#maybe it’s feminism

[obliviand]

I’m doing a bit of research for a school paper and I have a few things to say.

I see a lot of anti-LGBT+ articles or whatever and it’s just purely from a place of not understanding. Not just that, but a refusal to understand at all. It’s always about gender too. A refusal to understand being trans, or being non-binary and going “pfft all these identities and these pronoun and name changing pfft these kids don’t understand how the real world works.” But honestly, neither does the person who says that.

The reason why gender is such a huge issue today is because we as a society are finally breaking free from the gender norms and stereotypes that have been ingrained in us years and years ago. The only reason that is happening is because years ago someone made some societal rules that women have to be this way and men have to be that way. I mean when you think about it, the reason why such a small part of anyone’s identity is such a big deal is really because of the patriarchy, and everyone suffers under the patriarchy. So naturally, when a different gender identity comes about, it’s going to be made into a big deal of what it means to be that identity.

That’s why there’s so many different labels and pronouns and why teenagers will take a second to explore pronouns and names in order to understand what fits them. Because teens are just figuring themselves out.

Gender is a very complicated thing. It was made as complicated as it is now the moment someone made rules for what makes you a man or a woman and that is what really fucked up gender. Not some kid using they/them pronouns, not someone using an obscure gender identity, nor a trans kid asking you to refer to them by a different name each week while they figure out what fits them best. The patriarchy is what made gender complicated, not trans kids you argue with on the internet.

#feminism #maybe it’s feminism #patriarchy #rant #lgbt+ #lgbt #transgender #nonbinary #gender #idk I kinda just went off here #thanks for coming to my ted talk #guys I am genderfluid before you think im a cis person trying to speak for the trans community #might be wrong might be right #take it with a grain of salt will ya #I am very biased obviously but this is what I’ve observed #I spend a lot of time thinking #long ass post

[lesbiancorvoattano]

im so tired of the "we shouldnt criticize andrew tate fans, they're kids they don't know any better 🥺" and framing these boys as victims meanwhile those boys are being misogynistic bullies to the girls in their classes.

boys are coddled and treated like their beliefs and actions are harmless meanwhile girls' suffering is ignored. sure the boys are "just kids" but so are the girls.

imagine being a girl trying to learn in this sort of environment.

teenage boys are engaging in abusive behavior towards their girlfriends that they learned from andrew tate and your primary concern is the left doesn't coddle men and boys in this discussion about misogyny?

framing all andrew tate supporters as "young boys who don't know any better" ignores the support he has among adult men. in the UK, 26% of men aged 18-29 and 28% of men aged 30-39 agree with his opinions on women.

looking beyond andrew tate specifically, young men are more likely to feel threatened by feminism than older men. 50% of gen z men believe that feminism has gone 'too far'. there is an epidemic of misogyny among boys and young men.

#maybe this is a little incoherent but im angry #yeah tate is yesterdays news but this is vagueblogging at one post in the feminism tag #feminism #andrew tate #mikaelaposts

[toddchavezwatchescartoons]

#finland #feminism #lesbian #or maybe #bisexual

[kthulhu42]

Women do not owe you anything. We do not owe you access to our bodies. We do not owe you access to our emotional labour. We do not owe you attraction. We do not owe you acceptance to our spaces or opportunities.

Women do not owe you anything.

#radblr #radical feminism #feminism #terfblr #The male socialisation really jumps out of this one huh #“Who told you that you can say no to men and get away with it?” #terfsafe #gender critical #It's all “you have to” and “you gotta” no I actually don't #“They can and do read trans womens traits as masculine/male” yeah I fucking wonder why jakey maybe it's because you're a man

[uncanny-tranny]

This might be a half-baked theory, but I wonder how much of the "think of the children!!" ideals that are almost... aimed at women rely on the idea of women as Forever Children.

What I notice is that a lot of these ideas of corruption in youth are feminized in a way that evokes motherhood, but I also notice that many people blur the lines between women or anybody forced into or expected to be women and children so that they are as one.

