#Not (our parents') Children

[disorganizedkitten]

My favorite way to write Delphi is just. entirely fed up.

"You lot should be paying me for cleaning up your messes, honestly, this is ridiculous" *goes off to solve an extremely niche problem that she only knows the details of because it's Voldemort related and she was raised under him bragging* "What, like it's hard?"

She is consistently both in charge and the most competent person in the room, and she hates it with a passion.

#Delphi Riddle #NOPC #Not Our Parents' Children #Swing a Sceptor Wear a Crown #Delphi #Harry Potter #Unspeakable Delphi Riddle #Duchess Delphi Riddle #Delphi Tamlyn Riddle

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 117

Bruce does not enjoy magic. In fact he’s absolutely horrible at it, to the point it’s better that he avoids it in general. Getting thrown into some sort of summoning circle bullshit was not helping him feel any better about it either. 

At least he isn’t dead… probably. He might be surrounded by green and there might be a massive entity sitting on a throne, but he isn’t dead yet. Even if the cult had been rambling about sacrificing ‘the dark knight to the dark king’. 

… His kids are definitely going to kill him, but there are small children peeking out at him from within the being’s cape. Who seem happy enough, while the… king looks exhausted in a familiar way. Well. Maybe it’s his own parental exhaustion talking, but they can’t be too bad if their kids are happy to be there. 

#dcxdp #dpxdc #prompts #Pariah feeling someone sacrificing a human: Oh thank fuck some goddamn help- #Bruce is now Pariah’s & Clockwork’s buddy who babysits the lil godlings sometimes #They all get together sometimes to complain about their PTA rivals #Pariah is relieved for help in how to human for the half-human children’s sake #He takes up gardening to help with his control issues since he can make his gardens look however he like and obsess over making sure everyt #Clockwork and Alfred become tea and gossip buddies #Pariah: How will we get our half human children's human side taken care of #Why yes Bruce's kids did make fun of him when he came back with a couple of kids #They don't belive him at first when he explains he's just babysitting #Until the parents come to pick said children up #pariah dark x clockwork

[soulless-bex]

talia secretly adopts all of bruce’s kids behind his back. dick? she got to know him shortly after he became nightwing and supported him through his debut. jason? she had more than enough time to adopt a parental role for him while he was still staying in nanda parbat. tim? she’s been corresponding with him since forever. she was so proud when he committed his first war crime too. steph saw her visiting one of the boys, recognized her and befriended her to spite bruce. duke sort of just assumed she was bruce’s wife after seeing the way the other kids act around her and never questioned it. she’s too scary for him to dare do that, and anyway, she’s pretty chill so he won’t complain. cass sees the whole thing unfold, and while i don’t think she’s talia’s biggest fan, i think she would find the whole thing funny anyway.

bruce never noticed. not until all of his kids had already fallen into the habit of calling her mom

#talia seeing bruce adopt kids left and right: our children #bruce is hella confused when he finds out #the kids never questioned it either. just accepted her as being their mom and moved on #some of them assumed bruce knew since talia knew him so well. some go to her precisely because bruce doesn’t know. the rest just crave chaos #parental talia al ghul #batman headcanon #batman #batfamily headcanons #batkids #bruce wayne #dick grayson #jason todd #talia al ghul #duke thomas #stephanie brown #cassandra cain #tim drake #she took the “sharing is caring” thing a bit too seriously

[theorderofthetriad]

Izzy: He was a wild dog and we dealt. With him. Like one.

Stede: You sent him to doggy heaven 😔

Izzy, internally: fuck fuck shit fuck

Izzy: No, I could never do that. We took him to a nice farm. Left him in good care with all his friends, like Calico Jack.

#ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd spoilers #ofmd s2 #ofmd s2 spoilers #Izzy Hands #stede bonnet #Stizzy #santagno #top tino post #fun story. as a child in the 90's my parents told me our dog was sent to a farm. i fully believed the dog died until earlier this year- #-when my dad told me he did actually give the dog to his friend with a ''farm'' because the dog was Too Much to be around young children

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

you are pitting Jesus and Santa Claus against each other. I am acknowledging Santa as both a mythic symbol of Christ and a cultural legend based upon a real man whose faithfulness to Christ was used by God to grant common grace not just to the people of Myra but throughout the entire world. we are not the same.

#- HK #I know anti-Santa people who are not smug but the anti-Santa influencers are getting smugger and smugger each year #my generation was not raised to cope with loss of childhood #pro-tip: it comes back when you have your own children #I know because I get a taste of it whenever I visit my friends’ kids #mobile #x #Christmas #Christianity #history #mythology #let kids believe in magic again #you know what believing in magic did for me? trained my heart to recognize the wondrous when I see it #trained me to accept that I don’t and can’t know everything #trained me to live by the faith of adherence when i cannot enjoy the faith of assurance (Matthew Henry) #I was the only person in any of my friend groups who ever believed in Santa #and you know why I didn’t feel betrayed to find out I’d misplaced my belief? because Santa is real. #someone moves even terrible parents to give good gifts to their children on the same holy day every year #someone moves the imagination to ensure that the darkest week of the year will produce the most ethereal lights #someone moves the ancient and forgotten back into our conscious present minds #and if you’re wondering whether I’m talking about Jesus or Santa that’s a GOOD thing! #that’s the whole point! #the Santa mythos *impacts* people all over the world. and that is an act of Providence whether you believe in God or not

[irafuwas]

i don't know why, but in the sparse five hours of sleep i got last night, my brain decided to plague me with dreams of lilia taking care of an elderly silver, up until the final moments of his life. i could hear silver's thoughts the whole time, and he was so absolutely inundated with shame and guilt it almost seemed like he was suffocating. he kept thinking over and over and over again that this all should've been the other way around. he should've been the one looking after his father in the twilight of his life. he should've been his aging father's rock, his safe place to land, his stalwart defender against a world so unbelievably cruel to its most vulnerable denizens. again and again his heart cried out in vain, it should've been the other way around.

as a child he had once wished - prayed, even, to the same force now threatening to reclaim his spirit back into its unconscious designs - for his father to live a long and prosperous life, and it was as though that very wish had backfired on him in a way he never could have possibly imagined

#twst silver #lilia vanrouge #twst spoilers #twst #mumbles #txt #i hate it here #i litearlly woke up crying you gusy dont unerstand #he was so ashamed of himself but not once in my dream was lilia anything less than happy to take care of him #i feel like part of the reason lilia is trying to run away is because like so many of our elderly and our disabled #he didn't want his loved ones to worry about him and “waste” their time taking care of him #so he thought the best decision for everyone would be if he just went off to go die alone #i have no idea if twst would actually touch on something like that but i do think you could interepret his departure that way #anyways if any of you have caretakers or aides or just are disabled in anyway #i want you to know you are not and have never been and never will be a burden on anyone or anything #and that i love you so so much #im getting so emotional over a dream fkjgh but i want silver to understand that good parents dont have kids expecting that #their children will someday “pay them back” for everythinng they did for them growing up!! u don't owe ur parents jack shit!! #silver you just existing as you are is enough for your father!!!

[sokkas-therapist]

A little idea I had for my Zukka single father’s au! (the one where Senna and Izumi parent trap their dads so they can be sisters, which I may or may not have posted about on here before?? At least not a ton, lmk if you guys would be interested in seeing more of this au)

Anyway, thinking about them having an evening-out-on-the-town date planned, but when Zuko comes to pick Sokka up he can tell how exhausted Sokka is, and can see that he doesn’t really feel like going out anymore.

even though Sokka insists on keeping his word and going out like they planned, Zuko gets him to stay in and they curl up on the couch and have a movie night instead. They make popcorn, get lots of blankets, kick the girls out and tell them to ‘go bonding together’, and maybe Zuko massages the tension out of Sokka’s shoulders before he falls asleep.

