#aromantic love

[starz4valen]

i love aromantic love. i love qprs. i love close friends. i love caring about everyone the same amount. i love having no hierarchy in relationships. i love being affectionate with your friends. i love appreciating your friends. i love all of it. aromantic love—partnering or not—is fucking beautiful

#aromantic #aromantism #aromantic love #qpr #queerplatonic #i love being aro #i love my aromanticism so much i am amazing we are amazing #im so emotional for aromantic love rn im sorry guys

[thelostgirl21]

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Okay, but why am I having so many feels about the fact that Joey says that the most important person in Jaskier's life is his little Pocket Size Princess?

And that he's finally figured out what matters to him most, and it's the family he's built with Geralt, Yennefer & Ciri?

#Jaskier #Ciri #Geralt of Rivia #Yennefer #Radovid #Radskier #Geraskier #Geraskefer #Jaskier's found family #The Witcher #My Posts #Sapioromantic Jaskier #Aromantic love

[actuallysatan23]

GodDAMN do I love being aromantic and calling myself queer. Really just fucking love myself for it. I'm so perfect exactly the way that I am, and there's nothing anyone can ever say or do to change it. Look at me over here being aromantic and queer AF. Just exquisite.

#aro #aromantic #aspec #aromantic love #queer community

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

The Multiamory Podcast did an Episode (Ep.438) discussing the intersection of polyamory and aromanticism.

Explicitly polyamorous/ polyaffectionate aromantics, not asexuals!

You are all welcome to chip in/ add on through reblogs and tags and commentary!

The relevant Facebook announcement got shared into a group I happen to be in and as I commented, thanking the person for sharing it seeing as the group wasn’t aro-related at all, I got politely asked to explain how polyamory works for me as an aromantic asexual.

Keep in mind this explanation was targeted for an audience/ readership of allo-allo polyamorous people.

Also: CONTENT WARNING ⚠️

Internalised acephobia, self-depreciation, implication of sexualised abuse, mention of faithfulness

So the first thing I always say is that: disclaimer – obviously I can only talk about my personal perspective and aromantic people are very diverse, asexual people are very diverse

I just happen to be an asexual aromantic, whereas many aromantics are allosexual (meaning any sexual orientation that isn’t asexuality); seeing as this post is explicitly about the intersection of aromanticism and polyamory

I personally want a queerplatonic/ alterous life partner

That’s my personal wish, I want someone to share my life with

I consider myself polyaffectionate, seeing as I’m not “amorous” in any way shape or form

To me this means a few things

1) I practice relationship anarchy – I do not place a romantic relationship on some arbitrary pedestal, every relationship is important to me and that relationship looking like romance doesn’t mean much

For the other things I need to explain about myself first

I am a sex-averse asexual. I have had sex. I didn’t like it. I am generally sex-positive but I don’t necessarily want/ seek sex as part of any committed relationship; rather I’d avoid sex

(This following bit is self-depreciation but) Because of that I think I shouldn’t “tie down” any partner. Someone willing to be with me shouldn’t suffer for it and hence I don’t see a point in being possessive/ demanding sexual faithfulness – although the details would need to depend on the partner(s) and situation

Also due to me not making a grave distinction between “best friend” and “date friend” I just think it’s easier to call myself polyaffectionate since relationships involving me need thorough explanation anyway

I have explored through writing* what I’d like for myself and that basically always ends up that I’d like to be comfortable “sharing” my partner with pre-determined other people

I would only agree to a closed polycule, although I don’t need to be involved with everyone in it

Also I always hoped if I get that, if I get to have a queerplatonic polycule, it could be a found family and support network more than dating in the classical sense

Again, keep in mind all of this is just my personal perspective and I don’t speak for other aromantic people or other asexual people

Many asexuals are fine with/ want sex

Some aromantics are non-partnering/ would only practice solo-poly

My ideal relationship would be having one or two partners I live with, who are my family, who I can cuddle or leave to their own devices, basically a house share and we each cuddle and kiss each other as we please 🙈