#politics #feminism #the idea of women being essentially children with the bodies of adult is something that's age-old #but i notice it still as something that's... subtler sometimes #such as the 'think of the children!' for the ~case~ of trans people existing i sometimes notice that people... #...subtly start including women in that 'think of the children!!!!!!!' line and it makes me wonder... #...if people see women and children as functionally the same... #again maybe this is half-baked or i think too much about this but. hm. yknow. #alright i guess... back to doing my crochet project and playing video games instead of studying 👍

[loverrrrrr17]

Can we talk about how America Ferrera delivered this insanely beautiful and impactful monologue about the hardships of being a woman. One of which is the fact that women have to be accountable for men’s actions which she says herself is insane.

And yet.

Here we are. Having to explain to men that the Barbie movie is not anti-men or sexist or meant to make men hate themselves.

We have to, yet again, be accountable for what men feel, and explain that, oh no we don’t hate you! We didn’t mean to upset you! Because the whole point was lost on them.

And now instead of my dash being filled with the magnificence of Barbie and the discoveries she’s made or even just the fact that Ken starts taking control of his life, I am instead somehow subjected to discourse after discourse of people needing to break down the movie so men will stop complaining about it.

I just. Wow. Being a woman. It always comes back to this, doesn’t it. And I hate it. Because we deserve more honestly.

#maybe i just seriously need to follow other people #and not to say that the commentary about ken and men’s worth isnt important #it is #and we should explain it to those who need help understanding #but its been ONE WEEKEND #and already we have to defend so much #and i am just so tired of that #Barbie #Barbie movie #Ken #idek #what do you tag this shit anymore? #feminism

[anti-terf-posts]

hot take but plus size/fat people shouldn't have to sexualize themselves for you to be accepting of them.

#enough of “all bodies are beautiful!! but only when theyre wearing miniskirts and thigh high tights” #all bodies are beautiful. full stop. end of discussion. #ive seen too many videos of fat women throwing on their sexiest outfits to “prove” that fat women are beautiful. #its one thing if she's doing that to feel good about herself #but a whole other thing if she's doing it to convince other people that her body is beautiful #i dont blame her i just think that fat women shouldn't have to do that #if what it takes to accept fat people is fetishizing them maybe you're not actually an ally to fat people #just a thought #body acceptance #body positive #feminism #anti terf #anti gender critical #anti radfem #terfs dni #radfems dni #intersectionalfeminist

[burningtheroots]

Thanks to the brave, tolerant, loving, kind & caring TRAs and the equally braindead government.

#radfem #radfems do touch #feminism #radical feminism #radfems do interact #radblr #radfems please touch #women deserve better #womens rights #sex based rights #trans #transgender #transsexual #tra receipts #maybe TRAs would be more sympathetic if they spoke out against this and made a statement to clarify that this is NOT OKAY #but apparently they think this is a good thing

[miasmultifandomdump]

It annoys me how so much of modern discourse around female characters is, to be frank, misogyny repackaged as being progressive.

If a woman's strengths and interests are associated with being feminine, such as cooking or enjoying nice clothes or being kind and compassionate, the entire fandom jumps on her as stereotypical or weak. It's seen as cool to bash on "women's work", never mind that your average misogynist has been doing it for decades, hell, centuries, and the jobs that are mocked as women's work are actually pretty essential to humans surviving and thriving.

And then, of course, if a woman shows the slightest hint of nonconformity, the entire fandom jumps on her because "oh!! she's trying to be not like other girls!! she wants male attention so bad!!" It doesn't matter how she is to the other girls in her life, if she wears combat boots and listens to punk instead of Taylor Swift, she clearly hates every other woman ever according to certain parts of fandom. It couldn't be that she's neurodivergent or LGBT or hell, even just a tomboy, she has to hate every other girl on the planet. /sarcasm

AND JUST TO CLARIFY. These tropes can genuinely be negatively done. The traditionally feminine girl can be a weak character and the tomboy girl can be an ass. But when you're calling a girl a "pick me" just because she doesn't live up to your idea of what a woman should look like or what you think feminism is... congratulations. You've simply repackaged sexism and called it woke. And lots of girls who see this crap online are going to suffer for it but hey, it was never actually about them, so who cares, right? /sarcasm

Anyway, to all the girls reading this post, you go ahead and be who you want. Be a princess or a president or a pop singer or a punk rocker or hell, all of the above. You're not a "pick me" you're not a "handmaiden" you're not trying too hard to be "not like other girls". You are fine. Don't let pseudo-woke nonsense get to you. It's just white noise.

