#sex is cool but

[wendigo-wifey]

#lgbtqia #asexual #lgbtq community #cuddles #hugs and kisses #asexual community #holding hands #couple goals #what i want #sex is cool but #ace #ace pride

[certainglitterhologram]

sex is cool but have u ever read a piece of literature that completely transforms your mindset and outlook on life?

#books #reading #bookblr #the secret history #tsh #donna tartt #sex is cool but #read #books are cool

[cleverboisblog]

#stray kids #smoking is cool #work dumber #best memes #neural network #notes #sex is cool but #vladimir putin’s most outspoken nemesis is being poisoned in jail

[little-lee-froggie]

Ok, yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever been worried about a person you care about not liking you but then they ask if you’re ok when you aren’t feeling happy when you thought they were asleep? Yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever had a person hold your face making you feel safe and comfortable in your friendship with them? And yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever been called someone’s favourite person?

#Asexual #asexual thoughts #aroace #aromanitc #aromantic thoughts #Aro #Ace #healthy friendships #sex Is cool but #Yeah sex is cool but

[gayfarmdreamer]

Why did no one tell me that making audiobooks of classic short stories/short stories you wrote yourself is

Super fucking fun

Super fucking hard

Super fucking long

Like, sex is cool but this is everything and then some

#farmcore #cottagecore #mlm #hi #like hello #single and wanting to mingle #gay yearning #farmlife #farm aesthetic #farm core #farmstead #cottage aesthetic #masc farmcore #aesthetic #message me #sex is cool but

[hotspicyassramen]

when you are an asexual and they tell you, "you just need to meet the right person" or "you just need to try sex first to know how it feels", or "you are just confused it will be alright after a while."

WELL FUCK YOU ALL PLEASE SHUT THE FUCK UP AND EDUCATE YOURSELF, YOU IMBECILE BIGGOTS

#asexual #lgbt pride #lgbtpeople #lgbtqi community #lgbtqiia+ #ace people are valid #sexuality #sex is great but #sex is cool but

[raccoon-sex-dungeon]

sure sex is cool but have u ever unsubscribed from 23 annoying email subscriptions in one fell swoop

#i get So Many Emails every day to my undergrad email and they're 98% things i could not care less about now #i could just stop having my undergrad email still download to my phone but that's too straightforward #sex is cool but #memes #rose.txt

[pickled-flowers]

Sex positivity is also about not calling Ace people prude and using virgin as an insult 👍 hope that helps

#sex positivity is also respecting sex lives that dont look like yours #or lack thereof #and insulting people by saying they dont fuck make you sound stupid <3 #im sorry i just cant take people who use their sex lives as a flex seriously its just not my thing! #like yea having lots of kinky sex is cool but not having sex and not being interested by sex is also cool #one is not better than the other the human experience is just very varied and diverse #its normal you wont understand everyone your brain isnt even made to comprehend how many human there are in the world #but we should all have spaces to navigate our sex lives as we wish even if that means interacting with sex as a subject as little as possibl

[thepeachfuzz]

yeah sex is cool and all but have you ever had a friend tell you they were intimidated when you first met because you were so cool

#sex is cool but #i mean #there’s nothing like it #the feeling of being cool #fulfilled i am #this is how you woo me #tell me i’m cool and i’ll like become your chauffeur #that’s how much sway you have

[1eos]

'tumblr is full of 14 year olds' wrong tumblr is full of 24 year olds who just don't do anything. and that's okay

#its not weird to be a virgin or to not smoke weed #it IS weird to have an emotional reaction to someone else not having sex or doing drugs #like if fucking n smoking was sooooo cool u'd be doing that rn! #and ofc vice versa mx robotpussy is so real #bc of who i follow i see more of the shaming ppl who don't have sex but ive seen the weird terminally online ppl #who haven't killed the cop in their head trying to police ppl who are just doing things with their own bodies #and i can say from personal experience ppl who do drugs are so chill abt it if you don't wanna smoke they won't pressure you #like it's ok to have sex it's ok not to it's weird if you care like they're not not fucking you keep scrolling

[inkskinned]

before you know about women, you hear that you do not need to love the man, just that you need to love him through his manhood. which is to say you have seen the future painted in lamb's blood over your eyes - how your mother shoots you a look about your father's inability to cook right. how your aunt holds her wineglass and says i'm gonna kill em. men, right! how your best friend bickers with her boyfriend, how she says i can't help it. i come back to him.

you learn: men are gonna cheat. men aren't going to listen when you're talking, because you're nagging. men think emotions are stupid. they think your life is vapid and your hobbies are embarrassing. men will slam things, but that's because men are allowed to be angry. if you get loud, you're hysterical. if a man gets loud - well, men are animals, men are dogs, men can't control their hands or their eyes or their bodies. they're going to make a snide comment about you in the locker room, about your body, about how you're so fucking annoying. you're going to give him kids, and he will give you the money for the kids, and you're going to be running the house 24/7 - but he gets to relax after a long day, because his job is stressful. the man is on stage, and is a comedian, and says "women!"

and you are supposed to love that. you are supposed to love men through how horrible they are to you - because that's what women do. that's what good women do. wife material. your father even told you once - it'll make sense when you're older. it was like staring down a very lonely tunnel.

