#anyone who responds with negativity is being rude to me please don't

[mint-yooxgi]

Está bien, voy a hablar en español porque si no no sé expresarme bien.

La persona que dijo que ese capítulo era "cringe" fue innecesariamente desagradable y maleducada, ahí no hay dudas.

Pero la forma en que respondisteis tanto tu como muchos otros seguidores estaba (en mi opinión) fuera de lugar. Se puede llamar la atención por un comportamiento sin llamar "hoe" a nadie.

Y seamos sinceros, sí que insinuaste que el motivo de ese mensaje era toda la discusión de las masterlist, y no que a "cringe anon" podría simplemente no hablerle gustado el capítulo. Así que ahí diste pie a que tiraran hate a otro autor. Está bien cometer errores, pero también debes saber aceptarlo y pedir disculpas cuando te equivoques.

Y por último (esto es una observación personal), siempre pides feedback cuando publicas algo, para lo cual estás en todo tu derecho. Pero el feedback es tanto positivo como negativo, también se debería dar una crítica constructiva sin miedo a que te ataquen por ello ni te acusen de tener otro motivo oculto para tener dicha opinión.

PD. You are very tallented but i think you are under a lot of stress, its okay to take a break and not answer while youre disturbed, and i mean that honestly im not saying it in a bitchy way

I'm providing a screenshot of the translation, as well as the copy-pasted version of the English translation down below so people can't keep coming back at me for 'mistranslating' something. This is getting way out of hand, and I'm tired of repeating myself and talking in circles.

Translation: Okay, I'm going to speak in Spanish because otherwise I won't know how to express myself well. The person who said that chapter was "cringe" was unnecessarily unpleasant and rude, there's no doubt about it. But the way you and many other followers responded was (in my opinion) out of line. You can get attention for a behavior without calling anyone a "hoe." And let's be honest, you did hint that the reason for that message was the whole masterlist discussion, and not that "cringe anon" might simply not like the chapter. So there you gave rise to another author being hated. It's okay to make mistakes, but you should also know how to accept it and apologize when you make a mistake. And lastly (this is a personal observation), you always ask for feedback when you publish something, which you have every right to do. But feedback is both positive and negative, constructive criticism should also be given without fear of being attacked for it or accused of having another ulterior motive for having that opinion.

I'm going to put my response under a read more, because this was a lot.

Okay, first things first. I would LOVE for you all to show me where I, emphasis on I, called anyone a "hoe". Because in my vivid recollection, and as you can see in this screenshot below. I, emphasis again on I, was called a "dumbass hoe always complaining."

I would literally LOVE to see exactly where I called someone a hoe. Please, point it out to me. Cause either I'm suffering from severe memory loss, or things are being wildly misinterpreted on someone else's part.

Also, please DO show me where I "gave rise to another author being hated". Cause, as far as I can tell, I never ONCE implied an author to be behind the 'cringe anon' ask. I recognize I got a few ASKS implying that, but at the end of the fucking day, MY followers were coming onto MY blog to defend ME from a fucking RUDE ASS ANON who sent CRITICISM, not even CONSTRUCTIVE to ME about a fic I posted at the END OF SEPTEMBER. It is now HALFWAY through DECEMBER. A little later for 'constructive' criticism, don't you think?

I already answered an ask regarding the timing of these whole anons, which can be found here. Feel free to peruse at your own leisure.

MAKE. IT. MAKE. SENSE.

Yes, I DO ask for feedback when I FIRST POST a work of fiction. But let's be very clear, that very first 'cringe anon' ask I got, was not fucking 'feedback'. I am going to be very fucking direct here when I say you all need to go learn the fucking difference between CONSTRUCTIVE feedback, and straight up criticism.

Something constructive would offer examples. It would not frame the ask as if I should be ashamed for even being capable of producing something 'cringe' and 'unaturally writen'. (Unnaturally written, I digress, but I'm quoting here; providing examples).

Here is the ask in question below which started this whole 'cringe anon' thing.

Again, referencing the TIMING of this whole ordeal, it is VERY fucking obvious this ask was sent because someone was butthurt I made THIS post.

WHY YOU SHOULD TAG AUTHORS IN YOUR FIC REC POSTS.

I'm glad to know that SO many of your attitude regarding a literally hate anon that was sent to me, while said anon was being very rude about it towards me, is "you should roll over and LET them step all over you." I've said it before, and I'll say it again. This is MY fucking blog. If I receive a rude ANONYMOUS message shitting all over my hard work, yeah, I'm going to be fucking upset about it. Just like I'm fucking upset about this now.

Also, I DON'T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE'S ACTIONS!

Just as certain people will defend me regarding this entire ordeal, others will not. Others, like you here, anon, will not agree with me, but I feel like you're getting a lot of your facts mixed up, and THAT is not fair. You're free to oppose me, to say how I responded was rude, and perhaps it was, to some people. I honestly took the anons lightly, I made a joke out of it, as you can CLEARLY SEE in my responses to both anons. Until other people started banging their pots and pans, crying that I, emphasis on I, am the one calling other people 'hoe's, and being rude to hateful anons, I was not thinking about people actually coming onto MY BLOG and defending the ANONYMOUS PERSON sending ME hate!

And let's examine the idea of constructive criticism, shall we? You know when that is actually acceptable? When the product in question is still being constructed! Chapter Fifteen (15) of Paradise Gardens had been out for WELL over two months at this point. If I had gotten this same ask back when I was first ASKING for feedback, I probably would have shrugged it off, went, "okay, thanks, but that's just your opinion. Sorry you didn't enjoy the chapter." And guess what? My followers STILL would have more than likely come to my defence and send stuff like, "idk what that other anon was on about, but the chapter was incredible!"

No body knows my blog better than I do. I run it, for fuck's sake! But let's understand the full picture before you try and focus on the (very jumbled, and clearly very wrong) details you might have.

Am I adding more fuel to the fire at this point? Maybe. Am I fucking mad this keeps going on when all I originally asked for was basic fucking RESPECT for your favourite authors by showing them SUPPORT with a tag in your fic rec posts? Yes. Yes I fucking am.

Like, let's break this down for a second. This is ALL really about SOMEONE, emphasis on SOMEONE because I don't know fucking WHO it is since the 'cringe anon's came on exactly that, ANON. This is really ALL about someone taking time out of THEIR fucking day to be salty in MY ask box, on MY blog, because I made a post (again, linked above in all caps) stating why you should have basic respect, common curtesy, be a decent fucking human being, and tag your authors in your fic rec posts.

Good fucking day.

#ask #smh #sigh

[holllandtrash]

woah woah woah. i am the anon that sent that message and i have a bone to pick with you. first you completely ignore my apology after i have explained how you misinterpreted my words. then you go on to reply to others and spread false info?? FYI- i wasn’t referring to your tiktok, i’ve never even viewed your page bc it’s probably boring af. i was referring to the hundreds of posts on your tumblr. who do you think you are to talk to me like this? get over yourself you’re not a celebrity 💀

if you had come off anon and reached out to me privately or sent me a message, i would have loved to have a conversation with you and clear the air, but because you want to continue to hide behind the secrecy of a screen, i am going to respond to this publicly and i am going to break down my response so no one gets their feelings hurt.

"i am the anon that sent that message and i have a bone to pick with you." this is not how you start a conversation with anyone, and if you are looking for respect here, you're not getting it by starting off like that.

"first you completely ignore my apology after i have explained how you misinterpreted my words." if you had looked at my recent post, you would have seen I put out a general thank you to those who did send kind words. i did not respond to every single one, or any of them for that matter (except 1) because as mentioned, i was taking a short little break from tumblr and did not want to read my inbox. by the time i did go to look at what people had sent me, i skimmed the inbox and realised that a lot of them had some not so nice things to say about you and your message and the last thing i wanted was more negativity on my page, regardless of who it was directed at. for your benefit, i kept those messages in the inbox. i put out one general thank you because this situation was something i wanted to move on from.

also this was your apology:

no where in that message is a proper explanation as to what you were referring to when you said "u need to write more fanfics instead of giving your opinions."

also what if i didn't accept your apology? i don't owe it to you to respond if i don't want to.

"then you go on to reply to others" i replied to one person because the first sentence in their message caught my eye. that user is from italy, more specifically the region that is affected by the flooding and i wanted to share with them they were in my thoughts and i hoped they were safe.

"and spread false info??" FYI- i wasn’t referring to your tiktok, i was referring to the hundreds of posts on your tumblr. what false info? yes, i admit, maybe i did jump to assume you were referring to my podcast/tik tok and what i had said about imola, but in my defence, why would someone come on my blog and tell me to not post on my blog? that doesn't make any sense at all, and again, it's just rude. maybe you meant it as a joke, (you didn't, we know that now) but you need to understand that you cannot go into someone's inbox and say things like that. people are allowed to post what they want on their blogs. if you just wanted to read their work, there's a good chance they have a masterlist you can scroll through to avoid the rest of their posts.

