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theroundbartable · 2 years

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Seriously, we could be so much more dramatic about periods.

"It may not be the full moon, but it's definitely time for bloodshed."

"Time to clean the battlefield."

Alternatively: "time for a cleansing ritual"

When someone asks: "you got a stomach ache?"

"yeah, that's my reoccuring internal bleeding acting up."

"It's been a rough couple of days. My insides kept me awake with their agony. The day passed in a blurr, as my body tried desperately to restore it's needed power. The exhaustion kept me bed ridden and restless."

"I need blood!!!!" (Very effective when you got anemia and like..... Take medicine to regulate your iron intake. Very recommendable. I got this vitamin juice. By the brand Amecke. It's just juice, but it's designed to help with anemia. The stuff actually looks like blood. Makes you seem like a Vampire.)

The read more under the cut is more like an explanation of this post, cause I know some people may not understand my intentions.

You may skip this part. But if you want to judge me on this post, please read my statement first:

Why would I turn period problems into a joke?

Actually, that's not what this is.

I'm making the topic publically useable in an environment where you feel like your period is a shameful topic and are too scared to address it directly.

Plus, it's fun and makes you look like a badass.

I got three brothers and the term "disgusting" has been used for periods in this household before, while we were younger.

My mom and I are the only ones with periods in this house, my mom never talked about this and I only learned about what it was, when my neighbour friend got them long before I did. (Late bloomer). So I often felt ashamed to have em. (I mean there is a reason nobody wanted to talk about it, right?) Or proud to have em late. Or scared that maybe the fact that I got em late was a sign for some kind of sickness that i also didn't want to question, because i thought I was being dramatic ( i was).

I wasn't very educated on it, as I wasn't on most things. We first discussed the topic in school, when I was 14. I don't really get why they started discussing it, after 90% had them already. Being prepared feels different.

Anyways, I didn't feel comfortable talking about it.

I was too ashamed to even buy period products in the store and had to ask my mom for them when she drove me to violin practice, cause i didn't want my brothers to hear.

Until one day my siblings and I kind of got on the topic for some reason. they started it I think. More as a roundabout way of mentioning that people had it. (I think it was about girls skipping swim class) And like in the, let's not mention there are people in this room who have them and who we could ask stuff.

And I think we started talking about belly pains. And eventually I said something like:

If you really think about this, periods happen, when one of your inner organs is shedding it's skin, so it could be considered internal bleeding. I'm literally experiencing being skinned from the inside. So it makes sense that it hurts.

For some reason that made the topic more interesting to them. More approachable. And less to be shamed for. And ultimately, more respected.

I'm not saying it's actually as serious as being skinned alive. But I feel like comparisons like these really hammer home how important it is to take periods seriously. To talk about them at all!

You wouldn't go to a soldier with actual internal bleeding and tell em to just "keep it in". You'd tell them to rest, get a friggin doctor if you're not sure how seriously they're hurt.

Maybe this is a bit of a gory way to talk about it. Not everyone is good about talking about stuff like that.

I just want to say, it can make it easier.

As someone who felt ashamed and scared of every natural change their body and mind ever went through, sometimes it's easier to use your preferred language to show how you feel.

Use metaphors you're comfortable with.

For me it's vampire and witch comparisons. It's gory language.

If you don't need this, that's fine. If you think it's too dramatic, also good.

But if you think it's fun and/or helpful, you're welcome :)

#personal #periods #period language #becoming comfortable with yourself #delete later

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lorveings · 3 months

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Let people say and think whatever they want about you, Even if they're wrong, Even if it upsets you and makes you want to chase them just to confront them and fix the way they think or talk about you. Never do that to yourself, just find peace in knowing that the past belongs in the past and we're not in it anymore. You're evolving and becoming a better person than you were in the past, even if they don't want to see it. Some people are willing to stay blinded forever in their own circle just to make themselves feel good about whatever happened in the past. If that gives them peace let them. Let them feel at ease away from you. No matter how much you're hurt by them and their actions, you have to move forward with your life. You'll be okay, I promise.

