#they have realistic problems

[kookies2000]

Don't mind me, just blasting "Accidentally in Love" by Counting Crows while looking through Puss in Boots tag and crying at how beautifully written Puss and Kitty's romance is!

Favorite line:

These lines of lighting mean we're never alone! Never alone!

Favorite scene:

If you don't understand how this moment is considered romantic, watch the film until you do!

#puss in boots: the last wish #puss in boots #romance #and written well #puss in boots spoilers #the way I gasped and cried when he pulled that blade out #using a gift she gave him out of love for him #and then him using that gift to fight for his life against death #a life he wants to spend with her! #oh and the reaction on Kittys face #my hearted melted #i also adore how realistic they're romance is #they don't have that fairy tale romance #for characters that live in a Fairytale book #they have realistic problems #that get solved with the help of a therapy dog

[trans-axolotl]

saw a post the other day that said that psych survivors were overexaggerating and fearmongering for saying that people should be aware that having diagnoses on your record can be a danger + impede your life. and the more i think about it the more annoyed i am. because i think people need to know that there are exceptions to health privacy laws that can make having psych diagnoses and psych hospitalization history on your record risky depending on your circumstances. diagnoses follow you through your health interactions-you do not have to consent to have your information shared between providers. judicial proceedings are also an exception to the HIPAA privacy rule, so for things like custody battles, guardianship, getting orders of protection--the court can petition for medical records. there's so many other situations where even if they can't legally access your information without your authorization, people will require you to disclose diagnoses, records, previous hospitalizations and refuse to give you services/hire you/whatever unless you share that information with them. for example in many states anyone (a provider, a cop, friends and family) can disclose that you have certain psych diagnoses like bipolar to the DMV which then might require that you undergo drivers license review as frequently as every 3 months. my university is actively trying to kick me out right now because i had to disclose my medical record, psych diagnoses, and hospitalization history to them as a requirement to stay enrolled.

and i don't want to scare people or make people think that having a diagnosis on their records is automatically going to mean that it is weaponized against us. because i do know plenty of people who have never faced issues with their records. but i do expect that the community supports the people speaking out about the ways that we have been harmed by diagnoses creating barriers to accessing necessary parts of our life. instead of attacking us or saying that we're lying about things we are currently experiencing.

#personal #antipsych #antipsychiatry #mad pride #mad liberation #saneism #it's just like. i think we need to be realistic! and not deny people who are literally talking about things happening to them #and also allow people who have the option. to make informed choices about seeking diagnosis #bc for many of us that isn't up to us. but if you are considering seeking formal diagnosis. there can absolutley be some good and helpful #things that come from that! im not denying that at all! but there's also some negatives #and i think also like. if people refuse to acknowlege the ways this is structurally a problem #how are we going to make it better so that we don't have to deal with thsi stuff

[screebyy]

Part 2: local empath tries and fails to parse his own feelings apart from the feelings of the dead little freak living inside his brain

Next part is either gonna be either a really big one or split into several little parts idk yet but i would like to finish this at least through the next Scene™️

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Panel 1: Crow is sitting on a branch high up in a dead tree, on a hill above the Harbinger’s Seclude temple in the Dreaming City. Crow is relaxing along the branch, with one leg stretched out and one propped up so he can rest his hand on his knee. He is leaning back against the trunk of the tree as he looks to his right, down at the temple and away from the viewer. He is holding a flaming hunter throwing knife in his hand, flicking it back and forth. Glint is floating next to him. Glint: “Do you want to see him again?” Crow: “I don’t think he wants to see me.” Glint: “That’s not what I asked!”

Panel 2: Crow twirls the knife in his hand, scowling as he looks down at it. The knife is made of solar flame, and leaves trails of fire behind it as he twirls it. Crow looks like he is reluctantly considering Glint’s question.

Panel 3: Crow turns back towards the temple, grabbing the knife and pulling his knees into his chest. Crow: “I just want him to be alright.”

Panel 4: Crow hugs his knees into his chest. His face is not visible. Crow: “And… it seems like knowing me doesn’t help with that.”

Panel 5: Crow has his arms crossed over his knees, and is resting his face on his forearm. With his other hand, he continues to fidget with the solar knife, twirling it between his fingers. He is looking at the knife, but his expression is distant. Crow: “I shouldn’t be surprised.”

