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helloyellow17 · 11 months

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Idk man I might get torn to shreds for saying this, but I simply cannot understand the new trend, particularly among younger internet users, where people write a laundry list of their triggers in their bio and then expect everyone to read and cater to said list on a PUBLIC PLATFORM.

This is the same mentality that drives people to attack appropriately tagged fics on AO3 for having x y or z content because “How dare you post this when I have trauma about this???” Obviously if someone is going to write a super heavy and highly sensitive fic and NOT tag it properly, they ought to be called out on it. But this isn’t about that, it’s about the people who don’t curate their own content, it’s about the people who enter public spaces and demand that the general public cater to THEM specifically.

Additionally: Listing out your triggers for everyone to see is just ASKING for trolls to come into your inbox and flood you with triggering content. (Unfortunately, as much as we would like to believe otherwise, the internet is full of selfish jerks who don’t give a crap about anybody’s trauma.) Not only this, but the algorithm does not read your bio. The algorithm does not care about your triggers unless YOU make sure to block specific tags and content.

YOU are responsible for curating your own content, and nobody else.

Obviously this is not to say people shouldn’t try to tag their posts for common triggers, because that’s the common courtesy thing to do. But if Becky has a phobia of bees, it is on her to block that tag and curate her feed around it, and she does not get the exclusive right to suddenly demand that nobody talk about bees within a ten mile radius of her. If Alec has a phobia of dogs, then it is well within his right to avoid contact with them, but he doesn’t get to go to a public park and yell at anybody who brings their dog there. It is his responsibility to know his own limits and seek out parks that are dog-free. (If someone brings a dog to a dog-free area, that’s a whole different issue that I won’t be getting into rn but yes, the person who does that is in the wrong there.)

The internet is widely a public space. If you want to create a safe space completely and utterly free of your specific triggers, you have to put the work in to make that space for yourself. You don’t get to ask other internet strangers to do it for you.

I’m saying this out of genuine concern (and admittedly, frustration) because there are so many young teens in fandom nowadays who don’t understand this, and they end up putting themselves in extremely vulnerable and even downright dangerous situations because they don’t understand that putting your well-being in the hands of a stranger is a terrible idea.

Please be safe, and for the love of all that is holy, be reasonable. Curating your content yourself is just as much a protection for you as it is a vital key that allows public communities to function.

#hyramblings #fandom culture #internet discourse #trauma triggers #anxiety triggers #safe space #if I get one person saying “BUT WHAT IF SOMEONE IGNORES X AND DOES IT ANYWAY #we literally went over this #they’re a jerk and have responsibility too #but this ain’t about them rn #ya feel?#internet communities #fandom community

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void-star · 7 months

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I'm starting to get the impression that people don't actually know what a trauma trigger is or how to identify them.

It is not feeling uncomfortable or disgusted with a concept or subject.

It is an activation of your sympathetic nervous system (activates fight or flight) over things your brain has associated strongly with a traumatic event.

The things your brain associates with the traumatic event don't always have to make sense: it can be as innocuous as a certain song/ringtone or notes from a cologne/perfume, or as direct and obvious as the sight of a weapon.

The important thing here is that it's a moderate to severe body experience in response to something that is not immediately dangerous to you and reminds you of a traumatic experience you have had in some way.

When you know and understand this, you can start to catch the physiological signs of the activation of your sympathetic nervous system. It's helpful to recognize both to calm your body down when you're not in immediate danger, and to recognize how this activation can affect other areas of your life.

I say that last part because it shuts down a lot of cognition, makes you stop thinking clearly, because it serves the purpose of trying to get you immediately out of danger.

My therapist still does a kind of explicit mirroring with me a lot, where rather than focusing on the thoughts and the fear that's on the surface, she brings my attention to my body: tightness in muscles, narrowing of vision, increased awareness of sounds/smells, constriction of the chest.

I bring this up because, first of all, it seems like some people use "trigger" to by synonymous with feeling uncomfortable or disgusted, to ride on your concern for their wellbeing in order to control your behavior. I don't like that.

