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Dark!Steve Rogers x Fem!Reader
Warnings: Language, Kidnapping (That鈥檚 all I got cause I鈥檓 not doing smut) Summary: You don鈥檛 remember anything since that crash. But someone who claims to be your husband is taking very good care of you. Until you found out the truth of your real life.
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Might seem familiar to some, it does have similarities to a movie I once watched.
鈥淵/N!鈥 He roars out, you were whimpering, running through the forest with a large limp. Your head turning back every second and turn you took on the trail. 鈥淚鈥檓 not in the mood for this!鈥 He continues.
He sounded closer than usual and you immediately slid down the hill and hid in the leaves. Your wheezing and cries were audible so you closed your hand over your mouth.聽
His broad shoulders came into view and his pace was quick down the trail, you knew he was gonna find you and catch you quickly. Your ankle ached, you stood up and stepped on a twig, causing it to snap. You gasped. 鈥淲here are you, sweetheart?鈥
. 24 Hours Earlier .
He said your home was miles from town. You remembered what he said to you, keeping you in the house and took care of you. He was there when you first woke up. Claiming to be your husband, he bought you your favorite flowers. Red roses.
He held your hand with the wedding rings touching each other as they come together once again. He kissed your knuckles and smiled softly.聽
鈥淵ou鈥檙e safe with me.鈥
Not knowing who he was, he tried to name all the things you two used to do together. He said you would ride on his motorcycle at nights. He even brought you to work to meet his friends. Had a few beers, laugh and all. Gotten married not too long after.
The night on that special day, he said he wouldn鈥檛 forget it. Even showing you a photo of you two in a wedding picture. He had a clean shave at the time, he said you wanted him to grow it out but you don鈥檛 remember anything.
You were hoping to remember him.
Steve Rogers. The day he met you in the hospital, he introduced himself again and he sounded heartbroken almost. Almost a few days of being in the hospital and getting to know Steve more, he took you home.
They gave you a cane and a wheelchair. He helped you in and out of the car. The house was big. Steve said there was a lake that was down the trail a bit, said that you two would go down there and watch the sun hit the waters.
He took you there once. Enjoying the sun setting in the distance, giving the water a nice gleam of peace. It calmed you. You tried walking around with a cane. Steve told you not to work on that ankle a lot around the house. Make it worse as it is.
You were mostly in the wheelchair.
You were smelling the bacon and eggs as you stared outside, looking out to the rose bushes that seem to be blowing with the wind. Sometimes you鈥檇 see Steve go out and cut them. Putting them in the flower vase at the table in front of you.
鈥淒id you hear me, sweetheart?鈥 His voice beams. You inhaled softly and turned your head to look over your shoulder. You hum,聽鈥淲hat?鈥 Steve puts the breakfast onto a plate and takes it over to you.聽鈥淵ou zoned out, everything okay?鈥 He asked.
You look at him and give him a grin,聽鈥淵eah. Just thinking.鈥 Steve wore a dark sweatshirt that was too tight on him. You could see the muscle bulge out of his shirt on the urge to rip through. He quirks a grin,聽鈥淲hat were you thinking about?鈥 He asked.
He came behind you as you shook your head,聽鈥淛ust trying to think about what we did before this happened.鈥 Steve鈥檚 hands come to your shoulders and he gently massaged them.
鈥淚t鈥檚 gonna be okay. I鈥檓 gonna head out, though. Stop by the office to say hi to a couple of friends and I鈥檒l grab some groceries for tonight鈥檚 dinner. You look up and smiled at him.聽鈥淥kay. I was thinking about walking around the house, anyway. To see if anything could trigger my memory.鈥
His hands tighten on your shoulders before he released them,聽鈥淒on鈥檛 overdo it, sweetheart.鈥 He takes his leather jacket and slips it on.聽鈥淚鈥檒l be back.鈥 He grabs his keys and placed a kiss on your head.
You didn鈥檛 remember him, but it was nice that he still loved you no matter what. But you weren鈥檛 sure why you married him. You couldn鈥檛 remember. You weren鈥檛 sure if you loved him anymore. But he was a nice man.
You hear him leave and you continued to finish your breakfast. After you did, you took your cane and stood up. Wincing slightly at your ankle that you fractured in your crash.聽
You had been in an accident and they said you鈥檇 have to walk for a few minutes, heal your ankle every once in a while. You walked around the house. Walking into a room that happened to be Steve鈥檚 office, you saw his computer on the desk. You sat down and opened his computer.聽
A password was needed.
