#like lovers do

[the-dose-makes-the-poison]

#eurythmics #here comes the rain again #good music #songpoetry #youtube #mine #like lovers do

[gloomcherry-x]

#like lovers do #hey violet #girlblogging #aesthetic #music #romance #dark coquette #dark femininity #coquette #hell is a teenage girl #femme fatale #confessions #love #relationship #romantic

[depressedgremlinbitch]

either way we lose // just like lovers, just like lovers do

#like lovers do #hey violet #music #spotify #♬

[poemsbyurlover]

THE WAY LOVERS DO

i want you to want me the way lovers do

the feel of my body under yours the only thought that plagues your mind

deep into the night when everything else is lost to the depths of your subconscious

hot and flushed and panting

the touch of my bare skin branded into your very being

i want you to crave me the way lovers do

the need a never ceasing pull at your very core

a hunger that only i can satiate

i want you to know me the way lovers do

heart and mind and body and soul

all the fragmented pieces stitched together by the threads of your affection

the dark twisted corners of my heart laid bare for your regard

but more than anything else

i want you to lean on me the way lovers do

let me bear the burden of your heavy heart

if only for tonight

-RGB

#lovers #love poems #sapphic #poetry #like lovers do #let me love you

[fleur-alise]

watching night at the museum 2 for the first time in a long while

let me just say it-- besties

#the gay kind #to be clear #like they're besties but also they're fucking #like lovers do #natm jedediah #natm octavius #night at the museum

[greykolla-art]

Alastor: “Now, let’s talk about literally anything else please!”

Me: “Good! Cause I don’t know where you went so I can’t go further with this!😂”

#grey art #hazbin hotel comic #hazbin hotel #comic #radiorose #hazbin rosie #Rosie #alastor #yay gothic pastels! #love and light to all the people who like doing enemies to lovers with lucifer and al but… #I personally think he responds better when you’re genuinely nice to him 😅 #I don’t know I’m not here to fight anyone #you want soft comics or not? #*kisses you softly on the forehead*💕 #queer platonic relationship

[elisaenglish]

Thich Nhat Hanh on True Love and the Five Rivers of Self-Knowledge

“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks… the work for which all other work is but preparation,” Rilke wrote to his young correspondent. 

The great difficulty of loving arises from the great difficulty of bridging the abyss between one consciousness and another in order to understand each other, to map the inner landscape of another’s territory of trust and vulnerability, to teach each other what we need of love. 

“Understanding and loving are inseparable,” the humanistic philosopher and psychologist Erich Fromm wrote in his wonderful field guide to the six rules of listening. Indeed, there is but one preparation for the task of loving: deep listening—the best tool we have for coaching each other in the agility and endurance necessary for sustaining a true and lasting love, the work of both passionate interest in the inner world of the other and profound self-knowledge. 

That is what the great Zen teacher and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh (October 11, 1926–January 22, 2022) explores in his slender, simply worded, penetrating classic True Love: A Practice for Awakening the Heart (public library).

He considers the first of the four Buddhist elements of true love—maitri, most closely translated as loving-kindness:

“Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person; it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer.  Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking directed toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly. Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand, you cannot love. That is the message of the Buddha.”

And yet while mutual understanding is the wellspring of love, the turbid confusion of understanding ourselves often stands in its way. “It is a fault to wish to be understood before we have made ourselves clear to ourselves,” Simone Weil admonished in her superb meditation on the paradoxes of friendship. “If you don’t understand yourself you don’t understand anybody else,” the young Nikki Giovanni told James Baldwin in their forgotten conversation about the language of love. Nothing does more damage in love than a paucity of self-knowledge. (“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love,” Thich Hhat Hanh would later caution.) Without self-knowledge, so much of what we mistake for desire, for devotion, for understanding is mere projection, a chimera of our patterned past keeping us from true presence with the reality of the other. 

In Buddhist practice, nothing removes the screen of confusion and anneals the mind more effectively than meditation—the supreme instrument of self-understanding, out of which springs the unselfing necessary for true love. Thich Hhat Hanh writes:

“Meditation is the practice of looking deeply into the nature of your suffering and your joy. Through the energy of mindfulness, through concentration, looking deeply into the nature of our suffering makes it possible for us to see the deep causes of that suffering. If you can keep mindfulness and concentration alive, then looking deeply will reveal to you the true nature of your pain. And freedom will arise as a result of your sustaining a deep vision into the nature of your pain. Solidity, freedom, calm, and joy are the fruits of meditation.”

