#tough issues

[rosepetals1984]

Retro Review: "Sweet Whispers, Brother Rush" by Virginia Hamilton

Initial reaction: Sweet Whispers, Brother Rush is a book with a solid story and foundation behind it. It’s the first Virginia Hamilton book I’ve read in years, and while it took me a little longer to get through it than some of her works (House of Dies Drear, Justice and Her Brothers), I appreciated much of what it offered – offering the story of a girl who meets a ghost. It’s the kind of story…

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#arc or galley #Black characters #classics #coming of age #coming to terms #drama #fantasy #NetGalley #paranormal #quick read #realistic fiction #supernatural #Sweet Whispers Brother Rush #tough issues #tough subjects #Virginia Hamilton #young adult

[dormatheus]

Some quick random practice doodles bc why not lmao

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#cult of the lamb #cotl lamb #cotl narinder #cotl #narilamb #true devotion #💊💊💊 #been having some issues with my meds and these days have been kinda.... tough lmao ...... #Also thinking about cotl stickers for myself and how i'd do it skjdnfsdf only issue is i'd have to cut em with scissors n i'm lazy lmao #cw suggestive #?? idk if it is but sure let's put a cw jic #tw suggestive

[spitblaze]

I will say this once because I'm tired of seeing stupid discourse: anti-transmasculinity is not about being treated bad because we clock as men, it's about being treated as stupid little girls because transphobes think we've been tricked into this.

It's kind of the opposite of transmisogyny- instead of fear and revulsion, it's constant condescension, the implications that we've been whisked away from femininity by scary bad guys, that we're going to cause 'irreparable damage' because we don't know what's best for ourselves, somehow. People fearmonger a lot about the "ugliness" of transfem people, but for transmasc people that 'ugliness' is used as a warning- you'll look like THIS! You'll go BALD! Your top surgery scars will leave you MUTILATED! A lot of aesthetic concerns. Worry about our 'beauty'. Because it comes from that same stupid reactionary 'we gotta SAVE the WOMEN' shit, but this time they have to save them from getting 'stolen away', as if we're being seduced or pressured into this. As if we can't make our own decisions.

For TERFS specifically, they're losing one of their own. We're 'gender traitors', willingly aligning ourselves with the half of the population they consider unilaterally dangerous and evil.

We aren't REALLY trans, we just want the benefits that men get. You don't actually want to transition, you're just trying to avoid misogyny.

You aren't actually a man, you're just a self-loathing lesbian.

Why can't you just be a butch girl? Why can't you just be a tomboy?

Why can't you just be something that I don't think is icky?

Anyway. Like all things, it boils down to misogyny. Women stupid and gentle, dont know what best for them, evil men trick into taking man juice, must save because lady stupid and dont know what best for them (having babies and being Feminine).

Theres like. Obviously more to this but I'm just a Transmasc Rando explaining this from my perspective, and I'm not the best with words. Anyone is free to hop in and add on to this

#long post #transphobia #spitblaze says things #anti-transmasculinity #several disclaimers #i do not think misandry is real. #i think stigmatization of masculinity is real with a lot of women and terfs specifically #i think a lot of people whether they know it or not consider men to be inherently 'bad' #i think men are very often treated as emotionless and 'tough' by default which causes a lot of issues #but thats not anywhere near the level of misogyny. its a separate issue and not related #im not trying to say that trans men somehow have it 'worse' than trans women?? what would thay even accomplish. this isnt a pissing contest #and even if it was I'd lose #and my wording isnt the best bc this is a Midnight Rant and not a scholarly article #if you want to pick a fight about semantics consider that theres a good chance that i genuinely didnt realize what i said #anyway uh. yeah. this discourse is dumb i cant belive its happening #and i especially cant belive how bad people are at articulating the actual point of the matter #(not that im one to talk lmao) #doin numbers

[bixels]

When I was getting my diagnosis, my psychiatrist told me right after giving me my prescription that I need to consider eating food a part of my medication, and that flipped a switch in my brain that oh. Maybe willingly starving myself and eating only one meal a day isn't healthy.

