#afam

[lovelessrage]

If you want to move forward in advocacy, you have to remove the stigma about not loving someone in any way, shape, or form. It doesn't mean you hate them, just... you don't love them. That binary of love/hate needs to be broken down for all types of love. This applies to aros and aces in relationships, yes, but goes double for aplatonics and afamilials who don't love their family or friends. Not loving someone isn't a condemnation of that person, it just means you don't feel that way about them. Lacking love doesn't mean you wish someone harm.

#aromantic #asexual #aplatonic #afamilial #loveless #aro #ace #apl #afam #aspec #scowl corner

[star1yn0]

HII! So I saw that you were taking requests and I was wondering if you could do an adam x fem!reader who’s really sweet and kind, but really dumb and oblivious to his flirting, ( ex, adam mentions something about her tits and she’s just like “thanks!” and adam’s just like (._.) )

Note: YESS LOVE THUS REQUEST I always love the idea of just a bimbo esk reader but I didn't know how you want it so I did my usual writing style can change if you want tho (⁠๑⁠•⁠﹏⁠•⁠)

Warnings: flirting or at least trying to + suggestive content also this is a f!reader

Adam x bimbo!reader

You were always so sweet and kind to Adam

That's the reason he loves you the most a truly good soul

But....for God sakes you cannot take a hint

I mean before you started dating he would flat out flirt

"whoa those tits are looking nice today babe"

And you'll just go "thanks Adam" (⁠ ⁠◜⁠‿⁠◝⁠ ⁠) no blush or anything

It's like he said something about boring shit like work

But God did that just make him want you more

He tried everything in the book of sex jokes

You even got used to him calling you "sugartits" like I was your given name

After you too got together everything started to click

You sit there flustered as you finally realized that for all these years your husband had been making dirty comments.it wasn't long before he came home.openig the door to see his wife in a chair in front of him giving him "the look".

"fuck...what did I do this time?" he searches his Chin with his pointer and thumb" Oh was it the toilet seat or-". "You think you're sooo sly huh" he gives you a confused look "what?" You stand from the chair walking over to him " you thought I wouldn't figure out that you were saying dirty things to me" you say as you dig your pointer finger in the center of his chest.he let out a sign of relief " geez babe you know your not the brightest mentally right" he saus in a playful tone as he bends down a little to get face to face. His hands grabbing both of your cheeks and giving them the little granny pinch of love. "You had me worried for a second you were leaving me". God did you hate but Adore this asshole.you pull him into a hug.taking in his sent."never.......but I think it's only fair if you act on those things you said" you lift your head up. Arms are still wrapped around him. "oh really"........

Although you are still a bit dim at times

I think he'll still love you

Even if you don't get his weird jokes

Note: this was fun but also a bit hard to write lol hope you enjoyed (⁠◍⁠•⁠ᴗ⁠•⁠◍⁠)⁠❤

#hazbin hotel adam x reader #adam x reader #fanfic #x reader #hazbin hotel x you #hazbin hotel smut #adam x you #afam #hazbin #hotel #hazbin hotel #hazbin adam #the original #adam hazbin hotel #star1yn0

[josefksays]

#Afam #Nico Locco #guys #ooooh #tattoos

[atertiary-culture-is]

Atertiary culture is being tired of people acting like tertiary/nonrose relationships such as friendship and family are mandatory, even if they acknowledge that romance and sex are not mandatory.

#atertiary #atertiary culture is #aterspec #atertiary spectrum #aspec #a spectrum #platonormativity #familialnormativity #vent #atertiaryphobia #aphobia #queer #atertiary-culture-is #aplatonic #apl #afamspec #afam #afamilial #atertiarymisia #amisia #aqp #aqueerplatonic #asensual #asen #anaesthetic #aneriattractional #anonrose

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Plato repulsed culture is feeling like the only person in the world to hate the "found family" trope in such a visceral way

Yeah.. Im also repulsed by it bc of familial repulsion (in addition to plato repulsion) tbh. I don't care if other ppl like it bc thats their preference, but its hard to find media that doesnt worm family or friendship into the plot in some way or the other, so I personally don't like this trope. I'm also sick of when ppl act like being queer means you want to have found family (just bc a lot of us are not accepted by our given families doesn't mean we're inherently looking for new family dynamics)

#found family repulsed #plato repulsed apl #plato repulsed #actually plato repulsed #apl #aplatonic #aplspec #aspec #friendship repulsed #friendship repulsion #plato repulsion #queer #familial repulsed #afam #afamilial #afamspec #adding those tags bc afam ppl can probably relate #-Rift #familial repulsion #family mention #found family mention #Im not tagging 'found family' on its own bc hell knows ppl who like the trope are probably gonna come at me for saying Im repulsed by it #if they see this post #anon submission #anon submissions #anon asks

[stil-yr-sand]

#fav #afam #adam

[sunsets-of-golden-rose]

mom called me heartless because i said i don't miss people :(

#lesson learnt #i shouldn't have been this open about my feelings with her :3 #loveless #afam

[jmotu927]

I used to be here on TUMBLR for blogging! Now I am back!

