#can i have some advice

[finnslay]

Olay but I have a high reason highschool is ass

Like not just the lots of people in noise

The selective mutism

If someone else asks me my name I might start crying

And it's not like i can explain it. I can't talk. Apparently my teachers weren't told that.

I didn't have it when I was little. I could talk some. I mean, I could, when my brain got anxious and felt like I couldn't talk, 9/10 times I could make myself have short responses. So nobody noticed. The times I couldn't talk they just thought I was just upset. Or they said I wad just the quiet kid

Until middleschool. I couldn't talk when I was overwhelmed

Higschool I can't talk at all. And I think the gym teacher thinks I'm deaf. He saw me signing and wrote out his apology to me.

I also am like 99% sure I have autism. I have a shit ton of symptoms. Plus my sister is diagnosed with it. And I've done the research.

I'm just good at mimicking people so it looked like I was just weird. Because I had already messed up the family enough, so I just masked.

But fuck why did nobody explain this???

Nobody thought to tell the teachers???

What do I do???

#what the fuck #fuck high school #high functioning autism #self diagnosed autism #self diagnosis #selective mutism #semi verbal #ranting #autistic spectrum #autism #actually neurodivergent #autism things #actually autism #autism awareness #autism community #autism spectrum #actually neurodiverse #can i have some advice #please help me

[vero-niche]

can i just say how much i adore how Nao-chan's gender is treated so casually in skip to loafer

like, as a white cis woman who is also quite tall and havent read the manga i didnt even realize she was trans until this scene in ep2:

and i didnt even have the time to get nervous how they would handle this as they already moved on, ignoring the comments (just like queer people learn to do so) except for Mitsumi's comforting touch (implying she also heard the comments):

and there were no sad words or anything about this either, it was just handled so.... normally. which should not be something worth highlighting, but, well, you know. also on that note, special shoutout to P.A. Works for casting a woman as her voice actor as well.

she's shown being the supportive and lively aunt and like seconds later in this scene she's back to being her usual self again:

in conclusion

#im an anime only so i pray this post wont age like milk but i honestly dont think it will #maybe they will discuss something about it when/if mitsumi will be asking for an advice at some point but #judging by Theatre Kid in high heels not being ridiculed i think they will stay respectful and chill #i wish i could say more and in a better way but alas. i hope this will suffice #i just havent seen any posts about it in the tags and i was eager to rb something on it #anyway give this anime a try if you can <33 #skip to loafer #skip and loafer #trans #EDIT: i have been informed in the notes that this post will NOT age like milk. godbless <3

[reasonsforhope]

Btw, if you really just Need A Job (tm)

I'd really recommend looking into care work

Care work here is specifically being a home care aid, a care aid or assistant at any kind of residential home.

This for usually for elderly or disabled adults - and those are the ones that tend to be most entry level, from what I've seen, but also for mental health, addiction recovery etc. (With the obvious caveat that some of these jobs will be more emotionally intense than others)

I'm so serious about this guys. I was applying to jobs in care work for just three weeks, starting a couple days before Christmas, and in that time I got three interviews, two jobs offers, and five additional interview requests

Care work needs people CONSTANTLY

because it's a huge sector but very hard for them to keep staff long-term. Partly because it can be high burn-out, and there's definitely toxic places out there you should watch out for. And partly because a lot of people think care work is beneath them

AND they ACTUALLY MEAN IT when they say they're entry level. Because it's so hard for them to get staff that a lot of them will advertise super aggressively that they will train you themselves. A lot of them will straight up pay for your CPR and First Aid certifications, once they hire you, too (and you can get a leg up on applications by getting a CPR/First Aid certification for like. $30 to $80, at least in the US). They also accept experience taking care of elderly/disabled/etc. family members as real experience

Like, obviously don't do it if you hate taking care of people, but if you're open to it, it's probably by far your best shot of getting hired rn, statistically

(eta: Genuinely disclaimer that it can be super taxing emotionally and large portions of the industry are indeed fucked, and def don't take a job in this field if you're gonna be an asshole to the people you're caring for, but sometimes you just need whatever job you can get.)

Seriously, though, the first time I applied for a care work job (in October 2023, yes short timeline, like I said there's some toxic workplaces etc. out there), I applied to like ten or fifteen jobs over the course of a week or so. Within three weeks, I was working.

