#NONE OF THIS IS HEALTHY

[getvalentined]

I'm gonna say something really important here that was inspired by one specific event but applies to several others I've seen over the last few years. This is not vagueblogging to call someone out, this is a pattern I've seen a few times now that I'm genuinely concerned about.

If a series, whether books or television or films or video games, is so all-consuming in your life that a new installment going in a different direction from what you want is enough to make you have an emotional breakdown, you need to unplug from that series. If you sincerely refer to characters in this series as "[your] people" or "the love of [your] life" or "[your] family," not as a figure of speech but as something so genuine that having them handled in ways contrary to your preference makes you feel like your way of life is under attack, you need to distance yourself from those characters.

I'm saying this as someone who literally can't get into fandom debates anymore because I get so wrapped up that my heart rate spikes to the point of danger to my person. Because of a specific experience with a specific person (related to events outside fandom, but triggers are triggers) I have a very real trauma response to these discussions, and I can't engage with them anymore. I'm not saying this as "it's just a show calm down" or "why do you care so much about a video game" or as any kind of insult or passive aggression; I'm saying this as someone who understands firsthand that feelings get caught in specific places, and sometimes we just can't seem to pull them loose.

If you feel like this over a work of fiction, you need to get help, because there is something wrong. Something in your head and your heart has gotten caught on this work of fiction, and you need to pull it loose for your own wellbeing, but when it's gone that far it's all but impossible to do on your own.

I need to be very clear that I'm not talking about special interests or hyperfixations. I'm not talking about people who throw their lives into loving a specific thing, learning everything about that thing, expressing their interest in that thing, and so on. There's a line between passion and obsession, and a difference between what appears to be an obsession but is harmless and what appears to be passion but is an unhealthy level of obsession.

It's easy for those of us on the outside to write this kind of behavior off as just more entitled fans being entitled, but there's a point where what looks like entitlement exposes itself as something very different, something much more dangerous. If you're feeling this way—you need distance and assistance. If you're seeing friends behave this way—they need help, not rallying cries to "speak [their] truth."

I cannot express this strongly enough. No fictional character, no fictional story, no fandom is worth your health. Not one. Period. You are a real human being who deserves to be alive and safe and happy. The creators of a work of fiction are not attacking you or belittling your efforts by continuing to create within the boundaries of the fictional universe they created.

To put it as simply as I can:

If a work of fiction that you did not create existing in a state that you can't control is seriously damaging your mental and emotional wellbeing, you need to step away.

#no clue how to tag this #fandom vent #maybe #kinda #not really #PSA #you can reblog this #I expect to get some shit for it #but it's super important #especially right now #particularly for my main fandom #where things are #uh #getting kinda weird #with some people #I am genuinely concerned #and folks are just like #'yaaas queen speak out!!' #THIS IS NOT HEALTHY #NONE OF THIS IS HEALTHY #PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE

[bombusbombus]

Was nobody going to tell me that late Justice League America comics had some buckwild queer drama or was I going to find that out myself.

#wally west is having his gender binary bean freaked by a small blue bird #he is having a breakdown about it #there's a complicated love polygon going on with two men and two women #a man is exposed to sapphic love and he starts to question the very fabric of his bromance #none of this is healthy #but its more realistic to real queer people than anything DC has come up with recently #imo #just by virtue of the breakdowns per hour #and himbos coming to terms with their feelings #dc #justice league america #theres no way this is gonna end without burying some gays is there

[sea-dukes-assistant]

Y'all put more energy and effort into hating a woman than I do trying to watch hockey at 3 a.m.

