#Smart Choices

[nerdyprocrastinator]

A Procrastination Thought Process

Welcome to a short showcase of what is happening in my brain when my brain decides to give up on being productive or doing any type of work.

Sunday night

Calendar: Assignment due next Sunday midnight

Brain: I’ll start working on it on Monday in the morning when I don't have class

Monday:

Brain @ 9AM: I’ll start working on it in an hour.

Brain, 1 hour later: I’m really enjoying this book, I’ll start after lunch.

Brain, after lunch: I’m honestly having too much fun to do my work right now. I’ll do it when I get home.

Brain, at home: I’ve been at school all day; I’m tired. Plus, there’s plenty of time to do the work on Wednesday.

Wednesday:

Brain @ 9AM: I’ll start working on it in an hour.

Brain, 1 hour later: I’m really enjoying this book, I’ll start after lunch.

Brain, after lunch: I’m honestly having too much fun to do my work right now. I’ll do it when I get home.

Brain, at home: I’ve been at school all day; I’m tired. Plus, there’s plenty of time to do the work on Friday.

Friday:

Brain @ 9AM: I’ll start working on it in an hour.

Brain, 1 hour later: I’m really enjoying this book, I’ll start after lunch.

Brain, after lunch: I’m honestly having too much fun to do my work right now. I work tonight, but I should get off early, so I’ll do it then.

Brain, after work: Body tired, no think, just sleep. I can work on the assignment during our break at work tomorrow.

Saturday, working a double shift:

Brain @ 8AM: I don’t have to start getting ready for work until 11, so I’ll start the work in an hour.

Brain, @ 11AM: Oh! It’s time to get ready for work; I’ll just do my homework during my break.

Brain, during break: Body tired, no want to work. Just chill. I can just start a little once I get off.

Brain, after work: Body tired, no think, just sleep. I get off really early tomorrow, I’ll actually do the work tomorrow.

Sunday:

Brain @ 8AM: I don’t have to start getting ready for work until 11, so I’ll start the work in an hour.

Brain, @ 11AM: Oh! It’s time to get ready for work; I’ll just do my homework after work.

Brain, after work: I’ll just eat something for dinner really quick and then I’ll start doing my work as soon as I’m done.

Brain, a few hours after dinner: Oh crap!! There’s like 5 assignments due tonight and it’s like 9, time to start working!!!

Brain, almost done with assignments: I will never do this again….

Spoiler alert: the cycle has yet to end.

I hope you guys enjoyed this little storytime; let me know what you guys thought and if you’d like to see something like this again. I love hearing from you guys!!!

#procrastinator #i procrastinate a lot #procrastinating #studyblr #studyblr community #studystudystudy #story #true story #cycle #procrastination #student life #smart choices

[lauralyndsey]

Criticism Don’t Care

It’s difficult not to think about criticism. Because that’s the elephant in the room, right? The thing that no one wants to address, to talk about, and to not think about. Being criticized or feeling as though we might be is the Satan. It’s the tempter — taking us to the peak — only to cause us to turn back at the last second. It’s that dammed if we do and dammed if we don’t. We want enjoyment…

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#Being Supportive #blessing #Community #emotional intelligence #Empowering #encouragement #Encouraging #giving #healthy habits #healthy mind #Healthy Relationships #Helping #Hope #Influencing #Inspiration #Inspirational #knowing yourself #leading #mental health #Motivation #Productivity #Purpose #Self Help #sharing #smart choices #Stability #support #thinking healthy #understanding what you want #well being

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[smarteatinghabits]

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[starksmarketing]

Fitness Friday

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[hacash]

the literally only amendment I'd make to pride and prejudice is a flashforward where charlotte collins née lucas is tragically widowed in her late thirties/early forties and uses the financial independence of her widowhood to move to london, buy a nice house, go to parties, take some dashing naval officer ten years her junior as a second husband and pretty much have the life she never was able to have when she was young.

