#also the guy who misgendered me was not being intentional at all and is a really nice guy too. he gave me a ride home in the winter <3

[oh-cramity-its-amity]

my manager corrected my pronouns with a coworker today. i cannot explain how nice of a feeling that was.

anyway idk this might be silly to post but it made me happy bc i thought everyone forgot about me using they/them pronouns because it feels like all anyone ever calls me irl anymore (if not with my dad) is she/her (which is... *sigh* some days i really really fucking hate it). so like... dope, yk???

#this is a happy post okay?? i am very affirmed and stoked about this. i love this manager too- he is always a nice guy to talk to #i even told him about writing fanfic and the owl house bc i was word vomiting infodumping about my special interests #so random but like yeah. hes a nice guy 😭 #also the guy who misgendered me was not being intentional at all and is a really nice guy too. he gave me a ride home in the winter <3 #people are nice but im still new to speaking up and advocating for myself as an adult. its hard but im getting there #it is a good day today though. a good day. #might delete later???? idk

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for accidentally causing a falling out in our friend group?

I (19) made some friends in college. One of these was J (19M). Throughout the year, small issues built up with him. Notably him constantly (albeit not maliciously) misgendering me. However, he has only known me to go by they/them pronouns since we met, so I don’t see why after nearly a year of knowing him he still couldn’t get them right.

As well as him having very aggressive body language while having conversations/arguments, which always made me very uncomfortable, but he never actually did anything, so I thought it was fine.

The turning point was one night when we were all hanging out, me and my friend M (19F) were talking about how unfair it is that guys can take their shirts off when it’s super hot outside and somehow it got to us talking about how boobs are technically secondary sexual characteristics and shouldn’t even be sexualized by society as much as they are.

J argued with us. The actual opinion on this argument is not important here nor what makes anyone the asshole, but essentially it boiled down to me saying that, if it was hot enough, I personally don’t think it should be wrong for me to be shirtless. He then told me to prove it by taking off my shirt. I said no. There were five other people in the room with us who would not consent to that and it wasn’t hot in the room.

After I explicitly said no to taking off my shirt, he doubled down. Said if I didn’t take it off my argument had no holding and that he was right, which made me uncomfortable. I didn’t feel like I needed to strip in my friend’s dorm to prove a point for a disagreement that really wasn't that serious and I didn't like that he pressured me to after I said no the first time. I can’t remember what I said in response, but the disagreement ended there thanks to the show we were all about to watch starting. However, it made me very uncomfortable for the rest of the night.

Later that night, we went out to get some food like we usually do and sat around in a circle talking. Two of my friends went up to get more food while the other three were having their own conversation which led to J and I talking. 

Now, some context: I’m autistic and I have sensory issues which make it difficult for me to eat food. There have been times when I’ve gone the whole day without eating, or maybe even multiple without, and I often stick to foods that are "safe" and won’t make me feel sick (most aren’t very nutritional/healthy).

I'm very aware of my difficulty eating and how unhealthy it is. I had been going back to my house every weekend in order to eat something other than the college food and even bought some vitamins to try and keep myself from getting severely malnourished.

That being said, I didn’t get a chance to eat much that day, and going out with them was my first genuine meal. After eating a meatball sub I got, M gave me her leftover grapes and I offhandedly said to J “I think these are the healthiest thing I’ve ate today.” 

And his response to me saying this was “You are so strange. You’re aware of how unhealthy you are, yet you never change.”

For the record, he doesn't know the specifics of my difficulties with eating. I’ve only vaguely mentioned it’s hard for me to eat and that I’m not able to eat a lot without feeling sick. Still, it felt really insensitive, very out of nowhere as we weren't having a serious conversation at all, and hurt my feelings. I got visibly upset at this and responded with a very bitter “Yeah” and immediately dropped the subject because it's not something I enjoy talking about. (This was also not the first time he has made comments about my self-care habits in such a way and while I believe he says them with good intentions I have stated multiple times it makes me feel worse).

I didn’t want to make a big deal out of nothing, so I texted my friends after we all headed back to our dorms about what happened. Both him telling me to take off my shirt and the comment on my eating and asked if I was making a big deal out of it by being uncomfortable and upset. They told me that both things were extremely rude (and that the shirt thing was technically sexual harassment, though I don’t want to call it that) and that I was justified in being uncomfortable. They then mentioned that they had their own issues with J being a little too aggressive in the past that they had brushed aside, but they felt that what happened to me justified talking to him about his behavior.

We tried our best to avoid an argument. We just wanted to have a civil conversation about it as we all genuinely care about him. But when I confronted him about my issues and H brought up the problems she had been having (which consisted of him being too aggressive, guilt tripping the others when he was told to back off, and not respecting her privacy in her dorm) he got very defensive. It escalated into an argument between H and J that escalated to H deciding to cut ties with him due to him refusing to listen.

A few hours later, J sent me and H a genuine apology, which we accepted. I thought things were fine between us, although there was lingering discomfort as there would be with most big arguments. When the semester ended he sent us all messages that he didn’t feel welcome in the group and that he thought it was better to cut ties permanently and wished us all well. 

I kind of feel like it’s my fault and that I caused unnecessary drama without meaning to.

AITA?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[your-fave-adopted-you]

hii! could you write the nrc staff protecting a younger (like, 13/14) transmasc yuu from an older student who’s being a dick about them being trans? ty if you can, no pressure though!! <3

awww i can't help but imagine reader and Ortho being best friends 😭����

Guardian! school staff protects transmasc reader from upperclassmen bigots

Characters : Crowley, Crewel, Trein, Ashton,

TW : transphobia towards reader, might be upsetting to some ig

M! reader

Context :

Being the youngest student at the NRC has its perks.

Your first-year classmates were pretty chaotic and nice to be around, even Ace and Sebek weren't that mean when you were there.

But apart from them, everyone else pretty much adopted you on sight. You were everybody's little brother now, i don't make the rules.

But unfortunately there were still people like back at home, people who didn't understand, or rather, that chose not to.

But at least this time you're not alone against them.

Dire Crowley

Your bully and you were immediately sent to his office after Trein heard you two shouting during his lesson.

This asshole had been misgendering you on purpose recently but it was today that he started calling you names.

Your classmates usually glared at him and that was enough to make it stop, today he was feeling a little more confident, and you were pissed as ever.

So, long story short, you got a 16- maybe 17 year old looking down to his hands while he explained his version of the story.

Honestly, it wasn't anything you hadn't heard before. "Oh but i didn't know-" "i promise it wasn't my intention-" "it was just a joke! I'm sure... he got it wrong."

Sure, this idiot thinks he can fool Crowley, your legal guardian, your Crowdad just because he's... well, another idiot.

While he was throwing compliments and praise here and there in hopes of getting out of the situation, you started to doubt wether or not your guardian would actually fall for it.

I mean he's Crowley.

Every time the Acedeuce duo and you fuck up, you only have to tell him how lost you were without his guidance, his imposing and respectable presence- for him to forgive and forget

"Hm, I'm really disappointed right now. How could one of my best students get in trouble because of such an entitled child..."

He said very serious, now looking at you directly.

"Well, what do you have to say for yourself?"

And as you were already preparing to explain and justify yourself, as usual, he continued.

"Since when has this rude, overgrown child being doing this to you?- When were you going to tell me?"

The boy sitting beside you started looking more terrified than offended.

Somehow, Crowley's voice... his tone... his face even, half covered- and still

It was so threatening, so scary and sincere

"This isn't just about harassment, young man, or even the fact that you would need this kind of intervention to show the minimum respect for a fellow classmate-

But you also choose to target someone younger than you? what does this say about you? should you even be studying here?"

Crowley was defending you.

The same man that would have made you a janitor the day you got here if it wasn't for Grim. (and child labor)

But after all it seems like he actually cared.

The guy from earlier got detention for interrupting the lesson, and you got away with it since it was him who started it.

This wasn't the first- And maybe and to your dismay- the last time something like this would happen.

But now that you have people that will stand up for you? Maybe you can be ok with staying in this world just a little longer.

Divus Crewel

This actually happened during his lesson.

I don't know how someone would be as stupid as to bully you in front of your literal guardian but here we are.

After explaining the next project, everyone had started chatting, picking a partner and commenting on whether or not they would fail because honestly it didn't look easy

But for some reason, just for a moment the whole class went silent. You know how this happens. alright

And, as clear as day, only one voice was heard.

it was this asshole, telling you to go home since this place wasn't co-ed.

this time though, your friends didn't say anything, as they immediately understood what was going to happen next.

Crewel was staring at both you and that idiot, as he walked over.

"What is exactly the problem then? i don't see any girls here."

"You think I'm gonna listen to a grown man with a full face of makeup?"

seriously this dude had a dead wish .

Detention wasn't going to be enough for Crewel to feel like this asshole got what he deserves.

