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genderqueerdykes · 1 year

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the point of my masculinity and male positivity posts are to underline that masculinity and manhood are seen as a threat or in direct opposition to queerness, and that often times in order to be seen as queer you have to be partially or wholly feminine or gender neutral, or express your manhood in a feminine or gender neutral way in order to no longer be threatening, invasive, or a problem.

it is very difficult to exist in queer spaces as a hyper masculine person & a man. you're made to feel like you need to walk a tight rope feeling like you're inherently out of place, as if you existing and being masculine or a man in queer spaces makes others uncomfortable inherently.. just know that when i make positivity posts it is to remind us all that masculinity/manhood and queerness are not opposites and that you do not have to be a feminine man or masc person to be viewed/seen/heard as queer.

chasing men, masculine people, and masculinity out of queer spaces isn't helping anyone currently and won't help anyone down the line. please accept masc enbies, butches, bears, and masculine trans men with the same kindness, love, and passion that you do neutral and feminine people. that's the point when i make these kinds of posts. thank u

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shk0lstun-flagz · 8 months

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NonbinaryMan

(EnbyMan or Manby) for nonbinary people uniquely connected to manhood, feeling like a man outside the binary

- Here’s a a nonbinarywoman flag that was inspired by this one

#pride flag #queer flag #transgender #lgbt flags #queer manhood #man aligned #nonbinary man #nonbinary #manby #enbyman #demi boy #demi guy #gnc

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dommeclaudia · 8 days

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I love subs who love to do makeup and get all dressed up, like "yes you look so cute" is what you'll hear, but I'll be thinking about shoving my cock down your throat till your mascara is running down your face and your panties are soaked through to that tight little skirt of yours.

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uncanny-tranny · 6 months

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At this point, gender nonconformity is about what the person says their experience is.

If a woman with a beard or a man with lipstick and a mustache says they're gender nonconforming, then they are! If a woman with short hair or a man with long hair says they aren't, they aren't! And that's not even getting into the awesome nonbinary, abinary, genderqueer, intersex, and general genderfuckery that may both be and not be conforming.

So much of what is even considered gender conforming or gender nonconforming is based on a world of exclusion. When we start defining one's conformity with whether they fit into white cishetero perisex standards or not, we play into the idea that there's only a very narrow window of what is considered worthy of time and thought.

#gender nonconformity #gnc #queer #like. for instance a native man who keeps long hair might be considered GNC by white standards but for him it's absolutely not nonconformit #there's an aspect of white supremacy that silences everything else while saying that other culture's silence is indicative of whiteness...#...being 'correct' or 'moral' or 'neutral'#and as somebody who's trans and last i checked white i have my own thoughts from my own experiences #like how i don't consider myself to really be a GNC man. i'm just. man+#i'm a weird concoction of weird soup that tastes like a man but if it were Wrong #and i just don't see that as not conforming to manhood like it is seperate. i see it as irrevocably linked TO manhood #it is others who have excluded and exiled me from manhood because of *their* understanding of me and how i 'fit in' in cissexism #while i will never ever say i know what it's like to not be white i will say these conversations that PoC have started have been INVALUABLE #i am forever grateful to have been extended the patience and faith to listen in on the experiences of people...#...who are racialized in terms of gender and how they do/don't 'fit in' with often white supremacist views on gender/dynamics #may have made a post like this years back but. eh. arrest me officer i will not back down #i've been more and more 'gnc' as i go into my transition and i don't see it as nonconformity but as an outlet for my masculinity #which is why i'm not insecure about my crafts and creations. because it is coming from a male whether or not it's considered 'manly'#i have little to *no place* in cissexist society so why should i put any stakes into if they ~accept~ me #made this post while jamming out to skyrim's tavern OST (paused my game to write this)#why the HELL does the skyrim tavern music have to go SO HARD. i NEED to slam down BARRELS of mead while listening to this istg #i don't even LIKE honey so i haven't tried mead but. for skyrim i would.

