to the doctor and rose's relationship in how it's unspoken and filled with yearning that i'd never really considered that element, despite knowing for ages that RTD is gay but. man. it's just reframed a lot of the series for me, like the idea that you have this lonely man who's just watched his people die and is self-destructive and misanthropic and traumatised and he can love again and he wants to but it has so many risks.

but especially S3 and how it adds even more weight to the doctor's grieving widower status. how he tells martha that he and rose were together but martha refers to rose as a friend to tallulah; the fact that he can only say they were together once she is gone; how the only other person that both can feel how he feels but also understands the depth of his feelings is jack, a queer man himself. and I've been thinking to myself lately oh, it's ok, the doctor and rose probably accidentally got married on at least one planet or something but also the point is that there was no official title that could convey to people the extent that they meant to each other, that the doctor can really only tell donna that rose was his friend even though it is so wholly inadequate and she comes to see that by the end of the episode (and martha too of course). how people who saw the doctor and rose together assumed they were a couple, like on krop tor, but once there's no more physical evidence of the relationship it becomes more vague (and simultaneously clearer).

anyway something about how christopher eccleston said he based his portrayal of nine on RTD and something about RTD saying that his husband is "in every good man i write now" and how the doctor and ruby seeing each other in the club mimics his first meeting with his husband aka the one moment he would use a time machine to go back to hmmm

#doctor who is fundamentally about grief and then i watch rtd era 1 and it's about grief like :0 oh my godddd #sidenote grieving widower ten needs its own tag on ao3 #it's about the grief and the loss and the mourning and the loneliness #also this is not martha slander there are a million reasons to refer to rose as a friend #both real world and canonical and she was never directly told anything #but him not actually telling her what happened to rose and their exact relationship is kinda the point #doctor who #timepetals #meta #also yes rtd's husband was alive when he wrote end of time but. ten seeing rose at his end but their beginning... #yay queer readings of dw nay rtd as a person btw #dw meta

[dragondawdles]

Sp did you ever figure out what was up witht he noodle dragon?

oh anon I'm ill about it

#totk spoilers #<-(for real this time wow!) #totk #light dragon #the light dragon #totk light dragon #link #link totk #loz #tloz #zelda #id in alt #dragon doodles #dragon answers #anonymous #do not worry about spoiling me I have very beaten this game LOL I am mostly worried about spoiling anyone else that's why I get to be coy #bit more spoilery thought: playing this I was like INVESTED in the story I was going to save zelda REGARDLESS of the script I was DETERMINE #think link would very much feel much the same way. hand in unlovable hand but like in the opposite direction if that makes sense #anywho. wyrm my friend wyrm I like to see my friend passing by

[andsewingishalfthebattle]

Novice sewing pattern: Cut out shapes. Line up the little triangles on the edges. Stitch edges together. We've also included step-by-step assembly instructions with illustrations.

Novice knitting pattern: yOU MUSt uNDerstANd thE SECret cOdE CO67 (73, 87, 93) BO44 (63, 76, 90) 28 (32, 34) slip first pw repeat 7x K to end *kl (pl) 42 * until 13" (13, 13, 15) join new at 30 pl for 17 rows ssk 27 k2tog mattress lengthwise BO and sacrifice a goat to the knitting gods. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WANT "INSTRUCTIONS," I JUST GAVE THEM TO YOU

#knitting #no it's not a real pattern but I can't write one that makes sense because I have no freaking clue what any of that means #How do you make things that aren't basic rectangles #Why has every knitter I've asked for help just said 'patterns are easy; you just have to know how to read them' & then refused to teach me #Where do I even find a goat to sacrifice #How do I join the pattern cult #I am so confused #I've been knitting for almost a decade but I can only make scarves and potholders #I learned one (1) stitch by watching a YouTube video and none of my friends or family knit so I have no IRL resources #And nobody I meet seems to want to take the time to explain the rest to me #I taught myself to sew through trial and error but that doesn't really work with knitting because error is pretty much just... Unraveling? #Anyway sorry for the tag rant I'm just frustrated that I see pretty things I want to make but the instructions are in an alien language #And the gap between 'absolute novice' and 'intermediate' seems to be about 20 years of experience and formal instruction

[frenchfry99]

"new friend?"

Another day in neighborhood, another troublemaker in Howdy's bugdega

Explaining that he has a whole stack, stash and a box of things to do, "uncle Howdy" tells Lilly to go find someone else to play with, giving a couple of beloved by her tangerines, to sweeten the situation at least a bit.

Throwing out the peels Lilly finds something bizarre- more like someone??

They went to visit frogs later :]

That frog ribbited something too personal 😔😔

Tiger cubs tend to bite others while playing, so does Lilly! (Nobody can escape the lil ankle biter!! Muhaha!!)

Her clown nose honks if you press on it! :]

so silly!!!! Gahhhh!!!! He better watch out for the claws though-

Being silly whole day is a hard job to do so they're taking a nap😔😔

Goofy doodle of "the mandatory older sibling report in the end of the day" lmao (Sunny would think Robbie is just one of the countless itty bitty bugs Lilly befriends)

Robbie belongs to @clownsuu ! >:^]

#they'd play roblox together 😔😔 #Lilly finds another green uncle real not clickbait #those two live rent free in my brain so I just HAD to make them interact HUEHSHGH #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #welcome home fanart #welcome home oc #the silly siblings wh #lilly silly wh #welcome home howdy #howdy pillar #robbie robs #actually there's a reason behind Lilly seeing all bugs as friends #and why she longs for constant company #like obviously cuz she's a child and all that #but the other reason she doesn't realize or can't remember #and probably won't ever will #gotta befriend who you can when you live in the woods for long right?? #anyways EXPLODES THEM W MY MIND /affectionately #wanted to do more doodles but I'm too burned out guhhhh

[bardy-boy]

I get the importance of showing that high school friends grow apart, I do. And I realize that the likelihood that the bad kids are going to go their separate ways become realer and realer every day. A lot of people don’t want a cheesy forced “and they all lived happily ever after”. But like they’re the bad kids? And a continuing theme of Spyre is real scary stuff can happen but there is also tons of silly and goofy stuff that can happen too. Zac even mentioned that in his featurette. So maybe fuck realism just this once? I want a stupid happily ever after with all of the bad kids together.

#I think (based off posts I’m seeing) this is a unpopular opinion #and I’m happy to get junior year no matter what #but let these guys get the stupid best friend forever troupe that real people don’t get to live #these are my comfort adventurers guys :( #dimension 20 #dimension20 #fantasy high #d20 #dropout.tv #fhjy

[emry-stars-art]

I’ll continue to wonder why the Trojans make me want a modern/snapchat au so badly lol but I loveeeeee them so much, it’s almost one of the first things I drew for them 😂

I’m imagining they’re on some trip in wintertime and none of them are built for it but Jean, like me, is reluctant to give some things up

More versions under the cut

#dont worry its all in good fun #they argue like married best friends #im so excited to see the dynamic augh #if jean is in fact angry and antisocial but also needs constant conpanionship and guidance... #we know the second point is real #kevin warned jeremy about it #IM SO FASCINATED ALREADY #also jean doesnt have to be Strictly Gay but we all know how the jokes go #fan art #my art #aftg #all for the game #jean moreau #jeremy knox #snapchat au #digital #i will say bleach blond jeremy is incredible but brunet jeremy had my heart for a minute there #this was drawn in the time between #ive been sitting on it for a hot minute sorry 😂