"We're feeling bold huh? well since you're such a strong, manly guy, you'll have no problem with fixing Ramshackle's kitchen, right?"

before your bully could say anything he continued

"By the way I'm sure Crowley will be very amused to hear that a student has insulted one of the teachers. I wonder what kind of chores he'll give you by punishment."

It's only normal that your guardian is beyond pissed.

and with this kinda stuff he's way meaner than the Crowdad.

Mozus Trein

I won't sugarcoat this okay

He most likely misgenderd you a couple of times before having a very... informative talk with you.

and you know, the typical "You're too young to know!" "What nonsense, why do you dress up like that?" "Come on now, no one is going to kick you out of Night Raven for wearing a skirt!"

But you explained, with all the patience you could conjure, how the whole situation was for you. that you didn't choose to be like this, to feel like this...

That if he was going to be your guardian you would be his son. period.

So, yeah, after a while he gets it. And honestly he never misgenders you again. Not even by "accident" like so many people liked to tell you.

It was an important matter.

You are important.

And then one day during class he hears you and some other student having a fight.

Some dude was treating you like shit just because he thought it would be funny to pick on someone much younger than him ig?

And he was being worse than in front of Crewel, because he thought that your guardian wouldn't care about this kind of stuff.

But oh boy

you know that thing old teachers do with big ass rulers, hitting them against the board to get the class attention ? yeah we'll make it angry and more intimidating.

"May i know what are you two discussing that you are defending with such passion?"

oh but he knew, he just wanted to hear what your classmate had to say.

"Nothing Mr Trein! it's not y/n's fault that ... she's... so wrong about a lot of things"

"Like what, exactly?"

Then the bully proceeded to lie about whatever thing to make it seem like he was trying to help you.

"BULLSHIT!" you finally shout back.

after scolding you for your language, Trein sent the guy straight to the principal's office.

A coward, an asshole and also a liar huh

This was an unfortunate event yes, but seeing the situation from an outside perspective helped this certified grandpa to understand you better, to see how upsetting and belittling this kind of situations could be.

Just try to be patient with him okay? but for sure next time he will be the first to stand up for you and defend you.

Ashton Vargas

It's no surprise that you don't necessarily have the same level as your classmates when it comes to P.E

i mean. they're 16-17

And your much younger...

Maybe riding a broom is something that you can do as well as the rest but you've got huge guys in your class, have you seen Jack and Sebek? i mean 💀

To make it short no one has a problem with it, you have to grow a lot more yet, become stronger, faster

Your self proclaimed coolest dad knew, so no pressure.

But after running out of breath one day, this dude that has never had a word with you acts ... too worried,

Like, you're not gonna die, chill

But he keeps pestering you, calling you weak, fragile, small, stuff like that.

and then he starts misgendering you and saying that you shouldn't be hard on yourself for not being able to keep up with the guys like??????

you tell him off politely, and as he keeps on borderline insulting you, you finally snap.

long story short, things get a bit physical and Ashton has to come over to stop it.

Your friends tell him what actually happened, but since they saw you so angry they wanted to let you fight that guy, you know, for your honor and stuff

(Yes, again, Sebek and Jack's idea and Acedeuce actually being the ones to go tell the teacher.)

Also Epel was just about to join you when Ashton arrived.💀

"So you were picking on someone much younger huh? do you think it's funny? y/n tried to calmly tell you to fuck off. right? how does it feel to have a younger classmate that's twice the man you are?"

Your guardian was so angry, he basically forbid your bully from playing in any team at any point for the rest of the year.

And he actually called his parents after class 😤

#twst x mc #twst x reader #dire crowley #divus crewel #mozus trein #ashton vargas #this one took me forever #twisted wonderland

[acradelius]

Soldier with a transmasc s/o pls-

I need soldier comforting his partner over gender dysphoria and aggressively correcting people.

"I'll Make Sure That They Get It Right."

Fandom: Overwatch / Overwatch 2

Pairing: Soldier: 76 ("Jack Morrison") x Transmasc! Reader

Rating: Lime [🟢] - (Equivalent to PG-13)

Warnings/Mention Ofs: Transmasculine! Reader, Male Pronouns Used For Reader, Jack Isn't Necessarily Familiar With Transmasculinity - But He's Trying, Mentions Of Gender Dysphoria, Jack's Supportive Of Reader, Jack Accidentally Uses Wrong Pronouns, Jack Gets Agressive Whenever Correcting Others About Reader.

Word Count: 624 Words

Notes: Forgive me if any part of this, or even if all of it, happens to be incorrect or misinforming in any way, shape, or form. I'm not Trans myself, nor know of anyone who happens to be Trans, so I wrote this based on what I could find on the internet. Please let me know what I can do to correct it!

If you'd like to be tagged for all posts, certain fandom posts, or certain character posts then feel free to message me!

“Transmasculine?” Jack can't state that he's familiar with the exact word or its definition. He's definitely aware that there are other gender identities, gender expressions, or both, besides cisgender, but it's not exactly a topic that he keeps himself up-to-date with when it comes to the terminology and information. Ultimately, it takes (Y/N) sitting Jack down and explaining transmasculine for him to be able to wrap his mind around this new information. “It sounds quite.. simple.. to understand?” It still might take him some time to completely come to understand, as besides his partner explaining it to him Jack then takes it upon himself to do some more research on it, but he's trying! He's realizing that it's quite crucial that he's informed about this information, not only for the well-being of (Y/N), but for their success and well-being of their relationship as well.

While gender dysphoria is something else that’s also probably going to have to be explained to him, it’s definitely something that he could come up with ways to ease those thoughts that make (Y/N) upset at times, or even have days of being upset. Maybe trying on some of Jack’s clothes would help? Or even going and buying a wardrobe of clothes that would enhance (Y/N)’s masculine features? “Lookin’ handsome as always, love.” Are you needing assistance with chest binding perhaps? Don’t worry, Jack is definitely your guy. Well, it’ll probably take him a couple of times of hands-on experience before he manages to get the hang of it. “Which one would you prefer this time? Would you prefer the kinetic tape? Or just the actual binder?” He’s also on top of consistently asking if (Y/N)’s comfortable and if there’s any health concerns from using the binders. “Are you able to breathe well? Would you like me to tighten or loosen it? ..It’s not irritating your skin is it? If so, we could look into getting you some of this moisturizing cream that I typically use..” Jack would also be completely fine with (Y/N) using some of his products that have that masculine fragrance if that makes him feel better as well.

There happens to be some times that Jack accidentally slips up and accidentally uses the wrong pronouns when it comes to talking to (Y/N) or even talking about (Y/N) to someone else. If it happens, he’ll apologize and correct himself, also making sure that (Y/N) is okay and explain that it wasn’t his intention to accidentally misgender or misidentify him. His voice will be soft and reassuring, making sure to bring (Y/N) into his arms and hold them close to him. Yet, if it was someone else that was someone else that ends up misgendering (Y/N).. If it happens to be someone that’s unaware that (Y/N) is transmasculine, then Jack would loudly clear his throat, tilting his head as he narrows his eyes through his visor, speaking loudly enough for everyone to hear. “If you’re NOT AWARE, (Y/N) typically goes by HE/HIM pronouns, but it’s best to ask just in case (Y/N) has decided differently for the time being.” Yet, if the person happens to be aware and is just being an asshole by purposely misgendering and misidentifying (Y/N), then expect Jack to get aggressive, He won’t hesitate to become physical, getting a tight grip upon their arms and roughly slamming them up against the wall, glaring intensely. “If you don’t quit your shit, I will make sure that as long as you’re amongst the ranks of Overwatch, I WILL make your life an absolute hell. Therefore, consider this your only warning to respect (Y/N)’s identity and pronouns.”

#overwatch #overwatch 2 #soldier 76 overwatch #overwatch soldier 76 #jack morrison #soldier 76 x reader #jack morrison x reader #x transmasc reader #x reader #requests?! thank you<3 #lime rating

[dirt-apple-productions]

Yo 👋🏾!

Why did Catra, a violent, unhinged, and dangerous war criminal, get off Scott free and an unearned redemption arc? Why was Shadow Weaver not given a redemption arc and was given the death sentence?

I’m bad at respecting pronouns. I will do my best, but if I call N.D. by his deadname or misgender him, that is an act of forgetfulness and not malice. Please be patient with me.

First, the way you’re framing this is (unintentionally, I hope) a little intellectually dishonest. I would definitely not call Catra unhinged. She’s impulsive and definitely attempted more harm than Shadow Weaver did (while being a grown-ass adult perfectly capable of making her own decisions…), but I would not call her unhinged. Her behavior is typical abusive behavior, and I laugh at the idea of war crimes in She-Ra at all because Bright Moon also doesn’t even have a prison. Moreover, I’d argue Shadow Weaver is equally as dangerous as Catra up until Micah arrives and she starts to change. She was the one throwing away soldiers on pointless missions, sacrificing the collective to get Adora back, and trying to wipe her ward’s mind (not to mention the physical abuse both she and Catra committed).

