#looking glass self

[this-barbie-is-a-blogger]

Memory Log #1:

Barbie’s Journey to learning SELF

"Who Are You?"

Before stepping into the real world and becoming one with humans, this Barbie's goal was to learn the concept called "self". 

According to William James (Woźniak, 2018), self can be separated into two forms: the self as "I" and the self as "Me". The self as "I" acknowledges the existence of the person who is also the creator of action and experience. The self as "Me" on the other side is just experiences, feels the emotions and receives the action. The self is known through interacting with others and can be too many. Thus, self is a combination of existing and creating action ("I" - self) and receiving the experiences and emotions generated from that action ("Me" - self) (McVittie & McKinlay, 2017). This definition feels lacking for me though as it doesn't explain much on the attributes that make one's self unique.

Another theory on self that I have encountered may explain how one identifies their unique traits. This is called the "Looking Glass Self" coined by Charles Cooley in 1902 which looks at the manifestation of the self by using other people as glass/mirror. In this theory, knowing one's self requires other people's judgment. The person is first seen by the people and then people will judge that person based on what they see. Then, the person will evaluate their judgment if they agree on it or not. I partly agree with this theory because I have experienced seeking other people's opinions when I was trying to get to know me. I asked them questions like "What kind of friend am I?" More like a slam book-type thing in high school. They described me as someone who is optimistic, has a cheerful personality and has a good sense of humor which I find as positive traits. Thus, I tried maintaining it to the point that I've been seeking such validation to people later in my life. As for the negative traits like indecisiveness and overreacting, I tried my best on disassociating from it.Other people's judgment isn't accurate, though, as by the end of the day, you decide whether you agree with it or not.For example, I disagree with someone who described me as an organized person when she just saw me writing down notes. I know for the fact that it is just one aspect of me and does not reflect that I'm organized in other things in life.

There are three more theories about self that I'm so excited to talk about as it felt so close and familiar to me as this Barbie is a certified theater kid! This can be related to one of William Shakespeare's monologues from the play, As You Like It spoken by Jacques which goes:

All the world’s a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts,

His acts being seven ages.

This can be connected to Burke and Goffman's theory on self which sees it as an actor that plays so many roles. In Burke's Dramaturgy, the world is seen as a theater while Goffman interprets this as a metaphor on how we act in society. The self as an actor takes on so many roles and wears different "masks" or persona to portray such roles. They also have different stages: front stage is when they are actively doing the role with others; backstage is when they are not doing the role and then lastly off stage is when they are done doing the role. One example I can think of is the role of an eldest daughter. At home, which is her front stage, she wears the persona of a responsible adult and a role model to her siblings. When she went to college, she is now on a different stage, probably her back stage and thus may take on a different role, now as a student.

Moving on to the last theory which is the "Social Identity Theory"  that has evolved into "Self-Categorization Theory". Individuals acquire social identities at various times as they are motivated by one's desire to maximize their self-esteem. In this theory, self becomes a default position that the individual goes back into after performing a social identity. This theory also treats self as a minor role taken while the individual is waiting for the next main role to become available. This felt like self is a shelter you retreat to once you've accomplished certain tasks in the society.

This Barbie learnt so much about the human self that she craves to know more. Tune in as she explores more on the human self on the next topic!

Ciao!

These feels like the HUMAN SELF in default position:

Dive deeper about SELF:

McVittie, C. & McKinlay, A. (2017). “The Self in Part V Social Identities/Relations/Conflicts” in Gough, Brendan (ed.). The Palgrave Handbook of Critical Social Psychology. Pp. 389-408.

Woźniak, M. (2018) “I” and “Me”: The Self in the Context of Consciousness. Front. Psychol. 9:1656. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01656

#Spotify #Module_1 #self theories #I & Me Self #Looking Glass Self #dramaturgy #social identity theory

[bamsara]

being an adult means we can buy or make as much self-indulgent shit (as we can afford) and unironically have trinkets of our fave things cause our teen years was bullied for liking things and hiding/denying we were ever neurodivergent to the point of suicide. sucks for anyone that thinks its weird cringe but I'm going to try and allow myself to love myself in little ways now