#get therapy and or a hobby #none of this is healthy #[insert applicable royal woman here]

[7-galaxys]

WHEN UR TWO FRIEND GROUPS ARE FALLING APART

#vent #haha i am So Stressed #trying to move out with friends!!! we're scared!!!! #private server added new people and not everyone is on board #i suck at my job!!! i keep falling asleep!!! i want to quit my other job!!!! #i have yet to finish isat bc i wanna stream to friends but everyone is busy!!!!! #none of this is healthy #im stress eating and my room is a mess #and im on my third last chance on homeworkd #life is so so so hard rn #i dont know how to ease the pain #i KNOW itll go away #smooth over #ill laugh again someday #but today? im crying

[jennybobenny73]

I can't stop laughing on this advertisement I got whilst scrolling tumblr.com bc what did 35-44 ever do to you like why are the rest of them ripped and shredded

#hes bulking #unhealthy depictions of fitness #seriously if you look like the rest of them youre dehydrated and pushing yourself too far #none of this is healthy

[ofswordsandpens]

oh and I sincerely believe that Poseidon telling Percy "You're my favorite child" was absolutely a manipulation tactic/power play and it worked

#he may have even been being honest #but a parent telling one of their children that they are their favorite... #oh there are intentional dynamics being sewn there #and none of them are healthy #pjo #percy jackson #mine

[charmre]

I'm going to bed earlier and earlier and sleeping for longer lately, I'm depressed :(

#I'm mulling over things in my head and am back on my suicidal ideations bullshit ahhaaa...... #the only thing keeping me going is unreleased medias for years later #otherwise idk man.... #personal #sorry for being a bummer guys #I'm also just trying to drown myself in coursework now bc I took a break from that too for a long weekend #so now I'm trying to overcompensate #none of this is healthy #but I'm making strides in my next class project I guess #idk I'm rambling too

[gayjedicoded]

hey babe new personality chart just dropped

#the bad batch season 3 #the bad batch #tbb #crosshair is only slightly more central than hunter because of the last ep he Started The Journey #and LETS BE CLEAR the high end of ‘learned to cope’ is relative. none of them are being healthy #idk how techs coping it depends on several factors #its another example of him having the information they all need but not being able to do anything with it #omega may be helping crosshair cope but shes not doing too hot herself. scary #and echo is his own post 😞

[cringefailvox]

episode six's vaggie-as-an-angel reveal actually clarifies a lot of things about her dynamic with charlie that i previously found uninteresting or underutilized. it's clear that she has some kind of loyalty/utility complex founded on her low self-esteem, which absolutely makes sense if she used to be an exorcist. she comes from a place where blind obedience is key, and a single act of mercy got her cast out and brutalized—of course she would latch onto the first person who showed her kindness and love. of course it makes sense that she would become fixated on the idea of "repenting" for her past violence against charlie's home by devoting herself to protecting charlie's dreams. their relationship wasn't very compelling to me before but this adds so many delicious dimensions to it; if charlie was the one who found vaggie and took her in, who earned her trust and fell in love with her, then of course vaggie would see charlie as the center of her universe, and would see failing charlie as a reflection of her own worthlessness. and it would never occur to her to tell charlie the truth once she found out how charlie feels about angels, because she loves charlie too much to risk earning her hatred or scorn (even though i don't believe charlie could ever hate her).

#and none of this takes away from the fact that they are a genuinely healthy and loving couple either. multiple things can be true at once #i'm just excited for their relationship to have tumult and difficulty finally #charlie morningstar #vaggie #chaggie #hazbin hotel

[rubydubydoo122]

The one rule Alfred had to put in place for Jason was no books in the kitchen/dinning room. It wasn’t because he would accidentally get food on the book, but because Jason would not pay attention to what he’s eating, or forget to eat. (He probably used to read on the streets while trying to ignore his hunger)

And after Jason died, Alfred couldn’t bring himself to scold anyone about doing anything besides eating at the table.

Bruce, doing casework

Dick, on a tablet working out Titans stuff

Tim, on his laptop, stalking someone

Cass, on her phone

Duke, doing a puzzle

Damian, sketching

Jason is sitting at the table, visibly judging everyone: Alfred, How come they get to do their things at the table, but I can’t read?!

Alfred raises his eyebrow: would you be able to remember the food in front of you?