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maledistributionsystem · 3 months

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part of what makes me so passionate about this blog is that the version of black masculinity that most cishet black men portray is NOT the only version of black masculinity allowed to exist.

My father is an empathetic and emotional man. when i cried in front of him he didn't think anything of it. He freely talks about his own emotions. We're both weird recluse nerds. He made a career out of weird computer shit just like im doing right now. He shamelessly loves plushies and little figurines. We both have barely-mitigated rage that blossoms at the drop of a hat. I love my dad. He didn't raise me yet somehow i am a beautiful mirror of him.

I didn't grow up with him in my life though. Instead all black male figures in my life growing up were either assholes or didn't do shit for me. I hated watching how my god brothers' father treated them. I hated how they were berated for cursing. I hated how they so easily shunned me when we got old enough for us playing football to become "inappropriate". I hated how they reinforced their distance from emotionalism through calling harmless and natrual behaviors gay.

When i think about being a man, i think about my father. I think about nerdy cisbi/cisgay black men who try very hard to keep to themselves and keep their heads down. I think about a gay boy i knew in highschool who loved dancing and was still a pretty masculine guy. I think about how unfair it is that my white counterparts get so many examples and options for manhood while black boys get one culturally accepted version of it.

Admittedly, i don't always love being the soft little freak i am. But thats okay, it doesn't have to feel good all the time. It doesn't have to be perfect. I only need to keep my drive for who i am. And that's enough.

All this shit to say: I hope all the black men following me know they're allowed to redefine masculinity without inherently being comfortable with femininity. Yall are allowed to be masculine in all the different ways and nuances that white men get. We aint just allowed to exist, we have a fucking right to.

#bear barks #ive been thinking of saying something like this for a few days now. I have a lot of thoughts on the idea of #masculinity thats constantly reinforced in the black community as the only valid version #when i saw a black queen on RPDR say that being a black man and a gay man just dont exist i fucking felt that #being queer and black and a man feels so fucking isolating. it really fucking does.#but i dont want it to stay that way. it doesnt have to. blackness and queerness and manhood do not need to be mutually exclusive

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just-your-average-tangerine · 3 months

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I find it frustrating how being a gnc and gay makes it hard to talk about my experiences as a trans person.

Both because the experiences themselves are so different from the norm. And because, if i try to talk about transphobia I face there's this underlying idea that because im a feminine trans man, I deserve it or at least could avoid it by being less feminine.

And there really is no way to win because if I'm feminine, then I'm not really a man (or not trying hard enough to be one) but if im masculine then I'm not queer enough and get shit from within the community for that too.

And I cant relate to the average trans masc experience (tm) because my (lesbian) mother's idea is that I should be a butch lesbian instead of a fem gay man so the lack of acceptance from them comes in the form of barring me from wearing makeup or "flashy" clothes, as opposed to the more typical enforced femininity.

How much of myself am I expected to give up? And more importantly, why is that expectation coming from other queer people, people who should know better?

#transandrophobia #transmasc #trans man #it just makes it hurt that much more that other queer people #and even other trans people #are pulling the same shit #and on a personal note #as if this whole thing wasnt already #it really sets a grim tone for the future #the entirety of my twenties has been a constant cycle of 'youre not gay because youre trans and therefore not really a man'#'but youre not really trans because youre too feminine'#'but youre not really queer because youre too masculine'#so at what point do i just fucking give up #and what part of myself #do i give up the makeup and fun clothes that makes me feel good about myself give up my femininity to 'be a man'?#do i give up my transition and my manhood and 'just be nonbinary' like so many people have told me to in order to be a 'good queer'#or do i just give up on friends love and community and just keep to myself?#its not like i can change the way i was born so theres no future in which i get to live as a gay man #it just all feels useless #it is useless #op

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m3l4nch0ly-h1ll · 6 months

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I've finally gathered the words to talk about my personal experience being a trans guy. I want to find other trans guys who can relate and have someone that will help them understand things better. I value sharing and relating experiences. Understanding others' experiences has helped me as a trans guy to put my experience and feelings into these words.

