#but yeah - social gender dysphoria is a bitch

[mitamicah]

I don’t expect anybody to ‘get my gender’ 

I don’t expect you to be flawless in using my pronouns or my name 

I know you are human 

I know that you are from an older generations, and that language has changed since then 

I know you might not be in the right headspace to change your vocabulary 

I know that ‘they/them’ might not be the perfect words to use and there’ll be grammatical challenges using them singularly in my native language 

I know it is hard to learn an old dog new tricks 

I know all of this 

Which is why I find myself internalizing all of these explanations/excuses that you - prompted or unprompted - throw at me 

You made a mistake? Shame on me 

Shame on me for expecting anything else

Shame on me for making a big deal out of words

Shame on me for taking time away from more important topics

Shame on me for putting the burden on you 

Shame on me for not just staying the same 

I wish this didn’t have to happen 

I wish I didn’t have to take up space 

But emotions are not rational 

And I wish I could tell you all of this to your face 

Instead I hide it behind a smile 

And a half failed attempt not to cry 

#this turned out way more poetric than expected #but yeah - social gender dysphoria is a bitch #gender dysphoria #social gender #social gender dyphoria #I am alright mostly #just needed to share #gender identity #nonbinary #me #mine

[redditreceipts]

hi there! No need to answer this publicly if you don’t want to- but last anon here and to clarify some things (sorry if I came off ruder than intended I was having a bad day lol) I think it’s in fact always a good thing for women to mad or mean to their oppressors. However before looking into radblr my main experience with people calling themselves “gender critical” was honestly a lot of straight women who don’t really care about feminism beyond hating trans people, and a lot of those peoples focuses on appearances really bothered me. Namely a lot of the transvestigators types because they would pretty comfortably throw the baby out with the bathwater and accuse gnc women of being men just for not being super feminine, especially having facial hair or a lot of body hair which pissed me off. And the attitude of calling trans men/especially detrans people mutilated always upset me deeply because while if a detrans person wants to talk about their own experiences and trauma from what happened to them that way, it feels deeply cruel to tell women who have already been through a lot and still have to live their lives that their bodies are mutilated and they’ll never be accepted as women again. But you are very right, and though it is scary I do think it’s important to start standing up to the blatant misogyny within the trans community if I’m going to continue being a part of it. Have a nice day :)

Oh yeah, the Posie Parker types 🙃 There are a lot of them on twitter. (and no, you did not come off as rude at all :))

And these people are not gender critical, because they don't criticise the social construct of gender. Like saying that hairy women are not biologically female - THATS THE VERY THING FEMINISM HAS FOUGHT AGAINST!!! Women are hairy mammals and that's cool. They can be as wooly as a wooly mammoth and still be women. Women can look literally any way they want to. Some have certain body parts, some don't. The only thing that unites them is that they are biologically female.

(also, they are locking trans people in their positions - imagine you are a person who decides to transition because of your dysphoria, you want to educate yourself on feminist and gender critical ideas, and then people come at you and tell you that you're mutilated and a freak??? you are going to turn back to trans misogynists like Jessie Gender or Philosophy Tube, because they at least dont tell you that you are an abhorration)

And I think that you can stand up against the misogyny. I am trying to do it, and I'm really getting better. Telling men when they are interrupting me, telling men who called me on the street to "shut up" (it was a safe area), telling men to not say "bitch", etc. It's always such a great feeling 😊 you should be looking out for your safety though <3

[goldstar-futaba]

"aren’t these the same transwomen that want womb implants as the next trans health care research? I think the “reproducer” is TW talk for being insanely jealous of biological women lol"

You do realize that not every trans person wants the same exact thing, right? We're not a monolith. Yeah that person was being gross but there is no universal opinion of wanting or not wanting womb implants or to carry children just as cisgender women don't universally want or not want to be pregnant at some point in their lives. Plenty of cis women get their uteri removed entirely, that doesn't mean there aren't others that want kids. If you can recognize that then it shouldn't be hard to recognize that the group you hate also doesn't all want the same thing.

See I know you’re correct when saying not all TW have the same desire of procreation, but my point isn’t “they’re jealous because they want children”.

They’re deeply jealous and resentful of “cis women” aka biological women for being born with a set of organs that categorize them as female without any effort. It’s a stroke of luck that we’re born female and they aren’t.

Who cares about the future kids the implanted wombs could create? It’s about the validation of their gender. “Look! I can be just as female as those cis bitches. Who need them anyway? Men make the best women”

You might think you’re normal, and honestly in an interpersonal level you probably are if properly socialized and with a friend group. That doesn’t mean womb envy isn’t something you deal with and need to be worked out. The desire for a female body is womb envy at its core and you should really reflect on why exactly you’re not satisfied with your body. What you’d do against biological women because life has handed you a shitty hand by giving you both a penis and gender dysphoria.

I’ve seen TW claim that the rape of “cis women” is reparations for trans rights and deflect that as “kinky talk”. That is also resentment for what we naturally have.

#👾.mail #radblr #terfblr #radfem #radical feminists please interact

[tired-inyxe]

WHATS UP FUCKS - AKA My Ultimate Masterpost

Hi! I realized I never really introduced myself. My name is Inyxe (i-n-y-x-e, pronounced like Lynx but with an i (accidentally swapped the y and n once and didn't notice until it was too late)), but you can also call me Jay! I'm a proud anarchist and punk, swear like a sailor and love sharing my opinions well knowing I won't be hunted down with pitchforks and torches (I mean I could still be here but it's not as likely as, let's say, twitter). I've only been here for a couple of years but this is basically my first social media platform (Amino doesn't count). I also was put through the shredder when I was created and have a slew of issues, both mental and physical, so you will be subjected to the whims of my brainworms. It/they/fae pronouns. I have no sidebloggs so you get a smattering of my thoughts, have fun~ Feel free to dm or ask me anything! I may be so so tired but I like human interaction as long as I don't initiate it. Expect me to talk about prehistoric animals tho This will most likely be edited later, but that's future me's problem All of my tag masterlists! I have a lotta custom tags, like a LOT, so if u see weird ass tags on me post it's probably related to these (also useful for digging thru my stuff!)