You bit the inside of your cheek and thought about adding the date of your wedding that Steve had told you. It didn鈥檛 work. You added your favorite flower into the password. Roses. Nothing. You leaned back in your chair and thought it through.
Why were you going into his space? He wouldn鈥檛 like you doing into his things. You sighed and stood up again, catching the wifi router by his desk. Steve said you don鈥檛 have signal. You reached for it and saw that the back of it was ripped. Shredded.
You placed the router box back and felt suspicious about that. You left his office and limped into the living room to looked around and find something familiar to trigger something.
You turn and saw Steve slam a guy into the wall, aggressively slamming his head against the wall with full force. You gasped and blinked, almost stumbling so you catch yourself on the table, toppling a few things over.聽
You look back and Steve was not slamming no one into the wall. They were gone. What the hell was that? You puffed out a sigh and looked towards the table you caught yourself with and lifted the fallen frame up.
The wedding picture of you and Steve. You grin softly at the picture, seeing how happy you two were. You wished you remembered the day. But your smile faltered at the sudden picture.
Steve鈥檚 face was almost a different tone than the neck part of him. As if he plastered his own face on someone else鈥檚. Even his shoulders were huge but the picture, he didn鈥檛 have shoulder mass.
You fixed the frame on the desk and looked over to the next photo. You and Chris at a friend鈥檚 party, he had his arm around you and your smiles were big. That one seemed normal. Maybe it鈥檚 just your eyes seeing things. You eventually relaxed and did match the card game to regain your memory.
Steve came back home an hour later, getting dinner ready for you and him. He thought having a special night, he could try and start all over. Have you get to know him more.
But your mind was on the photo. The wedding one. The unknown flash of him shoving another man鈥檚 head into the wall. It had you staring at the table, thinking. Steve peered up and furrowed his brows.聽鈥淲hat鈥檚 going on?鈥 He asked.聽
The room you two sat in, it was dimly lit. The candle at the center of the table was lit and you had a glass of wine by your plate. You look up to him as he took a bite from his food, really wondering what was up.
Could you tell him?
鈥淭he photo...鈥 You said. Steve looks up to you in confusion,聽鈥淲hat photo?鈥 He continued to eat. You watched him eat, seeing his movements closely.聽鈥淭he wedding photo. It looked strange to me.鈥
Steve stops and looks up to you, his jawing tensing as he chewed.聽鈥淲hat?鈥 He asks. You inhaled softly and blinked up at him,聽鈥淚 saw you... and another man... you were bashing his head in.鈥澛
You noticed his grip on the fork got tight and he managed to laugh softly,聽鈥淪weetheart, I think your mind is making things up. But it鈥檚 okay, I can give you your pills when we go to bed.鈥
Steve looks up to you,聽鈥淣o?鈥 Your eyes seem to stare at his, your hands twitching out of fear.聽鈥淵ou messed with the router... That鈥檚 why my nurse isn鈥檛 calling.鈥
Steve shook his head,聽鈥淚 don鈥檛 know what you鈥檙e talking about, sweetheart-鈥
鈥淒on鈥檛 call me that. Who are you?鈥 Steve was frozen now. But he chuckled,聽鈥淵ou know who I am. I鈥檓 your husband.鈥
You shook your head at him. Steve stood up, his face was dark with anger. Or what you thought. You stood up as well, shaking. Steve comes around towards you, your eyes dart to the wine and you reached for it at the right time. Steve went to reach for you but you slammed the glass on his head.
The man falls on the ground and you gasped. Limping on your foot, you take your cane. Reaching for his phone in his back pocket, you ran out the door. You whimpered as you ran through the front yard, walking into the dirt that he said was gonna be a farm soon.
You look back to make sure he wasn鈥檛 following till you fell. With a yelp, you hit the ground and landed in the dirt. A shovel was beside you and you turned to see a hand sticking out of the ground. You gasped till something hits you on the side of the head.
Your eyes fluttered open to the light. You winced and Steve鈥檚 face came into your peripheral. He looked down at you,聽鈥淚t鈥檚 gonna be okay, sweetheart.鈥 You don鈥檛 remember what happened. Your eyes close again and he walked up the stairs to take you to your bedroom.聽
Placing you down on the bed, you fully brought your vision back. He reached up to your head,聽鈥淥h, you鈥檙e bleeding. Here,鈥 He walks into the bathroom and grabs a wet rag to wipe the blood off your forehead.
