#social gender dyphoria

[mitamicah]

I don’t expect anybody to ‘get my gender’ 

I don’t expect you to be flawless in using my pronouns or my name 

I know you are human 

I know that you are from an older generations, and that language has changed since then 

I know you might not be in the right headspace to change your vocabulary 

I know that ‘they/them’ might not be the perfect words to use and there’ll be grammatical challenges using them singularly in my native language 

I know it is hard to learn an old dog new tricks 

I know all of this 

Which is why I find myself internalizing all of these explanations/excuses that you - prompted or unprompted - throw at me 

You made a mistake? Shame on me 

Shame on me for expecting anything else

Shame on me for making a big deal out of words

Shame on me for taking time away from more important topics

Shame on me for putting the burden on you 

Shame on me for not just staying the same 

I wish this didn’t have to happen 

I wish I didn’t have to take up space 

But emotions are not rational 

And I wish I could tell you all of this to your face 

Instead I hide it behind a smile 

And a half failed attempt not to cry 

#this turned out way more poetric than expected #but yeah - social gender dysphoria is a bitch #gender dysphoria #social gender #social gender dyphoria #I am alright mostly #just needed to share #gender identity #nonbinary #me #mine

[catboybiologist]

hi, i have one like, question for you regarding transgender healthcare. beacause. like there are people to whom dysphoria brings immense distress/unhappiness, and any healthcare system should absolutely take care of that, for free.

but theres also people who dont feel that strongly about gender and or dont experience dyphoria, but still prefer getting/removing their tits/penis/vagina. and thats also okay, like, infromed consent and all. but im not sure where the line should be on what we (as in, taxpayer) actually pay for. like, idk, i dont have a strongly formed oppinion on this. so id like to hear yours

I know you're not from the US, but unfortunately my perspective on this will have to be amerocentric because that's my experience- so I'll talk about that perspective first, and then try to generalize it.

The American healthcare system is so wasteful in how it bars people from procedures its insane. More money is spent figuring out how to reject people from receiving monetary payments for healthcare than would be spent if you just approved the overwhelming majority of them. And this isn't even considering other ludicrously wasteful forms of spending the US government does, like the insane portion of our defense budget that just disappears into thin air every year.

So how much additional burden should the taxpayer pay? Ideally, none, because any significant reform of the healthcare system would make all of these questions moot.

But, not every country is in this situation. And there is still a question embedded in here- what is the line of providing medical care from the government/taxpayer? I don't have personal experience with it, but this is exactly what countries with socialized healthcare deal with all the time, well beyond just gender affirming care. I tried to make the parallel with abortion because its a similar category of thing. Let's call it like... "semi-elective" procedures- medical procedures with the potential to significantly improve someone's quality of life, but won't kill or severely incapacitate them if they don't get the procedure, leaving it up to them to decide whether the medical context for the procedure fits for them (I'm NOT trying to lessen how life changing these procedures are, I'm calling them 'semi-elective' as a way of denoting that two people faced with the same situation can make different decisions about it based on their personal considerations). This can apply to a lot of things, some of them almost entirely cosmetic- surgeries to mitigate a mild disability, breast implants for cancer patients after a masectomy, procedures for conditions like cleft lip, facial reconstruction after severe injury, and on and on. To me, gender affirming care falls in this category- its not cancer treatment, but it is life changing in an overwhelmingly positive way.

In my mind, it should be the priority of any government to prioritize and expand the healthcare they're able to provide, including for these semi-elective procedures. Many wealthy, developed nations have the ability to cover most or all of these kinds of procedures, even though they're entirely "elective". But yes, budget and resource concerns are very real in many places, so yes, priorities do have to be made on a national scale. This is a very delicate and interesting question, actually, and there is a lot of room for well-intentioned debate on it.

But I'm not going to answer it.

Because I think you should ask yourself something.

Why is this a question so frequently applied to gender affirming treatments, yet rarely, if ever, applied to any of the other procedures I listed above? I'm not jumping on you, because you asked a genuine question, and I'm glad you asked it. I'm speaking to anyone reading this, not just you, because this exact thing is so frequently brought up when discussing gender affirming care. And that's a double standard through and through- there's no way around that.

[thevultureprincess]

Fed up Tran

I want to post this for my trans followers, especially the ones who are earlier in their transition.

You can be fed up with being trans and still be valid.

What I mean is, there will be days when some of us are just sooo done with all the shit that being trans brings to you, that we just want it to all go away.

Do not feel ashamed or less-trans, or invalid.

We all only have so much mental stamina.

Take what time you need to feel better. Just don't put that feeling onto other trans people.

Acknowledge to yourself when you are getting that way and care for yourself.

#mental health #transgender #trans #transphobia #MtF trans #mtf #mtf transgender #ftm trans #ftm #ftm transgender #transisbeautiful #social transition #dysphoria #gender dyphoria #agender #bigender #enby #nonbinary

[xclusivetism]

Debunking ‘gender identity’ by gender ≠ sex.

Having gender identity may seem noble divergence from our gender rigid society, the solution to stop such and embrace self-expression.

However after examining it through, ‘gender identity’ the way the ideology says doesn’t really exist and actually still perpetuates gender conformity.

And no, there’s no need for “there’s only two sexes” or any science  argument at all to disprove gender identity. Gender ideology so f l a w e d that it can do it perfectly itself out of any of above the fastest just by Gender ≠ sex.

You probably read many things that try to disprove gender and thought it was wrong or outdated that scientist have discover there’s people with XXXY.

But after reading this, If it doesn’t peak you or at least make you question gender, then i honestly really don’t know what will other than to call you deluded.

What is Gender

Gender ≠ sex is the essential foundation of gender.

To order to know the difference, we need to know what individually each are.

Gender is a social construct

Gender Identity

Gender expression

That means.

Sex is a physical construct

Sex

Sexual orientation

The first thing that instantly break Gender ≠ sex

“Sex is not binary, Sex is a spectrum or intersex exist”

That already outed you as a hypocrite especially when responding to “there’s only two sexes” saying that they’re conflating sex and gender.

Why should sex being binary or not be relevant to gender identity?

LGB and T are antithetical.

Since Gender ≠ Sex, LGB and T shouldn’t be consider one.

Sexuality is a Sexual orientation not a gender orientation, to suggest it means gender too is conflation.

For a trans-woman to say they’re lesbian or a trans-man to say they’re gay is incorrect & impossible because they’re straight. Gender identity doesn’t shift sexuality status because they’re separate things and to suggest so is homophobic. For a trans to say that invalidates their identity is another conflation of gender and sex.