Love writing but I also ventured onto vlogging!

#hawaii #north hawaii #youtube video #pinay #filipina #youtube channel #travel vlog #vlog #japan life #osaka #ハワイ旅行 #国際結婚 #afam #polynesian #virtual diary #Youtube #pinay youtuber

[brettesims]

Reimagining the Black Jezebel 

Through Black Girl Magic

(An NFT Collection)

Did you know that historically black women were portrayed as promiscuous and even predatory. Black women socially fit in one of two stereotypes: The Mammy or The Jezebel. The Mammy stereotype depicted black women as unintelligent and motherly working within white households as the nanny or cleaner. The Black Jezebel was a stereotype that portrayed black women as tempting, and lewd in contrast to white women who were portrayed as models of control, self respect and modesty. 

I believe black women have a rare natural magic and alchemic power, so this collection is a reimagining of stereotypes through black girl magic and the beauty of nature. 

This is a re-envisioning black women as being a model of respect no matter what proverbial box she is placed in. In the words of Malcolm X, from his 1964 Speech to Women: “The most disrespected person in America, is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman.” In light of the truths he spoke, which are still prevalent today, this collection calls for a societal perspective shift.

I create work that exists to remind black women and collective humanity, not to be afraid to shine even when your light conflicts with societal norms. 

Whether she's a garden girl or party girl, an artist or lawyer, a free flowing indie/hippie or ceo, I want to remind viewers that black women can do all things and exist outside any box. 

This collection nudges you, the viewer, to remember your inner love, protect your magic, courageously keep growing, and always remember that the only moment that really exists, is NOW. You aren’t lost, you never were. Sometimes we all just need to be reminded of our own inner light to find our way home to center again. 

~ Brette

#artbybrette #nft #nfts #blackgirlmagic #black women #black jezebel #black history #african american studies #african american history #afam #women #black women artists #black art #black artists #nft artist #nft collection #nft buyers #nft collector #nft collectors #nft community #nft art #black girls #black girl magic #black girl moodboard #black girl luxury #black women ceos #black women in business #black lawyers #black beauty #black tumblr

[entropy-sea-system]

Dynasty by Rina Sawayama is such an afamilial-coded song...

Especially these lyrics;

I especially see this as relating to having been in abusive or toxic family environment, specifically one in which issues were brushed under the rug to maintain a perfect facade.

Of course, not all afamspecs are afamilial due to trauma or harm from family, but I am potentially and am also apothifamilial(repulsed by familial social relationships/being considered family) so. The line about parents raised differently hits me hard as someone whose given family has generational trauma ('the pain in my vein is hereditary')

And I have been constantly told that older generations in my culture were raised differently. This is not something that justifies abuse but unfortunately some people treat it like it does.

The lyrics about breaking the chain (reminds me of breaking the cycle of abuse) and making things right are very cathartic to me. I don't believe family should be this way and I, even if I can't exactly get out of it for a while, am looking to heal from it and maybe make a positive influence on others by acknowledging how family should be considerate towards each other when people are family, whether given, found, or something else.

(Exclus dni, no debating afamilial identity on this post, no mentions of 'narc abuse'/narc abuse truthers, no apologism of parental or familial abuse.)

#afamilial #afamspec #afam #aspec #atertiary #apothifamilial #trauma #parental abuse #familial abuse #toxic family #familial trauma #rina sawayama #dynasty #sawayama (2020) #music #lyrics #afamilial songs #afamilial-coded #familial aversion #familial repulsion

[lovelessrage]

Happy Hanukkah to celebrating jewish aspec! May it be peaceful and joyful to you and any people you celebrate with.

#hanukkah #chanukah #aspec #aromantic #asexual #aplatonic #afamilial #aro #ace #apl #afam #atertiary #arospec #acespec

[mcbannerprideflags]

Afamilial Flag & Shield

Flag #1 & Shield #1 white banner light grey per fess red base black chief

Flag #2 white banner light grey per fess light blue per fess inverted orange base black chief white fess

Shield #2 light grey banner light blue per fess inverted white fess orange base dexter canton orange base sinister canton black chief dexter canton black chief sinister canton

#afamilial #afam #minecraft pride flags

[josefksays]

Nico Locco in Afam (2023)

#Afam #Nico Locco #guys #hawt #scruff

[atertiary-culture-is]

Sorry to bother you, but could I ask what it's like to be afam? I'm realizing some of my behaviours seem kind of afam (openly not loving most* of my family, confusion and almost repulsion to my friend's "online mother", being uncomfortable with being compared to/jokingly called my pet's and my friend's family) but I don't actually know much about afam people and I'm not sure if this is caused by just having a weird (derogatory) family

*I like my aunt and my younger family and I guess my dad but even that feels different to how others seem to feel, aside from younger family. I'm not sure anymore, I guess it's better to ask and be wrong than to not and be right

.

Thanks for sending in this ask !