#wish i could tell younger me that i wasnt fucked up i was just autistic #even if youre not nd i still think having things you enjoy around you is important especially for your space #so i make a notable effort to get fandom stuff for my younger siblings now #like my lil sister thinks getting demon slayer stuff is cringe cause anime and what not (havent read it sorry) #but her face still lights up when i get her a pin for her #or a blind bag with a character keychain #and very slowly the self hatred and whatever it feels like that youre not allowed to like anything and that anything you like is bad #starts to diminish #my qpp is obsessed with birds and chickens and has so many trinkets around the house for it #or my friend who loves how pretty stained glass looks that his walls are covered in thrifted stain glass pieces #i know an elderly couple who are obsessed with star trek and they have a room in the house purely for shelves stacked with collectables #my friend's dad is so obsessed with spiderman that he has 3 walls full of figurines and posters and collectables that prob amoutn to tons #like i dont get it but i get it #maybe its because im sick rn but im in my head tonight about human loving things and stories and cocepts to the point of comfort #sara shush #ramble

[mazeyphaedra]

actual real life footage of the surprised condition

#wait im obsessed with this actually. emily looking to murph to share in her shock and outrage. zac frozen in a self-soothe #siobhan rapt lou confused ally scared murph worried. i just know riz is already calculating how to save the bad kids from her #it's really the whole set. incredible. #sidenote ik this is posed months after the fact but. murph pls? wear your glasses? big barry 6 is gone this isnt you this isnt your heart #fhjy #fantasy high junior year #fhjy spoilers #fantasy high junior year spoilers #d20 #dimension 20 #d20 spoilers #dimension 20 spoilers #emily axford #zac oyama #siobhan thompson #lou wilson #ally beardsley #brian murphy #uh oh!

[astrxus]

every time my friends say something reminds me of them it makes me feel so happy. like yes i am the color brown and dresses with sleeves and 6 am and buttered croissants and the smell of baby powder and

#lys speaks #i build myself off of what you say i am #looking glass self

[dog-teeth]

why i dont draw myself with glasses

#worse when i draw my human self cuz my ass looks like harry potter sorry for having black hair and round glasses #pen and ink #autobio comics #i guess

[morrigan-sims]

And I forget sometimes I'm just flesh and bone.

As he stands in the ruined bathroom, all Rook can think is, At least now I can breathe.

#ts4 #ts4 edit #the sims 4 #sims 4 edit #my edits #ts4 render #my renders #blender render #oc: Rook #dnd sims #ts4 dnd #please I beg of you open this in a new tab and look it it. it's 2080px across and I spent way too long on tiny details. #(like the blood on the shards of glass on the sink. and the mirror alone took well over an hour...) #augh I love my boy so much #he's really going through it right now tho #poor bby #but when he's going through it I'm having fun playing him so... #yeah #blood tw #tw blood #so this is scheduled to go up right as we're starting our session picking up from exactly this point. #I thought that would be thematically fitting #please listen to this song it's so good and it's very Rook. #I almost put the lyrics right after this line (''I saw my reflection on the street that night / he said I got something to change your life #/ he said you don't look wrong but you don't look right'') #bc yk mirror shit. But I ended up going with this line instead because it's VERY VERY fitting for the conversations going on w/ Rook. #specifically about his reckless endangerment of himself to the point where some of his party members consider it to be self-harm. #(and obviously punching a mirror intentionally is self-harm.) #but like Rook doesn't see it that way and he's so confused as to why the party is so upset with him. (esp. his mentor and the gunslinger.) #god I could talk about this ridiculous man for hours so I'll stop here.

[ghost-bxrd]

For @pics-and-fanfics who requested Fae!Dick 💚

I got way carried away with this one lol.

Anyway, looking at other creatures too long isn’t recommended. Catching even a glimpse can be… disconcerting.

#what you would see if you caught a glimpse of him through a looking glass #one nanosecond of sight #and this is what you see #watching longer makes it stranger by the second #that’s only one row of teeth honey #and they’re currently outside because he didn’t have time to put them in order #there’s more neat rows of teeth inside #dick is not happy with being looked at right now #his teeth aren’t in order :((( #don’t be rude and stare he’s self conscious #pls come back to have a look once he’s tidied them up #his mouth gets crowded sometimes ok? #fae dick grayson #dick grayson #Nightwing #Robin #doodle #sketch #fanart #illustration #fae #eldritch #the things from the woods #batfam #digital art

[mystical-maelstrom]

My therapist says I need to make irl friends.. {HELP}

#mysticalmaelstrom #me #selfie #self portrait #my face #personal #girls with glasses #wild woman #weird girl #looking for friends #ootd #work ootd #tongue out #long hair #alt girl #natural girls #girls with piercings #blue and orange

[candyheartedchy]

Seeing the glasses for the first time.