(And they did provide all of the training, fwiw)

If you need a job and no one is hiring, seriously consider looking into it

#not news #advice #adulting #jobs #job search #layoffs #me #care workers #care work #insert legal disclaimer about I can promise no results here lol but I wanted to share the tip #admittedly your chances are a lot higher if you're comfortable doing stuff like changing an adult's diaper #a thing which very many people get really unnecessarily snobby about #you don't have to be comfortable doing so yourself if you just aren't #that's fair enough considering some of the things involved #but don't be an ableist jerk about it to people who wear one #but yeah there are jobs where nothing like that is necessary so don't rule it out if you're not comfortable #job loss #jobsearch #unemployed #career advice #jobseekers #employment #fuck capitalism #cost of living crisis

[yardsards]

"just put it in the same place every time and you won't lose it" 🤝 "just clean everything up immediately after you use it and you'll never have mess pile up": advice that is functionally useless to me as a person with adhd

#eliot posts #adhd #actually adhd #maybe this advice works for some people but it absolutely does not help me one bit #it is advice that is impossible for me to follow on its own #like i don't notice half the time where i put shit down it's just in my hand one minute and the next minute it's not #and by the time i accomplish a task i often don't have energy left to clean. or i just plain get distracted before i can finish cleaning

[magnusbae]

"...You had to be able to show too much of yourself. You had to be just a little bit more honest than you were comfortable with. And if people judged you, if they felt they knew who you were, that was just something that you were going to have to live with. And what was strange is, once I started doing that, and I was expecting to be judged, or shunned, or people’s opinions or to have to deal with things, what I discovered was, actually, their opinions were, we really like this. We love this story. That’s a good story. It felt huge. It felt personal. And I realized that’s because I was being honest about me.“ —Neil Gaiman

#It was such a lovely speech. I really enjoyed hearing it and I wished to have it here as well. You can youtube it. His name and Masterclass. #Neil Gaiman #The Sandman #How many of you squinted and saw Dream. #Neil Gaiman Masterclass #Dream of the Endless #You know what I WILL tag it because and I will explain #You can really see the parts of himself that Neil put into Dream #This interview more than any truly shows you some of that #Dream is essentially a creator of stories too— One who is not good at being honest with himself— One who too has a facility of voices. #Frankly— How old were you when you saw Neil's little 'self insert' OC and went 'Ah yes. Here he is.' #Also the fact that Neil always wears black and has a messy hair. #Love it. #Quote Edit #Writing Advice #Writing Fiction #buns.edits #buns.all

[astrolavas]

random Hunter headcanon GO!

AHH OKAY one of my random hcs is that hunter's smile is kinda asymmetrical/lopsided/wider on the left side cuz of his scars, especially after thanks to them. i imagine they'd significantly pull on his skin and could even affect nerves and definitely some range of motion, so-

sorta like this:

#i think it'd be very charming and neat :) but also sad cuz of the Reason for it OOF........ but charming. little dude #the owl house #hunter toh #in general i also feel like his scars are gonna significantly affect him cuz like. they cover a LARGE area. realistically they would #he has lots of experience with scars and injuries and knows how to deal with it all #cuz he rather didn't have access to a healer but needed medical attention a LOT so he defo had to learn how to patch himself up on his own #but also... i can imagine that with all of his responsibilities at the coven properly taking care of scars wasn't exactly his no.1 priority #so i like to think that if he gets a palisman woodcarving mentorship from the clawthornes dell will give him some advice #cuz he has a lot of experience with that himself as well and truly understands what hunter might be going through re: scar-related issues #anyways........ gah #hunter #toh hunter #hunter noceda #my toh talk #my sketches #my art #? kinda #nicole answers #Anonymous

[galoogamelady]

Hi!! I love your work!

Do you have any tips on how to stylize hands?

Thank you <3 I hope you’re feeling better!

I don't have a moodboard of hands I really like but I think it's a good idea to study what details you enjoy on your favorite styles. For example: I really like how in MHA they often don't draw the nailbeds, just the part of the nail where it starts separating from skin. I think it's really tasteful and simple, yet realistic, so sometimes I do this too:

My other example would be to pay attention to details and lack of details. Sometimes this can add to the funny factor too, like when a simplistic cartoony creature has an extremely realistic looking hand. But anyway here's my quick brainfart on the matter:

If you're gonna draw long nails, you better watch some nail videos to learn the ideal shape and weight etc. of them. It's so easy to make them look like dog claws or nasty old crone hands! Sorry, this turned into my personal nail drawing preference lol

I don't have any very smart advice on drawing stylized hands beyond "use real life / 3D reference still" and "practice until it looks ok" :') Pay attention to which way the individual shapes bend. If you don't study real hands and only copy other artists' hands, you might learn a few wrong things (but I guess this applies to most real life studies).