General -my basic bitch tags, tag is #wing anatomy (subject to change)

Writing/Character Work -my creative writing/character work tags, tag is #worm anatomy Art -my art tags, tag is #cake anatomy Batfam/Dc -my batfam/dc tags, tag is #bat anatomy TMNT -my TMNT tags, tag is #shell anatomy more will be added later, i do more stuff than these after all, like dinosaurs! (fossil anatomy) My most important tags (on here and in the masterlist they best fit)

#bird anatomy -this masterpost! so its easy to find if i mention it in a different post

#og munchies -original posts

#eagle screech -announcements relating to me #red velvet cookie -my favorite things I've made/stuff im really proud of! I make a killer red velvet cookie batch fyi

#homemade food -My art! Get it well its hot #worm sculptures -my ocs! Also known as the worms that haunt nobodies head but mine (might introduce em soon ooooo) #rebloop -reblog

Extra info under the cut! has discussion of my mental/physical disorders so if u dont like that feel free to skip dw (I love to overexplain the stuff under here isn't important)

Stuff I have (been diagnosed for all of these, but that doesn't rly matter, just saying that because I don't want to deal w self diagnosis discourse atm): Autism, Adhd, Depression, Anxiety, Gender Dysphoria and Insomnia Stuff I suspect (talkin w me doctor abt it maybe): Tachycardia, depersonalization/derealization disorder, chronic fatigue, possibly a lung condition (not asthma but my lungs are fucked), iron deficiency anemia, some other vitamin/mineral deficiencies most likely, panic disorder, OCD, uhhhh idk ill add more later? maybe. its 1am my brain slidey yeah m doing this when m more awake gah

#bird anatomy #so eepy #i'll see how i feel abt this later #gonna sleep #mhhhhhhhh

[samnelsonwrites]

Chapter 2: A Mundane Monday Morning

Monday mornings always begin the same way: I drag myself out of bed, get some coffee, and begin the dreaded walk to school. The scenery, the people, and the music I listen to at full volume is always the same. I meet Jamie at the school's main entrance; god, I despise this place. I always wonder why I didn't switch for 6th Form. I attend Viridis Grammar, a Co-Ed school full of students who have no chance of passing any exams, let alone attending university. I'm not smart in the least; I didn't get any grades higher than a B in my GCSEs, and yet I'm the smartest person here. It really just goes to show how dumb students are.

My friends and I are deemed "nerds" since we are not screwing up classes. We've all been friends since year 7 and we're extremely close. We haven't allowed anyone new into our friend group because we know it will ruin our dynamic. Tori is the eccentric one among us, and she is where the energy is. If she's around me a lot, my introverted self finds her a little socially draining. Imogen, I believe, is the "trendy" one among us. She has always been up to date on the latest trends and is constantly criticising our sense of fashion; it was irritating initially, but now we all roll our eyes at her when she starts being "influencer Immi," as we call her. She’s the token straight friend. Max is Imogen's boyfriend; I'm not quite certain how they hooked up since Max is the quiet, nose-in-a-book type of guy and Imogen is quite the contrary. Max doesn't say much, but when he does, it's usually with a witty remark. And then there's Jamie, my boyfriend. I feel like he's the only one who truly understands me, but I still feel alone. We've been dating for a year and a half, and I think it's safe to say things are going swimmingly. Jamie is the coolest person in our group; he is the lead vocalist and guitarist in a band called "Purely Purple," so named because all of the instruments in the band are purple. I am a huge fan of the band and go to every concert they perform at. One of their YouTube videos has received over 16K views. I imagine them becoming well-known one day.

“How y’doing?” Greets Jamie.

“Couldn’t be better” I replied sarcastically. Jamie grinned at me as if my comment was hilarious. He leaned in and brushed his lips against mine—instant butterflies. You would have thought that I would have gotten used to the idea of Jamie kissing me but no, I haven’t, I feel as if we are still in the “Honeymoon Phrase” as Imogen likes to call it. 

Imogen and Max walked through the gates, clearly arguing, as they frequently do. Argue one minute, then fall hopelessly in love the next. It's as if they're an elderly couple. Absolutely adorable. 

"Are you okay?" "Fine," Max grunted as he aggressively pushed past me.

"What in the world happened this time?" Jamie asked.

"It's just about how Max doesn't pay enough attention to me," Imogen responded.

"Oh my God, Imogen, he lavishes you with attention; quit bitching!" I sigh.

"I'd like for us to be like you guys." She directed her finger at us. "You guys can't stay away from each other for long."

"Immi, different people express affection in various ways, but we just like PDA," Jamie explained.

"Yeah, I don't think Max wants to engage in PDA." I agree.

The school bell rang at 8.30 a.m., indicating the start of classes. Jamie and I are heading to English lit.

"Ah, Twelfth Night, the gayest play ever," I said.

"Viola is obviously struggling with gender dysphoria," Jamie explained.

Viola would be someone I frequently associate with. I definitely have gender dysphoria, just like Viola. I really want to tell Jamie about my gender fluidity, yet I'm not sure how. I guess I need to find the right moment. 

"Hey, Jamie?" "How did you realise you were non-binary?" I ask.

"I suppose I've always known to some extent. I've always associated more with men than a woman, but I wasn't sure I was entirely a man."

"Huh, did you have a lightbulb moment or was it a gradual process?"

"I actually realised I'm not cis about 2 years ago, then came out to you a few months later, what's the sudden interest?"

Shit, do I have to come out now? Or no? Why am I asking this, did I completely screw up? "I don't think through my questions." Oh, I was just wondering" Is that a sufficient excuse? Will they buy it?

"All right," they said.

For the remainder of the English lesson, we sat in complete silence. I was replaying the conversation we just had in my head, cringing at how I handled it. After what felt like the lengthiest lesson ever, the bell finally rang at 9.30 a.m. 

"What are you going to do after school?" Jamie inquired.

"I'm not sure, probably curled in blankets in front of the TV, watching His Dark Materials or something."

"So nothing,"

"Sums it up"

"Would you want to come to mine? We could watch His Dark Materials together?"

"Sure. At 4, I'll meet you at the gates." I grinned.

Mundane Monday isn't so mundane after all now I'm going to Jamie's after school. Although I can see how the evening will play out. I predict we will watch about 10 minutes of His Dark Materials before Jamie does something so incredibly hot that my immense attraction to him will overpower all of my senses and we will start necking it. It's a tradition.

The remainder of the day dragged on. I was very excited about the evening. I attempted to finish all of my schoolwork at lunch and failed terribly since Tori was telling me about a band she really wants to see, The Ark.  I enjoy The Ark, but I wouldn't want to go to one of their gigs since the fans are so intense. When one of the guys, I believe it was Rowan, had a girlfriend, a jealous fan hurled a brick at his head. A bit mental, most of them are screaming teenagers who have nothing better to do than fantasise about shagging one of the members. Don't blame them, Jimmy Kaga Ricci is a snack. 

#gay writing #alice oseman #lgbtqia #his dark materials

[iffylogic]

New year, new pfp! As though I weren’t struggling to make myself do this since October for self-help reasons

Trying as hard as I can to suppress the world’s most severe case of resting bitch face (complete with sinister eyebrows, it ain’t fair lol!) And of course a Carbuncle, since my old icons usually include it and IT NEEDS SQUEEZING ♥

It’s also kind of celebratory, because 2021 has been a really important year of my life. I open up quite a bit below the break, fair warning.