LGB is a sex-based group while T is a gender-based group. One’s based on sexual attraction and the other is based on changing gender, they are absolutely nothing alike.

‘Cis’ is enough entitlement to be trans exclusive.

Terfs don’t like being called ‘Cis’

But let’s say they drop the belief that “transwomen aren’t real women” and say “transwomen aren’t ciswomen” and want spaces of their own

They put the ‘Cis’ prefix 

Cis woman schools

Cis woman attracted

Cis woman bathroom

Cis woman sports

Cis woman locker rooms

Cis woman administrator 

Cis woman health

Cis women history

etc.

Instead of saying “only women can breastfeed” they use “only AFAB can breastfeed”.

According to TRA logic, all that would be valid.

To for one to say that’s segregation, you would also have to believe separation of men and women or other types groups is segregation as well. A Cis person doesn’t have the trans experience and that goes the other way around.

‘Transwo/man’ is transphobic itself.

Gender ≠ Sex physical transitioning would be a conflation.

If it’s not a conflation, that would imply that physical features are social constructs which includes reproduction, sexuality etc.

Gender is a social construct, all you need to be a gender is identify.

Gender dysphoria is only a social dysphoria, if it’s about the physical then it’s really sex dysphoria. To say it isn’t is conflation.

But even identifying as a ‘wo/man’ itself also is transphobic because the meaning behind it is sex base.

the definition of wo/man.

Adult human fe/male being

What does fe/male mean?

(Female) of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) which can be fertilized by male gametes.

(Male) of or denoting the sex that produces small, typically motile gametes, especially spermatozoa, with which a female may be fertilized or inseminated to produce offspring.

One can go down in the definition to point that it also means this.

Relating to wo/men or the fe/male gender.

To say wo/man in the definition also refer to gender, isn’t that a conflation and breaking Gender ≠ Sex? My oh my so many usage of the word conflation.

Gender identity.

Non-binary is not a gender, nothing of it say it’s a gender. It’s just non-binary of something which is usually assumed of not being man or woman. But not being a man or woman doesn’t say of what it is only of what it is not. If the binary part is something else that mean a person who identifies as a woman or man (including cis) can be considered non-binary. Non-binary is really just a slot. 

So far the solid identifies are

Man

Woman

Neutrois

Queer

Agender 

Androgyne is both man and woman. Genderqueer wo/man is both of queer and wo/man. Pangender is all.

Everything else is either a flux, degree, combination of the above or based on a different concept. Things like such as bigender are umbrella because it doesn’t specify if it’s man or woman or something else.

That being said, the only one that’s truly gender non-conformist is agender. Queer is still gender conforming just not to man or woman.

What are the distinctive qualities of each identity?

It’s said that gender expression is different than identity and that someone who identifies as a boy can be very feminine still.

So we’re not gonna use association of masculinity, femininity etc. to define it then.

So what identity mean is it’s usually answered as someone’s ‘personal sense.’

If it’s a personal sense that mean it would be mean it’s a personal construct.

Personal or social construct regardless, it doesn’t say the characteristics. If you can’t point out what to define the labels become hallow. 

There’s many things that aren’t concrete that can show one it’s existence.

An abstract thing like 1, can present it’s existence.

A thing we cannot fully see of like the 4D can present it’s existence.

Even pseudo scientific like zodiacs signs have specific qualities to describe, personality types and even religion has something to define.

In the means of gender, all the identities really sums down to meaningless labels. In the means of sex, the word woman or man are names for physical characteristics that is observed at birth. 

Problem with “assigned gender identity at birth”

No one was “assigned” at birth, “cis” people don’t match what their doctors assign. Assign word implies duty and a job. Assign is often a thing that doesn’t always taking what the subject is to account, for example you being assigned to a seat is sometimes random and not based your rowdiness or attentiveness. 

The doctor characterised people a ‘wo/man’ based on observing them. Woman and Man are distinguisher (just like fruits and veggies) of physical characteristics.

People are assigned a gender expression at life.

Gender identity doesn’t exist other than being a label, gender identity is based on sex hence that label. What’s assigned is actually gender expression.

What Society does

(Biology) Sex → gender identity ↓ ←gender expression (Society)

↓ Gender identity → gender roles

What TRAs think to solve it

gender identity ←gender expression (society)

Gender identity → gender roles

Sex ← gender identity (society)

Sex Ⓧ gender identity (society)

Sex → gender identity (different)

↓ gender identity (different) → sex → society → expression = gender roles

What Gender critical think to solve it

Sex → gender identity → gender expression→ society = gender roles

Putting it to perspective

Whenever GC say this:

Sex → gender identity

This is how TRAs view it:

gender identity ←gender expression (society)

Gender identity → gender roles

Sex ← gender identity (society)

↓ 

Sex → gender identity = gender roles

and thus GC = society pushing gender norm

and the TRA misses this:

→ gender expression→ society = gender roles

Gender ideology pushes gender conformity, just in backwards.

Society enforces femininity on women and masculinity on men to maintain a heteronormative hierarchy aka patriarchy. 

Gender ideology is a patriarchal chest play to keep people from actually breaking such status quo by putting the gender role but backwards.

Societal gender roles

Women must be feminine

Men must be masculine

Gender ideology

Feminine is woman

Masculine is man

Neither is non-binary

Anything else it’s a new gender

‘Cis’ means comfortable of the societal gender role

‘Trans’ means not comfortable of societal gender role

GRA say expression is different from identity to hide the fact that it in a way still pushes gender conformity. They confuse the names for physical characteristics ‘wo/man’ as entire gender construct and expression. 

Here’s the damage Gender ideology does.

So far GRA activist blur what sex and gender is, despite their gender ≠ sex.

Blurring gender and sex create problems for the LGB and women, by making anyone able to appropriates them by identification and transing so long as they feel it, remember these two groups are on the oppressed side. There isn’t even a qualification (not even dyphoria) to be considered trans. Growing kids & teen are getting into this as well ruining their bodies, ask yourselves how are they old enough to block puberty but not drink alcohol?

People’s motivation for why they want to of certain gender is not look thorough enough. 

People in general again who again don’t fit with gender norms

Women with internal misogyny/trauma

Gay/Lesbian with internal homophobia/trauma

Men who want more access to women for misogynistic reasons.

You cannot ever feel something you cannot comprehend.

And you cannot ever comprehend not feeling it.

One’s thought of feeling or not like a boy/girl comes were form by the brain cells of XX or XY chromosome or whatever.

Here’s a color analogy i have to show case the difference between one who feels like wo/man vs someone who actually is.

Identifying as one.

Actually being one.

The gender dysphoric pandemic

The correct word for what people mean by gender dysphoria would be sex dysphoria people who are dysphoric of their physical sex body.