Second of all, it also seems like other people are focusing on the occurrence of a trigger as a hallmark of something being harmful. Like once you're triggered, you're hurt and damaged yet again, and there's no coming back from that.

This is both untrue and disingenuous. I don't think it's particularly useful for trauma survivors. It's important to recognize that triggers are the residual effects of the things that harmed us that we couldn't do anything about. Triggers are manageable and they are not an indication that you're being harmed again. They are the body's memory of the harm, and its commitment to preventing you from being harmed again by latching onto a pattern it thinks will help you be safe if there's a next time.

You HAVE to learn to rationalize this if you want to feel safer, more comfortable, and in control of your world. You deserve that.

You don't deserve to sit inside of the intense fear and lack of understanding that comes with not investigating your own experience, or the way it can box you in to see danger and harm and abuse all around you.

And if you don't learn that, you're going to end up believing the only thing that can keep you safe is the elimination of everything that reminds you of what you went through... which is harmful to other people.

#psychology #ptsd #ptsd triggers #trauma triggers #what is a trigger?

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traumatizeddfox · 1 year

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having triggers is so fkn funny wdym i’m having a panic attack over a green bike

#traumacore #actuallytraumatized #actuallymentallyill #trauma #trauma triggers #ptsd

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korya-elana · 6 months

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My dog was shooting a commercial this past weekend so I went home for my dad’s birthday because it was only a couple hours away from them.

I’m learning that my experience as a DID System with my family, as opposed to home with our partner System or at work as a “singlet” is … very, very different. And it’s both affirming and makes me question everything.

One of my biggest triggers is having my boundaries crossed because I wasn’t allowed to make any until I was in my late 20s. It’s still very new to me and I don’t take it well when I’ve managed to stiffen my spine enough to put down boundaries only for them to be trampled anyways.

The System already felt different than normal. Apparently we’re much more covert around my family. I couldn’t really feel anyone around while we were there. Basically just me up front and that’s rare.

Well the big trigger happened and I’m still not really sure what the hell happened? I know I started shouting about how it wasn’t ok my boundaries had been swept aside. But then I think Alice fronted and started shouting too? But she didn’t have her accent at all which has *never* happened to my knowledge. And then I was in the spare bedroom isolating and our partner System was leading us out for a walk. After that our youngest was co-con and upset but able not to take full front? Which is super super rare.

Idk. This shit is so complicated. As soon as I think I have it figured out, the universe changes things up.

And to my wonderful, wonderful sibling who may see this post or not, you are always welcome to ask us who’s at front or if it’s not Em. We’ll always answer honestly to the best of our ability ❤️

#we have a truly stellar sibling #did osdd #system #did system #plurality #alters #system things #plural #didsystem #dissociative amnesia #trauma triggers #triggers #seriously A+ sibling #partner system #ineffable partners #perfect partner #em.ke #a.ke

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mentalisttraceur · 4 months

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One of the biggest improvements I had with the "constantly triggered" problem, about a month ago or maybe closer to two now, was realizing that:

parts of my brain's threat-prediction and how I reflexively run scenarios are the integrated singlet's equivalent of an "abuser introject";

with most abusers, the right solution is not to argue, it's to state your boundaries, ignore their bullshit, maybe leave the situation, and be ready to defend yourself if they escalate to attempted harm - so if the introject is an accurate model of the abuser, you shouldn't argue with the introject either;

to the extent that the brain is trying to prepare for conflict with this person, an optimal abuser introject is at least as capable and persistent as the real abuser, and keeps coming up with the next argument, the next rationalization, the next difficult-to-overcome move that the person might do - so fighting with the inner model of the shitty person is just prompting your brain to escalate;

if your brain still thinks it needs to predict or be ready for an external threat, that's not going to go away no matter how many times you convince/beat the version of the threat in your head.

So this really made it instantly clear for me that my habit of mentally running scenarios of arguments/fights was literally doing more to implement flat copies of the most triggering people I could think of in my own brain, whose whole function was to shittily come at me in my thoughts in every moment such a person possibly could. Also made it clear that it was often no longer productive, because nowadays I have better solutions.