For starters, I've experienced gender dysphoria since I was 5-6. But due to my lack of thought regarding gender and my own identity, I didn't have any understanding on my gender dysphoria. There was a growing off feeling throughout my life that pushed me to realization at 12. Cisnormativie society made it easy to suppress who I am and make me partially go with what they want me to be.

Due to being in a cisnormative and suppressive society, it made it difficult for me to think for myself. So I just went by what people saw me as- a weird cishet girl with an obsession with cis men. The fat manly-looking bum. I was a target of mocking, and people would insult me for not being feminine and thin. People would call me a man- I only found this offensive because it was a jab at my lack of femininity. It was ill-intented to shame me, for people to express their disgust with me. I was only thankful for being ugly because that meant men wouldn't like me, and I wouldn't be expressing the femininity and showing off the very womanly features that make me so uncomfortable and out of place.

I didn't know who or what I wanted to be in life. Androgyny was my best bet and safe haven, since my maleness was suppressed but I didn't enjoy being a girl. Throughout my life I'd try expressing femininity and feeling good about it but it always turned bad for me- it made me so dysphoric, I felt like a clown expressing femininity. It got far more off-putting as I went on with life, yet I tried to suppress the feeling despite how embarrassed and uncomfortable I was. I never wanted to be a mother, but I wanted to be a parent. Cisnormativity suppressed part of my gender dysphoria, but not all of it since I ended up using androgyny to escape some of this gender dysphoria. I was far too suppressed to identify my maleness yet. To the point of feeling like I was chained to the role of a girl, and I couldn't see a clear and passionate future for myself.

I didn't see girls as competition for me. I couldn't link well with their girlhood and competition, so I didn't value it. I didn't feel pressured too hard by societal expectations of women, and I always brushed it off. And so boys were my competition. I felt uncomfortable doing certain things that were perceived as feminine/girly, but my excuse for it at the time was that people see me as a girl anyway, so I can let it slide, even though it makes me feel so weird.

I viewed feminine beauty and womanhood as something unlinked to me, it's something I admire from afar. My admiration for women isn't one of influence and idolism, but one of appreciation for their unique ways of expressing themselves as women. In ways I never could, because I could never find my place within femininity or womanhood.

I always hated being seen as attractive by boys. It always felt so repulsive and off-putting to me. I desired to be attractive, but not in a feminine or womanly way. I didn't want to appeal to men. That is where my envy for cis men comes in. Ever since I was 5, I've had this fascination with cis men. Their manhood and manliness, their ways of expressing androgyny, and them attracting women. It stirred up my dysphoria, which got me hooked to them.

Growing up with female puberty, I couldn't connect with it. I found periods and hair-growing interesting, but I couldn't connect with the femininity and womanhood involved in female puberty. It was just there. I never had appreciation for my growing chest, so there were only three options to pick from:

sexualize it

ignore it

hate it

Ignoring my chest is something I did well at- usually. It helped with somewhat alleviating my dysphoria, since I was distracted by other things. They never felt like another part of me, just something to either objectify or be repulsed by. I didn't understand why girls enjoyed comparing chest size and having bigger boobs than each other. I could never truly enjoy it, and I always looked at flat-chested girls with secret envy.

I started puberty at 8. I started learning about periods at 9 since I knew I'd get mine at 10. I was never excited to get my period, I was only curious- my body was always just an experiment to experience for knowledge, it isn't a connection to who I am and appreciate being. And therefore, my period never made me feel happy and prideful, and it didn't make me feel like I was becoming a woman. That felt like such an off term to use for how I felt and still feel.

