#you can and will be happy

[comfortfrogblog]

I need help. I’m sorry to throw this at you. I’ve been homeschooled my whole life and I hardly ever leave my house. I am almost an adult and I’ve never had a friend before. what can I do? I don’t think anyone will ever love me. I’m not ready to be an adult I can’t even gather enough motivation to clean my room. what do I do? no one prepared me for this and I haven’t felt happy in 5 years. will I ever get there? again sorry to throw this at you… I don’t have anyone else

hey anon, im so sorry it’s taken me so long to respond. and don’t apologize!! my inbox is always open and im glad you’ve shared with me <3

i know the difficulties of making friends even without having been homeschooled, so im not going to tell you to just suck it up and go meet people or to “just talk to people”—because those are simply not the right words (lord knows how many times i’ve heard them myself). it is not helpful when someone says to simply stop being anxious or to just go make friends or just stop being sad. it never works like that!!

what i can tell you is that i believe wholeheartedly that there are good things and good people in store for you. since you say you’ve never had a friend before, that could possibly make the future even more exciting—you will experience something so wonderful!! idk that might be the wrong way to look at it, but im hoping that perhaps the lack of companionship you’ve had will make what’s to come even more sweet.

i do believe you will be loved. i believe that you are loved. you are very precious and important even if you think you’ve been cooped up all this time doing nothing. i also know how hard it is to clean your room and how paralyzing it feels when you can’t get yourself to just do it—but your lack of motivation doesn’t make you a dysfunctional human being! not at all!! you are so very human—in fact, all this time, you’ve been existing. and that is the most dire requirement of you. you exist, right now at this moment, and you have been existing all this time. you will continue to exist, and you will discover that there are so many beautiful things in life. there are beautiful people in life. the only requirement to experience these things is that you must exist—which you most definitely do :]. because you are here, you have the ability to experience all that life and the world has to offer. but you also have to take it up on that offer to see it all.

new friendships are hard. friendships are hard. meeting people is so hard, i really know how terrifying and difficult it is. it feels like stepping on legos, or trying to break in new shoes, or nails on a chalkboard. you feel uncomfortable, out of place. but to be honest, i’ve learned that those feelings are sometimes necessary in the beginning—it’s not often that you immediately click with someone and everything is great and dandy. but you can forge past those feelings to find that people are so very intricate and complex, including yourself. pain cultivates growth. fights in relationships strengthen the bond. forging past the anxious feelings in the beginning and meeting people and breaking down walls is not easy—but you can do it.

friendship is a gift, but lacking it does not make you any less of a whole person. you are still incredibly human. you aren’t defective or broken. you are still an entire person.

and now, i will use the classic line: be yourself. but i dont wanna make anyone cringe, cause if i leave it at that, it’s really quite empty advice. so i’ll keep talking :D !! you will find people who love you and appreciate you for yourself—it may come from the most unexpected of places! but i know for certain that there are good things in store for you, wherever they may come from. you might have to look for them, maybe for a long time, but my hope is that it will be sooner rather than later. you may think that you don’t know how to do anything or you don’t know how you should do x or y, but all that means is that you have so much room to grow. and that is such a wonderful and beautiful thing. there’s a journey ahead of you, and you might even get to meet people along the way. (steal them and put them in your pockets and they’ll become your friends😈) (sorry that’s a lie they probably won’t fit in your pockets) (but you can still befriend them😈)

you quite literally have your whole life ahead of you, and you’ve got so many wonderful things to experience and see. and i know that you are going to live. give yourself room to grow and allow yourself to try things you would never before. the first step to flourishing is giving yourself the space to do it.

#i really hope you see this anon im so sorry this has taken so lomg :( #and im sorry if none of this is helpful #but my heart hurts for you and i hear you and understand you #so if nothing else just know that you are heard and your suffering is not unnoticed #you can and will be happy #asks #cathy comforts

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Knowledge Revenge.

#dungeon meshi #chilchuk tims #senshi #Somewhat of an unofficial sequel to the Dragon Comic. I promise I have more versatility in my jokes. I just had to take this opportunity. #Senshi is pretty much a recluse. I think he would know a few of these 'gottems' but not all. #Chilchuck would know gottems that are nearly lost to time. The deep cuts. The ones that you fall for because they are that obscure. #I would also like to take a moment to confess that after the last comic in which I posed a gottem - #I fell victim to a Mind Goblin Attack. I was thoroughly got. I will be on higher alert this time. #So NOBODY be funny in the tags. I am gullible and I like to share things with my friends. Who are *ruthless*. #I have a mild resistance to Vicious Mockery at this point but I can only take so much. #Happy Thistle Thursday Everyone! See you next week!

[corviiids]

my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog

#rookposting #the little 'oh!' followed by a big grin is now my highlight in every interaction i have with a stranger #you can always spot the things people hope will be noticed and you have no idea how happy it makes people when it gets noticed #i find it's always better to compliment things they did deliberately vs complimenting stuff like their voice or their face or other things #that are inherent or they cant change because that can make people uncomfortable for one thing to hear that from a stranger #but it's also just less meaningful imo because they didnt do that on purpose

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

Of the 19 hijackers who carried out the Sept 11 attacks:

15 were from Saudi Arabia (a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

2 were from the United Arab Emirates (also a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

1 was from Egypt, 1 from Lebanon.