I’ve been depressed ever since I was ten. Over the years, it gradually got worse and worse and worse, until suicidal ideation and self-hatred became the background noise of every moment. Everything felt wrong, like I shouldn’t be here. Therapy and medications did little to help. I had cut off ties with my friends, not because I didn't enjoy company, but because why would they possibly want to be around me? By the time I started my little comic, I threw myself into it because it was the one and only thing distracting me from how endlessly miserable I felt.

(Thanks for the bummer Iffy OKAY SO ANYWAY 💦)

So I’ll skip the long version of this, but in May of this year, I found out that I’m transgender and buried in gender dysphoria. In fact, the symptoms were stacked so high that it reaaaaally shouldn’t have taken me so long to figure out.

It was extremely upsetting and confusing for a hot minute there, because I just didn’t know what to do about it. But, after support from my wonderful spectacular sister and some professional chats, I started transitioning in Summer.

(Coming out to my parents was wild. I came out to my mom first, who was very confused and had a million questions, but ultimately was fully supportive! Then I told my dad. No joke, he just gave a kind smirk and said, “I had a feeling.” My mom and I both dropped our jaws. XD)

Now I’m half a year into HRT, and making small changes, one at a time. But here’s the wild thing, and kind of the point of all this:

I’m not depressed anymore.

I thought that transitioning could be a huge relief, yes, but... that was actually... it. The crushing sadness and relentless self-hatred just... left me. And they never came back.

Maybe it’s that life-long dissociation with the person in the mirror. Slowly but surely, I’m starting to recognize the face looking back, for the first time since I was a kid, and... I don’t even know how to describe what that feels like.

This is going to be the silliest, cheesiest, sappiest, thing you’ll ever see me write, but I’m not kidding: I legitimately forgot what joy and hope felt like until these past months.

Friends who aren’t even aware of my changes have been positively remarking about how I seem like a completely different person. Even laughter comes so much more easily to me now?? Hell, one video made me double over laughing, and I was in sheer awe of how unbelievably good it felt. The simplest freaking thing. But I didn’t have it before.

I’d become fully socially phobic over the past decade, especially online. Even with mutuals, I’d respond little more than necessary because who would actually want to talk to me? But that’s starting to flip over, too. (It’s kind of morphing into fomo because of course it is. :P)

I’ve been hanging out and making more friends in town because I’m starting to look forward to being around people, which if you’d known me from even a year ago would sound like I’ve gone batshit insane.

Online, it isn’t as simple, since I have no idea what I’m doing hjsdfhjlgsdf. But yeah if I’ve seemed more chatty these past few months, that’s why. I’m reaching out in all directions and trying to make friends! :)

People look so different when “who’d ever want to talk to me” doesn’t constantly bounce around in your head anymore.

I still have problems, sure. But now I’m strong enough to confidently work on them. And I’m sure new problems will come up, considering everything. But that doesn’t bother me either because I’m facing them as myself, which I suppose I took for granted before.

Being depressed for most of your life, and then not being depressed, is unreal. Seriously it feels so different that it does not feel real.

Okay okay I’m done blathering. I’m just... beside myself about being able to feel happy again. I’m so grateful that my family believed what I was going through and have been nothing but supportive—seriously, just saying I believe you and I see you in there was everything for me—and it helped me break out from a state of mind that I just assumed was how my life would be forever. (had to stop typing just now to have a happy-sob hjklHfjkasdlhjfk) And the rest of my one short little life will be a lot brighter for it.

2022 is the first year that I’ve ever looked forward to.

I hope you’re looking forward to yours, too. ♥

#my art #Iffy rants and raves #very real talk #positivity #it's kind of a 'pour my heart out' post so #Happy New Year! 🎉💕✨🎇🎆

[grandtorinaa]

Obey me Coming Out Headcannons

My dumbass posted this and went the entire day before realizing I forgot to label it lmao

Gender Neutral, Race Neutral MC

No warnings

Luci boots with the fur

"I see."

He'd honestly be really happy that you felt comfortable enough to tell him

Don't let his boomer-isms fool you, he is 100% supporting you.

"I'm very pleased that you're finding your identity, love."

He would make sure all your official documents were updated if they needed to be.

If anyone dares to disrespect you they will be not-so-kindly chewed on by cerberus.

Mammoney

"Oi, what are ya lookin’ all nervous for? Ya think the Great Mammon would be mad over this?”

His words might be initially rough sounding, but the intention is portrayed with the physical affection he gives you.

He will aggressively defend his human if someone is rude to you, or makes a snide comment.

If you wanted to get any medical procedures done, he would try to save up and surprise you with it as a present or something, he just wants to see you all smiley and bubbly tbh

Depending on your identity, you might have to explain to him what it means, he might not even get it at first but he still tries his best to make sure he’s doing things right for you

L3V14TH4N

He is 100% relating you to a random anime character he knows

He is also asking you to cosplay them

If you come out to him first he’s going to feel extra special, maybe wag his tail internally. But according to the tsundere code he has to play it like he doesn’t care or knew the whole time.

“S-silly normie, that's not, well, I’m, that's not something that would bother me.”

BUILD PRIDE HOUSES IN MINECRAFT WITH HIM DO IT PLEASE IM BEGGING.

He’s like your own personal cheerleader when it comes to social interaction, especially if you’re nervous.

Satan

Very chill.

“Oh, I see.” *closes his book* “I appreciate you letting me know.”

Highkey would ask you questions just because he’s curious academically, but if you don’t feel comfortable he’d be understanding.

If you have dysphoria, he’s going to activate his braincells and get you a potion or something to alleviate it.

He will also murk anyone who acts disrespectful, on sight it's over.

If you go to events like GSA or something he’ll also tag along if he can.

He wants to learn about anything and everything relating to you.

Asmo

like this dude isn’t genderfluid and having an affair with solomon c’mon now

“Think of all the ways we can style your flags!”

If anything he’s more excited than you are.

Asmo is most certainly busting out his acrylic set and giving you a manicure.

Someone disrespects your pronouns? He’s roasting tf outta them. Immediate social death, straight up hatecrimed them. Someone being xyzphobic? They’re getting called a stupid bitch on his live.

If you wanted reassignment, he could probably hit up Solomon for his magical essential oils. But if you didn’t, he would definitely do his best to show you how to appreciate yourself. If you’re dating him you’re automatically the 2nd hottest person in all 3 realms.

BEELZEBURGER

This man. Ugh this man 🥺

His gives you the sweetest warmest smile and it just makes you melt

“Oh, okay.”

