Little Things That Attract a Man
If you are not into men, or not interested in attracting one, that is totally cool, but I see so many "I need a man so bad" blogs, that I might as well point out what attracts straight men, being one myself.
First, though, make sure he is the right man- it's better to be alone than with a man who will betray you (the same goes for friendship with other women, and human relationships generally).
If you have your sights set on a guy, though, and maybe he sees you as a friend, a coworker, or just as an acquaintance, maybe in a place in which there is not much physical contact (e.g. a workplace), the most attractive yet innocent thing is "doe eyes", bending the head down (that way, even if he is shorter, you still look up to him with Bambi eyes). This conveys sweetness, caring and admiration all at once, and makes a man feel needed. Experienced charmer Alexa Demie demonstrates:
Offer him something to eat, regardless of whether you made it yourself, or it is pre-packaged. We men are primal, and yes, that saying about our stomachs and hearts is true. Something as simple as handing him part of your snack will go a long way.
If you have gotten to the stage at which some touching is okay, and the setting is right, offer him a platonic massage. This works best if you know some legit massage techniques. One very innocent variation is a facial massage:
By this point, if he picks up social cues, he understands that you are probably interested in more than friendship, but it's still implicit. Now, it depends on his hobbies and interests, but the idea is the same: Making his attraction to you more direct, by finding an opportunity to "show off" in some way.
For instance, if he goes to the gym, go with him, because blood is pumping, and that is very primal. If he goes to comic conventions or costume parties, go with him, and dress up as his favorite character or type of character.
By now, if everything has worked as planned, you are ready to go in for the kiss, and by all means, make the first move. Testosterone makes men competitive, under tension and pressure to perform in every context, so letting him relax, close his eyes and let you gently take over is his dream come true.
This is a gay girl scene, but it is a perfect example of how boldly to go in for the first big moment with your guy... no hesitation, and straight to his neck and ears. Julianne Moore's character, the passive one, is releasing pent up emotion, and this bold move is not just about "turning on" your man, but about getting him to let go of tensions, expectations and inhibitions, and just feel the moment, with you guiding him there.
He might close his eyes, he might whimper and quiver, or even get teary-eyed- this is perfect, because you unlocked his heart:
Once you have taken him this far, the one other trick is finding an excuse to kneel in front of him. This can be entirely G-rated... it's not about sex per se, but about taking that doe-eyed look even further, showing him that you trust and admire him, and yes, it is a possible hint of your future intentions.
If his shoelaces are untied, tie them for him, as a friendly gesture with strong subtext, then look up at him. If something spilled on the floor, kneel to clean it up, then look up at him. This is only for a very special man, but with this last move, you have him 100% hooked on you:
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