#pride and prejudice #charlotte lucas #yes charlotte is practical and sensible and makes the smart choice in marrying collins! #but practical sensible women deserve fun too! #(and to clarify this is not an actual criticism of jane a's writing no-one come for me)

[robynbirdsnest]

directed by James Burrows

directed by James Burrows

I just read a memoir, Directed by James Burrows. You know his shows… If you love (or like, or even just watched) any of them it’s an interesting read. If you don’t it’s still an interesting read. I remember my dad loving Taxi and Cheers. I was seven when Taxi began and twelve when it ended. I remember being smart enough to understand how good it was, but young enough that most of it went over my…

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#Cheers #choose wisley #compassion #families #family #family and friends #friends #friends as family #good choices #James Burrows #laughter #love #must see tv #selfish #smart choices #Taxi #television #TV shows #Will and Grace

[mochidoodle]

I haven’t stopped thinking about them since I first saw them stand next to each other in kakariko village

#tears of the kingdom #totk #tauro #paya #tauropaya #LISTEN #LISTEN TAURO IS BEEFY SMART NERDY AND SUPPORTIVE #having doubts about the ability to lead your village as its new head? #questioning whether you personally investingating the ruins was the right choice/priority? #FEAR NOT FOR TAURO WILL VALIDATE YOU #AND CALL YOU BRILLIANT WHEN YOU HELP SOLVE QUESTS

[to-be-a-dreamer]

No, because I've already talked about this to the Discord besties but I'm still vibrating over the fact that Percy didn't just sacrifice himself for Annabeth, he outsmarted her. He tricked her into letting him be the one to stay behind that's such an amazing detail

#the way the show and specifically walker portrays percy's incredible social and emotional intelligence #i love it so so much #he immediately knows what happened between annabeth and echidna #he knows the right thing to say to cheer her up when she feels bad about snapping at grover #he understands and validates her relationship with athena even though he doesn't 100% GET IT get it #he is so so smart and i love how they're showing that in both dialogue and walker's acting choices #you can SEE the gears turning in his head whenever stuff starts happening #10/10 but also that cliffhanger was inhumane #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackson disney+ #percy jackson #annabeth chase #percabeth #walker scobell #percy jackson episode 4 #percy jackson spoilers

[fox-mulder-gets-pegged]

Been spending my time lately thinking of a House MD au where, through a series of accidents and lies and a bet he didn't rly intend to win, House ends up as a registered foster parent (he's still addicted to Vicodin and his normal dickish workaholic self but for some reason he cleared the requirements and trust me he's as stunned and mildly concerned as everyone else is).

Through further Shenanigans™, he ends up accidentally getting handed fostership of not one, not two, but three hellish but brilliant kids:

1. This total smartass 16 year old named Robert Chase who yeah he's a bitchy teenaged boy and a former rich kid and Australian with enough mommy and daddy issues to reawaken Freud after his dad dipped and absconded all parental rights and his mom drank herself to death, but he's also got a nice car left over from his rich kid days and an eye for detail and weirdly enough his best friend/mortal enemy (some other teen named Eric Foreman) and his on again off again girlfriend (Allison Cameron, totally won't last if u ask House) both work at the hospital as a candy striper and after school in the cafeteria respectively so House can get all the inside gossip from Chase. Plus Chase has no problems breaking and entering into patient's homes which helps bc since he's not employed by the hospital Cuddy can't complain as far as House is concerned.

2. A 14 year old girl who only answers to Thirteen (House knows he could look her name up in her file but honestly it drives Chase nuts that she won't tell him her real name and that's good enough for him) and who's dad was declared unfit after the death of his wife to Huntington's devastated him. She's a total nightmare, snarky and quick witted and freakishly smart even tho she puts most of those smarts towards things like shaving Chase's entire head (eyebrows included) bc he's trying to grow a sucky teenage mustache, and trying to take House's wallet bc she keeps calling him Old Man and he informed her he's actually only 25 but the stress of fostering has aged him prematurely and she's like 95% sure that's a lie but she wants to check his license and make sure bc everyone lies. She loves tormenting Chase by telling him his best friend and/or his girlfriend is hot and asking if they're single.

And 3. This 6 year old boy named Lawrence Kutner who's weirdly cheerful considering his parents got killed in front of him. He's way too chatty and excellent at puzzles and the only morning person in the entire house and therefore frequently tries to make breakfast (he likes to be helpful and he hasn't burned the place down yet so House doesn't feel the need to stop him). Once he told House he was gonna build a Death Star in the living room and House said lol sure go ahead whatever, only to return home from work to discover Kutner called himself out from school and has a huge wooden frame made of broken furniture in the living room. House rly can't argue since he did say go ahead. Benefits of fostering a 6 year old are 1. The babes love it, 2. Free excuse to leave work early/come in late/not show up at all, and 3. Justification for buying juice boxes and Ritz crackers. The neighbor kid Taub is his go to babysitter bc his mom volunteered him forcibly and Taub is lowkey praying that babysitting Kutner could lead to an in at Princeton Plainsboro once he graduates high-school and finishes medical school (it won't, House doesn't believe in nepotism unless it benefits him).