Sometimes transsexual need mechanical intervention to relief their sex dysphoria.

Most people who are ‘trans’ aren’t transsexual as that is rare and projecting the gender dysphoria to their bodies instead should be towards society. There’s some types of transwomen who have autogynephilia (reverse heterosexuality, which is nothing wrong in of itself but alot of them are doing bad with it) are motivated by sexuality and is projecting that thing of wanting to become the opposite sex.

Gender dysphoria

A lot of people in the world have gender dysphoria some in more degree than others. 

Many movement where brought out because of gender dyshoria 

LGB because gender roles often link to heteronormative.

Feminism/Women’s rights including the ‘Terfs’ is a inherently gender dysphoric movement.

Gender criticals are inherently gender dysphoric.

What trans movement doing is conflating gender dysphoria with sex dysphoria but they are actually perpetuating gender norms.

The only gender construct that matters is identity which is woman or man because that exist to distinguish people of certain biological characteristics. “Masculinity” and “Femininity” isn’t real, they’re just many expressions boxed into one or the other enforce to people into gender roles which are by large hierarchy called patriarchy. If there is natural patterns that’s sex behavior.

Most people in the trans community aren’t bad, they’re being exploited by the people who are bad. The people who are bad are motivated to destroy children, LGB and women’s rights, depressedly under all this is essentially a men’s right movement but left wing. We need to take those men (and few women) with evil intent to account now.

Right leaning and traditional etc. people role in this whole thing. 

Conservative/traditionalist/religious people who claim to be gender critical, are most of times far from it and are in fact gender rights activist but trans critical that’s the only different between them and the bad trans people above. The trans movement is mostly a side-effect and these people are kinda the reason for it. Gender roles are toxic considering that people especially have to resort in changing their bodies for not fitting in and the gender ideology is a outlet. 

So it’s pure insanity conservative/traditionalist/religious people to keep insisting that be men masculine and women be feminine and that’s it’s all fine and fail to acknowledge, comprehend or disregard people who are gender dysphoric to those roles (feminism being the biggest example) making them seem pathological abnormalities when complaining about them. 

There’s truly a lot of people who are non-conformist but were too scared to be themselves because people like them and it has been rampant for thousand of years. They use not seeing alot of them as prove to enforce their patriarchal rhetoric.

Conclusion

What people need to talk about is their gender dysphoria (but not ideology kind) but of the roles in society. Let transsexuals be their own group without the gender nonsense in peace. We need start embracing gender non-conformity without needing to change our biological identity.

#gender #gender identity #gender noncomformity #gender critical #lgbt #liberal #liberal feminism #feminism #women's rights #trans exclusionary radical feminist #radical feminism #society #gender roles #patriarchy

[askanonbinary]

So, i'm non-binary and I don't suffer from dysphoria, maybe it's because I don't have anything to model my body after?? This makes me worried that i'm a faker. I mean I don't want to have dysphoria, my friends suffer from it and i've seen how horrible it can be. Do you have any advice?

Sure! So first, no one needs dysphoria to be trans. Gender euphoria is equally as important. Gender euphoria is the feeling for joy, comfort, or understanding from a gender. It may be accompanied with a feeling of discomfort with another gender or it may be alone. If you feel gender euphoria but not dysphoria that is still a very common trans experience. 

Additionally, dyphoria isn’t just physical. You can have mental, social, physical, or spiritual dysphoria. 

Mental dysphoria is the anxiety and depression that comes when you’re not living authentically to your gender. Mental dysphoria usually accompanies the others, but does not have to. It may be its own thing that is corrected simply by living your truth... or you may need to fix other forms of dysphoria to treat mental dysphoria. 

Social dysphoria is discomfort with social situations because of your gender. It is very common for non-binary people to experience a specific social dysphoria where we feel uncomfortable because we don’t know how to express or present our gender and be seen. Many trans people also have social dysphoria when they have to closet themselves or present as their birth assigned gender. 

Physical dysphoria is both the sensation of physical discomfort and also the discomfort with your physical body due to your gender. We’re all pretty aware of this type of dysphoria... but it isn’t the only one, 

Spiritual dysphoria is discomfort with your gender related to your spiritual or religious life. This can be very complicated and range from “I was told God doesn’t make mistakes” to “I am worried my true self can only be felt spiritually rather than physically achieved.” 

TLDR the dysphoria you describe isn’t the only dysphoria and gender euphoria is just as important! <3

Mod Zoe Leo

#am i here #lol #mod zoe leo #dysphoria #gender euphoria #mental dysphoria #social dysphoria #spiritual dysphoria #Anonymous #ask

[uberfluss]

alright bitches sorry to like put an inordinate amount of energy into a poat at this hour but like look I don't know how many of my followers are in the age range I was when I first joined Tumblr but I got on here when I was like 14 and I was on here looking for other queers and just trying to figure out my identity. Where I was then is ridiculously far from where I am now.

I was thinking earlier about how fixed on microlabels I was. like I was 100% sure I was a Sapphic aligned nonbinary person who was asexual and demiromantic only looking for a Quasiplatonic relationship. As I grew I learned that while terms and shit are nice they are not necessity. It's nice to find others like you and use terms to learn different ways of life but it's not worth the drama and discourse. You don't need to tell everyone everything and it's okay to be unsure and it's okay to experiment. I never fuckin figured it out and tbh I just accepted it. I'm out here now and I'm just me. Maybe I'm a trans man maybe I'm Maybelline who the fuck knows all that matters is that I've taken steps to live comfortably in my body and surround myself with those who I love and who love me back.

Dont let people think you need to have all your shit figured out to transition either, I'm 6 months on testosterone and I don't know where exactly I am on the gender spectrum but I do know that I feel infinitely better about myself and my body since I started T. There's no gender police stopping you from transitioning socially or otherwise "you need a letter from a therapist saying you have dysphoria" yeah I talked to my man Brian, I told him I don't like my voice and my tits and I'd like it better if I had a deep voice and a beard and people saw me as male even if I'm not entirely a man and I was gonna start testosterone and needed a letter. my man Brian said okay bet and wrote me one.

It's okay to use microlabels and whatever like I'm not dissing you if you do, just don't be a prick. and if you don't use microlabels, don't be a prick. I don't care if you have dysphoria, just don't be a prick. I don't care if you don't have dyphoria just don't be a prick. it's that simple.

experiment as much as you want just make sure your words and actions reflect growth and learning

[lgbteducation]

Hi guys, let’s talk about dysphoria!

Dysphoria is when a trans person feels discomfort or distress due to them being trans. There are three different types of dysphoria: Physical dyphoria, social dyphoria and dissociative dysphoria.