None of the hijackers were from Iraq.

None of the Sept 11 hijackers were Iraqi.

None of the 9/11 hijackers were from Iraq.

#9/11 #serious post #not a shitpost #this should be one of the first things kids learn when they learn about the 9/11 attacks #politics #this is just...it's such an essential and brazen fact and i rarely see basic outrage over it #i want outrage. i want fury. i want disgust over the way fundamental facts are disguised and discarded and downplayed #because there are things we should KNOW. basic fact we should ALL KNOW. and they are tucked away in the footnotes. #and no this is NOT to put the blame on other middle eastern countries #we know this was carried out by a specific terrorist organization not a national government #but King George the Second decided (and was encouraged by his cabinet!) to invade a nation! #a nation that was not at all related or responsible!!! #a dictatorship to be sure--but a dictatorship that King George the First had been happy to support #so what changed? why did we go in guns blazing to DEMOLISH a country *we had NO PLANS OF REPAIRING*??? #well. because they wanted a villain didn't they. a nice clean war. clarity of purpose. us the heroes against them the villains #and when you're in that mindframe--truth is irrelevant. you can pick your villain (your victim) by rolling a roulette wheel #truth is irrelevant #worse: to the people in charge #truth is a HINDRANCE #'Alternative facts' existed long before it became a catchphrase #facts don't matter. truth doesn't matter. the impulses of a handful of volatile & rich & power-high people--that's History. congratulations

[petscoboba]

I want Toby Fox three years after the last chapter to make a game where it's just the Fun Gang going on a road trip to the east coast to go fishing. They raid a gas station on the way to grabs snacks for the road (and the lobsters they catch). Happy April Fool's.

#deltarune #susie deltarune #noelle deltarune #noelle holiday #kris dreemurr #fishing momence #I have one more page I wanted to draw for this little idea #but i'll have to get to it at a later date when i've got more energy #in reality this idea started as a way for me to draw kris happy after highschool #i relate to kris' lethargy a lot-- so i wanted to see them still trying to make the most of it despite their depressive nature #(perhaps if kris can find a way out maybe i can too?) #it's hard. it's really hard when you feel like you've got really nothing to look towards to #but i hope they can find meaning anyways. i hope they smile one day and i hope it's a real one #pssstt! chronologically this post takes place after another comic i have planned in the midst. it'll take 10 years to complete but one day. #that comic. will not be a happy one #heeeheehoohoo

[fremulon]

forget Resting Bitch Face, I have Resting Competent Face. People see me and think ah yes she can point me to the nearest train station. Fellow grocery shoppers ask if I know what kind of butter they should buy. If a strange man speaks to me on the street it is literally always an inquiry and never a catcall. Once someone randomly asked me what an equinox was and after I told her she nodded and said "you seemed like you'd know." why am I assigned oracle at random interaction

#cherry whines #the thing is I actually love to provide useful information so you bet I am Happy to Help but like how can they TELL

[saradiation]

Hey it's that time of the year again :D

HAPPY 413! 🎂

#my time zone is a little early haha BUT HAPPY 413 EVERYONE <3 #this is kind of a redraw of last year's 413 illustration and I'm so glad I could see some progress :) #I tried to make them look their age + keep their personalities and also give them cool GT outfits instead of the pjs ones I often draw #idk how much of that you can see though 🫣 #ANYWAY I had so much fun drawing them all together again! #homestuck #homestuck fanart #homestuck art #beta kids #413 #happy 413 #john egbert #rose lalonde #jade harley #dave strider #my art

[salamispots]

dream wip

#wip #artists on tumblr #flotsam diaries #arrhghhgg happy I got the textures I was aiming for #I was gonna go sleep but eve's song kororon really got me :'D #cough you can see the full image on uh instagram story if you don't wanna wait haha #technically this one's not a wip but wanna draw some others/make it a set #might tweak the octo though #anyways nOW I will sleep #muffled laugh #edit: oh!! thank for you radar tumblr staff :0 #but also radar putting my post tag ramblings on bLAST LMAO

[cabinette]

you make me feel complete.