They have a better night together than if they’d forced themselves to go do things, and find the beauty in allowing yourself some time to recharge with those you love <3

#back to our regularly scheduled program hello #senna and Izumi are both teenagers in this too #so kicking them out was perfectly reasonable I might add #zukka #sokka x zuko #zuko x sokka #single parents zukka #well single parents turned lovers turned family??? #they end up parenting their children together

[saltyfryz]

Just some doodles of a self indulgent au I created (⁠⁄⁠ ⁠⁄⁠•⁠⁄⁠-⁠⁄⁠•⁠⁄⁠ ⁠⁄⁠)

#my art #basically its an au were horror paps and me are together and our children are Dream and Nightmare #i call it #“Our lives as the parents of two celestial skeletons” #or #LATPOT #for short #sum of these r outta context #undertale au #horror papyrus #horror sans #killer sans #dust sans #dust papyrus #passive nightmare sans #dream sans #self indulgent

[swan2swan]

Annual reminder that Aang wasn't a terrible dad, that one episode was badly written and had poor perspective. Aang was a busy, working dad who had a lot of stuff to do, and then suddenly his third kid was a full-on Airbender and he was literally the only one qualified to teach this baby, so then he finally had an excuse to put his family before his duties ("My family IS my duty now, suckers!!!"), and so Kya and Bumi were all "What the heck, Dad???" because they were now teens (iirc) and they missed out on all that stuff.

It was basically Aang going from "my family has 20% of my time" to "my family has 40% of my time". Still not enough, probably, but Aang could finally go and explore his own culture without feeling guilty about leaving the rest of the world to fend for itself.

#poor dude probably had all kinds of mental issues #also literally everything else about his dadhood has been outstanding #his son gets a high rank in the navy #his lesbian daughter gets to go do her thing #tenzin had it hardest of all the kids #we can also get into the whole part where Aang's whole culture separated parents from their kids #so he wasn't exactly raised with a child-to-biological-parent bond himself #the perils of culture clash...especially with a devoted water tribe mother #you've got a culture that says ''Family is EVERYTHING parents will teach their children for LIFE'' #meeting a culture that says ''Everyone in the world is your family so you have to treat them equally'' #.....gosh that story really needs to be explored more #and they could NOT have delivered it more clumsily #or wrapped it up more frustratingly #''here we are lamenting all our insecurities and inner doubts but LOOK THIS FAMILY PHOTO SHOWS US HAPPY WE MUST HAVE BEEN HAPPY'' #I mean...they were #but it was also poorly executed #legend of korra #tlok #atla #how to tell the casuals from those who take this seriously #''aang was a bad dad'' do you even READ SUBTEXT

[kdafuckbrigade]

i'm going to tie myself up in knots thinking about lisa silverman. in KNOTS about it. ouroboros, you'll end up letting go. even if you bite down there's NEVER enough meat and it's not even your fault. you're always gonna have to let go. the only thing you get to choose is how far deep the scars can go, and that's not very comforting

#persona 2 #lisa silverman #I KICK A FUCKING TRASHCAN SO HARD IT EXPLODES #YOU ARE YOUR FATHER'S CHILD YOUR DESTINY IS TO BE ALIENATED #EITHER MAKE YOURSELF COMFORTABLE IN IT OR FORGET #oh but aren't we all. aren't we all our parent's children. #lisa im sorry that a bitch (me) would ever say anything like that

[thewuzzy]

Jack kissing Rose and 9 on prime time family telly did more for bisexual culture in Britain than the last fifteen years of corporate sponsored pride events

#more than 1 in 10 british people watched that moment on telly. more than 10% of our ENTIRE POPULATION experienced that moment together #and 3 million parents were forced to explain that this loveable #brilliant hero #is bisexual and could NOT frame it to their children as a bad thing #watershed moment #tv moments that changed history #uk shit posting #jack harkness #torchwood #dw #9th doctor #9 my beloved #john barrowman #bisexuality #5 million kids went oh so he likes boys too. cool whatever. and then went to bed not knowing that our lives had been changed for the better #rtd era

