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tarabyte3 · 2 months

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Hey fanfiction writers: If no one's ever told you this before, it's not just fanfiction.

It's something you spent hours, days, maybe even months on, pouring your heart out onto a page because you were so full of passion and thoughts about a story or characters, you felt like you were going to explode if you didn't get it out. Maybe you lost sleep because your mind was racing with ideas or you forgot to eat or drink water because you were so focused. Maybe your back aches from being hunched over for so long, unmoving. Maybe you even felt like you were going a little feral because you were so excited about what you were creating, or were frustrated when you got stuck. Either way, you put your heart, mind, soul, and body into making something.

It's okay to want people to read it, and it's okay if you're disappointed that they don't or it doesn't get as much of a reaction as you were hoping for. Humans are social creatures. Sure, we write for ourselves, but we also share because the joy of doing so is just as powerful as the joy of the process. Of having created something.

We all experience that joy and that disappointment, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

So it's okay. It's not just fanfiction.

#writing #fic writing #fanfiction #fanfic #writlbr #just had to get this out there #fanfiction has brought me so much joy for ~25 years now #big thank you to everyone that feels sad about their stuff and still writes anyway #i love you and i appreciate you #and i guarantee i'm not the only one

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thebibliosphere · 10 months

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One of the really fun and interesting things about writing a polyamorous romance as someone who is ambiamorous/polyamorous is finding new ways to make sure the narrative hits the expected genre beats without just sort of... mushing it into a pre-existing monogamous romance mold, which is what I'm afraid happens a lot of the time.

Trust me, it was my job in the publishing house to make them fit that mold. I hated it.

Reading other poly-centric romances, I can always somewhat tell when someone is writing polyamory from a sexual fantasy aspect (zero shade; I'm here for all the group sex) without actually considering how it functions as a relationship dynamic, which can often come off as... well.

It's lacking for me as a romance.

Erotica-wise, it's fine. But it misses the romantic beats for me that I want as a polyamorous-leaning person.

There's so much emphasis on the polycule and never the individual dyads within the larger relationship.

For example, in a triad, there are actually four relationships to handle.

The dyad between A + B. The dyad between A + C. The dyad between B + C. And the overarching relationship between A + B + C.

With monogamous-leaning authors or authors that've been pressed into conforming to the pre-existing genre beats, there's a tendency to treat the relationship as a homogenous mass where everything is fair and equal, and you treat all your partners the exact same way.

And I get it. It's easier to write everything as peachy-keen and to have external conflict be resolved with either acceptance or a brave confrontation.

But it doesn't always land for me as someone who wants to see my style of love represented in the genre.

In healthy polyamory, either closed or open, each relationship is unique in its own way. Taking the example of a triad again, the way A acts with C likely differs from how A acts with B.

And that's a good thing!

Because C might not want the same things as B, so trying to treat them both the exact same is a surefire way to make sure someone isn't getting their needs met, and that will lead to conflict.

Polyamory isn't striving for equality between partners but rather equity.

What are your individual needs, and how do I meet them, as well as meet the needs of my other partner(s)? What do you want from the larger relationship as a whole? How do we accommodate everyone without making someone feel neglected or uncomfortable? How do we show this in the narrative? How do we make sure character A isn't just treating B the same as C in every interaction? Do they ever fall into that pitfall? How do they remedy it?

It seems like common sense when you write it out like that, but it's a major pitfall I see time and time again. The characters never alternate their approach between partners, if there's any focus on the individuals at all.

The other major telltale thing I've noticed is that taking time to be with one partner is seen as a step down from the "goal" of the greater polycule.

The narrative is framed in such a way that they might start out with individual dates, but the end goal of the romance is to eventually be together 100% of the time all the time, and wanting individual time alone with any one partner is somehow "lesser."

Which is the goal of romance in monogamy, but it's not the goal of romance in polyamory.

Granted, you do need to end on a Happy Ever After or Happy For Now for it to fit the genre requirement. And a nice way of tying that up is to have everyone together at the end as a happy polycule all together all at once. I'm not disputing that as a narrative tool. I'm just pointing out that there's a tendency to present those moments as the sum total of the relationship when in actuality, there are multiple relationships that need to end happily ever after.