Physical dysphoria is the distress or discomfort about physical things to yourself. For example you are a trans man and feel uncomfortable about your high voice and chest. Or maybe you are a trans woman and don’t like your facial hair.

Social dysphoria is the distress or discomfort about not being seen as the right gender by others. So an enby person may feel uncomfortable after being called gendered pronouns or things like “girl” or “bro” because they are gendered.

Dissociative dysphoria is when you don’t recognize yourself because of feeling another gender then you have been physically born as. This also comes in the form of feeling like your mind is disconnected from your body. This doesn’t have to mean you see your body in a negative way when realizing what body you are really in.

Also, remember a person doesn’t need to experience dysphoria to be valid as trans. Dysphoria in transgender people is common, but it is possible to not experience it. You can for example be a trans man and be okay with your chest, or be non-binary and don’t feel the need to change anything about yourself. That’s why it’s fine for trans folk to not transition or transition in a diffrent way.

Stay happy stay healthy, stay safe and stay proud everyone🪐💕

#transgender #trans pride #nonbinary #enby #dysphoric #dysphoria #trans mlm #trans #trans man #transition #binder #education

[circus-bears-blog89]

How do you feel about being nonbinary tino

Sorry if the writing is hard to read, I'll provide dialogue + additional notes!

Agostino: I thought I was cis for such a long time until I realized that I have gender dyphoria, or at least more social dysphoria. Which really surprised me because I always assumed that gender dysphoria was only physical.

Agostino: I thought I was overreacting whenever people called me he or she. But then I realized that it was stressing me out so much.

Agostino: Felt like things only got harder for me once I told people how I felt about people referring to me by she/her or he/him. I always got annoying questions and statements. 'Are you a girl or a boy?' 'What's in your pants?' 'You got to choose!' 'There's only 2 genders!'

Agostino: All this stopped me from going outside. My friends and family were concerned for me, so we talked for hours and one of them told me that I could be nonbinary. I had no idea what nonbinary was, so I did a shit load of research. Started using they/them pronouns for myself, and started experimenting with my wardrobe, which gave me so much relief. I love wearing clothes that makes me look androgynous, which made me realize that I was definitely nonbinary. I eventually started going out again and started being happier.

Agostino: I know what I am and I love being nonbinary, even though dysphoria sucks. And my family speaks Spanish, and there aren't any gender neutral pronouns in Spanish. But I won't let that stop me from being me and expressing myself.

#traditional art #anon ask #persona agostino #agostino shit #my persona #agostinos gender identity #my art lol #goth #tw misgendering #tw dyphoria mention #sorry if this isnt the best #enby tino

[worm4brainzz]

The problem with people who say "you are not trans if your dyphoria is only tied to how people perceive you" (besides being transphobic) is that one cannot simply... separate the human experience from social interaction or from other people. Self does not exist in a state of isolation and everything everyone does is always tied to other people because humans are innately social animals..... gender itself is a byproduct of social interaction between humans....

#in this essay i will #nah jk #thinking about.... what Self is.... #actually this is about my mom #ok to rb

[omo-kink-blog]

Being a trans guy with a piss kink

So, this is kind of a result of this week for several reasons and about as personal as I will ever get, more than I ever expected to be on a social media platform.

It took fucking years to be okay with the piss kink that started off as only desperation and wetting, not watersports. I didn’t tell anyone because what’s the first kink people kinkshame? “It’s not like you’re into piss or anything, so it can’t be that weird.” At least three occasions in college I felt that terrible “but I am, but thanks for reminding me this isn’t a safe place for that,” in my friend group. Which was fine, I didn’t rely on their support for that. I knew and quite frankly wanted to be alone in that. I didn’t fantasize about friends or real people, it was mostly fictional characters, which led me to believe I was ace for quite some time.

So, from a young age, I’d had a fascination with standing to pee. I wanted to be able to do that from a very young age. I tried on a handful of occasions a few years before puberty. I was frustrated when I couldn’t do that, no matter what I tried. I kind of gave up after puberty. When I discovered I might be trans, it made sense but I wasn’t in a position to really do anything about it. When I realized I absolutely was trans, I tried some home made things that definitely didn’t work. When I was 21, I think, I invested in an STP device, a cheap ass one that was supposed to be somewhat easy to use. I’d already been binding and male presenting for at least a year, this was what I thought was my final obstacle to being comfortable being a man, if that makes any sense.

Some time before, I realized I was conditioned in a very negative way to not being able to use the men’s room. Thank fuck I was a trans guy and not a trans woman after reading the horror stories of trans women in women’s public restrooms or I don’t think I would be able to get over it.

I remember the whole “go with me” movement that was a thing. It works for women and I, at the time, would have gone with a trans woman into the women’s restroom (I did not pass as a man in any way, I definitely didn’t feel as though I belonged in men’s spaces, though using the women’s restroom gave me hella dyphoria). However, good fucking luck asking men to go to the bathroom with you because you don’t feel safe or comfortable. I’ve felt comfortable asking maybe 2 or 4 men to do that and I have never felt the need bad enough to ask them to accompany me. It was bad enough asking several coworkers if they’d be potentially comfortable enough to “allow me to use the men’s restroom,” followed by a conversation with my conservative male bosses about that topic. Yeah, fuck that. I’ll get to that, I guess.

I wasn’t one to willingly get desperate in public. It was more of a fantasy, so I didn’t appreciate not having access to a restroom, especially when I needed just a fucking moment of peace or simply just to fucking pee, wash my hands, or even blow my fuckin’ nose (mostly an issue at work at my current job).

In college, I had a group of friends who were cis men who were super supportive. One was from high school who wasn’t supportive to begin with but I came to be very close with him in college because he matured. Another was a straight male who was the definition of “ally.” He was the first person to use he/him pronouns in regard to me and the fucking lightbulb went off. I was not genderfluid, I could not be genderfluid. I was a man. There were other things in that span of time that clued me in but that was a big thing. I felt comfortable. I felt RIGHT when he used those pronouns with me. I asked my friend group to continue to do so. Given that there were many other trans people (binary and otherwise) changing their names and pronouns, it wasn’t a big deal at all. People messed up, /I/ messed up. It took quite some time and effort for myself to adjust to using the right pronouns and name. Even today, it takes effort to not immediately turn around to someone saying “ma’am” or “miss.” I haven’t heard my deadname outside of my house in years, so that’s not a big thing.

That same person who used the right pronouns for the first time has also traumatized me a great deal. I don’t think he meant to and I don’t think he knows. It still hurts and affects me more than I would like.