Panel 6: In a memory, Uldren and Jolyon are in bed, late at night. Jolyon seems to be sleeping peacefully, and is embracing Uldren from behind with his face pressed against the back of Uldren’s head. One arm is draped over Uldren’s waist, while the other is resting under Uldren’s cheek, with his hand palm-up on the mattress in front of Uldren’s face.Uldren is awake. He is clutching the blanket around his waist with one hand. His other hand is clutching desperately at Jolyon’s hand on the mattress in front of him, with his fingers threaded between Jolyon’s at an awkward, stiff angle. He is staring at their clasped hands, looking distraught and almost angry. He is crying. Crow (from present day): “I always knew I was bad for him. Even before the garden, when things were… Mostly good. I knew I’d never be what he wanted. What he deserved…”

Panel 7: In present day, Crow continues to twirl the knife, but has turned his face further into the crook of his elbow, staring vacantly into the distance. Crow: “I was just too selfish to let him go.” Panel 8: Close up of Glint staring down at Crow passively. Glint: “It sounds like that’s how Uldren felt. What about you?”

Panel 8: Close up of Crow’s hand holding the knife. He has stopped it mid-spin, catching it between his fingers. Crow: “...”

Panel 9: Close up of Crow’s hand. He dissolves the knife into a fizzling burst of flame as he closes his hand into a fist. Crow: “Right.”

Panel 10: Wide shot from behind Crow. Crow turns his body fully towards the temple, still resting his left hand on his knee. Glint is floating in front of him, looking at his face. Crow: “I don’t want to make the same mistake. So… if he asks, I’ll be there. But after everything Uldren did, the way things ended…”

Panel 11: Crow turns his head away from Glint, leaning on his right hand stiffly. Crow: “I don’t think I’ll hear from him again.”

Panel 12: Glint floats in front of Crow again. Crow is looking down and away from the camera. Glint: “... And you’re okay with that?”

Panel 13: Crow starts to turn back towards Glint, looking torn. Crow: “... I-” He is interrupted by a dinging sound coming from his pocket.

Panel 14: Crow pulls his phone from his pocket, looking at the screen curiously. The phone dings again, and the screen shows that there are two new notifications.

Panel 15: Crow pulls the phone very close to his face, clutching it tightly with both hands. He is staring at the phone with comically wide eyes, looking alarmed and is blushing lightly. The phone shows two messages from an external sender [EXT]. Crow: “A-” Phone: “Are you still in the reef?” Phone: “It’s Jolyon”

Panel 16: Wide shot of Crow squatting like a gremlin on the branch, holding the phone with both hands directly in front of his face as he types on it quickly. He is blushing, and looks extremely focused. Glint is spinning excitedly above him. Crow’s response is visible coming from the phone. Phone (Crow’s response): “yes leaving tomorrow” Glint: “He’s messaging you!! Do you think he wants to see you??” Crow: “I don’t know shush” Crow: “He’s typing…”

Panel 17: Close up of the phone screen, where 3 messages from Jolyon are visible: [EXT]: Can we talk? [EXT]: Meet me here? [EXT]: (a UI element reads NAV DATA SHARED, showing a nav point over cartographical lines)

Panel 18: Close up of Crow’s face, looking down at the phone. He look surprised.

Panel 19: Text shows Crow’s response: “on my way.”

#i like them so much!!!!!!!!! #It's Crow Sulking Hours #i will be getting deep into mine own headcanons for jolyon & uldren for this project #starting with: whatever they had going on i think it was probably a 'b- needs improvement' realistically #on account of uldren having so much wrong with him all of the time #society if the sovs didn't have absolutely nuclear levels of mommy problems #crowlyon #crow destiny #jolyon till #uldren sov #destiny 2

[whetstonefires]

Hey here's an angle on the Jiang family dynamic and its impact on Wei Wuxian that I haven't seen discussed:

Wei Wuxian grew up seeing Jiang Yanli routinely having her agency cut off and denied in both large (betrothal) and small ways. That were largely tied up in her gender, sure, but this was also a family containing Yu Ziyuan. A daughter in this household had every chance of having her gender treated as of secondary importance.

She just had to earn it.

The way Jiang Yanli was hemmed in and her potential as an independent actor dismissed was at least as strongly correlated with her failure to be a powerful sword cultivator.

So Wei Wuxian's total refusal to let anyone know that he'd lost access to his cultivation and his violent reactivity against being diminished or condescended to during his Sunshot-to-death period, when before he was pretty immune to being looked down on, could have a lot to do with having been presented with this clearly labeled diagram of how your personhood gets stripped away when you are, by the standards of your society, disabled.