鈥淲hat... What happened?鈥 You mumbled, Steve hisses at the sight of your head.聽鈥淵ou were running on that ankle. Hit your head when you fell. You can鈥檛 go running out like that.鈥
He finished off cleaning your head and he sighs.聽鈥淗ere, you need to take your pills.鈥 You shook your head,聽鈥淣o. I don鈥檛 need them.鈥 He pulled one out,聽鈥淒on鈥檛 start. You need to take it, it can help you.鈥 You tried to push him away but he managed to get it in your mouth and handed you the glass.
He forces you to drink it and he pulls the glass away.聽鈥淭here. Now get some sleep.鈥 He helped you slip under the covers and he stood up. He pulled his shirt over his head and revealed his bare torso.聽
You watch him as he undoing his belt and tugged down his jeans to join you in bed. He slipped in next to you and lightly reached for your arm. Once his fingers touched your arm, you jolted causing him to sigh.聽鈥淕oodnight, sweetheart.鈥
You woke up the next morning, feeling sore as always. Walking around has your ankle aching in pain as you sat up. Steve was already gone so you stood up, taking your cane in hand and headed out into the hall.
You met the stairs. You stopped. With one bad foot, it could be one bad fall. You took the risk. You stepped down and hissed, bumping your ankle on one of the steps. You grabbed the railing to hold yourself up along with your cane.聽
Almost there. You felt too proud of yourself and that all goes downhill when you take misstep and you fall forward.聽鈥淲oah!鈥 Steve comes around the corner and catches you in his arms. You grab his bicep and chuckled breathlessly.聽
鈥淵ou鈥檙e up. And walking?鈥 He says, you stable yourself on the ground floor and looked up to him,聽鈥淭hank you.鈥
鈥淵ou got to be careful with that ankle.鈥 You furrow your brows when you see him in his leather jacket.聽鈥淵ou鈥檙e heading out?鈥 You asked, Steve looks down and nods.聽鈥淚 just need to pick up something. I鈥檒l be back. Don鈥檛 walk around for too much.鈥
He kisses you once again just like yesterday, making you feel like it was a repeating day. Once the door close you looked around the home. You remembered running and you fell. You remembered everything coming back. You head for the garage.
Limping your way in, you grimaced at the smell that was in the garage. Heading over to the black car, you walked into the front seat and sat down. Looking for the keys, you came across a phone.
You stared at it and took it in hand, opening the screen you see yourself and another man. Not Steve. The man was hugging you, placing a kiss on your head.
You gasped and covered your mouth. You hear the front door open and close.聽鈥淪weetheart, I forgot something!鈥 You hear him call. You opened the trunk thinking something can be used to defend yourself. You popped it open, making a loud beeping sound in the garage. You limped over to the back and screamed.
A man was laying in the trunk, completely loss of color. His eyes were opened, staring at you. You fell on the ground. Steve comes in and sees you on the ground.聽鈥淪weetheart, what are you doing-?鈥 He stops when he sees the trunk open.
His eyes turned dark. Just like at the table.聽鈥淚 thought I told you not to go through things.鈥
鈥淲ho are you!鈥 You screamed, kicking away,聽鈥淛ust let me go! Please!鈥 He comes towards you and you tried to scoot back.聽鈥淧lease, don鈥檛 hurt me.鈥 Steve takes both your ankles causing you to yell in pain and he grabs your waist and throws you over his shoulder.
鈥淚 thought we agreed you鈥檇 stay in the wheelchair. I trusted you,鈥 He says. You sobbed as he carried you out of the garage.聽鈥淧lease, just let me go! I won鈥檛 tell anyone about this!鈥 You plead.
He chuckles darkly,聽鈥淚 don鈥檛 think you have that choice, sweetheart. Not anymore.鈥 You sob as he practically tosses you on the bed. You tried to scoot away from him, bringing your back to the bedpost. He takes your injured ankle with a grip causing you to shout in pain again.聽
鈥淧lease! I won鈥檛 go through anything!鈥 He pulls out a rope and puts your ankle on the metal post. He began to tie your ankle to it.聽鈥淵ou鈥檙e mine. I love you. You know that?鈥 He says.