Twenty-five centuries before the Western canon of self-help cheapened and commodified the notion, the Buddha taught that “your love for the other, your ability to love another person, depends on your ability to love yourself”—which in turn depends on your degree of self-understanding. Thich Nhat Hanh points to the five skandhas, or aggregates, that constitute selfhood in Buddhist philosophy, depicted as five rivers: the body (“which we do not know well enough,” he rues); sensations (“Each sensation is a drop of water in the river,” he writes, and meditation is the practice of sitting on the banks of the river, observing the passing sensations); perceptions (“You must look deeply into their nature in order to understand.”); mental formations, of which Buddhism identifies fifty-two—feeling-states and faculties like happiness, hate, worry, distraction, appreciation, and faith; and consciousness, the last and deepest of the five rivers. (“Time is a river which sweeps me along, but I am the river,” Borges wrote in his timeless reckoning with time and the nature of consciousness, which inspired the title of one of Oliver Sacks’s finest essays, later the title of the posthumous collection of his writings: The River of Consciousness.)

Without full and conscious immersion in the riverine mystery inside us, there can be no true love—that great miracle of transformation that alters the superstructure of the self and tilts the very axis of reality, inclining it wonderward. Thich Nhat Hanh puts it simply, poignantly:

“It is necessary to come back to yourself in order to be able to achieve the transformation.”

Complement with David Whyte’s stunning poem “The Truelove” and philosopher Martha Nussbaum on how you know whether you truly love a person, then revisit Thich Nhat Hanh on the art of deep listening and the four Buddhist mantras for transforming fear into love.

Source: Maria Popova, themarginalian.org (3rd February 2024)

#quote #love #life #fidelity #meaning #existential musings #all eternal things #love in a time of... #intelligence quotients #depth perception #understanding beyond thought #essential thinking #perspective matters #please be philosophical #open your heart #like lovers do #this is who we are #stands on its own #elisa english #elisaenglish

[ciitedexcerpt]

Life's not a fairytale, it's hard to own up.

#lyrics #source : like lovers do // hey violet #like lovers do #hey violet

[inkskinned]

in internet posts it is easy to cut them out of your life. they are hurting you! they aren't listening to you!

they held your hair back. they lent you lipstick. they held your hand at the train station and got you home safe. they rounded on your bully, got loud, said get fucked, spitting-mad in your defense.

they also cut the hair off again. told you that you should really think twice before wearing something like that. took you for granted. took your insecurities and threw them in your face again.

you know logically it should be easy. all the internet advice comments always read it will feel better. like an equation - if a person is rotten, you just remove them. you pull the tooth that's hurting.

but it was never a big flare-up moment. you don't live in a sitcom. they never tried to take your boyfriend or steal from your apartment. they showed up to birthdays and they wrote songs about you and bring you water without you asking. once you found out they carry an emergency inhaler for you, even though you haven't had an asthma attack in years - just in case.

where is the line? people fuck up. sometimes they fuck up badly. sometimes people have raw personalities, like a powerline, and being around them is dangerous. addicting. sometimes they can't help themselves, but you know they're trying. sometimes they are just rough-around-the-edges. sometimes they don't even realize how they sounded when they said that. sometimes it's just - you've both loved each other for so long now, the way this thing hurts goes back to the root.

and that's the fucked up part. you have pushed your fingers against the sweetheart of memory. things these days are electric, tense, harrowing. they didn't used to be. there were a lot of good days in there. sometimes you want to just close your eyes and say can this be over yet? do we still need to be fighting?

doing that would give up any chance you get of getting an apology, but you don't always know that you need an apology, you love them. once they flaked on your birthday party. once they told you to get over it, people are always dying. they also let you crash on their couch for a week after the breakup, handfeeding you when you were so sad you couldn't eat. they are also judgmental about everything, occasionally react to banal statements with an attitude that is weird and fiery. they also love you like a lighthouse sometimes, so strong they cut the storm like lightning.

but the problem is that you might be storm. you might be the thing that needs breaking. what if you are two forces who are desperately, horribly drawn to each other, shaped by the other person's passions, and both good for each other and bad in equal measure.

what if you're both just people, and you're no saint neither.

just cut them off! swallowing the saltwater, you catch yourself in the mirror. you've been shaking more than usual. there's an ache in you that is oblique, loud, impossible to soothe. is this what it looks like? when life is "easier"?

your mouth will always have a hole, is the thing, if you remove the tooth.