#and to all of you guys who are maybe younger just know. youll learn to drown it out #you might still roll your eyes and if you have anxiety like me you might still have bad days but. it gets better #you are worth so much more than worrying about people who refuse to give you good faith and their stupid judgements of you #fandom critique #feminism #female characters #strong female characters #pick me girl #pick me #handmaiden #nlog #not like other girls #all queued up with nowhere to go

[maybe-itsforthebest]

- j (x)

#the female experience #feminism #the male gaze #poetry #spilled thoughts #prose #journal #dark academia #spilled ink #mental health #quotes #poem #life quotes #literature #poets on tumblr #thoughts #words #spilled poetry #existentialism #aesthetic #original post #maybe-itsforthebest

[comradekarin]

are fans not allowed to prefer Taylor over Beyonce? why do you people always use the race card like do something else its getting tiring atp...

You are definitely allowed to prefer Taylor Swift over Beyoncé for… whatever reason that may be god bless your unseasoned soul. What you shouldn’t be doing is diminishing the work of Beyoncé and other black and queer artists in order to prop Taylor up. The fact that it’s the year of 2023 and we’re having these weird ass conversations of can Beyoncé even sing, dance, or put on a performance? You don’t even have to be a fan of Beyoncé to recognize the immense talent and impact that woman has on multiple demographics of people. Whether that be the Black community, other POC, or the LGBTQ community, Beyoncé has made an impact. And she actually does her research too and doesn’t use minorities as brownie points in her work (cough taylor’s vogue dancer cough). Beyoncé’s work only continues to improve, mind you. And to either deny or downplay that talent in order to prop up a mediocre white woman and her mediocre lyrics and her mediocre production is insane.

Prefer Taylor over Beyoncé? Ok. Love both? Ok. There is nothing wrong with that. As I stated in my previous post, I don’t like comparing female artists; it doesn’t do anything for me or those artists (especially since, from what I understand, they’re on good terms). However, if you expect me to believe that what’s considered the standard for Taylor is the same standard for Beyoncé (or, the standard for white artists vs the standard for black artists), it’s not going to happen. If you want an example, Beyoncé preparing for Coachella is more than enough proof; she had to destroy and completely reset her body after giving birth to twins in order to give the best show she could possibly give. Being the first black woman to headline the festival meant she had literally everything running on the line. We see this sentiment true with other black artists, too, like Halle Bailey, who had to undergo death threats, racism, bullying, and harassment despite having a perfect performance on the big screen and during her live performances. Halle had to prove she deserved to be treated with human decency, and had she even had a strand of hair left out she would have been crucified. I can even go on about the treatment of darker skinned vs light skinned/mixed women (those in closer proximity to whiteness) in the rap industry. We would be here forever talking about this.

And it’s not me pulling out the race card, it’s me simply recognizing that white women are celebrated for their mediocrity and black women are not. It’s me saying that Beyoncé’s fans calling out Taylor’s whiteness is in no where comparable to them calling out Beyoncé’s blackness, especially since Taylor’s whiteness benefits her in contrast to the way Beyoncé’s blackness punishes her. We can no longer pretend the struggle of white women are identical to the struggle of black women. Because, as we’ve seen with Taylor, her ally ship is performative, something she can hang up in the closet and forget about when she goes home at night. When it comes down to it, she will always adhere to her white womanhood to get her out of the shit she places herself in.

If you want to be ignorant and play colorblind to these issues, that’s on you. But don’t expect me to pretend that there isn’t an issue here—an issue that has always been here.