In college, this group of cis men decided to tell me it was okay that I used the men’s locker room to change to go swimming with them. Considering my university didn’t have a gender neutral locker room within probably 0.4 miles, a few buildings over, I didn’t really want to walk half a mile out of my way just to fucking change. Before this, I hyped myself up to use the men’s room, a single stall restroom, in the library, first at 3 in the morning when we decided to pull an all nighter. It was a big step. It may not have seemed like it to anyone else, but I was so conditioned that I felt odd using the men’s room in the library even if it was a single-stall. Often I used that restroom just to avoid the dysphoria of using the women’s room if I didn’t want to use the one gender neutral restroom on campus in the one buildings’ basement.

I trusted them at their word. Surely they knew and would be honest enough with me. If they didn’t feel comfortable enough to do so, they would have said so, right? So I took them at face value. I think it was only one of them with the issue but unfortunately his response masked those around him and now I kind of lump them all into one, as unfortunate as that is. I was alone on one side while the others were together on another side. At some point, I felt the need to ask a question, I guess, and went to the other side. Their response was pure discomfort at having me in the vicinity. My immediate response was understandment, which I fucking hate. It shouldn’t have been discomfort. I shouldn’t have understood and conceded in a way that made it seem like I didn’t belong there. My fucking FRIENDS should not have acted like I was a stranger who didn’t belong. They shouldn’t have told me they were okay with it when they clearly weren’t. I say they. I mean one person. I don’t specifically recall any other reactions because this one reaction was strong enough.

I didn’t dare enter another men’s room or men’s locker room for fucking ages, for a couple years, at least, until after I was on hormones.

So, fast forward to after college. I’m in a job where we take inventory of different places. This means we enter new buildings every day. Often they don’t have gender neutral restrooms. I started this job without being out as trans. My aunt had a major factor in me being brought on. She didn’t know so I had to tell her and then out myself to everyone else, all 60+ people that I work with on varying occasions. It was stressful. Before I even knew all of their names, I was awkwardly trying to out myself as trans.

I left a job where people had finally accepted I was trans. I had a boss who asked whatever came to mind without thinking they were offensive, which was fine with me. I’m used to being the first trans person people encounter, I’m used to the weird (maybe offensive), invasive questions. I answer because they’re mostly asked out of curiosity rather than malicious ignorance. I answer in a way that I hope shows that I’m okay with those types of questions but the next trans person they encounter may not be. I try to educate. My previous boss asked me if I would prefer them to put a lock on the door to the men’s room so I would feel comfortable using the men’s room. I never answered them, but their support was enough, honestly. I had another boss who apologized profusely for misgendering me, but she tried to get the right pronouns. She was one of those who apologized too much. I loved her and her effort, but I did not need the speech each time “It just takes time, it’s hard for me.” I completely get it, I still misgendered myself at the time, I certainly wasn’t going to judge others for doing the same goddamn thing. I didn’t appreciate the few people who didn’t even fucking try, but it’s whatever now.

I missed them when I started this job. I worked (work?) with a lot of men. I work with some women, but it’s a lot of cishet men who are older and white (comes with the area, I guess). They scared me. I did not want to come out to them. I wore buttons, I made jokes, I did pretty much anything to avoid straight-up saying “I’m a trans man, please use my pronouns.” Some caught on, some did not. Some that I thought would have issues caught on quite quickly (so quickly that they were gendering me correctly within a month of me starting hormones, so I definitely didn’t pass). I couldn’t hold it against people for misgendering me considering they met me as my aunt’s “niece.” My aunt’s response was “neice, nephew, doesn’t make any difference to me.” It was the best response I’d gotten from a family member, by far.

I started hormones a few months into this job. I wasn’t supposed to. I wasn’t supposed to start hormones while living at home, for fear of my grandmother finding out. My parent and I had an understanding. I broke that understanding. I was 22 and I did not want to wait anymore. I told them after I got my first shot. They were hurt initially but there wasn’t anything they could do. I was an adult and I had made my decision. Initially, they told me I needed to shave consistently and keep my voice high, but it hasn’t caused an issue so far. My grandmother has only noticed my hairy legs (which can easily be explained away with not shaving, I guess).

There was one team leader I enjoyed working with and I respected at this new job. He apologized for not catching on right away but I was only wearing buttons to out myself. I had/have a hard time telling people who met me as a woman. He still caught on quite quickly. He barely messed up with pronouns after he caught on. He never gave me the whole “it takes time,” thing. Men seemed to have more of an issue with me being a trans guy, so I kind of let my guard down with him being so accepting. I wasn’t used to men being so accepting of trans people. I developed feelings, but at this point I realized I had already realized I was poly and realized I cared more for his happiness than actually wanting to be with him, if that makes sense. I didn’t want to be with him, I wanted him to be happy with his relationship with his girlfriend and their kid. I appreciated his support at work and maybe relied on that a little too much at times (I broke down crying in front of him, something I regret, and talk to him about trans issues maybe a bit too much, because he’s one of the few that might be able to sympathize).

So, at some point we had a travel store that ended up being just me and him. He mentioned at some point, when we were almost there, that he needed to pee, you know, every person into omo’s fantasy. I took the opportunity to mention that he was lucky that he could just use the restroom without issue. We had a pretty nice discussion in which I expressed my desire to use the men’s room without repercussions. I talked to him about how he might personally feel, how those we work with might feel, and we were pretty much on the same page with it. He seemed more aware about trans issues than many other cis men I’d talked to. It was nice to have someone so aware but still so supportive at work. I found myself to be rather appreciative of this and the fact that I really appreciated his work ethic. Surprise, surprise, I ended up catching feelings, something I’ve been dealing with for the past year now. His kid and his girlfriend are fucking adorable and if anything happens to them, I’d hate life even more than I do now.

The more I learn about him, the more I hate it and myself. But that’s a different story. The reason I include him is this week.