#hoc est meum #like jiang cheng's desire to die about it also has this #but he had some specific shame issues #and the realistic assessment that rebuilding his sect and getting revenge was now impractical #and his problem was never really feeling like his place in the world was actually going to be taken #just like he failed to deserve it #whereas wwx had his secrets to keep but even after he'd lived up to most of his obligations #during this period #and i think it's what he's so mad at himself about looking back #during the Empathy flashback #that he valued his pride and clinging to his status when it turned out #it did jack-all to help and he got everyone killed #(Present-Day wwx is not an objective source on himself lmao) #and this in turn is why in the present-time of the novel he's so willing to lean into the indignity of mo xuanyu #he now has nothing to lose and it's liberating #but during his march-toward-death era having any more of his self-respect and conceptual status stripped away was agony #because it felt like an unpersoning #and some of the disability angles around this come up in fandom sometimes but #the fact that he internalized the idea that not having this specific type of power means you lose your personal freedom looking at jyl #doesn't really #and i think she Very Much informed his relationship to #power gender disability and #marriage #mdzs #wei wuxian #jiang yanli

[writeouswriter]

*banging fists on table* more mentally ill characters in stories that aren't just about them being mentally ill! More mentally ill characters in sci-fi, in fantasy, in romance and fun and high stakes situations and everything in between, as the heroes, as complex individuals, multifaceted and treated with respect, not having their needs and differences ignored or skirted around but, again, not having them be their only trait or plot point/entire premise! Please, I'm begging, on my hands and knees, there's a place for these topics and characters in realistic, reflective and literary fiction, yeah, but there's also a place in those magical, mystical, action packed, mysterious and alien worlds, give them to ME

#books #mental illness #mentally ill characters #writing #writeblr #not so much a problem with writers here but in books and such in general it's an impossible search #because you try and look up books with mentally ill protags and it's giving you either 1. the worst horror rep you've seen in your life #2. secondhand inspiration or pity p*rn #3. just irl biographical or realistic literary fiction which is not what i'm looking for at the present #4. either complete hollow cardboard tokenism or just barely true hc or etc. #&god forbid you try to find a character with psych*sis w/o it giving you killers or big plot twists where it was in their head all along 😑 #like i just i want a funky scientist studying aliens who happens to be b*polar #i want a fantasy adventurer or ghost hunter or etc who happens to be sch*zospec is that so much to ask 😔 #bizarrely hard to find male protags in this category as well? if you do have recs for scientists in fiction like this hmu 👀 #anyway and yeah yeah yeah write what you want to read I'M TRYING #i have all these guys i have this funky scientist but i have the illnesses™️ as well such is the world #so i want something to read or see like... now

[coffee-bat]

ngl i finished season 4 but i'm still sooo fucking irrationally angry abt how jon was treated by everyone in it

he's one of the 4 people who literally save the world, and he ends up in a coma for 6 months from his injuries, and then everyone is unhappy that he wakes up and they tell him straight up

he first tries to no-anaesthetic amputate his own finger, then gets 2 ribs torn out, just to save one person (who tried to kill him), then spends 3 days trapped underground and probably gets his shit crushed (he's audibly in pain there?), just to save her, and when it's done not only does noone make sure he's okay but i'm pretty sure he doesn't even get a thank you

he gets stabbed, and once again noone even makes sure he's okay or helps him

he's forced to starve himself, then not only does everyone yell at him when he acts out because he's literally starving, but they also want to use him to do things that actively make him hungrier

there's more but god every interaction he had in this season made me feel violent

#its 2:40 am. fuck it. vent post #i know some of the characters realistically have explanations for the behaviour but fucking hell im not sure if i can have sympathy for them #like hoooly shit ok youre stuck in a situation you dont likebut that doesnt mean you should be allowed to take it out on the guy going- #-through unspeakable trauma who didnt even cause your problems like you claim he did. ughh #ramble #tma #the magnus archives #tma spoilers #tma season 4 #jonathan sims #im not tagging the other characters bc i dont want their stans getting angry at me :/

[evie-doesnt-write]

“Wille has gone through so fucking much from his shitty, neglectful, psychologically abusive parents, the death of Erik, the betrayal of August, his and Simon’s relationship issues, his mother becoming sick, finding out Erik was a homophobe, and so fucking much more, and he’s just a kid whose only support are his one friend and his boyfriend who are facing their own problems and nobody can blame him for not knowing how to deal with his emotions and having breakdowns” and “Wille is extremely flawed (as are everyone in this show) and never having been taught how how to deal with his emotions and problems in a healthy way and having little to no support system doesn’t change or excuse the fact that he constantly projects onto Simon, has internalised the mindset that Simon’s problems are far lesser than him, often behaves inconsiderate towards him and doesn’t listen or listen to Simon when he tries to talk to him and these are things he will need to work on, especially if he wants to keep a relationship with Simon” are not mutually exclusive statements