You sobbed as he ties it and walks over to pull a strand behind your ear, you flinched under his touch. Steve leans in and places a kiss on your lips. You tugged on your ankle and bit at his lip causing him to pull away with a yell.
He brings his hand to his lip, his bottom lip bled. His hand hovers over your ankle that was bound to the post, you knew what was gonna happen.聽鈥淧lease... don鈥檛... I鈥檓 sorry-鈥 You shout in pain as he grabs your ankle and tightens his grip.聽
You scream out and he lets go, fuming with anger,聽鈥淚f you continue with problems, I will decide what happens. When I come back and I see you on this bed still. Maybe I鈥檒l consider.鈥 He looks at you one last time before heading out the door.聽
You then hear the door lock on the other side.
Whimpering, you tugged your foot. Yelling in pain, you try to reach for the rope tied to the post. The knots were tight enough to not let your finger pull at them. All you could do was tug your foot.
You hear his car leave and you continued to tug your foot. The roughness of the rope dug and scraped against your skin like it was on fire. Your ankle was red enough to the harsh crash. You needed to leave this house.
You struggled more, shouting every second. You could possibly take the trail and find service somewhere and use that phone you found. You slipped it into your pocket. Steve luckily didn鈥檛 search your pockets. You felt your ankle slowly crack a few bones causing you to grip the sheets and shout. Your foot them slips out and you quickly limped over to the door.
You pulled the door and it doesn鈥檛 open.聽鈥淪hit...鈥 You look around the room and found the small bowl on the dresser. You found a hair pin and limped back over to the door.
It took you about 10 minutes to unlock it. Once it clicked, you ripped the door open and limped out, he left your cane in the garage. You didn鈥檛 need it. Right now, you needed to get out.
You rushed out of the house and stumbled into the rose bush. You pulled away and saw blood on your hand. Looking toward the rose, you saw blood. Your hand was bleeding.聽
You hear beeping and looked up to the front door. Above it was a camera. Steve is gonna come back. You pulled your phone out and began to lift it, rushing out to the trail.聽
Pushing through the brush, you pant and whimper. You tripped over a rock and hit the ground with a loud聽鈥榦of鈥. You then hear a car door close. You lifted yourself up and yelped in pain when you stood on your foot.聽
鈥淵/N,鈥 Steve鈥檚 voice sounded like a warning,聽鈥淚鈥檓 not in the mood for your games.鈥 His feet were heavy against the dirt as he rushed through the same trail he saw you go on the trail.
You limped further down the trail,聽鈥淵/N!鈥 He roars. You sobbed quietly and slid down the hill. You hid in the leaves as his broad shoulders and blonde dark locks came into your view as he stormed further down the trail.
You stood up once he passed and turned the other trail. Stepping on a twig.聽鈥淲here are you, sweetheart?鈥 He calls. You stumble on your feet and rushed down the trail. Raising the phone up to the sky, you couldn鈥檛 run down the road for miles. You could probably call the police.聽
鈥淕oddammit, Y/N!鈥 He shouts. You come across the dock towards the lake and you were completely stuck now. You rushed over to the brush and hid. Steve鈥檚 boots hit the dock, walking down the dock. You turned to see a log by your side.
Taking it in hand, you slowly emerged from the brush and came up behind him. Going for the swing, Steve turns and catches it at mid-swing. His face darkens, with a tug, it jerked you and you fell into the lake.聽
You feel yourself sink further as it got colder the more you sunk. You tried to swing up but you couldn鈥檛. You see his silhouette at the surface staring down. You watched his figure disappear off the dock, walking away. You saw the bubbles float around you and up.
You then closed your eyes and choked on the water.
You gasped for air and rose from the tub, slightly choking and you looked around.聽鈥淵/N?鈥 Someone called, you jumped when they entered the bathroom and looked at you.
鈥淵ou okay?鈥 They asked. You blew out a exhale and nodded,聽鈥淵eah... sorry.鈥 He shook his head,聽鈥淚t鈥檚 okay. Maybe consider taking a shower instead?鈥 He slightly jokes, you tried to smile.