You might need to explain more in depth if it's a more obscure term or identity, but he loves you no matter what.

BAKE PRIDE CAKES WITH BEEL PLEASE

pride cookies, pride ice cream, pride waffles. It's so beautiful, the kitchen is a mess but the cake is great.

If anyone disrespects you, well first of all rip to them. Why would you do that? Beel is huge, giant, and could crush you in an instant. Like he just goes “:/“ and straight up eats the fool. Major Ls are taken by the offender.

Belphie

“okay whatever”

Pretty lackluster reaction but it's only because he really doesn’t care because he’ll always love you.

Go to pride riding on a cow with him do it do it

I feel like Belphie would like pride pillows. Yeah, he definitely would.

“Belphie what happened to my bed sheets?”

“They’re gay now y/n”

Some random comes over with shit to say? He smacks tf outta them with his tail. Whipping them to death and back. Either that or the offender has nightmares for a very, very, long time.

#obey me x reader #obey me beel #obey me lucifer #obey me mammon #obey me asmo #obey me satan #obey me leviathan #obey me belphie #headcannons #pride #because #yeah❤️ #tw: solomon #mentions of his essential oils and creams #also beel eats homophobes #obey me x trans reader #obey me x black reader #gender neutral reader #obey me gender neutral mc #obey me x male reader #male readers deserve more content

[nutterwithasolderingiron]

so. let’s talk about tramp stamps seriously.

this has been a topic on my mind since my friend first sent me one of their tiktok videos saying “lol, look at this cringe” and indeed, it was cringe. next i started seeing more and more videos about how bad they were and how much astroturfing they were doing on social media to get attention. when this level of astroturfing goes on, it’s most people’s first response to look into things deeper. and there we found problematic tweets, cringe lyrics, cousin loving cousin, dr. luke and much much more. during this time, i seen a few people saying “oh, you only hate these guys because your a sexist fuckhead” even when women and queer folk were criticizing them.  then they came to tumblr..... and left tumblr 5 hours later. then the stans started doing what they do best. seeing how some of the stans have responded to the release of the new record, this is going to be me “mansplaining” or whatever. this is me explaining what i see the 2 major problems people have with tramp stamps.  the woke aspect the most common complaint i seen with the tramp stamps was their politics and almost co-opting left wing talking points without any understanding or nuance on the situation at best. this is why people dislike the whole “girlboss” thing. not because they are sexist, but because it’s often invoked in “fuck everyone, i can do this because i’m a badass bitch” which is really just the middle class millenial version of a karen. at worst, some of their lyrics are problematic. need i bring up the lyric about her drunk boyfriend not getting it up? if you don’t know what’s problematic about that, think of her intent in the situation, now picture the genders reversed? yeah. 

the “authenticity” aspect. 

this is the one i feel more inclined to talk about. i’ve been a part of the punk/post-hardcore/emo scene since i was in my teens. i’ve played in a lot of local bands, ran shows, social media accounts, street teams, repaired guitars, pulled sound for 15+ years. now, in these scenes, there can be some gatekeeping BUT usually that attitude gets called out. i’ve had afab bandmates get heckled like crazy and in those situations, we’d pull a kathleen hanna and escort the fuckers out the venue. so what i say when i bring up this next part is not “gatekeeping” it’s just how the scene works and has always worked. 

these scenes foster a community based on authenticity and the attitude of having to grind to get results. most the all time great bands in the rock/punk/metal/hardcore/emo/post-hardcore had to grind but also come across as authentic, you gotta network, you gotta send out hundreds of demo’s. spend thousands on recording, touring, merch, promotion. you know what a 20 year old ford transit with 6 people in the back, all of which have not showered in 2 weeks? i do. most bands know it’s all about luck and connections and grinding, but they still do it. 99% of your favorite rock bands had to do it.  my chemical romance? yup, i remember them on their first uk tour.  green day? part of the gillman punk scene. fallout boy? pete wentz was in the vegan straight edge scene. 

what people are objecting to is the tramp stamps using their connections before they’ve even really played a gig or tried immersing themselves in the scene and tried making connections. the felt fake from the very beginning. “oh but marissa did grind at her publishing job” maybe, i dunno what her job really was. but the point is, it felt very fake, it felt like there was astroturfing. it didn’t feel like 3 girls who wanted to make this music they wanted, it felt like marketing folk at her publishing job said “hmmmmm, the whole e-girl/tiktok/pop-punk revival is going well, how do we jump on this band wagon?” and people seen it for what it was. 

so, tramp stanz or whatever your fanbase is called. before you call me a sexist asshole, i’m going to give you some homework. i’m going to list a few great bands with a strong female creative voice (even if they’re not the singer), my tastes tend to lean a bit weirder so i’m sorry in advance. listen to these, not all of them are all female bands since i often feel separating female/afab musicians from male/amab doesn’t create a good scene.  patti smith (often considered to be the godmother of punk) bikini kill (remember when tramp stamps would hashtag riotgrrl everything? bikini kill were the band that coined the term)  bratmobile (same vein as bikini kill)  jack off jill/scarling (if there’s such a thing as a musician i’d simp for, it would be jessicka addams)  babes in toyland (some super noisy girl grunge) l7 (heavy alt-rock/grunge with some super catchy hooks)  slant 6 (what kind of monster are you is a fucking freight train of a song) hole (as much as we make fun of courtney love’s shit stirring, she could write some of the best choruses ever)  unwound (my favorite band and their drummer sara is the fucking heart of the band)  rolo tomassi (eva spence’s voice will blow your socks clean off) distillers (brody dalle is a fucking queen and you can’t convince me otherwise) against me (transgender dysphoria blues is an album that makes me tear up everytime i hear it but in a good way)

#tramp stamps

[belphieslilcow]

anyways woooo cass and coming out to the Boys as trans cause i WAnt To

Lucifer - knew already by their file, but doesn't bring it up ever, he really doesn't care, not in a mean way, but just in a "this is just a part of who you are" way

was first come out to directly by cass in the worst way, by sleeping together, that last night of the exchange program? yeah

so like they make the pact and lucifer takes them to his room, and cass is like uhh wait i kinda need to tell you somthing Important beforehand and is super nervous but lucifer is just "oh yeah i knew already it was on your file" and cass is relieved but also like holy shit that was on my file??? he knew this whole time??