It is possible that you may find the afamilial label useful in describing your experiences, but you may also not find it a useful label.

Some of what you describe sounds like familial repulsion (which I also experience, but allofamilials may also experience and not all afamilials experience), and not feeling familial love. Afamilial includes disconnect from familial attraction / no familial attraction etc.

Both afamilial and allofamilial people may have familial trauma, or other bad experiences with family. Some may have perfectly normal or even good experiences with family. And some people may be afamilial due to trauma (labels like caedfamilial if one lost familial attraction due to trauma and have ptsd/cptsd, or erasfamilial for the same if they dont have ptsd/cptsd, are for that).

People describe familial attraction as wanting to be family with people, I don't know how it works myself though as Ive never felt it and I personally actively don't want to have any interaction w the bodys biological family or find found family, even if Im around them for financial dependence reasons rn.

Different afamilial people have different experiences, but I will talk about some things I experience related to my afamilial orientation:

-I don't wish to form familial bonds. I don't even want to consider my partners (Im allosexual and demiromantic, and atertiary) family even if I marry any of them at some point. I also don't want found family, and dislike that I live with the bodys biological family right now.

-I have never thought 'I want this person to be my family' or seen anyone 'as a parent/sibling/etc. figure', in fact even people who were that to me biologically I never actually wanted them to be that to me

-My orientation may be influenced by familial abuse - Im sick of how people get away with abusing me just bc theyre legally considered family

-It makes me very upset that, if I don't get married to another body, the bodys family will be given things like visitation rights or the right to make medical decisions for me if I am unable to, by law

-I never felt love towards the bodys family. When I was younger I felt really guilty for it, especially bc I didn't realise the bodys parenrs were abusive and I was constantly blaming myself for them abusing me

-For a while I thought that I only disliked the bodys family due to the abuse, but I realised I didn't want found family either

-The only way the 'found family' trope popular in queer media appealed to me was the idea of knowing other queer people, not being abused (though I am aware found family can be abusive too), and potentially having partners (back when I didn't have partners) - basically the family part itself did not appeal to me in the slightest

-I'm uncomfortable with being referred to as a sibling/sister/brother/parent/child etc. even jokingly - I also don't want to be a parent

-I genuinely don't understand how a spouse is automatically seen as family legally and socially. I view marriage as sexual and romantic, not familial, and if I were to marry someone I certainly don't want to 'start a family' with them

-I don't want to have pets either - both due to the way people assume pets become family, and due to being unable to take care of one (I know I can't handle that much responsibility for another life - like how I don't want to raise kids)

-I don't like being compared to people in the body's biological family - or made to feel like I cannot be anything more than who they are

My experiences are mainly of the no familial attraction, familial repulsed afamilial type so would not be reflective of all afamilial people

#afamilial #atertiary #aterspec #afam #afamspec #afamilial experiences #-Rift #anon ask #anon asks #afamilial questioning #questioning #aterspec questioning #aspec #abuse mention #familial abuse mention #parental abuse mention #family mention

[titaofpampanga]

Kaya pala wala na ako mahanap na AFAM, nakay ateng na pala lahat. 🥲

#repost #pix #facebook #lol #funny #joke #burn #savage #sassy #sass #afam #marites #mosang

[samuelkohanteb]

Blog post 4

There were many themes in Eve’s Bayou that played a significant role in allowing the audience to understand what exactly is occurring and what the message is in which the creator is aiming to convey. After listening to the lecture, I found the themes that the Professor highlighted to be quite eye opening in that it shows a different lens in which one can view the film. For instance, the theme of secrets is one that played a huge role in the film. As the film has a focus on a secret affair of Eve’s father, the film surrounds its message on the underlying knowledge of this and displays the true horrors that such can lead to. When Eve tells of her dad in the carriage house with Mrs marro, it is clear that her sister really knew what aimed to hide it from eve. The secret goes around the community, which is also another meaningful theme of the plot in this film. Beyond the film, it comes to show just how deeply one can be affected by “secrets” and community. Even when one thinks there is a dark secret that no one knows, the true secret might be that everyone already knows. One can make the argument that this directs the sense of irony that the creators might have been looking for; however, what the motive is really pushing is that of the film's horror in the domestic sense. Despite many critics believing that this film is not really a horror, many on the other side believe it is truly a horror due to its sense of mental and emotional horror displayed through its traumatic effects. One of the main aspects of the film is that of the tight-knit community and the closeness of the characters in the film. The characters appear to live and feel close to each other. The community is based in community, in which community is a source of togetherness and strength; however, one of the more interesting aspects of the film is that it shows that community can also be a source of one's demise. Because everyone is so close, it leads to everyone knowing everything in the bubble. With that, it is difficult for secrets to be kept and for wrongdoings to be hidden. Because of their closeness, their mistakes erupt much faster than a regular community and it can have a snowball effect, eventually leading to much bigger consequences. Overall, I really enjoyed watching this film and found the notions of secrets and community quite intriguing in that it displays the benefits and disadvantages of a close-knit community. 

#blog post #AFAM