That said, the reason Catra was forgiven by the narrative and Shadow Weaver wasn’t is pretty simple. N.D. doesn’t believe Shadow Weaver is capable or worthy of redemption.

I do agree with him that you can’t redeem someone who doesn’t want to be redeemed, but the language about someone not being “capable” or “worthy” of redemption is entirely different than acknowledging that universal reconciliation isn’t a thing. He is making an assertion about Horde Prime’s value and worth in this statement. Not the free-will choices he made. N.D. can pretend as though it’s about actions all day long, but this is not the true motivation. He’s also conflating Prime’s actions with his worth by bringing up his bad actions and long lifespan, which has nothing to do with anything. It’s all window dressing. What makes Prime’s end work is that he COULD have chosen at any point to repent, surrender, and face consequences, but he chose not to. Get that? C H O S E.

It’s also worth noting that N.D. doesn’t see Shadow Weaver as redeemed.

Here are all the effed-up things in this passage:

N.D. admits he didn’t plan Shadow Weaver’s arc from the start, which is laughable and shows he has a dearth of writing skills. If you’re going to write a story, literally the bare minimum is knowing the climax and ending. But he couldn’t even be expected to know that? Come on.

N.D. acts like it’s so terrible for Shadow Weaver to think she’s the good guy when that’s a.) literally how Catra behaved for the whole story, and b.) how everyone thinks of themselves. Everyone wants to think they’re going through life with the best of intent here.

N.D. asserts that Shadow Weaver ruined the lives of people she never ruined the lives of. She was never in Castaspella’s life before S5, and all signs point to her treating Micah with utmost kindness up to and including when she was possessed. I challenge anyone to find one instance where she treated him at all similar to how she treated Catra and Adora. They won’t find it.

Shadow Weaver does not care about Catra. She cares about Adora but the Spell twisted her love so much it no longer resembles the real thing. Love is an action, not a positive feeling, and the fact N.D. is stating otherwise shows he doesn’t know what the hell he’s talking about.

Shadow Weaver’s sacrificial ending was suicidal. I don’t really care who’s mad about me saying that. She said “it’s too late for me” and burned herself alive. Suicide is selfish and cowardly in its own way, but N.D. in other interviews portrayed the final act as a way to smarm Catra and Adora for resenting her, which does not come across in the scene at all. Again, N.D. has no idea what he is talking about here. I have autism and even I understand the basic concept of PORTRAYING WHAT YOU INTEND IN YOUR STORY. And if she was truly being selfish all along and never changed, only manipulated the girls to the bitter end, the next point makes no sense either.

The idea that Shadow Weaver has to “affirm” and “get closure” for the girls in order for them to heal is toxic. Not that Shadow Weaver shouldn’t repent and apologize, but Adora and Catra’s healing can’t be hinged to that or else the moment she makes a mistake in her journey, they’ll instantly be heartbroken. YOU CANNOT SEEK VALIDATION FROM OTHERS. And this brings to attention the tonal whiplash. Catra and Adora should be, by all accounts, utterly distressed. But they just…forget about Shadow Weaver immediately after that, like it was as easy as her death achieving their happiness. Demented. And to think kids are having this message as their takeaway.

So the reason is quite simple: N.D. doesn’t actually believe in redemption, and he never saw Shadow Weaver as redeemed to begin with. As to why Catra’s actions are downplayed, it’s because she’s hot, gay, and young, and she’s N.D.’s special girl. It’s really not that complex.

#spop #anti c//a #anti catra #anti c*tra #shadow weaver #light spinner #she ra #spop critical #spop salt #writing #criticism #nd stevenson #nate stevenson #tw suicide #tw abuse #tw child abuse #just all the trigger warnings please be careful

[gayrobos]

it’s making me feel insane seeing all these people posting about how great the new earthspark episodes are... the total lack of followthrough on any of the questions I had from the first part, the total lack of consideration when they were actively trying to answer those questions?? (like what was the war about? what separates a decepticon from an autobot? was the war history episode being purposefully vague or were the writers trying to obscure the fact that they couldn’t come up with anything coherent? when they implied the tf war was started by a decepticon labor uprising like in idw I was like please not this shit again. could you apply your critical reading skills.)

the main thing that pissed me off was the ridiculous framing of cybertronians in relation to humans. did we learn nothing from overwatch? it’s not a coherent metaphor for real life oppression if the people being oppressed came to your planet and blew up a bunch of your cities for their stupid war!! g-d the nonbinary kid who’s like “I’d never be scared of anyone who uses they/them pronouns!” after being kidnapped by a giant robot they can only assume was in the transformer military. sorry but being misgendered is simply not what people are afraid of from transformers! I could only read that scene as nervous compliance with someone powerful whose temper you don’t understand, but I know that wasn’t the intent of the writers. that was supposed to be a feel-good scene! good lord.

what exactly ARE the writers trying to do with the decepticons? they’re coming down on the anti-incarceration side, but... only because they’ve made a bunch of decepticons inexplicably nice? like. tarantulas? TARANTULAS is a nice and normal sadboy who just wants to be left alone?? have you ever. seen him in anything. like I have personal beef with the bizarre way this show grabs decepticons at random to make them nice little guys but I also feel like it’s representative of this weird impulse to be writing fanfiction where decepticons are nice actually. they’re all so noble! they’d rather give up their own freedom than see their autobot friends hurt! I’m mad about the incredibly toothless conflict between bee and breakdown. this series of episodes was really interested in painting bumblebee as someone concerned for decepticons’ welfare, but he refused to break cover to save breakdown---he only broke cover to save the person trying to capture them both. HUH? bumblebee is the hero here because he feels sad about doing nothing meaningful to help the people he ostensibly cares about?

anyway. genuinely bad people shouldn’t be incarcerated either.

there’s got to be a way to tell a story about being biracial and having to deal with the legacy of your family’s violence without this clumsy oppression metaphor that requires rewriting and eliding in-universe history and pretending that people spray-painting TRANSFORMERS GO HOME on a bridge constitutes genuine harm. do y’all know what systemic violence is? it’s not when there’s a secret organization that wants you dead and also everyone’s scared you’ll kill them.

#earthspark spoilers #the tag needs some negativity ✨ #if addressing the aftermath of an alien war on a kids show means you're going to oversimplify and misrepresent everything about it... #you don't have to put it in a kids show! #I didn't even mention shockwave inventing a new slur on the spot after learning what a terran is. cmon. #tfes

[agwic]

a ranking of trans representation in weeb shit

I was thinking about trans representation in weeb shit so I figured I might as well just rank all of them, from best to worst. this will obviously only include stuff I've seen.

umineko: read umineko(I have another, incredibgly spoilerific post on this here)

ciconia: it's trying, and might end up better than umineko, but only 1/4 of is out and I've read like half of that but I don't think it's gonna come up more after this point in phase 1. but it has so much potential, and has already discussed a lot more than a lot of these, so I feel like second place is where it can be.

zombieland saga: has a trans character who is part of the main idol group, she is never misgendered, and the struggle of dysphoria is at least somewhat addressed, so overall it does nothing wrong and a lot of things right.

punch line: to be fair it's revealed by someone shouting "he's a girl" but otherwise handled with a lot more tact that is expected in anime. also, he's a trans guy, which makes it cooler. for anyone who has now looked up the synopsis of this anime, no I will not take further questions for why this is so high up in my rankings. however, I will confirm that it was solidly good, and I don't regret watching it.

assassination classroom: nagisa shiota was not written as a trans guy. he was not intended to be a trans guy. however, if you interpret him as a trans guy, his story both makes a lot more sense and is more compelling, and also gives free representation. therefore, I will interpret nagisa shiota as a trans guy and no one can stop me.

wonder egg priority: on the one hand, the most direct adressal of the consequences of transphobia I've seen in weeb shit. on the other hand, this is fully caught up in the thematic disaster that wonder egg priority is, with the accidental gender essentialism combining with showing a bunch of cis girls, and then one trans guy, having, uh, problematic implications. but like, as a standalone episode(which it probably wouldn't make sense as but whatever), this would be a lot higher up, probably in second place. maybe even first, since transphobia is probably a bigger issue for most trans people than dysphoria. also I'm pretty sure this and zombieland saga(and maybe ciconia) were the only of these where the author knew what trans people were and went in with the intention of writing one. though, to be clear, I do not recommend watching this anime.

re:zero: okay we're getting into the zone where the trans representation is solidly bad. now, ferris is a trans girl. I have read the relevant lines in japanese, and her "lol I'm a boy nyaa" shtick is clearly a joke, whereas the lines where she implies she feels gender dysphoria are not jokes. the issue is, she was not written as a trans character. she was written as a boy who wants to be a girl. and, like, ferris has been written as a character who is fine being referred to as a boy, but like, she's also fine being referred to as a girl. and she is also just so extremely trans. like at the least trans, she is a femboy who is incredibly personally invested in her identity as such and refuses to wear masculine clothes, which uh, is valid I suppose. I'm still using she/her pronouns to refer to her because I've gotten used to it and it isn't like japanese has gendered third person pronouns in common usage so whatever.