Oh and I'm feeling better now, thank you! ^^

#I have some bad habits like I really need to pay attention when I draw knuckles at some angles #because they get way more rounded than you'd think #I have a long way to go until I can draw hands in a way that I'm 100% happy #personal #art advice #hands

[ink-the-artist]

random question, do you think it's possible for someone who has lost their creativity to regain it? ..asking for a friend..

im not sure what your situation is, but i believe everyone has creative potential just from being a human being and you cant just permanently lose your creativity. i struggle with losing creativity at times, usually its when I go into a depressive period. I usually just keep making art through it, ill look through old ideas I wrote down or work on commissions just stuff that doesnt require a ton of creativity but keeps me working on art. even if I dont feel good doing it just doing the work of making art helps me to eventually want to make art again

#i dont rly have any advice for this sorry #but this kind of sounds like burnout #idk if what I do will work for you or not all i can really do is share how i deal w it #i go in and out of depressive episodes kind of like bipolar but without manic episodes #i just feel like total shit for some weeks or months and then feel normal again and its independent of enviornmental stuff or triggers #i cant rly do anything about it except try to lessen the depression w meds and such

[bruciemilf]

I am 🤏 close to writing a fic about Duke being able to see Martha and Thomas. Like, I've got a mental map planned in my mind, and I'm trying desperately not to spend the next six hours writing it.

Plsss tag me if you do I’m dying after Thomas and Martha content

#Thomas giving the funniest yet violent advice to things #like yes be kind. do no harm. but take no shit #duke: yeah I said that. whatcha gonna do? cause I can guarantee you can’t beat me up #do I really have to say it like that??? #Thomas: eh put some more Tony soprano into it #dc #asks #duke thomas #thomas wayne #it’s his hours sorry :/

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

idk why, but your art is the image my browser uses for tumblr, which means I get to look at it all the time~

Tumblr said “you need a silly little guy to wave at you” and boy howdy is that silly guy waving.

#ask #Preview image selection is a mysterious force I do not understand - but I am honoured to have my silly doodle showcased #i am also so deeply flattered - even if its random chance I am still going AAAA #still not over the fact that people not only percieve my art but enjoy it!! #I hope he is bringing you as much warmth and joy as you need (plus some!!) #its a cold and cruel world out there. we all need a silly guy to get by #I have a hunch puffy sleeve wwx is losing terribly so I hope we can still remember him fondly from this #he’s telling you how to be a good bird: 1) get puffy and 2) beep a lot #3) eat seeds 4) avoid taxes #this is also the advice the other wwx offer you. Who said what is another mystery!

[jessepinwheel]

my very serious writing advice for people who are trying to write more morally complex characters is to stop caring about their morality and focus instead on their individual motivations

it’s hard to articulate exactly what I mean, but the essence of it is basically: when a character does a murder, not only do I not care about whether they’re justified in doing so, it’s straight-up irrelevant. a character’s moral standing from some nebulous universal standard has no bearing on the plot or their interactions with other characters and has no use in the story for me as a writer. what does matter is why the character thought they were justified and then if it comes up to other characters, what they think about it.

you can obviously think about your characters’ morality but it’s not your job as a writer to interpret your stories for your readers and tell them how to judge your characters. your readers can see the evidence for themselves and draw their own conclusions. your job is just to understand why a character is motivated to act in a certain way and have it make sense

focusing on character motivations is a much more versatile framework than trying to give them specific personality traits or moral alignments, and frankly more useful to understand why a character would do a certain thing instead of just what they do. that way when something fucked up happens and your character starts acting differently, there’s an actual logical reason for it that isn’t you forcing characters to do things because it’s what’s required to make the plot go

when you write your characters with the understanding that people are not static and they act differently under different circumstances, complexity in character and morality follows naturally.

#honestly I don't think of my stories as being morally complex #like the thought of morality doesn't enter my mind at all #I straight do not care #advice like 'make sure you give your characters some flaws' have always felt very unhelpful to me #traits don't have to be good or bad #they're just traits #whether something is a flaw is heavily context dependent #and trying to build characters from a sum of 'good' and 'bad' just flattens them #this ties back into my other thing about how characterization is a scam #because you can write just about any character by writing a reasonable human person #and just having a good handle on what they want and what they're willing to do to achieve it #that's it #that's all you need #I have a lot of thoughts about this but #at the end of the day #does it really matter if a character is 'right'? #is it not enough to put a character in some situations?