#typing this while i'm at work and so hungry my stomach is aching and hurting #personal #delete later #i don't even know why i starve myself i don't have an eating disorder and it's not like i forget to eat #it's just i have so little time to eat meals nowadays that i don't consider it important anymore #so i just try and tough it out #tw: eating issues #tw: eating problems #tw: disordered eating #idk what tw to put on this #tw: medication

[formula-red]

I tried to be good, am I no good? Am I no good? Am I no good?

untitled, Geloy Concepcion // Seventeen Going Under, Sam Fender // untitled, traumatizeddfox // Two People, Sam Fender // The War of Vaslav Nijinsky, Frank Bidart // Hard Times, Ethel Cain // Child Wearing a Red Scarf, Eduoard Vuillard // Complex, Katie Gregson Macleod // Funeral by Phoebe Bridgers, malaak // Too Much Wine, The Handsome Family // untitled, milklump // untitled, dying-weeds // Strangers, Ethel Cain

#sorry to all my f1 people #i'm really going through something rn and had to do something to get it out #been a very tough few days a lot of things being brought back up that i really cant deal with #everything in me feels sick #delete l8r #cw family issues #cw trauma #cw abuse #ethel cain #tw abuse #sam fender #traumacore #trauma #childhood trauma #family issues #dad issues #narcissist parents #web weaving #web weave

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Batman Annual #25

Before Talia took him in, before he was dunked in the pit to have his memories restored, even when operating purely on survival instinct, he always split a meal with the other homeless people. It may not have been essential to his survival, but caring about and helping other people when he couldn’t even help himself was just always such an intrinsic part of Jason’s core.

#so much so that it prevailed over basic self-preservation #my guy lost 90% of his cognitive function and he’s still out here helping people in any way he can #my post #new headcanon: that’s why he stole all 4 tires. because he wasn’t just feeding himself in crime alley. #or at least he was planning to expand his work now that he had more confidence in his ability to feed and care for himself #I mean he also isn’t the type to brag about his good deeds yk? we all know he was putting up a tough guy façade when Bruce found him #a mutual asked abt Jason’s white streak so I directed them to hush which ofc reminded me of this book #rather than it being exclusively a pit thing imo it makes more sense for it to be a combination of actual health related issues #like the chronic prolonged mental and physical stress he had to endure coupled with the fact that superboy’s punch kickstarted his body #in ways that are unknown to modern science #and then the pit also had a hand in it (probably??) #(imo). like Talia doesn’t have it. neither do Damian or Ra’s or anyone else who’s been in the pit. #jason todd #dc #batman annual 25 #comic panels

[canisalbus]

Loving the Machete and Vasco soft intimate cozy bed time drawing series <3

It's certainly becoming a recurring theme.

#they're just #very sleepy #sorry you'll probably have to look at a whole bunch of soft intimate cozy bedtime drawings in the future as well #answered #anonymous #Machete has issues with insomnia he's prone to working late and when times are particularly tough he ends up avoiding sleeping altogether #I just think it's nice to imagine he'd be more eager to actually go to bed if Vasco's there

[pinkd3mon]

To trust somebody

#kirby #kots #kirby of the stars #kirby fanart #hoshi no kirby #Galacta Knight #the dam has broken and now all of my content will be Galacta Knight for the foreseeable future #i apologize for the inconvenience #anyway i wanted to elaborate on Galacta's trust with Kirby #because you may or may not have noticed but Galacta has trust issues #one day you're saving the galaxy and the next day the ancients are showing you this new apartment that's shaped a lot like eternal prison #what did the other heroes do? did they defend Galacta at all? were they the ones who went against Galacta? #they have been used for fighting practice or cannon fire for as long as they can remember now #when you're capable of destroying entire galaxies that's the only thing you're seen as #now comes kirby #in the novels Kirby hates fighting without reason #and they hate fighting a fight the people involved aren't enjoying #meta knight and Kirby fight a lot over this #meta knight wants to prove he's tough shit Kirby doesn't want to fight #and the more the novels go the more tired Kirby gets of only being seeing as a powerful thing you fight to prove your worth #Kirby gets really really annoyed by the battle Royale novel they are actively annoyed by meta knight's presence #the stronger warrior novel comes and when Kirby discovers Meta Knight did all of that shit to be able to fight Galacta Knight just because #they get so tired and pissed off #they're all talking about how they will all die if Galacta defeats meta knight and Dedede is begging Kirby to intervene Kirby just says no #1- because they don't wanr to fight so they won't #2- because this is meta knight's dumb problem he caused so why should they solve it #and third and almost most importantly 3- Kirby doesn't feel it would've been fair to Galacta Knight #the thing is Kirby is really relating to Galacta Knight here and just feels sorry for them when everyone else is terrified #Galacta was summoned from who knows where- released- beaten up- and then imprisoned again- just because Meta Knight felt like it #so i feel like the first person Galacta would trust is Kirby they're just akin to each other