steins;gate: okay so to be fair I have not finished steins;gate. additionally, whether ruka is actually trans is up in the air, much like ferris, but like most people who consider ferris trans also consider ruka trans so they're probably right. and if they are right, then introducing her by having okarin repeatedly state that she's a guy is like the worst possible thing to do. also I think that ruka is the one who started the whole thing of responding to "is [character name] trans" with "no, [character name] is [character name]" which is the most obnoxious and unhelpful response imaginable and has been used for all the above examples, so even if ruka isn't actually trans, steins;gate deserves this spot for introducing that deflection tactic.

intentionally not included: ranma 1/2. ranma is a man who is sometimes trapped in a woman's body for short periods of time. this really isn't comparable to the experience of trans guys. really all it is is wish fulfillment for trans girls. except it's only barely that since while in a girl's body ranma spends all his time searching for hot water to turn back. so like, ranma 1/2 is a pretty trans show, but you can't really point to any one character and be like "that's the trans one". actually, ranma's childhood friend who he thought was a guy but was actually a girl is probably the transest character. I know about this character because I, like most weeb trans girls, watched way too much of this show for the aforementioned wish fulfillment. 97 episodes to be precise. there are so many better things I could have done with my time.

#umineko #ciconia #zombieland saga #punch line #assassination classroom #ansatsu kyoushitsu #wonder egg priority #re:zero #steins;gate #ranma 1/2

[junosfilmjournal]

my review for mutt (2023) dir. vuk lungulov-klotz

this is my first time seeing someone like me (a gay, latino trans guy) on screen. we barely get represented in film and i couldn't stop crying while watching. i'm also glad that feña's unlikable. it made me like him even more. trans people are always put into this box on who we're supposed to be. trans men are regarded as a "safe type of man" because we were born female. whether it's intentional or not, it's obvious the people who say that don't see us as men, but as gender non-conforming women. more trans men need to be assholes!

there were so many parts of this movie that were painfully relatable that it was just hilarious. i had the same conversation with my 11-year-old niece, who's basically my little sister, that feña had with his sister. she was my first and only family member who didn't look at me like i was crazy. if anything, she rolled her eyes at me because she already knew due to the trans flag in my room. she told me "okay? i have gay friends.", which just made me laugh.

his relationship with his parents is like mine but reversed. my mother wants to be supportive, but she just doesn't understand what being transgender is. i've been out for more than a year and my mother has only called me her son once. she still uses my deadname and misgenders me. in the beginning, i would remind her not to, but i've grown tired of that. we got into so many arguments over it. they would always end with me sobbing while she told me it was hard for her too. she still has her moments though. i'll never forget when we were shoe shopping together and i saw the cutest mary jane platforms. i gathered up the courage to tell my mother i wanted them, but it didn't change the fact that i'm a boy. she told me, "i don't fully get you, but i know." that was the first time i was sure she wasn't lying to me.

growing up, my father was pretty much my hero. i was closer to my mom, but i still looked up to him. he wasn't around much when i was in elementary and i would cry while looking through the family albums. he eventually came back for good and i was the happiest kid ever. though, it didn't last long. as i was growing up, i was also realizing just how much of an asshole my father is. the first time i hit back, i was 15, protecting my mother from his drunken tirades. i can still see his shocked face clearly in my mind. ever since then, our relationship has become nonexistent and it got worse when i came out. he looks at me in disgust because i'm "trying (and failing) to be a man" to him. he looks at me like he doesn't know where he went wrong.

everything about this movie pulled at my heartstrings. i'm so glad i had a box of tissues next to me. i'm gonna have a hard time moving on from this. it's just so special TO ME! thankful for all the trans artists out there who make me want to keep going and create art of my own. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

#mutt 2023 #mutt #vuk lungulov-klotz #drama #film review #queer cinema #trans stories

[la-principessa-nuova]

I am getting very confused about my own egg-cracking timeline.

Trans Ramblings

In 2015 I first started to question when (to keep it short) something I was reading lead to me basically thinking, “Why do people feel that they relate to characters of their own gender more? I don’t. In fact I feel like I relate more to female characters. I wonder if they’re just inherently more relatable. That or I’m trans, lol. Ha ha… ha? Wait… Could I be?”

Then I had a brief phase (a couple weeks to a month maybe) of deep introspection and exploring the concept of identifying internally as a woman. Then somehow over time it faded into the background and somehow I just let it sit unresolved.

Then I’m kind of blurry on the next 8 years. I know that from time to time when I was alone with my thoughts, I would think about it, and I always landed on, “Well I’m definitely not cis, but I’m fine being a guy, so it’s probably best to not rock the boat and just tell myself I’m probably nonbinary and keep using he/him and presenting the same.”

But I also know that every time I played a video game and picked/created a girl character (as I always had), after that realization, I was aware what I was doing. I kept saying it was for cis reasons if someone asked, but I was fully aware this was my escape to be who I wanted to be, and knew that I was engaging with sides of the game that were about experiencing femininity through the character (e.g. focusing on the character’s outfits heavily since I couldn’t dress fem IRL). I stressed over what to name each character, making sure the name felt right on me.

But I think it was a slow realization from initially feeling inside that it might be for trans reasons, but suppressing that thought, to the last few years practically giggling with glee every time my in-game outfit looked cute and felt like me.

And then in the last few years, I know I still kept landing on probably being nonbinary every time I went over it again, but shifting more and more fem each time, but I remember having all but accepted it. And I thought that for the past year or so it was just a few well intentioned but misleading videos I saw that had temporarily convinced me I couldn’t be a trans woman.

But then last night I was looking at my old notes (basically diary entries) and found stuff where I was very intentionally applying masculine words to myself in a completely private, personal context. I even had one where I was personifying the different moods I get into, and they were all masculine names. I remember knowing at the time that they were basically arbitrary and barely fit, but I can’t even get myself into a headspace now to understand how I would have picked those names, and I feel offended by myself to have these masculine names applied to me. The only thing is that I don’t remember if maybe I intentionally misgendered myself with that one because I was worried if someone (literally who though?) looked through my phone and saw fem names, but then I could have just used descriptive words and not names, so IDK.

But it’s like there was this weird veil where 1% of the time, I was fully aware I was probably trans for the past 8 years, and by the time I fully accepted it in December it had grown to like 2%, but the other 98-99% of the time, I didn’t just pretend not be trans, I completely forgot and went about saying I was male.

Then I finally finished processing the thought, and it went from a rare thing I think about sometimes to all-encompassing. Part of it for sure is that I’ve recognized the dysphoria for what it is. Now when I see myself in the mirror and feel bad, I realize it’s my gender presentation, not my weight that makes me feel that way. When I look in the mirror and it feels like the person in the mirror isn’t me, I realize it’s because the person in the mirror looks male, not because I must be dehydrated or something. When I become aware of my genitals being in the way, I realize it’s because they’re the wrong ones. When I am called a man or he/him and it feels wrong, I realize it’s because I should be called she/her, not because I’m just not comfortable with adult words being applied to me yet.

All of these things are constant reminders that I’m trans, and things that made me feel uncomfortable in a way I couldn’t place and I moved on from are now things I have a name for and can identify, so of course now I see the connection and have them on my mind.

But I’m still confused how I thought of it so little and made so little process in processing these thoughts in 8 years. And it leaves me confused on when exactly egg cracked. Was it in 2015 when I said, “Wait… am I trans?” And decided the answer was probably yes but I wasn’t going to do anything about it? Or was it in 2023 when I became confident in my answer and realized how much dysphoria I was actually experiencing?

#transgender #trans #lgbt #now I want to put together a list of the things I named video game characters in the last few years

[wonderingwanderingsworld]

Now I’m thinking of another “friend,” someone who was also a gay trans guy and who “helped” me through top surgery. I’m putting scare quotes around all those things because regardless of intent I feel like he stole my body away from me at a time when I was most fully coming into it. I wanna let myself feel enraged right now, I want to take my body back.

He offered to help me make some decisions around top surgery but got so invested that he really dragged out the process and made it about himself. I don’t really feel like he did that on purpose… but damn I still just wanna be mad about it 🤬🤬🤬 LET ME BE MAD!!!! It was just so fucked up, like, even though he did all these nice things he was also controlling. I remember when they did my chest reveal him and the nurse had this whole conversation about what my chest looked like before I even had a chance to look at it myself. Outrageous!!!! He wanted to take a picture too and I was like, no. Definitely not. I really wanted to hold my body precious to myself. My new body, just for me.

He shared a hotel room with me while I healed and was virtually unable to give me space when I needed it. It was a complete nightmare. Eventually he took me home to his place that he shared with his partner and once we were there I had more space to myself. I think I still left early though. The whole thing was a terrible ordeal.