#spilled ink #warm up #writeblr #this is about someone specific but feel free to blorbo on main. #tbh this is familial for me so that is an element but it's also about childhood best friends #and probably about ur enemies to lovers blorbo #(but i want to specifically say if ur partner is like this. not necessarily a good partnership lol.) #(the dynamics at play in familial/friend relationships feel equally important and in some ways are HARDER to escape. #bc we can see that this is a potentially toxic romantic foundation. #but in family ? ...... it's toxic and it doesn't stop u from loving them. bc u always have. #and i think that makes it harder. by a lot. which is what this is referencing). #but genuinely and really truly forever feel free to tag ur potentially toxic enemies to lovers on this and all my poetry #here i'll do one for u - adora & catra :x

[deboracabral]

come get ya juice

#Found families #lemons #enemies to lovers #mutual pining #Illustration #the tropes are hungry #I’m back on my bullshit friends #i hope people realize that the more demanding they sound on my notes the less likely i am to do the flavours they want

[fumifooms]

Omg guys he just genuinely likes bugs and mollusks and critters 😭💘💔 Forced to noble when he just wanna crouch and watch things skitter in the dirt…

#Dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #spoilers #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #toshiro nakamoto #shuro #tfw you latch onto the first person you see that shares your interest #I’M SOBBINGGG #Yeah i didn’t know the hag monster tidbit existed so now I’m adding stuff into my masterpost #6 yo toshiro watching a snail and tuning out his nanny calling for him I’m screaming #This post is blowing up so: just for your information I made a masterpost on his whole family situation we do get a lot of info on him #His character goes quite deep it’s just not relevant to the wider story so Kui doesn’t go into details in the plot #So yeah look for that on my blog if you want. Also he likes flowers <3 #Nature lover toshiro

[beam-meup-scotty]

spock , roughly two seconds before doing something so unhinged no one else has even thought of it : good thing i’m a vulcan and i would never do something irrational or illogical lmaoo

#y’all remember the entirety of the galelio 7 when his solution to everythjng was just to Fuck Around and Find Out #in the amoeba episode where he was like no guys don’t rescue me it’s for Science #the man trap when he was slapping the monster in the form of bones’ former lover to snap bones out of it #um the one where got infected with those fake throw up thingies and BLINDED HIMSELF ?? #the one where his father was Dying and even though there were plenty of other people who could command the ship He Needed To Do It #several other instances i am forgetting #i literally love him #star trek #spock #s'chn t'gai spock #mr spock #captain kirk #doctor mccoy #dr mccoy #incorrect star trek #jim kirk #leonard mccoy #mccoy #star trek tos

[the-mad-prince-of-denmark]

Can’t decide what’s funnier- Benoit Blanc meeting his husband during a high stakes murder mystery or Benoit Blanc meeting his husband at like, the grocery store

#glass onion a knives out mystery #glass onion #benoit blanc #if it’s the first thing then you know it was a bickering-to-lovers situation #like Phillip thought he was completely ridiculous and overblown #and then they grow closer to the point where they’re flirting while like. some jackass is shooting at people right behind them #just them renacting the scene from clue #‘how do you even get into that position?!’ ‘well here let me show you’ #if it’s the second thing then they keep just pumping into each other buying the same pretentious items #blanc just wears him down #personal

[lieu-rey]

uhm uh. rdr jovier.

#rdr2 #rdr #javier escuella #john marston #jovier #red dead redemption 2 #when you have to kill your lover to save your wife and child. #and you cant look at his face bc you cant face what you had to do. #red dead redemption #red dead #can A/I_art die already i dont like how glaze makes my art look like jpeg images lmao #um anyway. jovier still on the brain. i promise i draw other rdr stuff besides them JFKEJNFN #i still have a bunch of stuff to post stay tuned<3 #oh fuck i forgot the tws #tw blood #tw death #nobody: #my brain cell immediately attaching to the only mexican character in a piece of media: #my art

[wasyago]

kakashi and bull 🥺🤲

#realized that i don't actually know how to draw dogs so i wanted to practice. and who's better for that than mr dog lover kashi #(and yes i know my persona is a dog and i can't draw dogs. ironic isn't it) #i wanna make a small series of drawings of kashi and all his ninken but this is the only one i have so far. we'll see how it goes #naruto #kakashi hatake #my art #sketch #also if anyone writes 'oh haha i thought it was etho' under this - #i will find you. and i will display each of your vertebra on my wall like they do with butterflies.

[cogitaeworks]

Its that time of the year again so I rewatched my favourite Barbie christmas movie from my childhood ❤️

#barbie in the nutcracker #nutcracker #clara #barbie #sketch #I was so dissapointed as a kid when the nutcracker becane human and he looked like the most mid Kendoll ever #same thing with the Beast and Adam in BATB #let the girlies have their same-age-range lovers who do not become into mainstream kens and instead look unique #plz and ty