Jason: come on, Alfie, I’m not 12 anymore

Dick: the reason you’re here is because you passed out on patrol

Tim, looking up from his laptop: because you forgot to eat for two days because you were busy reading the entire chronicles of Narnia

Jason: I know neither of you are talking, tell me the last time either of you ate something besides coffee or cereal

#jason todd #alfred pennyworth #robin jason todd #dick grayson #tim drake #damian wayne #duke thomas #batman #bruce wayne #cassandra wayne #none of them have healthy habits lmao

[ef-1]

Transcribed Excerpts from Christian Horner's hour long Interview that are batshit insane and so narratively dense you'd think they're lifted wholesale from a book, featuring:

The most in depth, behind the scenes view of what transpired in 2018

Fords CEO getting in touch with Dax to gush about how much he likes Daniel

Christian feeling vindictive towards Daniel

Christian comparing Sebastian and Max

Christian comparing Daniel to Roger Federer

How Christian had to mitigate Helmut's shitshow and personally asking Dietrich to give Daniel everything he wanted

Hilarious rapid fire in the end and his perspective on the failure of Ferrari

●●● <- indicates a time skip

Dax: In tennis you see guys when they lose steam, they break apart.

Christian Horner : you see that with checo.

●●●

[Dax mentions that in Christian's position, a lot of people would not have invited Daniel back into the family. "Because Daniel turned his back on the family." ]

Christian: Daniel's a great guy. Very badly advised in his early career. Everybody fucks up at some point. I think he recognizes that he made a mistake. He didn't have good advice around him at the point he left us. Having spent time outside the family he realized what he had here was actually good. It was horrible to see that it got worse and worse after us. It was actually this time last year in Mexico where I sat down with him in my hotel room, I told him you need a complete reset- take a year out. Come back to us.

Dax: He's such a win for you guys.

Christian: Totally.

Dax: you sent Daniel to Jim Farley [ CEO of Ford] and I know Jim Farley and he got in touch with me and told me "That Daniel Ricciardo guy is the greatest!" I'm like to him: he's the dream, send him anywhere.

●●●

Christian: He's [Daniel] a confidence driver, when he's got his mojo, he one of the fastest guys on the grid.

Dax: he's lethal.

Christian: yep.

Dax: he's got that magic thing that people either have or don't have in my opinion which is: there are winners and there are not winners

[you're not ready for this lol]

Christian: He came to us, he's one of our juniors, I remember going to watch him in formula 3, he really stood out. Very smooth. Just great. Naturally. Like a Roger Federer kind of style behind the wheel, very very classic. Light touch. Great, great skill. And then he came through the system [RB program] when we had Sebastian Vettel, 4 time world champion- Mark Webber retired. We chose Daniel as the Junior, with no expectation on him and he started beating Vettels ass. he won 3 races in 2014 when we had FAR from the best engine, Sebastian never won a race that year.

Dax: Even his time at Mclaren, it sucked for him but he's the only one who won a race.

Christian: He IS the only one who won a race.

Dax: and for a long time now.

Christian: and Renault he had great performances. [...] he's got to feel the love. He's got to feel comfortable in the environment that he's in. Some of his races for us were- absolutely outstanding.

●●●

[Christian about the 2018 negotiations]

Christian: I asked Dietrich to show Daniel love. Helmut was obviously pro Max, I said if you could just balance things out, let him [Daniel] know you want him. Dietrich said "no problem, I'll talk to him" so he took Daniel upstairs after the race in Austria to talk to him, and they were there for well over an hour.

Dax: To the point you were nervous?

Christian: I thought SHIT! But they reappear, and they're both smiling, I tell him: "Dietrich, how did it go?" He says,"No problem, don't worry about it. It's not even a question [that daniel would leave]"

Christian: Then we went to Germany, and his engine blew up. His engine kept letting him down, letting him down, letting him down. But from there, we went to Hungary, and we got his paperwork [Daniel's contract] for a TWO year deal all sorted out. Daniel's manager came to me and said 'listen Daniel is nervous about the engine' because we were going to switch to Honda so his manager said: 'he'll do ONE year' I thought wow. That's not really what we talked about, because in 6 months we'll be having the same conversation. So I remember I went back to Dietrich, and I said, "it's about relationships. It's NOT about contracts. If he wants a one year contract, give him a one year contract," so at this point: he's got everything he wants. Also, at that point, Daniel was doing a test for us after the Hungarian race, I thought Daniel will sign the paperwork on Monday, suddenly Monday goes and he's in the car on Tuesday. I'm starting to smell something because this is an enormous deal, you'd have thought he'd be in a rush to sign this contract. And he didn't sign the contract before he got in the car in the morning and I thought he'd sign by lunchtime but it didn't happen. He had to get out of the car and go straight to the airport because he's flying from here to LA and I thought he'll call me. I'm feeling something at this point.