Mammon - it's VERY sweet, so like they're hanging out in mamm's room on his couch and it's late at night, not a school night though, so they can stay up without lucifer threats, and as the night goes on their conversations turn from haha funnie, to very casual and like domestic almost, to hey mammon this is probably a good time to mention im trans cause it's just us and is quiet and we're already having a nice convo an-

and mammon's super sweet about it, notices him being nervous and and like kinda shaking and is like Big Brother Protective Instincts and assures him that it's totally cool and he'll beat the shit out of anyone that misgenders them/is transphobic and cass cries and mammon cries also cause Emotions, it's nice

Levi - already knew cause they're already buddies and no way after looking at his social media he didn't already know

is very supportive and is a big comfort for when the Gender hits you particularly hard

Satan - "oh, i'm happy you're comfortable enough with me to let me know, thank you" DFNKJGFIN

ok so like he knows how to read, he knows about trans stuff, is also probably nonbinary, but we don't have to talk about that now, just very chill, nothing much more than that lol, but he will research more stuff when he leaves to like, make sure he doesn't do anything offensive accidentally

Asmo - you don't really snuggle up to someone a bunch and NOT notice some things, like a binder for instance or that he has curves that most cis men wouldn't

BUT HE IS SO OUTWARDLY SUPPORTIVE like cass comes out one self care night and asmo is just so happy?? he's def been with trans people before (also big genderqueer energy) so he has more experience with that kinda stuff

makes sure that he takes proper care of his binder and if asked!! will 110% go shopping with him for Gender clothes and constantly tell him how handsome and beautiful and pretty he looks no matter what and is SO big on him being gnc like bitch him too the fuck!! pretty boys in skirts!!

Beel - so like he had to explain fully what it was but beel?? as always so sweet, is also kinda confused why cass was scared to tell him but when cass says that some humans can go as far as disown or abuse trans people that come out he just gives them the biggest bear hug of their life and says he'd never stop loving him over something like that (cass cried)

also when cass says that beels huge tiddies help his chest dysphoria beel is so happy!! well he doesn't say it like that it's probably more like "hey beel the fact that your chest is larger makes me feel better about my own" also beel's jacket?? PERFECT DYSPHORIA JACKET, he just gets swallowed up by it and it's lovely and also smells like beel so it reminds him that he's loved <3

Belphie - similar to asmo, you don't sleep snuggle someone without noticing some things, primarily like hey you suddenly have boobs now, those weren't here earlier, but he used to be obsessed with humans, he knows what being trans is

coming out to him is like BIG snuggle fest, probably like after waking up and being like ah and he's very much like oh no it's okay, another really chill one lol many feel good snuggles afterwards and getting scolded by lucy for sleeping in You're Going To Be Late For School Dammit

also like the king of Not Letting Him Sleep In The Binder, when they're more of in a relationship he's more likely to say that he likes their boobs and thinks they're soft and likes to use them as pillows but will back off if it's a bad chest day

#i really do be writing!!

[uberfluss]

alright bitches sorry to like put an inordinate amount of energy into a poat at this hour but like look I don't know how many of my followers are in the age range I was when I first joined Tumblr but I got on here when I was like 14 and I was on here looking for other queers and just trying to figure out my identity. Where I was then is ridiculously far from where I am now.

I was thinking earlier about how fixed on microlabels I was. like I was 100% sure I was a Sapphic aligned nonbinary person who was asexual and demiromantic only looking for a Quasiplatonic relationship. As I grew I learned that while terms and shit are nice they are not necessity. It's nice to find others like you and use terms to learn different ways of life but it's not worth the drama and discourse. You don't need to tell everyone everything and it's okay to be unsure and it's okay to experiment. I never fuckin figured it out and tbh I just accepted it. I'm out here now and I'm just me. Maybe I'm a trans man maybe I'm Maybelline who the fuck knows all that matters is that I've taken steps to live comfortably in my body and surround myself with those who I love and who love me back.

Dont let people think you need to have all your shit figured out to transition either, I'm 6 months on testosterone and I don't know where exactly I am on the gender spectrum but I do know that I feel infinitely better about myself and my body since I started T. There's no gender police stopping you from transitioning socially or otherwise "you need a letter from a therapist saying you have dysphoria" yeah I talked to my man Brian, I told him I don't like my voice and my tits and I'd like it better if I had a deep voice and a beard and people saw me as male even if I'm not entirely a man and I was gonna start testosterone and needed a letter. my man Brian said okay bet and wrote me one.

It's okay to use microlabels and whatever like I'm not dissing you if you do, just don't be a prick. and if you don't use microlabels, don't be a prick. I don't care if you have dysphoria, just don't be a prick. I don't care if you don't have dyphoria just don't be a prick. it's that simple.

experiment as much as you want just make sure your words and actions reflect growth and learning

[sisi-corner]

2020, man...

Ouf. I know, the year isn’t even over yet, but so much has happened. Obviously on a social and political level, but also we collectively had to stop and put everything on hold. So many of us have finally had to take the time to deal with our own bullshit and figure our shit out. Which is great... but not really. But like, heavy as fuck... but like required and fucking needed.

And all I really can talk about regarding mental health, is my own experience... So yeah, I am queer, but I don’t know what kind of queer.

Back in January, I saw the cutest girl (woman, I am not a creep, well, I hope, I think... I didn’t talk to her so... anyways), and just put that on the back burner, like, don’t be gay, don’t look at the gay, no gay in this house...

Well, miss rona rolls around, and welp, yeah you gay fuck how you doin’... You know in Big Mouth the puberty monster... Well, I present you the gay one, that bitch sucks. Legit, everyday you put everything in question.

I have never identified as straight, I knew that much, but I didn’t think I was a lesbian... and the manifesto didn’t help. I am at the point where the best thing I can say is I don’t fucking know. 

Because, I have the, like my legs go a little numb and shit, with guys and girls, but in different situations. Like, guys it’s more after the first time they talk to me and like I know they’re into me, I get a little dumb dumb, but girls it’s straight up they do a random thing that just, duh ya know, kills my brain, and gets me the answer to do I wanna be her or be with her?

So, like all summer, I’ve been going back and forth with that. Also, I my ex was abusive peace of shit so, trauma sweetie, and I hadn’t dealt with that like, at all, and I finally had the time to do so, I now can picture myself with a man again... But I came out as a lesbian, like, yeah, I don’t fucking know man.

Just this week okay; I know that I just don’t want to get married, ever, I am not like that, and I have very strong boundaries, because of years of abuse and intimidation and manipulation, you name it, been there done that. Also, most of my bullies were girls, and the way girls bully is so personal and hurtful that even though I love girls, I know I couldn’t open up as much as I’d like to in a romantic relationship. Like yeah, guys have done bad shit to me too, but guys expect you to open yourself up and be vulnerable, and the actually good ones don’t take advantage of that and I have been pretty close to that. The only girl I have actually “dated” just threw me under the bus when her boyfriend found out and I fucking got sent to the ER over it... I just no. Nope. I- no. Like, I can be a woman when I am with a guy, but with a girl, I got to be “the man” or I am gonna get killed. Okay, a lil intense but you get it.