#i fucking love wille #he’s such a well-written character #one of my fave characters of all-time definitely #but when you try to constantly make excuses for him and reduce him to a baby with anxiety #then you do SUCH a disservice to his character #let imperfect victims exist!!!! #let realistic victims who are hurt and hurt others both intentionally and unintentionally!!! #i want to see wille grow as a person to go on the journey of healing even if it hurts and is messy #i remember when wille was oblivious to simon’s song about him #and it was a sweet oblivious wille scene but edvin also points out this is wille having been so wrapped up in his problems #that he doesn’t realise others (esp simon) #and now saying that wille often projects his anxiety onto simon #young royals #prince wilhelm #yr s3 spoilers #young royals season 3 #wilmon #simon eriksson

[uncanny-tranny]

Big reminder that your country is not immune to bigotry. I've seen so many people, for example, pretend like antisemitism doesn't exist in the USA because we were part of the allied forces in WWII (of course, they conveniently don't remember that we rejected jewish refugees when WWII broke out and we only really joined because Pearl Harbor was bombed, but I digress).

If you think your country is immune from antisemitism, racism (including anti-Indigenous racism), class issues, ableism, whatever else it may be, look deeper because you will find it.

#politics #antisemitism #antisemitism tw #i think if pearl harbor wasn't bombed we would have potentially never declared war #like yes it was better for us to have joined but realistically it wasn't to 'save the jews' like many USamericans think #we did NOT in fact 'save the jews' and we still have huge antisemitism problems ALONG WITH so /so/ much other shit #i can't understate that america isn't so far removed from the world that we just magically don't have problems #ANYway. tangent aside. it just.... annoys me whenever i see usamericans doing this #not because i think they're always malicious but it's a reminder that people aren't truly taught accurate us history #look if american history was taught to you in such a way you only felt warm fuzzy feelings you were FAILED... #...you were *failed* by an education system that was more interested in american exceptionalism than actual factual history #and i don't think america is the only culprit in national exceptionalism but i have the most experience as a usamerican #quick amendment that many jewish refugees were fleeing in the very beginning before war broke out *officially* #but we still rejected them sanctuary from nazi germany as a country (AND ofc america wasn't the only country to have done this!)

[atlantic-riona]

sorry not sorry but some of y'all need to remember that you're reading children's literature

#'why are all the adults neglectful and the problems easily solved by fourth graders??' #um I don't know but maybe it's because you're reading a book aimed at a ten year old and you're thirty one??? it's 👏 not 👏 for 👏 you 👏 #'why don't the adults fix everything? why doesn't the main character just KILL the bad guy??' #my brother in Christ the book is for CHILDREN #it's like walking up to a five year old and demanding that they have a conversation about housing prices #it's just not relevant to them #'this should be more realistic like game of thrones' #buddy. pal. one it's NOT realistic and two again. you are in the wrong section of the bookstore. the adult section is over there #sorry I just. I am burdened by seeing people complain about problems that aren't actually problems

[fruity-pontmerspam]

A collection of Marvin Trilogy doodles I’d post on my Instagram if my followers weren’t already sick of me

These r all disorganised but I do hope they land w the right crowd teehee

#listen these are all the unhinged doodles I’ve produced in the past three days I have literally not been able to think about anything else #it’s starting to become a problem actually #also oh my god JASON is such a realistic child of divorce I wanna hug him so bad he is so me #falsettos #marvin trilogy #marvin falsettos #whizzer falsettos #whizzer brown #jason falsettos #trina falsettos #mendel falsettos #musical theater fandom #musical theater #broadway #falsettos 2016 #march of the falsettos #falsettoland #in trousers #bill finn

[communistkenobi]

tumblr’s understanding of boycotts is so ridiculous lol. wagging your finger at people on social media to not buy a product is not a boycott. If it’s not organised and centralised its not any more effective than random people yelling at service workers about how they just lost their patronage and will not be returning here again

#I feel like veganism has done a lot of damage to the understanding of how powerful individual consumer behaviour is #or actually no that’s not correct I think it’s just people buying into individualism and ‘vote with your wallet’ type sentiments #veganism is just a particularly mainstream example of that #to be clear I have no problem with people being vegans I think they just need to be very realistic about #the incredibly limited power of individually abstaining from certain consumptive behaviours #I think this is also reflected in broader media discourses online generally #about consuming the correct tv shows and so on #we laugh at the right for this behaviour and rightfully so!