This clarity gave me the last piece I needed to quickly habitualize myself to just acknowledge it as my brain detecting a potential problem from a potential shitty person, maybe feel some gratitude, but otherwise move on and ignore it instead of engaging in the relevant arguments or scenarios in my head.

#constantly triggered #cognition #cognition habitualization #trauma triggers #multiplicity #mentalisttraceur personal

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s-w-h · 3 months

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Summary: After a tragic situation involving your best friend, you decide to move to a smaller town and attend a new school in an attempt to move on and heal from your past trauma. While at this new school you meet new friends and end up in a messy love triangle.

Pairing: Choi Soobin x o/c x Choi Beomgyu

Genre: high school, love triangle, major angst, fluff

MAJOR TRIGGER WARNINGS:Suicide, suicidal thoughts, parental neglect/abuse, Depression, Postpartum depression, physical abuse, meantal abuse

AN: I took inspiration from the KDrama “A Time Called You” as well as “Moment Of Eighteen” both really good shows I recommend watching if you enjoy teenage angst

Lmk if you enjoy reading thank you :)

Character Backgrounds:

Character profile:

Beomgyu:

Soobin:

Yoona:

Chapter one

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dreamgirlvibes · 1 year

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Just because you’re triggered doesn’t mean there’s no growth. It just means there’s an alert in your brain that is warning you of a traumatic experience you’ve had and how it made you feel. How you respond is what matters. It doesn’t change all the growth you’ve made, but to finally be able to react differently shows courage.

#trauma triggers

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anthroxlove · 1 month

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Many people living in domestic violence and people who have left their abusers experience trauma triggers related to what they saw, heard, smelled, or touched, during abusive attacks. Learn more: https://bit.ly/3MZPuHS

#ptsd #domestic abuse #domestic violence #post traumatic stress disorder #domestic violence awareness #intimate partner violence #trauma #trauma triggers #triggers #surviving #survivor #survivors

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mymidwestheart · 9 months

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#trauma triggers #healing

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sanddollarpoems · 8 months

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TRIGGER WARNING TRIGGER WARNING

9/11 Remembered

I had nightmares for years after. I can still remember them clearly, standing in that courtyard, the papers raining down around me. And then the sound. I would always close my eyes so I couldn't see them. But I heard them and knew what they were. Bodies. Bodies falling from the buildings above me. Hitting the concrete. No screams, no cries. Just death. At some point, I would wake up gasping for breath and horrified.

Trauma is often linked to those who have experienced events firsthand. But for those of us who are old enough to remember the events of September 11th, 2001, we live with something called "collective trauma". I can still vividly remember the screams of onlookers and reporter standing on that hill as the first tower crumbled.

I was on the other side of the country, safe in CA. But I cried for days. I had to work that night, after hours of watching the news, after seeing the second plane hit, and watching both towers fall over and over again. After seeing what looked like a war zone and hearing the reporters recount what happened over and over. The twin towers. Terrorist attack. Two planes. Collapsing towers. The Pentagon. The plane that went down in a field. Terrorist attack. Twin towers. Jumpers... Jumpers...

The grocery store where I worked was deathly quiet. I kept finding myself crying. Everyone was just walking around stunned. We were talking in whispers, out of respect? Out of fear? Out of shock?

And then that night, the dreams started. I was in a plaza... I looked around, but no one was there. I was all by myself. I heard a sound behind me and closed my eyes....

It's been 22 years. I still remember.

I still remember.

#sanddollarpoems #TRIGGER WARNING #trauma triggers #my writing #September 11th #9/11 #I still remember #quick write #prose

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weirdbrainweirdbody · 1 year

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Long discord blacklists are inaccessible and unethical

(note: all examples are either my own previous triggers unless stated otherwise)

Following a conversation in a discord I'm in, I wanted to make this post. This isn't mocking the concept of hyperspecific triggers, not is it saying that the concept of blacklists is inherently bad. However I think that making a long blacklist of peoples hyperspecific triggers, then insisting that people not only remember them but also either spoiler them or not mention them at all, is inaccessible and unethical.