Oh and you know, I might be genderqueer, I, once again, have been bullied a lot and I now experience gender dysphoria because of it and not that long ago, I just didn’t want to be referred to as a woman, not a man either but, not a woman, it was really fucking bad, and I really love the pronouns she/they. So, yeah. just, ah-

I love being online and doing videos and shit like that, but this year has been so deep, like just early 20′s figuring shit out, it’s just hard to be happy go lucky with all that in the background.

I still fucking know nothing though. I mean I am aware of more, unfolding shit and trauma, but that’s it.

That was my 2020.

Anna.

#lgbtq #lgbt #lgbt community #lgbtq community #2020 #bisexual #pansexual #lesbian #demigirl #demisexual #trauma mention #domestic abuse tw #domestic abuse mention

[bacchilles]

2, 21, 27?

2. have you ever found a writer who thinks just like you? if so, who?

for french last semester we had to read L’Expulsé and textes pour rien IV by Samuel Beckett, and I loved reading them because right before we read them, I had just begun to write something that (imo) had a similar vibe and I think was sort of subconsciously inspired by Waiting for Godot. the aimlessness and absurdism in his writing really hits home for me.

21. do you love easily?

I don’t think so. I tend to develop sort of intense crushes very easily but that’s b/c I have the annoying habit of idealizing people, which I know isn’t the same as love. that’s not to say I don’t genuinely fall in love with people, though, and I think I’m getting better at figuring out when my feelings towards someone are idealized versus when they’re genuine. I just think it’s hard for me to figure out love in general sometimes bc I had a Bad Time with social relationships/interactions growing up and it definitely still affects how I interact with people today. not sure if that makes sense but I’m not gonna say any more because that’s stuff for my therapist lmao

27. do you feel like your outside appearance is a fair representation of the “real you”?

not entirely, but I think it’s getting there. over the past year I’ve made myself look more like what I perceive to be the “real me” but gender dysphoria is still a bitch. I also used to wish I had dark brown hair, but after dyeing it earlier this year I think I got a new appreciation for the color it is since it just kind of felt Wrong. idk I once would’ve said absolutely not but I think at this point I’m okay with how I look and that mostly I just deal with gender-related dysphoria and general body image issues (like wishing I was more in shape lmao). idk maybe this is TMI but yeah!

thanks oliver!! <33

ask me identity questions !

[lavendulaconminatio]

Years ago I ran a blog on ace discourse: @asleepingwindow As a lesbian raised in the Catholic Church, where you can be gay just don’t act on it, I knew asexual activism had nothing to do with being gay. I know an asexual gay person is the church’s fucking wet dream. I always insisted I don’t care whether people identify that way but stop trying to say you suffer as I do as a lesbian. Stop fucking invading lgbt spaces too and making them unsafe for us! But that was a losing battle. I wonder how this time period will be seen 20-30 years from an lgbt history perspective.

Anyway, besides knowing asexual gay people are the kind of gay people straight people want, I also hated this idea that seemed to be gaining popularity about people being more oppressed simply because they weren’t seen as valid. Validity didn’t mean laws meant to protect their population, or having police see your body as human and worthy of life; they merely meant existing in popular media so people see them. There was never anything deeper than that to so called asexual oppression, which I will never think is a thing. I mean asexuality is a thing but people don’t actively hate you for not having sex, that’s a fact of fucking life. My people died by the thousands in the 80s, sometimes with only lesbians to give a shit, and some straight person says their totes oppressed because they don’t want to fuck? Yeah ok. Or if there was a basis in oppression, it was often just blatant sexism and homophobia. All men say you’re a prude for not having sex, this is nothing special, Jan.

Now years later after arguing my heart out, making a master post and closing up shop, I find myself with another side blog to combat an issue that I once again feel harms lesbians and women. Instead of being more concerned about the men that berate, beat, and kill trans women, activists are literally attacking women, especially lesbians, for not validating trans people. The level of vitriol leveled at a woman for talking about her vagina is so above and beyond any hatred for the men who have murdered trans women.

Then in some perveted irony, those same deaths are propped up as reasons to shut down women talking about sexism. Meanwhile, more women than anyone can count die every day because they are female. We don’t get the luxury of our deaths being marked a hate crime. Instead it’s domestic violence, or maybe FGM gone wrong amoung the countless other things that needlessly and horrifically kill women. And I haven’t even talked about rape.

I knew the ridiculous activism of the asexual movement would have lasting consequences but I honestly never thought the concept of validity would be taken and warped so far to try and pretend biological sex doesn’t exist and that women aren’t female just to make trans women feel better about their dysphoria. I feel immense compassion for anyone with dysphoria, I have it and struggled for a long time to figure out if I was trans or a butch lesbian. There is such an immense disconnect here about the importance of validity and what real oppression looks like. Especially when you refuse to even discuss detrans people for fear it will make you seem less valid. So their struggles don’t exist to make you feel better. Once again, all about erasing females to stroke the egos of males.

This is not the biggest issue on my plate, but it’s a recent small example of tangible consequences to prejudice. The other day I was trying to refill an opioid I have a legal prescription for but the pharmacist refused because they couldn’t find it. Despite having going through this before this woman refused to look where I suggested, and I suffered in pain for 3 days before my doctor’s office was able to tell them they had it for sure. I mean this isn’t about sexism and more about ableism (though women’s pain is often discounted more, black pain even more) In that moment, I didn’t want to be validated. I didn’t want the pharmacist to know who I am, my identity, my disabilities, I wanted her to stop judging pain patients as a whole and give me my fucking legal prescription. Every single legislation and guideline that limits opioid prescriptions are born of a prejudice against addicts and a indifference to people in pain. That pharmacist didn’t give a shit about my pain, to bother even looking, because the rules made her right and I was probably an addict anyway. That is a real tangible feeling of oppression, and like I said it’s nothing compared to other examples I just didn’t want to dig up anything more upsetting.

That is how I feel about oppression. Validity matters, representation matters, but it is not the nitty gritty of what oppression is. It’s screaming at the walls, throwing your phone, because someone with the power to judge and fuck up your life, did exactly that. And worse they feel righteous for what they did because to them you’re just a “insert slur here”. And that’s just a small nonviolent and nonlethal example.

Now unlike asexuality, I know to be trans is to be oppressed and to suffer. But you cannot lift yourself up by putting others down, you will be on a tower of dominos that can fall the moment some other group does it to you. I always said trans people obviously belonged with LGB groups because obviously bigots didn’t care if a couple was two gay men or a man and non-passing trans woman. To me it spoke to a shared history and understanding. But maybe I was wrong, maybe that doesn’t exist. I think at least the one major difference now that I can definitely see is it’s ridiculous to infer female privilege by calling us cis. One thing is for sure, LGB and trans history are not as simple as I had ignorantly assumed in the past.