He turns away till you slightly rose,聽鈥淪teve?鈥 He peaks his head around,聽鈥淵eah?鈥 He asks. You swallowed thickly and grinned softly.聽鈥淐ould you maybe pour me wine when I get out?鈥 Steve looks down at the ground and softly nodded.聽
鈥淥f course. I鈥檒l cook dinner, too.鈥 You nodded and he gave you a grin.聽鈥淥kay. Love you, sweetheart.鈥
鈥淟ove you too...鈥
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michellejgaskill5 months ago
10 Ways to Better Understand Your Husband
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I鈥檓 sure you are aware of the ways you and your husband differ in your background and personalities. You may also have different ideas about how to spend your evenings, what kinds of movies you each prefer to watch, and what your ideas of an adventurous weekend would look like. But when you add to the mix their uniquely male qualities, it surely could be a case for your girlfriends that your husband is from a different world than you are.
1. Remember he's a man.
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This should go without saying. Yet, I鈥檓 amazed at how many women expect their husbands to be just like their girlfriends and talk about everything, listen intently, and 鈥済o deep鈥 with their feelings. Men are not wired for 鈥渃hick chat鈥 and the biggest mistake wives make is interpreting this to mean their husbands don鈥檛 care. Well, they don鈥檛. But that doesn鈥檛 mean they don鈥檛 care about you.
You can understand your man better when you realize he approaches life differently, tending to focus more on the detail of fact, while you tend to focus more on feelings. While you tend to ask for help, advice and directions, he often will not. When you offer sympathy, he offers advice and analysis, and while you desire to understand problems, he is driven to solve them. Instead of thinking If only he鈥檇 be more sensitive, or If only he鈥檇 be more interested in what I l like, try changing your perspective to I appreciate the way he brings balance to our marriage
2. Realize his need for respect.
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Countless studies have affirmed that a man would rather feel respected than loved. While women long to be cherished, loved, and pursued, there鈥檚 a sense in which a man can live without love. It鈥檚 respect he can鈥檛 live without.
It鈥檚 interesting to note that in the Bible, husbands are commanded to love their wives. And wives are commanded to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22-33). Have you ever thought about why a woman isn鈥檛 commanded to love her husband in return? We are commanded throughout the Bible to love one another, and that includes our husbands. But when it comes to this passage, which speaks specifically about the marriage relationship, God apparently knew a woman desires more than anything else to be loved and a man desires more than anything else to be respected. God must have known that as we respect our husbands, we are demonstrating love to them in a way they can more easily see and appreciate.
3. Recognize his need to succeed.
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Your husband is wired to be competitive, and therefore winning, succeeding and advancing are extremely important to him. If your husband feels he is in a no-win situation or is failing at something, it will show in his attitude of feeling stuck or wanting to give up. If your husband isn鈥檛 succeeding at something, he at least needs to feel like he鈥檚 winning. Let him know he is succeeding in the areas that are most important to him and to you. And if what is important to you isn鈥檛 necessarily important to him, let him know every now and then how well he is doing in that area, and it just may become an important area to him after all.
Many a man will give up altogether and go passive when it comes to parenting if you are insisting your parental skills are better. A man may stop communicating if his wife lets him know he is a failure at communication. To the contrary, if you are praising his efforts鈥攅ven if at this point they are just efforts鈥攈e will likely want to continue to please you. Treat him like a winner at home, and he鈥檒l want to be there more often. Praise him for his handiwork around the house, and you鈥檒l find him offering to be your handyman. Encourage him and tell him how good he makes you feel in the bedroom, and he鈥檒l be more likely to initiate intimacy. Encouragement goes a long way. And making your husband feel like a winner will make him want to be around you鈥 especially if you鈥檙e his No. 1 fan.
4. Allow him time in his "blank
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Sometimes it鈥檚 difficult for us to understand how our husbands can sit on the couch with the TV on, not particularly watching it, and not hear a word we say, nor be capable of responding. I call that my husband鈥檚 鈥渧eg box.鈥 Some wives call it their husbands鈥 鈥渂lank box.鈥 And when you ask him 鈥淲hat鈥檚 on your mind?鈥 or 鈥淲hat are you thinking?鈥 and he stares off into space and says 鈥渘othing鈥濃攊t really is true; he鈥檚 in a 鈥渘o words, no feelings鈥 box.
Women, on the other hand, constantly have thoughts swirling around in their heads. We are continually connecting events of yesterday to situations today and drawing conclusions. Our husbands appear clueless at what we鈥檙e doing, because they are. They don鈥檛 understand how we think and we don鈥檛 understand how they can be thinking of nothing. Allow your husband to spend time in his blank box doing nothing and thinking about nothing. It鈥檚 his way of decompressing so he can come back and re-engage with his wife and family again.