#look i like glasses ok… #❤️ scratchyenne ❤️ #self insert #self ship #🎨 chy creations 🎨 #self insert x canon

[thehungerforfanfiction]

GUYS HELP I MADE HIM TOO ATTRACTIVE

#tgs hyde #the glass scientists #im a simp #what can i say #tgs edward hyde #that self insert really doesnt look like me ;-; #art #drawing #digital art #tgs #tgs fanart #i cant tell if hes hot #if im just really into this artstyle #i love this guy #if you know me irl no you dont #the things i would let him do to me #um anyways #teehee

[anguishmacgyver]

#sg1 2x02 #human shield #stargate #stargate sg1 #whump #whumpedit #gunpoint #this show has ALL the tropes #daniel jackson #teal'c #''are you injured'' ''dumb question'' shdkjfh self awareness #im ALWAYS injured teal'c what are you talking about #LOVE the trope where they have to hurt their friend to neutralize the enemy #10 out of 10 #othergifs #also i love how daniel looks like hes dissociating when he's in danger?? #mr man is TOO CALM #(and then he isnt) #and when i say ''i love it'' i mean it in the most IM GONNA USE IT FOR BRAIN CINEMA LATER #*examines daniel jackson with a magnifying glass* like #where is your trauma and how did you get these coping mechanisms-

[muckyschmuck]

ill give u something to cry ab :33333333

#hey i warned you about the self insert stuff i did warn you i did #i blame the single person that said DO IT when i said i watnted to #hey nova if ur reading this sup #gave my sona a sanguinary ass color palette to make it look better idk #rope #suggestive #my art #furry art #anthro art #furry #anthro #digital art #oc art #oc #surprised her glasses arent broke n yet..... #im normal #this thisgn #ok need to bathe

[bullagit]

ed sees stede as being unapologetically himself (weird and enthusiastic and soft and smart and all his unconventional interests/mannerisms), and stede sees it all as being inescapably himself (no matter how hard he tries)

and i think that some of the wrongfootedness of their communication does stem from that difference in perception!

#edward teach #stede bonnet #blackbonnet #gentlebeard #ofmd #like its sweet how ed is so enamored w stede that he cant fathom the other viewpoint organically #but i do hope its addressed in the show idk #its sort of a red flags thru rose colored glasses just look like flags but #about stedes deep insecurity and terrible self worth #manic pirate dreamification.....

[joyflameball]

What in the goddamn did they put in Don't Starve to weave so much grief throughout it. I know I've posted about this before but I can't shut up about it. There's so much grief permeating so much of it, so many characters. Grief in the loss of a loved one. Grief in the loss of home. Grief in the loss of yourself. I'm gonna throw up

#cassie rambles #dst #don't starve #i'm serious when i say the grief is everywhere #you could run into it out of nowhere. but you'll run into it. it's unavoidable. #there's grief with charlie. in the loss of who she was #in how winona came to the constant to find a dead woman. one who's just a flicker of who she was. who can never become her past self again. #in how wx destroyed their past self lost their friendship with wagstaff and hated feeling about it so much they tried to destroy that too #and they couldn't. they clearly couldn't. #there's grief in wendy with how she lost her beloved sister and fell into horrifyingly and heartbreakingly deep depths of depression #grief with webber losing his family because he wanted their attention #grief with wigfrid losing herself because nobody wanted her until she was the valkyrie #grief in how warly just wanted his mother to remember him. and now he'll most likely never see her again. she won't even remember his name #grief in maxwell. in how he destroyed his past self because of his desire for power. in how that power started to destroy him too. #and in how that power imprisoned and tormented both him and his love. changing them both forever. #I'M GONNA EAT GLASS #THIS IS THE SAME GAME WHERE THE MAIN CHARACTER SAYS LINES LIKE ''LOOKS LIKE YOU'VE GONE FROM DAPPER TO SLAPPER'' WHY IS IT MAKING ME SO SAD