The adventures of House and his Foster Ducklings mostly revolve around being a Found Family, but do involve frequent plots such as:

House fired his brand new fellows again (he tosses em every three or so months, he hasn't found The Right Team yet) and will sometimes bring his foster kids in, hand em doctors coats, and tell patients that they're just a bunch of medical savants here to consult yes even the 6 year old he's actually Harvard's youngest graduate ever.

House sends the kids to break into a patient's home. They refuse. House tells them the first one to find black mold or lead paint or a dead animal or whatever gets $20. They agree. Chase drops Thirteen and Kutner off at a bus stop across town and drives over himself so he can get an hour and a half head start (ultimate fuck them kids moment, however Thirteen did steal his wallet so guess who's paying for lunch and their taxi ride to the patient's house? Net loss.)

Cuddy demands House does his clinic hours. House sends his foster kids to do his clinic hours for him. Tfw you go to the free walk in clinic for a sore throat and a cough and your doctor is a 6 year old boy who keeps asking for help with spelling whilst filling out your chart.

Wilson babysits them one (1) time since House doesn't trust Chase not to throw a party or sell his foster siblings on eBay if left as the one in charge. He wakes up with a big strip of hair poorly bleached right down the middle. Chase crushed up stolen sleeping pills and mixed them into a juice box, which Kutner 'innocently' offered to Wilson. Thirteen was going to bleach and dye his whole head blue (for practice, she wants to dye her hair but she's certainly not gonna fuck up her own hair until she has the method down) but Wilson woke up pretty quickly due to years of House drugging him. Wilson has not offered to babysit again.

Anyways this is my House Foster Ducklings au which I'm thinking about actually writing. Thank u 🫡

#house md #greg house #robert chase #remy hadley #lawrence kutner #i just think Chase and Thirteen and Kutner are the most House's Actual Kids out of all the fellows #give that man three incredibly smart self reliant kids with issues™ #i do imagine a plot where House does overdose of vicodin #and the kids find him #and they're in the hospital #and House has to contend with the fact that he either has to give the kids up to better homes #or make smarter choices bc it's unfair of him to be overdosing and almost dying when he has three traumatized kids relying on him #love when there's some middle aged guy whos like 'no im not a dad' but has a gaggle of kids following him around #feel free to message me about this au

[livelovecaliforniadreams]

#i have so many questions about the season 3 trailer but this will do #like the amount of guest stars though #and bennie and the jets was a stellar choice #hacks #hacksedit #deborah vance #jean smart #hannah einbinder #ava daniels #season 3 #ava x deborah #deborah x ava

[zbloodwhisper]

why did it take me so long to realize nadias nose is owl beak shaped .

literally same shape . huh .

#ˑ ֗ ִ fire crackling ⊹ ࣪˖ #the arcana #nadia satrinava #that's such a good desing choice whoever did that youre so smart

[apotelesmaa]

I find it incredibly funny that emu and rui are made out to be the most academically talented out of the wxs unit given that they both also need to be babysat anytime the group goes out in public. Their boundless intelligence and unending whimsy is matched only by their need to get sillay.

#emu helping nene with math was such a good small writing choice. girl is smart!!! I’m so proud of her. #ppl who portray her as dumb… just say u hate a whimsical girl and go. #& in general I will always find it hysterical that rui has created a fully sentient AI and countless high tech robots #which he exclusively uses to put on funny little shows for an amusement park. #project sekai #wakes up posts this goes back to sleep. one of those days.

[miquella-everywhere]

okay but real talk i personally reeeally do not like the evil miquella theories especially the mIqUelLa is gRiFiTh ones i have to roll my eyes 😒

imo it just.,,, completely goes against his character??????

like his whole thing from the very beginning was to cure malenia from her crippling rot and then created a haven for outcasts of the golden order, so he's had nothing but good intentions from the very beginning. and if he were to become evil or some shit out of nowhere, it would be so contradictory to him and what the lore says he stands for and it feels like it would be just a cheap "pull out the rug from under you" moment :/

the one thing that i do like is that yeah, he has compelling powers and uses love to win people over, BUT THAT DOESNT HAVE TO BE A BAD OR EVIL THING????? AND THERES SO MANY PEOPLE THAT SEE IT AS SUCH AND IM JUST LIKE

and honestly it would be even better for miquellas character if he was acutely aware of his powers to compel affection and he too saw it as a little shmarmy and tried to mitigate his abilities

and this whole line here makes me firmly believe that miquella, as he is now, does not have a shred those compelling abilities or anything for that matter.

so Miquella literally gave up EVERYTHING to even be able to come to this world of shadow because there is something here that he sees as extremely important for the fate of the world.