What's important is that you know you're a good person who was brave enough to try and put an effort into fixing things and even sincerely apologized for your past behavior that caused others pain, that's the only thing that matters. You were strong enough to face the consequences of your actions no matter how unbearable the pain felt while doing it. You became honest with yourself by holding yourself accountable, acknowledging all of your past mistakes, truly forgiving yourself for what happened and finally starting your healing journey to fix and improve yourself and be the best version of yourself for YOU. That's enough.

That. is. enough.

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pagan-corruption · 11 months

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Are TERFs just insecure? Like, they see trans women being confident in their womanhood. While trans men and non-binary people accept that their birth gender wasn't for them, and, I don't want to say get jealous, but kind of feel like it's impossible for anyone to like themselves. Then construct all these conspiracy theories because no one could possibly like womanhood, but also no one could possibly escape womanhood.

Which is probably why there's so few TERFs, because most people struggling with their gender understand others aren't.

#terf #plus that's probably why detrans people become terfs they didn't just have one gender identity crisis they had two #gender critical #and I kinda said this before but when I think about terfs I think why am I not a terf #and I think back to high school when a few of my friends came out as trans I understood that they were just more comfortable being trans #so if you hate yourself and have bad theory of mind and think everyone hates themselves you wouldn't come to that same conclusion

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starheirxero · 22 days

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I am back once more! :D Lunar and Earth finally talked, and by golly, it is everything and more! Watching them both go through their issues together, and realize their flaws is kind of…therapeutic? In a way??? There are also so many parallels! Between Lunar and Earth, between Lunar and Eclipse(which made me go feral), even between Earth and the Creator in some way!

The thing that really got me is the realization, that Lunar and Earth are opposites in almost every way, and looking at things through this perspective is so interesting!

Earth feels as though her feelings have no value, as though they don't matter! She always puts others before herself, even expressing guilt for her breakdown!

Lunar, on the other hand, has a habit of putting themself first. That itself isn't a bad thing, of course, but they made it a habit to force their emotions onto others, to the point where the people around them felt the need to walk on eggshells!

Where Earth is very down to earth, Lunar is always in the clouds. Where Lunar acts on impulse, both verbally and physically, Earth overthinks, to the point, that she forgets to act.

Even in their grief, they acted like polar opposites. One shut down, while the other screamed and shouted!

I am such a freak when it comes to psychology, so this is just- It's making me feral, it's turning me into a rabid animal-

Both reflect the places they come from as well.

Lunar is emotionally immature, due to the trauma they faced. They feel as though they are stuck being the kid they were originally created to be, never having the chance to grow, before another thing was thrown at them, causing a hold in their worldview, if that makes sense! They act out, and push their emotions on others, because Eclipse always disregarded them. He never took their feelings seriously, and even now keeps teasing them for it. So of course, they actively push them onto others, now that there are people who will listen!

Earth, on the other hand, was always created with a clear purpose. She was made to be the caretaker. She was made to be perfect. From the moment she first opened her eyes, the expectations of perfection were put on her shoulders.

It's really interesting to think about.

The Creator had too many expectations, and his positive relationship to Earth gave her the need to fulfill those expectations. Eclipse had no expectations. He never gave Lunar an objective to live up to, and would push them down, everytime they tried to look for one.

The Creator, despite his good relationship to Earth, never cared for her. He only kept her close, calling her his "dearest daughter" for his own benefit. There was never an ounce of care for her, to the point, where he simply dropped the mask and insulted her. Eclipse, despite his negative, and very unhealthy relationship to Lunar, did care for them in a strange way. However, he kept pushing them away, because he didn't understand love and care, probably afraid of it. He treated them like a tool and even took ownership of them by saying things like "you belong to me", because it was the only way to keep them close in his twisted mind.

Speaking of their "first person", both of them act different in that regard too!

Earth is nothing like her father.

Meanwhile, Lunar has been shown to share quite a few of traits with Eclipse. Even in this video alone, there's the way they used to act in anger. Like Eclipse, Lunar reacts with anger and violence, when something happens. Both bite and show off their claws. Ever since their death, they have been shown to act similar to Eclipse, though on a lesser scale! It is making me so unwell, these two will be the death of me/pos-

Though as it has already been pointed out, they are changing. They haven't acted like this in a while. They have become rather self-aware and calm very suddenly, which confuses even Lunar themself! Like Earth said, this could very well be due to their last emotional outbreak ending badly! Their brain might just be shutting down, as a way to keep them safe! I am definitely interested to see, where this goes-

One more thing to point out in all this, is Lunar's question! "Why do things keep happening to us?"