5. Ask him about his dreams.
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Proverbs 20:5 says 鈥淭he purposes of a person鈥檚 heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.鈥 You can better understand your husband when you can draw out of him his dreams and desires. When your husband has unmet dreams, it might affect how he is processing life or whether or not he is enjoying it. Whereas you and I might conclude he has a bad attitude, he may be dealing with feelings of missing out because he isn鈥檛 living from his heart.
Ask your husband what he鈥檇 love to do if time or money were no object. Give him permission to dream and don鈥檛 discount his ideas if they don鈥檛 sound practical or realistic. You can understand what makes him tick, what he secretly longs for, and even how you can share in making some of his dreams come true when you take the time to ask, learn and discover the dreams on your husband鈥檚 heart.
6. Treat him like a king, but not your God.+
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There鈥檚 a difference between treating your husband with the respect and loyalty you would give a king, and depending on him like he鈥檚 your God. Many women marry with high expectations, only to be gravely disappointed shortly thereafter when they discover their husband can鈥檛 possibly meet all of their emotional needs.
Because your husband is a man, he will never be able to meet your needs for sensitivity and understanding like another woman. Because he鈥檚 not your dad, he can鈥檛 make up for what you might feel was lacking in a father-daughter relationship. And most important, because he鈥檚 not God, he can鈥檛 possibly fulfill you in every way. Instead of looking to your husband to be God in your life and fill your every need, look to God as your spiritual husband (Isaiah 54:5). There is nothing that will free up your husband to love you more than taking your emotional expectations off of him and leaving them with God. Your husband can then love you in the best way he is able, without feeling he has an impossible task in front of him. (For practical ways to live this out, see my book, Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs).
7. Acknowledge his singular focus.
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Unlike women who appear to multi-task, men function better with a singular focus and they have a way of compartmentalizing their thoughts and actions. Like his ancient ancestors, your husband is, by nature, a hunter-gatherer, so it鈥檚 easy for him to zero in on鈥攁nd stay focused on鈥攁 single topic (Picture a cat sitting by a window watching a bird 鈥 he doesn鈥檛 move, but is totally fixated).
As you are sensitive to this single-focus characteristic of his, it may help you understand his response鈥攐r lack of response鈥攖o you when you go from topic to topic in your conversation or are tending to 鈥渕erge鈥 the areas of your life when he prefers to keep them separate. For example, talking about finances just prior to intimacy will confuse him. If he鈥檚 in 鈥渇inance mode,鈥 he will not know how to transition well to 鈥渞omance mode.鈥 Likewise, if you are talking about the kids鈥 schooling problems or your aging parents鈥 needs while he鈥檚 trying to set up the tent on a camping trip, he will likely not respond to your words, let alone hear them.
8. Allow him sexual pleasure with his wife.
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Men are designed, physically and physiologically, to enjoy sexual pleasure with their wives. Your husband wants to enjoy that activity and experience with YOU. And you are the only one he can enjoy that with and still be right and pure before his God. And he knows that, even more than you do.
In Ecclesiastes 9:9, Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, said this: 鈥淓njoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given to you under the sun鈥攁ll your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.鈥
King Solomon wrote a whole book on the meaninglessness of life. And among the few things he found meaningful for a man to enjoy were a good meal and pleasure with his wife. Now think about that! When you prepare a meal for your husband, isn鈥檛 it your desire that he enjoy it? Similarly, will you prepare yourself for him, physically, as his reward after dinner? God paid you quite a compliment when He gave you to your husband as your husband鈥檚 reward. God considered you a great prize to bring pleasure鈥攊n many ways鈥攖o your husband.聽聽 That should make you and I want to be our husband鈥檚 reward, not his consolation prize.
9. Accept his love for good food.
Do you ever find yourself wondering why your husband constantly thinks about food? Or how it is he can down a whole steak in minutes when all you feel like eating is a salad? Your husband, if he鈥檚 like most men, loves to eat. He鈥檒l prefer a meaty meal to your low-calorie morsel every time! And get thisenjoying food is biblical! In Ecclesiastes 2:24, the wise King Solomon says, 鈥淭here is nothing better for a man than to eat and drink and tell himself that his labor is good. This also I have seen that it is from the hand of God.鈥
For a man to be able to sit down and enjoy dinner鈥攐r a hearty, messy barbecue lunch鈥攊s one of the ways God rewards him for his work here on earth. So let him eat. And don鈥檛 knock him when he does. It鈥檚 one of the simple pleasures in life he was designed to enjoy.