[camels-pen]

the difference between zosopp and sanuso (romantic OR platonic) is that Usopp is Zoro's specialest little guy and Zoro is someone Usopp hangs out with and looks up to and hides behind when things get scary, but Sanji and Usopp are best friends. They horse around, they beat each other up, they confide their worst fears trying to one up each other. Usopp hides behind Sanji sometimes, sure, but idk, Sanji's weaknesses are more obvious (bugs, fighting women, etc) so there are times when Usopp has to stand in front of Sanji too, yknow?

Like, how do I say this, all the crewmates are equal- Usopp and Zoro are equals- but with Sanji it feels like more... comradery? Zoro's a rock in a terrible storm- even rocks tend to get weathered and chipped and worn down, but they overall stay strong and steady. He has trouble being vulnerable and there are times when the burden he's placed on himself to keep the crew safe is crushing his chest. Usopp would help with that and be very understanding, but the point I'm trying to get with that is that those moments are few and far between. So I feel like Usopp, especially after Water 7, would take Zoro's lead on something like that, and keep most of his worries to himself or only talk about them sparingly unless they're really bad and/or he can't hide them.

Sanji is like a tree in a storm; he can be strong, yes, but it feels like he bends and sways with the storm, and has more obvious breaking points. He can relate more to Usopp's struggles rather than resorting to blunt honesty that might border on callous like Zoro. And while, with Zosopp, I tend to think of scenarios with Zoro being blunt like that as a good thing- because sometimes when you're spiraling, it's nice to have someone say exactly what's great about you and shoot down all your worries with straight facts that you can't argue with- I can also see this as being a bad thing. Anxiety can really twist up your brain sometimes, you know? And despite the words, the tone could still mess someone up if they're already feeling like a burden on others in some way.

With Sanuso it's a lot more understanding and thoughtful words. It's distractions and comfort food and patience- the kind reserved for Usopp- until Usopp talks about whatever's troubling him. Compared to Zosopp, it doesn't take as long for Usopp to open up, since he's done the same thing to Sanji at times and it's more familiar to him to talk and commiserate with Sanji about his worries and doubts and such. However, there are times stuff like this has absolutely no effect and Sanji will end up at a loss, no idea what to do or how to help over the course of several days with Usopp being quiet and keeping his distance, and he'll end up working himself up about it which will only serve to make Usopp feel worse and. yeah. bit of a vicious cycle with them.

So it's like. Usopp can be weak with both of them, but since I see Sanji as the type of guy who'd be more open with his worries (at least compared to Zoro), there's less of a need to 'perform' and be his best self around him. He's comfortable around Zoro, yes, but he is constantly wanting to show that he won't be a problem to him. On the other hand, while he's more open with Sanji, and Sanji with him, they tend to relate a bit too much with each other and they both have issues with causing trouble for others and being 'deserving of love' so failed attempts at consoling one hurts the other and creates an unpleasant cycle of misery and avoidance before some other crewmate (Zoro) tells them to quit being stupid and just fucking talk to each other.