When I was in 5th grade, females and males in my class were put in separate rooms to learn about puberty. The whole time during a video of female puberty, I felt my dysphoria stirring with bonding about female puberty and the differences and similarities me and other classmates had. I suppressed my hate for it. I wanted so badly to see what was going on in the other room, to see boys bonding and relating over puberty, to see their reactions and all. The male body fascinated me anyway, and I always enjoyed it. I couldn't bring myself to be really sexually attracted to male bodies as I was fascinated by them and curious. Even if it seemed like it was a sexual attraction to others, it wasn't.

And added onto this, my attraction towards cis men is usually envy towards them and their unique expressions of manhood and masculinity that I couldn't get to express. But my true self was suppressed so it was passed off as me having feelings for them.

I at some point had started to wonder if I was a lesbian but I realized how wrong the label felt for me, so I didn't go with it. As I'm nearing 16, it's been 3-4 years since I've realized, so it's still somewhat unfamiliar to me to now know why I feel the way I do. I've been dysphoric for 10 years and I've only known of terms to use to understand my feelings for 3/4 of those years- my life is still the same in this regard but the difference is that I have terms to use to describe my feelings and experiences, and others who can relate.

I worry about my past, present, and future. I have somewhat of envy for people that knew their gender since 3-5, so it's no news for them. I spent most of my childhood feeling like I was destined to be a girl and suppress that off feeling growing inside of me. I'm glad to have been given a second chance to think and feel for myself and finally understand myself and my experiences.

My past self is withered next to a blooming new me. The boy in him didn't get to grow and reveal itself, so he was deprived of life, and died for it. But I was given the chance to find him and finally be him. My younger self would've drowned searching for him, he was too young to dive deep. And I'm thankful to finally understand myself.

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theyofotherwhat · 8 months

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Womanhood runs through my blood as strong as the manhood which I cling to. I have to shout to be heard when I say I'm a man, but should I disgrace myself with femininity would I be lesser?

I am a daughter. I am a sister. I am a son and a brother. My spirit is forever itself, with scars inside and out. What you see of me, what I can say, do not define the person who I am.

#he/they/it #trans #trans poetry #queer poetry #my poetry #my writing #poetry #i know its not very poetic but #genderfluid #nonbinary #enby #transmasc #womanhood #sisterhood #manhood #men #women #uhhh #tags :)

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religion-is-a-mental-illness · 10 months

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Or that innate sexual attraction is a "genital fetish," while a girl who likes Legos and bike riding is a boy.

#Colin Wright #biological sex #gametes #womanhood #manhood #stereotypes #gender stereotypes #regressive stereotypes #sexist stereotypes #human reproduction #human biology #queer theory #gender ideology #gender identity #religion is a mental illness

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hoardicboy · 1 year

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Rosvebird

[Image ID, a flag striped flag with the colors top to bottom being dusky pink, magenta pink, purple, soft blue and teal ID end]

Rosvebird is a identity in which one feels like a man and woman, masculine and feminine, boy and girl, but doesn't feel like their gender is multi-faced, multigender, girlboy/boygirl, or both binarys

Rosvebird is from being in the cultures and lifestyle of both womanhood and manhood, this may be from being raised as one and becoming another, being bigender at a point, being intersex, being one sex and the other binary gender, living as both or many other experiences

The name comes from Rooster and Dove, Roosters being a symbol of masculinity, Doves being a symbol of femininity and Bird to show common ground between both, as Doves and Roosters are birds

The colors stand for the culture of women and girls and feminine people, womanhood or girlhood, the mixture and grey area of both, manhood or boyhood, and the culture of men and boys and masculine people

This may related to one's gender, sexuality, lifestyle or labels and more But it is not any of those in itself

Taglist-

@revenant-coining @radiomogai @local-yurei @gennerflooid

#from the ashes #rosvebird #womanhood #manhood #mogai label #mogai #mogai culture #for the fire #queer #burned to ashes

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drunk0nheat · 3 months

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Hey, guess what!