[sugaredoleander]

i say this with love. house fanfic writers, if you ever want me to beta something for medical accuracy, i'll fucking do it no questions asked

#hate crimes md #house md #hilson #listen. every medstudent is some version of an idiot and i am only a second year so for the love of god do not ask me #for Actual medical advice that i am not qualifed to give. i'm just qualified enough to check Fanfic. and i'll do it too just ask #this isn't directed at everyone. some of you have managed to put together well-researched compelling cases and i am kissing you #on the mouth for it mwah. even as i don't actually give a toss about most internal medicine #(look. i am just in a very monogamous relationship with trauma surgery) #anyway don't rely on the show either - sure it's one of the more accurate medical dramas but these morons still shock asystole #you can ask me how medschool works too!! the show is house md not house getting his md yet i've lost count of the ridiculous ways #people have gotten medschool wrong just. mentioned in passing. so concise and yet so wrong #serious offer. #these inaccuracies bug me more than they should

[good-advice-ganondorf]

(not accounting for glitches or leaving a dungeon midway through)

*Fire temple can be completed without the bow if you don't get the map

#not sure exactly when in the sequence you can beat spirit temple so i may have left out some early spirit options #loz #the legend of zelda #tloz #ocarina of time #not good advice

[basuralindo]

So I was asked to expand on the whole Jamil having a trauma response to Leona comment on my last post, aaand here's that.

(This pertains to chapter 6 btw, so spoiler warning)

(also it's very much sleep deprived rambling so sorry if it's, well, rambly)

First off, I'm operating under the assumption that he has cPTSD. Jamil has clearly been programmed since birth to always obey the Asims and act in their best interests, even at the expense of his own life. This is a boy who has been forced to eat poison to protect them and their assets, who's family was forced to let that happen, and who has been so desperate his entire life to escape that situation that he was willing to resort to murder and doom not just himself but his whole family which he is implied to care about. Which means if simply quitting was an option, he would have done so. So, you kinda have to infer that he and his family don't have a choice in this role, and there are severe enough consequences for disobedience that fucking up or refusing is a worse option than risking a slow painful death every time Kalim wants to eat something. And this is all stuff that's been depicted blatantly in canon, not even touching on the assumptions that could be made from there.

So that's the position Jamil is in. That is a traumatic situation. This is a guy who has been groomed for servitude and obedience since he was old enough to talk. These kinds of circumstances absolutely can lead someone to be triggered into subservience or other trained behaviors. That's just, a thing with trauma.

Now, with the Asims being one of if not THE most powerful merchant families in their country, one of the expectations of Jamil as their servant and especially as the attendant to their heir is to ensure good relationships with other rich and powerful families, especially royalty. This was shown in the fireworks event, where he states that as a prince, if Malleus came to any harm under his watch while a guest of the Asims, it could start an international conflict. These are incredibly high stakes, a misstep on Jamil's part could ruin the Asim family and potentially even endanger his country, and it's pretty strongly implied that he and his family would take the blame and suffer the consequences. Now, much like how wearing a company logo while at work makes your actions representative of your employer, Jamil serving the Asims 24/7 (and especially as the chaperone of their heir) means that he is representing their family At All Times. This is why he is forced to defer to Kalim in all aspects of life even outside of their country, part of his job is to make his employers look good, and there are consequences for not doing so. This means that anyone of high enough status to be significant to the Asims is someone who Jamil is required to be subordinate to.

Then, enter Leona. As a wealthy prince, he would be someone who Jamil is expected maintain good relations with at any cost to himself. With his position Leona could literally destroy Jamil's (and probably his family's) entire life with a single complaint to the Asims about his conduct. Like, he could do that with no actual cause just for fun, because the Asims are 100% going to take the side of a prince over an expendable servant. This means that one misstep or any backtalk from Jamil puts him at massive risk, it is entirely up to Leona whether or not he suffers for any of these actions, and while the audience knows Leona's personal morals would prevent him from actually doing that, Jamil does not.

THEREFORE (sorry this ended up so long), once Jamil was in a life threatening situation with Leona, it seems likely that all this programming and fear would manifest in desperately trying to protect him and follow orders the way he's always done for Kalim. To me, the way he snapped into bodyguard mode, and immediately complied with every one of Leona's bitchy commands (like giving him a hair ornament to throw away without question, and barely saying anything about it after), even while being humiliated and knowing he was less trained in magic, just comes off more like a trigger response than anything. Especially because I can't imagine that situation not being triggering, and I can't imagine him knowing any other way to respond.