I understand how they come about. You start with a general blacklist, of intense topics things like suicide or self harm or rape, and maybe a couple discourse topics you're sick of hearing about. Then someone asks if you can add a trigger on- a relatively common one. So you do. And then someone else asks, and someone else, and before you know it your blacklist is half a mile long and you can't mention marshmallows without a trigger warning and spoiler.

This is inaccessible.

If there's a long list, it'd likely be difficult to remember for anyone. Especially if people have memory issues- something that's very common with multiple disabilities, and ironically, many of the same disabilities or mental illnesses that cause these triggers in the first place. If you have a space full of people with disabilities or mental illnesses that cause memory issues, it's not particularly possible to expect that blacklist to be kept to. But if you do, and you warn or even ban people who don't adhere to the blacklist, you create a space that's hostile to disabled people.

Additionally, I've seen or been made aware of servers that don't seem to have any reasonable kind of limit for the blacklist. Servers that allow you to add prosthetic limbs to the blacklist. Limb differences. Mention of chronic pain. Facial differences. Servers that make disabled people trigger warn their own existence. That's not okay.

It's also unethical. Telling people that their triggers are on a list, so they'll be safe from them in that server, creates a false sense of security. Then if someone does accidentally forget that they're not meant to mention deodorant without a trigger warning? That false sense of security shatters. They thought they were safe in that server, but they aren't. They're not actually fully safe from their triggers anywhere really- it's impossible to guarantee that they won't be able to come into contact with their triggers.

I've had it happen in real life. Teachers told me they'd made everyone stop spraying deodorant in the PE changing rooms. I thought I was safe there. But people forgot and still sprayed, and it was worse than if I'd have know it was a risk. It meant my paranoia and feelings of not being safe anywhere got worse.

And yet these servers try and claim that the blacklist will keep them safe.

A blacklist that's gotten so long, it's almost impossible to remember.

A blacklist that has everything on it from photos of marshmallows to people's names (oh, and if that's your name? You have to go by an alias in that server) to F4 racing.

A blacklist that doesn't keep anyone safe.

It's not accessible and it's not ethical.

#im half asleep but my brain made me write this 👍#disability #blacklists #accessibility #online accessibility #inaccessibility #trauma #trauma triggers #triggers #complex ptsd #ptsd #ill reblog/edit with a tldr tomorrow maybe

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korya-elana · 7 months

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For Systems with kids (we intensely dislike the term "littles") who are trauma holders, does anyone have issues with sleep paralysis? We had an episode last year where our youngest, who holds the original trauma that caused us to start splitting, woke up at front in a state of sleep paralysis reliving the trauma. It was bad, really intense and when we fully woke and she realized what happened, she erased our memories of what happened and disappeared for a few days of serious upset.

We thought it was a one-off thing. We do not have a history of sleep paralysis and that was the first time it had ever happened to us (to our knowledge). But it happened again last night with our partner System and it was worse than the first time. After we had woken, she didn't disappear right away (but did take back the memories) and her passive panic was so bad I had such a hard time trying to explain to my very concerned partner what had happened because it looked like I was in the middle of a serious breakdown. Which is not only extremely embarrassing for me, but clearly our kid is having a seriously hard time, but it came seemingly from nowhere.

-Kay (co-host/Caretaker)

#did osdd #system #plurality #did system #alters #system things #dissociative amnesia #syskids #did alters #sleep paralysis #system problems #trauma #trauma triggers #trauma nightmares

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historyhermann · 1 year

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Ashly Burch’s Contribution to LGBTQ+ Representation

Four of Ashly Burch's roles, all of which are canon LGBTQ characters

Recently, Ashly Burch, a well-recognized voice actress, singer, and writer, came out as pan and queer. Taking into account this development, I decided to examine some of her past roles and offer my thoughts on her contributions.