I just find their opinions on the matter really Intriguing!

Earth knew from the beginning, she wasn't in control. She is only in control of herself, but never the situation. She doesn't try to be. Lunar, on the other hand, feels a lack of control, both in their situation and in general, and desperately tries to keep a hold of it! It reminds me of a orange and black animatronic- Okay, I'll stop now-

ALSO, BOTH ADMITTING TO SEEING SOLAR AS A BROTHER FROM THE VERY BEGINNING!😭 BUT ONE WAS HELD BACK BY THEIR Trauma, AND THE OTHER WAS HELD BACK BY HER FEAR OF OVERSTEPPING BOUNDARIES-

-Stardust

STARDUST IM GNAWING ON YOU SO HARD OH MY GHODDDDDDD!!!!!! /POS

THE MESSAGES. THE THEMES. RHE OPPOSITES AND THE PARALLELS. AAUGGGHHHHH I DIDNT CONNECT SO MUCH OF THIS AT ALL HOLY SHIT.

I don't have productive thoughts I am just ABSORBING THIS SO HARD. Lunar who wanted to disconnect from Eclipse but adopted traits of him anyways, versus Earth who wanted to connect with the Creator as much as possible but ended up farther from him than ever.... MAN. AUGH. I can be normal about that (lie)

ALSO YEA OMG WHEN THEY WERE TALKING ABT THEY'VE BEEN DEALING WITH THEIR WHOLE..... EVERYTHING. I WAS LIKE. 👀 hey boy. awfully familiar words there HDJEHDJWHD

AND WITH SOLAR AUAHAVQHAGHHHH SONT EVEN WITH ME ILL BURST INTO TEARS ILL START CRYING RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW AAUAGGGHHHHHHH

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ranwithscissors · 2 years

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Ngl as a bisexual person, the way Steve’s fanon bisexuality is treated by the Stranger Things fandom is starting to annoy me

#this is a generalization #but Jesus Christ the 80s weren’t the dark ages #bisexuality was well known back then #enough to demonize bi men for spreading aids to ‘poor unsuspecting’ straight women anyway #Freddie Mercury didn’t shake his ass at Live Aid for Steve Harrington to be written as a blushing virgin when it comes to dudes #if I have to read one more fic where Robin needs to give Steve the you can like both talk I’ll eat my goddamn tablet #Steve had his bisexual awakening when Jonathan kicked his ass in that alleyway at the LATEST #the real bi panic is whether to hide half of yourself forever and be unhappy but live a safe comfortable life #or be true to yourself and pursue that happiness at the cost of becoming a pariah #rant over #stanger things #bisexual steve harrington #steddie #harringrove #tagging the ships because you know you’ve seen it in those fics #stonathan

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ariel-s-awesome · 1 year

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Love the idea of Wander secretly not liking Peepers and that's why Wander tends to ignore him.

He can deal with Hater. He can deal with any aimless soul.

Yet Wander sees his worst in Peepers and it scares him. Not in a being scared of Peepers way (...mostly), but in an existential dread way.

Looking at Peepers feels so raw. So Wander just hopes that if Hater becomes a good guy, Peepers will happily follow.

And there will be no need to pay attention to Peepers in the meantime.

#wander over yonder #wander #woy #woy wander #commander peepers #woy peepers #peepers #need to write up their parallels later but #oh to see a dark reflection of yourself #with many of your best qualities fueling evil and your worst magnified #actual original content #I think this is one of the root reasons it takes longer for Peepers to come around #and that Wander's efforts drive Peepers deeper #because he doesn't realize that he's become competition #he just doesn't think about Peepers #also... his usual methods don't work on someone who has a LOT of hope #just evil goals #how do you comfort someone who thinks he has the galaxy in the palm of his hand?