#jamil viper #leona kingscholar #jamil ptsd analysis #twst #this is also why I got so pissed about leona's behavior in that chapter #like I do genuinely like his character. he's one of my favorites and I get where he was coming from #but boy was being ignorant as all fuck #like jamil is so heavily implied to be an indentured servant #and leona could probably buy his whole family #there's no version of 'i know what it's like to feel overlooked. suck it up and work with what you've got' advice #that could benefit Jamil from this guy #because changing your attitude and putting in the work doesn't free you from a situation like that #and I can only assume that coming from a free country in the modern world #Leona just hasn't considered that Jamil would BE in a situation like that. it's not exactly normal #and this is the guy so out of touch he thought Ruggie's home was a doghouse. so I mean. giving him the benefit of the doubt on this #but goddamn was that out of touch. and I just hate how they wrote the conclusion between them #not the intended subject when i wrote this. but tagging it as #leojami #for the small steps crowd in case they get curious about what else i have to say on them?? #i feel like some of the thoughts from this post are gonna be playing into the story

[anotherdescentintomadness]

YiZhan Parallels: This WYB // This XZ

Sharing parallels, coincidences, and vibes from my bsky account, because we need more love in this fandom and in the world in general.

#yizhan #wangxiao #wang yibo #xiao zhan #With all the anti shenanigans lately #I’m feeling in a mood to celebrate YiZhan. #Maybe in other places on social people are exposed to toxic anti sludge #but I’ve curated my tl so that unless I go looking for specific news on terrible anti behavior ALL I SEE IS LOVE #It’s one thing I really appreciate about the turtle fandom: in the spaces I occupy at least.. it’s all about love #Abundant thinking.. celebrating love.. appreciating beauty.. honoring and holding space for two people who love each other #So I decided to share these *coincidences* and parallels that I post on my bksy #Mostly so I can have them all in one place. But I thought some of you might like them too #Wang YiBo talks about love all the time #How powerful it is. How it can inspire us to greatness. How we will always prevail if we have love in our hearts. #If Wang YiBo can act in love after all he’s been through we can too right? #Let’s follow the advice of our Heart-Shaped Boy #Love over all

[cerealboxlore]

Smoooooth Operatorrrrr

Listen up, Y'all, listen to mama

So. Y'all know about Captain Marvel and his patrons/gods that gifted him his powers through the living lighting via the Wizard Shazam, right? Of course you do, why else would you be reading a post about DC Captain Marvel by this weirdo typing it out right now at 1 AM? Anyways, his powers can do quite a lot, and when used in the right way can extend themselves to unique situations for a better outcome.

However. Billy Batson himself, the vessel for Captain Marvel, is like 10 years old. A small boy. So with that in mind, there's probably a lot of ways he can use the powers of the gods for other purposes without abusing them. As an education major, let me tell you, kids will find a way no matter what. Think they won't do something? They will. They will push the limits to human possibilities and audacity whenever they feel like it.

So imagine this lovely situation:

Billy Batson, young radio show host to Whiz Radio and known pretty well locally with some fame to his name, does a special Valentine's Day segment where he let's callers propose on the air to their partners and it's all so sweet. It's different from his usual program and schedule of talking about deep and complex conversations from the perspective of a child, but it's cute.

That is, until, a couple ends up getting into a fight on the air for everyone to hear, and Billy has to be the one to calm things down, unable to stop the broadcast for whatever reason.

Summoning up just a tiny portion of the Wisdom of Solomon, Billy does his best to get through the awkward situation. During the whole ordeal, Billy ends up getting through to the couple and talks to them about what's going on. He tries to mediate and pushes for a healthier method of communication between them instead of yelling. Despite being a child, Billy's in depth conversation with them about relationships and their dynamics have them stunned, and very apologetic in the end. The couple starts to understand each other better and their boundaries, while completely forgetting that the entire ordeal was aired live.

Word spreads like wildfire and soon Billy has a line of callers calling in for his legendary relationship advice, saying that he was so incredibly wise beyond his years. Little did they know that Billy was now snacking himself on the head for using the Wisdom of Solomon for dating advice!....oh well, he's just glad he didn't go to Zeus for help.

#Billy Batson #dc captain marvel #shazam #silly little rambles #cute headcanons #Billy as a radio show host needs to be revived #Also #Let Billy use magic! #He can have some as a treat #I've got another idea about Billy as Captain Marvel giving out dating advice in the watchtower #Hal: Wait I thought you've never been in a relationship before?? #Captain Marvel: Oh come on #record scratch #Everyone: Wait what?! #Throwback to the time Captain Marvel almost got married in the old Fawcett comics! That was a thing apparently #If you see spelling errors #Deal with it it's 2Aam now