I was working in one of his stores, as one does. Break time came around and I wanted to make sure no one else was in the restroom, so I waited a couple minutes. I’d been working with another older cis guy who kept referring to me as she/her, so I wanted to make sure I wouldn’t catch his attention using the men’s room. He’s a nice guy, but I don’t think he’s caught onto the fact I’m a guy. Additionally, I don’t want certain workers to see me use the men’s room. So, I waited a few minutes. Considering I really had to fucking pee, it was a process. I had drank water all night and had tea in the morning.. I have a pretty sizeable bladder, to the extent that it’s not a big deal to wait 8 or 12 hours. I was already self conscious about using a stall vs the urinal because fucking toxic masculinity, despite reading up on male etiquette. Right before I went in, the supervisor (who I know too fucking much about in this respect) and that one man were talking so I thought I could just slip away. 40 seconds later I hear shuffling. Now, I have issues exiting a stall after hearing someone come in. I don’t want people to see me in the men’s room. I’m fucking paranoid and think it’s the guy that has been calling me she/her all week. I exit anyway. Turns out it’s the supervisor. I instantly enter panic mode. I immediately think it’s because I have feelings and a piss kink and watched him drive desperate less than a week ago as well as being jealous over actually being able to piss on the side of a building because of desperation over waiting for the manager to open the building. I made jokes, of course, because that’s how I deal with feelings and dysphoria, because how could a cis guy even begin to comprehend? Thinking about it after that day, I realized that I was more worried about him freaking out on me using the men’s room because “I don’t belong!” because that’s what happened before. I know logically he won’t, but it was the panic attack and the illogical fear that he would turn on me that caused my heart rate to rise and my flight/flight response. It was due to that one time before that caused me to think my friends (or at least supportive coworkers) could just as easily turn on me. I currently trust strangers more than I do people who know me when it comes to this stuff, because thanks to the hormones, I pass better. I get misgendered a lot less. I feel almost like I belong in men’s spaces. Even still, I hesitate every time before I enter a men’s restroom. So many “what if”s pass through my head and ultimately that one exchange passes through my head. “Do I pass enough to keep the next cis guy like him from causing issues?” “If my ‘friends’ have issues with it, surely strangers will?”

It wasn’t arousal at all, as I’d thought, it was PTSD from that incident with my college friends. I was so paranoid that he’d ‘turn’ on me, despite all the evidence that showed otherwise, that I couldn’t think. All I could think is that he was the one that followed me in, if he had issues with it then he should have waited, then he can’t say that I didn’t belong....... A long line of defenses that I shouldn’t need to think of. I shouldn’t have to hesitate before entering a men’s restroom. I shouldn’t think of all the bad things that could happen if I enter a men’s room if I don’t pass well enough. I certainly shouldn’t have to think of all the bad things that can and will happen to trans women who don’t ‘pass enough’ for cis women or cis men to use women’s spaces and who get physically harmed because of it.

Probably a few days later, I decided to pull that STP I bought out again. I had a terrible time with it before. I wasn’t able to use it in the shower without leaking a fuck ton, to the extent that I wouldn’t be able to use it in public. I gave up years ago when I tried. I tried again in the shower and had issues. I tried again just outside the shower and leaked a significant amount, but not as much as I would have thought. I tried again and leaked only a few drops. It was significant progress, more than I ever thought I’d get. It became a possibility, to the point that I wanted to use men’s restrooms to practice instead of using the bathroom at home because unless I had water running, it would be easy to hear the difference and I didn’t want my parent catching on.

So, I waited the other day, more than I should have. I left my job without using the restroom because I didn’t have to go, but my parent picked me up and took me to the hospital where my grandmother was getting surgery that lasted longer than it should have. I had half an hour before I had to leave so I figured I’d wait to use a men’s room on the way so I could practice. Of course, I brought extra underwear just in case, but the coffee shop I stopped at was cleaning the men’s room. Then I went to the wrong meet point, so I ended up having to leave the extra pair of underwear in my car 70 miles away and hoping for the best when I got to the travel store. I took my chances using the STP I have, but I only leaked a few drops, a manageable amount, especially for having a full bladder and a detachable dick. It’d be so much better to practice at home, but God forbid I get any fucking privacy anytime.

I’m doing better than I thought I ever would, but I still haven’t even tried to use a urinal. It’s difficult using a cheap-ass STP that I can’t really pack with, so I have to pull it out of my pocket, position it, and then use, then pack away again. It’s an 8 inch thing that isn’t exactly easy to unpack and pack away. I plan to invest in a better one eventually, but my job hasn’t been scheduling me for a lot of hours, so I don’t want to spend the money just yet. I want to practice in private, usually a stall, before I even attempt to try to use a urinal. It’s a process I’m not comfortable with yet. I’m trying and I’ve made so much more progress than I ever thought I would, but I’m not /there/ yet.

Side note: Another older gentleman came face to face to me coming out of the men’s room at a store, someone I work with. Since then, he seemed to catch on to the whole I’m a guy thing. I aspire to make the cis men at my work that may have issues with trans people to see me (and therefore all trans men) as “real” men. I understand that not all men use urinals or stand to pee, but it’s something I’ve wanted to do since before I realized I was a trans man. It would also make me more comfortable using men’s restrooms.

#Long story-short: I'm still traumatized over an incident that happened years ago with cis men #It hurts more when friends hurt you vs strangers #You expect it from strangers #I'm terrified of this coworker that I have feelings for hurting me #Hella personal #Kind of omo related?

[pandaswilly-blog]

Labeling a group of people

As someone who is truscum who has tucute friends, I have experienced when I have first met them that they saw me as a internally transphobic piece of crap. Without knowing about my views other then a label and not knowing my personality.

Again, I am truscum. I am a transgender male with a huge feminine personality. I like males. Make up. Dresses at some extent. Being submissive in a relationship at times. Things linked to my biological sex. I guess, if you go by the stereotype of a tucute belief, that does not sound right. In media and rhetoric towards the truscum community is that we believe that all need a form of dyphoria to be trans -pretty much true- but also have to fit into gender rolls, dislike non-binary people, gatekeepers, just transphobic in general.

Not all follow this. The ones with hate speak the loudest. Just like with tucute community. Just like the "cis-gender" community. So before you hate on a truscum person, hear them just like a truscum should be open to hear you. Not saying you have to agree. Just dont judge a group of people by some experiences just like cis towards transgender community in aspects. Hypocritical. .

Truscum doesn't mean we think that you have to follow gender rolls. Thats a personal belief that does not follow defintion of truscum. Personally, me, I find transgender more of a physical feelings then clothes and crap which is a social construct == gender non conforming. From experience I find people who do not have dyphoria are just either gender non conforming which isn't trans or that doing it by lgbt influences around them that make them think their feelings are that of being trans when in fact it isn't.

Dyphoria doesn't means hate body to everyone. A way to put it, feel like brain doesn't match body. Not personality doesn't match body. You feel like you should have biological aspects which doesnt relate to gender social aspects that are mainly socially constructed. You get euphoria from being trans? You are happier with wearing male clothes? Thats not what makes you male. You like male pronouns? Thats not what makes you male. You like male roles? That doesn't make you male. That's masculinity. That's not trans. Its a physical feeling almost that over takes you. That you are male. Not that you are masculine. It may be subtle or a lot. That's what transgender is and that's why it used to be called transexual because either way its linked to sex. For it is wrong body sex. Not wrong personality to a sex which is socially constructed .