Reprinted from The Geekiary, my History Hermann WordPress blog on Feb. 11, 2023, and Wayback Machine. This was the forty-eighth article I wrote for The Geekiary. This post was originally published on July 30, 2022.

On July 1st, Ashly Burch came out as pan and queer, saying she is "old fashioned pansexuals". She added that this is not a shock because half the characters she plays are "members of the rainbow fam" and added more in a longer thread.

Burch has added herself to the list of other LGBTQ+ voice actors who have voiced LGBTQ+ characters in media. There's Anna Akana, a bisexual actress of Japanese and Filipino descent. She recently voiced Sasha Waybright in Amphibia and Daisy in Magical Girl Friendship Squad. Both characters are bisexual.

A non-binary actor, Iris Menas, has voiced non-binary characters in various Disney series. Ian-Jones Quartey, a bisexual creator, has voiced various characters, including Radicles "Rad" in his series, OK K.O.! Let's Be Heroes. Abbi Jacobson, a bisexual actress, voiced a bisexual princess named Bean in Disenchantment. She also voiced a lesbian woman named Katie Mitchell in The Mitchells Vs. the Machines.

In many ways, Burch is definitely a queer icon. Apart from her video game voice roles, live-action roles, commercial roles, and dubbing roles, there are five roles that stand out to me. This article focuses on those roles and their significance in LGBTQ+ representation.

Ash in Hey Ash Whatcha Playin'

Ashly with her beauties in Season 1 - Finale Part 1 of Hey Ash Whatcha Playin'

In May 2008, the series Hey Ash Whatcha Playin' first premiered on Destructoid. It would garner tens of millions of views. The series used surreal humor and sibling rivalry with her brother Anthony. Each episode focused on video games, and their themes, trends, and societal impacts. In 2011, the series began airing on YouTube. Papa Burch, Burch's actual father, and Ashley "Leigh" Davis, who becomes Anthony's girlfriend, also appear. Guest stars include Burch's mother and many others.

Many episodes had queer themes. One implies that Burch had sex with sex workers. In another, she says things can be "really gay" when everything becomes male genitalia. The icing on the cake was when she struggled with the homophobia exhibited by Orson Scott Card, whose ideas inspired the game, Shadow Complex.

In the show's second season, Anthony had gay sex through a message board. Ashly asked her dad for help with "lady problems" (i.e. liking a lot of women). Some episodes had Ashly joking about how brains are "gay" and defending her brother as a person who doesn't bash gay people. Others included dildos, Papa Burch coming up with imagined gay scenarios, or defense of female characters.

One episode stands out from the lot, the one where Ashly says she likes pretty girls and runs away when she sees a girl she likes. Later episodes have Ash loving a female villain-of-sorts or portray her losing her cool when people use the word "lesbians".

Enid in OK K.O.! Let's Be Heroes

Enid (left) and Red Action (right) in an episode of OK K.O.!

Burch is known for her role as Enid Mettle in this action-adventure-comedy animated series by Ian Jones-Quartey, Rebecca Sugar's husband. In the series, Enid is a bisexual woman previously in a relationship with Radicles "Rad". She is later Red Action's girlfriend.

Enid has a key role in OK K.O.! as a witch and a ninja all in one. She also fights villains and works at Gar's Bodega. Burch has voiced Enid in almost all her appearances apart from the original pilot. She has been the subject of much fan art and over 700 fan fics.

Somewhat like Enid is Lainey in Loud House, who Burch also voiced. Lainey is dating another character, a woman named Alice. Unlike OK K.O.!, Lainey only appears in two episodes. In the former series, she becomes very romantic with Red Action, a lesbian character voiced by actress, comedian, and model Kali Hawk.

Ash in Final Space

Evra (left) and Ash (right) in an episode of Final Space

Burch is less known for her role as Ash Graven, who has the same first name as her. In the series, Ash is a humanoid alien who strikes up a romance with Evra (Jasmin Savoy Brown), a genderless being, in the Season 3 episode "Forgiveness". They sit together in a romantic moment, watching lights that resemble the aurora borealis.