#one piece #sanuso #zosopp #long post #nemotime #does this make sense or is this the ramblings of a person who's only got 3 hrs sleep #bc thats me. 3 hrs sleep. ugh #listen okay its like. zosopp has their own growing pains to get through yknow? zoro will eventually get the whole #'oh usopp isnt as open with me bc he wants to seem tough and is also kind of doing the same thing i do. thats bad for him' #and it'll be a whole thing about making a promise between the two of them to try and be more honest with their fears and seeking help #when they need it #the sanuso thing is like. i hope i didnt mean to make it seem like sanuso is 'better' or w/e bc its just a different thing #sanuso got their own problems to sort out. 1. Sanji's everything 2. boundaries on special treatment- #i'm not gonna go seriously into this but both relationships start out not the best and get better over time yknow #also i know usopp's afraid and freaking out a lot but for this post i meant his deeper fears and insecurities #not 'i've got can't-go-on-this-island disease' lmao #the tl;dr of this post is: Usopp is more closed off with Zosopp. Usopp and Sanji have similar issues that cause problems with Sanuso. #also the way i see these ships will probably change at some point. who knows #there was a post i saw recently that was like 'hey sanuso bc romance trio were already chill with each other so sanuso became chill with #each other in an 'alone together' type of way and also they have the same issues' and i thought 'wow so true bestie' and here we are #also. man. usopp taking on / copying the behaviours of his loved ones regardless of his age is just. my jam. in a positive or negative way #maybe i'll make a post about that explaining it more. maybe

[sarah-cam]

i've seen some people bringing up the parallel of how tim told lucy that they were worth the risk to how tim broke up with her... this is a great parallel don't get me wrong and it is so painful and i feel so sad for lucy

HOWEVER i've also seen people absolutely railing on tim and calling him a coward for leaving her and saying that this is unforgivable. i get being upset with him, i'm not saying that's wrong. but i just want to offer my take:

tim is absolutely broken down. this is the lowest point he's ever reached and it's been building and building since before we even met him. everything that happened in his childhood, in the army, with isabel, the trauma we've seen from the job these last 5-6 seasons. and now this, which has brought everything he's never dealt with to the surface. he truly believes in his bones that lying to lucy was what he had to do to protect her. even when lucy (rightfully) told him to stop, he said he can't because it's who he is. it's all he has right now because if he's going to lie and break the rules and compromise him morals, he is damn sure going to do whatever it takes to protect the people he loves.

he grew up with an abusive father who made him believe that he doesn't deserve to be loved, let alone unconditionally. he had no control in his childhood so he got that control by joining the military, and when he finally had that control?? he screwed up and blames himself for getting his teammates killed. he tried to gain back that control by becoming a police officer/to but never felt like he needed to move up any higher than that and now we know why. he didn't want to be a leader again because he didn't think he deserved it. he was terrified of losing lucy with the UC work and didn't even realize it, because when she's gone, he doesn't know what's going on and can't back her up. he has no control.

and now this? he compromised everything he believes in, as he said, "to save his career" but it's not that simple. if he told the truth, that angela and lucy knew about everything and still helped him, they would still lose everything he tried to protect them from. he can't even look at himself in the mirror right now.

he's not a coward for breaking up with lucy. he's not walking away because they had a fight and he doesn't want to work through it. in fact, she validated everything he did!! she showed him that she still loves him no matter what he did, that she would've done the same thing. but to him, that's even worse because he doesn't believe he deserves unconditional love, so when lucy gives it, he thinks that he's dragging her down because how could anyone love him after this. giving their relationship a shot was worth the risk because she is worth the risk. but him? he's not worth it

it's not cowardly to take yourself out of a relationship that you're not mentally okay to be in.

#chenford #the rookie #text #lucy deserves to be hurt and upset and everything in between but tim is not doing this to hurt her #he is doing it to protect her even if it's misguided #he knows he's not okay and he can't go back #that doesn't make him a coward #actually i think it's the opposite #it's brave to admit that kind of stuff ESPECIALLY for someone like tim #that doesn't make it hurt lucy any less #but it's valid to have empathy and compassion for both people in a tough situation #this just makes me think of nace #ace was ready to break the curse when he thought he might die but as soon as nancy was in danger he decided that it wasn't worth the risk b #ugh i just love tim bradford and lucy chen #and i want them both to grow and develop from this #cause she has her own issues going on too

[iwillfightgodandwin]

OFMD S2 spoilers

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Actively trying not to think about the fact that Izzy Hands doesn't make a sound when he cries. Every time he goes to cry he stops himself - going as far as to physically cover his mouth.