Dax: you know you're about to be broken up with.

Christian: yeah.

Dax: if your girlfriend didn't show up to lunch then dinner-

Christian: exactly. So- he [daniel] rings me, I was in the car with Geri, he tells me "I just got off the plane, I arrived in LA, and I've been thinking on the flight, all the way here- I'm not going to sign the contract. I'm going to take another contract. [...] he tells me Renault? The engine that let him down for 2 years? I was convinced, I was CONVINCED- because Daniel has got a sense of humour- I thought- he's taking the piss. I thought come on. I told him: come on. There is no way. You're not going to Renault, stop fucking about, just sign the contract. After 10 minutes he finally persuaded me that he was going to Renault. It was disappointing.

Dax: I wanna applaude you, because a lot of people who go through that experience think: fuck you.

Christian: there was an element of that. I thought: go and suck on a lemon for a bit. But actually during the pandemic, I remember he called me and said "Christian I hate to say this to you but you were right"

•••

Christian thinks Max > Vettel

Christian about Alex and Pierre being teammates with Max: he broke them

[Very confused in this part because Christian like? Says the best thing for Checo to perform is to forget about Max, stop trying to compete with him, stop looking at his data? Girl you are NOT selling it rn]

•••

When Christian is asked to analyse Red Bull's champions, he thinks Sebastian and Max are diametrically opposed . Sebastian is your stereotypical German, he would be at the track until 11 to analyse data. Max is not interested in all the detail [devasting news for all the bitches who spent years trying to dunk on Daniel by calling him not technical, Christian seems to think that Daniel and Max share a natural ability that doesn't rely on data.] He [Max] Gives you just what he needs to go faster. Max hates testing, has no interest in it.

●●●

Christian confirms he has a lucky toilet.

●●●

Christian says in 2014-18 Red Bull came this 🤏 close to selling to Audi.

●●●

Christian: Drive to Survive is the Kardashians on wheel

●●●

Christian: You get characters like Gunther Steiner. How scary is he. He used to work for us, I had to be the one to fire him.

●●●

Christian on why he believes Ferrari have failed over the last 15 years: Ferrari is a national institution instead of a Team. It needs to become a racing team again. Too many people have input at the top.

#it like. reads like fanfic #this team is so fucked up none of this can be healthy #what makes him tick #its all very insane. Machiavellian!Christian... be very afraid. #i wish Christian didnt speak about seb like that. just be more respectful. he clearly has his favourites #f1 #daniel ricciardo #Christian horner #brazilian gp 2023

[himejoshiangels]

obsessed w how bitter and upset duke is w Bruce in this arc. and he has every right to be! he knew Bruce almost personally at that point, and his parents were joker gassed in a recreation of the wayne murders in an effort to get to batman. they were collateral damage and duke had been suffering pretty much alone as a result. his whole ideology is that robin doesn't need batman but on a more personal scale, you can see why he thinks that! when he needed Bruce he wasn't there, when he needed batman he wasn't there either. And he'll fret like he didn't care like it didn't matter but it DID

Ik I talk abt this panel often but that's bcs KTZZZZ ITS SO CRUCIAL TO DUKES CHARACTER!! He becomes completely self reliant, isolates himself he can't wait on batman to save the city, can't wait on batman to find his parents or wait on batman to save him, he's all he could rely on, and that self-reliance later grew into an almost cynical worldview. it's why his whole "emphasis on the word 'we'" thing at the we of WAR meant so much. he had hope in not just his own beliefs but in others' as well.

ANDDD it's why his and bruce's dynamic drives me up a wall but that's another post for another time..

