taylor saying "it’s about how horrible being famous is" and "you have no idea how much it means to me, and i feel like im really at this point in my life, able to really feel all of it in the moment that it’s happening" on the same night, like she wasn't able to enjoy her career because of the Side Effects and im so happy she's in a place where she doesn't feel guilty being private and has figured out a way to be free and connected at the same time.
512 notes
·
View notes
TW bipolar discussion and nonconsensual kissing, mental health discussion
So about Saturn Girl kissing Jon without his ability to consent to it: I get that she isn't actively deciding to mind control the people around her, but she does have a choice in the matter. Her family wanted her to stay home until she could control her mind control powers, but she didn't want to and left. To me that's like if I noticed I was manic (not hypomanic) and didn't go to the mental hospital... Like I can't control my bipolar but I have the choice to stay away from others when it would harm them. That's not even a good comparison though because my judgement isn't clear enough to consistently do that when I'm manic, whereas she is at baseline and is able to think rationally. I wouldn't blame someone with bipolar because they have no choice, but I'm just saying the obvious choice would be to keep yourself away from others even if it's not fun for you. I feel like I can blame her, because she has a choice.
I do sympathize with her, but I really think she's hurting others disproportionately to the distress she feels stuck at home, and that's not okay.
If you look back on the events with the knowledge that she can't turn off her mind control, you see how manipulative she is, especially to Jon, and she does high-control group tactics: love bombing, isolation, guilt tripping, not letting him have rest alone where he would have time to realize he didn't want this.
I don't like the JonDami narrative that Jon was an asshole for leaving Damian in the past or was running away from his problems, because in my view he was dragged into a cult and I can't blame him for that, especially because he was extremely vulnerable at the time. I also don't believe Jon would have left in the first place if he knew up front that he couldn't bring Damian to at least visit him.
Jon had been in a state of fight or flight for around 6 years (not just talking about the volcano because there was also his verbally abusive grandpa and their deadly adventures and being trapped in space, and then him struggling to survive on the streets and trying to find a way home after he escaped) and the first time he really got a chance to cool down was when he was talking with Damian. He really needs a long break, therapy, and medication because what he went through can't be treated with therapy alone as the stress has chemical effects in the brain that need to be adjusted.
The writers don't care about how Jon should be extremely hypervigilant and defensive and anxious. I guess that's just not brave enough for a superhero, nevermind that leaving the house and getting treatment for these things, learning to trust again, and letting people help you is so much braver than punching guys when you have superpowers. It's natural to fight when your fight or flight is activated in a protective manner, but doing the logical thing when every signal in your body is telling you not to is really damn hard. The only coward is DC for giving Jon trauma and not actually writing a traumatized character.
That all being said, Damian clearly doesn't see how Jon is being manipulated, probably because his head is full of self hatred & doubting & repressed desires to ask Jon to stay, and thinks he needs to go against his abandonment trauma by swinging the pendulum too far in the opposite direction in his speech. With his c-ptsd and abandonment issues I can see him becoming bitter towards Jon for going to the future.
That could make for a really complex fanfiction, don't you think? The conflict coming from their unique life experiences and traumas, and them learning to understand each other like they're always doing. This misunderstanding of intentions born not out of something dumb like hearing the wrong thing or being unclear in language, but from their different points of view.
My jondami au where Jon leaves the legion early is calling me lmao "Isaac we have more problems for you to fix~"
That being said I have no exclusivity to these ideas for writing.
73 notes
·
View notes
I see a lot of power struggle between Eddie and Venom and in my opinion it is mostly due to the fact that Venom views Eddie as physically and mentally weaker than they are and as many of you have suggested that Venom 3 will be about Eddie saving Venom and I would just absolutely LOVE to make Venom watch as Eddie kicks ass while looking ripped and create intricate plans to get Venom safely out of wherever they are and Venom goes from treating Eddie like a sad wet cat that they have to take care of to calling him Daddy Brock.
123 notes
·
View notes
The entries themselves cause harm on sight. By being publicly visible, they can therefore suddenly and unexpectedly cause harm to people who are susceptible without giving those people advance warning and the choice not to see them. Blocking tags is inneffective because Tumblr does not have enforcement of tags being standardized, or even present, meaning people who are susceptible cannot block everything that is dangerous to them.
That's a fair point, but I don't really see a way to warn for every potential trigger. I was under the assumption that someone opening the form was agreeing to potentially see a character they do not want to see. I am the 'Every Character Ever' poll blog, there is an understanding that there will be a wide range of characters from a wide range of medias.
On tumblr, you're also right that the tag system is not the best. I too have tags I block and still end up seeing things I'd rather not, but that has more to do with the fact that many people tag with several varieties of the same tag, making it difficult to cover everything. I use a very specific system of '"#character" "#media"', with no censoring the name of either thing. If someone wants me to tag something a particular way, I'm more than happy to oblige.
I understand that you're concerned about seeing something you don't want to, but respectfully, I don't really see what else I can do, apart from removing arbitrary characters, which I am not going to do. I've done my part to make this blog as accessible and easy to navigate as possible, but if you don't like it, you can block this blog and move on. I apologize that I'm not able to help curate your tumblr experience, but at a certain point, you need to understand that is just not how I do things here.
I hope you have a good day, and I wish you all the best in the future. I'm sorry that this blog isn't what you wanted it to be.
44 notes
·
View notes
I truly sympathize with you receiving hate mail and I agree that no one deserves to receive such hate-fuelled and insulting messages but I also am, admittedly, a bit disappointed in the way you choose to respond to the hate. Your anger is valid. Truly, it is. It really, really is. And I know that no one is obligated to be nice or forgiving of other people, but it really saddens me to see you sometimes generalizing and assuming that the intent of all anons who ask these things intend to hurt and insult you to begin with.
Take the half-white anon for example: while I no doubt agree that what they're asking is unfair and rude, they could easily just be ignorant of their actions and unaware that what they were asking was inherently wrong. I'm not asking that you forgive them and grin and bear with these anons 24/7, but all I'm asking is that you please at least be a little kinder and diplomatic in responding to them if you ever do wish to respond to them.
You could have just as easily replied politely that it comes off as a rude ask and corrected them respectfully. Each of us all have a responsibility to not incite more hatred (especially on the internet) and I hope that you remember that.
At this point, I can already anticipate that you would likely release a heated reply about how I should die/kms or just unfollow the blog if I don't like how you're being or even label me as just another hate anon and I think that, if this is indeed what you wish to reply, this unfortunately reflects your true colors as a person. If you consider this bordering asshole-like behavior of yours at present justified, then I hope that you're proud of the person you've become.
I'm not saying this to discourage you from connecting with your readers or appear all high-and-mighty but, rather, becuase I don't think all this anger is very healthy for you as a very concerned reader and longtime follower of this blog. If given the chance and if you think it would help, I hope maybe you can take the time to process your own anger in a more healthy way and maybe clear your head a bit when the asks get too heated for you to handle sometimes.
sincerely, a concerned reader
Anon, I'm begging you, go outside. This is genuinely an absolutely unhinged thing to send to a stranger.
161 notes
·
View notes