"i’ve never even viewed your page bc it’s probably boring af." please see exhibit a: you saying you love my page and my podcast (which is the exact same as my tik tok). so you're being dishonest in one of those messages. also, i can assure you it's not boring. if it were boring, i wouldn't have been invited to texas or toronto to work with other creators, but i totally understand if my content is not something you want to watch or listen to. it's not for everyone, but it's also certainly not boring.

"who do you think you are to talk to me like this?" this is what i said:

you are quite literally the one who sent me a message with the underlying tone that said "talk less, write more" and you are not the first person to send me a message like that, your message was simply the one that pushed me over the edge and i had to say something. you are the one who came to my page and said "u need to write more fanfics instead of giving your opinions." so let me ask you, who do you think you are, talking to me like that? those paragraphs i put out were, yes, for you but also for the dozens of other people who think its fair to tell people to write more. if you saw that and got personally offended because you thought it was a message that resonated with you and what you had said, that's on you.

"get over yourself you’re not a celebrity" never said i was babes, i'm just a human being. i will stand up for myself and share my opinions and i believe you have been extremely disrespectful. i've done nothing wrong. my inbox is still open, as are my messages, if you would like to come off anon and have a real conversation. but until you understand that there is a way to talk to people and how spoke to me is not it, i fear you may not get the respect you desire.

as per your most recent message:

i don't believe you're sorry for the outburst, but i do believe it was sent in frustration and haste. again, if you had reached out to me privately and off anon, this whole thing could have been avoided. thank you for liking my writing, i am not apologising for anything i said or for my personality as you seem to be the only one who has a problem with it. if you would like to unfollow me, i understand, but please, don't leave any more messages for any more writers that implies 'talk less, write more'.

thank you

[coldstoicism]

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#🧊: rules.

[misty-wolf-draws]

Hello FNAF Tumblr. I know this probably isn't something I should be posting about here but it's really been bothering me so I want to talk about it. I'm making this post because I want to make sure you all are at least aware of how rude certain people in the fandom can be.

And to anyone who finds a similar post to this on Twitter, it will be by me. Just wanted to make that clear for anyone who doesn't follow me there.

So back in March, I posted a drawing to all of my socials for FNAF 3's anniversary. (In case you want to see it but don't wanna scroll through my page a bunch here it is. Warning for slightly offensive content)

As you'll see in the drawing, I made Nightmarionne femme presenting. This is because I drew her the way she appears in my AU. In said AU, she's an extraterrestrial being who modeled herself after the original Marionette, who is also femme presenting.

Earlier today I got a notification on DeviantArt saying someone had commented on the post. When I opened it, this is what I found:

Of course I was put off by this, but I responded as politely as I could while setting my boundaries.

Now let me make this clear, I wasn’t sure how far this person would take the situation, so I took a screenshot of their comment and my reply. That's why my comment says "Just now."

After that I left DeviantArt for a bit, took a quick nap then got myself ready to go out. Once I'd finished brushing my teeth I checked to see if the person responded. And not only did they respond, but they also hid their original comment and brushed me off.

I'm not entirely sure if they still have any negative opinions on my fnaf art or if they just won't look at my page anymore but I found this approach to be very cowardly and their initial comment very rude. I would have been more understanding if they just asked why Nightmarionne was a girl in the drawing instead of wording their comment the way they did.

If you've made it this far down and are still wondering why I decided to post about this, I just wanted to hear people's opinions on stuff like this and see if anyone else has had people make rude comments over miniscule things. Please don't take this as me trying to cancel this person as that's not the purpose of this post.

Please tell me if I handled this situation well, and if you're an artist, tell me if someone has commented something like this on one of your art posts.

#five nights at freddy's #fnaf #personal stuff #fnaf 3 #personal experience

[strangertheories]

ops on melvin shippers?

Anon, what are you hoping to achieve with this? What do you want me to say? And how is that going to do anything in any way? I've gotten asks like these in the past and I think people want me to see these asks and go "Melvins are crazy and homophobic and dumb" or whatever. And I know you want me to be negative or else you'd have said Mileven. But that's not going to do anything. You're only sending these asks to create conflict.

You can feel free to ask me my opinions on a ship or an analysis of it or whatever, but I don't feel comfortable generalising a large group of shippers based on the worst of them. I don't want people to think me shipping Byler or being anti-Mileven as a ship means I'm down to be rude about a group of shippers who for the most part are just trying to ship Mike and Eleven in peace?

It might come through, but I'm just becoming so disillusioned with ship drama. Don't get me wrong, I understand why people might not like a group of shippers. Ironically, every time I've defended Mileven I have gotten rude asks from toxic Mileven shippers. But I guarantee you an openly Mileven account gets lots of negative asks too. Because everyone hates how their ship because of the worst people in a group and then do the same thing. And it's all so silly because most of the hate is reactionary to people from other ships so if we all just stopped demonising each other and tried to get along it would stop. But I know that would never happen, so I'll at least try to make my account an ok space for people who ship things I don't like as much (unless it's a bad ship like st*bin or h*rringrove in which case don't follow me).

And if you respond to this ask saying "oh but Mileven shippers are worse because they're homophobic" or "Byler shippers are so toxic and hate Eleven", congratulations, you've missed the point. Because in my experience, both sides kind of suck sometimes. I get sent mean anti-Byler asks if I post about that ship. But if I disagree about anything that Byler shippers say, then I get rude asks from them. Hell, I even got told I was disrespecting Byler because I wanted both Byler and Ronance to be canon. I shouldn't be scared to post because people get angry at me from both sides. I made this account because I wanted to anonymously share my thoughts about the show I love without fear of being judged or being cringy and then I get sent stuff like this where I'm expected to slag off people doing the same thing just with another ship.

I completely understand why someone might dislike another ship if they've had negative experiences with that ship. I've had bad experiences with toxic Mileven shippers lots of times and it's easy to dislike them. But slagging off an entire group of people isn't going to actually do anything beyond just creating conflict and arguements. If a rude anti-Byler slides into my ask box and I have something constructive to add to it, I still will, but please know that I'm not down to slag off all Mileven shippers. I'm just so sick of ship wars, it's all anyone cares about. I want to make posts about theories and the show I love but nobody cares unless it's about a ship which makes me sad because I think people don't appreciate the actual show enough. I can't wait for everyone to say the show is horribly written if one of their ships doesn't become canon because that's all they value about the show :/. Ships should add to your enjoyment, not have your enjoyment depend on them, y'know?

Hope this makes sense.

#stranger things #byler #mileven #st fandom #st discourse #fandom discourse #stranger things fandom #byler tumblr #mike wheeler #will byers #el hopper

[doverstar]

this is another lowercase anon, the same one from the posts last night but i didn’t do the last one. that person that last person mentioned though makes me feel even worse about coming out and saying that what you said was insensitive or dismissive as i’ve dealt with or am dealing with those things. they’re saying it’s stupid we were hurt by something and you don’t need to apologize. while i somewhat accept the answers you provided, that person is being very harmful to survivors mental states and basically straight up invalidating it. everyone has different perspectives and i think they need to understand that. but in that recent ask you answered, they straight up were being rude as fuck about trauma we have endured. you can say you’re allowing people to voice their own opinions but when those opinions are harmful to survivors, that is when they need to be called out. and with this case in particular it seems like you’re endorsing it.

Hi! There are two Lowercase Anons! The plot thickens. Like soup. (It's fall and I'm under the weather, I have soup on the brain-) I'm sorry what I've said hurt you in my posts. I apologized to the first Lowercase Anon, but I'm glad of the opportunity to apologize to you, too: I'm very sorry if anything I've posted about abuse/ED/anything hurt you. Never my intention when stating my opinions, especially about a fictional character of all things. So - I'm not going to call anyone out on anything for a little while. I'm trying to wash my hands of this whole incident and let 80% of me disappear from the Hellcheer fandom and the ST community altogether. I think that's best? But I also don't want to ignore people who talk to me; so I'm responding when they do! If you think someone needs to understand your thoughts, I think you should talk to them. I don't control other people - and I'm not responsible for their actions, either. Please don't hold me accountable for things other people say - in this circumstance or any others in the future! I can't control what you guys think of me. If I'm silent, you'll think I'm endorsing it. If I rage or fight because you tell me I should, there'll be more people upset on the other side of all this. It's causing further damage in this already-lengthy hurricane of online negativity that I never meant to kick off. If you decide to think I'm endorsing something when I've never said or implied that I am, I can't stop you. And if you decide to think I'm not endorsing something when I've never said or implied that I am, I can't stop you there either. Changing people's minds on the internet is an exhausting battle no one ever seems to win, and I think it's unlikely I'll be the Neil Armstrong of that fight. Thank you for reaching out!