—The thing is I’m aware I probably talk like someone who doesn’t value themself enough

Like, if I believed I could be enough for a partner my whole stance would be slightly different

But I have not yet made the experience that what I can offer (a sexless, queerplatonic commitment) is enough for people

I’m fully aware that mindset isn’t healthy but until someone proves I can be enough for them, well… “outsourcing” sex is easier than worrying

And if it’s a genuine relationship I’m happy for them, in any case

I wholeheartedly mean that I’d like a closed polycule and would be comfortable as described

But I also acknowledge that part of it comes from feeling inadequate/ not wanting to hold back the person(s) I love

I just know I can’t provide what – to many people – is a need

And since I know I can love more than one person at the same time I think getting to be with someone who also has other partners is my best chance… if that makes sense

As I said, I write a lot and with my latest novel-attempt* I think I found the relationship model I’d be comfortable with 🙈

* I have indeed written multiple fan fictions as well as original fiction about a self-insert character navigating relationships as I would like them to play out (setting aside the overarching plot of the individual fiction works) but seeing as I’m a pro-shipper and actually do have a writing side-blog, I don’t feel all that comfortable to just straight-up link my own writing here. Due to the here relevant works all featuring central relationships with a self-insert character, these works are also deeply personal. More so than other ship fiction I have written. I have linked these works on here before - as part of “#queerplatonic fiction” lists - but never really put “my name” (this blog’s URL) directly to them

#safeforace #safeforaro #personal #about me #about myself #multiamory podcast #aromantic polyamory #polyam aro #oriented aroace #aromantic love #aromantic self shipper #aromantic relationship #polyaffectionate #polyaffectionate aro #aro polyamory #internalised acephobia #internalised aphobia #self depreciation #self deprecating thoughts #non romantic love #non romantic #non monogamy #ethical non monogamy #aromantic non monogamy #non romantic non monogamy #sex averse #sex aversion #personal story #getting personal

[memoires-blessees]

My words bear no weight - or at least not enough - and they're never shaped right when I talk to you. It's not your fault, but mine. I'd believed it was a myth, that those in love tripped, stumbled, and fell. But aren't I just my own perfect contradiction?

#original poem #original poetry #atticus hope #dark academia #da #dark academic #light academia #light academic #yearning academia #yearning #romantic academia #romantic #romanticism #aromantic love poem #aromantic love #aromantic #aromantic poetry #nonbinary poet #nonbinary poem #hopes favourite

[thorns-in-daisy-fields]

I don't understand why society fucked love up so much. I could be dumping goodmorning texts in my best friend's dms that rival even Shakespeare and Atticus' best works but intimacy has been so romanticized for so long, they'd probably fear I've formed the worlds fattest crush on them

#being aromantic and having the constant need to express my affection is the bane of my existence #wish I could leave love poems in your dms every morning dude #anyway #poetry #atticus #Shakespeare #love #aromantic #aromantic love #best friend

[noeysnowy]

A familiar texture, smooth but stippled

It’s colour unmistakable, bright like the sunset

Nothing like it, even tangerines and clementines

The peel is tough, I try to get it off in one

I can wish, I wish for You

The smell is strong, it bites with sourness and sweet

The white peel, is stuck under my nails

I scratch softly, so I don’t break it

The pieces shine, on the table

of Love

Sweet juice, runs down my hands

As I bite, the taste is of Love

It feels soft, and I think of You

The Love of sharing, of knowing together

I give you, my Love in your hands

You eat it, and know me

I savour, the stickiness on my hands

And the smile, on Your lips

Love is stored, in oranges

A poem of oranges that ended up being about love

#orangesssss #poetry #poem #original poem #poem about oranges #aromantic #aromantic love #platonic love #queer platonic love #orange

[midnightcrisisstuff]

actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.