What the fuck choice did I have though?? I wish I had gotten my mom to come with me. I don’t know if they let you do that surgery alone. I think you have to have someone come pick you up and care for you etc. I don’t think I had anyone else at the time.

The whole thing makes me so mad. Was it my fault??? I wish I had booted him off the whole “project” early on. I needed support, not someone to take over and make it about them. Imagine, making someone else’s body about you!! What the hell is that shit. I fucking hate it.

Ok I’m gonna try something. I do remember some moments alone through that whole situation and I’m gonna recall those and draw them forward. Maybe that’ll help some.

I remember waking up from surgery with an elderly nurse misgendering me 🤦🏻‍♂️ She seemed kind though so it wasn’t the worst. I also remember throwing up lmao and having to stay overnight, and then going back in for a hematoma the next morning. That was rough and I was super out of it. I remember going for a short walk and having a beautiful encounter with a young horse. I remember watching the visual album for Lemonade for the first time and having to pause every few minutes to cry. Whewww I was a mess!!

I wish… I had done a lot of things differently. It was a scary time. I needed support so badly and didn’t know where to turn. I was so terrified I was going to be disowned, that I would wind up on the street, or worse. I needed other trans people around me to help me with my transition. Just… maybe not that intensely. Not taking over. In a more warm, relaxed “you’ve got this” kind of way.

I’m having a little crisis here because I’m thinking of all these friendships gone wrong and I’m like, is it me???? Am I the problem?? Why can’t I have regular healthy friendships with people that aren’t hurting or controlling me all the time?? What if I’m a covert narcissist or someone who constantly twists things into me being the victim, even if it actually is my fault. How would I even know.

[goatlingsvent]

Lupisvulpes also dated a trans person despite being straight herself, I believe her intent was to encourage them to detranisition because she herself also concluded trans people being "just as perverted as gay people" and thus just as icky. Ironically if she was refusing to acknowledge them as their gender identity, she'd be, at least in her mind, in a lesbian relationship (dude was a trans guy) and this would be seem to be the case as she was nortious for misgendering him!

Also she sold off all the characters for her original series so she can't continue the series, this isnt a add on the growing list of the controversy irs just not a lot of people know that but still get confused why she won't continue the series. Additionally most of the new owners don't like lupis after the incident and or don't plan on reselling the characters either.

So please don't try and "steal" the characters thinking your reclaiming them. They already have new, better owners who have all but given them much more queer friendly back stories.

Point is of my rant however: my character uncommon-ish species that I had to go out of my way to look up to find any examples of, and none of what I found that look like my guy, it was a water fowl, and "dry land birds" are FAR more common. In my experience ravens, crows, jays and other corvids are much more common- and my guy wasn't a penguin either.

I'm not gating keeping the species either, is just the design while on the simpler side was 1:1 with the design I entered in their raffle, and they claimed to have never seen my design before, a lie.

I'm ok with "sibling" designs. It's just they took the design I entered 1:1 in their raffle, a simple design but the species and circumstances making at least hella sus to me. Had it been something way more common id easily shrug it off. But no, I had a very uncommon species by furry standards.

The reason the Christrain thing was brought up is I've never heard the words Christian and furry in the same sentence without the said "CF" (Christian furry) saying or doing some inheritly anti-christrin but also anti-furry: stealing someone's uncommon species fursona design- yes a real life animal, but us furies have a huge species bias so if it's not one of the cooler animals or as well known it gets shafted big time. Stealing and lying about is anti-christrian, but stealing someone's design and profiting off it is also anti-furry.

Like again, if it wasnt for the fact I entered in their raffle which was held through Google forms, I couldn't claim oh yeah they've already seen my design and made a 1:1 copy of it to keep for themselves because they are uninspired as all fuck. But I did enter and I paid to enter. Which caused some drama because something about the legal differences between raffles, lotteries and gambling or whatever. A Google search corrects me and that you can pay to enter raffles: however unlike a lottery there MUST be a guaranteed winner. Which I think there was.

It's just, claiming you never saw my uncommon species design before despite entering in your raffle some months earlier (about the time it would take to finish a fursuit give or take a month or two) with that said exact species and you turn around and 1:1 recreate it. Had I won the raffle I'd have the suit.

So like I shouldn't have done what I've done: I actually offered to buy it back much more than they were asking for, even offered to make stuff for them only for them turn around and give it someone else.

I don't trust Christrian furries any more. It's a walking contridicting giving the furry community has ties to the kink and LGBTQA+ communities which APPEARS TO GO AGAINST MOSR CHRISTIAN VALUES.

No seriously look it up, the first ever conventions that were anime related doubled as furry ones and the first furry conventions were kink met ups. Not saying modern furrism hasn't changed to very much being a welcoming space for all ages, but know your history given it's deeply connected to queer, kink and even anime history.

🤲

#lupisvulpes #goatlingsvent #tw homophobia mention

[eboymoder]

i love how a shit ton of transfemmes love to act like transmasculine oppression is not only less important, but mostly nonexistent, to the point of it even being heretically offensive to discuss in a way that takes it as seriously as transmisogyny or even like. seriously AT ALL and not just something to joke about doing to transmascs when they happen to be both annoying and someone who goes by a common name, like aiden.

like i know you get all your facts and logic from a bunch of super retarded twitblr baeddels but i do in fact regret to inform you that out of most known social demographic categories, transmasculine people have THE highest rates of suicide and sexual assault, especially compared to cis men and cis women, but even sometimes when compared to transfems!

but yeah, tell me more about how “transandrophobia” is just some reddit MRA shit. keep talking about how transmisogyny is the worst kind of oppression that could possibly happen to anyone ever and how transmascs are just transitioning because they hate women and want to attain male privilege, something not only regular for us all to want but definitely possible to achieve through the cis validation we are soooo totally receiving from society.

if you believe that being a man or transitioning into masculinity is INHERENTLY EVIL or makes you get MORE PRIVILEGE AND NOT WAY LESS OF IT FROM LITERALLY ANYBODY INCLUDING OUR OWN SUPPOSED ALLIES then i am sorry to say but i think the thing that is poisoning your brain and making you stupid is not testosterone. it might be 4chan though, you might wanna get that checked out. being a woman does not make you inherently softer, more pure, more innocent, kinder, more deserving of love. none of those things. and in fact, acting like women can do no wrong by virtue of simply existing as their gender is often used to silence victims of abusive women, because feminism or something. absolutely shut the fuck up.

god you are all so stupid. why the fuck would a man with a pussy or boobs get MORE RESPECT instead of MORE KILLED AND HUMILIATED. WE BY VIRTUE OF BEING BORN ARE FAILDAUGHTERS WHO ARE CONSTANTLY REMINDED OF OUR INHERENT LACK OF THE MANY CENTRAL DEFININITIVE CHARACTERISTICS ASSOCIATED WITH MANLINESS. WHY WOULD WE BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY BY “REAL” MEN AND WOMEN, AS WE ARE SEEN TO BE NEITHER OF THOSE?

imagine let’s say, a trans man. scary, fucked up, i know right, but bear with me now, i have a point to make. so this guy is for all intents and purposes completely cis-passing. his voice is deep and melodic. he has full grown facial hair. his facial structure is like a chad wojak. he isnt getting bald from taking t yet. he’s skinny, but not to the point of looking twinky or like a femboy. he isn’t overly emotional in a womancoded way most of the time. he’s white. he’s got a good job that pays well enough to not be homeless or starving. so yeah, all of those things. except for one crucial difference: he does not wish to pursue bottom surgery. he enjoys having a vagina. he is also interested in having sexual relationships, exclusively with other men-identified people.

here’s where things get tricky. you know the trans panic murder legality exception? that still does apply to transmascs too, you know. we are also transgendereds. but yeah so this guy decides to hook up with a stranger off a dating app. things are going fine. he hasnt yet disclosed his birth sex, he had no pronouns in bio, he is assumed to be cis.

wow, you think, this guy is living the dream. he is so privileged for this.

sike, you fucking idiot. he is about to get hatecrimed and abused as soon as he does the pussy reveal. he will probably also get raped. the guy he wanted to have a fun time with actually hates women so much he thinks that sometimes they try to become men to trick true homosexuals. he fucking gets this guy. transmasc chad is now dead. when his funeral happens, his estranged parents retcon his legal name change from years prior to deadname and misgender him as a final slap in the face. where is this privilege then? huh? tell me, quickly now.

every single fucking hate crime that is possible to do to a transfeminine person is just as easily possible to do to a transmasculine person. absolutely fuck yourself if you disagree. because it can and does happen. not only that, but we experience unique things you never will be able to: getting pregnant, getting raped in ways that could make us pregnant, if we want to get pregnant we have to temporarily detransition in order to do so, period associated symptoms that involve painful bleeding and not just period-lite emotional swings like some people experience on estrogen. stuff like that is what we need our own words for, you just wouldnt get it.

you just live in a bubble full of shetheyits who love to be stupid online and expect the entire world to kiss their toes in response when they say things that are just completely and objectively wrong but frame themselves in a tactical light in order to shit on the most amount of people they can just to fucking feel something. why do you love re-creating or appropriating existing structures of oppression and drawing lines in the sand arbitrarily with people you should be experiencing sympathy for because we are more like you than we are not like you. society hates us all, dont you dare forget that.