#the signal #duke thomas #bruce wayne #thought bubbles #signal interlude #batman #dc comics #the thing is that he was supposed to do something at least he promised he would #and not that bruces batmaning is healthy but the one time he chose himself over the mission is when duke needed him most #to find his parents to keep him out of the system to do anything..dukes lucky he made it out the way he did and didnt end up like his foil #character in WAR #like rationally none of it is bruces fault and he should be allowed to live a normal life and thats exactly why duke doesn't yank him back #immediately you can see him debating it everytime duke runs into a memoryless bruce #but he cant keep bruce from himself at this point not anymore not when the city was literally dying without him #it isnt just abt duke atp its about all of gotham

[lauralot89]

Listen up all you horny Dracula fans

You have been given an unlimited budget and an unlimited run time to make your ideal adaptation of Dracula. You can be as faithful or unfaithful as you want, it's all up to you, with one caveat:

Dracula has to have a relationship, sexual or romantic or both, with one of the humans.

Now if I just made a poll right here, the answer would overwhelmingly be Jonathan Harker. Let's be real. Even if you don't personally ship it, he's the one Dracula spends the most time with, he's the one Dracula declares to be his and stares at while saying "I too can love," Jonathan's plot parallels so many damn "pretty lady with dangerous man" narratives like Bluebeard and Scheherazade and so on and so forth, it all writes itself

so I have removed him as a choice because I'm genuinely curious as to who your second choice would be and why

Personally my vote would be Lucy both because she's the only person who doesn't outright hate Dracula (mostly because she never met him while conscious) and also they're parallels to each other in some ways (he has the three brides, she has the three suitors, etc) but I would be interested to see what everybody else is shipping, give me your sexy vampire thesis

#Dracula #Dracula novel #Bram Stoker #Dracula by Bram Stoker #Dracula Daily #poll #polls #also he chose to make her a vampire so presumably he liked her at least somewhat #I'm not asking what would be a healthy relationship because none of them would be #because Dracula #just #for narrative interest

[gojosbf]

no one would've had to suffer if Gojo Satoru knew how to fucking move on

#my man if only you had a healthy coping mechanisms the next two generations of kids wouldn't be here fighting for their lives #and everything wouldn't remind me of you and your boyfriend none of you leave my mind ever IT'S CONCERNING #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #jjk spoilers #gojo satoru #geto suguru #satosugu #stsg #jjk manga #jjk leaks

[powerfem]

A lot of people truly think there isn't an alternative to porn/kink/hookup culture that isn't purity culture. That's fucked up.

#radfem #none of those things are healthy sexuality

[transmascissues]

Your poor, poor parents. You're gonna make yourself look like an acne riddled thumb with a half assed pubey beard for the rest of your life, and now they're gonna have to see your scarred ass chest without nips to distract, too. You're hacking off healthy body parts for clout like a dumbass, and wanting everybody to applaude you for it and brainwash themselves into thinking you resemble anything male. Mental illness at its peak.

everyone point and laugh at the asshole who thinks their opinion of my body means anything to me!

if anyone was wondering what terfs & co actually say about trans men when they don't have to worry about their face being attached to it, this is it. this is what's hiding behind the "care" and "pity" and other bullshit they project – to them, we're all a bunch of ugly mentally ill dumbasses destroying our poor innocent parents' lives and brainwashing the people around us.

but hey, anon, if it makes you feel any better, i promise i'm still happier than you'll ever be! that's the magic of not wasting your energy on harassing random people for daring to exercise their bodily autonomy. you should try it sometime!

oh, and you'll have to let me know when i'm supposed to get all that clout for transitioning. it's been seven years and all i've gotten is shitheads like you hating me more and more, so i think it might've gotten lost in the mail.

#it's always funny to me when they do the 'youre just mentally ill' thing bc like. that's not an insult to me i literally am mentally ill #it has nothing to do with me being trans but yeah. i am. and what about it #the 'healthy body parts' thing is also extra funny bc i am very much disabled and none of my body is healthy it's all fucked up by default #examples of transandrophobia #anon hate #ask answered #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #transmascphobia #anti transmasculinity