#hahahahahaha i guess #i guess you can say they're.... Boning #i'm sorry #happy 1k to me! #farcille #falin x marcille #dunmeshi #dungeon meshi #falin touden #marcille donato #art cabinet

[egophiliac]

IT WAS ERIC AFTER ALL!!!! I'm so glad we got to meet him (before Vil snaps him away with those Infinity Gauntlets) (can't wait to see what happens when we get the matching Infinity Tiara to go with them, there will be no survivors)

(sorry to be so slow/rough lately, just got a lot of stuff on the ol' brain at the moment! alas, if only I could spend all my time drawing incredibly stupid characters I mean I do but)

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #tapis rouge #i know these are not my best but by god i needed to draw ~daddo venue~ #he is a treat! can't wait for him to yell at us for screwing up a shoot or whatever the last-minute disaster will be #i am SO HAPPY it turned out to be about movies after all! ...i mean sort of anyway #i'll take what i can get (and i do enjoy twst trying to be all cute about snow whAHEM i mean beautiful queen) (i see you there twst) #(also to be fair it actually wasn't poisoned in historial-revisionism-twstland so i think we can trust this apple. a+ acting eric) #anyway we are still. very solidly in the 'stand around and talk about the wallpaper for three hours' part of the event. #but HEY we got to meet eric! i was not really expecting it to be him so i am VERY pleased #also god help me i did think the shopping montage as portrayed by a rhythmic where they literally SKIP down the street was hilarious #there's a lot of Choices that were made in this event and that was a good one

[jay-wasstuff]

#may this day bring you all the joy peace and love it can :) #easter #happy easter #trans day of visibility #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #tdov #🏳️‍⚧️ #i wish all a very #queer

[bigfatbreak]

dad villain au: did emilie just. not consider at all that adrien was literally dying at the time. wow

she's in the habit of deciding when Adrien's suffering is acceptable, and if it is, she'll just fix it later.

#my art #adrien agreste #emelie agreste #gabriel agreste #dad villain au #mayura #as emelie faces zero consequences using the peacock she's more likely to utilize it in a way she didn't in the last timeline #last timeline she faced real problems. had to come to terms with her own eventual death. got to see action and reaction in process #in this timeline there was no consequences. so why shouldn't she make this as 'perfect' as possible? #before gabriel got his memories of the last timeline back he was actually pretty against her being weird abt adrien but eventually just #let her do whatever lmao. he was like. alright fine if it makes you happy dear #sure you can rearrange his genome so he cant catch chicken pox again whatver #as a result when things dont fit her delusions she gets upset moody or aggressive

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

getting older can be so amazing? you get more familiar with yourself. learn tips & tricks for troubleshooting your own brain. trial & error helps you build routines that minimize discomfort, maximize reward. your preferences/interests don't get set in stone, but you do find out which ones are going to stay with you in the long-term, and which ones are fun but transient joys to appreciate in the moment.

you learn that the world is so much more complex than you were taught, and that that's okay, and that there's an endless supply of things you can learn or watch or experience or think about if you want to. if you're lucky, you loosen up, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. if you're lucky, you learn to recognize that negative inner voice, and whack it with a baseball bat until it hushes up. if you're lucky, you learn to treat yourself gently, not because you are fragile but because you are worthy of gentleness. (i hope you are lucky.)

and some things will change. some things will get better. some things will get good. and maybe you start to recover from the dehumanizing stress of childhood/education. maybe you learn the power of your own autonomy. maybe you learn how to walk away from bad situations (which is a superpower even if you don't realize it yet). and you get to choose your own clothes. and your own food. and which relationships to pursue! and what you do with your free time. and with your life (but don't worry you get to choose that gradually). and that's crazy! and sometimes scary. and extraordinarily, indescribably precious.

#not a shitpost #and as long as you are alive there will be another good moment waiting for you in the future #the profound joy of your favorite foods #the incalculable luxury of waking up and lounging in bed and falling back asleep #a cold glass of water after a walk in the hot sun #petting an excited dog. a cat rubbing up against your ankle. the sight of a confused chicken #glorious these beads we string together to form our own existence #getting older means time is passing. and i hope you are passing that time in ways that make you happy #i hope you have so many moments of joy that they can be as easily counted as drops of water in the ocean

[ryllen]

giri chocolate x ☜(⌒▽⌒)☞

#happy almost valentine; pov they are receiving chocolates from you #i saw the reference pics and thought of the first year instantly (◕‿◕)♡ #twisted wonderland #twst #deuce spade #ace trappola #sebek zigvolt #jack howl #epel felmier #twst grim #fanart #valentine #chocolate #the number of people are just right ! #u can keep playing the picture in rotation #which is fun !

[lesbianballofgender]

Happy 55th birthday to our feral, light and fluffy, serious actor and truly just the nicest person: Michael Sheen!!

#michael sheen #happy birthday Michael #truly one of a kind #michael sheen is my favourite actor #He’s such a nice man and I hope he has an incredible birthday #I will tag good omens bc I can do what I like #you all must witness and appreciate the birthday boy #good omens #aziraphale #crowley #david tennant #aziracrow #miles maitland #roland blum #thorne jamison #this sunshine of a man #an Angel #michael light and fluffy sheen #michael fucking sheen #michael serious actor sheen #welsh seduction machine

[squinkoblinko]

hes thinking real hard about eating a yummy sandwich

one with no crazy filters cause why not zzzz

#tf2 #team fortress 2 #tf2 fanart #tf2 medic #blu medic #is this even anything #can you see that i figured out how amazing the lasso tool was halfway thru the process cause i feel i can and it’s HORRID #MORE ART SOON i hope i’m really trying to get back into working on stuff and not being lazy #i’ll prob post this one insta w a few changes cause idk if i’m completely happy w how this looks