This is where the idea that truscum dislike flamboyant trans male for example. We are -or at least most of my truscum friends- believe that can happen but if you have dyphoria. Why are you flaunting breasts? Why flaunting characteristics that you so happen to be uncomfortable with (because trans not social. Its phyical) then why go out of your way to make self uncomfortable? Its just a standard question. Can say you just didnt feel dyphoric that day. Okay understood. Can have a flat chest so nothing to flaunt in first place and looks male to you so in turn its not physically making you feel uncomfortable. Go ahead. When we ask, we are asking for some just don't get it. Some idiots out there who are means about it but... There is a lot that aren't.

Non-binary can have a form of dyphoria. It's real. I'll call people by pronoun they wish even if they don't have dyphoria.

Not all truscum follow every stereotypical belief like not all tucute follow every stereotypical belief. When you go to debate on a topic or judge a person, pay attention on that topic or that person belief in general. Not a whole group shown by the loudest and most drastic people. We all in end just want to feel like are feelings are accepted which can make us stray off topic because always want to be right but in the end just being the ones who you are fighting against.

Love y'all and thanks for reading

#Ftm #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #trans #truscum #tucute #dyphoria #mtf

[sighingtirf]

Does anyone have tips for coping with dysphoria? 

I’m not talking about binding / transitioning / etc. as those just make it worse for me.

Gender critical theory and discussions of roots of dyphoria, criticisms of the beauty industry (and related topics), discussion of socialization overall, connecting with other butch, detransitioned, and dysphoric women, and talking about things like reclaiming the female experience in the face of misogyny and internalized stereotypes / roles --

Those are all helpful and have helped me a lot, and I certainly wouldn’t mind if anyone added more points about that.

But I feel I need additional coping skills. While knowing all of this and allowing myself to explore it has been immensely helpful, what are solid ways I can go about helping myself heal from these wounds?

What are things that have helped you all?

#dysphoria #detransition #detransitioned women #reidentified #butch #trixy talks

[tontherocks]

Looking back: Dysphoria until Top Surgery

As I got my first binder, I did bind occasionally for parties and other special events. It made me feel confident and I also liked the feeling of being hold thight, being armored and secure in my binder. I guess I got along that way a good year.

Further into my gender affirmative journey, as I already had transitioned socially, it became a daily habit to bind and a mental necessity to do so. During this period I started testosterone treatment, which - as much as I do recall right now - didn’t influence my binding habits nor my dysphoric feelings overall, at least in the short term. I can’t recall exactly when and why I experienced peaks of my dysphoric feelings, but at times it got as bad that I went to sleep with a chest binder.

Six months into HRT I started to work out regularily. This had a major impact on my dysphoria, since I felt myself becoming stronger, more lean, even muscular and getting into a bodily shape I admired.

10 months after I became a regular runner, 5 months into bodyweight training, 15 months into testosterone treatment, I stopped binding regularily and switched into a swimming shirt designed for triathletes. I used it for swimming and working out as well as for daily activities.

To use a tool not specifically targeted for gender adjustments helped tremendously to adjust to a more and more cis-alike body and a more calm, settled embodiment.

I continued to use this shirt for a year overall. Throughout the last 5 months prior to top surgery I didn’t bind regularily. I experienced more dysphoria towards my hips and overall fat distribution than my actual chest tissue.

I already experienced a noticeable relief as my insurance finally guaranteed coverage and my surgery date was scheduled. Looking back, I probably experienced most dysphoria about being unable to change my body by the time and in the way I longed for.

Immediately after top surgery my dysphoria didn’t change at all. Actually, dysphoria or non-dysphoria is not quite the right term to describe this period. The first six months I was worried how my final surgical results may look, to be careful with strenuous activities, being anxious about my overall health.

And while I healed it was all good. Not “good” in a stellar way. It was good in a good, simple way. Actually, it took me quite some time to discover that I wasn’t experiencing distress by my upper body any more. It was in this time, half-subconscious, in-between and calm like the week between Christmas and  New Year’s Eve - around three months after surgery, close to be healed up, officially, and before my dyphoria seriously shifted towards the lower parts of my body - that I made an appointment for metoidioplasty.

I had my initial consult for lower surgery 5 months post top surgery.

While writing this post, I don’t remember much how I felt and how intense I dealt with these feelings. I also didn’t identify with “dysphoria” as a descriptive term for my experience with my body at this time. It must’ve been intense, looking at how much I did to cope and how much I envied folks who underwent surgery earlier than me.

Sometimes I’m afraid there may be some hidden emotional aftermath after all these years of binding, coping, swearing, ignoring, wishing, doubting towards my chest. I also wondered how much the immediate stress of denied chest reconstruction may have covered up my bottom dysphoria.

I think I didn’t admit to myself at the time how severe I suffered. I acknowledge now how hard I fought. Looking back, I’m stunned how early I knew that top surgery wasn’t going to be enough for me and how I must have felt this with as much assertiveness as to make an appointment.

#queer #ftm #transguy #bottom surgery #top surgery #metoidioplasty #dysphoria #own

[leepeepee-blog]

Rant

I’m not trans but I’m very interested in the trans community. I think people are forgetting what trans really is and are trying to make it into something that’s its not. Gender isn’t a social expression. It’s what the brain is wired to. Most people’s brains are wired to what they’re body is. But some people’s arent. They aren’t trans because they like things boys/girls like, they are trans because their parts don’t match what their brains are wired too. Convincing people they could be whatever they want to be is making trans people look like a joke. Ofcourse if people could be part of a community that makes them feel special they are gonna wanna take part, that’s a problem because trans isn’t something you WANT to be it is something you are. Dyphoria is a medical condition, saying trans isn’t anything medical makes people think that anybody could be trans which is stupid and wrong.

[fierceawakening]

might try making a longer one later (because aforesaid language disability and spoons), but basically, I do present as trans in a more "typical" way. but if we are willing to break apart the bonds of "this is how society is going to relate to you based on physical characteristics you were born with", which i'm glad is happening, btw... the most important categories that relate to body stuff and social role, (for me at least) seem to have nothing to do with "man" or "woman" altogether.

like, there are aspects of how my body works, (including atypical dyphoria and disability) that are a million times more important than what is or isn’t in the pants. (which rarely use anyway, by choice) and if we’re talking about social role, saying (for example) “hearthkeeper” or “fae” or whatever it is might give a better picture of strengths and preferences than either of the images of “man” or “woman” or any of their variations.

basically, from what i’ve seen, a lot of gender seems to be about archetypes - especially with some of the more self-aware butch/femme stuff. and in terms of archetypes, the male/female ones are only one small corner that doesn’t fit everyone well. and fortunately, there seem to be other options out there even if they aren’t “acceptable” at the moment.

wait are you the neopronoun anon or someone else

#Anonymous #gender

[borderline-purrsonality]

Answer #1

First, I did not reduce ableism to "being seen as inferior" but to any kind of hostility/negativity towards disability/ people with disabilities (bcs diabled). Then you fail to prove how it's ableism. Stating that "wanting to be disabled is ableist" without elaborating on how it reveals a negative view of disability is not evidence of its alleged ableism. Saying that "wanting to be disabled is ableist" without elaborating on how this reveals a negative view of disability is not proof of its alleged "ableist" character. It is just a baseless statement in the same way that saying "wanting to be a woman is misogynistic" is a baseless statement.