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fueledpurelybyspite · 13 days

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Started out as fueledbyspite and now find myself fueled by the love, joy and comfort this comunity gives me

#wednesday #wednesday 2022 #xavier thorpe #wednesday x xavier #addams family #ajax petropolus #enid sinclair #wavier #wenthorpe #wenvier #comfort show #to be loved is to be changed #you either die fueledpurelybyspite or live long enough to see yourself become fueledpurelybylove lol

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lesbianralzarek · 3 months

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ugh. my father insists on telling the family group chat whenever i take a lil half-step towards being a functional adult. "oh, ella is learning how to drive in the snow! also, did you know that shes taking a class to become a pharmacy technician?" dad im 25. your next youngest daughter is starting a master's program. shut the fuck up, not everyone needs to know i couldnt drive in the snow until now

#PLEASE just forget i exist #ill let you know if i ever become a homeowner and therefore 1/4th as successful as everyone else #not infrequently i look at my peers and remember that autism is actually. like. a significant disability #and that the vast majority of people diagnosed with autism are unemployed #and it. uh. doesnt make me feel better about myself #it used to be a 'hey. compared to your real peers you arent lagging behind at all!'#but now its 'you are statistically unlikely to ever pull yourself out of this rut and into a position where you feel #comfortable asking for the love you want and nearly all of your friends have had'#its at least partially the meds but i feel aggressively nauseous #immediately after posting this i entered the crying and throwing up and acting visibly hysterical in front of others #*phase. the phase of screaming crying throwing up. not screaming yet but ive got a drive coming up and i plan on #screaming in the car

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libbyisprettywhenshecries · 2 months

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have a lovely day, and remember to stay hydrated, eat, and take care of yourself!

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butterfirefly · 1 year

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I'm duct taping Lloyd Frontera onto the ceiling and keeping him there till he learns to take care of himself as excellently as he takes care of other people's problems.

#[smacks him with a pillow] TAKE [smothers him with a blanket] CARE [shoves a cookie in his mouth] OF [throws a plushie at him] YOURSELF TOO #hhhhhhhnnnnnnnggggggggg I want to drown you in love and affection and comfort and sunlight and rainbows and all the nice things you PUNK #'i am a selfish person I'm doing this for me' SIT DOWN YOU LIAR #<-as you can see I have a lot of feelings about him #might not be able to use tumblr for a while and if I die before I come back and this post becomes my last one I regret nothing #greatest estate developer #tged #lloyd frontera

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nea-art · 2 months

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The wonders of creation your own characters

#my art #original character #its just funny how this has become a way how i process a lot of things in my own life #i guess its about not feeling alone with your own struggles #and about learning to be kinder to yourself through a 3rd person perspective #there is comfort in fiction because fiction is reated through the same feelings that we experience in reality #or something like that

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rotatedaxis · 11 months

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healing is realising that the answer to "if I became healthy, would I stop being me?" is no

#bears in trees #this is personal experience - in my brief growing from grief era before my tiny depressive episode era i (now retrospectively)#realise that i - indeed - had a sense of being myself while i was getting better and not thinking about it #guess what it's slightly more confidence and becoming more comfortable with yourself and others #that's my post for this month ig see you maybe when it's been a year since i first talked to the loveliest person on this planet

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impossible-rat-babies · 5 months

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on god we need to bring back public shaming. I want to beat people with tomatos in the street for the shit they say online. I want to throw rocks at people. I want people to understand their actions have consequences

#on god people have become far too comfortable bullying others online under the guise of a joke #making fun of others for the sake of making yourself laugh is sick and disgusting behavior #and I hope to god that no one fucking loves you #it’s not funny and it should not be tolerated #I fucking hate that shit it gets me LIVID #owen talks

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arcaneyouth · 7 months

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having a chronic illness/disability and also having medical trauma is a bitch for obvious reasons but also like. being part of the disabled community n stuff. like yeah i want to show my love and support for disabled people and i dont want to be uncomfortable when they talk about their experiences. if they talk about specific experiences i will stop breathing while the panic hits me like many bricks