I don’t want to dictate what trans life is like, I don’t want deny any adult the right to transition, I don’t have any interest in misgendering, I believe there is a difference between sex and gender. But by fucking god I will not let anyone trample on my rights, call me bitch, cunt, terf, cum dumpster, deny my oppression as a female, deny my suffering, deny my reality as a female, just so You can feel better about your body. I will not sacrifice my body at the alter of your perceptions of your body.

Society loves to say otherwise, but women don’t exist to make you feel better. We don’t exist to make men feel more like a man or for trans women to feel more like a woman. We exist for our fucking selves, leave us alone! I’m not sorry if it makes you feel less of a woman because you need to address the misogyny you have been socialized into as a male. You all reek of sexism and think being trans means you magically cannot be affected by male socialization. That is some first class Bullshit. I’m a poor disabled lesbian, and none of that erases the racial bias I was taught and raised in as a white person. I always need to be willing to confront that, and it’s no different with males. Trans or cis, all of you were raised to hate women. Own it so we can fucking get past it.

Furthermore, our society only does better when we foster discourse. Disagreeing can be enraging but it’s how you learn if your own beliefs are worth keeping or discarding. It’s how you grow. Only insecure bullies feel the need to demand loyalty, stamp out dissent, and mock their opponents than actually argue. Don’t give into this intellectual dishonesty that might be easy, feel good, gain you a moment of praise, but ultimately throws women’s liberation and equality under the bus and into a raging inferno. How dare you think your right to feel valid is more important than my right to live freely and without shame as a female.

I’m very much open to good faith discourse on this topic, but do not mistake me. I have suffered for being born with a vagina, and no male will ever get to shut me up. So the next time you want to say choke on a dick, choke on your own.

#misogyny #sexism #feminism #trans activism #radical feminism #gender critical

[ruthlesslistener]

do you ever think about how the western perspective of gender and gender identity is held up as the universal experience, to the point where queer people from completely different cultures are judged based on it? idk as a trans poc i was thinking about that recently and it made me sad cause you cant stop someone from imposing their belief systems onto you, but that also means your own belief system and conception of your gender might be warped too

Honestly anon I think about this shit a lot and every single goddamn time some shitty truscum or terf or transphobic asshole smugly brings up the western perspective of gender as if it’s some fucking gender bible, it raises my hackles. Because gender is a social construct, entirely a social construct; there is no right or wrong way to be trans and transphobia can come in all forms. For example, I’m half Iranian; I tried to come out as trans a couple years ago and instead of the big blowout fight I was expecting (like what’s depicted in the media), I just got calmly told that that was alright, but that I needed to come to terms with being female because ‘girls are better to have in families than boys’. I don’t get a choice in the matter; girls are more valued, and such I just ‘have to come to terms’ with what my father wants, because he is my parent and knows everything and tells me how to live, end of story. And I can’t speak for how your family treats you because I don’t know your own culture, but I think I can say that’s different than a good chunk of western transmasc experiences. Because in western gender perspectives, anything that is feminine is a bad thing, and people are expected to be independent and choose their own paths, so usually that affects how people treat trans folk. It leans more towards beating the ‘mental illness’ out of them with a bible than just shutting them down and forcing them to comply, and that leads to a different view of the Trans Experience and transphobia and dysphoria than others.

And I’m rambling a bit here but basically? Yeah everytime I see some white western person bitch about what it means to be trans, I get angry about it. Everytime someone implies that my perception on gender and what it means to be trans is wrong, I get even angrier about it. Because gender is a social construct and is tied intrinsically to your culture. Your perspective isn’t warped on it, my perspective on it isn’t warped, hell, their perspective isn’t really warped either, just their opinion on what they’re supposed to do about it. And it’s really, really shitty that that ‘real trans experience’ syndrome is a thing bc then it leeches into every aspect of mainstream trans identity and makes people less receptive to different cultural views on gender. Oh, you use pronouns different than he/him, she/her, and they/them? You must be mogai scum. Oh, you’re from a different culture and that’s part of your heritage that you’re reclaiming after white colonizers literally fucking tortured it out of your family? Not an excuse, it’s still ~different and therefore ~not valid. Different perspectives on gender are literally no more valid than the shitty broken male-female with a side dash of ‘weird folk’ binary that western folk like to use in their trans activism, and anyone who tells you otherwise aren’t just fucking racist, they’re also willfully ignorant about the nature of gender and gender identity

#anon #reply #anti terf #anti truscum #i get SO FUCKING ANGRY ABOUT THIS #SO FUCKING ANGRY! #Gender is a social construct! it's taught! #the different cultures you grow up in are going to affect your perspective on it! #no one culture is right or wrong on this because the genetic basis of gender identity is a fucking mess anyways! #don't gatekeep or judge for differing perspectives on it you assholes!

[roadtohappy]

Update

When summer break began, I decided that it was time to pause my transition and give myself some time to reflect and heal. Transitioning isn’t all happy-go-lucky sunshine and rainbows, it takes time to process all the changes you go through. This is something people rarely talk about; transitioning is taxing on the mind. Your body goes through a very dramatic and rapid change, the same goes for your mental and emotional self. Everything changes, and before you’ve even had time to sit back, catch your breath and just take in the monumental change you’ve undergone in the span of a few months or years on testosterone, you find yourself in a hospital bed being rolled into the operating room to make another major life-altering change to your body. 

I’m starting to believe that this emotional-recovery period was long overdue, hence the emotional breakdown I had in June. I freaked out over school ending and losing all my favorite teachers, my rigid daily timetables and deadlines because these fixed schedules provided comfort and predictability while I was tearing apart at the seams from the weight of everything that’s happened in my life recently. Our summer break lasts 10 weeks and I’m on my last week now before school starts back up again. I shut out the world, reduced my exposure to social media and spent more time learning about myself and trying to understand who I am and where I want to go. Maybe the reason my trans-man identity began to unravel is because my dysphoria was alleviated from transitioning, and combined with the shock of having everything hitting me at once, is what made me understand that my body is perfect just the way it is.. And that’s how I was able to reconcile with being female. I sort of needed to cross that bridge in order to realize where I truly belong.