The joy of polyamorous love is the joy of multitudes. It's the joy of experiencing new things, both as individuals and as a polycule. If you're not taking care of the individual dyads, however, your polycule is going to crash and burn. You cannot avoid that. So why, then, is there such avoidance of it in stories meant to appeal to us?

Is it simply inexperience on behalf of the author? Or is it that they're not actually being written for us? Is it continued pressure to meet certain genre beats in a largely monogamous-centric genre? All of the above?

Either way, I'm having fun playing around with it and doing all the things we were warned against in the publishing house.

I'm having fun with Nathan and Vlad enjoying their own private dynamic that is theirs and theirs alone. I'm having fun with Ursula and Nathan being so careful and vulnerable around each other. I'm absolutely 100% here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula without a chaperone. And I'm here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula together and Nathan's fond, loving eye roll as he trails after them, too enamored to tell either of them no because where would the fun in that be...

Anyway. Don't mind me. Just getting my thoughts out while everyone else is in bed.

#long post #rambling with joy #I see so many interesting stories just sort of... neglect the dyads in the end #and it makes me sad #I wish it happened less

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siickwithsadness · 6 months

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Can we talk about how cute their pajamas/bedheads are especially Joy with the strands of her hair standing up 😭 they look so adorable

#inside out #inside out 2 #inside out disney #inside out joy #joy inside out #sadness inside out #inside out sadness #inside out anger #anger inside out #disgust inside out #inside out disgust #fear inside out #inside out fear

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thehallstara · 11 months

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anyways happy pride to all my high risk queers out there, to all my disabled queers for whom events aren't accessible to, to my immunocompromised folks who can't risk attending events where people aren't masked or taking covid precautions! happy pride to my fellow cripqueers that want to be out there fighting and celebrating with their friends and family and can't because it's not safe for them to do so– you're not alone and you deserve to celebrate too. we all do.

#s.txt #okay to rb by the way #ngl this is mostly for myself but it's also something i feel strongly about #especially given everything i've seen lately talking about weighing risk vs pleasure as if they're mutually exclusive #or that there aren't high risk queer folks that deserve to access queer joy as well #i would literally kill to be able to celebrate pride with my queer fam this year and i can't bc i can't afford a reinfection #and it makes me so sad #queer #pride month #covid mention #covid isn't over

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erranplayz · 6 months

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anger in heart under garments is probably the most canon and accurate thing ever

#inside out #pixar #inside out joy #inside out sadness #inside out disgust #inside out fear #inside out anger #inside out 2

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jeyneofpoole · 7 months

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leda 1, 2, 3

#quote is from lucille clifton’s leda 1!!#got super sad ab her so. um.#asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #valyrianscrolls #asoiaf art #asoiaf fanart #lyanna stark #lucille clifton #tower of joy #starks #house stark #roberts rebellion

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livelovecaliforniadreams · 7 months

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1x10 | 2x10 | 3x10

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yudol-skorbi · 10 months

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fave cringe fail loser girlboss

#critical role #vox machina #keyleth #keyleth of the air ashari #fanart #cr1 #i love her so much you dont understand #she is so full of rage and love and sadness and childlike joy #love love love her #vax i understand you so hard here #just recently watched the goldfish incident episode #no one does it like her

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lumintsu · 21 days

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manifesting cheerleader dalien

#dnp #dapg #dalien #dalien howlter #sims #dan and phil #daniel howell #phil lester #danandphilgames #dan and phil games #my art #obsessed with the concept of the emo sad kid who unexpectedly finds joy in cheerleading #something something gender roles and breaking them via emo (which is a pretty androgynous style)#and cheerleading (a typically feminine sport)#ties back into my hc that dalien is nonbinary

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muneonim · 1 month

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Happy birthday Yuji~ 🥺

#itafushi #jujutsu kaisen #yuji itadori #megumi fushiguro #fluffy itafushi #🥺🥺🥺🥺#yuji would let megumi try whatever he’s having bc he just wants to share the joy #it’s so sad yuji never got to celebrate his bday with his friends in canon #hugeeeee art block so new doodle

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probablyhuntersmom · 1 year

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"Wolves are actually great parents!"

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Disclaimer (since my last set of edits got reposted and spread across Twitter and Tiktok): These aren't leaks! Drawn, photoedited, and coloured in Paint Tool SAI 2 :B