#negative #sorta kinda #a lot of disability posts are like 'if you are uncomfortable with (disability stuff) you need to reexamine yourself and #learn to live with it' and these posts are true and i do have biases i gotta be aware of #but theres also stuff i just cant become comfortable with. ive tried. ive been trying for a decade #it is simultaneously true that i should be allowed to avoid my triggers and that other disabled people shouldnt have to be aware that #im triggered by them existing #i dont feel bad about that i just feel bad that i am apart of this community too but theres spaces i just cant be in #its the same kind of thing with like. so you'll never find me putting my ocs in a medical setting #i could potentially do it since i know exactly what triggers me and what doesnt but its easier to just avoid it in my stories #but the thing about my chronic illness is its. an invisible illness #and a lot of the things i could bring up for my readers to understand they have My Illness are. things that trigger me #and again. i have tried so hard to be more comfortable with these triggers #its not happening. it is likely i will panic about this stuff the rest of my life #so now theres a disconnect between me and my ocs that are like me because i cant make them like me without freaking out #its just. man what the hell.#my disability that gave me medical trauma is preventing me from participating in disabled spaces i want to be part of #what the fuck dude

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patchwork-crow-writes · 2 months

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58 - The Comforter's Lament

Long have I been the kind word in dark times; the hands that held you steady as you cried and wiped away your tears with a soft smile. To tend to your fractured spirit, to sit with you in the long hours after nightfall and tenderly help to put you back together again, is my highest calling. Bringing joy back to your weary heart makes me joyful, too, in ways that you may never truly know.

And now, the time is coming when you won't... won't need me anymore. And that's... good. Isn't it? If you're not sad anymore, then that must mean that you're happy... right? That means I've done my job, and done it well. A-and am I not supposed to want this? Isn't this what all darkners strive for, after all...?

...I have had troubling thoughts of late, my light. Not that you shan't require me to soothe you any longer... not entirely, at any rate. B-but tell me, dearest one - should your sadness really make my heart soar so? Can I never know true fulfillment unless it should come at the cost of your emotional well-being?

Oh, it makes my skin crawl to think of it! That I should stoop so low as to draw nourishment from your misery, as if I might catch your bittersweet tears and drink them with relish! And yet... is it not a comforter's job to soak in the sorrows of their charge? And is this not the purpose for which I was created? Without those things, my sweet... what left is there that ties me so closely to you? What left is there to make our bond as special, as heartfelt as it once was...?

...I would not let my vested interest stand in the way of your happiness. Never... never. You are too dear to me for that.

So then let me fall into obscurity once again - for what good is a comforter with no-one left to comfort? Go, fly forth, my beloved light! Leave me here with thoughts of sadder times, when we could sit together and commiserate our co-dependence... and perhaps there I can find some crumb of comfort to call my own once again.

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The Dark Menagerie No. 58

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#writing #fiction #fanfiction #Deltarune #Ralsei #Kris Dreemurr #Drabble #hurt/comfort #...or should that be comfort/hurt?#sadness #caring #The problem with devoting yourself to helping someone out of sadness #is what do you do when they're not sad anymore?#This shouldn't really be an issue for most people honestly #but given the rather screwed-up nature of darkners and their lightner “masters” for want of a better term #This question suddenly becomes rather poignant #There's this potential for a weird feedback loop of sorts #where Kris's sadness would feed into Ralsei's purpose #So then he has a vested interest in keeping them in that state so that he can continue to fulfill that purpose #...I don't actually know if canon Ralsei would actually have the foresight to step away from such an arrangement #But hey the concept is pretty sad/creepy enough as it is right?#The Dark Menagerie

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consistency-and-faith · 4 months

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an unripe grape gets sweet as honey, at a slow pace

hello, love

i’m on my healing journey.

i am going to be the person that i truly want to be, with all my best qualities and all the qualities i want to inculcate in myself, and slowly but steadily eradicating qualities i would rather not have!

this blog is a safe, warm, healing space. your favorite hoodie, a long hug, a chocolate chip cookie, a coffee in bed while reading while it rains outside.

most importantly.

this blog is consistency. it is reassess, reset, restart. it’s a break when you need, and getting up when you are ready to try, try again.

feel free to interact with this blog!

you can vent, seek comfort or advice, offer comfort or advice, tell me how you’re feeling, discuss your plans for working on yourself, talk about personal growth, love & life, anything like that.

good luck, tesoro.

you got this, i know it.

—sana

#intro post #self love #personal growth #safe space #comfort place #consistency #best version of yourself #becoming that girl #becoming the best version of yourself #pinterest #advice #comfort #vent

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