[7amaspayrollmanager]

I'm now converting specifically bc of these type of posts

#btw like in palestine yeah theres not like a demographic but in the diaspora yeah ur gonna find them so everyone stfu please #bc im remembering this one vid of a palestinian guy who said that hes jewish and palestinian bc one of his parents is jewish and #zionists were calling him a liar...why is that hard to believe #in the 48 lands theres probably a small number of children like that too #the director of arnas children identified as a palestinian jew #idk why ppl find this so hard to grasp like no in gaza and the west bank ur not gonna find some but in the diaspora like yeah? #our identity is not incompatible its just a national/somewhat ethnic identity

[kagrenacs]

Trans day of remembrance is a mixed day for me. Of course I'm always grateful I survived, and I have a supportive family and friend network. But it was at the cost of so much. And I know way too many trans kids who didn't make it, where I wish I could have done something more.

#My province is so terrible about our rights. They're passing bills that out students to parents #and I want to scream. I want to show them how that's harming children. How that's killed children. #I know people who have died too young bc of lack of support. multiple people this year alone

[waitmyturtles]

Your post about your upcoming Bad Buddy meta got me thinking about Bad Buddy (again), and I remembered one particular thing that had an impact. Apologies if this is long and rather incoherent, I wrote this past midnight.

In the final episode, the part where we see Ming and Dissaya turn a blind eye to Pat Pran's shenanigans really struck a chord with me.

[I'm an Indian, born and raised, and queer, but it's well worth mentioning that my experiences are not universal- in fact, they may be the exception rather than the rule; I'm not quite sure.]

What it reminded me of was, that asian parents tend to come around eventually- in particular mothers. We've seen time and time again in series' that deal with difficult/not accepting family members; Bad Buddy, GAP, Wedding Plan, maybe even Double Savage (haven't watched this one but I believe the dad feels bad in the end?), that even if the parental figure(s) doesn't agree with their children's choices, they learn to compromise. Because the difference in opinions isn't worth losing their children over. Obviously, for every parental figure that comes around there's one that the children cut ties with (Wedding Plan remains a good example), but I think it's something worth seeing.

It made me think of how I was never scared of coming out to my mother, because I knew that, despite the difference in views, and her prejudice, she'd accept me, no matter whether she thought it was a phase or not.

Do I know what the point of this ask is? Not really, I was rather nervous sending this ask, especially not on anon, but I'd love to know what you think of this, since I've come to really enjoy reading the thoughts you have on these shows.

Ohhhh, wow. @starryalpacasstuff, come 'ere for a big mom hug! HUGE HUGS!

I'm gonna unwind a little randomly; I hope this is coherent. A ton of what I write about on my blog vis à vis Asian dramas are the unique characteristics of Asian families and an Asian upbringing. Parental conditional love, competitiveness, our unique experiences with intergenerational trauma. I write a lot about how Asians, in our cultural expectations of life, accept pain and suffering as an assumed part of our existences. The reason why I watch Asian dramas exclusively is that, as I'm Asian-American, I just connect far more easily to the Asian cultural experience of growing from a child into an Asian adult, than I do the experience of white Western folks growing into their adulthood. I grew up intimately with Asian cultural practices and expectations; but I also grew up with racism in my external American world, and came to my adulthood in a society that still values white Americans above all other demographics.

But one thing I'm cognizant of, that I don't think I write about enough, is that many of these characteristics of the Asian cultural scopes of life are indeed similar to those that a fully American person (for example) might experience. It's not like intergenerational trauma doesn't exist in the West. It's not like homophobia in families against a child doesn't exist in the West.

However. As an Asian-American, one thing I note about many (not all, of course) Western families and family systems is that very often: Western adults will give up their agency to be loyal to what I might call a "higher power" -- a philosophy, a political preference, a religion. If a queer person wants to come out in a conservative American family, that queer person may very well be risking cutting permanent ties with their family.