#transandrophobia

[hatteymcstache]

Another callout post in the air.

I've been told about this post going around when someone was asking me if I was okay; so I've given into a lot of thought and I'm here explain. again. I will not display this person's name because I know the toxic part of my community will go ballistic and I hate that so much. Please don't.

The callout post in question:

Firstly, those who have tried went from being calm to immediately hostile when I tried to explain myself in dms. And the very rare few who reached out to me apologized for jumping to conclusions. You on the other hand, never tried reaching out to me once. If it's a confrontation in the discord server, then I'm not active in it and most likely forget. If it's a personal dm, I didn't get anything recent from you at all.

1. I did not defend C0nji. yes I do look at the whole anti/proshipping issue on both sides, doesn't mean I condone malicious creepy intent and doxxing/death threats. I'm just saying this artist is not a despicable person as far as I know, nor did they go out of their way of legitimately hurting others. With that being said, their whole idea of 'fiction doesn't affect reality' is very shallow-minded and gross considering how much it has put minors in danger, and they should learn to think about it but that's their choice, and problem. I'm not here to babysit.

2. The same claim I already debunked many times but will say again: I carelessly copy pasted old info and had no idea that word was still there but I removed the term 'Asperger's' and have stopped using it since, I was made aware of this years ago already. At the time I wasn't aware that in a deep negative history, and I've been around a few autistic mutuals who used that term as a scientific term.

3. Another of the same claim: Yes I do see Chihiro as a boy (or sometimes non-binary) cause as a trans man, it brings me comfort to see guys in a skirt with confidence. I'm not the most feminine guy but i'd like to have the freedom to explore without being misgendered. And if people do not like trans Sakura that's understandable, I just want to shed some light where trans woman can look buff, especially those who are as athletic as Sakura. The trans post you showed is meant to be a body positive for pre-op and post-op trans folk but you decided to flip it around and call it something else.

4. Me being genuinely upset of people making claims towards me doesn't automatically mean I've brushed off every transfem's concerns. Some of them who came forward to me, the conversations went from civil to being aggressive because they wouldn't listen or even consider my explanation that my intentions weren't malicious at all. Then the only trans woman who was civil came to me with fair criticism, told me I should be more specific with my content warnings when it comes to drawing pre-op bodies cause it would cause dysphoria for certain trans people, especially to trans women. That was where I listened and assured to be more cautious with how I portray my work.

5. The rest about me woobifying Taka and Gundham which I've addressed many times; characters dressing up in oversized sweaters or acting childlike/naïve doesn't automatically make them incapable or infant. That is never what I intend. And Gundham 'not knowing what sex is'- yes I know he's a breeder, human intercourse is a similar but different thing. He's asking Mondo in his own way because he has lacked connection with people for a long time; that's how I'm portraying, this also has been implied many times in his free time events and with how he talks to people. This is something where I relate to Gundham cause all I had was my art and imagination as a kid, so learning to interact with others is overwhelming.

I also don't understand that apparently Gundham needing people like Taka and Mondo (as dad-like figures) is so terrible- I'll say this now that yes I do portray Gundham as someone who is headstrong but he can feel very lonesome, he just doesn't how to express it. It's okay to need someone who truly accepts you or is that so wrong? Also it was never portrayed that Gundham or Taka need to reply on someone 24/7. so I really don't understand that argument you're trying to make. To me, It just sounds like autistic people shouldn't rely or need anyone at all cause it's offensive. If that's not what you mean I'm sorry, but that's what I'm perceiving cause all your statements are vague.

I not only do research but have talked to autistic mutuals/followers when developing my character Timmy; a lot of the valid criticism comes from how I should write his symptoms, showing both his mature and child-like sides etc, they even share their own experiences so I can illustrate them in a realistic and positive light. The way he's portrayed and capable of many things has made him relatable to a lot of people, which is something I'm trying to strive for; especially when some autistic people (who shared their experiences in my dms) behave like Timmy get ridiculed for ''''acting like 9 year olds'''' in my comment section which is something I never condone in my community I even made a comic post regarding that ableism.

No one is ever obligated to agree with the way I portray my stories and opinions; if someone doesn't like what I'm doing they are free to unfollow, block me and look for any other artist that does a better job in their art. My biggest issue with callout posts like this, is that people have different opinions of what makes a character a good or bad rep. It's very subjective and it depends on every person. Half of them including you do not like my representation, meanwhile the other half does enjoy my work, even find comfort in it. I'm not here to please every single person who didn't get everything they need from my work, I'm one man.

But the most painful part is not debunking these claims over and over; it's when my followers believe them right away without even asking me if they were true. It always leaves me unsurprised but disappointed. And yeah I'm not a good person, yes people tend to get scared of me that's fair, but I'm not as despicable as so many of these callout posts claim. I have talked to certain followers who have the decency to ask me what's going on; followers who actually listened to my explanation, and I listened to them back when they have questions. You don't even have to agree or like me after my explanation, just have the courtesy to ask before jumping to conclusions.

So yeah, the callout post is vague, and blown a lot of things I drew out of proportion and turned them into malicious intent which was never my approach. I was going to personally dm you about this but you have lost it the moment you made an 'awareness' post instead that does more damage than good. Feel free to keep your post up, feel free to think what you will. I just want to say all this to people who are genuinely confused. Whatever you plan to do, go ahead. I'm exhausted and have more in life to worry about. Unless followers genuinely want to ask questions to know more, this will be last time I confront the same. claims.

#christ.

[lick-me-lennon22]

Trans Man!Reader X Beatles headcanons/How they'd support a trans (FTM) partner + help them through dysphoria 💙💙💙

(lengthy title, I know ^^' this amazing request is from @anonymous-blanket ! they originally asked for how the Beatles would help a trans [FTM] reader through dysphoria, but I sort of expanded it to add general headcanons- I hope you don't mind :) 💞)

⚠️⚠️⚠️DISCLAIMERS:⚠️⚠️⚠️

- I myself am a cis woman and this is solely based on the experiences my trans guy friends have been so kind as to share with me, as well as some of my own research on gender dysphoria and grounding techniques

- this is NOT entirely accurate to the 60s or 70s

- I have written these with the assumption that the reader has already come out and has transitioned or is currently transitioning; with that being said, none of the lads would ever out you or disclose your identity before you are ready to do so yourself/without your permission!

- all of the boys would respect your identity and address you by your name and preferred pronouns !!!

- please feel free to (kindly) correct me if any of this post is offensive or incorrect! I have written these headcanons with nothing but love and respect for the trans community ♡

Paul:

when you come out to Paul (if you were together before you began your transition), he's so proud of you for being your authentic self and so glad you're willing to share something like that with him

he immediately offers to take you out shopping and buy you a more masculine/comfortable wardrobe, as well as items such as boxers and binders if you want them

whenever you're up for it, Paul does your eyebrows and some masc contouring (if you ever want him to)- he's quite good with makeup, as he often does his own!

along with (of course) using your correct name and preferred pronouns, he showers you with gender-affirming nicknames and compliments ("my handsome man," "my prince," "dashing," "Adonis," etc.)

if you ever feel dysphoric about sitting down to pee, Paul reminds you that he also pees sitting down (hc)- "It's just more comfortable that way, no shame in it," he shrugs

he makes it a point to remind you how strong and handsome you are often

if you're having a particularly bad day and your dysphoria feels suffocating:

Paul respects your boundaries if you want to be left alone or don't want to be touched

he stays close to you and holds your hand if/as soon as you're okay with it

he tries to take your mind off of your discomfort and ground you by serenading you with your favorite songs

he listens attentively if you just want to vent, and gives you plenty of reassurance and words of comfort/validation if you need them

Paul reminds you that however you want to present is valid and that you are still, of course, a man- regardless of idiots who may tell you otherwise

"How can you not look like a man...? You are a man, love" ♡

John:

when you come out to John (if you were together before you began your transition), he talks you through everything you're feeling and listens intently when you share your experience with him

he suggests going to therapy if you feel like it'd be beneficial (he attends therapy sessions as well- hc)

he immediately assures you that he'll beat the living daylights out of anyone who dares to deadname or misgender you

John (without an ounce of subtlety) corrects anybody who uses the wrong pronouns to refer to you

he makes sure you know and always remember that your identity is valid

if you're comfortable with it, John places pride pins on his leather and denim jackets- regardless of the comments people make

he will absolutely go off on bigoted and closed-minded interviewers/reporters who question your identity or your relationship