It's not ableism since it does not imply negativity towards disability. Again, your logic can be transposed to transgender people. According to your logic a trans woman who wants a "typical female body" is misogynistic etc.

''no one should want to be disabled''

---> idagf, this is moral (and cisbaleist) injunction.

''no one should want to be a woman"

---> idagf, this is a moral (and transphobic) injunction.

You are just making up reasons why these people want to acquire a disability. You are like terf who claim that ''transwomen want a female body for fetishistic reasons" "they want to coerce lesbians into having sex with them" etc etc. Same record.

It's not for "attention" (a totally absurd argument given that transitioning to disability in our ableist society will just expose them to all the difficulties of being disabled) but because they may be dysphoric (BIID), because they feel that's how their body should be. In short, it's for the same reasons as for transgender people.

"how shitty this is''

---> shitty is a perception and in this contexct a cisablest perception. So Idagf. It's just like terfs who perceive trans women who want a ''typical female body'' as shitty. Idagf.

"They are able people talking over disabled spaces"

Sounds like "transwomen are men taking over disabled spaces" shut the fuck up.

And by definition they aren't even ''able people'' since a lot of them have BIID :/. Shut up. Shut up.

''and this is ableism''

Again where is the demonstration ? Nowhere. Prove your accusation rather just that making up affirmation without any basis.

•The rest of the other paragraph is irrelevant but I want to add this. If being disabled is ''difficult! (it's subjective because difficult is a perception) it's largely because our societies are ableist. In other words, the source of their suffering is largely social.

• Being transabled is not to ''make believe that one is disabled'' but wanting to acquire a disability.

''hurts diabled people''

in what way? Develop ? Because if it's just you who doesn't like the existence of transabled people then not only do we not "hurt" but the problem is your (cisableist) consideration of transabled people. It's just like a cis man who feel hurt by the existence of trans men. And even if we were to "hurt" you still could not qualify as "ableist" because you would have to prove hostile intent against the disabled. For example, just because a gay man is hurt by something does not make it homophobia.

Moreover it's like the terf argument ''transwomen hurt women, that's misogyny''.

Answer #2

•No, you are misrepresenting what I said. I didn't said that calling a mental illness a mental illness was saneist. I said that to say that a mental illness should not be "glorified" because it is a mental illness was ableist. Then I drew the parallel with physical disabilities to further highlight the ableist nature of this position since you don't see it with "mental illness". (If disabilities/illnesses would not be seen negatively, then valuing them would not be seen as a bad thing and these "don't glamorize" reactions would not exist).

• Gender dysphoria (and not transidentity) is classified as a mental illness by the DSM5 and the ICD11. So no, it is not dyphoria that can lead to mental illness because it is already gender dysphoria that is a mental illness.

Tok: https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/gender-dysphoria/what-is-gender-dysphoria

How is this glorification? Why is included in ''glorification" ? How is it honoring, exalting, wanting to make the amputation of a limb medically possible for transbaled folks ? All I see is a confusion between "authorizing" and "glorifying". Isn't authorizing medical treatment for transgender people glorifying (ie. honoring, exalting) those treatments? No. You are confusing everything. Secondly, I never said anything about making flags or anything, why do you bring it up? And even if it would be glorification, so what? It's just cisableism to consider that transabled shouldn't have their own flag, shouldn't express positivity about their identity because it would be interpreted as glorification. Just as it would be cissexist to consider that transgender people should not make their own flag, to express positivity because that would be read as glorification.

''they should not be encouraged by actually hurt themselves"

Hahaha. Seems like:

'' people with gender dysphoria should not be encouraged by actually hurt themselves"

You are once again using terf rhetoric, the idea that transgender people who are medically transitioning are hurting themselves ("hurt": a moral and therefore arbitrary term) except that this is with regard to transabled people. Transphobic and cisableist perspective.

In addition that would be like banning sex hormones and surgeries for transgender people with dyphoria and imposing a single alternative treatment (psychotherapy). Shut up. Why do you get to decide what others should do with their bodies?

Speaking of treatment, studies have been done on the effects of amputation on people with BIID and what they found was that amputation is very effective in treating BIID:

1) https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0034702

2)https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15997612/

3) https://www.sciencepublishinggroup.com/journal/paperinfo.aspx?journalid=201&doi=10.11648/j.pbs.20140306.17

4)https://www.researchgate.net/publication/247831084_Amputee_identity_disorder_and_related_paraphilias

It's the same thing as dysphoric transgender people. Treating BIID/GD with medical transition is way more effective than trying to treat BIID/GD through psychotherapy.

"And also a lot of the transabled community don’t even have BIID they just want attention"

Seems like..

"And also a lot of the transgender community just want attention"

It's just like terfs and other transphobic people that invent intentions to transgender people. Baseless accusations.

Okay so I had a long response post ready but my tumblr crashed so I’ll keep it short.

Stop comparing transgender experiences to being disabled. Do you not realize that this is transphobe rhetoric?

Also I am quite literally trans and you can see that by reading my bio so stop implying you think I act like cis people.

Do you not realize that this is straight up transphobe rhetoric? I’ve heard transphobes say this exact thing as a reason for why trans people shouldn’t transition.

Wow transmed rhetoric! Anyways

Mental illness should never be glorified are you fucking stupid? I do not go through constant mental pain and public mental breakdowns for my bpd to be glorified as “yandere syndrome” or “manic pixie dream girl” awareness can coexist without glorifying mental illness

Holy fucking shit congrats on your ableism! No the difficulties disabled people face is not “largely social” anxiety still makes people anxious, depression still makes people feel hopeless, blindness still keeps people from seeing, and spinal cord injuries still keep people paralyzed and unable to walk.

Anyways as a mentally ill trans person I think you should donate me $24 for having me listen to your bullshit so can you please donate? I could really use a binder!

#radio static #serious stuff #transphobia tw #ableism tw #OH MY GOD FUCK #long post