#ask doverstar #asked #answered #the lowercase anon 2.0 #your own tag! :D #maybe I'll start making up names for ALL the anons that talk to me #that's fun #I want soup

[skylinesnsunshines]

hello, sky! i hope you're doing well, love <3

this is about @themoonistalkingtou, nothing heavy or negative, and i just hope you'd take this the right way!

i recently received a reading from them and the thing is that it resonated 100%, so i just wanted to reassure you that they're legit, they aren't lying about being a tarot reader, they're not a scammer!

BUT i also want to say that the communication gap they created is definitely very upsetting and something they shouldn't have done; a small response should've worked too, but they completely blocked out conversation.

maybe they are just going through a hard time? i wouldn't know; nor do i mean to let you down via this, i understand it is incredibly disrespectful to you and you feel quite saddened. since i'm trying to [kinda?] defend them here, i also wanna put in that yes, they were rude, but please give them a second chance!

maybe they'll realize?

anyways, i pray that i wasn't rude or offended you OR hurt your feelings, anyhow! i can understand what being ignored after putting your hard-work into something feels like. i hope you don't have to deal with people who don't reciprocate your effort 🌷

i hope you have a lovely time, afterwards! love, light and positivity to you <3

hi there lovely! thank you so much for your message i really appreciate it 🥹

i totally agree, i don’t think they’re a scammer as i’ve seen their work which is what drew me to ask for the exchange reading initially. i definitely still have hope and would like to believe that they might be going through some difficulties which has hindered them from communicating. i hope they come forward and clarify that this my case was a one off and doesn’t happen to anyone else. i still haven’t received any sort of communication though, so im just going to be hopeful until they do.

and your message was so kind and understanding! i appreciate you for showing me your perspective 🫶🏼 thank you so much for taking time out of your day to respond to me! likewise lovely 🤍🤍🤍

#answered

[hoghtastic]

Notice how the admin can’t even deny being in the wrong for (subtly) encouraging and egging on this kind of behavior when it’s mentioned (“called out” is a trigger phrase apparently) so they brings up other completely irrelevant things that they have supposedly gotten right with this blog to overshadow the wrongdoings. Literally nothing you said had any correlation to the ask posted saying you know you are in the wrong for also thinking that behavior is entertaining. So you can’t deny it, then it must be true. Meaning the way you respond to the rude asks completely goes against how you claim you want to run your blog…

"You are in the wrong for also thinking that behavior is entertaining." — Since I'm a person with a sense of humor, I do find some of the memes funny. Does that mean they're politically correct? Not so much. Those are not the same thing. Taking the nickname list as an example (again!), I did state that I find some of those funny, others not so much. Personally, I don't refer to Johanne by any other thing than her own name, and I invite you to check all of my replies to see that this is true. But I will not call out others for using such nicknames. Censorship is not what this blog is about. And the only thing I "encourage" here is freedom of expression. If people use it to post negative things about Johanne, so be it. It reflects the state of the fandom, at least the part that decides to engage with the blog. You can definitely make use of yours to post more positive things too. My "job" is to post the asks and try to keep some peace, the content of the asks are the responsibility of those who send them.

"The way you respond to the rude asks completely goes against how you claim you want to run your blog…" — Please tell me when was I ever rude/disrespectful to anyone?

#anon asks

[kingofthewilderwest]

Things I Fucking LOVE About VLD S8

Katie watching freaking Defender of the Universe and marveling at how Pidge’s voice actor sounds.

Katie Holt looking adorable wearing ponytails.

Mrs. Holt totally momming Katie.

GIRL’S SHOPPING DAY GIRL’S SHOPPING DAY GIRL’S SHOPPING DAY!!! Getting together Nadia, Ina, Allura, Pidge, and Romelle?!!

Pidge and Nadia being such gaming nerds.

Pidge exploiting her fame as Pidge and dressing up as freaking Darrell Stoker / Retro Pidge. Like you have no idea how much I wanted to scream in happy seeing her with the old outfit and hairstyle, this is such a blessing. SUCH a blessing holy crow.

Allura wearing one of her old outfits from the 1980s too! So many DOTU references this season!

Coran is having way too much fun with Lance.

Lance and Keith chilling out together on top of the lion watching the sunset and having a good convo. Look how far these two’s relationship has come. Look at them. It’s so good.

Dinner with Lance’s family is so pure.

The visuals with Allura and the tree are so beautiful.

Cute photograph moment! 

There’s an entire episode dedicated to Honerva’s past, showing her struggling emotions now that she’s remembering everything that’s been, showing her internal conflict and struggle, giving us a clear and deep understanding of her hurt and hate.

Baby Lotor is fucking adorable. Like look at that kid. Look at those big eyes. Oh my gosh he’s adorable. 

Lotor’s past is painful and it’s exactly the sort of crap I expected. Received no affection from his father. Was pushed into a Galra empire that didn’t value mercy. Watched the place he cultivated destroyed. Exactly the sort of thing I was expecting from his past to lead to his current state of mind as we meet him in S3. It shows how he’s someone who wants to revolutionize the empire, but is someone whose mind and ideas have been clearly influenced by his culture and upbringing.

I like how the robeasts have been developed throughout the series. How they clearly evoke the past ideas from DOTU/BKG of turning biological creatures into mechanized weapons. How the first season starts with Voltron doing lots of single episodes one-on-one fighting the robeasts, akin to the 1980s show. How the robeasts grow into an increasingly great problem by S8, and are now piloted by brainwashed Alteans. It’s a legitimately cool progression and makes the robeasts feel like a threat even while not repeating the same episode format over and over.

So many Altean warrior ladies on the forefront of Honerva’s forces.

“The Prisoner’s Dilemma” is a fan-fucking-tastic episode all around. One of my favorites for this season for sure.

It starts with Voltron, the ATLAS, the rebels, and the MFEs working together to take down a base. This is an amazing fight moment. It’s showing how far everyone has come since the start, how much they’ve grown, and it sings. And it’s showing REALLY cool team coordination. This is like. All around epically cool I fucking love it.

Matt Holt and his ponytail <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

I love how this episode focuses on trying to end the Galra Empire’s remaining power but also trying to show mercy to the Galra. I love how it shows a Galra leader who’s had help from Voltron before still being doubtful - and how more acts from Voltron bring him around. It takes time to convince someone who’s been part of the Galra Empire that Voltron is okay to ally with - and it shows how the Voltron Coalition is gaining ground.

There is some serious nice creepy tension in this episode.

KEITH BLASTING THROUGH THE DOOR WITH EPIC BIG GUN!

I love how Lance’s characterization feels like they took him and turned him more into his DOTU self over the course of the series. Honestly, as with all of them! The characters grow into those positions and selves.

“Battle Scars” is probably the episode that got me the most emotional. Olkarion is a planet and culture I loved, too. Watching it fall - watching that beautiful planet actually get destroyed along with many of its citizens - was painful. This is a good way to show Honerva’s power and the high-stakes dangers of her actions.

The idea of Pidge watching the past to learn what happened was a cool narrative effect, and also had good long-term story arc development since she learned how to track the robeasts, too.

Also amazingly good lesson / theme for that episode.

“The Grudge” is another cool episode that’s got the unique twist of the Paladins relying not on their typical weapons, but on having to be resourceful with the minimum. Another good, original premise.

Acxa and Veronica. Acxa and Veronica. Oh my gosh Acxa and Veronica. Acxa and the rest of the MFEs. Acxa and the humans. It’s so great. Acxa saying everything and it’s coming out SUPER edge-lord and everyone’s trying to figure out how to handle it. 

I fucking love Ina Leifsdottir. I love her personality so much. And I’m 99% sure the writers intended her as autistic representation and I think they did a good job with her.

Okay but this season really has a lot of fun with the MFEs. They don’t steal the show and take too much time, but we get a GREAT sense of personality from them. Rizavi and Kincade together is a delightful combo. I love her energy and love of action. I love his nerdy passions. They’re so fun. 

Let’s be real: one thing Voltron does consistently well is that, no matter how much screen time we have with a character, we get a GREAT sense of their personality, and we love them. There are so many different, lovable, often quirky personalities in Voltron. It’s so rich with its character personalities. I love how there’s a broad cast of characters and yet I can still connect to them all.

I appreciate how S8 wrapped up the story of Lotor’s generals. It would have been easy to have them die, just be casualties, and not have them or their narrative go anywhere. Instead, we get a wrap-up. They’ve been through a lot of twists, turns, and confusing life choices. Now they finally find a place. I like that Lotor’s team (who followed a man who was extremely misguided but wanted some good things) ended up being able to find a productive cause in the end. 

SPACE GALRA LESBIANS RETURN!

I honestly love the dynamic of ATLAS + Voltron. The Castle of Lions is really cool and I felt extremely sad and nostalgic when they lost it. But ATLAS + Voltron has a legitimately awesome sci-fi, mission-oriented dynamic. The Castle of Lions felt like there was always a home, whereas ATLAS gives the sense of being in space on a journey and mission. It gives me Vehicle Force Voltron vibes, ESPECIALLY with the inclusion of the MFEs.