That, of course, also happens in our Asian family systems. But I think you're onto something, @starryalpacasstuff. While divorce rates are sky-high in the West -- there is also a paradigm of family systems being and looking different in the West than they do in Asia. Asian family systems still don't accommodate for divorce and blended or chosen families as they do in the West.

The Asian family systems and paradigms that you and I grew up with as Indians absolutely still value a heterosexual two-parent household -- and I'd posit that our past generations, our grandparents and great-grandparents, put HUGE, HUGE pressure on our parents to keep the two-parent family systems together and whole. And to keep the children close. It's a huge value in our Asian cultures to have whole and complete families. The West has become far more accommodating, culturally, on this issue.

And, so. I totally agree with you, @starryalpacasstuff. I think we do see the beginning of a coming-around on the parts of Ming and Dissaya. And that coming-around is certainly something we can relate to. Our parents will likely accept us for our differences. I fucked a lot of shit up with my folks when I decided to live independently of their desires -- and I don't think things really healed (and I still carry tremendous traumatic baggage) until after I had my own kids, and expanded all of our families. Because in the end, the value in our Asian cultures is that keeping the family complete and close still matters more than any one's individual biases or desires.

Ming and Dissaya are remarkably traumatized people. Ming was traumatized by the expectations of his father. He screwed Dissaya over, and literally handed his trauma to Pat on a silver platter, for Pat to embody for most of his life. And Pat flipped that platter over in his father's face and ran away. Ming, at the end of the series, is passive-aggressive with Pat, despite Pat's efforts to try to work with him. And yet -- Ming still sips Pran's scotch.

To your point -- does time heal everything? I'm not so sure in the West, with the Western predilection for Christian/Puritanical/conservative values to supersede reasonable family resolutions. But I think, because of the value that Asian systems put on having complete families, that you are right -- that there may be more room in Asian family systems for eventual acceptance of a child's "differences," despite us living in collectivist societies. This is definitely not an absolute. There are environments in which it's still dangerous to come out. But the value that Asians put on family does indeed give us a tiny bit of comfort that our cultures can move the needle on acceptance in different ways over time.

#thank you for the ask! #the father in double savage does indeed come around #there's so much to think about here #and it's hard to talk in generalities #but i really think it's important that asian dramas about queer experiences show all facets of acceptance and rejection by asian parents #like i appreciated seeing the discriminating father in i feel you linger in the air #because back in that time discrimination was far more common #i think acceptance is growing and growing across asia #we still have conservative asian societies #but as our parents become more familiar with minority demographics #and as WE have our children and teach them about equity #over time #certainly the needle of acceptance will be moved #asian family systems #asian family systems in BLs #asian family systems in QLs #bad buddy #bad buddy meta #bad buddy the series #bad buddy the series meta

[raeiyyn]

1 & 2. Lindsay C. Gibson, "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" // 3. // 4. Katherine Fabrizio, Our Heart // 5. albertlaw's picture via flickr // 6. Father John Misty, I love you, Honeybear // 7. bojack horseman (02 x 1) // 8. Karen Thompson Walker, The Age of Miracles

#being haunted #web weaves #web weaving #compilations #parallels* #mb #lindsay c gibson #adult children of emotionally immature parents #katherize fabrrizio #our heart #father john misty #bojack horseman #karen thompson #on mothers and daughters #emotional loneliness #inherited loneliness #literature #art #words* #quotes #dark academia #dark acadamia aesthetic #mitski

[eliza-makepeace]

This...

#i mean i'm shattered #he's so gentle and soft and caring #terrified at the prospect of children but knowing just what he'd do if he had them #knowing every child (including himself) deserves love #and remembering his mama! she loved him. she was proud of him. and he knows. he remembers #ngl i always knew selena and i think the same way about our boy #he is in fact a beautiful boy and a strong boy #murtagh being emo about parents and parenting is something that can actually be so personal #murtagh #murtagh spoilers #murtagh morzansson #i know he said 'stop calling me that' to the werecat so i'll obviously add #murtagh tornacsson