Miquella is literally the epitome of a being who is both kind and humble.

And that is what makes Miquellas character so interesting. Because in the context of all the Souls games where ruin and depression is practically the norm, a character that stands for hope and actually has the power/chance to grant hope to the rest of the world is so incredibly special.

#now dont get me wrong #i dont think miq is evil but i DEFINITELY think that miq has ahd to make many morally grey choices to get where they are today lol #miq is smart as hell and has his own agenda for the world so they have to be doing some scheming behind the scenes #in a dog eat dog world like the lands between you gotta do what you gotta do to survive/excell #but i believe that miq is trying his best to be a true and kind individual #after the road to hell is paved with good intentions #uri posts #elden ring #miquella the unalloyed #miquella #shadow of the erdtree

[swordy-da-goat]

My osc gift exchange for @mumpsetc

Very neat character 🖥️🌼

#osc gift exchange #object show #object shows #osc #myart #yo this was so fun #the background was based on the windows background #also the name daisy bell #i get it #smart name choice

[void-and-virtue]

Neil as a team captain is positively delightful, because making him captain is both absolutely insane and absolutely brilliant. It capitalizes on the passive effect of having one (1) Neil Josten (god knows the world couldn’t handle if there were more of him) on the team in the most efficient way. Like. I’m 90% sure that after spending some time around him on the same team, most people will look up to him completely awestruck for how much he has impacted their lives, but that’s just not what is actually happening here. I feel like what’s going on is this:

Neil is a terribly amazing choice for team captain entirely because Neil is a meddlesome little asshole who will forcibly fix all of his teammates’ personal problems and improve their entire lives for literally no other reason than that he needs them to be able to focus on fucking ball so he can win at sports. It’s not even that he genuinely cares about people and their well-being (apart from his original foxes). He just gets pissed when things aren’t working properly because it makes Exy annoying when the lineup can’t communicate. Exy isn’t supposed to be annoying. Exy is life. He’d meddle whether he is captain or not, but by making him captain, he has so much more official executive power at his hands. It’s like people are explicitly asking for him to do his worst. So, fueled by his own competitiveness and love for the sport, off he goes.

Neil is just as bad as Kevin when it comes to his Exy obsession. The major difference between them is that Kevin is endlessly tactical and he runs Exy with a focus on a technical and physical level entirely, whereas Neil’s approach is to look beyond a lack of practice and basically psychoanalyzing people on why they are not doing 110% for Exy. Kevin says “let’s run this drill 500 times, then we will inevitably be better”. Meanwhile Neil is scheming how to coerce and bribe people into life-changing decisions and long-needed healing, entirely because he wants to optimize playing a sport. Exy is a team sport, which is why this is the most logical approach his little Exy brain comes up with rather than minding his own fucking business. He looks at the team and is like “is anyone gonna whip this into shape? No?? I’ll fucking do it then cowards” and goes and does exactly that. It’s like he’s fixing the equipment so he can play.

I don’t think anyone except for Andrew is really aware that Neil really isn’t doing this out of the innate goodness of his heart, but because his personal brand of practicality involves the most convoluted and creative kind of scheming. I feel like Neil is a lot more selfish than people give him credit for. Sure, there’s people he cares deeply and unconditionally for, but that’s really not everyone. It’s fascinating to watch, especially because it’s not like he ever hides that he doesn’t particularly care, but people kinda assume he does, because why else would he put in this much effort?

Exy. The answer is Exy.

#Andrew hates him for this #but I also feel like it’s Andrew’s favorite pass time to just watch Neil do as Neil does #you can’t take the meddling out of Neil #first year was Neil meddling on steroids basically bc he thought he was gonna die so he had to optimize Exy to play and had no choice #that’s how he fixed the foxes the first time #but even so #even if he doesn’t care about most of the new foxes or his eventual pro teams as much #I don’t think he will ever stop with this kind of stuff because I’m dead certain he gets so annoyed when exy isn’t exy-ing #that he ends up fixing problems the majority of people would not be able to eben pick up on just by association #Neil ‘he found their humanity interesting’ Josten #he doesn’t need the death threats to motivate him #somewhere in the background Andrew is watching his every move and realizing time and time again how terrifyingly smart Neil is #and how well he can put his observations to use in really ruthless unapologetic ways #and then Andrew is faced with the reality that all of that brainpower is being used for exy and exy alone #thinking about Neil will kill that man one day I stg #aftg #all for the game #neil josten #kevin day #andrew minyard #andreil #aftg headcanon #aftg meta #character analysis #post canon #the foxhole court #tfc