John accompanies you into the men's restroom if you're nervous (and if you want him to) and will tell off/uppercut anyone who even looks at you the wrong way

if you're having a particularly bad day and your dysphoria feels suffocating:

John reminds you that your body doesn't dictate your gender and that your identity is 100% valid

he offers his clothes for you to wear if that would make you more comfortable

he helps ground you and distract you from your discomfort by putting on a silly movie for you to watch (together, if you'd like)

John carries his/your cat into your bedroom and places them in your lap for cuddles and purrs

he reminds you of what a hot, sexy stud you are ;)

"A... woman?? That's the dumbest thing I've ever 'eard. You can't 'look like a woman,' you ain't one- you're a man, love"

John tells you he can't wait until the day you become his husband ♡

George:

when you come out to George (if you were in a relationship before you began your transition), he sits patiently and listens as you share your feelings and experience with him

on his next trip out to the store, he buys doubles of all the masculine-scented hygiene products he usually purchases (body wash, deodorant, shampoo, etc.), as well as some extra boxers in your size in case you'd want them

when he arrives back home, he wordlessly places the items in your shared bathroom/dresser so you have access to all of them, but won't have to ask if you aren't comfortable enough to yet

he's very mindful about using your correct name and pronouns from the moment you come out to him

George supports you if you're on T and gives you daily reminders, or advocates for you if you aren't and want to be

he supports you equally if you don't want to start T at all!

he reminds you that your presentation doesn't invalidate your identity

he refers to you as "my boyfriend" or "my man," and tells you that you look sexy, dashing, and handsome ;)

if you're having a particularly bad day and your dysphoria feels suffocating:

George respects whatever you want to do and makes sure you're as comfy as possible if you just want to stay holed up in your bedroom for a while

he fetches you some comfy, baggy clothes in case you feel like disappearing into them for a bit, and offers you some of his clothes if you'd prefer them

he'll bring your pet into your room for some extra love and cuddle time

George will be considerate of your boundaries if you don't want to be touched, but stay by your side if you'll allow him

he's taught you how to meditate and will practice meditation with you as a grounding/relaxation strategy

"Remember, darling- your body doesn't dictate your gender. You are a man no matter what" ♡

Ringo:

when you come out to Ringo (if you were in a relationship before you began your transition), he is elated and relieved that you feel comfortable enough to share something like that with him

the next time you leave the house without Ringo, by the time you've arrived back home, he's set your entire dining room up like a gender reveal party: complete with an It's a Boy! banner and everything blue he could find (it's overkill, but he means well)

on the table is a care package he's bought and assembled for you

in it, he's included plenty of masc-scented soap/deoderant/shampoo, boxers, a pricey and great-quality binder (if you've expressed that you want to bind), and a very thoughtful handwritten and decorated card

from then on and if/when you're ready, Ringo makes a point of (re)introducing you to everyone (and I mean everyone) as his boyfriend- you both love the sound of it!

he'll give you the most genuine, validating compliments out of nowhere

for example: the first time you watch your favorite show together after you've come out to him, Ringo admits that he's always thought you looked/sounded a lot like one of the main characters (who happens to be male)

if you're having a particularly bad day and your dysphoria feels suffocating:

if you're still alright with being touched, Ringo smothers you in one of his famous bear hugs and tells you that everything is okay and you're no less valid for feeling this way about your body

he brings your favorite snack/treat into your room for you to eat and enjoy

he'll sit on the bed and engage in honest conversation with you if you feel like venting; if not he brings you all of the pillows, blankets, and/or stuffed animals in the house- as well as any clothes you'd like to change into

he showers you with gender-affirming nicknames and compliments: "my handsome man," "my prince/king," "heartthrob," "hunk," "stud"... some of them silly, but all of them sincere

Ringo is sure to remind you that no matter what your body looks like or how you're feeling about it in this moment (and no matter what bigoted asswipes may say to either of you), you are just as valid and masculine as any other man:

"Because that's what you are, my love- a man!" ♡

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[qsphyxias]

hi i havent stopped thinking about the trans!shuichi and trans!reader post i requested a while back so im here for more

you mentioned that after shuichi finds out his s/o is also trans they’re able to get a bit closer and i was wondering if you’d be able to expand on that a bit? maybe a pre relationship coming out thing. friends to lovers, perhaps.

have a good day :]

if you fetishize t4t relationships, get the fuck out of here!

synopsis ; ^^ read the request, and maybe the head canons if you want

warnings ; trans reader (no specified gender or pronouns the entire story), i feel like there are some empty pockets but i don't think it'll really impact the story at all, friends to lovers, kinda long, shuichi is trans too, implied dysphoria, emotional barriers, kaito is still a dumb himbo with good intentions but still ignorant, misgendering, coming out, guilt, i hope it's not too all-over-the-place because i really like how it came out (no pun intended)

note ; [please read!!!] initially my headcanon was kinda implying that shuichi basically can't make an emotional, romantic connection with someone, himself being trans and all; not saying that he can't, but it's tough. and when you came out to him, it kinda clicked? it wasn't like he suddenly liked you just because you came out as trans, but he always did feel like there was chemistry. he just didn't know what to do with it and how to act on it, especially because yk... he's trans, and he doesn't know who to trust yk? or if people would even be open to the idea of dating him. and to be honest, he doesn't think he's very loveable either... anyway here's the prequel thingy that you asked for, anon! i hope it's up to your standards! /gen

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"th- that movie was kinda scary... wasn't it, kaito?" truthfully, shuichi hadn't been scared at all by the movie, having seen gruesome scenes like that on the job —albeit a little less exaggerated— but he just wanted kaito to feel more comfortable about being absolutely 'shitting-his-pants' terrified.

the three of you walked alongside each other, exiting the theatre and approaching the cobblestone front of the huge cinema.

"psh, shuichi, you should man-up! s- stuff like that doesn't scare us guys at all!" shuichi frowned at the mention of 'manning-up', feeling a ball of uncomfortable thoughts settle on his heart. 'what did he mean by 'us'? was he including me? did he just misgender me? whatever, don't ask about it; no reason to make a big deal.'

he supposed it was stupid to take it the wrong way, or to even feel bad about it, but even if he did want to hide it and not admit it to himself, the look on his face said it all. fortunately, kaito didn't notice, as he was too busy glancing around to see if there were any ghost serial killers hiding behind the cinema's blue trashcans— now, kaito may have not noticed, but you did.

"AAh!" kaito squealed, wincing from the vibration in his pocket from a message. "Ah, shit." kaito's face dropped, and he looked at the two of you apologetically, "guys, I gotta go, someone pissed off maki-roll again!" And just like that, you both watched as he ran backwards, facing you two as he tried to wave goodbye— also managing to catch the moment where he bumped into someone and apologized profusely.

eventually it was too painful to watch, and you both just looked away, focusing on each other for a change.

i say that as if you guys aren't constantly 'secretly' exchanging glances at each other.

"hey, are you okay? i-i noticed you look a little- ...down. was it... what kaito said?" You shoved your hands in your pockets, walking alongside shuichi who kept his eyes down to his feet that moved step-by-step. he swallowed, intending to say something, but it seemed like his consciousness had other plans.

right step... left step.... right... left... pause.

you placed your hand on his shoulder, snapping him out of it. "hey."

"o- oh. right, i... no, it's nothing. i- i know what you're going to say; kaito was just being kaito, he didn't mean that, I'm sure he just forgot— which is okay! h- he's a good person, i'm just too sensitive-" shuichi stammered, eyes darting down to your hands on his shoulders.

"i wasn't going to say, uh, any of that." you looked at him with a saddened, but also concerned expression. "i, uh, just wanted to let you know that, i'm h- here for you. a- and uh, what I'm about to say might... help you believe me when I say that I am truly here for you. and i- i get it." your hands dropped to your sides.

shuichi could already feel a grimace settling in. when one of his cis friends did this type of thing, it was extremely invalidating, because truthfully, no; they don't get it. they will never get it. but even so, their intentions are always positive, so he had to be too.

but this time, he was just a tad bit annoyed. with what kaito said, and now you, it just seemed like the day was going more and more downhill. "s/o, you may think that you get it, but-"

you cut him off, on accident; you hadn't heard a word of what he said because you were too busy trying to finish your sentence. “because- shuichi, I-I’m trans.”

he was very wrong.

'woah...' he thought. you’re… literally so brave. much braver than he is. in a way, that saddened him a bit, but he knew he shouldn't be feeling that way. He knows how hard it is, coming out, actually mustering the courage to get yourself to do it is harder than performing the actual action. for weeks, he prepared himself for multiple people to reject him and hate him, but he still did it with that in mind.

he imagined it was hard, coming out to him like that. god, he's so proud. and just genuinely excited.

with his eyes wide like saucers, he gasped, hands clasping over his mouth. and his face dropped to the floor, god why does he say anything ever!? he felt guilt wash over him as he realized just what he was about to say. 'so stupid!'