10. Be patient as his priorities shift with age.
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Your husband typically values different things at different seasons of life. In his 20s and 30s, he may prioritize making money and advancing his career because he is in his prime 鈥減rovider/achiever鈥 mode. When he approaches his 40s and 50s, he may be more concerned about making his life count and not 鈥渨asting time鈥 doing something that doesn鈥檛 matter in the long run. When he reaches his 60s, he may value slowing down to enjoy life or attempt ambitions or 鈥渂ucket list鈥 items now that he has more time.
Keep in mind, though, that even when his priorities shift with age, he鈥檚 still the same man you fell in love with and married. His priorities just change through the years, as do yours.
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kannra219 months ago
I watched "Secret Obsession (2019)" with my family with Brenda Song in the main role and although it's a psychological thriller I couldn't take it seriously bc I'm seeing London Tipton running for her dear life bc her hot ex is being annoying again.
Kidding. The movie was great so if anyone wants to watch it that'd be cool. 馃憤
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emeto-film-critic7 months ago
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Secret Obsession - 2019
SAFE/Caution - A,V鈥
鈥,V鈥 A few times throughout the movie people cover their mouth, mildly cough/clear throat and scrunch up their face in disgust of a smell.
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sativa-jhene3 months ago
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All I have ever wanted was for you to love me and for you to know how much I love you. SECRET OBSESSION (2019), dir. Peter Sullivan
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List of Films I鈥檓 viewing This Year!
So you all can see all of the movies I鈥檓 going to be viewing this year! As I watch a film, I鈥檓 going to come in here and cross it off. These are all films that I鈥檝e had on my Netflix, Hulu, or general viewing list that I have had put on watchlists and just haven鈥檛 gotten around to watching/ started watching but haven鈥檛 finished/ bought but hadn鈥檛 seen yet. So this year is just a way to keep myself accountable for everything I watch and just so I can clean off my watchlists and enjoy something I hadn鈥檛 previously done.
1- I, Tonya
2- The Impossible
3- Klaus
4- Enola Holmes
5- The Prom
6- Work It
7- The Devil All the Time
8- Valentines Day
9- Sucker Punch
10- Saving Mr. Banks
11- We Have Always Lived in the Castle
12- Secret Obsession
13- Unicorn Store
14- See You Yesterday
15- Eddie the Eagle
16- Godmothered
17- Taylor Swift- Folklore: The Long Pond Sessions
18- Onward
19- I Still Believe
20- My Friend Dahmer
21- Rocketman
22- Five Feet Apart
23- The New Mutants
24- Ready Player One
25- Spider-Man: Into the Spiderverse
26- Star Wars: The Force Awakens
27- Star Wars: Solo
28- Star Wars: Rogue One
29- Star Wars: The Last Jedi
30- Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker
31- Soul
32- Wreck-It Ralph
33- Ralph Breaks The Internet
34- Pirates of the Caribbean: Curse of the Black Pearl
35- Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man鈥檚 Chest
36- Pirates of the Caribbean: At World鈥檚 End
37- Everything, Everything
38- Every Day
39- Divergent
40- Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship Of The Ring
41- Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers
42- Lord of the Rings: Return of the King
43- The Man From U.N.C.L.E
44- Surprise movie! Viewer鈥檚 Choice!
45- John Mulaney and the Sack Lunch Bunch
46- Maleficent: Mistress of All Evil
47- Maleficent
48- The One and Only Ivan
49- Secret Society of Second-Born Royals
50- Shawn Mendes: In Wonder
51- A Walk To Remember
52- The Princess and the Frog
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nicolanovacoppola20a year ago
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Love this movie!鉂o笍馃檹馃槏馃幀馃帴 (Only on Netflix) And I love Brenda Song,she did an amazing job!馃挭馃グ馃憦
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hanniepeea year ago
Brenda Song vs Some Stairs
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wealthyhealthy36510 months ago
Become the couple who wants each other more than anything else
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psychoticful2 years ago
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鈥淚 love you. Not only for who you are, but for who I am when I鈥檓 with you. I will love you forever and a day.鈥 Secret Obsession (2019)
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surprisebitch2 years ago
not to be a white man鈥檚 whore but if i woke up the next day and Mike Vogel turned out to be my husband then i would not have questioned it and the movie would have ended
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