Identity policing and gatekeeping doesn't stop being identity policing and gatekeeping just because you say so.

You can tell me the world is flat all you want. It will continue to be round.

#this post is about any and all identity policing but was prompted by a lesbian gatekeeping lesbianism #if you gatekeep any aspect of the queer community then you are a fed #nobody is erasing your identity - you're just being an exclusionary shitwad #also genuinely considering blocking everyone who has one of those ''men dni'' tags on their bios because like #that's just the ''Non-Binary is women+'' mentality the long way around #many enbies identify strongly with manhood - some lesbians actually identify strongly with manhood #''hate all men'' is not the progressive stance you think it is hun...

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genderqueerdykes · 6 months

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i love experiencing feminine trans manhood. i love you if you experience feminine trans manhood too. manhood is not defined by masculinity, every man defines themselves.

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devilfruitdyke · 1 year

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the she/theys vs he/theys and wlw vs mlm posts are symptoms of a larger problem within the queer community 👍

#1. lack of consciousness of beauty standards 2. no grasp of intersectionality 3. focus on online discourse and not queer theory #'discourse' used very literally there. this is not a sick dunk on Minors These Days #anyway we as lgbtq people are very focused on ourselves as oppressed that we dont realize how we are perpetuating/internalizing...#... oppressive beliefs #see how all 'g ender envy' is almost exclusively skinny *white* conventionally attractive cis people #i saw someone say something like 'dont tag as gender envy be yr own person' the other day #and that really opened my eyes ?#we can be so caught up in the politics of being trans (usually as yr only minority group)#that it basically turns into 'skinny white cis men are the ideal of manhood dont ask me why though idk'#its deeply internalized #same goes with the 2 posts i mentioned #ps. i KNOW gender envy is what you personally find enviable and you shouldnt forced to change yr attraction for political reasons #but its the same shit that cishet beauty standards have been for centuries #very similar to how the only models in magazines are skinny white cis women #they dont say that fat people/trans women/woc arent worth their pages. its implied.#we just need to think about what we're implying every day as a community.#also i have a personal thing against gender envy culture because you guys forced me to see FUCKING V OMITBOYX EVERY DAY IN LIKE 2020 #/JOKE I SWAER. unless i get told one more time that im not really trans because i dont want short hair over my eyes. then i snap #<3

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uncanny-tranny · 8 months

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Something I've been reflecting on again is my childhood as a (then unrealized) trans man, and just how it's impacted how I move about now.

I remember as a kid distinctly feeling almost predatory for even breathing near girls my age or women, and while I didn't have the words to understand why that is, I still distinctly feel that way. It's definitely something that weighs on you, especially when you try your best to be upstanding and decent. It's hard to quantify my experiences as a trans man in many ways because they aren't quite the same as cis men or cis women's experiences, and I think people expect trans men to either be the exact same as cis men or admit we aren't "really" men (because, obviously, cis men are the standard (sarcastic)).

All this to say that trans experience is complicated. Support all trans people, and listen to us at all ages. I really wish somebody had somehow noticed and told me I wasn't a monster for how I felt. I hope no young trans person has to ever feel that way.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #i know i've talked about it before but it still kind of hurts you know #it just hurts to have always felt like a monster for my manhood but also...#...to almost feel that way as i transition 'visibly'#and i guess people just Do Not Like if trans experience isn't 1:1 with cis experiences #i know this is a general queer vibe but my experiences are inextricably linked to my transness to me

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wild-at-mind · 7 months

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If you ever see me becoming one of those transmisandry people, please fucking call me out immediately.