Speaking of the 80s show and retro Voltron references, we got Merla!

This season focuses a bloody fuckton on Allura, but it shows a lot of depth and conflicted thoughts with her. It shows her as a woman of power. It shows her as someone tempted with problematic solutions or darker powers. It shows her loving, being loved, finding family, and marching ever-steady onward with her purpose. There’s a lot of complex psychology with how Allura’s handling these latest events and it’s written in a way we can understand exactly why she’s making the choices she does, good and bad.

“One... two... three... ALUMINUM!”

I love how Sam Holt overall gives Slav good respect for his more “superstitious”-esque approaches to things, and also valuing Slav for his powerful mind and abilities.

Lots of things from earlier seasons get remembered - Olkarion, Slav, Matt Holt, Shay, the Balmera, and more - and continue to play out in the final conflicts.

I legitimately love seeing Voltron team up with ATLAS in its transformed form. Shiro and Keith working completely equally. Keith’s become a fully-fledged leader. Shiro’s got hoards of respect and leadership power. Together everyone coordinates and kicks butt.

HOW have I not mentioned the visuals yet in this season? This was the most colorful and visually appealing season in Voltron YET - and we’ve been given season after season of really beautiful images. I love how, even though Voltron is set in SPACE, which is so full of voidness, we get so much color and light and appealing color pallets. Voltron is a visual delight.

“Day Forty-Seven” has got to be one of my favorite episodes of this season, if not a stand-out for the entire series to me. Some people might feel differently about this episode than me, but I honestly find it so unique and fun. It’s legitimately hard to try to write an episode following one camera for twenty minutes, while also telling a coherent story. And yet it DOES. We get a good narrative - while at the same time it feels so REAL. “Day Forty-Seven” gives us the ability to watch the entire ATLAS crew work, and allows us to watch Voltron from an outsider’s perspective as they go on dangerous missions - without the music, fanfare, camera angles, etc. And it’s so amusing getting everything from a dog carrying a camera around to Rizavi being upset that yeast is part of the documentary. And it shows so many characters and character dynamics and a sense of a full crew where everyone knows each other. And Rizavi and Kincade together are such a DELIGHT. And oh my goodness I could gush incoherently about this episode for a long time. It’s so much fun.

Keith and Hunk stuck on a musical ride. Love it. 

The bargaining Pidge and her mom do!!! The Holt family photograph!

Epic arm wrestling competition is epic. And I love how it all started because Shiro felt abashed being called “old.” Poor guy’s still in his 20s! And I love how it turned into all of Team Voltron CELEBRATING THE FUCK out of Shiro winning. Like, these guys have fought countless dangerous foes across the universe. And these dorks get over-the-top excited at Shiro’s accomplishment of winning an arm wrestling competition at a fair.

I laughed so hard at the Warden talking about how he found a purpose in arm wrestling.

The Voltron team joining up with the original Voltron team was pretty cool. I also love how it was animated where we would see the original Team branching off like apparitions out of Voltron, or how we’d see the pilots in the cockpit fading from one to the other.

Allura and Alfor reunion!!! I think this was done right. I am not a fan of stories where a character seems to lose someone, only for that person to magically be brought back. In this case, given the location of where Allura and Alfor unite, we know they’re not going to be able to resume a life of father and daughter. It’s a temporary reunion, and it happens a VERY LONG time after we’ve suffered through all of Allura’s pain in VLD about leaving Alfor behind. It doesn’t compromise the integrity of all the seasons that have come before it about their loss of Alfor and the Alteans, but it also gives us a touching moment of Allura seeing someone she’d never thought she’d see again.

VLD S8 shows that people aren’t cut-and-dry “always evil.” It shows how it’s a complex combination of your environment and your choice. Zarkon isn’t someone who is innately evil pure and simple, nor is Honerva, nor is Lotor. It also makes sure to remind us of the power of choice. Zarkon and Honerva also aren’t JUST victims of the entity - S8 reminds us that they pursued quintessence and poor choices that led to further bad consequences, too. And just because someone might not have been a villain with alternate choices, and just because someone DID become a villain... S8 reminds us that they still took this particular path. It doesn’t erase that Lotor might have wanted to make some positive differences, but turned into a villain. It looks at the complexity of people, how they have both goodness and badness within their potentials. And... it lets it be shown that just because you make a bunch of bad decisions doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to leave those choices and turn around. People aren’t “just evil.”

How have I not yet mentioned I love the uniforms that the Paladins wear when they’re not in their Lions?

THE ATLAS-VOLTRON FUSION. THE ATLAS-VOLTRON FUSION. THE ATLAS-VOLTRON FUSION. THAT IS AWESOME AS FUCK!

The S3 idea of alternate realities gets brought back in QUITE the way as Voltron chases Honerva through many realities.

I appreciate how Honerva spends so much time trying to find the perfect reality... and when she thinks she’s found it, it doesn’t do what she wants. It’s exactly what we would respect she’d reap. You can’t just tear across space and time to find happiness. At the same time, we can also feel her pain. 

Okay but Honera? I love her armor in this season too. Man I just. Love lots of what people wear this season.

I love Allura’s send-off. I love that the stakes got so high in VLD that we had to lose a main character, but not in a way that felt like a painful death. I love that Voltron was willing to give us a concrete ending where there’s no “going back” to the way things were before. I love that they still give us a sense of hope and growth even with the hurt of losing a main character. I love how it takes Allura, who always had such a strong sense of responsibility, and act on that responsibility in the most responsible and selfless choice possible. I love that she got to embrace every Paladin and say how much they mean to her. I love that they cried. I love how this was done. That’s a proper send-off, one filled with heroicism and selflessness and responsibility and power and strength and emotional pain and also a sense of HOPE.

There are some fucking powerful quotes this season.

I love how we got Altean Lance? Like honestly, when I first heard fans theorizing about it, I thought it was wishful fantasy and the typical desire for AU characters. But the way this was incorporated into VLD actually in canon was really cool.

I love seeing Pidge create Chip. DOTU REFERENCE!!!!!

I love how the Galra Empire has been shown fracturing for seasons, and how it’s finally come to a point Keith can naturally talk about needing change - and it’s believable to think that the Galra would now be open to this change happening.

I love seeing the entire team together after everything’s ended.

I love how in S2 characters talked about defeating the Galra Empire would mean that Voltron was no longer needed. I love how the writers stick with that. I love how the Paladins choose to retire from being Paladins, but intentionally go forth to make the universe a brighter place - there’s still so much to do. I love how the lions themselves choose to fly away. 

I love seeing their selfies. I love that they intentionally make sure Allura’s in their Paladin team reunion selfies. I love seeing how the characters age. 

I love how Keith’s hair just keeps growing.

I love that ENORMOUS fucking Vehicle Force Voltron reference with the Holts! Holy crap! I’m actually seeing characters like Cliff and Wolo in the background!!! And given the premise of Vehicle Force Voltron seeking out a new planet after humanity has contacted alien civilizations, it feels entirely fitting that this is how Vehicle Force Voltron gets incorporated into the VLD timeline.

I love how the Holts, such a POWERFULLY BRILLIANT family, are the people who keep exploring technology and build the next round of Legendary Defenders.

I love seeing how Hunk’s passion for cooking isn’t treated as trivial. It’s treated as a means of creating intergalactic peace and happiness. He uses it as a way to treat the Alteans with kindness when they’re prisoners on the ATLAS. He uses it to create a culinary revolution after Honerva’s defeated. Hunk is revolutionizing society and making an enormous positive difference because of his passion. That’s majorly epically awesome like fuck I LOVE it.

I love everyone’s endings, honestly. I love how Lance chooses a quieter ending. He wanted a lot of glory as a fighter pilot at the start of VLD S1. He grows into someone so much more mature. Now he’s someone who understands he’s impacted the universe. He’s willing to talk to Alteans at school and spread positive messages with the people in his life. But he’s also taking quiet time for himself. The homesick boy from the early seasons isn’t feeling that more - he has a concrete embedded home to return to, valuing family ever onward. And it’s all embedded in him surrounding himself in the memory of people like Allura he’s held dear. It’s bittersweet and one that happens when someone you love is gone, but it’s not a sad ending, and it’s one that will turn into a lot of happiness, peace, and meaning. This boy’s got a good ending.

I love that we even see where Krolia and Kolivan end up.

And dude. Keith continuing to work with the Blade of Marmora but turning it to humanitarian relief??? This guy’s amazing. So amazing.

I’m a Sheith shipper but I never expected a canon-concrete Sheith end game, so I’m totally happy seeing Shiro’s ending. They gave this guy the happiness he needed. This is someone who’s been trapped in war for so long. He’s had to work so hard without break because of the necessity of defending the universe. This is someone who can finally leave the battlefield and rest. Anyone who thinks for a second Shiro and Keith are any less close just because it’s not romantic is kidding themselves - their relationship shall be as pure and close and powerful and deep as always. And we get an on-screen gay kiss! An on-screen queer marriage!