#you just know #this is a man whose father #wanted a “tough son” #izzy hands #ofmd season 2 #ofmd spoilers #ofmd s2 #ofmd #isreal hands #daddy issues

[rosepetals1984]

Review: "Take My Hand" by Dolen Perkins-Valdez

Review: “Take My Hand” by Dolen Perkins-Valdez

Quick review for a progressive read. I’ve struggled to try to review this book since I read it back in August of this year, because it makes me so emotional to try to reflect on it. How do I do justice for the experience that was this book? I find it hard to do that and to also say that it’s a favorite (though it is) because it deals with such a difficult subject. I had much the same reaction to…

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#adult fiction #all time favorites #audiobooks #audiobooks i enjoyed #based on actual events #based on true stories #Black characters #Book of the Month #books read in 2022 #BOTM #Dolen Perkins-Valdez #drama #favorites #grief #historical #pretty cover #read in 2022 #realistic fiction #Take My Hand #tough issues #tough subjects

[heavensmortuary]

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#guys please pray for me I’m really struggling again with eating/self image issues again and I’m just in a tough mental space #can’t seem to break free lmao #anyway yeah #keep me in your prayers #delete later

[adm-starblitzsteel-4305]

Earth: What did you guys get in your yearbook?

Shin: 'Prettiest Smile'

Minus: 'Nicest Personality'

Ultima: 'Most likely to start a bar fight'

Legendary: 'Least likely to start a bar fight, but most likely to win one'

#TOUGH DAY BUT IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME GUYS #the Gojira family plus Minus #shin has the prettiest smile even if he's in pain #minus would likely to stay nice with them and Koichi LOL #ultima is most likely to have an anger issues #legendary is the BREADWINNER LMAO #headcanons #godzilla headcanons #incorrect quotes #godzilla incorrect quotes #godzilla #gojira #godzilla earth #shin godzilla #godzilla ultima #godzilla minus one #godzilla kotm #godzilla singular point #godzilla anime trilogy #godzilla vs kong #godzilla x kong the new empire #monsterverse #toho #reiwa era #kaiju #source: unknown

[freaky-flawless]

The return of some old faces

I finally got around to fleshing them out, so here's some more info on them under the cut:

They're all students at New Salem University and share a dorm room together. Demonique and Luci have been longtime friends, attending elementary and middle school in Hell before transferring to Monster High together, while Fangel is newer to the friend group, but feels as though she's always belonged with these ghouls.

Fangel attended Belfry Prep her whole un-life until she was able to escape that stuffy and intolerant environment once she graduated and started college. She never agreed with traditional vampire values, and always kept friends outside of school that were different monster types, and she's absolutely thriving in campus life.

Demonique may or may not have feelings for her vampire friend, but knows that she's already in a happy and committed relationship, and so she keeps her feelings hidden. Aside from that she's super chill and often the voice of reason. She's also incredibly creative, and is apart of all kinda of clubs on campus.

As Lucifer's eldest child, Luci is set to become the new ruler of Hell once her father retires. She's actually pretty hyped about it, and figures a business degree will help her become an effective ruler. She's the campus's resident party girl, and given her popularity, she's known for throwing the biggest college parties around. Given her status, she's able to get away with more than the average student, but she tries not to abuse this power too much.

#monster high #monster high gen 1 #monster high oc #monster high original character #vampire #demon #redraw #id in alt #listen the image descriptions were...tough #if there are any issues let me know idk if i might have gone overboard? #also there is for sure mistakes in the refs the laptop i draw on has a broken keyboard :( #aaaaand i can't fix them because i didn't save the files rip #anyway drawing these were fun as hell #i have a few others too and i wanna make more #i kinda gave up on perfectly emulating the mh style its close enough #im obsessed with how demonique came out tho she might become my new profile pic #the krampus kid is coming soon i just noticed a mistake on his ref that i can actually fix #i guess you get a little sneak peak here #my art #sabz art

[silentchamp]

[[UPDATE: I am going on hiatus until I can resolve whatever health issues I am currently having. Went to a specialist and they're working on helping me. I hate the idea of doing this but half the time I'm left bed ridden or with brain fog so...I need to go on a break. the "h" word is a scary one but it's time.

thanks for being patient with me.

I'll be back soon, I hope.

#[[i misunderstood that previous diagnosis. almost every american has it apparently #[[but anyway. ive been chronically ill with a mystery sickness and i need to get it figured out before anything else #[[the constant bloat is killinb meeee #[[havent been fired. my manager understands ive been having health issues but i have no passive income rn #[[and im behind on school. its so tough right now.