"oh- i'm so sorry, s/o, i was just- i didn't know, i thought you were- wait, that isn't even important; s- s/o, you'll know i'll support you no matter what-" god, he felt multiple emotions hitting him at once. pride, envy, sadness, happiness, guilt and relief all at the same time.

he scrambled his brain trying to remember what he wanted them to say and do when he came out. it was a pain reliving that experience but the least he can do is make yours the best one, if he hasn't already ruined it.

'r- right!'

shuichi did the first thing he thought of, and hugged you, tight.

"oh... oh no, maybe i shouldn't have assumed you wanted a h-"

"no, it's fine. i-i think i needed this."

and just like that, you forgot why you were ever nervous in the first place.

you're definitely glad you chose shuichi to be the first person to come out to. you suppose you decided on shuichi first because, now knowing that you were trans all along, he seemed like the one who would get it and understand it the most, the one to be the most genuine. and honestly, you picked him because... well, because he was personally the closest friend you've out of all. you didn't know if he felt the same way; as you sensed some barriers between him and, well, everyone.

"i- i'm glad you told me first, s/o. u- unless you didn't, then that's fine t- too!" shuichi said softly.

"no, you were the first." you grinned, not knowing what you were feeling was not relief, you dumbass; but literal butterflies.

couple weeks after your coming out, your relationship with shuichi had been stronger than ever. well, that's what you thought, at least. you weren't sure if he felt the same, about it.

fortunately for you, he had been thinking the exact same thing.

it was so much easier for him to talk to you then everyone else, not negatively per se, but every waking moment he had with you just felt like a fresh breath of air,

now shuichi wasn't known to be big on change, but you were the one exception.

It was nice, to finally be able to have someone who understands his own troubles because they reciprocate them. No more excuses, or lies to replace explaining things people won’t understand, because you already knew and understood. He could be himself around you, and isn’t that all you need from a partner?

but none of that was any excuse as to why he was right there, knocking frantically on your door in the middle of the night, glasses sitting above his frenzied eyes instead of his usual eye contacts.

it was clear, he was a mess, and he hadn't prepared to come here unannounced— i mean, why would he? that would just be rude.

anyway, back to the story.

maybe it was the 13 ounces of espresso shots he had consumed in the last couple of hours, maybe it was because he truly never had anyone understand him quite as well as you did, and he felt it was the same for you.

maybe it was because he felt like you were perfect for each other. maybe, okay, maybe he was overthinking- no, no not this time, brain!

maybe all that, is why he did this, and is doing it right now because—here you come!

"s- shuichi? it's literally the butt crack of dawn, what the-"

"wait- l- let me go first." shuichi interrupted, hands grasping the frame of your door.

you'd be lying if it didn't take you by surprise when shuichi took initiative in a case that isn't about crime.

"e- even before you came out to me, i always felt like you understood me more than anyone. you always felt the most real, and genuine as a person, to me. it's hard, being trans and even developing feelings for anyone in the first place..! because, who knows where it'll go?"

"but you made it so, s- so easy."

at this point, tears were streaking his red cheeks, emotions too strong for shuichi to feel, or even confront. "i'm just so grateful, that i- i had and have you, and i hope you know that you have me, for as long as you'll want me. and even putting that aside, i think i started to develop feelings for you the moment i even laid eyes on you, the moment you... — anyway- a- and i'm sorry it took this long, and your coming out to me to finally s- say that..."

"i think i... i'm in love with you."

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[bisexualwannabewriter]

Peter Parker x non-binary reader with number 3

(sorry if it's sound like McDonald's order)

Hi again ! (it's just nicer when people say hi, before asking for what they want I think, but it's fine, don't worry haha) Hope you’ll enjoy that one too !

Peter Parker x non-binary reader 

(In this oneshot, Peter’s identity is still a secret to the world. As I mentioned before, I don’t feel comfortable writing about Peter being in highschool, so this is a more grown-up version of him. Also, this isn’t set at any moment in particular in the MCU. This is just me writing freely about our favorite Spider boi :))

3. I won’t let anyone hurt you ever again. You’re safe with me.

TW : being misgendered, loss, violence, injustice, cruelty, death, exploring who you are... it’s a bit angsty, but it’s mostly wholesome and fluffy.

Check out this post if you’d like to send me a request !

Being referred to the wrong pronouns always hurt you more than people could ever understand. It was like being called the wrong name, being mistaken for another person. You weren’t seen for who you truly were, and your existence was like this big question mark for other people. Yet, you didn’t even ask for much. Why was it so complicated for people to just say “they” ? Luckily enough, you had friends who understood. It wasn’t all bad. And some people were just clumsy : it didn’t mean they weren’t open to learn. You always liked people who admitted when they didn’t have enough information on something, people who weren’t afraid to say how clueless they were on a subject, before asking you to educate them on the matter. Sure, it wasn’t your job. But if it genuinely came from a good place, with good intentions, why not ?

You never had to educate Peter on anything, though. That guy had always been... perfect ? Was that too much, too big of a word to describe him ? You never would have said that in front of him, obviously. But truth was, he was in fact.... pretty fucking perfect. He had this curiosity, and this genuine desire to help you be the most comfortable you could possibly be. He didn’t say it (he didn’t have to), but you knew he spend a lot of time on the internet, trying to get more familiar with terms you were using, the LGBTQ+ community... It was also helping him figure out some stuff about himself, so really, it was a win-win situation. But he didn’t just look for things like that. Whenever you’d say you liked something, whether it was a TV show, a book, a Youtube channel... he would end up watching it, reading it, or doing everything he could to be able to keep up the conversation with you. He was the smartest person you had ever met, and yet he made you feel like everything that was coming out of YOUR mouth was some sort of highly valuable piece of information, something to treasure, and write down on a notebook to keep forever close to his heart.

You both had this gift, of being able to know exactly what to do to confort the other. Peter had been through a lot, in his young life. You didn’t understand how he had it in him, to keep being this kind-hearted and hopeful. He could have grown to be so much more bitter and angry. It didn’t mean he didn’t have any frustration and rage in him. But his good heart always prevailed. You were one of the few people who knew about his secret identity, and you couldn’t help but feel anxious about it. He cared so much, and he had a strong sense of justice. You wish he didn’t put himself in so much danger so regularly, but then again, he wouldn’t have been himself, if he didn’t... if he just let other people deal with injustice, violence, and the overall ugly cruelty of the world. He couldn’t just sit down and watch that shit happen. No, not Peter. He had to do something about it, like everything was his own responsibily.

One night, as you were pressing a bag of frozen peas on his pretty bruised face, you felt him staring at you. You could tell he was in deep thoughts, and you wanted him to tell you what was going on, to ease what was troubling him. But you focused on his wounds, and figured it was best to just let him open up when he’d feel like it. Eventually, he took your hand, grabbed the bag of frozen vegetables and tossed it aside. He kept your hand in his, and stared at it, still thinking a little before whispering : “You do... You do feel safe with me, don’t you ?” You didn’t know where this was coming from, so you looked at him with a lot of concern in your eyes, not even answering his question. He was the one who was hurt. He was the one who got injured. He saw the big question mark on your face, and followed, avoiding your gaze “I just... I do all of this, right ? But it almost seems like it’s never enough. I try so hard, and yet...” You didn’t give him the opportunity to finish, and you brought your hand to his chin, making him stare at you “Peter. You can’t save everyone. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough. Everything that happens to other people, their pain, their suffering... It’s not your responsibility. I’m not your responsibility. You can’t carry the weight of the world on your shoulders like that. It’ll kill you. And I can’t lose you, you know that, right ?”

He pulled you into his arms, showering you with his love, his protection, and his warmth with his hug. He was home to you. You heard him whisper in your ear “I just hate that I can’t help everyone. That I couldn’t help you... people hurt you and I wasn’t there.” You slowly pulled away, before cupping his cheeks, trying to reassure him “Peter, you can’t be everywhere all the time. People hurt me, because that’s what people do, sometimes. People are hurting right now, and there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s okay. You’re just one person. You’re human, Peter. Sure, you have freaking super powers, and you’re the best person I’ve ever met, but you have your limits too, which is NOR-MAL !” That managed to bring a little smile on his face, but he was stubborn. He held both of your hands with his, gave them a little kiss, and answered “Well... I can still make you that promise : I won’t let anyone hurt you ever again. And you ARE safe with me. Okay ?”

You let out a little laugh, brushed a strand of hair that was falling on his forehead, and chose to give him the answer that would give him peace “I know I am, Peter.” He had this satisfied look on his face as he got up, and gave you a quick peck on the top of your head. You watched him get rid of the frozen bag of peas, and thought to yourself “My sweet Peter, don’t make promises you might not be able to keep.”

That’s what you couldn’t say to him. He had to believe you’d be fine. After all the people he lost, you had to be.

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