This is a good ending in that it wraps up all the conflict... but it gives us a look at the hope of the future for everyone’s lives. 

I’m here to spread positivity and excitement for the good Voltron Season 8 did. A show doesn’t have to be “perfect” (nothing’s perfect) to be awesome, meaningful, and enjoyable. This show has been SUCH a wonderful ride, start to finish, and I can’t be more grateful to have been an audience member for this story. It’s going to last as one of my favorite animated series of all time.

#I don't want to see nothing but salt on my dash so here's some positivity to light the way <3 #long post #vld spoilers #Voltron spoilers #Voltron: Legendary Defender #Voltron Legendary Defender #non-dragons #vld #spoilers #Voltron #analysis #my analysis #anyone who responds with negativity is being rude to me please don't #I will NOT listen to you at this current time #I know where you come from but I am here to have fun online #be nice and let me have it #and let me grant other happy people happiness too! :D #jsyk if I unfollowed anyone recently it's only temporary as you go through your salt #that's fine - salt away - I'll be back soon #I just don't want to salt myself :)

[becausethathappens]

when you get this you have to answer with 5 things u like about yourself, publicly. then, send this ask to 10 of your favorite followers (non-negotiable, positivity is cool) ♡

This was really hard, but thank you for thinking of me Sam! 💞

1. I care about how my behavior/actions impact others. My sister once told me that I hit the brakes really hard at red lights and it made her feel like she's going to get whiplash. I've gone out of my way to avoid this with her and anyone else I drive with since college. It was brought up recently and when I told her that stuck with me she confirmed I had stopped doing that. It felt good because it was a hard habit to break. I drive like a bat out of Hell.

2. I am very patient. I'll let someone work on something independently for as long as they want before inserting my own opinion or ideas. I want to be asked to contribute, not force a way in. I can also let someone tire themselves out yelling at me or throwing a tantrum while I wait for them to remember I’m a person or ask a question for me to respond. I think my years of nannying and working retail have this drilled into my core, at this point. 😂

3. I don't blame people for things that aren't their responsibility to fix. On the flipside of the above, I don't yell or get rude with customer service or friends or colleagues who are trying to help or assist me. They're not responsible for me accidentally ordering the wrong color jacket (even if the description on the site is Not Great) or the amount of assignments I have on a given day being overwhelming or that I’ve put off dealing with something unrelated that's bothering me. I make my own bed and so do they. 

4. I don't bully people online. Anonymously or otherwise. I've never sent a hate message on this website. Further, I've never sent an anonymous message either. If you do anonymous memes, you may notice I will reply unanon. No shade to anyone who does, the nice ones are lovely and I treasure them, but it's a decision I made even before joining and I've stuck to it. Also, I have a lot of friends with different opinions than me. I don't post negativity on main, but in DMs I don’t push the hot takes I have on the people I know they might upset and I don't demand agreement from those that have different opinions. They offer the same back to me. We can always agree to disagree. [adds ☪☮⚥✡i☯✝ bumper sticker to post]

5. I am a decent baker and I wish I had more opportunity to do so. It’s about the only thing that was worth going into a physical office for, the excuse to distribute baked goods to others and spur joy. I find it a very relaxing and exacting process that still allows for some creativity and originality. Please enjoy the sugar cookies I made a few summers ago for a potluck:

#answers #tagged meme #about me

[theultimatenonbinarynerd]

Fandom PSA: DNI If You Can't Block, Scroll And Move On From A Post Or Page Criticising Thomas, The Series Or Sides.

Hello everyone I've been noticing a common trend in this fandom and one that I want to address. I have added to my intro/pinned post that anyone who can't take people criticising Thomas or the series is not allowed to interact with me, I will not deal with such toxic positivity on my page at all, especially considering some criticisms are valid. The fact that people have been attacked and criticised for having opinions they are allowed to have is disgusting to me.

Some people have left this fandom because of how vile you have all been to certain fanders who have been upset at the mad libs situation or the ableism for example and because you all cant ignore " negativity" and opinions that are just that opinions it is causing serious harm in this fandom. So I'm going to split this post into four sections, What Is Toxic Positivity, You don't know who's behind the screen, Thomas's safety and protection isn't more important than the fanders and finally What Should Do If You See Negativity/Criticism Instead Of Blocking Someone And Making Expose Posts Behind The Creators Back.

I only believe content actively bullying Thomas (or any side) or content saying threats or slurs is harmful. Anything just stating how a certain person feels is harmless or either just criticism that's valid is harmless too.

With that out of the way let's define toxic positivity.

What's Toxic Positivity?

Toxic positivity is an obsession with positive thinking. It is the belief that people should put a positive spin on all experiences, even those that are profoundly tragic.

Welp Mel how does this apply to the fandom may I ask?

Well I have noticed that even valid criticism such as the Mad libs situation, the ableism, the racism ect has basically had fans responding with I see what you mean but stop being so horrible to Thomas. I call this toxic positivity because those valid criticisms are pushed to the side and twisted instead of being embraced and understood. Being upset that Thomas is making his videos unacessible is valid and not being toxic. If that person was yelling slurs and threats then it would be toxic.

There's so many more examples of Toxic Positivity in this fandom due to fans pushing away healthy criticism Thomas can ignore any time he wants. Pushing away Criticism is what is making this fandom toxic, stop invalidating people's feelings.

You Don't Know Who's Behind The Screen!

If your going to defend an over thirty year old man who you don't know inrl than be my guest but please keep the same energy for the person behind the screen your attacking and criticising for having an opinion.

Unlike Thomas, you know nothing about the person who's behind the screen, given the fact that most fanders are quite young it baffles me you don't have the same energy when looking at these posts from potential minors who are just expressing an opinion. The thing about something you like is that your going to have stuff you like and don't like about the thing your engaging in. So its no reason to attack people over when you criticise something whilst still liking the show.

Young people develop and change their opinions over time. For example people expressing their disappoint of wait times between episodes maybe "demanding and ungrateful" but when their older they may understand how hard making a series like this is. Heck I know that writing and developmening my fanfictions takes me ages.

So step back and think of the age of the person you maybe talking to before invalidating them by calling them rude and demanding.

Thomas's Safety And Protection Isn't More Important Than The Fanders.

I've noticed that alot of fanders when making these "expose" posts will defend their actions by trying to say they would defend anyone but that's not true. If it was why are you not considering the safety and mental health of those making those criticism posts.

A rich white man doesn't deserve more protection and thoughtful consideration than people you don't know inrl. You don't know people on the internet and posting harsh comments on their pages may make them feel really invalidated just as much as Thomas seeing criticism about his series he wrote will make him upset.

It's why I don't attack blogs personally anymore as they deserve to not face scrutiny for having a different opinion to me unless their being rude or horrible to me.

How about be considerate about Fanders mental health as well as Thomas's mental health. I know I myself have severe mental health issues and don't need people gaslighting me and making it worse. As an actor myself although I know criticism is important I still don't tolerate people being bluntly mean to me.

You may see attacking fanders with different opinions not as mean and cruel and if you don't that is very hypocritical considering you consider their opinions cruel when as stated unless theirs slurs or threats in the opinionated post than it is valid.

What To Do If You See Negativity/Criticism Instead Of Blocking And Making An "Expose" Post.

Now first I want to say block the #Ts Criticism tag and to those wanting to express their opinions that could get attacked heavily please put your posts here as hopefully if enough people filter this tag it will allow fanders who want to express their opinions the chance to.

Secondly please just block and ignore the posts. I get it seeing somebody your a fan of or a series you like receive criticism can be rough and invalidating but for the safety of the person please just block and ignore. Thomas isn't gonna thank you for "exposing" a "toxic person" theres nothing to gain by making an expose post. Please just focus on the positive stuff.

And finally if you are so so upset and want to make an "expose" post please sensor out the users names. If you can't ignore it please be a decent human being and block out the users name. This saves the user from being spammed with threats and super rude comments, it also allows the user to have a pleasant experience online without having to feel invalidated and upset. Even if you intend no harm exposing the users name who made that post could expose them to really toxic fanders and put their life in danger.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk and I hope you understand for my own safety and others why I have made this post and updated my introduction page. More posts are coming in the future including more fandom criticism posts, theories and additions to my Sander Sides fusion series which I will now be continuing.

Melody

They/Them

P.s I know things like Ableism and Racism are not opinions but I know many fanders think that way so that's why I used the word opinions.

It you think I phrased this post the wrong way please feel free to correct and add on your own thoughts politely. Any impolite criticisms and you will be blocked.