#it shouldn't happen though i am too triggered by MRA-lite material #i can't see that changing any time soon even though i haven't had exposure to the content for like 10 years #the transmisandry discourse on this site melts my brain it's awful it's just online stuff being argued about more online stuff #this is not the same as me saying i will never be treated badly for being transmasc i am not stupid i know that happens #and i am fully committed to fighting the patriachy which has nothing whatsoever to do with my individual manhood or anyone else's #it's a system and yes gender and how we fit into the patriachy is made extremely complicated in trans circles and that's ok!#i promise it is you don't have to design a new system that cis women and trans women are using to do oppression on specifically trans mascs #we're all being fucked over by the patriachy and how the fuck does it help to be divided #but in reality let's face it i can say this all i want but the real reason i'm never going anywhere near being a transmisandry person #is because i was exposing myself to MRA-lite content at a formative age and harming myself in the process #even if i didn't know i was a trans man guess what it would have harmed me just as much if i did have that awareness #and honestly when i see transmisandry discourse all i see is that fucking triggering stuff again #all it does is nitpick whether patriachy is real with tiny examples it doesn't talk systemicly and it doesn't help men in the slightest #it pays lipservice to marginised men but it has no interest in talking about the fact that men are usually simultaenously #oppressed and oppressor at the same time- this is not accusatory it is just factual #it's true of the queer community too and basically every community #but we can't seem to talk about it without just harming each other and blaming and not seeing each other as human #the internet makes it all so much fucking worse this stuff can't exist without it #anyway i'm super rambling but these are genuinely very triggering topics for me i have unfollowed people i LOVE becuase of this #and i still love them! unfollowing on a social media isn't a referendum on that i just can't see that stuff and i need it gone from my dash

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nowendil · 7 months

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been thinking a lot about womanhood lately

#like. i don't exactly identify as being a woman. in contrast i do have a strong nonbinary/muunsukupuolinen identity #yet i do feel and acknowledge that in most contexts i AM a woman #not only because that's what most of the world sees me as but that's also consecuently how i move through the world #there is no one set way for women to experoence the world but i do feel like my experience is one of those. because i am gendered as a woman #it used to make me uncomfortable and dysphoric and i'm not saying that now it never does #but i have made my peace with it? like. i feel like i have “let womanhood in” as a part of my identity #and i have also realized that it's not actually being seen as a woman that makes me uncomfortable but being seen SOLELY as a woman #like my friends calling me a woman or my partner calling me their girlfriend doesnt sting usually #because i know they also see the other parts of my gender identity #but when a coworker refers to me with she/her or includes me in “ladies” it stings. because i know that's all they see #like YES i can be a woman. if you acknowledge that i am a bit of a weird woman.#i can be a woman if you acknowledge that i am a gnc woman. a bisexual woman. a queer woman. a woman who is sometimes bit of a man.#if you see and acknowledge that we can talk #however i am NOT a nonbinary woman. i am nonbinary AND a woman. which to some people is the same thing #but to me it's an important distinction. being nonbinary and being a woman are both parts of my gender identity but in very different ways #and very distinctively. lumping them together as equal parts of my identity as i feel the term “nonbinary woman” does doesn't describe me #i am enthusiastically nonbinary. i am begrudgingly a woman. i'm a woman with a long footnote explanation. woman¹ #“nonbinary woman” also doesnt feel like it accommodates the way i relate to manhood or boyhood. but that's a whole another tedtalk #i'm not a man but i like how it looks. and i'm not a man i'm just borrowing parts of it for genderfuckery reasons #idk how to explain it in english...#in finnish i would say that en oo mies mut joskus lainaan tai iahn vaa ihailen asioita mieheyden kuvastosta.#but because in social situations and In Our Society That We Live In you mostly can just choose one gender and it's either man or a woman #thennout of those i would rather be a woman. legally. with strangers. you know. not a woman but kind of yes because i relate to other women #if i could be seen only as nonbinary i would. but then again my nonbinaryness does encompass some parts of both womanhood and manhood.#so i guess people would have trouble seeing it as “only nonbinsry”#idk man. it's complicated and also changes emphasis multiple times a year #ask me again a month from now and the gender landscape will be interpreted completely differently #gender #nowe talks

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