 I’m now more than 2 months off testosterone and I’m absolutely thrilled to see my body changing back to normal, and so happy to feel normal again emotionally and mentally. I’m certainly a lot more emotional now than I was on T, but that’s not a bad thing at all. It’s like my body instinctively remembers exactly what to do because the onset of fat-redistribution and other changes began a lot sooner than expected. As soon as testosterone fucked off, my estrogen was like “AW YEAH WE’RE BACK IN BUSINESS! GOTTA GO FAST!!”. I’m still waiting for my monthly to return, I’m hoping it’s right around the corner now - I just want everything to go back to its healthy, natural, normal self again. I know it’s extremely unlikely I’ll see any breast regrowth, but I had peri and I *technically* need a revision due to the amount of fat/breast tissue left in there - I know I prolly wont have any regrowth but a bitch can hope at least lol. My family and I see a clear and noticeable difference in my appearance, like, they kept bringing it up saying how fresh and beautiful I look now - so I just straight up told em “Aye thanks! I quit T, lol”. 

I decided to stop giving a shit what people say when I dress or act girly, I need to do this for me. I’m planning to have laser hair removal done as soon as I have the money for it. After that, I’m going to start saving up for vocal feminization surgery. I’ve found two surgeons whose patients seem satisfied and show very promising results. I know a lot of people are againt VFS, but this is something I plan on doing wayyy down the line, if at all. I first need to save up money, book a consultation, find a suitable time, wait for covid to die down, etc. etc. etc. I have plenty of time to do voice training, and if I decide to opt out of VFS then that’s fine too. 

I changed my legal name back to my old name on friday. I was alone at the beach, just feeling so content and happy - so I pulled up my phone and filled out the online form right then and there. The change should go through within a week. Feels good. I never changed my legal gender to begin with since I’m a lazy shit so no worries there. 

The most important lesson I’ve learned from all of this is that I need to take this slowly. It may sound like I’m rushing things but I’m really not. I’m going to give this several years. I just have to do things at my own pace and take my time. There’s no need to hurry, that’s how I ended up in this situation to begin with. The end goal is to feel at home in my body and love myself, there is no finish line when it comes to transitioning - I wish I’d known that sooner.

#detransition #detrans #detrans woman #ftmtf

[tifs-against-terfs]

I watched Kalvin Garrahs “trans guy reacts to crazy trender 1″ so you don’t have to

here we go again baby

oh wow, a reaction post to a reaction video. nice

“Real trans people actually care if they’re misgendered” People have anxiety Kalvin. People dont always wanna be confrontational.

uploader of the video he’s reacting to literally has dysphoria and kalvin still calls em a trender. don’t say I didn’t call that shit oml

“No trans guy would say that.” Ey aren’t a trans guy. They are genderfluid. you fuck. also way to stereotype

“I can think of maybe why you hate your body, and it’s not because you’re trans” you’ve gotta be kidding me with this shit. keep in mind the original uploader is plus sized. Kalvin please don’t challenge

MMMMM ok the uploader did say they hated their body due to being fat. alright. still fucked up for kal to assume that’s the reason though

Huh maybe people should stop saying that hating your body is what makes you trans cause this is uhhhh what it causes. confusion :///

uploader says boobs a lot and its low key making me dysphoric so in THIS SENSE I can SORTA understand Kalvins annoyance with this

Kalvin makes fun of eir appearance who woulda guess

“that’s definitely a trender pose” noting this for later

*trans person venting about their experience with hating their chest* *kalvin laughs* honestly uhhh what the fuck??

“that’s why republicans fucking hate us, and not all republicans are like that but still” Kalvin. real talk. this aint it. please just stop. Conservatives hate us because they hate the idea of trans people. Not because a child you don’t like was given a platform.

god he’s so fucking. RUDE.

Hes now making fun of the uploader for being misinformed on top surgery

“That’s because you like attention” not to be dramatic but shut the fuck up

“my friend doesn’t have accepting parents and it’s your fault”

“i’m actually angry right now” yeah no shit

“you’re not ftm” Yeah. Yeah Kalvin. eir nonbinary. I don’t know if you know this but nonbinary isn’t just male lite

uploader: “When people try to tell me that I’m not trans, or that I don’t have dysphoria, I get upset, like they don’t know me” Kalvin: “I know enough” hoe I’m one more bitch ass comment away from turning off this video

Pause from the negativity for a hot sec, Kalvin pronounces sports bra like sports brawl so thats. whatever

“You’re mistaking body dysphorphia with gender dysphoria.” then try to help em and people like em understand the difference instead of being a little shit bitching about it on youtube

“I’m at a LOSS for words” then stop talking lmao

“You can be whatever sexuality you want” but not gender? sexuality is a choice and gender isn’t? Ok.

“I actually feel bad for this person” No you don’t. If you did you wouldn’t make a video mocking em and title it CRAZY transtrender

‘If you have the resources to transition, you should. I am the authority on all trans subjects despite not considering myself a part of that community’

stop yellingggggg I have sensitive ears

“Biologically I’m female” Kalvin im gonna be real. Low key making me dysphoric with this shit. I don’t need a reminder I’m not fully male and never will be.

ok not what this post is about but “people with vaginas” HIGH FUCKING KEY makes me dysphoric. Just say afab people.

“that’s a socially constructed gender that y’all have made up” mmmm good ol made up genders argument. A classic

“trans men have put themselves in physical pain in order to cope with dysphoria” weird flex but ok

god the fucking. elitism in this is staggering. “I was willing to wear a binder for 7 days straight in order to not acknowledge my chest. Therefore I have more right to call myself trans than you do.”

uploader: “you should believe people when they say that they’re trans and that they have dysphoria” Kalvin: *says shit transphobes have been spewing for decades just with. Slightly different wording.*

“gender is not a social construct.” Ah yes, the two naturally assigned by god genders. the two factual gifted to us by the moon and stars genders. The naturally occurring genders. the genders where there has never been any more or less genders in any culture anywhere in the world, as they were assigned by fucking mother earth herself.

“I’m DONE with these PEOPLE  A P P R O P R I A T I N G  something I and many other people STRUGGLE with.”

“this is why its so hard for real trans people to get hormones and surgery” or maybe.... just maybe..... its because doctors.... and surgeons..... are also transphobic.... and maybe... it’s not other trans people fault..... that it’s hard to get prescribed hormones........................................

“it is impossible to LIVE with gender dysphoria” I’m doing it. You’re doing it. The uploader is doing it. Multitudes and multitudes of trans people are living when they have gender dysphoria. It’s hard, and a lot of times it fucking sucks dick, but its not impossible. Therapy helps. Knowing you’re not alone helps. Knowing you’ll one day be in a better situation helps.

I’m gonna go. All I gotta say is that video actually angered me. I’m sick and tired of truscum roaming the internet trying to say what trans is and what trans isn’t. Anyway byeeeeee

#kalvin garrah #trender #anti trender #trendersona #transmedic #transmed #truscum #tucute #discourse #oh btw that last paragraph is half quoted directly from kalvins video #just made it better UwU