Tagged: @dukeofonions @salty-daisy

#sander sides #roman sanders #ts roman #ts logan #logan sanders #ts remus #remus sanders #ts virgil #virgil sanders #ts patton #patton sanders #ts janus #janus sanders #fandom criticism #ts negativity #thomas sanders

[sweetestofchaos]

Nah BTS is better like you should drop the got7 boys from what I can see it looks like your like BTS better and let’s admit got7 are not that good. No wonder why they disbanded they are some what talented the oy good one in the group is Jackson and some what bambam but every one else it’s not. specially the youngjae guy. And don’t get my started with Yugyeom why is he fiends with jungkook? i bet is for fame

Again with this BTS being better? Really? Come on, I get it. You like/love/worship BTS. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. As I stated before Got7 is and will always be my #1, I don't care if they are together or not. BTS is good. Smart, charming, good singer...the whole package AND so are many other groups.

It might seem like my blog has shifted from Got7 to BTS, but again Got7 aren't really making too much noise right now. I was heartbroken when Got7 split up and BTS was there to fill the void. Please don't get is twisted anon, Got7 forever has me in a damn choke hold.

As for Yugyeom and Jungkook being friends...that matters why? They are grown adults who can hang with whoever they want. They are both famous and have a loyal fan base. Who they hang with doesn't matter. You shouldn’t talk about things you don't know, it's rude and is coming off very immature. BTS are not the center of the universe. And please don't bring negative vibes to my page. If you're not going to respect other group, just keep the rude comments to yourself. I'm too old for this nonsense.

If anyone else is going to DM me about BTS being better in a rude manner, I will not respond. I'm not here for hate and I don't have the energy to deal with it. You will be ignored point blank.

Thanks,

𝒞𝒽𝒶ℴ𝓈

#soc talks #soc anon #soc answers #soc asks #are we really doing this #i'm just here to enjoy myself #great

[rnegitsune]

Ok so I thought I'd put together some horror stories from my time as a babymetal fan bc of how drastic the shift in the fandom has been the past year or so. For context I got into babymetal in like june of 2014 (all 3 girls were still underage at the time, I was 22; when I first got into them I thought I would be considered an older fan lmao the naivete, the innocence of new fan me wow I know now I'm not at all in the older half of the fandom esp considering I was born the same decade as su and moa), and I made this blog in I think may of 2015.

I've had people say I should compile men being gross into a post and I just couldn't do that out of fear for my own mental health but this will be pretty close. These are all my experiences with this fandom over the years; I'm definitely missing some but what I do remember should do well to cover most of how this fandom used to be vs now. It's gonna be a lot and tw for men being gross about minors.

Back in my first year or so of this blog I on multiple occasions got dms from men asking to be friends. At the time my bio only said my name and my pronouns. I've always been cautious of dms so I'd ask their age and every single one was considerably older than me. I wouldn't usually answer after that bc no thanks but they would generally try to continue convos til I blocked. The only one I still had was this one

After I put my age in my bio, which was 23 at the time, I never got a dm like that again; take from that what you will. But if you're young please be wary of this hell fandom even now. And if you're an older fan and esp an older male fan reading this, don't dm people trying to be friends. I was over 18 and it still creeped me out to no end.

One of my real first men in this fandom are disgusting moments was a blog back in like 2015 or 2016 who I had some contact with due to common interests; he was a huge yui stan and made bm content. He was like 28 or 29 at the time and I eventually noticed he would tag idols, mostly kpop girls, by their body parts (legs, butt, etc) which is disgusting enough as it is but then I saw him do the same for literal minors, like tzuyu from twice. I messaged him asking what the hell he was doing objectifying women but also actual children and he blocked me lmao. He later unblocked me to let me know that's just how he tagged things and it was my fault he had anxiety and then he blocked me again.

Back before the tumblr purge this fandom was repulsive to a degree I cannot even begin to describe. Someone would reblog something from me, I'd go to their blog and it would be underage jpop idols and japanese p*rn all the way down. I even stumbled upon a man editing underage su into p*rn gifs. Obviously no proof of that but I did go find my initial reaction to it

The number of times I'd get a follow from someone then go to their blog and it would be as mentioned above or their bio would be the most misogynistic trash I'd ever read was staggering. I genuinely considered giving up and deleting this blog so many times bc i felt oberwhelmed and outnumbered by these gross old dudes; and so the fact that this fandom has evolved into a bunch of chaotic wlw?? Amazing, I could cry.

Fun phenomenon of women running bm blogs was men sending messages asking if we liked babymetal. No joke. I think this happened to me two or three times but I spoke w other female creators at the time and it had happened to them as well. My entire blog is babymetal, and yet???

He said the weird guy idk bc he sent some random ass messages vaguely insulting me and when I responded coldly, he acted confused so I said you're some guy idk, hence the above message starting as such. Also that pic and the one up above that has my current pfp bc I just took those screenshots. Like I said I typically blocked weird dms but I guess these passed me by so I still had the messages.

Most people know the sub reddit is the worst and don't need me to tell you but it's a hellscape and I highly recommend avoiding it. A short list of things I've had to see as a result of going there: men discussing at length kano and momoko's appearances and how they look in costume vs in normal clothes. Men discussing at length the hope that the girls would marry men who aren't Japanese, a thread that was from when all 3 girls were underage. They aren't gonna marry you dude they're really not.

The insulting of billie Eilish, a 17 year old at the time, was horrible too. Su and moa got to meet her, something they were extremely excited for, and they posted a pic; the comments were disgusting as you can imagine. The yui rumors were terrible too, fatshaming, slutshaming etc all based on nothing. Some man saying the rumors about yui leaving bc, no joke this was a real rumor, she "got too fat" couldn't be true bc "look at saya." Saya being a barely 18 yo back up dancer who covered the third spot after yui left but before the avengers. Not to mention the upskirt shots from when they were minors, the constant editing of their faces onto explicit photoshoots etc. I remember being a new fan looking for a su pic on google and being horrified at the fact that one of the top suggested results after her name was “bikini;” she was 16 at the time. Also, the uptick in massively creepy posts and messages sent to bm blogs as each girl, but esp moa and yui, approached 18 was disgusting.

Now for some personal nonsense. A big reason why I haven't touched my youtube channel in months is bc I got tired of dealing with the men of this fandom. I poke fun at metal and get told I deserve to die. I say ped*philes and creepy men are gross and get a swarm of middle aged men cursing at me. Had a guy cry about how men are shamed for liking bm and then he turned around and said some gross shit about wlw. Had a guy call me racist for liking a band he also likes (and despite him having no way of knowing my own race) and tell me the babymetal fandom doesn't need my kpop feminist bullshit, which is honestly a great description and I thought about putting it in my yt about lmao. Had a middle aged man unironically say he'd never seen a man be creepy towards bm but fans su and moa's ages calling them hot was creepy. The disillusionment....the level of unawareness is astounding. If you want to see screenshots of some of these comments they are fairly recent in my don't mind me tag; I don't want to see them anymore tho bc they're infuriating so I'm not going to look at them to post here.

Essentially I haven't looked at my channel since may bc men are exhausting and rude and refuse to examine the fandoms they're a part of no matter what. They're told by a woman of the fandom that she's had bad experiences personally and they all start crying about how it's either a lie bc they haven't seen it or unimportant. I did stop reading comments in may and I will never read another one again probably as a result of this shit. Trash men being trash are not worth my time and I refuse to give them anymore of it. I do plan on making more videos tho and let my ~feminist kpop bullshit~ live in their minds rent free.

I will also continue to make fun of metal and the creepy men in this fandom bc it's important and I'm a spiteful asshole who likes disrupting these dudes perfect bubble of a fandom. It genuinely brings me so much joy seeing all the new fans recently (which sidenote if you got into them recently I am kinda curious as to how you found them; I've gotten tons of new followers and considering how inactive they are rn I'm curious). People sending messages about how they finally feel like they belong or that they have a safe space....like I don't even know what to say and I never feel like my responses fully convey how genuinely wonderful that is and how thrilled I am that this is where we're at now and I have had at least some part in it. As this post shows, my experiences have been negative for the most part so the shift recently is such a relief I cannot even begin to explain my gratitude.

So to anyone who read all of this and hasn't disintegrated from the male bullshit, thank you. Keep being yourself and fighting for your place in this fandom, esp if you're a young woman; keep making fun of the creeps and keep making wlw memes!! Babymetal's music is in such a huge way meant for girls and to see more and more finding their way to this previously hellish beyond belief fandom is incredible.

#babymetal #don't mind me #this is long ok

[thoughts-from-k]

How to make your friends turn away from you 21+1 tips and tricks

0. Find someone who likes you. It should be a "problematic" person., makes it easier to criticize them later, and show off your perfection (you support and accept every kind of people, and you say it often enough).

1. Tell them how desperately you wish for someone to give you help/advice/constructive critique about something you do. When they do it, turn them off every single time - without exception - telling them you disagree, and you wanted to do it the way you just did.