Before this, she says she hates a man named Jordan Hammerstein with all her guts. This hints that she is a lesbian rather than "ambiguously bi," as I noted in my review of the series. In that review, I noted a podcast where show creator Olan Rogers confirmed Ash as an LGBTQ character. At the time, Rogers said he would expand the relationship between Evra and Ash if he had another season.

Ash is only one of the many LGBTQ characters in the series, although the others are recurring characters rather than protagonists. Unlike Enid, she becomes an antagonist, and villain, akin to Cassandra "Cass" (Eden Espinosa) in Tangled. She is a character as complex as Cass while both are exploited by someone else who plays on her trauma triggers.

Rutile Twins in Steven Universe

Rutile Twins (right) brings Lars and Steven to the Prime Kindergarten where Off Colors are hiding out in their debut episode.

In a little-known role, Burch voiced a non-binary Gem fusion named Rutile Twins in Steven Universe. She later said she was "extremely honored" to be on the show. Unlike the other characters she voiced, these characters are non-binary women, as are all Gems as Rebecca Sugar confirmed in a 2018 article. So that makes this character unique beyond any others mentioned in her resume.

In an interesting trivia, since Burch voices both components of the character, they have the same voice, but with different tones. The same is the case for the Amethysts, all voiced by Michaela Dietz, or all the Rubies voiced by Charlyne Yi. Real-life rutiles are said to help with the stabilization of emotions and relationships. They reportedly evoke romantic feelings and aid with handling past trauma.

The Rutile Twins are outcasts who are part of a group of Gems ostracized by society, the Off Colors. These Twins later join Lars Barriga, and the other Off Colors, traveling through space, and living on Earth. In Steven Universe Future, the Off Colors graduate from Steven's school for Gems, known as Little Homeschool.

Molly in The Ghost and Molly McGee

Andrea (left) and Molly (right) in the "Andrea Song Takeover"

Burch voices a lead character named Molly McGee. Unlike her other roles, Molly is half-Thai and half-Irish, like Burch in real life. The series incorporates Thai culture into storylines and helps educate viewers about Thai culture.

In The Ghost and Molly McGee, Molly befriends a ghost named Scratch after moving to the Midwestern town of Brighton with her father, mother, and brother. Also appearing in the series is Molly's grandmother. She meets many friends there. This includes a Latine and Jewish girl named Libby Stein-Torres (Lara Jill Miller). She also has a geeky friend Sheela (Aparna Nancherla) and a sweet pink-haired friend, Kat (Eden Riegel).

Although Molly is not a canon queer character, some fans have shipped her with her frenemy, Andrea Davenport (Jules Medcraft), with their ship being Mollandrea. Others have shipped her with Libby Stein-Torres, with their ship called Mollibby. This ship has been denied by Bob Roth, a show creator, who said that LGBTQ representation unfolds naturally in the series.

Closing thoughts

There are many other characters Burch has voiced or played since her career began in 2007. She voiced Josette Grey in Blackford Manor and Tiny Ghost in Chainsaw Richard. She offered her voice as Lila Twinklepipes in Pig Goat Banana Cricket, Meadow Springs in Trolls: The Beat Goes On!, and Miss Pauling in Expiration Date, along with others in Over the Garden Wall and We Bare Bears.

She is further known for voicing Bun Bun and Breezy in Adventure Time, Ridley in Glitch Techs, and Cass Wizard in Bee and PuppyCat. Recently, she played Rachel in Mythic Quest who is in a relationship with a Black woman named Dana (Imani Hakim).

Many of these roles aren't canon LGBTQ+ characters. However, since Burch came out as pan and queer, this could lead to new interpretations of these characters. Burch was also a writer for "Shadows at the Gates", the fourth episode of The Legend of Vox Machina, a mature animated series filled with LGBTQ+ characters and based on the Critical Role podcast.

In the end, Ashly Burch will likely continue to voice queer characters, working with other such actors to continue improving queer representation in media.

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