it feels like something's caught in your throat, but it's all you know, so. it's okay that you see sex as a necessary tool, a sort of okay-enough ritual to keep him happy, even though he doesn't seem to care about happiness as-applied-to you. it is relationship upkeep. it is kissing him and smiling even though he didn't brush his teeth. it is getting on your knees and looking up and holding back a sigh because he barely holds you as you panic through the night. it's not like the sex is bad and you do like feeling wanted. and besides! he's a man! like... they're another species. you'll never be able to actually communicate, right. he isn't listening.

you just don't get it. you don't feel that sense of i'm gonna climb him like a tree. mostly it just feels fucking exhausting. you play the part perfectly. you smile and nod and are "effortlessly" charming. and it's fine! it's alright! you even love him, if you're looking. you could have good life, and a good family, and perfectly happy.

in the late night you google: am i broken. you google i'm not attracted to my husband. you google i get turned on by books but not by him. you google how to get better in bed.

the first time he yells at you, it almost feels like blankness. like - of course this is happening. this is always how it was going to end up. men get angry, and they yell, and you sit there in silence.

you mention it to your friend - just the once - while you're drunk. she shrugs and says it's like that with me too, i just try to forget and move on. men are always gonna hear what they want to. pick your battles and say sorry even though he's in the wrong. you play solitaire online for a month. you go to your therapist appointment and preach about how you're both so in love.

after all, you have a future to want. nobody lied about it - how many instagram posts say marriage is hard. say real love takes work. say we fight like cats and dogs but the best part is that we always make up. how many of your friends say happy anniversary to the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. if you really loved him - loved yourself too - you'd accept that men are just different from you.

the first time she kisses you, it's on a dare at a party. something large and terrifying whips through your body. you wake up sweating from dreams where her mouth is encrusted with pearls and you pick them off one by one with your teeth. fuck. you sit at the computer and your almost-finished game of sim city. you think about your potential perfect life and your potential future family. you google am i gay quiz with your little hands shaking.

you delete each letter slowly. you don't need to love him. you just need to keep going.

#warm up #writeblr #this is also about being ace btw #my identity has slowly shifted over time and maybe if everyone is REAL cool i'll talk bout it #bc it's complicated and nuanced. but this is like #trying to warn u that if you find it “relationship upkeep” to have sex with ur partner #and don't actually enjoy it or seek it for urself. u might just not be attracted to them. #which is fine ! ace ppl can be perfectly happy in any relationship they feel good in! #but also i wasn't as straight as i had expected! #> the first time i saw dick i was like. huh. oh okay that's fine i guess #> the first time i saw pussy i was like. WAIT ACTUALLY HANG ON I GET IT #i just assumed sex wasn't all it was cracked up to be ya know #but also like. btw? this IS NOT saying ''u might be gay not ace'' #bc tbh i'm grey ace/demisexual #it's saying u might not be into ur partner. explore urself & ur feelings. turn inward. #TAKE THIS IN THE MANNER IT WAS MEANT> GENTLE AND KIND #AND NOT IN A WEIRD INTERNET WAY PLEASE #bc the truth is that there ARE ppl who are gay who assume that they just ''don't like'' sex #and ace ppl who might need a different partner w/different needs #and i would have REALLY needed to hear ''check in w/urself about if u actually like sex'' #WAY EARILIER in my life. but nobody said anything bc they assume if ur having sex. u like it. #not just the actual act of sex. not once ur turned on. do you ACTUALLY like it. or is it a burden? #even if ur gay. check w/urself. maybe ur more ace than u realized. in which case. ADDITIONAL FLAG BB #i love collecting my flags. i'm at like 354 at this point #but also btw this is about how toxic relationships are SO normalized that u can be in one #and have everyone around u being like ''THATS JUST MEN LOL''

[mildlylesbian]

sex is cool but have you ever had a really buff lady pin you against a wall in an agressively homosexual way and you don't know if you're about to kiss, fight, or both? Me niether, sure would love to experiance it tho.

#shitpost #sex is cool but

[harmless-spider]

yeah sex is cool but have you ever felt an intense need to have something fundamentally impossible to have

#i need a fucking alligator tail #i need to be able to knock over chairs and people and i need to be able to sit on it #and i wanna. i wanna bite the alligator tail i wanna lick it & suck on it not in a weird way i just think it would feel cool on my tongue #i need to rub it and i wanna lay on it and i wanna. wag a fucking alligator tail #like at this point i would let a shady scientist conduct weird and unsafe experiments on me if i got an alligator tail out of it #if they take my spleen that’s just fair payment #sex is cool but

[mossytrashcan]

harrow the type of gal to say “something wicked this way comes” before finishing

#either that or she is a sex repulsed ace there can literally be no in between (in my mind) (it’s cool if it’s different for you) #harrowhark nonagesimus #gideon the ninth #harrow the ninth #tlt #the locked tomb #tlt fanart #sage’s doodle tag

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[westywallowing]

sketches for my fruits basket au while I figure the fuckity out of my tablet pen :)

#miraculous ladybug #miraculous fanart #mlb fanart #mlb #adrien agreste #chat noir #cat noir #mlb chat noir #mlb felix #argos #mlb argos #westy doodles #furuba au #SO what ive decided to go with IS #instead of the animals being from the zodiac like in the show i think its fairly obvious in this au its just the animals of the miraculous #my idea of it is something like a mix between fruits basket curse and miraculous holders #the holder meet the spirits of the animals (the kwamis) and make contracts with them in exchange for power #and one of the downsides is the animal curse essentially #so it does in fact change a lot considering the curse is a CHOICE however i still like the fact that it is indeed a curse #like yeah you get these cool powers but uh you literally can not physically interact with anyone you hold dear that is of the opposite sex:)