2. Tell them you wish to find people for things you like doing. If they go with you, and try, criticize them at every single opportunity. Make them really feel how their efforts are worthless, highlight yourself explaining how you do it (so much better, and how much more effort you put into that activity).

3. Try something they would like to do, and say you don't want more of it, because it isn't interesting for you. Find something you can point at as a reason, for example: you are not competitive, they are, and they do it to compete with you. [Ignore your behaviour in 2.] They are doing things wrong (how they organize a club or something) . Say it, even if they followed the advice you gave to them.

4. Be offended if they don't watch your 40 hours game videos, but when they mention you a book they liked, find superficial information about it, form a negative opinion, and tell them how you's never read anything like that. Generally do your best to break down their motivation and enthusiasm about anything they might like.

5. Be demanding. Demand information (more than you actually need), feelings (yep, you really want them to feel certain ways, if they can't they are not true friends). Above all! demand complete access to their private life, otherwise you have to believe they are hiding things from you, and you cannot trust them.

6. If they keep some privacy, or don't want to constantly argue with you, and don't say everything they think, then tell them you can't trust them.

7. If they defend themselves, or argue about your attitudes towards them always say: - you didn't say anything wring to them - you don't remember saying those things. Always come out of the fight as "the victim". Don't apologize! Never admit you did something wrong.

8. Tell them how badly they treat you, and how much you tolerate from them.

9. If they say you are angry, say you aren't, they can't make you angry. (In other words, they can't reach you, you don't care enough about them to take it seriously.)

10. Never admit you did something wrong against them, but if they confront you with a mirror, saying you think you are too perfect, then say: you are aware you aren't perfect, and make mistakes, and sometimes you say rude things to others purposefully in anger. (never admit you're doing this to them too, it's important)

11. After some fights, if you made them apologize a few times, and made them feel awful friends, you can start the next phase.

12. Tell them you can't talk to them about anything, because you are afraid of their reaction. If they say the same about you, call them idiots, and cowards.

13. Repeat it enough times, you don't trust them. You don't want them to think you changed your opinion about them.

14. ALWAYS - very important - in every conflicts they have or ever had, take the opposite side. Don't forget to point out they caused it all to themselves. And don't offer any help to heal from these.

15. After doing so, complain a lot about it how nobody supports you, and all you want, a caring friend.

16. Ignore them a lot. If they bring it up, say you thought they didn't need as much attention as your other friends.

17. Complain about lack of friends again.

18. Call them your friends, but continue to behave the same way. If they ask why you are with them, if there is anything you like about them at all, then respond with confusing silence, and don't give any clear answers, avoid the question. If they say something positive about you, you just nod, saying it's same on your side too.

19. Make them feel guilty about everything: about treating you bad, about not doing everything in life they "could" (according to you), not wanting to know about your sexual life... everything you can think of. Criticize them for everything you hate in yourself. But deny if they say you share that trait.

20. If they try to discuss the friendship problems, never take the blame for anything. But demand change from them. (5. + 10. combined)

21. Throw them away if you are sue they will come after you, trying to make peace with you. But you never go after anyone to apologize, nobody is important enough for you.

+1 If they reach the point of human endurance, and leave you behind, then show their messages to your still existing supporters, and make them pity you, and boost your ego. You'll be fine in no time.

Note: Sorry for the bitter humor. I had bad luck, I knew more then one of this type. In those friendships, even if I saw the person's value, I constantly found myself defending, explaining myself. Nothing was ever really good enough for them - except when they had bad times, and I was there to listen and help. And sometimes these people - because they are not monsters - actually helped, and I felt gratitude. And that made me stay around them longer than I probably should, because I felt it would be a betrayal. But there is a point, when it just doesn't work anymore and falls apart. Things happened like this: I shared common hobby with them, art. And if I didn't manage to say what they wanted to hear, and obviously I didn't, then at one point they said they hate my works, I shouldn't show them anything I created. Let's say I liked the landscape painting more than their character drawing. Or liked their own drawing more than their hobby translations. Or with one of them it was difficult, because the person really have a lot to improve and I didn't want to be too harsh, so just pointed out a few things... for the person's request. And the reaction was complete rejection, this friend said it was purposefully like that.

We played it a few times, and then I gave up. I am not an art teacher, I tried to do something good, in a gentle way, but even that didn't work. Soon the same person started to complain about the lack of support and constructive criticism. Tried to push me into giving critique again, and when it didn't work, I got the: "I hate commenting on your works" and ignored my works. I tried to be friends with a certain community. I didn't fit it, some thought it's fun to mess with my emotions, being rude. I grieved my father too, everything just came at once, and I talked about it to my friend. For a few moments the person said it was unfair, but then I could say something my friend didn't like, and then the opinion changed to this: I caused it for myself, that group's reaction is understandable. That's how dynamics change with this type. And if someone is more emotional - like me - it's likely they/we react to that, confront the friend, and then there is fight over fight until one has enough brain to leave it all behind and close the friendship. No other options left.

If you feel like you're reading about one of your relationships, then let it be a warning sign. If you are the one doing such things to your friends, then it's a mirror for you. Please stop doing it. Thanks for reading!

#woman #female #friendship #problem #irony #sarcasm #sad #human #psychology #personal #toxic #negativity #cat #meme #womanyellingatcat

[amethystina]

You are just too sensitive. I write too and I don't complain about how my history or my style of writing makes people want more, it's just how it is. And like you say, we don't owe to do anything that we don't feel like doing, but being like 'ugh, don't ask me for more, you greedy things' is just rude. That's my opinion tho, so, I hope you get better soon and take things with different perspective. I like your writing.

So. This was an anon I received almost a year ago, after I had written this post, asking people to stop demanding I continue finished fanfics because their comments were giving me anxiety and panic attacks.

Why am I posting this now, you might ask? Surely it’s all in the past?

Yes, definitely. I wasn’t even particularly insulted by this message when I first got it (for reasons I’ll explain), but I found it the other day and realised I actually have a couple of things I want to say about it. This isn’t a response to the message, though, or a reply to the author of said message. BUT, if the author of this is still following me (if you ever were) I hope you’ll read this and understand that there are better ways for you to share your opinions. I’m not trying to insult you, I just want to explain my thought process about this particular message you sent and why it probably didn’t come across as you wanted it to.

So, in short, this is a discussion about anon hate in general — and how I handle it and why. 

(Fair warning: it’s going to be long, hence the cut).

First of all, I don’t respond to hateful anons. It’s just a policy of mine, because I have no intention of having a discussion with someone who won’t even make themselves known. And I know that might sound like I’m trying to take the moral high ground and win that way, but that’s not it at all. 

I’m saying that because it’s difficult to have a conversation with someone who won’t show who they are, especially when your opinions differ. It’s not impossible, but it just feels unfair to us both. You see, I’ll automatically make assumptions about the anon based on the limited information I’m given. These assumptions might not even be true, but, when I’m given so little, that’s all I can do. These assumptions might then make me less open to the anon’s arguments, in a way that just makes the whole discussion pointless.

Because, here’s the thing: I don’t think this anon message was meant as hate, specifically. I read it more as frustration and, maybe, jealousy. Both are emotions I can understand and relate to. 

Based on the limited information I have and the sentence “I write too and I don’t complain about how my history or my style of writing makes people want more” it almost sounds like this person is jealous. That maybe I’m more popular than they are and they’re angry that I react this way to popularity when they have less than me. They would gladly be in my position. That might not be true at all, but how am I supposed to know? I have no idea who this person is and how popular they are. How am I supposed to challenge that assumption? I’m really not given much here.

And, if I assume that the author of this anon is, in fact, jealous, the rest just reads like pettiness, doesn’t it? Especially when you consider the fact that I explicitly stated in the original post that I don’t care about other people’s opinons on this matter. Yet, for some reason, this person states: “that’s my opinion tho,” as if I should care, despite having blatantly stated that I don’t. I’m not saying they’re not entitled to their opinion, but why send this to me when I’ve already said I don’t want other people’s opinions? It just makes the anon seem either too disrespectful to care, or too blinded by their own jealousy to see how bad this makes them look.

And then there’s the hypocrisy. This anon calls me rude for telling people to stop demanding more fics when they, themselves, call me too sensitive for not wanting to get more panic attacks. That’s also pretty rude, isn’t? Insulting, even, and incredibly inconsiderate, as other people with anxiety might argue. I should put my mental health on the line? Because people are suddenly entitled to my writing after all? Because this anon tells me to?

Again, I’m going to assume this wasn’t meant as hate, but when a person tells you that you’re too sensitive when you ask people to stop giving you panic attacks, it’s understandable if you get defensive and stop listening. Or maybe they’re insinuating that I’m too sensitive for getting panic attacks in the first place?

Either way, they sound like an asshole, plain and simple.

And I guess that’s the point I’d like to make. Despite the “I like your writing.” at the end, this reads like a petty message from someone who’s jealous, entitled, and selfish. I don’t know if that’s true, but what else am I supposed to assume? And why should I listen to someone like that, if that’s how their message presents itself? The truth is that I’ll write it off as worthless and will ignore whatever point they were trying to make.