#maybe this comes off as me being biased bc I like Beyoncés music and not Taylor #but I feel even if the roles were reversed I would be able to admit the double standards as a black fan #I hope this made sense anon #ask #anti taylor swift #anti swifties #beyoncé #anti blackness #white mediocrity #white feminism

[kthulhu42]

Maybe I'm just old and I don't "get" it, or this is "reclaiming" somehow

But to me this is really fucking offensive

#radblr #radical feminism #feminism #Homophobia #Idk being called fruity was a slur against gay men for a long time #It just comes across... poorly #Maybe someone else can articulate why better than me? #And being a “fruit loop” was slang for saying someone was mentally unstable

[hussyknee]

What would your reaction be to a pilot program confining male comedians to safe asylums until they prove they are safe to interact with women and kids? Ideally they would be able to perform under guard and psychiatric supervision, and after a period of years a panel of social workers, doctors and women from the community would assess their compatibility with society at large.

Which males are those? Black? Brown? Indigenous? Undocumented immigrant? Muslim? Disabled? Mentally ill and neurodivergent? Queer? Trans men? Unhoused and poor? All of those men already get arbitrarily thrown in what you euphemistically call "safe asylums" because their very existence is seen as dangerous to women and children. It's why I'm a prison abolitionist. And now you want to add the crime of making bad jokes?

See where it says "Radfems DNI" on my bio? That means clowns like you who send me asks like this. Even if you meant it as a joke, this entire premise is grossly ableist, and pathologizing half the human population frankly unhinged. Take your white female victim complex and GTFO.

#read some bell hooks and Foucault and maybe you'll calm down #asks #anon #anti radfem #misandry #white women #involuntary commitment #prison abolition #intersectional feminism #tw ableism #tw sanism #knee of huss

[lackadaisycal-art]

Sometimes you spend too much time in a feminist art exhibition and just think "well you've just reduced women to the fact they are reduced to their bodies"

#art #feminism #feminist art #idk this might be nothing #maybe i was just tired #but there's more to womanhood than being objectified #i know it's an act of reclamation but if that's all anyone is doing at the end of the day women are still just their bodies #anyway this is specifically about two exhibitions i saw this summer #it might not be a common issue

[feminist-bitches-only]

Hey @ trans inclusive radical feminists, how do y’all beat the terf accusations while also talking about sex based oppression as a form of misogyny? I literally highlight my support of trans people in my bio and my pinned post and just got hit with a terf accusation :/

#I’m thinking maybe it’s because I will reblog posts that discuss good feminist concepts without checking to see if the op is a terf??? #or is this just not possible to do at all if you talk about sex based oppression as a major player in misogyny? #like I don’t wanna stop posting or reblogging posts that happen to discuss some issues between trans tumblr and feminist tumblr #ex like claiming the Billie eilish must be trans since she dresses in a gnc way #because like that’s a terribly misogynistic way of thinking and needs to be brought to peoples attention #but I literally never imply that trans people on the whole are the issue like there are gonna be misogynists and bad apples in any group #no matter their identity #so like what do ya do to not have people mistake you for a terf? #is it just bc people knee jerk react when they see radfem inspired non transphobic feminist takes because they have experience with seeing #radfem informed posts that are transphobic? #tirf #trans inclusive feminism #trans inclusive radical feminism #trans inclusive radical feminist

[watermelinoe]

i know i use radfem as a shorthand for the gyns on here who Believe those Beliefs but i think radical feminism is something one does, not an identity, and i think part of our collective problem is that we're all still submerged in the deep fryer that is identity politics

#i don't think of myself as a feminist bc i don't do feminist action #i do... feminist INactions lol. not shaving. not wearing makeup. not growing my hair out. not dating men. #i try to prioritize women in my life and creatively #but to me feminism is activism #i think we need to get back to talking abt feminist ACTIONS over feminist identity #and then ppl maybe wouldn't take it so hard hearing ''this is not a feminist action'' vs hearing ''you are not a feminist'' #should you try to align your life with your beliefs? of course #but also doing non-feminist things is not necessarily cancelling out every feminist thing you do lol it just doesn't work like that