#queerplatonic #alterous attraction #asexual #if you find this and youre her no you didnt #aromantic #queerplatonic relationship #acearo #qpp #qpr #lgbtqia #love #transmasc #alterous yearning #alterous relationship #fuck you mum i love my girlfriend and youll have no part in it #fuck you mum #transgender

[killingmyselfbutnotdying]

"Friends dont look at friends that way" COWARD. I look at my friends with awe in my eyes, my chest is filled with love, im glowing because i get to be near my friends. I look at my friends and i would give them my everything. SO SKILL ISSUE, look at your friends with all the love that you have

#i hate this phrase with burning passion #platonic love #platonic #platonic relationships #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #amatonormativity my beloathed #there are multiple songs i dont listen to bc they have this phrase in it

[sunbloomdew]

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

#on love #aroace experiences #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #aroacespec #sunbloom talks #<3 #just late night revelations #i like love and i love people :)

[amalgamezz]

ALT

#aromantic #actually aromantic #aro #aro pride #love loses #good job everyone. im so proud of us <2 #edit (12/31): also pls do not quote 'not all loves are romantic/sexual' at me #1. aros have always been the first to dissect the definition of love. we are likely to know that before you. #2. are we gonna keep pretending that aros aint only an afterthought to the 'love wins' and 'love is love' crowds. #3. im loveless aro. i do not care for love whether its romantic platonic or familial etc etc. #one can do good w love. one can also do evil w love. love =/= morals. stop acting like it is.

[hopelesscatdad]

Hi Fandom I'm back with an actual completely sfw fanfiction, focusing on my OC Lori as well as Sally.

#pixar cars #disney pixar cars #lori #sally carerra #aromantic #aromantic character #aromantic love

[thetisming]

people who exclude straight trans people and straight aspec people are my worst enemies. btw

#trans #ace #aro #apl #transgender #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #im not straight but guys do you not realise how important they are #I love you straight trans people I love you straight aspec people

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

I'm sending this ask because I don't have any one adle to rant too. But I've recently binge watched "a lull in the sea" and episodes 22 to 26 feel kinda arophobic. (Spoilers) the character Manaka loses her ability to love (primarily romantic love though just any "love" in general) and the other characters would often imply that someone needs to or has to feel/experience those feelings in their life and that without them some one is lonely regardless weather the lack of feelings actually negatively affects them. Even though Manaka doesn't appear to be inherently unhappy/depressed (though very confused/distressed about her lack of memories/understanding) because of the lack of romantic love. The show also implies that family/friends and such would inherently still not be enough.

Regardless, I guess this is just to ask how you (even if you haven't seen the show) or feel about this. (Specifically arospec folks).

I don’t have the spoons currently but I’m sure some of my followers have opinions :)

Also: please let me know if I missed relevant tags on this post

#not ace #aromantic #aro #a lull in the sea #anime and manga #arophobia mention #arophobia #arophobic Anime #non romantic love #aromantic love #safeforaro #non romantic

[memoires-blessees]

The fruits of your divinity, the wine you bleed is Christlike in the way you save me. You raise me from my bed, deathbed or no, to join the world in the sun and to see the beauty of Your Creation. I bow to thee, I praise thy light, I confess I love you to an empty room behind an opaque screen, and I beg thee for respite and divine light. You cure me like no Lord can, and the earth will ne'er be so beautiful as the days I held your hand in mine. I confess I love you. I love you.

#original poem #original poetry #atticus hope #poem #poetry #prose #love #aromantic #aromantic love #romance #queer romance #queer romantic poetry #love poem #religious trauma #dark academia #dark academic #yearning #yearning academia #light academia #romantic academia #gray academia

[glitchedcosmos]

Characters dynamic that’s like “ they’re not in a romantic relationship but they definitely love each other with all their heart and fucking soul”

#the dynamic we love #i breathe this shit #yes the is qpr #looking at you sonadow #aroace #aromantic #asexual #ace spec #aro spec #aromantic spectrum #asexual spectrum #qpr #queerplatonic relationship #qpr things #character dynamics