But why put so much effort into analysing an anon, you ask? Clearly, if they’re interested in a conversation, they would have contacted me in some other way. And, well, I guess that’s what I’m getting at.

I actually wouldn’t mind having that conversation, as long as it’s handled in a mature and respectful way.

I have no trouble admitting that, yes, telling people to stop demanding fics from me IS rude. I know that some of them are just trying to show appreciation and I’m telling them to stop. 

But here’s the thing: I’m a grown woman who’s had panic attacks for almost half of my life. I try my best to be kind and patient, but I’ve learned that there are times when I have to say “fuck politeness” and just take care of myself. This was one of those times. I’m not going to meekly accept and suffer through the situations that cause my anxiety if it’s within my power to stop them. My mental health is more important than that and I have far too much self-respect not to.

That doesn’t give me the right to be rude left and right — of course not — but, in this specific case, I don’t care about being rude. People were getting greedy. They had no right to put that kind of pressure on me. They had no right to demand fics out of me and they still don’t. I don’t owe them anything.

So yes, I needed to be rude and tell them to stop, even if that hurt people’s feelings. Would I have preferred not to? Of course. Do I regret doing it? No. In fact, I’ve been feeling a lot better since I drew that line.

This means that this: “I hope you get better soon and take things with different perspective” will never happen. I won’t see things from a different perspective. And, even if I somehow ended up doing that, it certainly wouldn’t be because of this anon message. It’s almost a little funny (and tragic) that this anon on some level hopes it would, because they’re not making a very convincing case. This anon hasn’t made me feel the least bit guilty about what I wrote.

I really don’t care about the opinion of someone who can’t even show me who they are. I can’t promise that I would have even if it hadn’t been an anon message, but I know for a fact that I would have listened more carefully. The fact that this was an anon message meant it immediately lost any sway it might have had over me.

What I’m trying to say is this: I don’t respect this anon. And, if I don’t respect someone, I am less likely to listen to their opinion.

I’m not threatened by someone who’s trying to have this kind of one-way communication with me. Someone’s who’s trying to guilt me into sucking it up and accept my panic attacks in order to please others. That’s just not who I am.

And while that might make me rude, I don’t consider myself as too sensitive. I acknowledge that that is this anon’s opinion and they’re entitled to it, but don’t agree, nor will I change my mind. I’m not even offended. I did what I had to do in order to limit my anxiety and I don’t regret that.

In the end, I’m handling this anon message similarly to the one I received here.

I wouldn’t say I pity this particular anon (I am, as mentioned, going to assume that this message wasn’t meant as actual hate) but they haven’t left a lasting impression on me, whatsoever. I shrug it off because I don’t listen to people who send anonymous messages and cut off my ability to respond. I don’t know HOW to listen to you, because you’re giving me no reason to. You’re literally just wasting time — yours and mine both.

So, in the end, I guess this is an open letter to anyone who might feel the need to send me anonymous messages of the hateful or negative kind. Here are a couple of things you might want to consider before doing so:

I won’t respond to you. 

I will make assumptions about who you are as a person and those assumptions will probably be negative and make you look like an asshole. 

You won’t have made any difference, whatsoever. I will simply roll my eyes, laugh, or sigh in exasperation before moving on with my life. 

I’m not afraid of you, intimidated by you, or interested in anything you have to say, if you do so with hate in mind.

I forgive you and wish you all the best in life. Do better next time.

I know that probably won’t stop people from sending me anon hate, but at least you’ll know why I won’t respond. You have nothing to say that I’d actually listen to and I have no intention of giving you more attention than you deserve (which is as little as possible, in case that wasn’t obvious). I don’t care about your hateful opinions unless you’re willing to stand behind them and face me. 

If you talk to me OFF anon, however, I promise that I’ll respond (privately, if you so wish). I am not against listening to constructive criticism or being told when I’ve fucked up (God knows I’m still learning). I just won’t listen to you when you hide behind the blank anon face because I’ll automatically assume that your opinion isn’t worth taking into account — not even you seem to dare to stand behind them.

So do us both the favour and tell it to my face if you want me to reevaluate my actions and behaviour. I promise I will listen and I promise it will be much more constructive for the both of us.

Take care - Amethystina

#Anonymous #Amethystina and Life #Amethystina and Anon Hate #Amethystina Writes #I sound like SUCH a dramatic bitch #Don't I? #I've just been thinking a lot #And this is what came out of it #And there might be someone out there who needs to hear it

[eversoslinky]

Being a chronically sick, model who's single... I'm a walking contradiction...

Here is a photo of me waking up after one of my naps, I'm still pretty exhausted after this morning's Pilates class which was only half and hour but still, it wiped me out! I thoroughly enjoyed the class, I felt like I made a real achievement towards the end when I managed to do a real difficult balancing exercise without falling over. I balanced my entire body on a giant rubber ball stretching my arms and legs out and just using my core for balance and stability. Now I'm currently in bed and aching like hell. I've spent most of my day chatting to a friend of mine about her boyfriend and things are really well, I'm so happy for her because it's genuine, and I know this because she doesn't share anything too personal about the two of them (I'm a great believer that what happens between two people should say there) but they get on so well and have a great connection that I needed to know how they met.

I've been on dating websites before and like most people I could tell you some real horror stories!!! In fact, if I wanted to, I could dedicate my entire Tumblr to all the bad dates I've been on. But I'm only focusing on the positive from now on: I'm a catch! I'm not bad looking, I'm very kind, I'm funny and I deserve someone I can actually get excited about meeting. Like, genuinely excited... what outfit am I going to wear excited. I haven't had this in a very, very, long time. Usually men are much more excited about meeting me. (Please forgive me for sounding so incredibly vain! But it's true) My friend sent me a screenshot of her profile and I had a look at what she'd written about herself, she'd been honest as much a possible and I loved that. I realised there's absolutely no point in sugar coating my situation, I'm unemployed, living with my parents and chronically sick but that's ok. I don't want to meet someone who is like my ex (basically unless you where "perfect" you couldn't be with him... but he had plenty of flaws which he wanted you overlook, of course!) Being honest about my situation saves the awkward embarrassing conversation of "tell me about job?" - words taken from an annoying guy on Zoosk (an app I've just recently deleted) I didn't even message him back after that, his messages were written like a five year old had written them (I'll take that back, cause I know most children to be very well spoken and eloquent! More so than adults sometimes!) I didn't want to have a painful conversation with someone who I didn't think was worth revealing such an private part of my life for ... which brings me nicely to my next point...

Ignoring. We are told ignoring is rude, which it is I guess it is. But let's say for instance you are in a bar, or a club and someone who basically isn't your type comes up to you with a corny line and starts pestering you. Do you engage them in a conversation? Or do you get up and leave? Leave of course! A friend of mine said to me not that long ago that "why should I talk to someone I don't fancy, they wouldn't even entertain a girl they didn't like!" Which is so very true. As women we are supposed to be so flattered by ANY attention that we must respond. No, no, no... NO! When I say ignore I mean just that, Ignore! And if you think in any way I'm rude I will gladly tell what happens to you when you are polite. There was the one guy I replied back with to with a "No Thank you, I'm no interested." He messaged me back with "Could you tell me where I'm going wrong? Maybe give me a list?" Could you imagine if girls did this? We would get called clingy or needy. It's not your job to be anyone's personal councilor or relationship advisor. You're on here for yourself to meet someone you "click" with and if you start talking to someone who wants you to sort their life out for them then ignore them. It's not being rude! Life is short and time is precious!

Last but not least; this is my current favourite picture of myself. Yes, it's been edited to hell but I believe there's a difference between geeking out over cool photography techniques ,editing the skin texture on a picture to make it look flawless and altering the brightness and contrast to...say turning myself into a bee or putting angel wings or dog ears on myself (!) (I hate snap chat, with a absolute passion!) I won't be using the above picture for my online dating profile despite the fact it represents me very well. (I sit up in bed and eat sweets most of the time!) The picture is probably too sexy and provocative, I have this awful feeling that I won't get conversations from this picture. I'll just get dick pics and messages from very "intelligent" men telling me, I'm "well fit!" And that they "wanna fck?" Although, I love dressing sexy, showing my body off and expressing myself in such a way it takes over everything. The fact that I'm an intelligent, caring, loving person, someone who is a good loyal friend as well as a great girlfriend gets overshadowed by my physical appearance and generates alot of negative attention by people who, when they find out that I'm ill usually drop me like a ton of bricks anyway...

So this is the real me, I model yes, but there's much to me than that. I like sitting in bed watching documentaries on serial killers, I'm addicted to Subway, my best friend is a cat and I'm not interested at all about going out clubbing, getting drunk or hooking up with randomers. I deserve nothing but the best, I won't have anything less.