[apple-spider-vinegar]

Many of us saw the Raimi trilogy as kids and so the main characters were just put in the mental category of "adults," but growing up and realizing Peter, Harry and MJ were all in their late teens/early 20s gives their behavior a lot of much needed context, actually.

Oh, they're indecisive and riddled with insecurity? Their love lives are a complete mess? They think one mistake or setback means their life is over? Well, no wonder! They haven't even beat the 25 allegations yet.

#all three of them feel like a disappointment to their father and that doesn't help #they should have been BONDING over that not fighting! #though i do think their traumas and emotional problems effect their relationships in a realistic way #even MJ #ESPECIALLY MJ #yeah she had commitment issues she had not been shown a healthy model of love #raimiverse #raimi trilogy #spider-man #mary jane watson #harry osborn #peter parker #op

[soriastrider]

oops

#dirk strider #homestuck #my art #dirkapitation #<- that's the actual filename on this one lmao #i have several files that are just artsy glowing renditions of removing dirk's head #is this a problem? maybe #am i going to keep doing it? you bet #the temptation to caption this with some sort of extremely stupid head joke was strong #two sets of colors bc i like messing with layer filters lol #tw decapitation #this is not really graphic or realistic or anything but i'm adding the warning tag here just in case

[ninicaise]

"damen & laurent and akielos & vere have too much history and problems to overcome through the power of love alone. its not realistic" capri is not real life. it's a story with THEMES. with ARCS. with HEROES. damen abolishes slavery and laurent overcomes his resentment and his trauma and they live happily ever after in the empire they made together for the same reason they survived that load of shit with kastor and the regent. because love was there and it changed everything etc etc. because the story is about how they triumph over ridiculously impossible odds and about how they are willing to shift their perspectives and long-held worldviews in order to beat those odds and how this is an intelligent good thing to do and that's why they win in the end. and stories after the story aren't meant to be "realistic" they're meant to be thematically consistent, otherwise the story itself was pointless. OF COURSE they can overcome All The Problems In The World with intelligence and patience and compassion and the power of love of course they can what books have you been reading???

#i dont doubt they have Problems that is also a theme (is it??) #but like. thats also “realistic” as you kids call it #that does not mean life in new artes is bad all the time and forever #grow up #anyway love is real #damen x laurent #captive prince #lamen

[ktyekmrf30]

The whole issue of Joke and Zo was so well done written. Because Zo's anger and disappointment in Pat and Joke can be understood with no discuss, but at the end of the episode it is shown that Zo outgrew his experience. Like he didn't even think to part ways with Joke. He only waited for Joke to speak the truth like he promised an episode ago, an honest discussion. Yes, he was hurt and dissapointed with their behavior because that was not how friendship and relationship works but there were no thoughts about sudden breakup or dramatic hysteric. From the beginning Zo only wanted the truth and he patiently waited for Joke to admit his lie and not try to hush it with gifts and flowers. He literally said that he gave Joke a multiple chances which shows that he, in fact, really loves Joke and believes that his feelings were real (unlike issue with Puen) but he needs to understand that it can't always be like this, that relationship can't work like this. And Zo forgave Joke out loud only when Joke honestly confessed to him about everything. And also this is the proof that Zo worked through the traumatic expirience with Puen and learned to trust someone again. It's amazing actually

#hidden agenda #hidden agenda the series #jokezo #joke x zo #this whole issue are very personal to me #and while my therapist helps me with this Zo did it himself #i have so many thoughts about this #also I really like that it was just Pat as the main problem. it felt so realistic #and not some dramatic shit that screenwriters like to write

[babbeldumpsterfire]

I can’t believe that the “a kiss can’t solve it all magically”, the theme that seemed linked to Maggie and Nina’s story, was actually just foreshadowing for Crowley and Aziraphale. It’s been 3 days and I still think about it.

#good omens 2 #good omens #lmao #we were done so dirty #yet I can't help but think that after 6000 years of repression it makes SO much sense #in a sense Ineffable Bureaucracy going off into the stars #is mirroring the Ineffable Husbands #because it was too easy #they basically never had a spat or a problem because they're both big wigs #meanwhile Ineff Husb. got the realistic treatment and I'm here for it #I would have deeply hated it if they sped run all their story just to end up together like in a fairytale at the end of the season #it wouldn't make any sense at all #gos2 #gos2 spoilers #spoilers #good omens spoilers #s2 #s2e06 #good omens season 2 #babbelbabbles